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I Am Afraid of Men

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    Fear Of Men

    This has not always been true for me. In the past I preferred to hangout with males rather than other females because I could better relate to them. After my divorce I've become uneasy toward any men other than my father and brothers. Sometimes I'll even be afraid of my younger...
    ashka ashka 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    I am afraid of men. It's

    because my dad used to abuse me, I guess. I want a woman in her 20s to talk to. I feel safest around them. It's about depression.
    marisald marisald 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I Dont Really Know What I Am Scared Of

    its just my parents arnt abusive but they have been a time when my mom got mad and pushed me on the floor and hit me with the broom and my dad at me until i ran in my room and creid a couple times but thats not abuse right? any way i think it is posssible that i may be a sex...
    ithurtsge ithurtsge 13-15 Aug 31, 2012

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    I am an 18 year old male,

    and I am afraid of other men. Pathetic, I know right? It's just that I was abused by my biological father when I was a child, and after he was arrested when I was 7, my cousin raped me. I have a lot of friends who are girls, and I am rather outgoing as well, except when it comes...
    BarthyM BarthyM 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 24, 2014

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    Not That I Know Why..

    I'm always so tense and nervous around men, yet completely relaxed and comfortable around women. Perhaps it's because my biological dad psychologically abused me through my childhood, but I don't know. I can't ever be really close to my step dad either, even if he's done nothing...
    Paxis Paxis 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    I Really Hate Being This Way...

    I know that not all men are cheaters, abusers, or child molesters/rapists. I know it in my heart. But no matter how many times I tell myself this... I can't get past several traumas in my life. My parents' bitter separation and eventual divorce.  Dad had cheated on Mom...
    Sixband Sixband 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    I don't know if this is normal

    but I'm kind of afraid of men. Not that I have a bad experience with them, but, still, they scare me. No man has treated me badly in my entire life. My mom and I are the only women in the family. I have two brothers and I'm pretty sure that they respect girls. And so does my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

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    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30, 2014

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    I'm not ashamed to say

    that I have this problem. Ever since I was raped, I've been afraid. I'm almost 16 now, and it still lingers. I was never afraid of being alone, or being in a city by myself. It's only when there is a man. It gets tricky. I know in the back of my mind that nothing will...
    Anonymousgirl152 Anonymousgirl152 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Why Do I Hate Them?

    My dad failed to protect me between ages 7-9 when I was sexually abused by the neighbors. He was a druggy and died when I was 14. I was raped and beaten by a man on a daily basis for a year of my life after he died. I was looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. I don...
    LiquidGuilt LiquidGuilt 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    So my boyfriend broke up with me

    and the thought of being with another man freaks me out getting close to someone else seems unfathomable : ( I don't know what to do with myself I feel like im stepping into a bad dream and there's no way out.
    Kitten2514 Kitten2514 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men.

    But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend and I were trying to escape from these people and it was just middle aged men trying to get me. It got me thinking, why am I so afraid...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    I Just Don't Know Why

    I don;t why but I'm just afraid of them. I mean I never went through  a traumatic experience. Im only 14 and I get nervous if I have a male teacher etc .Maybe its because of the storys my mom would tell me about my dad ( i never met) she would tell me he would hit her force her...
    hahannah14 hahannah14 13-15 1 Response Mar 31, 2011

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    My boyfriend was abusive mentally

    and badly physically he broke my finger and caused numerous bruises and a bashed up face. No longer with him
    Bobby2134 Bobby2134 18-21 Dec 1, 2014

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    When They're Angry...

    Every time a guy yells at me I cry. I don't know why but I really hate it when guys yell at me. It never fails. When my dad yells at me...I get scared and when me and my ex used to argue, he would become really angry and yell and I would just cry. I just don't like it when...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    Fear And Loathing

    My father treated me like ****, my 4 older brothers treat me like ****(and always have), my boyfriend of 30YEARS I  found out has been cheating on me with everyone from office ***** to prostitutes since the first week we moved in together back in 1981. I kicked him out. The...
    Tigiboule Tigiboule 51-55 3 Responses May 14, 2012

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    I've always been scared of people,

    but I'm scared of males so much more. When I go to the Doctors, I want it to be Female, when I go for councling, I want it to be Female, and when I go for pretty much everything else, I want it to be Female. If it's a man, well...I can hide my fear, but it still doesn't stop it...
    pokedragonS8 pokedragonS8 13-15, F Apr 19, 2014

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    ...am I? :s

    I guess I've been lucky in my life so far. I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've never really witnessed violence. In fact, I had a lovely childhood. Well, my parents were lovely! I have no siblings.I do suffer from social anxiety and depression, and it has become...
    smileylottie smileylottie 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    My father has always been judgemental,

    inattentive, and verbally & emotionally abusive (at one pt. lunging to hit me, but changed his mind). I have this innate distrust of males, until they 'prove' themselves to me..
    equestrianmad equestrianmad 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I am only afraid of angry older men.

    My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother. He never touched me or my brother but I would always place myself in between him and my mother when they were fighting. It gave me a...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I Dont Hate Men But I Am Afraid of Them.

    Not all men but there are those that are overbearing, dominant, rude, rough and controlling. Well you get the idea. You've met them too. Living in the world today the news is full of terrible rapes and assaults that invariably (though not always) women are the victims. Meeting...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    This Is A Huge Generalization

    you should be afraid to bad people regardless of the gender,race, nationality, etc.. not men or women or muslims or arabs or americans or russians etc..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2013

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    I'm weird and funny. I've been to a club a few

    times and it was amazing. I danced on tabletops and bars, attracted many men who tried to flirt with me, buy me a drink, dance with me or kiss me. I refused almost every time (not if I was thirsty). I have no problem with physical attraction, the club was full of it and I loved...
    wodnyrak wodnyrak 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    An Old Fear Surfaces

    To know what I'm talking about read my previous story: EP Link OMG Today I met the same guy....that randomly came up to me and my sister.....this Tuesday... And today I realized that I DO know him..... He's the same guy who dropped out of my previous university that I attended...
    MissKnight MissKnight 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    It's True

    I'm not proud of it but I do understand it. I don't know if I'll ever not have that fear, especially of men in groups of 3 or more. It gives me the willies & the times I ignored my flight instinct I got myself into trouble. I adore men, love men, think they are AWESOME most...
    Wynhaven Wynhaven 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I Think They Are Mostly, If Not All, Good, But...

    I am afraid of men for some innate reason; when I see women, they are like a pillar of light to guide me, but men seem like an immediate threat now. I have only been hanging out with girls as friends now and for some reason, when I saw my soft (and perhaps sensitive) friend K., I...
    ResidentGoddessAstraea ResidentGoddessAstraea 18-21 1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    Too Many What Ifs...

    I am almost 22 years old and I have never been on a date. I have never even danced with a guy. I don't do anything with them. There are too many "What if"s. What if the one man I decide to go out with is a rapist? What if a man decides to torture me to death? What if I end up...
    midnightbeauty midnightbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I Don't Trust Them

    It's more that I don't trust them,after having been thru abusive b/f's,and I know it'll make it hard to trust "the one",should he ever come along.
    cryingoveryou cryingoveryou 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I have always thought older men were hot!!!
    anneloves anneloves 18-21, F 7 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    Nothing sexual. I'm just a teenager soon to be man and I just want someone to sit down with me and keep me on the right track mentally and with my school work. I currently have no...
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    Younger women dating older men mainly because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These...
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    I would react badly To the slightest hint of hesitance He’d bend awkwardly to suit my mood No word from his defense I’d cry knowing how my tears Felt like acid burning through...
    Ashthewolf7601 Ashthewolf7601 13-15, F Dec 26, 2014

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    Both my mom and my dad have been legally separated for more than twenty years. My mom I think has stayed single because she doesn't have a lot of luck with men and she also won't...
    j1494 j1494 18-21, F Jan 15

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    It's so hard for me to be writing this passage. This passage took up so much energy to write. This morning, I had gone downstairs. My fake Mother had gone into my room. She began...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    I had a bad experience of being intimidated by a tall man. In fact it has happened multiple times but I hate tall men who use their size to intimidate. I need to carry pepper spray...
    happycupcake happycupcake 22-25, F Dec 26, 2014

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    My philosophy always was enjoy the young ones while you can. However, the more time I spend with boys my own age, the more exhausted I become. I would really appreciate someone who...
    Mojopins Mojopins 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    We don't want to be patient anymore. We are becoming reluctant to exercise forgiveness. We hesitate to give second chances. It is no longer efficient or economical to FORGIVE If...
    DarkPathos DarkPathos 51-55, M 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just found out that I am pregnant. I shouldn't even be ABLE to have kids with my body issues, But whatever higher power is there deemed that I have a child. Right now. With that...
    LadyWildFlower LadyWildFlower 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am not afraid of dying, due to being suicidal in the past. I am not afraid of sadness because of depression. I am not afraid of being alone because I'm a loner. I'm not afraid to...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally 26-30, M 14 hrs ago

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    This may be a slight tangent to the norm, but I am afraid of rejection, just not what one might normally consider when they think of this topic. I am deathly afraid of being...
    anna0593 anna0593 18-21, F Dec 26, 2014

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    I find it really hard to trust people, especially men. I was bullied and ignored a lot at school and I had a hard time making and keeping friends - kids only bothered with me when...
    Chaosforthefly Chaosforthefly 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I'm sure many people feel this way, too many. However, I don't base this on an idea of self pity, or attention seeking. I never speak these feelings to other people, I never talk...
    TheZEEMan TheZEEMan 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I'm so afraid of people getting close to me. I mean I want it but I'm kind of afraid, because once I have that bonding with someone or even relationship and it's gone or they leave...
    t3rriv t3rriv 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I am afraid of many things in life. I am afraid of failure/success. I am afraid of being loved. I am getting better at learning to be loved. I am not sure what I am doing to make...
    socialskillstraining socialskillstraining 31-35, M Dec 30, 2014

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    I am afraid of the new year and what I'll have to face. I have some sense of what will happen and I know I'm not prepared. I am afraid that I'll push more people away. Most of all...
    nostalgickittens nostalgickittens 16-17, F Dec 31, 2014