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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    Every morning my heart puts on a mask to hide

    what's real. Because we've learned that it feels better to fear in loneliness then to be rejected again for our openness.
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    Today, I went to see my therapist

    for the first time. She walked up to me and I looked up and saw she had dwarfism. She seated me down, and after a few questions, she asked me "You're too scared to talk to people? Why?". It was at that moment I realised how stupid I had been to think the problem I had with my...
    Rainex Rainex 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 26

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    I do have this fear. Sometimes,

    I focus more on people who are neglectful because of this fear instead of focusing on those I know are there for me. I know rationally that rejection is a part of life and that it isn't a reflection of myself. I have a childish desire for the whole world to love me and I love...
    Myfairlady1 Myfairlady1 46-50, F 3 Responses Dec 4

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    Ever since this really bad situation in 2013

    where i attempted suicide several times over a guy, i've sworn to myself never try to get a guy's attention ever again. I was never supposed to either way, it's how my mom raised me but i was so mesmerized by him had never being in a relationship that i just couldn't help myself...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 20

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    georgia2001 georgia2001 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 15

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    Me too!!! but not in love.

    interview??????
    pskqwer8 pskqwer8 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 7

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    I hate when people don't

    even bother to try and know me. They just stay in their exclusive cliques and categorize not just me, but anyone as someone "not worthy" to talk to. I tend to be shy meeting new people because of experiences and expectations like this. ****** me off because I'm not quiet when I...
    Sapphirebee27 Sapphirebee27 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    Yes i am afraid of getting hurt

    or rejected i admit it. Its kind of ruining me because i berely do new stuff, apply for a job or get myself out there in fear of getting rejected or hurt
    Alexandralanon Alexandralanon 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 9

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    I don't get how you girls can change your mind

    so fast.. I can Never understand why u can't tell how you feel lol
    Lilwayne1993 Lilwayne1993 18-21, M 10 Responses Dec 2

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    I was abandoned by my mother at 2yo.

    I was taken to live with my grandmother and after about 18months my father told me that she did not want me anymore and took me away to live with an aunt. At 4 yo. my aunt did not want me and I was left at a school. At 5yo, my mother snatched me back, told me NOT to speak...
    mickyisback mickyisback 70+, M 11 Responses Sep 21

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    I'm Afraid

    I'm afraid to get too close to people. I'm scared that once they get to know me, they wont like me or they will reject me for who I really am. I tend to build up walls that way to many people try to break down. I don't know if it is a good thing and I should let it happen or if...
    DaddysGirl1995 DaddysGirl1995 18-21, F 12 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    Hi. I know this is really stupid

    and complicated, and I'm sorry for being so upset for seemingly no reason, but I sort of have a problem. It's barely a problem at all, I know--I'm just blowing it way out of proportion--but I can't help but at least ASK for some support. Okay, first off, I'm a fifteen-year-old...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 5

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    Rejection would pull me further into my already

    dark hole of negative self esteem. It seems really selfish, so therefore I haven't become outgoing when it comes to the opposite sex. If you want me come and show interest. I have no where near the confidence to boldly approach you.
    groundcraze groundcraze 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 9

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    It feels like I've already rejected my own

    belief that I love her. Whats the point in asking her when you know already? I'd do anything for mutual feelings.
    JoeSorrows JoeSorrows 16-17, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    I don't know where to start this off,

    but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to change that, but nothing I do is good enough. I'm slowly starting to rethink all of this. I'm starting lose hope. I'm not seeing a...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Being rejected sucks.

    But, the benefit of risking it as much as you can is that you increase the possibility of ending up in a relationship with someone you really like. If you wait to be pursued, your only possible choices are those who risk being rejected by you. And, since *most* people try to...
    MisterSerious MisterSerious 41-45, M Dec 9

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    So theres this guy ive been seeing

    for a couple of months now, ive fallen madly in love with him. We're not official, but i wish i could tell him. Im just scared he'll run away, that a confession of my deep feelings will send him packing. Why, oh why do i feel things too quickly?
    BeccyLouiseee BeccyLouiseee 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    I'm used to rejection.

    Every person in this world reject me.
    staystrongandlive staystrongandlive 16-17, F 8 Responses Nov 22

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    Everyone asks me when I am going to get a

    boyfriend, when am I going to start dating and I always laugh it off and say who has time for that but the truth is I would love to have someone to share my life with I am just afraid. I don't like myself most of the time so how can I expect someone else to like me?
    DriftingDreaming DriftingDreaming 22-25, F 10 Responses Nov 10

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    I'm a reserved, quiet person by nature

    and growing up I was always left out of things. Thus I felt the need to put on this fake persona just to fit into these particular groups that were leaving me out. Especially in high school. I guess you could say I didn't do well with rejection. Now, at 23, I definitely feel...
    lucidxacid lucidxacid 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 6

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    I'm terrified of being deemed 'unworthy' i'm

    reasonably attractive and friendly so on the surface I attract guys' attention. But i'm picky, not purposefully , rarely do I feel that chemistry with a guy, only when I do, its never reciprocated. They're special to me but I'm not to them. It hurts me everytime. It puts me off...
    marsbarzzz91 marsbarzzz91 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 21

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 31-35, F 10 Responses Feb 23

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    My biggest thought on being rejected is "you

    are all beautiful and unique, if the person you like doesn't like you back or says no it's their loss not yours. They don't know what they're missing out on" so the next time you get rejected just know that that person lost an awesome gal/guy
    AllisonLuvsMusic AllisonLuvsMusic 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 24

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    I bottle everything up.

    I'm not very talkative. I'm not how I used to be. I don't tell secrets to many people. I don't like but I do like getting close to people. I like to read instead of socialize. You know why? Cause I'm afraid. I'm afraid of being alone. I'm afraid of being hurt. But most of...
    ForeverANomad ForeverANomad 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 2

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    I'm in love with my best friend,

    but I don't want to tell him anything, because I'm afraid what he would say, whether it's good or bad I would not want to chance our amazing relationship we have built being friends,
    openbookbri openbookbri 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 4

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    I feel like, it must be something wrong with

    the way I look. I am hard on myself and rejection puts me way down. I hate it. (not saying this is right, but its what happens to me)
    sunnygrlamy sunnygrlamy 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 25

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    I'm Jacob, 18 years old

    and have a pathological fear of rejection. From about the age of 9, my parents - especially my mum - would compare me to other kids in my class. She thought, and was right about the fact that I was smarter than most of the kids my age. I just didn't put any effort in because...
    JacobStark JacobStark 18-21, M 8 Responses Oct 4

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    I have never felt really appreciated

    for who I am. I've never been liked in the way that I would like someone(opposite sex)I have been burned by my feelings more than ive ever been burned by a hot stove. They say that you always recover sooner or later, but Ive started wondering what i will recover into. Will I...
    placesivebeen placesivebeen 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    So people falling in love online isnt new

    and Im one of the freaking victims. Tho Im not sure if this is love yet.. I mean I cant love multiple person? That's just so watdapak right? Anyway, I have a person I like. He's living nearby.. Well we're in the same village. I liked him for more than three years. (You see im...
    gotawishy gotawishy 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    i am always friendly

    and nice to people and it hurts me when they are not nice back
    teechme teechme 70+, F 6 Responses Sep 20

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    http://www.experienceproject.

    com/stories/Am-Lonely/5249647 Please read this
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    I am a man at the age of 21

    and feeling worthless. I have had sex in my life but I have never had an actual girlfriend in my life. I have been rejected by every single girl I wanted to be with. I own a lot of things though... I have a house, I have a badass car... I have no idea how I ended up like this...
    Nameless93 Nameless93 18-21, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Jaielll Jaielll 18-21, F 15 Responses Aug 24

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    Ever since I was a little girl I have not been

    afraid of darkness, monsters, or burglars, but social rejection. It started in the sixth grade. My family made a big move and I faced the challenge of a new school. The first day I went to school, I wore a bright pink turtle neck and teal capris with butterflies on them. As I...
    RubyAnaBelle RubyAnaBelle 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    nikueycookery nikueycookery 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 7

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    blueworldsapart blueworldsapart 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 3

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    The hardest thing is letting go of someone you

    used to love. In February, I went out with someone who made me feel extra special and happy which is what any girl wants. He went to a different school than me. I used to go to the same school as him but I moved. Within a week of telling people we were going out, there were...
    blueworldsapart blueworldsapart 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    if I really like him ,

    I want him to like me to . Yes I am afraid of rejection .
    swingdance swingdance 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 4

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    I hate my life. This is my only outlet.

    I have no one to talk to. I don't have any friends and I am ostracized. The problem is, I don't know what I did to deserve this. I am always kind and friendly to people. I never talk bad about anyone because it's wrong and not who I am. I make myself as approachable as possible...
    Om3awaken Om3awaken 18-21, F 11 Responses Sep 29

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    I'm prepared now... I'll come to you

    and tell you how I feel, I will tell you exactly how I feel at least I will try to. I'm not expecting anything in return... I know you'll reject me, I know It'll be awkward for us after but believe me.. I will tell you how I feel because I need to be rejected properly by you...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 10 Responses 6 days ago

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    When he reads your message

    but doesn't answer...:'(
    pxthetic pxthetic 13-15, F 9 Responses Dec 2

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    I hate it when people tell me know without a

    reason it makes you feel a bit unwanted x
    courtney10155 courtney10155 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    flyguy3326 flyguy3326 13-15, M 4 Responses Sep 1

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    I expect everybody to LOVE me,

    inconditionally. And that's not realistic. I know.
    SugarKaneFarrow SugarKaneFarrow 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    we've had a lot of ups

    and downs. more downs then ups the last three months. its torn my heart apart, the distance he's caused between us the pain I have done to him... when I try to get close to him he pushes me away... I don't know what's worse, the void it would leave if I left him; or the pain I...
    Mj13ahestrella Mj13ahestrella 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I went out on a date with a great guy today

    but my mind was somewhere else the entire time. I just kept wondering what the point of it was. I mean I know exactly how it will end,in heart break. Rejection. So I friendzoned him. I told him that I liked him but I thought it best we remain friends. I stopped it before...
    TheGirlFromJupiter TheGirlFromJupiter 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm terrified of being alone.

    I have to bribe people to be my friend and I hate it but I'm so scared of being rejected and alone.
    Jaielll Jaielll 18-21, F 12 Responses Nov 9

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    Sometimes I'm scared that

    if I approach someone they'll turn me down. 😊