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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 229 People

    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F Aug 1, 2009

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 21-25, F Sep 14, 2007

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    I mean I know I won't be, or at least it's highly unlikely. I'm only 19, I have plenty of time left. But every time I start liking someone, I give up before anything starts. I'm...
    StrangelyWrinkledMammal StrangelyWrinkledMammal 18-21, F 17 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    Outside the snow is falling Quietly, not a sound There is starlight and moonlight... Magic all around. What a perfect time to tell you How wonderful you are I have become...
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    I am bringing nudity into my growing family. My husband and I have always been so keen on leading our children to a life where they don't have to be ashamed by their bodies. My son...
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    m moving out when I turn 18, and I'm absolutely terrified. I'm... feeling really small right now, so I guess that's why I'm writing this. My story is long, but relevant. I was...
    theydunnomyname theydunnomyname 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    Or rather that am never going to meet a cool, attractive, skinny girl. Ideally she'd be into something positive, something artistic and be into it passionately and not afraid of...
    Photons Photons 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 16

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    I’m afraid to remain single forever… I am NGSB (no boyfriend since birth) which means I haven’t had any boyfriend in my entire life. I always fall in love with the wrong...
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    HeySafaaJust HeySafaaJust 13-15, F 1 day ago

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    Hey! :) So yes as u probably had already seen im gay, well actualy im the only one who knows so i think it doesnt count... :p I fell deeply depressed some times because of this...
    Bral05 Bral05 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 5

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    I just found out that I am pregnant. I shouldn't even be ABLE to have kids with my body issues, But whatever higher power is there deemed that I have a child. Right now. With that...
    LadyWildFlower LadyWildFlower 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    xCrowSong xCrowSong 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I find it really hard to express how I feel but I really want to give it a shot since I'm really struggling here. There's a guy that I have a crush on and its been lasting for...
    keilyn18 keilyn18 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 3

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    I am not afraid of dying, due to being suicidal in the past. I am not afraid of sadness because of depression. I am not afraid of being alone because I'm a loner. I'm not afraid to...
    tormentedinternally tormentedinternally 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    Like deathly afraid . I'm really afraid that one day I'm gonna wake up and noone be around .
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Reading through this website helped me so much with my recent situation, that I felt the need to contribute somehow and hope it helps others in return. A little background about...
    guywithnoname guywithnoname 26-30, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    This fwb **** has got to go! We're not even friends, really, it's just a booty call that lasted a lot longer than it should have. But I am afraid to be alone. I'm not sure which is...
    Lynessence Lynessence 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I'm afraid to grow up. I'm scared everything will fall. I'm terrified that I'll end up poor and become a failure. I'm afraid I'll be in debt my whole life. I barely even know what...
    HannahMarieX HannahMarieX 18-21 Jan 10

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    I am horribly, pathetically, afraid of this little being inside of me. Ever since I was young I loved being alone, everybody knew it and they didn't mind. Nowadays, it's like a...
    00Wieme00 00Wieme00 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    After many years amassing countless hours rummaging through a variety of WebMD articles online, and any ruling out a multitude of various rare medical conditions based on a...
    bluemountains36 bluemountains36 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Around 2 years ago, I started going into the woods and off the paths, making sure I was in a deep, dense part so I wouldn't be seen. There, I'd pull down my trousers and relieve...
    NotAllThattt NotAllThattt 18-21, M 7 Responses Jan 8

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    Triggers? Maybe? Just be careful. I don't... even know where to begin. I wasn't abused. Nothing in my life has ever gone really, truly wrong. My mother was a young, single mother...
    dpenny96 dpenny96 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    I dislike and push people away when they are cheaters, are "the other woman" or " the other man" people who support abortion, people who drink to get drunk, people who smoke...
    andialand andialand 18-21, F Jan 2

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    Couldnt find a suitable headline for this, so this will do i think. My problem is that i am a bit shy, not because im afraid of people, but im afraid of people rejecting me...
    mannenspeci mannenspeci 22-25, M Jan 5

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    So there's this girl that I am acquainted with from a class in high school last year. We only talked a couple times and she was one of the more popular girls in my class. She seems...
    Andre195 Andre195 18-21, M 7 Responses Jan 9

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    Sometimes, a life mainly around boys can lead to a frame of mind that's only interested in just what's practical or even quick to shove on approach when it comes to dressing. Kinda...
    Joanne0chan Joanne0chan 31-35 1 Response Jan 14

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    Well, I'm glad I found this site..... It's comforting to know that all around the nation I'm not the only one, even tho I feel like it, who has issues with being a step mother...
    alcvs alcvs 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Everyone leaves eventually, nothing last forever. I tend to push away people that could actually end up being really good friends for me because I get scared. I don't like being...
    moshinocherryxx moshinocherryxx 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 21

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    Some people may be terrified that death can be around the corner.. But the thing is, I am not. I've never been afraid.. I think about death quite a lot and I know it's not normal...
    K33024W K33024W 13-15 1 Response a week ago

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    Yep, done scared away another one. Not sure why I even keep trying and believing that someone would want to give me a try. I feel like an unlovable monster, a freak of nature just...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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