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I Am Afraid of Closeness

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+, F 4 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I would like to some day experience absolute

    surrender. Everyone does not want to hurt us, some people actually want to love us, and are vulnerable too.
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2015

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 12, 2013

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    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Lately,yeah..I'm afraid to get too close to

    someone :( I feel like that's why i try to have relationships with unavailable guys(incompatible,online guys)..It's less scary than a real life relationship..Easier to move on too,you can just cut complete contact off,if you wanted to and try to forget it even happened.Feels...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25 Dec 22, 2010

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    I used to be afraid to talk about what I feel and how I feel about my sexuality. Not so much anymore. It isnt healthy to not discuss your sexuality.
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    I hate that I fall for someone so quickly... I've never been in love but this man that I'm dating now I think it's real && I think that I'm falling for him... Of course I'm afraid...
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    well you shouldn't be afraid of what people think cause what people think doesn't matter ??
    donnylevi511 donnylevi511 18-21, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    The fact that I am afraid of commitment because of being walked away from once I put my all into it... I constantly drive people away!!! Sad but it's true
    NaturallyRomantic NaturallyRomantic 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I am not afraid to walk this world alone.
    LexiMory LexiMory 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I volunteer I'm a shelter for battered women and children. last Wednesday evening a mother came in very badly beaten and with what turned out to be a broken arm. She had a 9 year...
    g4it g4it 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am afraid of sharing my feelings around me. Maybe thats why i am ignored all the time. Maybe i am secretive or that my smile is a lie. Is just a mask. I don't wanna be a burden...
    Potchii Potchii 22-25, M 4 days ago

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    I'm not really afraid I just know when it's gona be my time to go I'm going to have to face death alone.
    RobertXavier19 RobertXavier19 18-21, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    i cant i just cant i had so much advice but i am afraid of rejection and then they would laugh at me an tell everyone else and they will say ew ur ugly and i want to change my...
    genericusername23 genericusername23 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Except I already have. The best friends I managed to keep throughout high school and some college...they are all gone. Of course, I blame no one but myself. I had a best friend in...
    DremeJolie DremeJolie 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am a licensed educator who was never able to find a teaching job. I tried different things in my life but I have always wanted to teach kindergarten. I am afraid that because of...
    ahughes27 ahughes27 26-30, F 5 days ago

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    I lost my best friend and my grandma in the same year. Ever since then I've been afraid of losing everyone who's close to me
    Thornton2 Thornton2 16-17, F 6 days ago

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    People who aren't afraid to be themselves are neat people. Though, being yourself doesn't mean being a horrible person, it's okay to reserve certain parts of yourself for yourself...
    TellyLuv TellyLuv 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 28

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    I seem to always be preoccupied with her and all these feelings I have for her. Yes I am married, for almost fifty years now but this goes beyond that. Yes I am alot older but age...
    boldtimer boldtimer 66-70, M Jan 28

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    To have an o.r.g.a.s.m. Its not that I can't reach ****** it's that I am afraid of what will happen. I've heard so many horror stories of women that lose control of my bladder, or...
    kewlchicc kewlchicc 36-40, F 4 Responses Jan 28

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    Jesus is the reason i live and don't break everyday, yet i am afraid and have trouble trusting him that everything will be alright. i have NF. it sucks and it is genetic. I'm the...
    carapisciotta carapisciotta 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    I am 34, never had a boyfriend, and I am afraid I'm going to be single forever. If by 34 I have never had a boyfriend, there must be something wrong with me. Guys just don't like...
    AMIAROM AMIAROM 31-35, F 20 Responses Jan 27

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    I wouldn't know what rejection is felt like, although the term 'heart-break' seems a bit melodramatic to me. Opinion wise, if you are afraid to engage in a love interest then you...
    RosenFlight RosenFlight 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    I subscribe to these daily meditations. They are very useful "Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence" - www.centerforhealthysex.com
    Q2013 Q2013 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    They still scare me. I'm always afraid that someone will decide to drain the pool while I'm in it. This would create a whirlpool that I would desperately try to swim out of. I know...
    davidschild37 davidschild37 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 24

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    That's the story of my life. Just when i feel i am getting attached to someone. There they go far, far away. I keep searching for them, until i get tired of the tears and the pains...
    uniqueguy91 uniqueguy91 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 24

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    I am afraid that I won't find a job in the future. When I told my parents about what I want to do in the future my mom said are you sure you're good enough for this.
    Chloe1o Chloe1o 16-17, F 7 Responses Jan 24

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    I'm not afraid of them but when I saw this title I immediately thought of Final Destination. Pretty disturbing. I can see where you guys are coming from.
    Rucbr434 Rucbr434 13-15, F Jan 24

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    Not afraid...more like I know. I think I like this guy, but I know for sure he doesn't like me, or at least thinks I'm an idiot. lol
    FerysT FerysT 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 23