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I Am Afraid of Men

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    Not That I Know Why..

    I'm always so tense and nervous around men, yet completely relaxed and comfortable around women. Perhaps it's because my biological dad psychologically abused me through my childhood, but I don't know. I can't ever be really close to my step dad either, even if he's done nothing...
    Paxis Paxis 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    An Old Fear Surfaces

    To know what I'm talking about read my previous story: EP Link OMG Today I met the same guy....that randomly came up to me and my sister.....this Tuesday... And today I realized that I DO know him..... He's the same guy who dropped out of my previous university that I attended...
    MissKnight MissKnight 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    I Really Hate Being This Way...

    I know that not all men are cheaters, abusers, or child molesters/rapists. I know it in my heart. But no matter how many times I tell myself this... I can't get past several traumas in my life. My parents' bitter separation and eventual divorce.  Dad had cheated on Mom...
    Sixband Sixband 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    Fear And Loathing

    My father treated me like ****, my 4 older brothers treat me like ****(and always have), my boyfriend of 30YEARS I  found out has been cheating on me with everyone from office ***** to prostitutes since the first week we moved in together back in 1981. I kicked him out. The...
    Tigiboule Tigiboule 51-55 3 Responses May 14, 2012

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    Too Many What Ifs...

    I am almost 22 years old and I have never been on a date. I have never even danced with a guy. I don't do anything with them. There are too many "What if"s. What if the one man I decide to go out with is a rapist? What if a man decides to torture me to death? What if I end up...
    midnightbeauty midnightbeauty 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I Dont Really Know What I Am Scared Of

    its just my parents arnt abusive but they have been a time when my mom got mad and pushed me on the floor and hit me with the broom and my dad at me until i ran in my room and creid a couple times but thats not abuse right? any way i think it is posssible that i may be a sex...
    ithurtsge ithurtsge 13-15 Aug 31, 2012

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    I've always been scared of people,

    but I'm scared of males so much more. When I go to the Doctors, I want it to be Female, when I go for councling, I want it to be Female, and when I go for pretty much everything else, I want it to be Female. If it's a man, well...I can hide my fear, but it still doesn't stop it...
    pokedragonS8 pokedragonS8 13-15, F Apr 19

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    I Dont Hate Men But I Am Afraid of Them.

    Not all men but there are those that are overbearing, dominant, rude, rough and controlling. Well you get the idea. You've met them too. Living in the world today the news is full of terrible rapes and assaults that invariably (though not always) women are the victims. Meeting...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I don't know if this is normal

    but I'm kind of afraid of men. Not that I have a bad experience with them, but, still, they scare me. No man has treated me badly in my entire life. My mom and I are the only women in the family. I have two brothers and I'm pretty sure that they respect girls. And so does my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2

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    I Just Don't Know Why

    I don;t why but I'm just afraid of them. I mean I never went through  a traumatic experience. Im only 14 and I get nervous if I have a male teacher etc .Maybe its because of the storys my mom would tell me about my dad ( i never met) she would tell me he would hit her force her...
    hahannah14 hahannah14 13-15 1 Response Mar 31, 2011

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men.

    But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend and I were trying to escape from these people and it was just middle aged men trying to get me. It got me thinking, why am I so afraid...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Why Do I Hate Them?

    My dad failed to protect me between ages 7-9 when I was sexually abused by the neighbors. He was a druggy and died when I was 14. I was raped and beaten by a man on a daily basis for a year of my life after he died. I was looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. I don...
    LiquidGuilt LiquidGuilt 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    I am an 18 year old male,

    and I am afraid of other men. Pathetic, I know right? It's just that I was abused by my biological father when I was a child, and after he was arrested when I was 7, my cousin raped me. I have a lot of friends who are girls, and I am rather outgoing as well, except when it comes...
    BarthyM BarthyM 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 24

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    I Don't Trust Them

    It's more that I don't trust them,after having been thru abusive b/f's,and I know it'll make it hard to trust "the one",should he ever come along.
    cryingoveryou cryingoveryou 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    When They're Angry...

    Every time a guy yells at me I cry. I don't know why but I really hate it when guys yell at me. It never fails. When my dad yells at me...I get scared and when me and my ex used to argue, he would become really angry and yell and I would just cry. I just don't like it when...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    It's True

    I'm not proud of it but I do understand it. I don't know if I'll ever not have that fear, especially of men in groups of 3 or more. It gives me the willies & the times I ignored my flight instinct I got myself into trouble. I adore men, love men, think they are AWESOME most...
    Wynhaven Wynhaven 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I am afraid of men. It's

    because my dad used to abuse me, I guess. I want a woman in her 20s to talk to. I feel safest around them. It's about depression.
    marisald marisald 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 30

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    This Is A Huge Generalization

    you should be afraid to bad people regardless of the gender,race, nationality, etc.. not men or women or muslims or arabs or americans or russians etc..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2013

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    I Think They Are Mostly, If Not All, Good, But...

    I am afraid of men for some innate reason; when I see women, they are like a pillar of light to guide me, but men seem like an immediate threat now. I have only been hanging out with girls as friends now and for some reason, when I saw my soft (and perhaps sensitive) friend K., I...
    FunnyLookingCorpse FunnyLookingCorpse 18-21 1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    Fear Of Men

    This has not always been true for me. In the past I preferred to hangout with males rather than other females because I could better relate to them. After my divorce I've become uneasy toward any men other than my father and brothers. Sometimes I'll even be afraid of my younger...
    ashka ashka 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    ...am I? :s

    I guess I've been lucky in my life so far. I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've never really witnessed violence. In fact, I had a lovely childhood. Well, my parents were lovely! I have no siblings.I do suffer from social anxiety and depression, and it has become...
    smileylottie smileylottie 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    Okay so I feels as if boys don't have to try as hard to ask girls out because it's considered the norm in our society, like with proposals and stuff it's normally the male. However...
    OzgeOnen OzgeOnen 13-15, F 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Here are the 25 Traits of an Alpha male: 1. An Alpha male is very comfortable with himself. He always radiates confidence. He does not fear anyone, he does not really care how...
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    I know we are all complicated beings and I'm no different. However I complicate my life further by not being honest about my sexual orientation. I can admit to close friends that I...
    licwineoffurbody licwineoffurbody 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    It's because I am mentally ill. There really isn't any other explanation besides that. I am mentally ill and no one wants to deal with it. Well, guess what? I DO. Yes, me. I DEAL...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    Yesterday, something happened to me that scared the crap out of me. For more than ten years, I have had Ménière's disease. I was shopping in Target when I was suddenly hit with...
    scottdavidsmith scottdavidsmith 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 22

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    Because of something bad happening to me. There was a time when I trusted everyone, but now I don't trust anyone. It might be, because I have been taken advantage of by women and...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    Seems to me that alot of men I am around want it all A wife , a mistress , a freak , a mommy , a nurse I can only be ten things at one time I'm afraid I will never find a man...
    applesnbananas applesnbananas 51-55, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    Yep. I'm afraid of rejection. I've been rejected once before and hated the feeling. Most men who've experienced being with someone can easily brush rejection off their shoulder but...
    OdeSlinger OdeSlinger 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 6

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    Luseeyah Luseeyah 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I literally am reading all these stories and my heart aches. I have been in two mental hospitals and been batteling depression for six years. I have cutt every place there is skin...
    Gonzales96 Gonzales96 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Rileyrr1962 Rileyrr1962 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 26

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    " my whole life I've been telling myself don't be afraid and it is only now that I am realizing how stupid that is. Don't be afraid is like saying don't move out of the way when...
    rachnixon rachnixon 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    I am not afraid to let go. I am not afraid to cut negative people out of my life. I am not afraid to love myself because you failed to do so. But I am afraid of never feeling the...
    brokenhearted7108 brokenhearted7108 31-35, F Aug 26

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    I am afraid of dieing without someone. I am afraid to be tortured. I am afraid of my only family member left dieing. I am afraid I will be stupid. Last but notleast I am afraid of...
    ginny1q1q ginny1q1q 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    Usually people who are afraid of falling in love are those who were left down by their boy/girlfriend. I'm this kind of persons who broke up in a relationship. I had 4 relationship...
    otoumie otoumie 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    All the "friends" I have are locked up in a mind set that was set before them by their parents, religion, television, and sex appeal. They wouldn't dare hit their parents if they...
    LeonardFinch LeonardFinch 16-17, M Aug 20

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    I am afraid of showing my true self to the world... I sincerely show my feeling to my friends but.. I am afraid of being me.. I don't hate me but I'm afraid other people would hate...
    hooncaramello hooncaramello 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    Once i get my hopes togheter it falls apart , i'm afraid to love people i'm afraid to get my hopes togheter again , i'm afraid that i will expect to much
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Sep 7

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    i am afraid of rejection thats why i put up with everything you say ... just so i wouldn't end up alone ... no matter how unfair and stupid your demands are i put up with them...
    curiousmoi curiousmoi 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Yeah, not anymore. I used to always want to keep from blocking people, but I honestly just do not give a crap anymore. I'm definitely not block happy, but I feel that if somebody...
    JadedDivinity JadedDivinity 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected, every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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