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I Am Afraid of Men

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    I Just Don't Know Why

    I don;t why but I'm just afraid of them. I mean I never went through  a traumatic experience. Im only 14 and I get nervous if I have a male teacher etc .Maybe its because of the storys my mom would tell me about my dad ( i never met) she would tell me he would hit her force her...
    hahannah14 hahannah14 13-15 1 Response Mar 31, 2011

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    I am afraid of men. It's

    because my dad used to abuse me, I guess. I want a woman in her 20s to talk to. I feel safest around them. It's about depression.
    marisald marisald 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    It really does depend,

    but I generally feel very very uncomfortable if I am in a room with men only or if a guy is near me. I am gay and am attracted to men but I am afraid of them. I really don't know why, especially when I find them to be attractive I am more afraid of them. I feel I have to go into...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 19, 2015

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    Fear And Loathing

    My father treated me like ****, my 4 older brothers treat me like ****(and always have), my boyfriend of 30YEARS I  found out has been cheating on me with everyone from office ***** to prostitutes since the first week we moved in together back in 1981. I kicked him out. The...
    Tigiboule Tigiboule 51-55 1 Response May 14, 2012

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    I am an 18 year old male,

    and I am afraid of other men. Pathetic, I know right? It's just that I was abused by my biological father when I was a child, and after he was arrested when I was 7, my cousin raped me. I have a lot of friends who are girls, and I am rather outgoing as well, except when it comes...
    BarthyM BarthyM 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 24, 2014

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    Too Many What Ifs...

    I am almost 22 years old and I have never been on a date. I have never even danced with a guy. I don't do anything with them. There are too many "What if"s. What if the one man I decide to go out with is a rapist? What if a man decides to torture me to death? What if I end up...
    midnightbeauty midnightbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I've always been scared of people,

    but I'm scared of males so much more. When I go to the Doctors, I want it to be Female, when I go for councling, I want it to be Female, and when I go for pretty much everything else, I want it to be Female. If it's a man, well...I can hide my fear, but it still doesn't stop it...
    pokedragonS8 pokedragonS8 16-17, F Apr 19, 2014

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    When They're Angry...

    Every time a guy yells at me I cry. I don't know why but I really hate it when guys yell at me. It never fails. When my dad yells at me...I get scared and when me and my ex used to argue, he would become really angry and yell and I would just cry. I just don't like it when...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men.

    But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend and I were trying to escape from these people and it was just middle aged men trying to get me. It got me thinking, why am I so afraid...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    An Old Fear Surfaces

    To know what I'm talking about read my previous story: EP Link OMG Today I met the same guy....that randomly came up to me and my sister.....this Tuesday... And today I realized that I DO know him..... He's the same guy who dropped out of my previous university that I attended...
    MissKnight MissKnight 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    I Dont Hate Men But I Am Afraid of Them.

    Not all men but there are those that are overbearing, dominant, rude, rough and controlling. Well you get the idea. You've met them too. Living in the world today the news is full of terrible rapes and assaults that invariably (though not always) women are the victims. Meeting...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I Don't Trust Them

    It's more that I don't trust them,after having been thru abusive b/f's,and I know it'll make it hard to trust "the one",should he ever come along.
    cryingoveryou cryingoveryou 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    Fear Of Men

    This has not always been true for me. In the past I preferred to hangout with males rather than other females because I could better relate to them. After my divorce I've become uneasy toward any men other than my father and brothers. Sometimes I'll even be afraid of my younger...
    ashka ashka 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    insomniastrikes insomniastrikes 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 1, 2015

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    This Is A Huge Generalization

    you should be afraid to bad people regardless of the gender,race, nationality, etc.. not men or women or muslims or arabs or americans or russians etc..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2013

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    I'm weird and funny. I've been to a club a few

    times and it was amazing. I danced on tabletops and bars, attracted many men who tried to flirt with me, buy me a drink, dance with me or kiss me. I refused almost every time (not if I was thirsty). I have no problem with physical attraction, the club was full of it and I loved...
    wodnyrak wodnyrak 18-21, F Dec 14, 2014

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    There is something that’s been bothering me

    for some time. I’ve had very few good experiences with men. I have a dad, who used to be very, very strict and as a child, I was very afraid of him. As I grew up, he fought more and more, I am as short-tempered as him and we could scream at each other ‘til our ears hurt. Now...
    Agnete Agnete 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2015

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    I Really Hate Being This Way...

    I know that not all men are cheaters, abusers, or child molesters/rapists. I know it in my heart. But no matter how many times I tell myself this... I can't get past several traumas in my life. My parents' bitter separation and eventual divorce.  Dad had cheated on Mom...
    Sixband Sixband 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    It's True

    I'm not proud of it but I do understand it. I don't know if I'll ever not have that fear, especially of men in groups of 3 or more. It gives me the willies & the times I ignored my flight instinct I got myself into trouble. I adore men, love men, think they are AWESOME most...
    Wynhaven Wynhaven 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    So my boyfriend broke up with me

    and the thought of being with another man freaks me out getting close to someone else seems unfathomable : ( I don't know what to do with myself I feel like im stepping into a bad dream and there's no way out.
    Kitten2514 Kitten2514 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    My boyfriend was abusive mentally

    and badly physically he broke my finger and caused numerous bruises and a bashed up face. No longer with him
    Bobby2134 Bobby2134 18-21 Dec 1, 2014

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    I don't know if this is normal

    but I'm kind of afraid of men. Not that I have a bad experience with them, but, still, they scare me. No man has treated me badly in my entire life. My mom and I are the only women in the family. I have two brothers and I'm pretty sure that they respect girls. And so does my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

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    I am only afraid of angry older men.

    My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother. He never touched me or my brother but I would always place myself in between him and my mother when they were fighting. It gave me a...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 6 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    Well, NOT exactly. I'm more afraid of kissing a

    guy, making out, etc. Hugging and hand holding is fine, but like kissing on my forehead cheek, hand, and anything above that ( as in like french kissing and stuff?) just makes me freak out. It's more of a phobia I guess. I have the worst commitment issues because of this fear...
    evie2001 evie2001 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 8, 2015

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    I Dont Really Know What I Am Scared Of

    its just my parents arnt abusive but they have been a time when my mom got mad and pushed me on the floor and hit me with the broom and my dad at me until i ran in my room and creid a couple times but thats not abuse right? any way i think it is posssible that i may be a sex...
    ithurtsge ithurtsge 13-15 Aug 31, 2012

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    When I was a kid I use to be afraid of

    characters in horror films, like Chucky, Freddy Krueger, etc. In high school the feeling of fear stayed with me, but instead of being scared of these fictional characters I started to fear all men. I'm 22 and I still check my closet and shower thinking a guy is going to be in...
    xoxobee xoxobee 22-25, F Jul 22, 2015

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    Yes, but really only men

    that are bigger or stronger than me (Or that look like they are).There's no doubt in my mind that this was caused because of my second stepfather. It's been this way since I was abused by him. I'm not ashamed of being afraid of men but I do hope that I can overcome it.
    boklenHolley7 boklenHolley7 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 8, 2015

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    Why Do I Hate Them?

    My dad failed to protect me between ages 7-9 when I was sexually abused by the neighbors. He was a druggy and died when I was 14. I was raped and beaten by a man on a daily basis for a year of my life after he died. I was looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. I don...
    LiquidGuilt LiquidGuilt 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    I'm not ashamed to say

    that I have this problem. Ever since I was raped, I've been afraid. I'm almost 16 now, and it still lingers. I was never afraid of being alone, or being in a city by myself. It's only when there is a man. It gets tricky. I know in the back of my mind that nothing will...
    Anonymousgirl152 Anonymousgirl152 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    ...am I? :s

    I guess I've been lucky in my life so far. I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've never really witnessed violence. In fact, I had a lovely childhood. Well, my parents were lovely! I have no siblings.I do suffer from social anxiety and depression, and it has become...
    smileylottie smileylottie 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2012

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    Not That I Know Why..

    I'm always so tense and nervous around men, yet completely relaxed and comfortable around women. Perhaps it's because my biological dad psychologically abused me through my childhood, but I don't know. I can't ever be really close to my step dad either, even if he's done nothing...
    Paxis Paxis 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Ok, so let me start by saying I do add men. Sorry. But I have to say, I refuse to add or communicate with men that don't show respect for women. For example, first thing this...
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    never called anyone out like this but i feel necessary to do so do not talk to disciplinarianM i left out of the room for five minutes and came back to being called a piece of...
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    I really want a mentor or someone to just teach me right from wrong when I need it. I have never had this in my life at all. I had very very laid back parents, basically if the...
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    Sadly, not very many approach me. They mostly stare or smile at me . The only ones who do talk to me are the ones who work at a bank or work as a cashier. But I can understand why...
    CaliTexan37 CaliTexan37 36-40, F 2 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    It's kind of an inevitability at this point, I'm getting older and it hasn't happened. I'm a self-fulfilling prophecy. I've had 2 short-lived relationships from when I was a...
    Iscarpia87 Iscarpia87 26-30, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    YES! They certainly are! Hahaha it's so awesome too! I wanted to post this because I speak my mind on ep in a lot of debates about men, animals women's rights and so on. I...
    Kornisone Kornisone 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm afraid, ok? I admit it, I'm afraid, Afraid of what you may ask? I don't know, Afraid of knowing, Afraid of having the chance to get hurt, That's why I never let people come...
    nivanvc nivanvc 36-40, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I had a dream last night that I got to tell my ex fiance that I still loved him and wanted to be with him but couldn't because I couldn't leave my boy friend. I was afraid to leave...
    oceansix oceansix 18-21, F a week ago

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