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I Am Afraid of Closeness

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 113 People

    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 Dec 22, 2010

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 66-70 4 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    I have been talking a lot lately about how I want someone to talk to who relates to me and what not, but I've realized that I don't really try to reach out. I think on some level I...
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    There was never a point in my life where I was afraid to die. There were times in my life where I wanted to die and times in my life when I didn't want to die, but I was never...
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    i think i admire people who aren't afraid to be themselves because i am afraid. I think it takes a lot of courage not to be afraid of the backlash that comes with it. I want to be...
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    Oh man wish my hubby was home i just killed a snake in the back yard..Copperhead..Im so Afraid of snakes and Copperheads can hurt you some can kill you..Im still shaking from it...
    CLPLIKESFUN CLPLIKESFUN 46-50 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    It is an irrational fear of mine, just like how I am afraid to swallow pills even for medical reasons. The fear of rejection is a big part of it. Being told I'm not good enough...
    Kriptess Kriptess 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Ok, I'm not *afraid* I'll be single forever; it's more like "I'm hopefully optimistic that I'll stay single forever." Honestly, why does everyone think having a spouse is the be...
    BoJackHorseman BoJackHorseman 26-30 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Not afraid. I definitely am!!!😊😛
    Josimms23 Josimms23 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I don't really believe I'll be single forever, but my only issue is that I'm kind of afraid to date someone scared of rejection but if I get over that I will be fine.
    Josimms23 Josimms23 18-21, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    My "friends" from school made me self-conscious, by telling me that I don't have style, that I'm ugly, when I walk threw hallways, some of my enemies say I'm blind, cuz I wear...
    Dramhunter Dramhunter 13-15, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    About five years ago I lived downtown in a major city in the US. I’ve always been a night person, so I would often find myself bored after my roommate, who was decidedly not a...
    InvinsibleViper InvinsibleViper 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    If truth be told, I have in fact realised, recently, that I am, a little afraid of clowns, some of them, not all. I do maintain, however, that I am not racist.
    Tinboxdoll Tinboxdoll 36-40, F 4 Responses Jul 25

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    I wouldn't say afraid. Id say Ive aceapted the fact that I will be.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 8 Responses Jul 25

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    I'm with a guy who I do love, though I'm not sure I love him the way I should after 3 years. We never have sex, he shows me next to no affection and I resent him for it. I've tried...
    BeautifulBorderlineJunkie BeautifulBorderlineJunkie 22-25, F Jul 24

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    Don't run, but the idea of death has always fascinated me, just the idea that there is nothing, like you can't even think or anything (as you can tell I have no religious views on...
    poppytippy poppytippy 13-15, F Jul 23

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    Depending how the next few months pan out I might become homeless... I live with my mom's boyfriend but he's getting bored of us because my mom's In Mexico, because my grandma is...
    Manuel1Martinez Manuel1Martinez 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 22

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    This new girl on my team, walked up to me and was like "I'm not afraid to punch little girls in the throat." Oh. Okay. ._.
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 22

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    When I was a kid I use to be afraid of characters in horror films, like Chucky, Freddy Krueger, etc. In high school the feeling of fear stayed with me, but instead of being scared...
    xoxobee xoxobee 22-25, F Jul 22

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    I'm afraid they will miss the kingdom of God
    amymayoral01 amymayoral01 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 22

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    It's embarrassing.... But yep I'm still afraid of thunder and lighting ⚡️⚡️
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 21

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    I'm afraid to grow old due to more people dying and the physical effects of it, but I'm also afraid to die because at the same time I also want to live a long, healthy life and...
    Emsickles Emsickles 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    I'm afraid that nobody will like me for the real me. They'll would rather like me for the stranger I'm pretending to be. But if they like me for the fake me, then **** it, they...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 19

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    Story One: My aunt brought me back a doll from Russia. It was a porcelain doll that looked exactly like me. And according to my aunt, it was not custom made. She had just found it...
    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F Jul 19

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    I am not afraid that I have lost my salvation, I know that I have and yes I am afraid because of that. I gave my life to the Lord in 2008 I had a major encounter with God, I had...
    Coloursearching Coloursearching 22-25 5 Responses Jul 18

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    I am Afraid of Rejection. That is a viscous cycle. If you have trust issues, you never allow yourself,to get to the point of rejection. If you never let someone in, they will not...
    Susiedisney Susiedisney 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I am scared and nervous around dogs I'm not familiar with. My neighbours dogs were really viscous, if the soccer ball went into their yard it stayed there for a long time. The...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F Jul 16

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    "I am not afraid of ghosts" if you please...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 16

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    This was the worst trauma of my childhood. In my church they preached vivid sermons about the horrors of hell and the infinite intensity and duration of the suffering. I was...
    AlanOliver AlanOliver 46-50, M 2 Responses Jul 15

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    I kinda need advice.. I basically am a girl who likes girls.. I use to dress like a guy throughout high school because that's how I started out.. and then when I would dress like a...
    kyeee kyeee 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 15

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    lol, everyones talking about relationships but im afraid to be rejected as a friend lol
    sendy23 sendy23 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    About five years ago I lived downtown in a major city in the US. I’ve always been a night person, so I would often find myself bored after my roommate, who was decidedly not a...
    TheBionicViper TheBionicViper 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I wish more people would be themselves. Society is messed up these days everyone is so PC and fake. Say one thing and live another way. People who are true and sincere with...
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 14 Responses Jul 14

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    I'm afraid to let someone in. What if the dark side of me is just to ugly? What if someone doesn't love every part of me that makes me who I am? What if they see every part of...
    Aflame22 Aflame22 18-21, F Jul 14

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