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I Am Afraid of Closeness

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-18, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 5 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Dec 22, 2010

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    I am so happy with what I have at the moment ^3^ The closeness, affection and spiritual intimacy amazing.
    XxthedarknesswillgrowxX XxthedarknesswillgrowxX 18-21, F Jan 6

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    for many years I have had the sense that intimacy is sacred and sometimes the closeness I feel with people I have just met has been ecstatic. I love meeting new, open-minded people...
    MycelialAjna MycelialAjna 22-25, M 3 Responses Jan 21

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    I am afraid of dying I am afraid of losing my family I am afraid of guns I am afraid of people who have guns I am afraid of spiders I am afraid of anything that has more than 4...
    HeySafaaJust HeySafaaJust 13-15, F 12 hrs ago

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    My boyfriend told me today that he wants to live in my city...halfway across the globe from where he lives. It made me so happy, as it was what I was hoping for because it means...
    Cranksta Cranksta 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I just found out that I am pregnant. I shouldn't even be ABLE to have kids with my body issues, But whatever higher power is there deemed that I have a child. Right now. With that...
    LadyWildFlower LadyWildFlower 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    I am not afraid of dying, due to being suicidal in the past. I am not afraid of sadness because of depression. I am not afraid of being alone because I'm a loner. I'm not afraid to...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally 26-30, M 4 days ago

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    I am afraid of many things in life. I am afraid of failure/success. I am afraid of being loved. I am getting better at learning to be loved. I am not sure what I am doing to make...
    socialskillstraining socialskillstraining 31-35, M Dec 30, 2014

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    I am afraid of the new year and what I'll have to face. I have some sense of what will happen and I know I'm not prepared. I am afraid that I'll push more people away. Most of all...
    nostalgickittens nostalgickittens 16-17, F Dec 31, 2014

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    My ex beat my on multiple occasions over nothing. He has his issues but I really don't care to explain away his behaviors anymore. All I know is that he brutalized me, over and...
    thirdgirl thirdgirl 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    I've been lied to and I've been hurt a lot throughout my life. I worry that I will never be able to trust people again. I'm afraid to bring new people into my life, I'm afraid to...
    smileyryley smileyryley 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm afraid to grow up. I'm scared everything will fall. I'm terrified that I'll end up poor and become a failure. I'm afraid I'll be in debt my whole life. I barely even know what...
    HannahMarieX HannahMarieX 18-21 Jan 10

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    After many years amassing countless hours rummaging through a variety of WebMD articles online, and any ruling out a multitude of various rare medical conditions based on a...
    bluemountains36 bluemountains36 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    At times I experience an episode of depression, and I always overthink, especially after I had to meet people and socialize and stuff. I am afraid of people and what they think...
    24moonlight 24moonlight 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Not that I am afraid but rather I know someone who is afraid of getting close to me. We met online and right from the start we connected. We had a great time chatting online and...
    freestyler605 freestyler605 22-25, M Jan 3

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    i dont know why, i just.. afraid to be alone, rejection, i'm afraid that if there's no one love me..
    preciouscrx preciouscrx 13-15 Jan 4

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    For two years I've been nothing but hurt by people. I've lost the last person in my life because I couldn't let him in. It's not that I'm afraid, I'm not afraid of anything. I just...
    StrandedandAlonr StrandedandAlonr 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 4

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    Couldnt find a suitable headline for this, so this will do i think. My problem is that i am a bit shy, not because im afraid of people, but im afraid of people rejecting me...
    mannenspeci mannenspeci 22-25, M Jan 5

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    Too many of us hide behind a mask afraid to show the world who we are out of fear and the possibility of rejection. The people that are unabashedly themselves despite what others...
    lavendersea lavendersea 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    So there's this girl that I am acquainted with from a class in high school last year. We only talked a couple times and she was one of the more popular girls in my class. She seems...
    Andre195 Andre195 18-21, M 6 Responses Jan 9

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    It's so weird in an amazing way..I am so afraid to speak my mind because though it is my opinion I worry so much of. Disagreement I think of it as me being wrong, but when I talk...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 22-25, F Jan 10

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    I am horribly, pathetically, afraid of this little being inside of me. Ever since I was young I loved being alone, everybody knew it and they didn't mind. Nowadays, it's like a...
    00Wieme00 00Wieme00 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Hey, friends. So I've been doing extremely well at moving on from my last relationship. We have no contact, I've been on a couple dates that didn't go anywhere, and I've spent most...
    velvetskies velvetskies 22-25, F 16 Responses Jan 15

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    Or rather that am never going to meet a cool, attractive, skinny girl. Ideally she'd be into something positive, something artistic and be into it passionately and not afraid of...
    Photons Photons 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 16

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    I should clarify. I'm a hypochondriac, but I'm not a coward. I might be afraid of the fictitious diseases in my own brain, but I'm not scared of pushing you out of the way of an...
    bluemountains36 bluemountains36 36-40, M 1 Response Jan 17

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    They made me deem that I should not have feelings such as annoyance, resentment, depression, or anxiety. They suppose I should always be rational and in control of my emotions. I...
    aiofa aiofa 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    No man is an island. It is vital for our survival to belong, to fit in. However, not to the extent of being too alike with each other. We are called individuals for a reason. We...
    2Paz 2Paz 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 20

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    I am only a teenager so this might sound crazy, but this is one of my biggest fears. im afraid that when im old i wont be loved and ill regret my life. i wanna live a happy and fun...
    Lostinthoughtandimissu Lostinthoughtandimissu 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    It's those who seem wonderful that are the ones who will screw you over. I might have some pretty terrible, rude, and obnoxious friends, but at least I know their worsts. Pretenses...
    WingsofTime WingsofTime 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2014

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    I'm afraid. No one ever asked me out. And I think no one will. Okay? Okay.
    Mahrhindha Mahrhindha 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I'm afraid to show my piercing to my new girlfriend. it's a Prince Albert.
    stucknrut stucknrut 41-45 Dec 30, 2014

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    I am soft, delicate and refined... no, I'm actually more coarse than that. I am scared of making people mad, upset, annoyed :( maybe I'm afraid to face reality..
    FallingWind FallingWind 18-21, F Dec 31, 2014

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    In my past relationships I was always cheated on. And it took me a while to recover and gain strength back. Eventually I fell in love with a close friend of mine. I bottled up my...
    mihochancullen mihochancullen 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 2

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    Whenever I go through my depressing moment, I pray to God to kill me. I scream at him, why hasnt he killed me yet? I am not afraid to die, death is probably one of my friends. I...
    Adridee Adridee 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    i now have a crush on a boy for a year, and people say he likes me too but i'm just afraid to talk to him because when i do (which i tried 2 months ago) he gets very distracted...
    unidentiffied unidentiffied 16-17, F 6 Responses Jan 2

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    I'm afraid of being rejected.
    HazelKey HazelKey 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I hate bees. VERY much. I have a phobia of bees and wasps (but especially wasps and ESPECIALLY yellow jackets). It stems from a time when I was a toddler and an adult took...
    Boulier Boulier 18-21, F Jan 3

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    I have been hurt so many times in the past, I care so much for a woman. She is wonderful,We have had lengthly conversations and i care very much for her , but now my worst fears...
    Richard1970 Richard1970 41-45 Jan 3

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