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I Am Afraid of Failure

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    I Just Need To Be Better

    Even being at the top of my class and having success in a lot of things academically and with sports, I still always feel like a failure and as if I need to compensate.  I never feel good enough.  The only reason I can think that I'm even in the place I'm at is because of my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 4, 2012

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    I hate the fact that I can't accept failure:(

    how I actually make myself accept failure?
    Upsndowns Upsndowns 16-17, F Jan 21

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    If You're Afraid Because You're Unemployed

    I write a lot and most of it - practically all of it - is for different professional organizations and runs in the form of How-Tos, Bossy Exchanges and Theoretical Rants. The following is an example. Tell me what you think!How To Find A Job When There Are NoneThis might help!Many...
    BusinessToday BusinessToday 56-60 Sep 3, 2012

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    Sometimes I Don't Even Try.

    I am so afraid that I will fail that I tend to avoid anything that might be remotely new and difficult. I am going to TAFE only because I figured that it was a basic course, anyone can pass. I am right, it is pretty basic. I kinda want to be a criminologist but then I worry about...
    bufy1981 bufy1981 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2009

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    On Trusting Oneself...

    This evening while I was browsing the internet, a picture fell off the wall a few feet in front of me. It was hanging on one of those stick-up wall hangers that aren't supposed to damage the wall paint (don't bother with these; I have a nice big chip of paint missing from the...
    kiuz645 kiuz645 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 2, 2011

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    So...

    Once I get past the point of being afraid of even trying in the first place, I refuse to fail. The trick is, getting started. Overcoming that fear, taking the first step, and going for it. To sell out and not look back.
    ALLEVERWNTD ALLEVERWNTD 31-35, M Aug 14, 2013

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    I was so happy. I had a great job with great

    co-workers and I was doing great things in the clubs I'm in and I was doing well in my classes and I was so close to finishing my degree plan. Just the end of this semester and the fall and I'd be done. I'd be on my way to a career and one step closer to achieving my dreams. I...
    BuzzFanatic BuzzFanatic 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I am going to a basketball tryout this weekend

    for team Ontario and I constantly feel like I'm not good enough. I am so happy and nervous that I am going to try out but I'm really scared to fail and not make the team. I'm hoping for the best! Please wish me good luck :)
    wynonav wynonav 16-17, F Mar 26

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    Afraid Of Failure

    And yet I fail everything... -_-
    entauri entauri 22-25, M Jun 24, 2013

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    What Will Happen?

    my dad tells me to become a doctor but for that i need to work hard and i'm scared...what if i could not? i would disappoint everybody.....i don't want to become a doctor but i have to and its so complicated and i worry so much...my mood often gets dull because of this...i can't...
    sidslot16 sidslot16 13-15, F Nov 30, 2012

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    Failing

    Failing,Frightens me more,More than I can say,Often,I'm so close,No wonder,I'm shakin' in my boots!
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 Jun 29, 2012

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    Fear Is Getting a Grip On Me

     I am afraid I am falling into the zone of negativity.I am afraid of yet another failure and dejection.I have made enough sacrifices for this already...I have nothing more to give! I just realised fear is disturbing my clarity of thought..Somehow i am not able to go...
    maskedmenace maskedmenace 22-25, M 5 Responses Sep 28, 2009

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    What If???

    This is what my youth pastor said to me... "I think you're afraid of failure..." I hated the fact that she was freaking right. I don't let myself progress in anything because I think of the negative WHAT IF'S instead of the positive ones. I yearn to try new things, I sincerely...
    jamrillo jamrillo 18-21 Dec 17, 2011

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    beautifulc0nfessions beautifulc0nfessions 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    I Got Made Fun Of For This Recently...

    I get bug report from our team lead and I reply "We could do this, but these are the risks" And she replies: "Go ahead if you think IT WON'T BREAK ANYTHING" ... Ok girl. Live a week in my world of psychopathic "likeminds" and then tell me how sure you are that sun rises in the...
    ILoveMarie ILoveMarie 36-40 Jul 16, 2010

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    I am afraid of failure.

    The thought of it holds me back from doing my best. I wish I was more outgoing and not afraid. I'm pretty much at the point of not caring about anything and being neutral towards a lot of things. All I really want in life is to be successful. I just don't know how to get there.
    khokho204 khokho204 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 8

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    well , to start .. i'm actually not a confident

    person , i do care about what people think of me ! like a lot , so i really can't be myself when i go out with my friends or when i met a new person .. it's like i wanna be a perfect person and this is driving me crazy :/ .. it effects not only my social life but also my...
    takwa1 takwa1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    What Is Failure ?

    I believe that our fright of failure is what stops us from taking action.We delay closing an agreement , delay approaching circumstances because we focus on what we dont want . But little do we know is that what were doing is hurting our chances of success. Success is a result of...
    think2012 think2012 18-21, F Oct 16, 2012

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    Self-revelation

    *Note* This story is copied from my EP blog. I have been gaining weight for the last ten years at a rate of approximately 8 lbs per year for a grand total of around 235 pounds. Over the years I have tried Weight Watchers, the Canada Food Guide, the Glycemic Index, a...
    Alliya Alliya 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14, 2010

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    Just Totally Afraid

    Have you ever felt like you don't know you fate? Yeah, that feeling mixed with a chance of failing at something terrifies me. I have never really failed at anything. Whenever something would challenge me, I would work so hard that I could satisfactorily approve of my efforts and...
    analyzing analyzing 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 26, 2012

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    DoNotMakeMeCry DoNotMakeMeCry 22-25, F Jun 11

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    I think I've had this fear

    since at least 6th grade or so. I'm pretty sure it's developed because of my dad's reactions every time I do something wrong or screw up. I can't ever explain myself, nor can I even cry because of how bad I feel for screwing up. I just have to put on a straight face and get...
    hawkwardness hawkwardness 18-21, M Jun 6

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    Aaaand ...

    That's why I don't ever really try. I can't fail if I didn't even try in the first place. But now that I'm at Uni, the defensice mechanism is not helping me one bit. I think that I probably should've had a harder time of it during high school; I always found the academic...
    IdleTraveller IdleTraveller 22-25, F Apr 6, 2010

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    I am afraid of failure in almost every context

    I think. I am a writer who is afraid to write because I am afraid that people will not like it. More importantly, I am afraid they won't like it because I somehow failed to adequately communicate the my point to them. I am afraid to do anything especially proactive socially...
    Franklee206 Franklee206 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 25

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    Do you ever lay down on your bed and stare at the ceiling? Just wondering what you're going to do in life? What you'll be, who'll still be your friend, what did Jimmy do about that...
    WhiskeyHands WhiskeyHands 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    This year at school I'm doing a special program that allows me to do both my 8th and 9th grade years in one so the I can skip to tenth and my mother was so happy that I got this...
    Nightfang109 Nightfang109 13-15, M 2 hrs ago

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    I followed this awhile ago... Now I found out I've only got a couple years max to live. As of right now I'm still really not afraid, maybe it hasn't really hit me yet. I guess i am...
    Lcervetto Lcervetto 18-21, F 11 hrs ago

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    The word failure puts forward a very simplistic way of thinking that allows for only two possibilities: failure or success. Few things in the universe are black and white, yet much...
    anghel77 anghel77 36-40, F Jun 26

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    So here I am, suffering from depression, suicidal, addicted to self-harm and alcohol. My so-called family pretend to care but they don't. I live alone in a tiny, ******, stinky...
    Payinghug Payinghug 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    i always do something stupid at sometime. i think in other people's eyes, i look completely idiotic i hate whenever i get flashbacks of the shameful things i've done. last night...
    kathl33n kathl33n 18-21 5 Responses Jul 1

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    There's a deadline coming up soon for this great opportunity offered by my school once a year to get into some research (biochem major here) which would ultimately end with me...
    1eyeliner1 1eyeliner1 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I'm really scared of my family members dying. I'm a senior in high school and my dad died three years ago. His death was really unexpected so after that I was like "Wow, it's true...
    youthberry youthberry 18-21, F Jul 10

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    I always worry about my future, if it is successful or a failure.Most people want to be successful, we all want to be better than others. We all want to make someone proud...
    LoverBoyMike LoverBoyMike 18-21, M Jul 5

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    29 years old, messed up my life. Last 5 years were a total failure. I used to dream about things that I would like to attain, I used to have goals to achieve. And now, no more...
    byvik byvik 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 25

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    I'm in no way a complete failure, in fact I've accomplished a lot and some of it is downright amazing, however there are still times I feel like a complete failure!
    curtbgood curtbgood 56-60, M 6 days ago

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    At age 11, I was among the top maths students in my country, which gained me entrance into the top ranked high school. Once again here, I excelled in maths, gaining entrance into...
    islandnic islandnic 31-35, M Jun 26

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    Sometimes I can't help but feel like a failure and that I'm letting my dad down. All he talks about is how I wanted to go to Harvard, be a doctor, got straight A's. Part of me...
    WoundedDreamer WoundedDreamer 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    I tried to ask this girl out and I got rejected I'm such a failure!!:'(
    100BlackRoses 100BlackRoses 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    So much for always trying to stay positive. I ruin everything.... I'm a complete idiot and a failure. I will never understand...
    steve0629 steve0629 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm such a failure everything is always my fault
    lonelymami lonelymami 26-30, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    you rarely find people who are not afraid to die, i'm afraid of death only when it concerns the people i love, but for me i use to go around telling people i'm not afraid to die, i...
    lay1 lay1 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 24

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    I feel like I have so much to lose. I keep so many memories locked away and would consider myself a pack rat of good times. I write down things that make me laugh and things that...
    Anticloud Anticloud 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I'm afraid of getting close to others or having a new best friend because my best friend died over a year ago. Not only that, I have had lots of friends who have died. Others, I...
    ninathecat ninathecat 31-35 5 days ago

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    For various reasons: I'm afraid of child birth, I'm afraid of raising them wrong and not being able to care for them properly, and when I'm being honest with myself, sometimes I'm...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    There is no point in being fraud of death. Death is natural. It's like being afraid of oblivion. It's going to happen and you have no choice in that. You have no choice in your...
    fixingthebroken fixingthebroken 13-15, F Jun 23

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    May be previously i would be afraid of death..but so far now i am not afraid of it anymore..i have known the meaning of life..its just a stage where characters play their role...
    happyhuman1 happyhuman1 22-25, F Jun 26

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    I don't mean in the social anxiety way (although I do totally have social anxiety). I'm afraid of what people are going to do to screw up my life. I've been answering some really...
    vlrjspn vlrjspn 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 26

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    I'm not afraid to admit that I am afraid of the dark
    Princessinmind Princessinmind 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    I crave the deepest connections with others, yet I'm too afraid to let anyone in. I love to socialize, I love to make friends, and I have a boyfriend. But that true connection has...
    laurennhem laurennhem 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    Not sure whether it's just me but I find myself really limited in what I can do and how I socially interact with people because I'm afraid of what they'll think of me and how that...
    ThatAwkwardOne ThatAwkwardOne 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 2