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I Am Afraid of Growing Old Alone

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    Over Sixty and Alone

    THE WORST THING ABOUT GROWING OLD ALONE IS NOT BEING ABLE TO SHARE LOVE AND COMPANIONSHIP. BEING ALONE IN ITSELF CAN BE RELAXING AT TIMES. BUT, A CONSTANT DIET OF IT IS NOT GOOD MENTALLY. I'VE BEEN ALONE FOR A YEAR AND THE ONLY REASON I'M STILL SANE IS BECAUSE OF A...
    Rockjaw Rockjaw 61-65, M 3 Responses Jun 23, 2008

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    Lonely Start

    Even though I'm young the pain of feeling inadequate is quite real. I worry a lot of the time about being alone forever. While watching all my peers have at least one good relationship, I've been like the outsider. I always try my hardest, but every guy I've been with has left me...
    nerdbabe102 nerdbabe102 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    No Easy Way To Grow Old

    I'm a 62-year-old man with no children, living alone for 21 years since I divorced a woman who was my companion but not my lover. I'm still working and my finances are sound, but the older I get the more I worry about aging and dying alone. I'm used to taking care of myself...
    wkohler wkohler 61-65, M Nov 17, 2013

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    Nothing Scarier

    Nothing scarier than imagining losing my wife and trying to go on without her
    ChipmunkErnie ChipmunkErnie 61-65, M Dec 5, 2009

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    Daily Struggle

    this has always been my number one fear, possibly my only fear ='( I know i have my friends but its not the same as finding that special someone who you want and crave like no other, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Being a shy guy its not always been...
    MiracleWhipTrickster MiracleWhipTrickster 18-21, M 14 Responses Jul 29, 2010

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    At The Brink Of 30

    At the brink of 30, caught in a maze of married friends, pregnant friends and friends with 4 year old Kids. Leftovers are people currently planning their marriage and well, me. A 28 year old who has had numerous previous relAtionships but just never found myself wanting or...
    Stillsylph Stillsylph 26-30 Apr 27, 2012

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    Not A Promising Outlook

    I read some of the stories on here and people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s are talking about growing old alone. I am 52, alone and at this point feel as though this is how I will spend the rest of my life. When I was in my 20s-40s, I never gave a thought to growing old alone. I...
    jlitzenb jlitzenb 51-55, M 4 Responses Jul 24, 2012

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    :(

    I dont wanna be alone :( I wish, I could fall for some one that I could see myself with. Forever. What if i had a dog? I wouldnt exactly be alone, but, what if i died at home? The poor fella would be all alone and maye starve to death :( I know im only 19. But, we can all...
    HangingTree HangingTree 18-21, M 1 Response May 23, 2010

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    Creepy

    I am terrfried of losing my husband. I dont ever want to be alone. I always do sometime wonders though what it would be like if I was on my own right now.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy 22-25, F Feb 19, 2008

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    Pretty Scary

    I have no problem being alone in my youth and middle age... in fact, I prefer it! No one to answer to, no one to judge you or nag you or expect you to entertain them. No in-laws, no step-kids, no arguments, etc. Sounds great to me!But I'll admit, it does scare me to think of...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 2 Responses May 7, 2011

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    Eh

    It worries me alot...I really want to share my life with someone until the end of time...
    ForeversNever ForeversNever 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 10, 2008

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    Me Too

    Let's say thats really bothering me. I'm going 35 4 months from now. I have 2 kids and already separated, sometimes I thought that it stops me from a having a partner bec I hav a face and a good personality. I don't know why until now lovelife so aloof from me. I have suitors...
    msbrix27 msbrix27 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 8, 2012

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    Woke Up With Anxiety 1 Morning

    I know that right now I am young and to my knowledge healthy, but this growing alone fear just consumed me one morning and I woke up crying uncontrollably.  I think I made myself panic at the thought of my parents being gone because I don't have any other family or children...
    always333 always333 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2009

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    This Is One of the Few Fear...

    This is one of the few fears I  have, I  don't want to be alone when I  hit old age.
    evilkittymew evilkittymew 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 20, 2009

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    Surviving the Back Side of 50

    Seems like I just woke up one day and I was 50 and alone.  It just happened so fast.  My best friend, soul mate, love of my life left me for other women because I got breast cancer and he wanted "women with normal breasts".  He just could not get through...
    roxiesmom roxiesmom 51-55, F 3 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    I'm Staying In A Horrible Marriage Because I Am Sooo Afraid Of Growing Old Alone!!

    I am two years into my 2nd marriage, and am completely miserable, lonely and depressed all the time whenever my husband is around. I have no friends, the few I did have before I got married, my husband managed to drive them all away. I've been trying for the last 6 years to get...
    MarriedLonelyandChildless MarriedLonelyandChildless 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 26, 2011

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    Life

    Now that I'm in the process of leaving my husband, I'm extremely scared of never finding love again.  I fell in love with an amazing man recently and I'm afraid we'll never be together.  I'm afraid of never being touched in a loving way again, never feeling another...
    CuriosityKitten CuriosityKitten 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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    Its Gonna Happen...

    the thought of being alone and growing old alone terrifies me. i had thought that i had met my soulmate, my yin to my yang... there was no doubt that it was going to be me and her hand in hand, her and me against the world. we were eachothers last chance to ge it right...
    unbalanced23 unbalanced23 36-40, M 4 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    Totally Depressing And Pathetic Life

    After my daughter in law was so horrible to me I decided that was it . No more.then I felt really sad they had said I could live close to them so I planned to find work close by and a house but the work did not pan out and she was so awful to me I realized it wasn't going to...
    englishgardener englishgardener 66-70 3 Responses Aug 22, 2010

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    Early Start

    Even though I am only 18 I worry often that I will spend forever alone. I've watched all of my peers have at least one good relationship, while I have been alone. Every guy that I've ever started anything with has left me for another girl. I know I'm young, but the pain of being...
    Nerdbabe101 Nerdbabe101 18-21 2 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Of Course You Can Be With Someone and Alone At the Same Time!

    I've been lonely in crowds because the only place that I live in is really between my ears.  The rest of the world intrudes through my senses and if I'm not touching someone I'm not sure they really exist.
    dorobo dorobo 70+, M 2 Responses Dec 21, 2008

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    Haven't Kissed A Girl In Over 4yrs!

    I haven't even been on a date in over 5yrs and the last time I held a woman was x-mass eve in her boyfriends driveway after work when I followed her home from the party she and I were close friends and I had expressed my feelings for her a week prior at a mutual friends party...
    Edlargo Edlargo 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    Same Here

    I am 38 years old.Don't have many good decent friends.Have family problems.I have a best friend.But i live in  IL and she lives in Cali.Have never dated much.Thought i was in love once 11 years ago.But ended up in a abusive relationship.I just wish i could find a guy to...
    shan12stones shan12stones 36-40, F Nov 10, 2008

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    What Kind Of Person Am I?

    To be alone......wondering if and when it'll happen to me.  How is my life going to finally turn out or is it evolving everyday?  I just wonder when a true test of "ME" really comes...what kind of woman am I.  Will I have the strength to really endure...
    always333 always333 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2009

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    Bleak Future

    I never used to be worried about being old and alone but recently it has become a horrible nagging thought. I'm a 40 year old single male. I used to be married but my ex was a liar and a cheat. I threw myself into that marriage as I thought a man should. I moved away from home so...
    Coffee71 Coffee71 36-40, M 3 Responses May 18, 2012

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    Too Old to Be Young, Too Young to Be Old...

    Hi all, I am 61 -62 in June.  I retired and moved from my roots in April last year and am still feeling floaty. Sometimes I don't care if I'm to be alone the rest of my life as I've spent most of it (all but five years) alone anyway - unwillingly so, but here I am, still...
    jodi1946 jodi1946 61-65, F 10 Responses Jan 13, 2008

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    I Do Too...

    I'm 26, & though I'm not necessarily close too that "growing old" point in my life yet, I still worry about it. I've spent my entire life alone & fear I'll spend the rest of it the same way. I try to think positive thoughts about everything...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    We had this question on yes...

    We had this question on yesterday's survey.?????????
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 20, 2009

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    I Feel It Comin As A Breeze

    First, I know how to cook, so I can cook for my love everyday and she won't have to be tired or hurt by using knives...making her impressed is all I want, besides her charming smile :D But hey! who am I kidding? I'll live alone, stay alone, and even die alone as an unknown foo in...
    adamwillis adamwillis 18-21, M Jun 15, 2011

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    Alone

    I'll be 36 this week.  Every year for as long as I can remember, I've blown out the candles on my cake and wished for love.   In 36 years, I've only experienced love, real love with one man for a span of 4 years.  The aftermath is that 10 years after...
    nurseK72 nurseK72 36-40 5 Responses Nov 9, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    Isn't everybody, somehow, afraid of dying alone? Nobody remembering you or your life story? I'm not really afraid of how I die.. it's just dying with out anyone there..
    SilverEyedWolf SilverEyedWolf 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    So when I'm home alone or taking a walk in the dark outside, I'm always afraid of being kidnapped or raped for some reason, and people who are aware of it happening to men too, don...
    thedaydreamer1020 thedaydreamer1020 18-21, F Jul 22

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    Intimacy is what I want most, but what I fear even more. The older I become, the more afraid I become, and the more sadder when I realize every person around me knows what it's...
    MichaelBayArea MichaelBayArea 22-25, M 6 days ago

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    I want to experience relationships. I have crushes and everything but I'm afraid I won't ever get to date someone in my high school life because of my race. My school is pretty...
    SincerelyMYlife SincerelyMYlife 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    I get so worried about this. The few times I've been left alone in my life, I felt so freaked out and unprepared, it's not even okay. How am I going to be an adult if I can't even...
    StokesQuirky StokesQuirky 18-21, F Jul 22

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    It feels nice to out alone with a cool breaze
    killerinstinke killerinstinke 13-15, F Jul 27

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    I have always loved to swim, but my age is hampering my ability to enjoy it now. Lately, my shoulder has been hurting me quite a bit after a swim. Right now I cannot lift my arm...
    sailnude sailnude 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I read a nice quote that sums it up nicely: Being adult doesn't mean that you can make decisions, but that you must make decisions
    Evened Evened 41-45, M Aug 2

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    Ughh.. My parents are out once again, leaving me all by myself. :c help.
    xxsamelovexx xxsamelovexx 13-15, M 3 Responses Jul 28

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    It is in the nature of time to pass. That is why we have memories!
    EstherKay EstherKay 22-25 Jul 22

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    For some reason, I have become afraid of almost everything. I'm afraid of eye contact, and I am afraid to speak up in public. Wherever I go, I can't help but feel afraid. Whenever...
    PastaPyro567 PastaPyro567 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 30

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    Well I'm not sure right now if I'm Afraid of being alone or just not wanting to lose my wife. Ugh, life can be tough sometimes.
    heartbroke73 heartbroke73 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 2

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    I'm not afraid of being alone i already know i am and i just have to accept it. No matter how hard and and painful it is.
    laserabe1 laserabe1 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 2

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