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I Am Afraid of Closeness

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-18, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 22-25, F Dec 22, 2010

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 5 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    flyinfish flyinfish 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 30

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    I reach out, then pull back. I'm like a rubber band that bounce, never going forward. I don't know why I am like this. I want to be strong, so I tell myself that I will do things...
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn 16-17, F 9 hrs ago

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    So i fall and rejected and loves to reject people .. I still don't know whats wrong with me .. Am i not attractive .. Why do those guys i liked never like me back .. How come you...
    Christinamayday Christinamayday 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    She was the best thing to ever happen to me, but because I was afraid of getting hurt again, I pushed her away, which caused me to hurt her, and myself.
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    " my whole life I've been telling myself don't be afraid and it is only now that I am realizing how stupid that is. Don't be afraid is like saying don't move out of the way when...
    rachnixon rachnixon 26-30, F a week ago

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    I am not afraid to let go. I am not afraid to cut negative people out of my life. I am not afraid to love myself because you failed to do so. But I am afraid of never feeling the...
    brokenhearted7108 brokenhearted7108 31-35, F Aug 26

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    I am afraid of dieing without someone. I am afraid to be tortured. I am afraid of my only family member left dieing. I am afraid I will be stupid. Last but notleast I am afraid of...
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    otoumie otoumie 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14

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    I am afraid of showing my true self to the world... I sincerely show my feeling to my friends but.. I am afraid of being me.. I don't hate me but I'm afraid other people would hate...
    hooncaramello hooncaramello 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Once i get my hopes togheter it falls apart , i'm afraid to love people i'm afraid to get my hopes togheter again , i'm afraid that i will expect to much
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Sep 7

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    i am afraid of rejection thats why i put up with everything you say ... just so i wouldn't end up alone ... no matter how unfair and stupid your demands are i put up with them...
    curiousmoi curiousmoi 18-21, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have seen how it is when you start to grow up. You get more responsibilities and some of them can be good but there are others like paying for insurance, paying for bills and all...
    Culinaryman23 Culinaryman23 22-25, M Aug 22

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    Zoey09 Zoey09 16-17, F Aug 24

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    I am afraid, there will be no one ever to love me. All I find around me are people who abuse my kindness. People who use me. It was like that ever since I remember and that's why...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Aug 25

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    sevenforasecret sevenforasecret 18-21, F Aug 25

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    I'm afraid of dying a virgin. I'm afraid of dying without anyone to cry and miss me. I don't open to females. I'm not good enough. I haven't kissed a girl, seen a girl nude, been...
    CJCA CJCA 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 28

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    I know why I've been afraid to say it.. I'm afraid to lose him.. Even though I feel like I will never truly have his heart..
    bribri590 bribri590 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    I have a date on Saturday. The guy's cute and nice and whatever I guess, but I am so afraid. He's pretty muscular because of basic training and I don't know why but when guys are...
    sarcasm4427 sarcasm4427 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    I'm simple not afraid of dying and I haven't been sense 7 years old. I know some of you are going say that bull **** but it the truth. I learn at very young age to accept death and...
    Custos1 Custos1 18-21, M Sep 5

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    I have a friend who is truly not afraid to be herself. She's blunt with her interests and doesn't care what others think. The first time she met my sister openly told her she was...
    blueamber blueamber 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 11

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    Growing up, many strange things used to happen around me. I'm not sure when I began to notice this.. thing that was following me around. At first it was sounds, shadows, and...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    I'm afraid to tell him how I feel about him, Mr. Boston. I am falling in love with him. I know he will be gone soon...never to return with my heart. I know I shouldn't have...
    Coffeetyme Coffeetyme 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I'm not afraid to make decisions but I'm afraid if I make that decision people will judge me on that decision I made
    sillyrose1994 sillyrose1994 13-15, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    nothing has changed since all of this begun...every effort i make to return to god only makes things worse...i have prayed, tried to stand on faith, cried[still do] begged and...
    brokenhope4ever brokenhope4ever 46-50, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I so want to admire myself for being brave and not hiding myself so I don't get hurt but I can't because I'm afraid. I don't try to be someone I'm not...I'm not a phony. That would...
    ADF37 ADF37 56-60 23 hrs ago

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    Im afraid of rejection because i know its going to hurt my pride. I like this guy so much. Ive been honest with him. But later on i noticed when we talked it was boring. There...
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 22

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    I've never let myself get to a stage that I can be rejected because I'm afraid of how I will feel afterwards. I'm also too polite to reject someone
    Chemly Chemly 13-15, M 5 Responses Aug 22

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    Because of something bad happening to me. There was a time when I trusted everyone, but now I don't trust anyone. It might be, because I have been taken advantage of by women and...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I really do - we are only strangers in life , when we keep to our selves - there are reasons some of us keep to our selves - due to bashing , bullying , gossip and i don't blame...
    stephenrko stephenrko 31-35, M Aug 23

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    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 25

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    Hotdog798 Hotdog798 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 26

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    This is a silly thing to fear. I'm 39 years old, a veteran of two wars, and all sorts of other things that ought to make me fearless. Still, I'm afraid of rejection. It isn't...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    I am very afraid of this actually. I feel like I have found love, but it's one sided. If this isn't love I don't know what is? Please don't give me the you're to young speech, I am...
    LoverOfAllSouls LoverOfAllSouls 13-15, F Aug 27

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    Ever since I was a little girl I have not been afraid of darkness, monsters, or burglars, but social rejection. It started in the sixth grade. My family made a big move and I faced...
    RubyAnaBelle RubyAnaBelle 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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