I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick
    31-35, F
    19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42
    46-50
    1 Response Mar 3, 2011

    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy
    13-15
    Mar 30, 2010

    Never Important To A Significant Other

    I admit I've only had a handful of serious relationships with men, but of the ones I've had, I can honestly say I've never experienced the feeling to knowing, beyond doubt, that I'm important to my partner. I've never met a man (or anyone for that matter) who I felt was...
    Jan 23, 2013

    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 19, 2008

    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 2, 2008

    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2009

    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew
    16-17
    Mar 21, 2012

    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip
    22-25, F
    Sep 14, 2007

    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame
    16-17
    Jun 28, 2011

    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo
    31-35, M
    4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong
    51-55
    2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe
    46-50, F
    Aug 1, 2009

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