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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    So I Run And Hide...

    And my deepest secret is that sometimes I feel so needy...I have loving family, dear friends and the occasional lover. But I'm damaged, so inside the part of me I dare not examine it will probably never be quite enough.If I find myself reaching out too often to someone and they...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    It happened to me in elementary school

    and middle school. My issues started in elementary so I got rejected a lot cause of certain things so I was a loner basically. My problems followed me in middle school because most people from elementary transferred to the same middle school I went to, so obviously rumors spread...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    I am afraid of rejection.

    I have been ever since this guy that I liked back and lied to me rejected for a few dislikes about my personality.
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    , ı m convicted rejection.

    ı know.ı guess ım sicked of that always knowing what will be happen at next step:)
    idunnowhttodo idunnowhttodo 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I like a lot of guys.

    But one time I was really guaranteed that this guy would say yes if I asked. I asked, he said no of course. What was I thinking!!!! Cried a lot, we used to be "good" friends, if we were friends, wouldnt he have turned me doen nicely? He laughed in my face! I see him every sunday...
    asianlame asianlame 13-15, F 4 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So scared of rejection.

    I've always thought I wasn't good enough.. Still do think it. I'm so afraid to talk to guys I like or even admit to them I like them because I'm scared of the word/s "no" or "sorry it's not mutual".
    WeWereNeverAlive WeWereNeverAlive 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 10

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    Isn't Everyone

    Rejection is part of life, its character building or so I'm told..... but you see, I'm scared of rejection, I'm human, its normal, I recognise that..... i also know that I have an awful habit pushing others away BEFORE I am rejected....I am getting better not doing this, but it...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    It all started when I was 9 yrs old.

    Moving to a different country and not knowing the language wasn't easy especially in school where some classmates where not very welcoming :( Later on the stupidest thing I did l (not onece but twice!) Was to ask a kid from school to be my bf (8th Grade) but he rejected me...
    desperatelyshywomen desperatelyshywomen 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    I have some male friends

    and honestly I can't be comfortable with them. I feel like they don't like me at all because of my looks and afraid to be paired up with me for fun. I have plenty of female friends and gay friends, but only few male friends, sadly I don't have anyone even a single close male...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I am afraid of rejection.

    Of not being loved or wanted. Of disapproval and hatred. It stops me from being me. It takes over my life. I'm scared of people and their rejection. It makes me paranoid. I just want to be accepted just like everyone else. I want to be accepted for me.
    Mysterybabe101 Mysterybabe101 13-15, F 8 Responses Nov 30, 2013

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    oh yes big time. speaking about guys,

    everytime i like someone my midset is always, "oh he wont like me back" or "if i tell him i like him hell say no" because im just afraid of rejection!
    PeaceAndLove1 PeaceAndLove1 18-21, F 11 Responses Jun 11

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    I've been rejected before & it sucks.

    It's like, I wasn't good enough for that person. But sometimes I like to think, that person wasn't good enough for me.
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    I'm afraid of rejection- I am a reject

    What holds me back from interacting with others ina way that opens me up completely? That makes me vulnerable? Rejection. That even if I do try to get to know others and allow them to get to know me, that they would reject me. Its happened before. I would try to "connect" with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    That's why, that's why.

    .. I don't want myself to care too much for people because it causes pain. I talked with a person today. I thought he's gonna be my friend but just found out he blocked me. Worse is he doesn't say anything as to why. I'm left wondering what has been wrong.
    AlfieMark AlfieMark 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 26

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    It bothers me when someone tells me I didn't do

    well on anything. It could be a test, a meal, folding laundry, etc... I am a perfectionist, so if it's not perfect I will be perfecting it until it is! This irritates my mom to the fullest because she has wasted sooooo much money on countless hobbies because i couldn't perfect...
    Vickypearl Vickypearl 13-15, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I HATE MISSING SOMEONE,

    knowing they DONT GIVE A ****!!
    saaya04 saaya04 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 11

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    Really I am afraid of rejection ,

    I never have the courage to tell someone I like him because I was afraid the answer . It's the idea that is stuck on my head that I am not good enough , But everybody tell me the opposite . I don't know anymore I just let thinks happen ;p
    eleniseime eleniseime 16-17, F 11 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Isabella295 Isabella295 13-15, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 5 Responses 34 mins ago

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    I am afraid of being rejected like I'm afraid

    of being open about my fetish. It's a terrifying experience when I think I'm gonna be rejected to the point that I won't do certain things. I don't dress a certain way, because I feel like I wont be accepted. There have been so many girls I thought were so pretty that I never...
    ILF777 ILF777 18-21, M 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I Am Going To Be Rejected

    I already know I will face total rejection from my sisters, I already have. It is about personality disorders and money hunger. When my father passes, they will take everything. They already have it planned along with the world they have created to base their false claims. I...
    flyingstone flyingstone 61-65, F 5 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I am scared to be myself around a lot of people

    because I am into a lot of stuff others are not. It sucks....
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    Ever since Vincent and Xander .

    .. I don't know about 5th grade anymore
    bela5562 bela5562 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I have trouble meeting new people

    because of it. I fall very easily for someone and once I have the courage to ask them out I back out because I do not want to be rejected. I have never had a boyfriend because of it. I wanna be in love but am too scared. :/
    KelsiPowPowTayler KelsiPowPowTayler 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    i think the rejection is one my biggest fears

    since ever. I always lived in a small town, and I still havent found any interesting guy. I actually thought that there werent anybody for me in this world, cause im very weird. Guess what, this year i went to university and I FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!! (ok, maybe its not, but...
    monicafixe monicafixe 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I would like to go out

    and find a guy and build a meaningful relationship. I'm just tired of being lonely and not having the affection and the closure and such that comes with a relationship. Since I got out of a long relationship I have been single (almost a year now). It used to be so easy for me...
    ems350z ems350z 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 3

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    Rejection, regardless of

    who it comes from, makes me question who I am, who people want me to be, what I did wrong. Then I change, I become desperate and cling to the person who rejected me, being what they want me to be, just because to me, the rejection is justified and they deserve someone who isn't...
    SilentJamie SilentJamie 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 2

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    I am extremely afraid of rejection

    that it's at a point of being irrational. I tend to let my mind get in the way and therefore it stops me from getting anywhere with any woman.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 5 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I hate sending messages to start conversations

    with people on here.. I don't know why but a part of me dies inside.. I guess I'm sort of afraid that they won't want to talk to me
    CollegeKid18 CollegeKid18 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 2

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    Monday I was cancelled.

    Tuesday I was cancelled. Wednesday I was cancelled. Thursday I was cancelled- twice. Friday I was cancelled twice. Saturday I was cancelled. Sunday I was cancelled. Genuinely miffed. I feel so unloved. I reach out, put in effort and yet I've been rejected, let down...
    imunky imunky 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 6

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    I was made fun of all through my childhood

    and now I am very careful of who I let close because I don't want to be made fun of and rejected.
    KJVgirl92 KJVgirl92 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    What are some ways you all handle a situation

    where you make a move and they say no? I'd say I get a no about 30% of the time when asking a girl to dinner, a date or her number, that kind of thing, and I haven't really perfected my "walk away" move and sometimes it gets a little awkward.
    DrakeLineous DrakeLineous 22-25, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have an intense fear of rejection.

    I've reached the point where I don't even try to make new friends because I'm afraid if they don't like me then they'll judge me or make fun of me. I feel like the only place I am safe is in my head. I don't want to tell a girl that I like her because I'm afraid if she says no...
    CJHall1234 CJHall1234 16-17, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I don't know why, but I've always had this

    feeling that I'm going to be rejected by others. It's a truly horrible feeling that makes me sick to my stomach. Ever since I was young I got rejected by people. People rejected me for being an epileptic and having a few other illnesses, thus givng them the impression that I...
    KMargatroid KMargatroid 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    Several times in my life I have had a crush on

    a girl ,but never can I gather the nerves to ask them out. I was in China for school last year and I met a girl just like me. She had similar hobbies and habits as me and for the first time in my life I felt connected, but soon came the last day of school. I was leaving and so...
    tommyfung tommyfung 16-17, M Jun 29

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    Ok so about 6 months ago I was living with my

    mother and I started talking to a guy that I really liked fast forward 2 months and we were friends but I was afraid to make it more then that. Then BAM I left because things got really difficult with me and my mom and I moved out of state. It has been 4 months since I have...
    loveandotherdrugs8 loveandotherdrugs8 18-21, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I've been rejected sometimes

    for just being me
    zward14 zward14 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    laikastark laikastark 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 12

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    I think the whole reason I don't speak up first.

    1. Rejection, 2. Awkwardness, & then finally 3. It just doesn't work out and becomes a disaster.
    JuanitaaLovee JuanitaaLovee 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 19

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    It takes me months to decide to ask someone out.

    I'm a talkative person, but whenever I try to tell my crush I like her, I clam up and say something else. It's not the rejection itself that I fear; it's the awkwardness that may come afterwards, and I feel that if she doesn't like me the same, it might ruin our whole friendship...
    decorus decorus 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 2

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    I have been invited to become an officer in a

    special honors group at my college, I'm afraid that I might not do well or they might not like me but everyone was so friendly. It's hard to remember that they're all human I just hope they take off their masks of perfection and I get to see the real them; that would make me...
    Kaptinkrunch Kaptinkrunch 18-21, M 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Every morning my heart puts on a mask to hide

    what's real. Because we've learned that it feels better to fear in loneliness then to be rejected again for our openness.
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    We All Are

    Anybody who says they are not afraid of rejection is lying. Or a sociopath :P Though, mine is more than just a fear of rejection, in that I actually expect it. I anticipate people to reject me, and probably welcome it, concluding ultimately that it was 'inevitable', and that I...
    tristessastar tristessastar 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    I hate when people don't

    even bother to try and know me. They just stay in their exclusive cliques and categorize not just me, but anyone as someone "not worthy" to talk to. I tend to be shy meeting new people because of experiences and expectations like this. ****** me off because I'm not quiet when I...
    SabrinaB27 SabrinaB27 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    I am terrified of it,

    and it happens constantly. I sometimes won't even talk and people take me for rude because I am so concerned what I say will be considered weird or dumb. I've silenced conversations before because I am too strange or something I guess. I've become almost terrified to interact...
    CrashingComet CrashingComet 22-25 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I wear panties and want to come out about it,

    but I'm afraid of being disliked about it, so I guess for now at least, I'll keep it to myself
    ForeverMe88 ForeverMe88 13-15, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    "Go talk to your crush!

    " HAHAHAHAHAHAHA no.
    jordins22 jordins22 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    This is such a stupid fear

    because why does it matter if someone doest like you, you can't be liked by everyone, but it had stopped me from getting to know so many people who I wanted to get to know its ridiculous.
    littleayeaye littleayeaye 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    I'm afraid to really be myself anymore.

    People nowadays judge everyone on anything. The way they dress, how much they weigh, pretty much anything. When I see someone looking at me, I automatically assume they're mentally making fun of me & it sucks. I just want to find someone I can be 100% myself with all the time...
    bekoveranything bekoveranything 13-15, F 11 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I am scared that no one is ever going to like

    me. I tend to keep things and feelings to myself because I don't want people to know how insecure I am. I tend to push people away because I am not ready to tell them everything about myself.
    alwayshappy365 alwayshappy365 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 28

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    Iv been chasing my ex

    for a while now And she doesn't seem to pay attention to what I have to offer. My friends always tell me give her time an she will realise but after two days I go and txt her back again , we'll here's te question, will walking away get her back ??
    zuheb zuheb 18-21, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 31-35, F 13 Responses Feb 23

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