I Am Afraid of Growing Old Alone

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 620 People

    Surviving the Back Side of 50

    Seems like I just woke up one day and I was 50 and alone.  It just happened so fast.  My best friend, soul mate, love of my life left me for other women because I got breast cancer and he wanted "women with normal breasts".  He just could not get through...
    roxiesmom roxiesmom
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

    I turn 50 next April

    and recently I have started thinking about growing old alone. I've had two relationships, the last one being over 15 years ago. I don't have an ego, but I'm told I'm attractive, and I've had the opportunity to be in relationships with guys half my age, but that doesn't appeal to...
    flick66 flick66
    46-50, M
    1 Response Nov 25, 2015

    What Kind Of Person Am I?

    To be alone......wondering if and when it'll happen to me.  How is my life going to finally turn out or is it evolving everyday?  I just wonder when a true test of "ME" really comes...what kind of woman am I.  Will I have the strength to really endure...
    always333 always333
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2009

    Bleak Future

    I never used to be worried about being old and alone but recently it has become a horrible nagging thought. I'm a 40 year old single male. I used to be married but my ex was a liar and a cheat. I threw myself into that marriage as I thought a man should. I moved away from home so...
    Coffee71 Coffee71
    36-40, M
    3 Responses May 18, 2012

    Haven't Kissed A Girl In Over 4yrs!

    I haven't even been on a date in over 5yrs and the last time I held a woman was x-mass eve in her boyfriends driveway after work when I followed her home from the party she and I were close friends and I had expressed my feelings for her a week prior at a mutual friends party...
    Edlargo Edlargo
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

    I'm Staying In A Horrible Marriage Because I Am Sooo Afraid Of Growing Old Alone!!

    I am two years into my 2nd marriage, and am completely miserable, lonely and depressed all the time whenever my husband is around. I have no friends, the few I did have before I got married, my husband managed to drive them all away. I've been trying for the last 6 years to get...
    MarriedLonelyandChildless MarriedLonelyandChildless
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Nov 26, 2011

    Its Gonna Happen...

    the thought of being alone and growing old alone terrifies me. i had thought that i had met my soulmate, my yin to my yang... there was no doubt that it was going to be me and her hand in hand, her and me against the world. we were eachothers last chance to ge it right...
    unbalanced23 unbalanced23
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Feb 4, 2009

    Daily Struggle

    this has always been my number one fear, possibly my only fear ='( I know i have my friends but its not the same as finding that special someone who you want and crave like no other, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Being a shy guy its not always been...
    MiracleWhipTrickster MiracleWhipTrickster
    18-21, M
    13 Responses Jul 29, 2010

    Same Here

    I am 38 years old.Don't have many good decent friends.Have family problems.I have a best friend.But i live in  IL and she lives in Cali.Have never dated much.Thought i was in love once 11 years ago.But ended up in a abusive relationship.I just wish i could find a guy to...
    shan12stones shan12stones
    36-40, F
    Nov 10, 2008

    We had this question on yes...

    We had this question on yesterday's survey.?????????
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 20, 2009

    I Feel It Comin As A Breeze

    First, I know how to cook, so I can cook for my love everyday and she won't have to be tired or hurt by using knives...making her impressed is all I want, besides her charming smile :D But hey! who am I kidding? I'll live alone, stay alone, and even die alone as an unknown foo in...
    adamwillis adamwillis
    18-21, M
    Jun 15, 2011

    Pretty Scary

    I have no problem being alone in my youth and middle age... in fact, I prefer it! No one to answer to, no one to judge you or nag you or expect you to entertain them. No in-laws, no step-kids, no arguments, etc. Sounds great to me!But I'll admit, it does scare me to think of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    2 Responses May 7, 2011

    Early Start

    Even though I am only 18 I worry often that I will spend forever alone. I've watched all of my peers have at least one good relationship, while I have been alone. Every guy that I've ever started anything with has left me for another girl. I know I'm young, but the pain of being...
    Nerdbabe101 Nerdbabe101
    18-21
    2 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    Eh

    It worries me alot...I really want to share my life with someone until the end of time...
    ForeversNever ForeversNever
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Sep 10, 2008

    Woke Up With Anxiety 1 Morning

    I know that right now I am young and to my knowledge healthy, but this growing alone fear just consumed me one morning and I woke up crying uncontrollably.  I think I made myself panic at the thought of my parents being gone because I don't have any other family or children...
    always333 always333
    36-40, F
    1 Response Sep 24, 2009

    Too Old to Be Young, Too Young to Be Old...

    Hi all, I am 61 -62 in June.  I retired and moved from my roots in April last year and am still feeling floaty. Sometimes I don't care if I'm to be alone the rest of my life as I've spent most of it (all but five years) alone anyway - unwillingly so, but here I am, still...
    jodi1946 jodi1946
    61-65, F
    10 Responses Jan 13, 2008

    People has changed They became the things

    that they said they will never be -trust issue
    sodavy sodavy
    16-17, F
    Sep 7, 2015

    No Easy Way To Grow Old

    I'm a 62-year-old man with no children, living alone for 21 years since I divorced a woman who was my companion but not my lover. I'm still working and my finances are sound, but the older I get the more I worry about aging and dying alone. I'm used to taking care of myself...
    wkohler wkohler
    61-65, M
    1 Response Nov 17, 2013

    :(

    I dont wanna be alone :( I wish, I could fall for some one that I could see myself with. Forever. What if i had a dog? I wouldnt exactly be alone, but, what if i died at home? The poor fella would be all alone and maye starve to death :( I know im only 19. But, we can all...
    HangingTree HangingTree
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 23, 2010

    At The Brink Of 30

    At the brink of 30, caught in a maze of married friends, pregnant friends and friends with 4 year old Kids. Leftovers are people currently planning their marriage and well, me. A 28 year old who has had numerous previous relAtionships but just never found myself wanting or...
    Stillsylph Stillsylph
    26-30
    Apr 27, 2012

    Creepy

    I am terrfried of losing my husband. I dont ever want to be alone. I always do sometime wonders though what it would be like if I was on my own right now.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy
    22-25, F
    Feb 19, 2008

    Over Sixty and Alone

    THE WORST THING ABOUT GROWING OLD ALONE IS NOT BEING ABLE TO SHARE LOVE AND COMPANIONSHIP. BEING ALONE IN ITSELF CAN BE RELAXING AT TIMES. BUT, A CONSTANT DIET OF IT IS NOT GOOD MENTALLY. I'VE BEEN ALONE FOR A YEAR AND THE ONLY REASON I'M STILL SANE IS BECAUSE OF A...
    Rockjaw Rockjaw
    61-65, M
    3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

    Totally Depressing And Pathetic Life

    After my daughter in law was so horrible to me I decided that was it . No more.then I felt really sad they had said I could live close to them so I planned to find work close by and a house but the work did not pan out and she was so awful to me I realized it wasn't going to...
    englishgardener englishgardener
    66-70
    3 Responses Aug 22, 2010

    Lonely Start

    Even though I'm young the pain of feeling inadequate is quite real. I worry a lot of the time about being alone forever. While watching all my peers have at least one good relationship, I've been like the outsider. I always try my hardest, but every guy I've been with has left me...
    nerdbabe102 nerdbabe102
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    I've been single now

    for five years. I've not had sex for two and a half and before that I'd been single for a long time. My longest relationship lasted 7 years. I'm 52 and I'm very worried I'll never find the girl to make me happy. I hate the loneliness and the emptiness, the lack of a...
    Riffster Riffster
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Nov 29, 2015

    Me Too

    Let's say thats really bothering me. I'm going 35 4 months from now. I have 2 kids and already separated, sometimes I thought that it stops me from a having a partner bec I hav a face and a good personality. I don't know why until now lovelife so aloof from me. I have suitors...
    msbrix27 msbrix27
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 8, 2012

    This Is One of the Few Fear...

    This is one of the few fears I  have, I  don't want to be alone when I  hit old age.
    evilkittymew evilkittymew
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 20, 2009

    Alone

    I'll be 36 this week.  Every year for as long as I can remember, I've blown out the candles on my cake and wished for love.   In 36 years, I've only experienced love, real love with one man for a span of 4 years.  The aftermath is that 10 years after...
    nurseK72 nurseK72
    36-40
    5 Responses Nov 9, 2008

    Life

    Now that I'm in the process of leaving my husband, I'm extremely scared of never finding love again.  I fell in love with an amazing man recently and I'm afraid we'll never be together.  I'm afraid of never being touched in a loving way again, never feeling another...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 2, 2008

    I Do Too...

    I'm 26, & though I'm not necessarily close too that "growing old" point in my life yet, I still worry about it. I've spent my entire life alone & fear I'll spend the rest of it the same way. I try to think positive thoughts about everything...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2008

    Not A Promising Outlook

    I read some of the stories on here and people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s are talking about growing old alone. I am 52, alone and at this point feel as though this is how I will spend the rest of my life. When I was in my 20s-40s, I never gave a thought to growing old alone. I...
    jlitzenb jlitzenb
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Jul 24, 2012
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