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I Am Afraid of Men

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    insomniastrikes insomniastrikes 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    My boyfriend was abusive mentally

    and badly physically he broke my finger and caused numerous bruises and a bashed up face. No longer with him
    Bobby2134 Bobby2134 18-21 Dec 1, 2014

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    I Really Hate Being This Way...

    I know that not all men are cheaters, abusers, or child molesters/rapists. I know it in my heart. But no matter how many times I tell myself this... I can't get past several traumas in my life. My parents' bitter separation and eventual divorce.  Dad had cheated on Mom...
    Sixband Sixband 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    Fear And Loathing

    My father treated me like ****, my 4 older brothers treat me like ****(and always have), my boyfriend of 30YEARS I  found out has been cheating on me with everyone from office ***** to prostitutes since the first week we moved in together back in 1981. I kicked him out. The...
    Tigiboule Tigiboule 51-55 1 Response May 14, 2012

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    I am only afraid of angry older men.

    My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother. He never touched me or my brother but I would always place myself in between him and my mother when they were fighting. It gave me a...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 6 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    It's True

    I'm not proud of it but I do understand it. I don't know if I'll ever not have that fear, especially of men in groups of 3 or more. It gives me the willies & the times I ignored my flight instinct I got myself into trouble. I adore men, love men, think they are AWESOME most...
    Wynhaven Wynhaven 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    When They're Angry...

    Every time a guy yells at me I cry. I don't know why but I really hate it when guys yell at me. It never fails. When my dad yells at me...I get scared and when me and my ex used to argue, he would become really angry and yell and I would just cry. I just don't like it when...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    I'm not ashamed to say

    that I have this problem. Ever since I was raped, I've been afraid. I'm almost 16 now, and it still lingers. I was never afraid of being alone, or being in a city by myself. It's only when there is a man. It gets tricky. I know in the back of my mind that nothing will...
    Anonymousgirl152 Anonymousgirl152 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    I Dont Really Know What I Am Scared Of

    its just my parents arnt abusive but they have been a time when my mom got mad and pushed me on the floor and hit me with the broom and my dad at me until i ran in my room and creid a couple times but thats not abuse right? any way i think it is posssible that i may be a sex...
    ithurtsge ithurtsge 13-15 Aug 31, 2012

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    I've always been scared of people,

    but I'm scared of males so much more. When I go to the Doctors, I want it to be Female, when I go for councling, I want it to be Female, and when I go for pretty much everything else, I want it to be Female. If it's a man, well...I can hide my fear, but it still doesn't stop it...
    pokedragonS8 pokedragonS8 13-15, F Apr 19, 2014

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    I Dont Hate Men But I Am Afraid of Them.

    Not all men but there are those that are overbearing, dominant, rude, rough and controlling. Well you get the idea. You've met them too. Living in the world today the news is full of terrible rapes and assaults that invariably (though not always) women are the victims. Meeting...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I Don't Trust Them

    It's more that I don't trust them,after having been thru abusive b/f's,and I know it'll make it hard to trust "the one",should he ever come along.
    cryingoveryou cryingoveryou 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I Just Don't Know Why

    I don;t why but I'm just afraid of them. I mean I never went through  a traumatic experience. Im only 14 and I get nervous if I have a male teacher etc .Maybe its because of the storys my mom would tell me about my dad ( i never met) she would tell me he would hit her force her...
    hahannah14 hahannah14 13-15 1 Response Mar 31, 2011

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    So my boyfriend broke up with me

    and the thought of being with another man freaks me out getting close to someone else seems unfathomable : ( I don't know what to do with myself I feel like im stepping into a bad dream and there's no way out.
    Kitten2514 Kitten2514 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    Fear Of Men

    This has not always been true for me. In the past I preferred to hangout with males rather than other females because I could better relate to them. After my divorce I've become uneasy toward any men other than my father and brothers. Sometimes I'll even be afraid of my younger...
    ashka ashka 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    ...am I? :s

    I guess I've been lucky in my life so far. I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've never really witnessed violence. In fact, I had a lovely childhood. Well, my parents were lovely! I have no siblings.I do suffer from social anxiety and depression, and it has become...
    smileylottie smileylottie 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 4, 2012

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    An Old Fear Surfaces

    To know what I'm talking about read my previous story: EP Link OMG Today I met the same guy....that randomly came up to me and my sister.....this Tuesday... And today I realized that I DO know him..... He's the same guy who dropped out of my previous university that I attended...
    MissKnight MissKnight 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    This Is A Huge Generalization

    you should be afraid to bad people regardless of the gender,race, nationality, etc.. not men or women or muslims or arabs or americans or russians etc..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2013

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    I am afraid of men. It's

    because my dad used to abuse me, I guess. I want a woman in her 20s to talk to. I feel safest around them. It's about depression.
    marisald marisald 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I am an 18 year old male,

    and I am afraid of other men. Pathetic, I know right? It's just that I was abused by my biological father when I was a child, and after he was arrested when I was 7, my cousin raped me. I have a lot of friends who are girls, and I am rather outgoing as well, except when it comes...
    BarthyM BarthyM 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 24, 2014

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    Why Do I Hate Them?

    My dad failed to protect me between ages 7-9 when I was sexually abused by the neighbors. He was a druggy and died when I was 14. I was raped and beaten by a man on a daily basis for a year of my life after he died. I was looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. I don...
    LiquidGuilt LiquidGuilt 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30, 2014

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    Not That I Know Why..

    I'm always so tense and nervous around men, yet completely relaxed and comfortable around women. Perhaps it's because my biological dad psychologically abused me through my childhood, but I don't know. I can't ever be really close to my step dad either, even if he's done nothing...
    Paxis Paxis 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I don't know if this is normal

    but I'm kind of afraid of men. Not that I have a bad experience with them, but, still, they scare me. No man has treated me badly in my entire life. My mom and I are the only women in the family. I have two brothers and I'm pretty sure that they respect girls. And so does my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men.

    But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend and I were trying to escape from these people and it was just middle aged men trying to get me. It got me thinking, why am I so afraid...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    Too Many What Ifs...

    I am almost 22 years old and I have never been on a date. I have never even danced with a guy. I don't do anything with them. There are too many "What if"s. What if the one man I decide to go out with is a rapist? What if a man decides to torture me to death? What if I end up...
    midnightbeauty midnightbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I'm weird and funny. I've been to a club a few

    times and it was amazing. I danced on tabletops and bars, attracted many men who tried to flirt with me, buy me a drink, dance with me or kiss me. I refused almost every time (not if I was thirsty). I have no problem with physical attraction, the club was full of it and I loved...
    wodnyrak wodnyrak 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    I finally realize that fear was what was holding me back from living my life. It's preventing me from doing everything I want to do. I think it would be advantageous for me to just...
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    I think I may have Menieres Disease by the symptoms I've had for over a year. Loss of hearing, ringing high pitch sound, slight dizziness when standing. And now after researching...
    LivingLifeOneDayAtATime LivingLifeOneDayAtATime 41-45, M May 14

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    I've been working mostly with men for three years now and I know that almost all of them are not loyal to their girlfriends and wives. You may know a guy good enough and may think...
    AllyBad AllyBad 22-25, F 4 hrs ago

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    Julieccaa Julieccaa 26-30, F 1 Response May 12

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    sarahccaa sarahccaa 26-30, F May 18

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    ...i'm afraid of that girl coming back again... i never try to be mean....this is painful...but something told me to go here... i don't know why... i wanted to give up on this...
    hopelesslyalone7654321 hopelesslyalone7654321 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    The kind of men who win my heart are those who inspire and make me want to be my best. I am also in awe of such men who allow the woman to shine, not afraid to be in her shadow at...
    iCuriousBabe iCuriousBabe 41-45, F 12 Responses May 15

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    I'm starting to come to terms with it since I'm kind of rotten. Not to mention being childish and unstable at times. So I'll wear a gas mask from now on. Ain't no body got time for...
    Nual Nual 22-25, F 1 Response May 12

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    Anxiety is like a little demon that sits on my shoulder and whispers discouraging or disturbing things into my ear. When I'm driving, it gets a megaphone and gets hopped up on...
    AnxiousBizzareandCynical AnxiousBizzareandCynical 13-15, M May 23

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    I've been in therapy and on meds since I was 9 years old. From 2009- 2012 my depression got very intense. I was admitted to a mental health facility, after leaving rehab. When I...
    M060110M M060110M 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It really urkes me when "white" men say to me they are afraid to speak to me or Black women, because most Black girls are rude, snotty, etc...thats very judgemental &¬ a good...
    Beckah010 Beckah010 22-25, F 5 Responses May 4

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    I'm filled with fears and paranoid thoughts ..I'm scared even to venture out anymore ...I just want to be locked in all the time .even when I call a taxi I feel scared of the taxi...
    restlessuk restlessuk 31-35, F 1 Response May 14

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    I'm afraid of life. I mean who isn't ? Life is so mysterious that it's impossible not to be afraid. The difference between winners and losers lies simply in the reason that creates...
    MeAndMySelf98 MeAndMySelf98 16-17, M 1 Response May 22

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    Well, it starts out in my teen years in high school... When I was a child I went through trauma. After the abuse, i ended up not being able to socialize with people without barking...
    RisaKazura RisaKazura 22-25, F 3 Responses May 3

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    She hit me in my face. Why do Indian Hindus hate me? What have I done? I know it is because of caste that I have to suffer like this. I'm hurting and I know life will end abruptly...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F May 3

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