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I Am Afraid of Not Being Wanted Around

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    Never Important To A Significant Other

    I admit I've only had a handful of serious relationships with men, but of the ones I've had, I can honestly say I've never experienced the feeling to knowing, beyond doubt, that I'm important to my partner. I've never met a man (or anyone for that matter) who I felt was...
    Jan 23, 2013

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    It's An Irrational Fear

    rational meaning needs to have some reason for causing fear. What is so scary about not being wanted around? Nothing really is scary, but its lonely. It's a fear that causes you to doubt if being you is really worth not having many friends, not being invited out with others or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 2, 2008

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    How Do U Feel Wanted??

    hi im 19 and since i remember i can never remember a time when i have felt wanted or even needed for any thing.. as a child my dad wasnt around much due to having to work so we could eat but my mum was always very strict and never let us out of her sight. however that didnt stop...
    pleasehelpme101 pleasehelpme101 18-21 1 Response Nov 22, 2011

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    Too Strong

     I seem to be too much to deal with. I come off too strong for some people. It seems that the 'closest' people in my life have a limit. I suppose i get on their nerves. The thing that  bothers me is that i get on their nerves when im happy, or talking. I guess i am...
    Tacit Tacit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2008

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    Not Close to My Family....

    My sister and i aren't close with my fathers side of the family at all! It all started when we were younger and my dad was suppose to have this daughter,and his whole family started to claim the girl but me and my sister didn't, she older than us ...so **** had been going on...
    tip tip 21-25, F Sep 14, 2007

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    Memaw

    I am afraid of not being wanted and/or liked.  I've always had trouble with this even as a child.  I remember standing on the playground at school, standing alone, not able to join in with the other kids.  I still have trouble joining in and I'm almost 50 years old.  I...
    bbold42 bbold42 46-50 1 Response Mar 3, 2011

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    I Don't Even Know....

    I feel like a burden and a waste of space most of the time. Almost all of the people that I say "I love you" too leaves and disappears. My dad, my older brother, my grandpa (no he didn't die he just left and never came back), tons of old friends, some of my moms ex boyfriends...
    IfTheyReallyKnew IfTheyReallyKnew 16-17 Mar 21, 2012

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    Is This Rational? 'tfun

    I know that it started when my mother told me that she didn't want me when she got pregnant with me.. she said she tried to abort me.. that I was a big mistake.  I used to make jokes about it, Rodney Dangerfield style..I can be very funny.  But, it really isn't that...
    Earthsong Earthsong 51-55 2 Responses Oct 22, 2008

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    I Always Had a Problem With This.

    From a very early age i had this problem, and I think it was self-fulfilling to start with and then just became true.. then later, when I finally met some people who did want me around I still found it very hard to keep thinking that, I would slip into the thinking that really...
    TheLuckyHobo TheLuckyHobo 31-35, M 4 Responses Mar 30, 2009

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    A Catalyst For My Shyness?

    the fear that others don't want me around has definitely played a big part in my lack of a social life from my hesitancy to try to form lasting friendships (or attempt to invite myself along to ANYTHING - even if i really want to go) through to being afraid to...
    shygirl14 shygirl14 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2009

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    Not Just Afraid..terrified

    I'm just not afraid, I'm terrified. It's everyone. I'm different and everyone tells me that I'm weird and unusual. I don't have friends. I have people I talk to but even with them, I feel like I'm not wanted there. I don't see why..I comment on stuff and laugh at the funny things...
    nopainorgame nopainorgame 16-17 Jun 28, 2011

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    Everyone Hates Me

    No one wants me around sad or happy, laughing or crying  Debating or helping- no one wants to be near me  I am always the 3rd wheel the 5th wheel  The one called on when no one better is around, the one avoided  Included out of pity at best necessity...
    tulick tulick 31-35, F 19 Responses Jun 20, 2008

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    And Yet...

    I'm used to be unwelcome, unloved, and unwanted.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M Dec 11, 2011

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    Best Friend?

    So i have this best friend. Her name is Danni. Me and her always had been together. We been their for each other when the going got tough and so on. And recently, the past month or so, I haven't really talked to her or hung out with her. It just seems like i am not wanted around...
    ModelFoSho87 ModelFoSho87 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 7, 2007

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    Maybe It's Because I Am A Weird, Careless, Future Drug Addict. Or Not... :)

    I experience this feeling whenever in a social setting. Most likely it starts because when I am hanging out with someone, I feel like I am usually invited out of pity, because I 'have no friends' and 'need a social life' (these are their favorite excuses for kidnapping me). So I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 31, 2010

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    Needy

    I'm scared of not being needed. Whenever I get in the middle of an arguement, and people tell me to shut up and go away, I feel like crying, and then after that I do my very best for the person to like me again. Whenever they're in the room, I change myself to whoever I think...
    317livvy 317livvy 13-15 Mar 30, 2010

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    Words to Live By

    Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference. —Mark Twain
    1Babe 1Babe 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 1, 2009

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    Its not an actual fear, because I know that I am loved by Whom it matters most; however, I do not expect it anymore and cannot see it truly happening. I can imagine, perhaps...
    OhNoMoJoe OhNoMoJoe 51-55, M 9 hrs ago

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    I'm headed to an eating disorder inpatient treatment center next week. From a halfway house that I've been in for 7 weeks. Previously I was in a rehab for 3 months. Before that I...
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    Because of something bad happening to me. There was a time when I trusted everyone, but now I don't trust anyone. It might be, because I have been taken advantage of by women and...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I have a date on Saturday. The guy's cute and nice and whatever I guess, but I am so afraid. He's pretty muscular because of basic training and I don't know why but when guys are...
    sarcasm4427 sarcasm4427 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 3

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    I know we are all complicated beings and I'm no different. However I complicate my life further by not being honest about my sexual orientation. I can admit to close friends that I...
    licwineoffurbody licwineoffurbody 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    Have you had this moment whereby you actually wanted to talk to that person because she is so attractive and feels like you falling in loveon her again and again, but you cant...
    raiden26 raiden26 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 6

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    So I am turning 23 next month and still nothing has changed in my life. I mean I know I need to do something about it blah blah blah but I don't know how . I am always sitting...
    ScorpioPhoenix ScorpioPhoenix 22-25, F 7 Responses Sep 10

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    I am 38 weeks +3 days now. This whole pregnancy pretty much has beena nightmare come true. I never wanted another child. I sure as hell do not want to experience labor again but...
    dollhex dollhex 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 30

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    I'm 30 different people in a day. I'm a different person to everyone I meet. I know how to control everyone I encounter, how to make them like me, how to be what they need. I don...
    calledMiles calledMiles 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    Usually people who are afraid of falling in love are those who were left down by their boy/girlfriend. I'm this kind of persons who broke up in a relationship. I had 4 relationship...
    otoumie otoumie 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I am 15. I have passions involving music, running, and writing. However, I am not very good at any of these things. People have constantly told me that my best work is equivalent...
    jaxrossi jaxrossi 16-17, M 4 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I am scared I will die, without knowing the love of a woman. I feel like I have so much love to give. But know one to share it with. I would probably either smother a girl if...
    ericramone ericramone 31-35, M 2 Responses Aug 21

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    Afraid my entire life that I never went forward; so much that I always ran away even when I was approached. Finally, two months ago, I decided to do something about it. I was sick...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 25

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    I heard about EP and I thought it might help me, because nothing else has. I'm currently 16 years old living in Matthews, North Carolina. I've always been the kind of kid that put...
    Justjonathan Justjonathan 16-17, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Can you blame me? Father walked out on us when I was 3, I was molested by a relative at 8, bullied from elementary school up until HS. String of intensely close friendships where...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F Aug 28

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    Growing up, many strange things used to happen around me. I'm not sure when I began to notice this.. thing that was following me around. At first it was sounds, shadows, and...
    SubmissiveSecrets SubmissiveSecrets 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am not afraid to let go. I am not afraid to cut negative people out of my life. I am not afraid to love myself because you failed to do so. But I am afraid of never feeling the...
    brokenhearted7108 brokenhearted7108 31-35, F Aug 26

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    Before I start, please know I try to do all I can to be a great mom to my SD. I am involved with her school/ activities, homework, I take her places, make her meals, buy her...
    MargeSimpson31 MargeSimpson31 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I am Very afraid of being rejected. You would think as often as I have been rejected though that it would be an easy thing to get over now. It is not. When I want to be with...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Me and my x used to do bets and the loser would end up gunged in clothes the winner choose. One of the bets I had lost and she chose me to wear a pink g-string, one piece swimsuit...
    sod1989 sod1989 22-25, M 21 hrs ago

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    I'm nude in the woods right now. It's 1:30am, and I'm walking around the village bare naked. Tell me what you think...
    stjohannes stjohannes 26-30, M 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    For as long as I can remember all I wanted in life was to be a wife and mother. Growing up in a broken home, this was a really big deal for me. That being said I got married at a...
    MahinaGlow MahinaGlow 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 24

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    Hey! This is one of the things I dislike the most but specially when it comes in terms of feelings. Saying "I love You, i like You, You are the one i wanna be with" and then You...
    clauyellowled clauyellowled 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    It's not that I have a phobia of rejection. It's just I've been rejected so much in my life that if I ever see someone reject me I just want to fall on my knees and cry until I run...
    SoraMayOctavian SoraMayOctavian 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    I am afraid of showing my true self to the world... I sincerely show my feeling to my friends but.. I am afraid of being me.. I don't hate me but I'm afraid other people would hate...
    hooncaramello hooncaramello 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I'm afraid of being me, i'm always afraid of getting rejected , i'm afraid that no one will like me, i'm afraid they will judge me and hate me i'm scared to go somewhere because of...
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    Some years ago I took part in a workshop called Actualization - focusing on supporting people to be more "actual" - or, actually who they are - no more no less. This doesnt mean...
    ToniaMV ToniaMV 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 30

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    My family, for the last few years, has treated me poorly. Sometimes as a child, I would get treated badly, I was obnoxious and loud, then again, what kid isn't at the age of 10? It...
    worromjw worromjw 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    my family are nice people don't get me wrong. I love them and they do love me. I just don't feel like I can be myself around them. Granted to an extent, I think people will have...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F Aug 22