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I Am Afraid of Closeness

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-18, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Dec 22, 2010

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 5 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    I once felt the affection, closeness and the intimacy with a woman a long time ago. I miss it so much! When you have been out of touch with these things, it can burn a person out...
    BlaiddDrwg05 BlaiddDrwg05 41-45, M 1 Response Dec 3

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M Dec 12

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    I bottle everything up. I'm not very talkative. I'm not how I used to be. I don't tell secrets to many people. I don't like but I do like getting close to people. I like to read...
    ForeverANomad ForeverANomad 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
    prznaroosak prznaroosak 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I am afraid of relationships. I think I always have been. I can't remember a time when I was able to give myself to someone without second thought or with uninhibited trust. I'm...
    shanequea shanequea 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    So I've been an only child for my whole life, and I've been happy. Change is the only thing I have ever really feared. But. . .today my mother told told me she's pregnant, and...
    PadfootPandora PadfootPandora 16-17, F Dec 19

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    We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. LIVE your life...
    raquel80 raquel80 31-35, F 8 Responses Dec 10

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    not sure if I'm afraid anymore...I'm just used to it right now, I've been rejected by every girl I ever liked or cared about (possibly loved), people says "have confidence"...well...
    Muramasa Muramasa 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 20

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    I live in St. Louis Missouri and we have the gate way arch which u can go up in. I went with my friends because they wanted to go and when we where up at the top I was fine as long...
    mwiltshire mwiltshire 22-25, F Dec 21

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    ...but I am. I have not just fallen. It's more like the whole damn cliff just gave way beneath me. Emotional walls that no one else has come close to breaching have absolutely...
    EmeraldDreams12 EmeraldDreams12 18-21 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm not ashamed to say that I have this problem. Ever since I was raped, I've been afraid. I'm almost 16 now, and it still lingers. I was never afraid of being alone, or being...
    Anonymousgirl152 Anonymousgirl152 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    This may be a slight tangent to the norm, but I am afraid of rejection, just not what one might normally consider when they think of this topic. I am deathly afraid of being...
    anna0593 anna0593 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    OK, "afraid" is probably the wrong word choice. I'm not afraid I'll be single for the rest of my life, I'm quite certain of it. As much as I'd love to find that perfect woman to...
    FordPrefect42 FordPrefect42 41-45, M 7 Responses Dec 2

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    I'm not afraid of dying at all, but I'm always afraid of losing loved ones or pets.
    Annaelaine Annaelaine 13-15, F Dec 7

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    I'm afraid I'll get pressured to live a life I don't desire when I can be doing something else. I'm also afraid I'll regret not being forced into a lifestyle. It's complicated.
    T055 T055 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 14

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    My old best friend just left me, I thought we were okay but apparently not. I just recently met someone that is so very a like me but still different. I'm afraid to lose him, I...
    LoneFox29 LoneFox29 16-17, F Dec 16

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    I have always been the shy girl. The wired girl. Iv always loved playing sports was never really into makeup. I would much rather play soccer or football than go shopping. I was...
    Ampk Ampk 18-21, F Dec 18

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    I really feel for you. I know what it's like. I spent a large portion of my life having this irrational fear. I was afraid to go to bed at night. I was afraid to go to sleep. I...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 a week ago

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    *Apologize in advance for being mopey during the holidays* Happened again. Met someone. Went out a few times. It's going great. Up until she fills me in on her "situation...
    NewShoes12 NewShoes12 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm not afraid to tell my family I'm bisexual. I'm only afraid to tell my mom and her side of the family. My dad and his side of the family will be okay with it and will always...
    BrittanySue96 BrittanySue96 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    As time goes by and I remain single, I definitely become afraid some days that I will be single forever. Ugh!
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M Nov 30

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    Darling, you understand me in a way no one ever had or probably will again. I've never met anyone like you. We live in a hole, but because you're there it's not so bad. But I'm...
    Brimmless Brimmless 16-17, F Nov 30

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    I am only afraid of angry older men. My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 1

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    Failure is hard. I am so afraid that i will fail because of some of the people of my family and my real mom that put me down and was so hash to me and her mom as well. However I...
    jessconn81 jessconn81 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    Every time I find someone I like I push them away because I'm afraid of getting hurt. I don't want to be hurt again so I'm hurting others. I just want to get better and be able to...
    meganleslie meganleslie 13-15, F Dec 1

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    I have been overweight my entire life! I have tried diet after diet with no success. I have been put down by a lot of people for my size and I would let it bother me. It has...
    unluckyme86 unluckyme86 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    Lol I'm not afraid but I know I am gonna die alone haha
    Youareallbeautiful Youareallbeautiful 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    Well, not so much "afraid that I'll end up alone," just that I think the odds of finding that ONE person are pretty slim. I can't even imagine what it would be like to really love...
    IntoTheWyld IntoTheWyld 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 3

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    I am not afraid of dying as its not the end but the beginning.... all I wish is to die a peaceful and content person with no regrets
    shaurya26 shaurya26 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 4

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    I'm in love with my best friend, but I don't want to tell him anything, because I'm afraid what he would say, whether it's good or bad I would not want to chance our amazing...
    openbookbri openbookbri 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 4

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    I just passed my driving license, I am not really afraid of driving I just really don't like it.... Though, I am very scared of driving on my own!!!
    HelenaMai HelenaMai 18-21, F Dec 4

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    if I really like him , I want him to like me to . Yes I am afraid of rejection .
    swingdance swingdance 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 4

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    I want to become a psychiatrist but I'm afraid I won't pass high school
    captaindani captaindani 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 4

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    Im constantly afraid that i am not good enough...
    Thiswillbethelast Thiswillbethelast 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 5

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    I used to be afraid I gave a few chances but each time they prove me wrong , the further I move away getting closer and closer to that fear. Until I decided to shut these doors and...
    Starz93 Starz93 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I thought I wrote this here before, but I guess I was mistaken. It’s probably buried somewhere on my hard drive. Either way, it's on my mind and I'm going to write about it again...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M Dec 8

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    im not afraid of death. after its all over with, i will just find myself relieved
    imagination34 imagination34 16-17, M Dec 8

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