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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    Never Important To A Significant Other

    I admit I've only had a handful of serious relationships with men, but of the ones I've had, I can honestly say I've never experienced the feeling to knowing, beyond doubt, that I'm important to my partner. I've never met a man (or anyone for that matter) who I felt was...
    Jan 23, 2013

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 1, 2009

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 21-25, F Sep 14, 2007

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to...
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    When I was in my 20s I was extremely afraid of settling down and getting married. I remember sweating at friends wedding ceremonies. I kept picturing myself taking the vows and I...
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    I don't like being single. And I would love to meet a girl who loves to sing, who listens to almost all kinds of music, and who doesn't care about looks. And also someone who lives...
    JohnF1997 JohnF1997 16-17, M 3 hrs ago

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    Enjoy Being Around People Who Inspire and Motivate
    michigan11 michigan11 22-25, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I'm not asking for much. I mean, I don't ask for a boyfriend who'd buy me chocolates or bring me flowers everyday. (But it would be a bonus tho) all I wanted is someone who would...
    ThePorcelainDoll ThePorcelainDoll 18-21, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Does this experience sound pathetic? Never mind, you can say yes. Come on, no one likes being rejected. This happened to me like so many times. The truth is, I’m afraid to fall...
    HikoukiGumo HikoukiGumo 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I'm not afraid anymore. I have just accepted it and now I'm moving on and focusing on my fishing. Caught that Saturday.
    superabe11 superabe11 16-17, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I love being full nude. It's amazing! For anyone that hasn't tried it yet you definitely should! Just walk around your house naked ir something!
    MrYoungNudist MrYoungNudist 13-15, M 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Ever since I meet up with a psychic 3 months ago I knew I need to pray for everyone in my life. I pray for my family, my boyfriend and everyone else that are close to me. I know...
    roses289 roses289 22-25, F Jul 8

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    Everything around me is falling apart...we all live in fear...When you live In a war zone everything else looks insignificant ...I live in iraq...I have watched so many people die...
    ffdp84 ffdp84 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    One of our most overlooked superpowers in life is the unbelievable power of our beliefs. A quick note: This is not for the faint of heart. It is going to go deeper than possibly...
    NeoJesusOfTheMatrix NeoJesusOfTheMatrix 70+ 4 Responses Jul 16

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    The other day I had to get completely changed in a group changing room. There were a few other guys there. Being naked in front of people is no big deal to me (I'm a nudist and...
    19andNaked 19andNaked 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 2

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    I am afraid of being rejected like I'm afraid of being open about my fetish. It's a terrifying experience when I think I'm gonna be rejected to the point that I won't do certain...
    ILF777 ILF777 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just never ever been afraid from dying as it is life as no one stay alive forever, right!. I just saw a lot of funerals in my life and lost a lot in my 35 years as my life been...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I'm not completely unhappy with my life. In fact, I'm actually pretty happy with it overall with the exception of my education and career. When the economy collapsed, my education...
    PunkinH2O PunkinH2O 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 12

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    I am a man who thinks men ganging up and harassing women is a big problem ,,,it is one that caused me a nightmare ,,, my wife,,, Ex now,,, would go to a certain Winn Dixie...
    rckt148 rckt148 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 14

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    Since I was a little kid there were some dreams had that I knew couldn't come true. That I couldn't learn how to fly, that no matter how much I learned that I would never be smart...
    NegroLeo NegroLeo 18-21 5 days ago

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    i have self wrapped my self and been unable to get free!. this what happened .i have an fetih for paper parcels.i decided to parcel myself.firstly i taped several sheets of fancy...
    baggiebound baggiebound 61-65 12 hrs ago

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    i have self wrapped my self and been unable to get free!. this what happened .i have an fetih for paper parcels.i decided to parcel myself.firstly i taped several sheets of fancy...
    baggiebound baggiebound 61-65 12 hrs ago

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    I am pushing to keep posting. I want to be brave about all this and honest. This one is harder for me to say. I am not were I wanted to be at all, I am 21 and already married...
    CrashingComet CrashingComet 22-25 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am afraid that my ailing Father maybe dying. I received a shocking phone call from my brother almost 2 months ago. He told me how my Dad was doing since I live so far away from...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Jul 17

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    It started when I was younger and all of my friends were just discovering relationships.. I always told them how pointless it was. I would say, "I'm fine alone. I'm going to wait...
    amberooo amberooo 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I'm scared of my emotions, and I don't know what to do. I try to fight them, to lock them away, or eliminate them, but no matter what I do, no matter how logical I try to be, I can...
    Nix0 Nix0 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    For various reasons: I'm afraid of child birth, I'm afraid of raising them wrong and not being able to care for them properly, and when I'm being honest with myself, sometimes I'm...
    NoYourComstock NoYourComstock 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    I have an intense fear of rejection. I've reached the point where I don't even try to make new friends because I'm afraid if they don't like me then they'll judge me or make fun of...
    CJHall1234 CJHall1234 16-17, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Half of me despises being alone, because eventually the loneliness goes away and Im left with this apathetic view towards life that makes it hard to give a damn about anything...
    seabassep seabassep 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    I was abused from birth by family members and then by my husband, from whom I finally escaped. I have had a few other very traumatic things happen in my life as well. Because I...
    JaneG8 JaneG8 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Ever since I can remember (which was when I was able to walk according to my parents), I've always loved to be naked. So much so, that one of my sisters (who has since passed away...
    BLACKTIGER75 BLACKTIGER75 36-40, M 3 Responses 4 days ago