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I Am Afraid of Closeness

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 112 People

    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-18, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 5 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Dec 22, 2010

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    Im curious if anyone has ever been this way before? I met someone that I felt so safe loving totally. We had affection, closeness and intimacy. We laughed so much and we fought at...
    cutie7710 cutie7710 36-40, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of falling. I'm not afraid of the dark, I afraid of what's in it. I'm not afraid to love, I'm afraid of not being loved back.
    MysteriousGirl15 MysteriousGirl15 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    i know this sounds kinda stupid for those older than me maybe even those younger than me but i really feel like a failure. got wait listed to my dream college and i feel like...
    youngandinexperienced youngandinexperienced 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    I'm still afraid of driving and even people who sits in my car was afraid too , I hope the driving coach won't freak out teaching me to drive (if Only the coach is available) . Oh...
    minniekoala minniekoala 22-25, F Feb 20

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    I was always afraid of rejection. I rarely show people the 'real' me though I'm not so sure who's the 'real' me. I'm afraid that once they found out the other side of me, they'll...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Feb 4

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    I was in a relationship for 6 years. I thought he was the one. I gave him everything. I asked for nothing in return but to be loved by him and only him. He left me for a kid half...
    GayDad1975 GayDad1975 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 5

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    I'm actually afraid to love too hard... You think your love can push someone away? Or even scare them away? It's scary to really express someone how you feel because you're afraid...
    sadgurl2015 sadgurl2015 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 12

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    I didn't know that one day I will lost my job because of my anxiety and I didn't know that I will have anxiety. And starting my life from the start is so hard. I'm afraid of...
    perrilive perrilive 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    oh my god, today i had swim regional's. I was so scared i was going to have a panic attack in the 200, i was afraid i was gonna disappoint everyone on my team. I placed 3rd (out of...
    Nightlover223 Nightlover223 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 14

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    Eeergh. I'm almost finished with my four years. I'm going to get a BFA in illustration from a small-ish art school. Professors and students say I will be fine, based on the...
    ArtRhinoceros ArtRhinoceros 18-21, F Feb 15

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    I'm not even afraid of falling, really . Its that sudden stop when landing that gets me a little nervous.
    jayciedubb jayciedubb 46-50, M Feb 18

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    I have an honest fear. It's not melodramatic or self indulgent, but honest and really really real. It's something that hits you out of nowhere that I'll end up an old woman with a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I mean there's no need to be afraid of being loyal. No need to be afraid of sharing the parts of you that honestly not everyone deserves with just one person
    LeeOmar88 LeeOmar88 26-30, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Yes I am terrified, but not of you, or who you are, I am terrified of not knowing you, of not knowing more of who you are. Afraid of not hearing, and feeling your heartbeat once...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't think anyone actually likes me I'm also afraid to take the next step im also afraid to have sex and so I get irrationally anxious bc I think that's all guys want so why...
    tourdeforce tourdeforce 18-21, F 9 Responses 2 days ago

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    It's getting to be really tiresome when I see or hear other guys talk smack about 'nice guys,' as if we're unreliable and crybabies. At least we have something they don't... a...
    Yonshimmy Yonshimmy 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 7

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    It's not that I don't want to fall in love and have those kinds of experiences. I am afraid of giving too much of myself to it and forgetting what has made it possible to fall in...
    Letmebepatient Letmebepatient 31-35, M Feb 8

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    I've never dated because I'm afraid to be rejected by the guy!! I dun dare to say yes for fear it's. Joke.
    sensitivegal sensitivegal 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 10

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    To say "I'm afraid of rejection" is a complete understatement. The fear of it pretty much governs my life. Even asking my friends to go out with me is hard, because even if they...
    thenewboy87 thenewboy87 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 11

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    im afraid of so many things. the dark, being alone, snakes, being judged, not being in control . I don't know why but I am and sometimes it keeps me from actually living.
    youngkinyteenmom youngkinyteenmom 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    drugs,sex,drinking. whatever im not worried about it. im not afraid to talk about it. im open to talk about anything.
    youngkinyteenmom youngkinyteenmom 18-21, F 8 Responses Feb 11

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    I am 27 years old male. i am very afraid of the idea that I will never find my true love and being alone for the rest of my life. I have dated a few women, but they don;t work out...
    manesh515 manesh515 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    I'm 22, out of college and I'm still afraid to drive. Reading the manuals and doing practice tests online is nothing, but having my mom show me everything when I'm inside the car...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 12

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    A few years back when I got home from work I ran a warm bath, it was silent and peaceful. About an hour or so later when I walked out of the bathroom, I noticed that every single...
    dreadfulVIXEN dreadfulVIXEN 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 12

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    Now what I am about to write may seem to be comic book-like, but I am truly afraid of scarecrows. When I was a kid, my mother use to cheat on my father with other men. One...
    Marik13 Marik13 13-15, M Feb 13

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    Hey , Yesterday I almost die because one car wanna hit me so I don't care and I'm not afraid to die!
    MXRS99 MXRS99 41-45, M Feb 14

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    I've never dated anyone and all my friends have! I can never tell if a guy likes me of if he's just my friend. I mean I really like my friend Trevor but I I'm to shy to tell him...
    HaileyWolf233 HaileyWolf233 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 15

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    im me and im not afraid to talk about me. I wont be ashamed of who I am.
    youngkinyteenmom youngkinyteenmom 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 16

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    Nothing in life scares me so why be afraid
    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    I feel like no one knows the real me. Like I won't let anyone know the real me. I'm afraid they won't understand me or want to be my friend anymore. It's pathetic but I've lost so...
    SexyAngelBitches SexyAngelBitches 18-21, F 8 Responses Feb 18

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    afraid to get lost when driving even with a GPS
    anabel123 anabel123 56-60, F Feb 19

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    But it is pretty much impossible not to.. And I guess it is a good thing, if not extremely over or underdone I am very good at finding fault in my own behaviour, or atleast try to...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M Feb 19

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    I'm afraid to start anything because I hate the disappoint that comes from failing.
    anyerannaed anyerannaed 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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