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I Am Afraid of Growing Old Alone

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    Even though I am only 18 I worry often that I will spend forever alone. I've watched all of my peers have at least one good relationship, while I have been alone. Every guy that I've ever started anything with has left me for another girl. I know I'm young, but the pain of being...
    Nerdbabe101 Nerdbabe101 18-21 2 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Nothing Scarier

    Nothing scarier than imagining losing my wife and trying to go on without her
    ChipmunkErnie ChipmunkErnie 61-65, M Dec 5, 2009

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    Lonely Start

    Even though I'm young the pain of feeling inadequate is quite real. I worry a lot of the time about being alone forever. While watching all my peers have at least one good relationship, I've been like the outsider. I always try my hardest, but every guy I've been with has left me...
    nerdbabe102 nerdbabe102 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    :(

    I dont wanna be alone :( I wish, I could fall for some one that I could see myself with. Forever. What if i had a dog? I wouldnt exactly be alone, but, what if i died at home? The poor fella would be all alone and maye starve to death :( I know im only 19. But, we can all...
    HangingTree HangingTree 18-21, M 1 Response May 23, 2010

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    Woke Up With Anxiety 1 Morning

    I know that right now I am young and to my knowledge healthy, but this growing alone fear just consumed me one morning and I woke up crying uncontrollably.  I think I made myself panic at the thought of my parents being gone because I don't have any other family or children...
    always333 always333 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2009

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    We had this question on yes...

    We had this question on yesterday's survey.?????????
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 20, 2009

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    Pretty Scary

    I have no problem being alone in my youth and middle age... in fact, I prefer it! No one to answer to, no one to judge you or nag you or expect you to entertain them. No in-laws, no step-kids, no arguments, etc. Sounds great to me!But I'll admit, it does scare me to think of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses May 7, 2011

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    Alone

    I'll be 36 this week.  Every year for as long as I can remember, I've blown out the candles on my cake and wished for love.   In 36 years, I've only experienced love, real love with one man for a span of 4 years.  The aftermath is that 10 years after...
    nurseK72 nurseK72 36-40 5 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    This Is One of the Few Fear...

    This is one of the few fears I  have, I  don't want to be alone when I  hit old age.
    evilkittymew evilkittymew 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 20, 2009

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    Bleak Future

    I never used to be worried about being old and alone but recently it has become a horrible nagging thought. I'm a 40 year old single male. I used to be married but my ex was a liar and a cheat. I threw myself into that marriage as I thought a man should. I moved away from home so...
    Coffee71 Coffee71 36-40, M 3 Responses May 18, 2012

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    No Easy Way To Grow Old

    I'm a 62-year-old man with no children, living alone for 21 years since I divorced a woman who was my companion but not my lover. I'm still working and my finances are sound, but the older I get the more I worry about aging and dying alone. I'm used to taking care of myself...
    wkohler wkohler 61-65, M Nov 17, 2013

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    Same Here

    I am 38 years old.Don't have many good decent friends.Have family problems.I have a best friend.But i live in  IL and she lives in Cali.Have never dated much.Thought i was in love once 11 years ago.But ended up in a abusive relationship.I just wish i could find a guy to...
    shan12stones shan12stones 36-40, F Nov 10, 2008

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    Me Too

    Let's say thats really bothering me. I'm going 35 4 months from now. I have 2 kids and already separated, sometimes I thought that it stops me from a having a partner bec I hav a face and a good personality. I don't know why until now lovelife so aloof from me. I have suitors...
    msbrix27 msbrix27 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2012

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    Over Sixty and Alone

    THE WORST THING ABOUT GROWING OLD ALONE IS NOT BEING ABLE TO SHARE LOVE AND COMPANIONSHIP. BEING ALONE IN ITSELF CAN BE RELAXING AT TIMES. BUT, A CONSTANT DIET OF IT IS NOT GOOD MENTALLY. I'VE BEEN ALONE FOR A YEAR AND THE ONLY REASON I'M STILL SANE IS BECAUSE OF A...
    Rockjaw Rockjaw 61-65, M 3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

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    Its Gonna Happen...

    the thought of being alone and growing old alone terrifies me. i had thought that i had met my soulmate, my yin to my yang... there was no doubt that it was going to be me and her hand in hand, her and me against the world. we were eachothers last chance to ge it right...
    unbalanced23 unbalanced23 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    At The Brink Of 30

    At the brink of 30, caught in a maze of married friends, pregnant friends and friends with 4 year old Kids. Leftovers are people currently planning their marriage and well, me. A 28 year old who has had numerous previous relAtionships but just never found myself wanting or...
    Stillsylph Stillsylph 26-30 Apr 27, 2012

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    Haven't Kissed A Girl In Over 4yrs!

    I haven't even been on a date in over 5yrs and the last time I held a woman was x-mass eve in her boyfriends driveway after work when I followed her home from the party she and I were close friends and I had expressed my feelings for her a week prior at a mutual friends party...
    Edlargo Edlargo 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    I'm Staying In A Horrible Marriage Because I Am Sooo Afraid Of Growing Old Alone!!

    I am two years into my 2nd marriage, and am completely miserable, lonely and depressed all the time whenever my husband is around. I have no friends, the few I did have before I got married, my husband managed to drive them all away. I've been trying for the last 6 years to get...
    MarriedLonelyandChildless MarriedLonelyandChildless 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    Creepy

    I am terrfried of losing my husband. I dont ever want to be alone. I always do sometime wonders though what it would be like if I was on my own right now.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Feb 19, 2008

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    Not A Promising Outlook

    I read some of the stories on here and people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s are talking about growing old alone. I am 52, alone and at this point feel as though this is how I will spend the rest of my life. When I was in my 20s-40s, I never gave a thought to growing old alone. I...
    jlitzenb jlitzenb 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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    Too Old to Be Young, Too Young to Be Old...

    Hi all, I am 61 -62 in June.  I retired and moved from my roots in April last year and am still feeling floaty. Sometimes I don't care if I'm to be alone the rest of my life as I've spent most of it (all but five years) alone anyway - unwillingly so, but here I am, still...
    jodi1946 jodi1946 61-65, F 10 Responses Jan 13, 2008

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    Of Course You Can Be With Someone and Alone At the Same Time!

    I've been lonely in crowds because the only place that I live in is really between my ears.  The rest of the world intrudes through my senses and if I'm not touching someone I'm not sure they really exist.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 2 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    I Feel It Comin As A Breeze

    First, I know how to cook, so I can cook for my love everyday and she won't have to be tired or hurt by using knives...making her impressed is all I want, besides her charming smile :D But hey! who am I kidding? I'll live alone, stay alone, and even die alone as an unknown foo in...
    adamwillis adamwillis 18-21, M Jun 15, 2011

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    Eh

    It worries me alot...I really want to share my life with someone until the end of time...
    ForeversNever ForeversNever 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Surviving the Back Side of 50

    Seems like I just woke up one day and I was 50 and alone.  It just happened so fast.  My best friend, soul mate, love of my life left me for other women because I got breast cancer and he wanted "women with normal breasts".  He just could not get through...
    roxiesmom roxiesmom 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Totally Depressing And Pathetic Life

    After my daughter in law was so horrible to me I decided that was it . No more.then I felt really sad they had said I could live close to them so I planned to find work close by and a house but the work did not pan out and she was so awful to me I realized it wasn't going to...
    englishgardener englishgardener 66-70 3 Responses Aug 22, 2010

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    Daily Struggle

    this has always been my number one fear, possibly my only fear ='( I know i have my friends but its not the same as finding that special someone who you want and crave like no other, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Being a shy guy its not always been...
    MiracleWhipTrickster MiracleWhipTrickster 18-21, M 14 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    I Do Too...

    I'm 26, & though I'm not necessarily close too that "growing old" point in my life yet, I still worry about it. I've spent my entire life alone & fear I'll spend the rest of it the same way. I try to think positive thoughts about everything...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    Life

    Now that I'm in the process of leaving my husband, I'm extremely scared of never finding love again.  I fell in love with an amazing man recently and I'm afraid we'll never be together.  I'm afraid of never being touched in a loving way again, never feeling another...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    What Kind Of Person Am I?

    To be alone......wondering if and when it'll happen to me.  How is my life going to finally turn out or is it evolving everyday?  I just wonder when a true test of "ME" really comes...what kind of woman am I.  Will I have the strength to really endure...
    always333 always333 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2009

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    The rain is coming down heavily. The neighborhood is quiet. It's October and it marks a full 2 years and 2 months of being single. It's been 2 months since I've made any physical...
    SuperGinger41 SuperGinger41 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Once i get my hopes togheter it falls apart , i'm afraid to love people i'm afraid to get my hopes togheter again , i'm afraid that i will expect to much
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Sep 7

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    I got stuck and don't know how to overcome it. I am esperiencing this problem since the beginning of highschool. Now it has been 7 years or maybe more and I'm still trying to get...
    Unkyy Unkyy 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    What can I possibly say about this. Yes, I am terrified of ending up alone. I do stupid, idiotic things to prevent that from happening. The people I befriended run all over me...
    IthinksoIam IthinksoIam 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    I don't like being alone, because that's the moment my thoughts start getting darker, my heart feel heavy and my life becomes a waste of everything. When I'm alone every little...
    simplyfuckit simplyfuckit 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I've accepted the fact for a long time now, and I'd rather not have that happen, but it probably will so you just gotta accept the fact right? :P
    Fred363 Fred363 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    I just want to relax with someone and be able to pet their nice soft fluffy hair and to cuddle for a long time without ever worrying that they're gonna leave.
    Aepeth Aepeth 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    I just turned 45 a few weeks ago...had a fiancee....until a couple of weeks before that...then he bailed. I thought that I wouldn't have to deal with being alone again. After my...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 15

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    It's not that I have a phobia of rejection. It's just I've been rejected so much in my life that if I ever see someone reject me I just want to fall on my knees and cry until I run...
    SoraMayOctavian SoraMayOctavian 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    I just want it to end, I can't stand of having no one to talk to and having no friends to do things with. It's been like this for most of my life, and I'm beginning to think death...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 15

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    I am NOT growing old gracefully. Things still happen, fun times and good memories, but the morning after, looking in the mirror??? Damn...wth happened?
    Dantescircle Dantescircle 36-40, M 1 Response Sep 14

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    I just get so caught up in my thoughts that I miss what's going on around me, and now I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I have two really good friends that mean the...
    Nineismyname Nineismyname 18-21, F 9 hrs ago

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    I am 17, I'm in my last year at school and I live alone. I must admit it is quite haunting to come home from school and nobody is there. Not to mention I have to be my own mum and...
    luneelfe luneelfe 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    i miss my old friends that i used to hang out with all the time as a kid in elementary and i haven't heard from them since, but they appear in my dreams all the time. i miss my...
    antoneli antoneli 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 16

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    I want to practice self-love, but I am a fig tree - I look tough on the outside, but I am easily overtaken by insects and harsh weather. I have read many different versions of...
    ThQnOfHrts16 ThQnOfHrts16 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 15

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    She was almost 4 years old when I was born. According to her, she was not jealous nor threatened. On the contrary, she's always wanted to be a protector, someone who was going to...
    VishkaB VishkaB 18-21, F 2 hrs ago

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    When I am alone its not brilliant, but is fine. When I am in company I try to say the things people want to hear but always fail as that is very complicated! I wish I was a mind...
    artymike8 artymike8 41-45, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Growing up, many strange things used to happen around me. I'm not sure when I began to notice this.. thing that was following me around. At first it was sounds, shadows, and...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    I don't really know if I would say afraid...I just feel like it is becoming an inevitability. I am only nineteen years old and I have been steadily gaining around 20-25 a year...
    bellyswell bellyswell 18-21 1 Response Sep 14

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    So i fall and rejected and loves to reject people .. I still don't know whats wrong with me .. Am i not attractive .. Why do those guys i liked never like me back .. How come you...
    Christinamayday Christinamayday 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 22

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