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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 18-21, F Sep 14, 2007

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F Aug 1, 2009

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    Never Important To A Significant Other

    I admit I've only had a handful of serious relationships with men, but of the ones I've had, I can honestly say I've never experienced the feeling to knowing, beyond doubt, that I'm important to my partner. I've never met a man (or anyone for that matter) who I felt was...
    Jan 23, 2013

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    It is an irrational fear of mine, just like how I am afraid to swallow pills even for medical reasons. The fear of rejection is a big part of it. Being told I'm not good enough...
    Kriptess Kriptess 18-21, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    You'd think I'd be used to people looking at me crazy by now; but I'm not, may never be. They take one look at you and what you hold important in your life and walk away, no...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy 16-17, F 2 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    My "friends" from school made me self-conscious, by telling me that I don't have style, that I'm ugly, when I walk threw hallways, some of my enemies say I'm blind, cuz I wear...
    Dramhunter Dramhunter 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Before I start talking about this girl I think it is important to give a little background on myself. In high school I was a pretty good athlete and you could say I was somewhat...
    Santibruh Santibruh 18-21, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    About five years ago I lived downtown in a major city in the US. I’ve always been a night person, so I would often find myself bored after my roommate, who was decidedly not a...
    InvinsibleViper InvinsibleViper 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I had an naked experience when I was about 19 At that time I was 6ft and very muscular solid around 115 kg no fat. I was at my fiancé at the time parents place and was drinking...
    m1ckm m1ckm 41-45, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I love being naked it's so comfortable and relaxing but I can only being naked around one certain person cause otherwise it'll just be weird for me ;)
    xxSatansDemonxx xxSatansDemonxx 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    It's 2:44 in the middle of the night and I just woke up from a nightmare about E.t .. I am 15, very mature for my age and am covered from head to toe in a slight sweat from my...
    Anonymous44321 Anonymous44321 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    I'm with a guy who I do love, though I'm not sure I love him the way I should after 3 years. We never have sex, he shows me next to no affection and I resent him for it. I've tried...
    BeautifulBorderlineJunkie BeautifulBorderlineJunkie 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I've always wanted to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, so while in elementary through high school I saw so many pretty girls with there boyfriends/girlfriends & I just always felt bad...
    the90sversionofme the90sversionofme 16-17, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    as the title says im going to talk little bit about how it is to be unsocial person. now first i need to mention that it is not about anti-social that is different thing very...
    joule400 joule400 18-21, T 4 days ago

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    When I was a kid I use to be afraid of characters in horror films, like Chucky, Freddy Krueger, etc. In high school the feeling of fear stayed with me, but instead of being scared...
    xoxobee xoxobee 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    Think about it just a bit more. What if you could actually do this and control it, you could be as big as you want, with as many as you want and as long as you want. You would...
    BlueDelta BlueDelta 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My mom was abusive and always trying to kill herself. Dad was a workaholic to avoid being around her. For as long as I can remember he has blamed my lack of friends on her. It's...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Not many things scare me, but I'm honestly terrified of dying unloved. Terrified of never being someone's late night thoughts, of no one looking at me like I'm their whole world. I...
    Madison18 Madison18 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 19

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    Why Am I Sill Single? It is a question I am getting as I now enter middle age. I just think that I am one of the most selfish people I have ever met. There is no one telling me I...
    DARRIN001 DARRIN001 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    Its really awkward when you're trying to have a great time with your friend and she brings her boyfriend along and all they do is stare into each other's eyes, mutter sickly sweet...
    InsaneWeirdo InsaneWeirdo 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    People hide behind their lies, afraid to be themselves and afraid to die. Wondering why they feel so alone... No such thing as a harmless fib. The truth will set you free.
    MorningStars MorningStars 26-30, M 2 Responses Jul 19

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    Story One: My aunt brought me back a doll from Russia. It was a porcelain doll that looked exactly like me. And according to my aunt, it was not custom made. She had just found it...
    LyraAlluse LyraAlluse 26-30, F Jul 19

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    I just love how it feels ☺ And despite my emotional shyness around most people, i feel completely at ease being nude around practically anyone. It simply doesn't bother me...
    voodoo1970 voodoo1970 41-45, M 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I am not afraid that I have lost my salvation, I know that I have and yes I am afraid because of that. I gave my life to the Lord in 2008 I had a major encounter with God, I had...
    Coloursearching Coloursearching 22-25 5 Responses Jul 18

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    I was always had a hard time making friends when I was young..maybe it was my race chinese/caucasion..or more so my personality..I don't know. All I know is that I only could get...
    XxSxarletxX XxSxarletxX 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I am Afraid of Rejection. That is a viscous cycle. If you have trust issues, you never allow yourself,to get to the point of rejection. If you never let someone in, they will not...
    Susiedisney Susiedisney 56-60, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    There's Nothing Wrong about What i said.. All i wanted is to become friends again. So Why I feel that I am stupid. I hate being Rejected. That is Worthless. I really Felt bad :(
    minncech minncech 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I'm already close to it though, most people I know have moved on, my family won't be around forever. But, maybe that's just how it's meant to be...
    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M Jul 17

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    I am scared and nervous around dogs I'm not familiar with. My neighbours dogs were really viscous, if the soccer ball went into their yard it stayed there for a long time. The...
    avey10 avey10 18-21, F Jul 16

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    When I was little I was told 'look after your brother.' Its a job I did as best I could. I was only 4/5 but I remember standing at the school gates saying "mum says get this from...
    moyesp moyesp 51-55 1 Response Jul 16

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