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I Am Afraid of Closeness

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 110 People

    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-18, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Dec 22, 2010

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 5 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    Sure I want that. Affection, closeness, intimacy... with someone other than myself. Or... my dog. I KNOW my dog loves me. She gives me all the affection, closeness and intimacy...
    flyinfish flyinfish 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 30

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    Being cautious comes into it,but when all is said and done,I occasionally meet someone I sincerely think is an OK kind of person,and I AM afraid to let them get close.Half the...
    KurMujun KurMujun 18-21, M 2 hrs ago

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    This is a little more of a current issue then an experience. Anyways, single guy here which is fine at most times. The other time I just get really sunk in feelings. I'm not a...
    sbomber25 sbomber25 22-25, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    " my whole life I've been telling myself don't be afraid and it is only now that I am realizing how stupid that is. Don't be afraid is like saying don't move out of the way when...
    rachnixon rachnixon 26-30, F Sep 14

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    Usually people who are afraid of falling in love are those who were left down by their boy/girlfriend. I'm this kind of persons who broke up in a relationship. I had 4 relationship...
    otoumie otoumie 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    I don't think people are afraid of falling in love, i think that people are afraid to meet someone who they already have met last year or the last time they broke up with. And the...
    Manuala Manuala 18-21, F a week ago

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    Once i get my hopes togheter it falls apart , i'm afraid to love people i'm afraid to get my hopes togheter again , i'm afraid that i will expect to much
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Sep 7

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    i am afraid of rejection thats why i put up with everything you say ... just so i wouldn't end up alone ... no matter how unfair and stupid your demands are i put up with them...
    curiousmoi curiousmoi 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 16

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    Not afraid but i don't love anyone. I just love myself, i spend my all time with myself cause i don't like to have any friends, i solve my problems by myself, talk to myself, i do...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M a week ago

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    Currently I have a job making $70k a year but it's only temporary and when it's over I don't know how I'll pay my bills....I worry so much about how I'll make ends meet. I don't...
    Lmp3 Lmp3 31-35 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm afraid that if I ever got together with my crush, people would try to split us up. I'm afraid of ill-willed people spreading rumors and lies about us. I'm afraid of losing the...
    WinterIncandescence WinterIncandescence 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    I know why I've been afraid to say it.. I'm afraid to lose him.. Even though I feel like I will never truly have his heart..
    bribri590 bribri590 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    I have a date on Saturday. The guy's cute and nice and whatever I guess, but I am so afraid. He's pretty muscular because of basic training and I don't know why but when guys are...
    sarcasm4427 sarcasm4427 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    I'm simple not afraid of dying and I haven't been sense 7 years old. I know some of you are going say that bull **** but it the truth. I learn at very young age to accept death and...
    Custos1 Custos1 18-21, M Sep 5

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    I have a friend who is truly not afraid to be herself. She's blunt with her interests and doesn't care what others think. The first time she met my sister openly told her she was...
    blueamber blueamber 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 11

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    Growing up, many strange things used to happen around me. I'm not sure when I began to notice this.. thing that was following me around. At first it was sounds, shadows, and...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    I'm afraid to tell him how I feel about him, Mr. Boston. I am falling in love with him. I know he will be gone soon...never to return with my heart. I know I shouldn't have...
    Coffeetyme Coffeetyme 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 16

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    I'm not afraid to make decisions but I'm afraid if I make that decision people will judge me on that decision I made
    sillyrose1994 sillyrose1994 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 17

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    nothing has changed since all of this begun...every effort i make to return to god only makes things worse...i have prayed, tried to stand on faith, cried[still do] begged and...
    brokenhope4ever brokenhope4ever 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 21

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    I so want to admire myself for being brave and not hiding myself so I don't get hurt but I can't because I'm afraid. I don't try to be someone I'm not...I'm not a phony. That would...
    ADF37 ADF37 56-60 Sep 21

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    I am very much afraid of this girl I really like saying no, I like her A LOT, I really want to be with her but I am afraid, I have told her how i feel about her, help?
    JeremyRamm JeremyRamm 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 22

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    I had the biggest crush on my friend since 8th-11th grade and I told him how I felt but he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, I was fine with that but then I started asking...
    LostCause LostCause 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 22

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    I don't think I'm afraid of it, I think I'm afraid of what will happen whilst I'm there. I think it's just the initial fear of trying something new and not knowing exactly what it...
    ChloeMiller ChloeMiller 13-15, F a week ago

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    Facing a clock on how much time I have left, I'm not afraid to go...I am afraid of not having someone to hold my hand while I pass, but as it grows nearer, I've even started to...
    Dantescircle Dantescircle 36-40, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am afraid of being turned down, but I think I am more afraid of being hurt. The few times I've asked a girl out, I felt like I was standing way out on a swaying branch. I mean...
    Hellcat43 Hellcat43 22-25, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am scared of death but mostly it scares me to think where my soul will go. I mean I believe in God and pray to him but I don't go to Church because I work on the weekends so I'm...
    Moonstripe1993 Moonstripe1993 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am 20 years old and never had a real girlfriend. I am so afraid I will never find a girl and will be alone for the rest of my life and die a virgin. I do try to find a girl, in...
    Jimmi2000 Jimmi2000 18-21 1 Response Aug 31

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    Christmas day 2013 4:00 am I arrived at the hospital due to an inability to sleep, anxiety, and a side pain. I was told I had an infection and that is was severe. They were going...
    LastofmyKind LastofmyKind 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 31

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    Deathly afraid. They have it out for me. I hear cane toads have become an epidemic in Australia. That's one continent I won't be visiting.
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 31

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    Im terribly afraid of dying alone not because I can't attract women i have met lots of girls that like me but I'm too cold hearted to like them back. There was this one girl who I...
    Youngnerd Youngnerd 16-17, M Sep 1

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    I just want a steady job but I'm afraid I'll fail again. I lost two jobs in the past 6 months and it seems that no matter how hard I try its not getting better. Both times were no...
    LeeksNotSoNice LeeksNotSoNice 18-21, F Sep 2

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    As much as I am open and honest there is that part of me that is afraid of rejection. There is that part of me that worries that one day when I tell someone every single detail of...
    Findingteesh Findingteesh 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 3

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    I've been afraid of straight girls since I was 3 or 4 the reason because of this is because I have been teased and bullied since 3 or 4 they made fun of my curly hair my skinny...
    Angel2345 Angel2345 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    I'm in the process of applying to colleges and I'm so afraid to get letter back saying I have not been accepted. It scares me so much and when I think about it I begin to panic!
    ManiiMorena ManiiMorena 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    It's not that I have a phobia of rejection. It's just I've been rejected so much in my life that if I ever see someone reject me I just want to fall on my knees and cry until I run...
    SoraMayOctavian SoraMayOctavian 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    I think I'm going to give myself til the November then tell him what I feel in my heart.Then see what happens. Normally people run you tell them those words. So afraid rejection
    cjohnson1983 cjohnson1983 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    It's possible to be a hopeless romantic and be afraid of falling in love, trusting someone, giving them your all and receiving nothing in return. A relationship can't be 300/0.
    whyusteens whyusteens 13-15, F Sep 5

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    Have you had this moment whereby you actually wanted to talk to that person because she is so attractive and feels like you falling in loveon her again and again, but you cant...
    raiden26 raiden26 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Your not Alone ^^ I am afraid about it too
    KITsune78 KITsune78 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 6