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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 228 People

    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F Aug 1, 2009

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    Never Important To A Significant Other

    I admit I've only had a handful of serious relationships with men, but of the ones I've had, I can honestly say I've never experienced the feeling to knowing, beyond doubt, that I'm important to my partner. I've never met a man (or anyone for that matter) who I felt was...
    Jan 23, 2013

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 18-21, F Sep 14, 2007

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    i love my friends but sometimes i hate them and everyone who treats me with disrespect similar to the way that they do. Because of who i am and how i act and that i am way too nice...
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    I suppose that being loving kind sweet thoughtful and all the other sweet things that I've been called by family are not good enough to gain even a friend. Maybe I should go threw...
    UnwantedHuman UnwantedHuman 18-21, M 3 Responses May 12

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    Rejection is a key factor to why serial killers did what they did. Well, most. Rejection can drive people crazy. The feeling of not being wanted by anyone genuinely hurts. And it's...
    derangeddelinquent derangeddelinquent 13-15, F 4 Responses May 6

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    I have been going through an emotional roller coaster every since I was a teen. I use to think that there was no place for me here on earth because I didn't fit in with my peers...
    NikUnique NikUnique 26-30, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    About a year ago , I got really drunk after receiving some bad news , I then got it into my head to sleep with a man I did not know without using protection During our encounter...
    babina8 babina8 31-35, F 1 Response May 6

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    am an insecure guy who thinks that his every move is been spied upon by people who watch from the sky. i know am getting crazy but that's why i am afraid to let people in. 😡
    Cubeball Cubeball 18-21, M 8 hrs ago

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    I want to be extremely fat so much. I had a giant custom fat suit made that makes me look huge and fat. When I moved to Southern California a few months ago I started wearing it...
    MAKVA MAKVA 61-65, M 55 mins ago

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    My 10 yr high school reunion is coming up next year and I have done nothing with my life.I'm a 26 yr old college dropout who lives at home with my parents.I have a minimum wage...
    sandyb123 sandyb123 26-30, F 14 Responses May 13

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    I finally realize that fear was what was holding me back from living my life. It's preventing me from doing everything I want to do. I think it would be advantageous for me to just...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F May 23

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    You want to know the truth? I am terrified of what the future holds for me. I won't keep that a secret, I am terrified. Terrified that one day I will grow old wondering where did...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 16

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    I have been reading people's posts every now and then today, and even written what I wanted to comment, but couldn't make myself click the post button. I made excuses like this was...
    LFSomething LFSomething 22-25, M 1 Response May 3

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    It felt like everything negative in my life was starting to get a grasp around my throat; my friends, my family, and my ex-girlfriend. Didn't start that way. The year was 2012 and...
    Orchards Orchards 22-25, M May 12

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    Everyone feels hurt and loss. I think I came back to EP to vent a little. I like to help others too, but this weekend just killed me. I had met a guy online who said he was...
    SunnyGrlA SunnyGrlA 36-40, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    I love one of my friends so much it hurts, but I have no idea if they're straight or not. Also, she's moving in a couple of weeks, so I was thinking of taking a shot and confessing...
    46Ricechan 46Ricechan 13-15, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm afraid of life. I mean who isn't ? Life is so mysterious that it's impossible not to be afraid. The difference between winners and losers lies simply in the reason that creates...
    MeAndMySelf98 MeAndMySelf98 16-17, M 1 Response May 22

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    If my past self from just a couple years ago met me now, she wouldn't recognize me. I'm agnostic, (although I know the supernatural exists), and I don't feel constant shame about...
    Mythriel Mythriel 22-25, F a week ago

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    I'm tired of being ignored, some days it doesn't bother me I just go off and enjoy what I like to do but then there's days where having adult interaction would be really great. I'm...
    Squirmy85 Squirmy85 26-30 May 6

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    I most likely will be. I'm not desperate to find someone... but it'd be nice to have someone to develop love for and hold closely in my arms. I'm very surprised by how I can't...
    ChellyRocker ChellyRocker 22-25, F 7 Responses May 11

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    and so I push people away.. I have lots of things I want to say, at the same time, I don't know what to say.. I am not good with poeple and so I NEVER had any friends, like 0...
    FallingWind FallingWind 18-21, F 1 Response May 12

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    My childhood was quite awesome to be honest despite spending more than a few years in foster homes and having some dark moments. It was great. I was the coolest kid I knew in some...
    Orchards Orchards 22-25, M May 12

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    today i went to the mall braless as usual. i went in to a shoes store with my bewbs bouncing, nips poking and a young lady told another one something about the fact that i was...
    evasweet evasweet 22-25, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    Gotta share this. I love my brothers dearly, but we argue a lot to. I wish someday I'll be stronger enough to contradict them. I was staying after school for a track meet. My...
    Ginger1313 Ginger1313 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    As a young woman growing up, I always liked guys that were my skin color even though I would've loved to be with a White guy, I just didn't pay much attention to them because I...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    ...i'm afraid of that girl coming back again... i never try to be mean....this is painful...but something told me to go here... i don't know why... i wanted to give up on this...
    hopelesslyalone7654321 hopelesslyalone7654321 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    Why should you be afraid? That darkness is a part of you. You should just accept it. To be afraid of it is the same as being afraid of one of your own limbs. we all have darkness...
    alienatedvirus alienatedvirus 18-21, M May 8

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    At the end of last summer, my mother told me that she was going to move out for a while because she wasn't getting along good with my father. She went to a different house that was...
    midnight11579 midnight11579 13-15, F 6 Responses May 8

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