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I Am Afraid of Closeness

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    Fear Of The Unknown

    I think most people are afraid of closeness because they've been hurt. I'm afraid because I've never felt really close to anyone. I actually lacked the capacity for it until my late teens I used to be terribly embarrassed as a child that I didn't feel close to my parents. I used...
    pushingforward93 pushingforward93 22-25, M Jun 12, 2013

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    Afraid of Closeness

    I have had a very bad time with relationships, One failure after another. Always the pain was almost unbearable. I found a real true love and cancer took her from me. Now although I want to be close and in love again, For some reason I always push myself out and away from who...
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia 41-45, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2007

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    I'm Not Afraid Of Anything, But This.

    After what the freak I was married to for 36 years did to me, I will never let another man get close to me. I will take everything the next one says and not believe it. What happens after one does that will inevitably turn bad. I'm not dissing men, but I don't ever want to feel...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 17, 2011

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    From Afar

    I am afraid of closeness, because every single time I have let someone in I've been really hurt.People can be evil, so damn cold.Sometimes it's better to love people from afar.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F Dec 22, 2010

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    I Push Away

    I always push the one person I want away. I never understood that. When we start getting close I pull away so fast. I start to lie to make myself more wanted. But all I want is that one person that would care. I want someone would want me and don't let me pull and push them away...
    lenabear lenabear 18-21, F Oct 15, 2012

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    Pushed Away

    everytime i get some one i can be close to i push them away and by the time i realize what i have done its always too late they  have moved on and i am alone once again
    gothrosk816 gothrosk816 16-18, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2007

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    Afraid to Let People Know Me

      i am afraid to let anyone close to me.  I've never been close to my parents or family so find it hard to talk about things.  My best friend is great but because she is having problems of her own,  i feel i can't open up to her.  Im always there for my...
    bettieboo bettieboo 26-30 3 Responses Sep 29, 2008

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    My Own Island.

    I am not real close to anyone anymore. Yes, i have some that i can talk to freely and they know my weaknesses and strengths and i sorta know them. I much prefer it this way. I do miss feeling close to a person, having a person that i can go to at anytime and who makes me laugh...
    Lilcuppa Lilcuppa 70+ 5 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    I Am Afraid

    One of my biggest fears, is to be close to a girl, I want to be close, I want to be interment with her, so what is stopping me? Just a silly fear? wondering what she thinks of me? Maybe I am not good enough for her. What my heart says,  is give her everything I have, love...
    Tkevin Tkevin 46-50, M 3 Responses Aug 21, 2010

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    I followed this awhile ago... Now I found out I've only got a couple years max to live. As of right now I'm still really not afraid, maybe it hasn't really hit me yet. I guess i am...
    Lcervetto Lcervetto 18-21, F 14 hrs ago

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    I am afraid of failure in almost every context I think. I am a writer who is afraid to write because I am afraid that people will not like it. More importantly, I am afraid they...
    Franklee206 Franklee206 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    you rarely find people who are not afraid to die, i'm afraid of death only when it concerns the people i love, but for me i use to go around telling people i'm not afraid to die, i...
    lay1 lay1 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I feel like I have so much to lose. I keep so many memories locked away and would consider myself a pack rat of good times. I write down things that make me laugh and things that...
    Anticloud Anticloud 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm afraid of getting close to others or having a new best friend because my best friend died over a year ago. Not only that, I have had lots of friends who have died. Others, I...
    ninathecat ninathecat 31-35 5 days ago

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    For various reasons: I'm afraid of child birth, I'm afraid of raising them wrong and not being able to care for them properly, and when I'm being honest with myself, sometimes I'm...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    There is no point in being fraud of death. Death is natural. It's like being afraid of oblivion. It's going to happen and you have no choice in that. You have no choice in your...
    fixingthebroken fixingthebroken 13-15, F Jun 23

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    May be previously i would be afraid of death..but so far now i am not afraid of it anymore..i have known the meaning of life..its just a stage where characters play their role...
    happyhuman1 happyhuman1 22-25, F Jun 26

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    I don't mean in the social anxiety way (although I do totally have social anxiety). I'm afraid of what people are going to do to screw up my life. I've been answering some really...
    vlrjspn vlrjspn 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    I'm not afraid to admit that I am afraid of the dark
    Princessinmind Princessinmind 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I crave the deepest connections with others, yet I'm too afraid to let anyone in. I love to socialize, I love to make friends, and I have a boyfriend. But that true connection has...
    laurennhem laurennhem 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    Not sure whether it's just me but I find myself really limited in what I can do and how I socially interact with people because I'm afraid of what they'll think of me and how that...
    ThatAwkwardOne ThatAwkwardOne 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 2

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    I just never ever been afraid from dying as it is life as no one stay alive forever, right!. I just saw a lot of funerals in my life and lost a lot in my 35 years as my life been...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I would like to go out and find a guy and build a meaningful relationship. I'm just tired of being lonely and not having the affection and the closure and such that comes with a...
    ems350z ems350z 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 3

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    Im not afraid to speak my mind i will tell you how it is straight to your face 💁 for the people who are afraid, what have you got to lose?
    verox3 verox3 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    I'm not afraid of it, doesn't mean I like it or I visit it, but I'm not afraid of it.
    ElizaKate ElizaKate 16-17, F Jul 13

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    I am so afraid of everything: going out and having fun, making a fool of myself, talking to people, even that I'm bothering everybody that are my friends. But at the same time, I...
    AngelLux AngelLux 16-17, F Jul 13

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    My mom got married to my biological father at a young age, he was abusive and controlling, during the divorce and custody battle he kidnapped me and my older sibling, when his wife...
    LunaValentine LunaValentine 18-21, M Jul 15

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    I say things most people are afraid to say.....I do not hold back when it is the right time and place, or perhaps when it needs to be the right time and place. I do not sit...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 15

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    I have some male friends and honestly I can't be comfortable with them. I feel like they don't like me at all because of my looks and afraid to be paired up with me for fun. I have...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Idk why everyone comes in my life when they have to leave in just few days. I made many online friends and slowly slowly they left me. I am just afraid of being in love, i am just...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I have never truly been able to get close to someone without trying to find any fault i could within them. I found that if i could find those imperfections, it would make it 10...
    shesonlyhappyinthesun shesonlyhappyinthesun 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't know what's wrong with me lately. I'm having this huge fear of death and nothing seems to bring me joy, the sound of thunder and lightning seems to be sending chills down...
    YoungHeartOldSoul YoungHeartOldSoul 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    Well I am not just because we will die someday, except for Chuck Norris (he's god) but well we all are gonna die and well I'm not afraid, if it is my moment I'll take it and well I...
    Melotellixx Melotellixx 13-15, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Im afraid to talk about how i feel because i feel like its going to come out wrong or if its going to get me into trouble . I do express my feelings at times but im always so...
    savannah0115 savannah0115 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Ok so about 6 months ago I was living with my mother and I started talking to a guy that I really liked fast forward 2 months and we were friends but I was afraid to make it more...
    loveandotherdrugs8 loveandotherdrugs8 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Why be afraid of it we should just accept and be ready for are time two come we all gona die no matter what its part of life can't be help even if you say you'r imortal like my one...
    DarkpawTheSissyFolf DarkpawTheSissyFolf 18-21, M Jun 23

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    This is my first post. I'm kind of new to this. In fact I only made an account in the first place to post supporting words to a post I read about where someone had went through a...
    angryunknownfuture angryunknownfuture 22-25, M Jun 23

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    I'm not talking so much on a relationship level, but on a friendship level. I'm just alone. And I'm afraid of even trying to make friends. I think I'm just meant to be by myself...
    DepressedButWellDressed DepressedButWellDressed 13-15, F 5 Responses Jun 24

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    yea i was afraid that i wouldn't ever find someone but i did... his name is Jake.... i love him.. a lot...... its weird i know but its 100% true..... he is just so.. prefect...
    loveyanoone loveyanoone 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    I am finishing up taking out my first student loan. I am taking out $6,500 through the government and $11,000 through a private loan. This is only for one year. I will not be able...
    nofutureanon nofutureanon 18-21 1 Response Jun 27

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    I'm sorry and I can't help my feelings, but I'm afraid of older men who want to be sexual. I'm scared of anyone over 40 who has previous sexual experience. I've always had issues...
    DarkwingGoslyn DarkwingGoslyn 31-35 Jun 27

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    I think the people on EP who write about the secret things that actually cross their minds are courageous. They aren't afraid to share their truths no matter how unacceptable their...
    truthandbeauty truthandbeauty 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    cuz i don't have feelings!! i can't feel love and i can't even cry but i cry when i'm extremely hurt by someone!! i'm just afraid that i'll always be single... even if i would...
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 5 Responses Jun 28

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    i don't know why. i just feel so scared of annoying people. whenever there is time to think about anything, i start thinking about those people i am currently talking to ( most...
    iamnoor iamnoor 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    Several times in my life I have had a crush on a girl ,but never can I gather the nerves to ask them out. I was in China for school last year and I met a girl just like me. She had...
    tommyfung tommyfung 16-17, M Jun 29

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    I am not afraid of dying and never will be
    Sproketsocet Sproketsocet 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 30

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    Guys like me and ill flirt but im afraid too commit and keep losing friends for it I am terrified of giving my heart to someone again and losing more of me then I already have
    jketdancer jketdancer 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 30

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