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I Am Afraid of Men

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    My father has always been judgemental,

    inattentive, and verbally & emotionally abusive (at one pt. lunging to hit me, but changed his mind). I have this innate distrust of males, until they 'prove' themselves to me..
    equestrianmad equestrianmad 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I don't know why I'm afraid of men.

    But my best friend pointed it out today that I always have dreams where men are trying to get me. Just last night I had a dream that my friend and I were trying to escape from these people and it was just middle aged men trying to get me. It got me thinking, why am I so afraid...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 21, 2014

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    I Just Don't Know Why

    I don;t why but I'm just afraid of them. I mean I never went through  a traumatic experience. Im only 14 and I get nervous if I have a male teacher etc .Maybe its because of the storys my mom would tell me about my dad ( i never met) she would tell me he would hit her force her...
    hahannah14 hahannah14 13-15 1 Response Mar 31, 2011

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    I am only afraid of angry older men.

    My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother. He never touched me or my brother but I would always place myself in between him and my mother when they were fighting. It gave me a...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 5 Responses Dec 1, 2014

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    I am afraid of men. It's

    because my dad used to abuse me, I guess. I want a woman in her 20s to talk to. I feel safest around them. It's about depression.
    marisald marisald 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I'm weird and funny. I've been to a club a few

    times and it was amazing. I danced on tabletops and bars, attracted many men who tried to flirt with me, buy me a drink, dance with me or kiss me. I refused almost every time (not if I was thirsty). I have no problem with physical attraction, the club was full of it and I loved...
    wodnyrak wodnyrak 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2014

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    Too Many What Ifs...

    I am almost 22 years old and I have never been on a date. I have never even danced with a guy. I don't do anything with them. There are too many "What if"s. What if the one man I decide to go out with is a rapist? What if a man decides to torture me to death? What if I end up...
    midnightbeauty midnightbeauty 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    I'm not ashamed to say

    that I have this problem. Ever since I was raped, I've been afraid. I'm almost 16 now, and it still lingers. I was never afraid of being alone, or being in a city by myself. It's only when there is a man. It gets tricky. I know in the back of my mind that nothing will...
    Anonymousgirl152 Anonymousgirl152 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2014

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    Fear Of Men

    This has not always been true for me. In the past I preferred to hangout with males rather than other females because I could better relate to them. After my divorce I've become uneasy toward any men other than my father and brothers. Sometimes I'll even be afraid of my younger...
    ashka ashka 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    BrokenAndBetrayed612 BrokenAndBetrayed612 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 30, 2014

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    An Old Fear Surfaces

    To know what I'm talking about read my previous story: EP Link OMG Today I met the same guy....that randomly came up to me and my sister.....this Tuesday... And today I realized that I DO know him..... He's the same guy who dropped out of my previous university that I attended...
    MissKnight MissKnight 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    ...am I? :s

    I guess I've been lucky in my life so far. I've never been in an abusive relationship. I've never really witnessed violence. In fact, I had a lovely childhood. Well, my parents were lovely! I have no siblings.I do suffer from social anxiety and depression, and it has become...
    smileylottie smileylottie 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    Not That I Know Why..

    I'm always so tense and nervous around men, yet completely relaxed and comfortable around women. Perhaps it's because my biological dad psychologically abused me through my childhood, but I don't know. I can't ever be really close to my step dad either, even if he's done nothing...
    Paxis Paxis 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2013

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    Fear And Loathing

    My father treated me like ****, my 4 older brothers treat me like ****(and always have), my boyfriend of 30YEARS I  found out has been cheating on me with everyone from office ***** to prostitutes since the first week we moved in together back in 1981. I kicked him out. The...
    Tigiboule Tigiboule 51-55 3 Responses May 14, 2012

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    It's True

    I'm not proud of it but I do understand it. I don't know if I'll ever not have that fear, especially of men in groups of 3 or more. It gives me the willies & the times I ignored my flight instinct I got myself into trouble. I adore men, love men, think they are AWESOME most...
    Wynhaven Wynhaven 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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    I Really Hate Being This Way...

    I know that not all men are cheaters, abusers, or child molesters/rapists. I know it in my heart. But no matter how many times I tell myself this... I can't get past several traumas in my life. My parents' bitter separation and eventual divorce.  Dad had cheated on Mom...
    Sixband Sixband 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2010

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    I am an 18 year old male,

    and I am afraid of other men. Pathetic, I know right? It's just that I was abused by my biological father when I was a child, and after he was arrested when I was 7, my cousin raped me. I have a lot of friends who are girls, and I am rather outgoing as well, except when it comes...
    BarthyM BarthyM 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 24, 2014

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    This Is A Huge Generalization

    you should be afraid to bad people regardless of the gender,race, nationality, etc.. not men or women or muslims or arabs or americans or russians etc..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 26, 2013

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    I Dont Really Know What I Am Scared Of

    its just my parents arnt abusive but they have been a time when my mom got mad and pushed me on the floor and hit me with the broom and my dad at me until i ran in my room and creid a couple times but thats not abuse right? any way i think it is posssible that i may be a sex...
    ithurtsge ithurtsge 13-15 Aug 31, 2012

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    Why Do I Hate Them?

    My dad failed to protect me between ages 7-9 when I was sexually abused by the neighbors. He was a druggy and died when I was 14. I was raped and beaten by a man on a daily basis for a year of my life after he died. I was looking for a father figure in all the wrong places. I don...
    LiquidGuilt LiquidGuilt 18-21, F 1 Response May 11, 2012

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    I don't know if this is normal

    but I'm kind of afraid of men. Not that I have a bad experience with them, but, still, they scare me. No man has treated me badly in my entire life. My mom and I are the only women in the family. I have two brothers and I'm pretty sure that they respect girls. And so does my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 2, 2014

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    I've always been scared of people,

    but I'm scared of males so much more. When I go to the Doctors, I want it to be Female, when I go for councling, I want it to be Female, and when I go for pretty much everything else, I want it to be Female. If it's a man, well...I can hide my fear, but it still doesn't stop it...
    pokedragonS8 pokedragonS8 13-15, F Apr 19, 2014

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    So my boyfriend broke up with me

    and the thought of being with another man freaks me out getting close to someone else seems unfathomable : ( I don't know what to do with myself I feel like im stepping into a bad dream and there's no way out.
    Kitten2514 Kitten2514 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2014

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    When They're Angry...

    Every time a guy yells at me I cry. I don't know why but I really hate it when guys yell at me. It never fails. When my dad yells at me...I get scared and when me and my ex used to argue, he would become really angry and yell and I would just cry. I just don't like it when...
    Val3ntine Val3ntine 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 28, 2010

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    I Think They Are Mostly, If Not All, Good, But...

    I am afraid of men for some innate reason; when I see women, they are like a pillar of light to guide me, but men seem like an immediate threat now. I have only been hanging out with girls as friends now and for some reason, when I saw my soft (and perhaps sensitive) friend K., I...
    ResidentGoddessAstraea ResidentGoddessAstraea 18-21 1 Response Jan 27, 2013

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    I Don't Trust Them

    It's more that I don't trust them,after having been thru abusive b/f's,and I know it'll make it hard to trust "the one",should he ever come along.
    cryingoveryou cryingoveryou 41-45, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    My boyfriend was abusive mentally

    and badly physically he broke my finger and caused numerous bruises and a bashed up face. No longer with him
    Bobby2134 Bobby2134 18-21 Dec 1, 2014

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    I Dont Hate Men But I Am Afraid of Them.

    Not all men but there are those that are overbearing, dominant, rude, rough and controlling. Well you get the idea. You've met them too. Living in the world today the news is full of terrible rapes and assaults that invariably (though not always) women are the victims. Meeting...
    Josie06 Josie06 56-60, F 7 Responses Sep 25, 2009

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    I don't think anyone actually likes me I'm also afraid to take the next step im also afraid to have sex and so I get irrationally anxious bc I think that's all guys want so why...
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    Myths about the top 10 most common mental illnesses: 10. Antisocial Personality Disorder: Myth: Somebody who avoids social interaction is “antisocial”. Truth: Many people...
    LostandFading LostandFading 18-21, F 4 Responses 20 hrs ago

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    I have an honest fear. It's not melodramatic or self indulgent, but honest and really really real. It's something that hits you out of nowhere that I'll end up an old woman with a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Now what I am about to write may seem to be comic book-like, but I am truly afraid of scarecrows. When I was a kid, my mother use to cheat on my father with other men. One...
    Marik13 Marik13 13-15, M Feb 13

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    So many people say you just have to wait and the right girl will come along, but then other people say, if you want something you have to go and find it, it won't come and find you...
    alan19662015 alan19662015 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I haven't been afraid all of my life, because I can remember some bits of happiness in my childhood, but even as far back as elementary, I was afraid of failing, middle school...
    LoquaciouslyLucid LoquaciouslyLucid 16-17, M Feb 3

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    My farce for a Mother, (she isn't my real Mother), told me that she's got her lawyer involved in a serious matter between she and I. What I'd like her lawyer to know is that she is...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Feb 14

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    So,I am borderline cause I have had,intense love or intense abandonment or paranoia in relationships. So I am romantic and commitment phobic,no that is not supposed to make sense.I...
    aquabunny aquabunny 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 16

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of falling. I'm not afraid of the dark, I afraid of what's in it. I'm not afraid to love, I'm afraid of not being loved back.
    MysteriousGirl15 MysteriousGirl15 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    I have had such negative experiences dating men as a transexual woman I find it very hard to trust men, especially transexual admirers, they have been the most insincere people I...
    Lot1978 Lot1978 26-30, T 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Some guys have admitted it to me and I'm like but why? What is it about me? I'm a sweet, friendly, intelligent outgoing lady. Why do some guys freeze up? When I was single some...
    Outofeden Outofeden 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    i know this sounds kinda stupid for those older than me maybe even those younger than me but i really feel like a failure. got wait listed to my dream college and i feel like...
    youngandinexperienced youngandinexperienced 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    Obviously... As a submissive I look to a man who is a leader...not a follower. A man who doesn't hide behind others... A man who doesn't have others fight his battles for him...
    submissivelittlewoman submissivelittlewoman 41-45, F 5 Responses Feb 8