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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F Aug 1, 2009

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 21-25, F Sep 14, 2007

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    And keep them company.. It is often two fold.. The ideal is... if somebody likes to be shown around, and I then also get a boost from it. It makes me happy to share some part...
    mirkwood86 mirkwood86 26-30, M 6 days ago

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    I mean there's no need to be afraid of being loyal. No need to be afraid of sharing the parts of you that honestly not everyone deserves with just one person
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    I have an honest fear. It's not melodramatic or self indulgent, but honest and really really real. It's something that hits you out of nowhere that I'll end up an old woman with a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    Yes I am terrified, but not of you, or who you are, I am terrified of not knowing you, of not knowing more of who you are. Afraid of not hearing, and feeling your heartbeat once...
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    ABACDEE ABACDEE 18-21, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    JanaElisabeth JanaElisabeth 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    soulfreedom soulfreedom 16-17, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I’m afraid to remain single forever… I am NGSB (no boyfriend since birth) which means I haven’t had any boyfriend in my entire life. I always fall in love with the wrong...
    diane1996 diane1996 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 28

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    awais87 awais87 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 31

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    i know this sounds kinda stupid for those older than me maybe even those younger than me but i really feel like a failure. got wait listed to my dream college and i feel like...
    youngandinexperienced youngandinexperienced 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    It's hard to express emotions and not carried away in the emotions. It's hard to talk to people when you are talking about something that might hurt the other person, and then in...
    redfreckledface redfreckledface 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    ThatOneSomaliGirl ThatOneSomaliGirl 13-15, F Jan 29

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    I had a really hot supply teacher and I always wanted to have sex with him. He was only like 5 years older than me.
    xboredbitchxx xboredbitchxx 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    I haven't been afraid all of my life, because I can remember some bits of happiness in my childhood, but even as far back as elementary, I was afraid of failing, middle school...
    LoquaciouslyLucid LoquaciouslyLucid 16-17, M Feb 3

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    Sure, we were only together for fifteen months. Granted, we were on and off for a majority of those fifteen months. And yes, we cheated on each other during those fifteen months...
    amberchanelxo amberchanelxo 18-21, F Feb 2

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    im 37 and he is 46. we've been dating for over a year now and he cheated on me with my best friend 8 months into our relationship. it's been 6 months since he cheated and I am...
    lifecanberough lifecanberough 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    After 38 Years Finally Tickled One Of My Favorite Girls...:-). Part 1 In high school many years ago we had a fairly large group of people where we all hung out together. One of...
    laf4me laf4me 56-60, M 1 day ago

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    This fwb **** has got to go! We're not even friends, really, it's just a booty call that lasted a lot longer than it should have. But I am afraid to be alone. I'm not sure which is...
    Lynessence Lynessence 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of falling. I'm not afraid of the dark, I afraid of what's in it. I'm not afraid to love, I'm afraid of not being loved back.
    MysteriousGirl15 MysteriousGirl15 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 19

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    My farce for a Mother, (she isn't my real Mother), told me that she's got her lawyer involved in a serious matter between she and I. What I'd like her lawyer to know is that she is...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Feb 14

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    When you enter a relationship, you do so with the mutual understanding that this is trust involved. If you are anything like me, this person becomes your entire life, your best...
    SecretAngel6 SecretAngel6 26-30, F 9 Responses Feb 19

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    So this morning when the alarm went off, I reached under the bed and grab my tablet, I all was put my tablet under my bed, so it won't get broke or anything, but i check the...
    jennymomof3 jennymomof3 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Triggers? Maybe? Just be careful. I don't... even know where to begin. I wasn't abused. Nothing in my life has ever gone really, truly wrong. My mother was a young, single mother...
    dpenny96 dpenny96 18-21, F Jan 31

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    Eeergh. I'm almost finished with my four years. I'm going to get a BFA in illustration from a small-ish art school. Professors and students say I will be fine, based on the...
    ArtRhinoceros ArtRhinoceros 18-21, F Feb 15

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    I've been in love twice.. and both ended up with a broken heart of mine.. it seems both of them never really loved me as I was the one who was trying hard to make it work and when...
    LoulouB80 LoulouB80 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 20

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    Yep, done scared away another one. Not sure why I even keep trying and believing that someone would want to give me a try. I feel like an unlovable monster, a freak of nature just...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 29

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    I mean I know I won't be, or at least it's highly unlikely. I'm only 19, I have plenty of time left. But every time I start liking someone, I give up before anything starts. I'm...
    StrangelyWrinkledMammal StrangelyWrinkledMammal 18-21, F 27 Responses Jan 31

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    It feels like I have this wall around me. Anyone even tries and they get deflected. It's especially bad when its s3xual (seriously EP quit with the stupid censoring). Anyway, when...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Jan 31

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