I Am Afraid of Having Children

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 102 People

    I've Waited A Long Time

    because I have a fear. a fear that I will fail them. a fear that i won't be able to handle the responsibilities. a fear that i will mess them up. a fear that i wont' be able tolove them enough. a fear that i'll injure them. a fear that my care won't be enough for them. a...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 5, 2010

    Love/Afraid of Children

    I am a 32 year old woman and LOVE, but absolutely LOVE children.  My husband and I have been speaking more and more about having children, but he says that there is spark missing in my eyes when I speak about children.  The truth I told him, is that I am afraid of my...
    sherjam sherjam
    31-35, F
    8 Responses Jan 8, 2008

    I'm only 15, so I shouldn't worry too much,

    but I've been terrified since I was 13. First off, I don't want my baby to have the same medical nightmare as me, as I believe and many doctors agree I probably have MS. I also fear that he/she'll will grow up to hate me or become a criminal who doesn't care about school or...
    amg374 amg374
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2015

    Too Young For It, But It'S A Frightening Prospect

    My mother insists that I will in turn have children. She certainly wants grandchildren and wants to increase the number of people being born in our "intellectual class" I've basically told her that I suppose I can do one kid at twenty-six, and she better hope my other siblings...
    JustLazyLittleMe JustLazyLittleMe
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 25, 2013


     There are 3 reasons I don't want to have children. 1. I'm afraid of getting fat and losing my body. 2. I'm afraid of a miscarriage. 3. I'm afraid of having either: A. Scar from C-section. B. Incision on my vagina. And those are my petty, selfish, rather unreasonable...
    PeaceChild PeaceChild
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

    Sigh, Yes

    I really, really want kids one day... Sometime after I am done with school but I'm afraid to have them. I am afraid I will be a bad mother and they will be hideously ugly...  
    kleisse kleisse
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2008

    i am so terrified to have kids.

    my husband really wants us to make kids now. and my mom and his mom are pressing on me. i'm 30 years old. i am supposed to want children like any other normal woman. but i am so afraid. i have depressions all the time. i am afraid i can't take a good care of a baby. i don't...
    pro0ject pro0ject
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2014

    I Want to Make My Husband Happy

    My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He has always been good to me and he tries to work hard.  He wants children so bad he can't stand it. He is nearing 40 and says he doesn't want to force me into having kids but he is still wanting me to try. He works...
    taylor1979 taylor1979
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 18, 2009

    Im terrified of having children

    because I am afraid of being pegged down and stuck in a marriage I may not want anymore in the future, for whatever reason. Im also not up to the responsibility. I love my husband though and will keep an open mind. I just want us kid free so it'd be easier to break up if...
    velvetaurora velvetaurora
    26-30, F
    Apr 13, 2014

    I'm afraid of having children

    because mental illness runs in my family, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I'm afraid because I don't want to feel responsible. What if they resent me? What if they wish they hadn't been born? My partner want children, and some part of me does too. But I am so afraid that I'll...
    thelensofme thelensofme
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 9, 2014

    Saw The Doctor

    I had a bad childhood and a bad mother, and on top of that I was told I was infertile when I was a teenager. I never pictured myself as ever having children.At the beginning of the year, I had an unexpected pregnancy, followed by a miscarriage.Since that time I have been...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti
    26-30, F
    May 16, 2013

    But I Love Children.

    I absolutely love children. I don't have many friends my age but children love me and they always make me smile. However, I have a very weak, tired body due to prolonged extreme stress, and the stress of a pregnancy would be too much to handle. Besides, I have an EXTREME fear of...
    oliveostrovsky oliveostrovsky
    Jan 17, 2013

    My boyfriend of 5 years (recently engaged 3

    months ago) was recently served with child support papers from his pervious relationship. Though he is a VERY active dad physically and financially. All I can think about is if he ends having to pay child support in addition to what he already does, I will not have child with...
    seeme83 seeme83
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 9, 2014

    Absolutely Terrified.

    Growing up I never wanted children. As I got older though and my sister had a baby that I love I felt that I wanted to have just 1. My fiancee already has a child so he was ok with things being as they were. But I kept saying I wanted one- eventually. I am 28. I have been on...
    neeloj1229 neeloj1229
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 4, 2012

    Drastic Change to One's Life

    I am almost 36 years old and I am terrified of having children because I am not sure I could handle the drastic change it would mean to my life: Reducing spending Less time for myself Fear that my husband will be no help Thinking more of others than myself and my...
    KathleenAP KathleenAP
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Apr 6, 2009

    Having kids has been a dream of mine

    since I was a child, but my family is filled with horrible people and I don't want any of my children to end up like them. They are selfish greedy people who care about no one but themselves and then announce to the rest of the world how stupid and inconsiderate you are after...
    Annapie Annapie
    22-25, F
    Jul 16, 2014

    I want kids but I'm scared I'm going to give

    birth to a child with like a disability or that has downsyndrom or something like that . That's why I want to adopt .
    lunaluna13 lunaluna13
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2014

    I Am Afraid That I Will Resent Having Children

    This is confusing for me. 1) I am already 40 and am still ambivalent about children 2)my partner is 45 and he is also ambivalent 3) we are both scared. I am at the point where I need to choose whether I want to have children or not, because I have drifted, because I may not be...
    BrightLight2011 BrightLight2011
    4 Responses Jun 16, 2011


    I know I am still young but when ever i get married....I am afraid. I hate puking first of all. But mainly I am afraid of labor. I've heard if you have kids, child birth is the worst expirience of a woman's life and it is the worst pain you will ever feel and it lasts for a...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 21, 2011
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