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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 21-25, F Sep 14, 2007

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F Aug 1, 2009

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    I hate being single around the holidays ugh
    adeechloe adeechloe 13-15, F Nov 27

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    I moved to Texas 12 years ago, and rarely have I spent the holidays alone. I have traveled to see family or been with friends but I still feel alone or like I am crashing someone...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M Dec 7

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    I am definitely sick of being single. It sucks to feel this alone.i want that something special with a woman. I miss the feeling of being wanted, appreciated and loved.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 10

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    I know I've posted this before but I'll post it again anyways cuz I need to vent. So lately I've been thinking, which is almost never good in my case, and I've come to one...
    brimc7 brimc7 16-17, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I'm very much afraid of guys/men and I want to overcome this fear and avoidance. I can never remember not having this anxiety. From even before being enrolled in my first year of...
    2openmind 2openmind 18-21, F Nov 23

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    I want everyone go is wanting to commit suicide to read this Why do you want to through your life away we were given only one life to live haven't we already had enough blood shed...
    natsufairy12 natsufairy12 13-15, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    i not only like but i also give much respect to real people who are themselves and are not masked by anything who are not afraid of who they are or of their weakness. in short i...
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M Dec 12

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    I'm sorry for the lengthy post... I just watched Geography Club and it got me regretting how long it took me to come out, and then explore as to why that was.... One of the things...
    jbar291 jbar291 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 12

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    I hate how I been treated all my life by girls and women. I always been nothing to women. I was always not important to them. They always liked other guys. They always went around...
    Niko864 Niko864 41-45, M 8 hrs ago

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    I have a flu :( I wanted this weekend to be great but now I'm sick e.e
    HappyWife16 HappyWife16 18-21, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    I've always wanted to feel loved but I am never able to open up to people around me. When I'm alone, I would create a world in my head where I befriended all those people I...
    hesitations hesitations 16-17, M Dec 5

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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
    prznaroosak prznaroosak 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 6

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    I thought I wrote this here before, but I guess I was mistaken. It’s probably buried somewhere on my hard drive. Either way, it's on my mind and I'm going to write about it again...
    GiantKaiju GiantKaiju 22-25, M Dec 8

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    I am only afraid of angry older men. My mom's ex-boyfriend was verbally abusive and would hit things around him as he yelled. He only got physically abusive once with my mother...
    snowolf13 snowolf13 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 1

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    One day i was at school in the school changing room all i have around me was a towel i was desperate to go to the toilet i left the changing room my towel got stuck in the door i...
    judycasanova judycasanova 46-50, M 11 hrs ago

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    You may mess up, but you are not a mess up. You may make a mistake, but you are not a mistake. You may screw up, but you are not a screw up. You may fail, but you...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    Last night I was bored so while everyone was asleep I got 100% naked and walked around my house. It was a rush to creep past others doors while they slept. And I even went as far...
    UnoGuy UnoGuy 13-15, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I never wanted to be married or have children. Before I had my son I prayed to God crying asking me to send someone for me to love and for them to love me back. I was thinking...
    InfiniteLightBeing InfiniteLightBeing 26-30, F Nov 24

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    I'm afraid of the truth so live my life in the dark. I don't find answers to questions. I just dwell on them and think of the what ifs. I'm afraid that if I find out what's real...
    bhabhablacksheep bhabhablacksheep 22-25, F Nov 23

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    Afraid I'm afraid to write the words that i feel because of the grip that they have on my soul. Afraid to know that what and who I love is the wrong thing. Afraid of losing my...
    taurusboi23 taurusboi23 22-25, M Nov 23

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    Failure is hard. I am so afraid that i will fail because of some of the people of my family and my real mom that put me down and was so hash to me and her mom as well. However I...
    jessconn81 jessconn81 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 1

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    I bottle everything up. I'm not very talkative. I'm not how I used to be. I don't tell secrets to many people. I don't like but I do like getting close to people. I like to read...
    ForeverANomad ForeverANomad 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    Everyone fears, everyone has fears, anxieties which fuel so many of their actions, Irrational or not. They exist within all of us. They’re a significant part of our lives, and so...
    BrokenWingedDove BrokenWingedDove 16-17 1 Response Dec 4

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    my rejection fear is not about love. firstly i accept it as a part of life. not everything is going to work out. secondly i have only been rejected once so maybe that's why i'm...
    iridescenteyes iridescenteyes 26-30, F Dec 11

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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    So, today I had brunch with my friends and they began discussing my brother. He is often a topic that I dread because I know that most people who lay eyes on him will never cease...
    ckj39 ckj39 18-21, M Nov 22

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    Isn’t it supposed to be the people that love you and say how much they care for you support you? I know I’m pretty damn stupid as everyone keeps telling me but I’m smart...
    LoveLessOne97 LoveLessOne97 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22

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    I don’t like giving up on people i don’t like believing that some people will never learn to get along i refuse to give up. Hate me love me i don’t really care, or at least i...
    Autumnflowers Autumnflowers 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    So I've been an only child for my whole life, and I've been happy. Change is the only thing I have ever really feared. But. . .today my mother told told me she's pregnant, and...
    PadfootPandora PadfootPandora 16-17, F 18 hrs ago

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    Sometimes I hate being single. I get lonely, and I get envious of my friends' relationships, but I wouldn't say I'm afraid of being single. Honestly, as sad as I've been told it...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 20