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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F Aug 1, 2009

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 18-21, F Sep 14, 2007

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    The one thing that will help me relax and forget the problems of everyday life,is being naked.I prefer to be naked in the sunshine.But being naked around the house is nice as well...
    Nakedoften Nakedoften 51-55, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I love being naked around females it freeing and relaxing to me ....I have a fantasy of just chilling with 1-3 females all of us naked....nuthin sexual ....just naked talking...
    markab67 markab67 46-50, M 2 Responses Mar 10

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    I havent had a steady boyfriend since some guy tried to hook up, and i just wanted to take it slow and you know be a couple, but he wanted more
    Eunice17 Eunice17 16-17, F 53 mins ago

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    My small group of friends and I from the next town over, as kids we made up a lot of our own outdoor adventures. One time when they visited my brother and I at our dads in the...
    TheEnduringSunrise TheEnduringSunrise 18-21, F Mar 7

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    I had a rough childhood, like many Im sure. I don't like to exclude people and what they might have been through. Pain is pain. Abuse is abuse. It just comes indifferent forms is...
    TEMPERANCE12 TEMPERANCE12 31-35, F Mar 9

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    Sometimes I look at my sister and I can't believe how different we are. When everyone says we are very similar I can't help to agree and disagree. She's so comfortable with herself...
    Amairany Amairany 16-17, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was always the one that eats the slowest and my mom never had the patience for me. We were supposed to be going to the beach. Because I ate too slow, I was left behind. The rest...
    YesIAmAsian YesIAmAsian 18-21 Mar 23

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    I have been a TI for about 3 1/2-4 years, and that's only how long that I actually know of. I've read multiple stories/comments, etc. I have had pretty much ALL the same things...
    quaesita1979 quaesita1979 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 23

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    My marriage has failed but my husband is doing a great job at pretending it hasn't failed and is ignoring all the warning signs hoping that they will go away... They won't but I am...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    I've been with my boyfriend for a few months, however he's been my best friend for over a year. We've always been very close, and I thought we were completely open with each other...
    wednesdayy wednesdayy 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I left him 3 months ago and I'm honestly afraid of the effect he had on me. I feel like he was emotionally manipulative, and being with him lead me down a really bad path. I would...
    knightruby knightruby 18-21, F Mar 5

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    I am currently in the throes of rejection. The thing is, he didn't have the decency to end it properly. He just ignored, kept it open-ended until I got the hint. Im not crazy, and...
    lullPalooza lullPalooza 22-25, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    Dear all, I turned 28 and supposedly this means I am too young to be taken serious by people who are older than me, too old to not have figured out what I am going to do with my...
    HoopoeLost HoopoeLost 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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    I had a short term relationship with God the Father. Although I've been raised in church most of my life. I cried out to God for forgiveness one day while laying on the couch. I...
    dbrewer31 dbrewer31 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am terrified of death of dying of loved ones dying. I become so anxious and scared and depressed. I have nightmares. I can't sleep. I'm afraid to go to sleep. Recently I was told...
    JKenagy JKenagy 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am insecure about a lot of things and one of them is being sexual. I know it has something to do with my insecurity about my body. However, a lot of people around me; friends and...
    LionPrincess03 LionPrincess03 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    we are all capable of being the person we want to be. we just need to stop being afraid. I know it's hard, I struggle with that myself but I think all we need to do is summon the...
    alias29 alias29 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    I want to feel missed. I want efforts being made to try and keep me around. Not because you'll benefit from it, but because you can't imagine life without me around.
    Philli8807 Philli8807 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 17

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    I sometimes feel so afraid of what to come. Anything, when I drove to gym in the heavy rain, I talked to myself, that was the only way, it's a silly fear no one else could...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F 2 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Matchmaking I don't like being set up by the wrong people because Means I will be set up with the wrong girl. Get it. I really don't feel good about people doing matchmaking when...
    awsome2 awsome2 18-21, T Mar 3

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    My dad just yelled an f-bomb, stormed down the hall and slammed his door... Now he's yelling at my mom, I want to go upstairs to bed... But I don't want to be anywhere near that...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy 16-17, F Mar 12

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    These last couple of days have been the worst of my life, I found a lump in my underarm, I was worried but enough to go to the doc, but not that much. Cancer goes in my family, but...
    lily449 lily449 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    Ever since I was a little girl I wanted to be on the voice and be on team Christina but I have strange fright so even today at a older age I still have that freight and my mom...
    Lillyanna123456789 Lillyanna123456789 13-15, F Mar 18

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    I'm just afraid I will never find someone who truly loves me. I am afraid I will never find someone who doesn't just care about sex and looks. I want someone who I can have deep...
    holdonpainends143 holdonpainends143 18-21, F Mar 19

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    I am not afraid to go out and meet new people, on the contrary i am rather confident but because i have been rejected as a child all my life by my family i have that fear that the...
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    No matter how close I get to anybody I always have my guard up. I only let people get as close to me as I want them because everyone leaves me at some point. Nobody's really been...
    Playlist98 Playlist98 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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