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I Am Afraid of Men

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    Fear And Loathing

    My father treated me like ****, my 4 older brothers treat me like ****(and always have), my boyfriend of 30YEARS I  found out has been cheating on me with everyone from office ***** to prostitutes since the first week we moved in together back in 1981. I kicked him out. The...
    Tigiboule Tigiboule 51-55 3 Responses May 14, 2012

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    I am an 18 year old male,

    and I am afraid of other men. Pathetic, I know right? It's just that I was abused by my biological father when I was a child, and after he was arrested when I was 7, my cousin raped me. I have a lot of friends who are girls, and I am rather outgoing as well, except when it comes...
    BarthyM BarthyM 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 24

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    I've always been scared of people,

    but I'm scared of males so much more. When I go to the Doctors, I want it to be Female, when I go for councling, I want it to be Female, and when I go for pretty much everything else, I want it to be Female. If it's a man, well...I can hide my fear, but it still doesn't stop it...
    pokedragonS8 pokedragonS8 13-15, F Apr 19

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    I am afraid of men. It's

    because my dad used to abuse me, I guess. I want a woman in her 20s to talk to. I feel safest around them. It's about depression.
    marisald marisald 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I'm not ashamed to say

    that I have this problem. Ever since I was raped, I've been afraid. I'm almost 16 now, and it still lingers. I was never afraid of being alone, or being in a city by myself. It's only when there is a man. It gets tricky. I know in the back of my mind that nothing will...
    Anonymousgirl152 Anonymousgirl152 13-15, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    When They're Angry...

    Every time a guy yells at me I cry. I don't know why but I really hate it when guys yell at me. It never fails. When my dad yells at me...I get scared and when me and my ex used to argue, he would become really angry and yell and I would just cry. I just don't like it when...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    It's True

    I'm not proud of it but I do understand it. I don't know if I'll ever not have that fear, especially of men in groups of 3 or more. It gives me the willies & the times I ignored my flight instinct I got myself into trouble. I adore men, love men, think they are AWESOME most...
    Wynhaven Wynhaven 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I Just Don't Know Why

    I don;t why but I'm just afraid of them. I mean I never went through  a traumatic experience. Im only 14 and I get nervous if I have a male teacher etc .Maybe its because of the storys my mom would tell me about my dad ( i never met) she would tell me he would hit her force her...
    hahannah14 hahannah14 13-15 1 Response Mar 31, 2011

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    My boyfriend was abusive mentally

    and badly physically he broke my finger and caused numerous bruises and a bashed up face. No longer with him
    Bobby2134 Bobby2134 18-21 Dec 1

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    Not That I Know Why..

    I'm always so tense and nervous around men, yet completely relaxed and comfortable around women. Perhaps it's because my biological dad psychologically abused me through my childhood, but I don't know. I can't ever be really close to my step dad either, even if he's done nothing...
    Paxis Paxis 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I don't know if this is normal

    but I'm kind of afraid of men. Not that I have a bad experience with them, but, still, they scare me. No man has treated me badly in my entire life. My mom and I are the only women in the family. I have two brothers and I'm pretty sure that they respect girls. And so does my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2

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    ...am I? :s

    I guess I've been lucky in my life so far. I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've never really witnessed violence. In fact, I had a lovely childhood. Well, my parents were lovely! I have no siblings.I do suffer from social anxiety and depression, and it has become...
    smileylottie smileylottie 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    Fear Of Men

    This has not always been true for me. In the past I preferred to hangout with males rather than other females because I could better relate to them. After my divorce I've become uneasy toward any men other than my father and brothers. Sometimes I'll even be afraid of my younger...
    ashka ashka 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    My father has always been judgemental,

    inattentive, and verbally & emotionally abusive (at one pt. lunging to hit me, but changed his mind). I have this innate distrust of males, until they 'prove' themselves to me..
    equestrianmad equestrianmad 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 1

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    I Really Hate Being This Way...

    I know that not all men are cheaters, abusers, or child molesters/rapists. I know it in my heart. But no matter how many times I tell myself this... I can't get past several traumas in my life. My parents' bitter separation and eventual divorce.  Dad had cheated on Mom...
    Sixband Sixband 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    This Is A Huge Generalization

    you should be afraid to bad people regardless of the gender,race, nationality, etc.. not men or women or muslims or arabs or americans or russians etc..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2013

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    An Old Fear Surfaces

    To know what I'm talking about read my previous story: EP Link OMG Today I met the same guy....that randomly came up to me and my sister.....this Tuesday... And today I realized that I DO know him..... He's the same guy who dropped out of my previous university that I attended...
    MissKnight MissKnight 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Too Many What Ifs...

    I am almost 22 years old and I have never been on a date. I have never even danced with a guy. I don't do anything with them. There are too many "What if"s. What if the one man I decide to go out with is a rapist? What if a man decides to torture me to death? What if I end up...
    midnightbeauty midnightbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I Dont Hate Men But I Am Afraid of Them.

    Not all men but there are those that are overbearing, dominant, rude, rough and controlling. Well you get the idea. You've met them too. Living in the world today the news is full of terrible rapes and assaults that invariably (though not always) women are the victims. Meeting...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I Don't Trust Them

    It's more that I don't trust them,after having been thru abusive b/f's,and I know it'll make it hard to trust "the one",should he ever come along.
    cryingoveryou cryingoveryou 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men.

    But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend and I were trying to escape from these people and it was just middle aged men trying to get me. It got me thinking, why am I so afraid...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    I'm weird and funny. I've been to a club a few

    times and it was amazing. I danced on tabletops and bars, attracted many men who tried to flirt with me, buy me a drink, dance with me or kiss me. I refused almost every time (not if I was thirsty). I have no problem with physical attraction, the club was full of it and I loved...
    wodnyrak wodnyrak 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14

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    Why Do I Hate Them?

    My dad failed to protect me between ages 7-9 when I was sexually abused by the neighbors. He was a druggy and died when I was 14. I was raped and beaten by a man on a daily basis for a year of my life after he died. I was looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. I don...
    LiquidGuilt LiquidGuilt 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    I Dont Really Know What I Am Scared Of

    its just my parents arnt abusive but they have been a time when my mom got mad and pushed me on the floor and hit me with the broom and my dad at me until i ran in my room and creid a couple times but thats not abuse right? any way i think it is posssible that i may be a sex...
    ithurtsge ithurtsge 13-15 Aug 31, 2012

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    I am only afraid of angry older men.

    My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother. He never touched me or my brother but I would always place myself in between him and my mother when they were fighting. It gave me a...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 1

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    I Think They Are Mostly, If Not All, Good, But...

    I am afraid of men for some innate reason; when I see women, they are like a pillar of light to guide me, but men seem like an immediate threat now. I have only been hanging out with girls as friends now and for some reason, when I saw my soft (and perhaps sensitive) friend K., I...
    TheFarmerAsACorpse TheFarmerAsACorpse 18-21 1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    Hi everyone. I never saw myself as the type to join any sort of online forum. Truth is, it makes me very uncomfortable to read my own words. I felt like I needed to join today...
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    I believe it. It sucks but I know it to be true. Main reason is I don't socials nor do I want to because people suck I'm not say just men i mean people in general they pretend to...
    Aries1884 Aries1884 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 8

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    I've had a problem with depression and weird impulse control/anxiety issues for as long as I can remember. Right now I am married to a man who can't (won't) work because of health...
    angiec777 angiec777 26-30, F Dec 11

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    im so scared... i recently self harmed again and my mom doesnt know.. if she finds out im sure shes gonna send me back to the mental hospital. when i was at peachford the staff was...
    mysticalgem mysticalgem 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    I dont understand why I'd be afraid... I was raised to be very open and happy with my sexuality. and I am, I find it can be intimidating to girls my age, but also a turn on for...
    Anicia47 Anicia47 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M Dec 12

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    i have a man who i have interests lately. we are online friends.just friends. i know i should not attracted to him.. 'Cos i have no chance to be his girlfriend. he never will be...
    juryandrews juryandrews 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    I hate men. A few times recently I have been in the changing area after swimming. It's mixed sex. Men come up to admire themselves in the mirror and they belch. It's macho male. I...
    blodyn blodyn 13-15, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I bottle everything up. I'm not very talkative. I'm not how I used to be. I don't tell secrets to many people. I don't like but I do like getting close to people. I like to read...
    ForeverANomad ForeverANomad 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
    prznaroosak prznaroosak 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I am afraid of relationships. I think I always have been. I can't remember a time when I was able to give myself to someone without second thought or with uninhibited trust. I'm...
    shanequea shanequea 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    So I've been an only child for my whole life, and I've been happy. Change is the only thing I have ever really feared. But. . .today my mother told told me she's pregnant, and...
    PadfootPandora PadfootPandora 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. LIVE your life...
    raquel80 raquel80 31-35, F 8 Responses Dec 10

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    not sure if I'm afraid anymore...I'm just used to it right now, I've been rejected by every girl I ever liked or cared about (possibly loved), people says "have confidence"...well...
    Muramasa Muramasa 18-21, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I live in St. Louis Missouri and we have the gate way arch which u can go up in. I went with my friends because they wanted to go and when we where up at the top I was fine as long...
    mwiltshire mwiltshire 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    ...but I am. I have not just fallen. It's more like the whole damn cliff just gave way beneath me. Emotional walls that no one else has come close to breaching have absolutely...
    EmeraldDreams12 EmeraldDreams12 18-21 1 Response 3 days ago

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    The mental Health Service is shocking. Beyond shocking. Today I received a letter saying I had been referred to some therapist.....3 months after my attempted suicide. You know...
    0815Jade 0815Jade 22-25, F 18 hrs ago

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    I am a very submissive person. I've always been in a relationship where the man is in full control. But now I'm with my soon to be husband and he is completely different from the...