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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    Ever since I was a little girl I have not been

    afraid of darkness, monsters, or burglars, but social rejection. It started in the sixth grade. My family made a big move and I faced the challenge of a new school. The first day I went to school, I wore a bright pink turtle neck and teal capris with butterflies on them. As I...
    RubyAnaBelle RubyAnaBelle 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I was madly in love with someone

    for 2 years and all they ever did was reject & lie to me and like a fool I kept going back because I was in love....I stayed and I got hurt by them more and more until finally enough was enough. That was my first heartbreak and I never want to experience that again but sometimes...
    jadacharlene jadacharlene 13-15, F Oct 14

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    TiarahF TiarahF 18-21, F 15 Responses Sep 10

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 17

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    My fear of rejection tends to interfere with my

    sport. If I don't run fast enough or best certain people, I fear that no one will appreciate me if I don't do what I do best which is running fast. I get more nervous than everybody else on the startline because my whole self worth goes into the race. I fear the rejection I'll...
    DanielleMaree DanielleMaree 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 5

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    I hate when people don't

    even bother to try and know me. They just stay in their exclusive cliques and categorize not just me, but anyone as someone "not worthy" to talk to. I tend to be shy meeting new people because of experiences and expectations like this. ****** me off because I'm not quiet when I...
    Sapphirebee27 Sapphirebee27 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    i am always friendly

    and nice to people and it hurts me when they are not nice back
    teechme teechme 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 20

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    Lately I have been thinking about telling this

    girl how I really feel about her but I'm afraid what she will say when I do. If she says yes OK and if no OK but its what happens after that because we are really good friends and I'm afraid if I say something it may ruin our friendship because last time I did that I literally...
    Chaco1 Chaco1 13-15, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    georgia2001 georgia2001 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 15

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    flyguy3326 flyguy3326 13-15, M 4 Responses Sep 1

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    I'm scared that my friends will leave me

    and that i'll be left alone.
    shelbysinx326 shelbysinx326 13-15, F 6 Responses Oct 13

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    oh yes big time. speaking about guys,

    everytime i like someone my midset is always, "oh he wont like me back" or "if i tell him i like him hell say no" because im just afraid of rejection!
    PeaceAndLove1 PeaceAndLove1 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    Hi. I know this is really stupid

    and complicated, and I'm sorry for being so upset for seemingly no reason, but I sort of have a problem. It's barely a problem at all, I know--I'm just blowing it way out of proportion--but I can't help but at least ASK for some support. Okay, first off, I'm a fifteen-year-old...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 5

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    I don't let people get close to me

    because I always end up getting hurt. There is not one person alive that I trust.
    KellzMc KellzMc 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 8

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    I'm terrified of being deemed 'unworthy' i'm

    reasonably attractive and friendly so on the surface I attract guys' attention. But i'm picky, not purposefully , rarely do I feel that chemistry with a guy, only when I do, its never reciprocated. They're special to me but I'm not to them. It hurts me everytime. It puts me off...
    marsbarzzz91 marsbarzzz91 22-25, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    This is a silly thing to fear.

    I'm 39 years old, a veteran of two wars, and all sorts of other things that ought to make me fearless. Still, I'm afraid of rejection. It isn't rejection itself that hurts the worst. If someone doesn't like me, I tend not to take it personally. I'm not perfect, not even close...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    My friend never believes me

    when I tell him the amount of times a girl has told me they don't date fat guys. He thinks I'm just trying to make an excuse for not talking to women at the mall, or wherever else we hang out, so he laughs at me, calling me a wuss. He has a girlfriend, and he gets so much...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 4 days ago

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    I want somebody to love me the same way I

    imagine myself loving them. Is it really that difficult to find!
    N1C07A5 N1C07A5 22-25, M 7 Responses Oct 5

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    Every morning my heart puts on a mask to hide

    what's real. Because we've learned that it feels better to fear in loneliness then to be rejected again for our openness.
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    I was abandoned by my mother at 2yo.

    I was taken to live with my grandmother and after about 18months my father told me that she did not want me anymore and took me away to live with an aunt. At 4 yo. my aunt did not want me and I was left at a school. At 5yo, my mother snatched me back, told me NOT to speak...
    mickyisback mickyisback 51-55, M 10 Responses Sep 21

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    tumty tumty 18-21, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Either I didn't specify

    or she didn't get the message either way she hit me with the friend thing ?????? but I guess even if I did specify more she still would have done it but oh well ?????? Now I guess I can move on
    Chaco1 Chaco1 13-15, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    We're all scared of being rejected.

    Of that one person who we hold so close to our hearts will turn around and walk away. That's the moment where we feel so hopeless. We can chase after them...grab them and make them stay with us. But in the long run does that ever really work? Here's the truth....you can't make...
    shakenama shakenama 41-45, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    sparkydream sparkydream 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    I miss him so much even

    though he was a jerk to me. I want to text him hi but I feel like he wouldn't respond back... Should I just go ahead?
    LexiK88 LexiK88 16-17, F 7 Responses Oct 13

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    I CAN NOT deal with rejection people.

    My fiancee just moved out last month..didn't even see it coming. He moved 2 hours away & has barely talked to me...for the most part he totally ignores me....my texts, phone calls, e-mails. He KNOWS how much I hate being ignored...the whole rejection thing, but he's doing it...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 15

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    Some people reject me.

    ..y?because i am gay?
    georgeKim georgeKim 22-25, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    I am sick of rejections,

    it makes me feel like I am NOT good enough for anyone!!!!! I do not want to be UNEMPLOYED or SINGLE forever!!!!!!!! Damn it!!!!!!
    WantingToSettleDown WantingToSettleDown 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 29

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 24

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    I'm Jacob, 18 years old

    and have a pathological fear of rejection. From about the age of 9, my parents - especially my mum - would compare me to other kids in my class. She thought, and was right about the fact that I was smarter than most of the kids my age. I just didn't put any effort in because...
    JacobStark JacobStark 18-21, M 8 Responses Oct 4

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    Today, I went to see my therapist

    for the first time. She walked up to me and I looked up and saw she had dwarfism. She seated me down, and after a few questions, she asked me "You're too scared to talk to people? Why?". It was at that moment I realised how stupid I had been to think the problem I had with my...
    Rainex Rainex 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 26

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    like, too much! it has come to a point

    where i don't even want to start anything, and by anything i mean anything, i don't even want to have a new cat or something because sometimes i feel like they're rejecting me too! c-c-crazy~ all living things will just going to reject me in the end, and although i know it well...
    yayforKay yayforKay 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 28

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    aphrodite5424 aphrodite5424 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 5

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    ayumipamyurin ayumipamyurin 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I've never posted anything on a blog

    or forum because I've feared it wasn't good enough or was pointless. I've spent night after night online for years and read from many others but this is my first. It feels good to have a voice finally.
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 24

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    I am absolutely terrified of rejection.

    Expressing your feelings to another person whom you deeply care about only to have them spit in your face, smear it around and around, and then walk away as if nothing happened. Okay, maybe I'm exaggerating. But On the serious note, I'm just scared of pronouncing my feelings to...
    CamilleThomas CamilleThomas 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 12

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    I'm scared of being rejected of

    who I am because of my past and flaws :(
    Alexxxx96 Alexxxx96 18-21, F 10 Responses Oct 12

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    I hate it when people tell me know without a

    reason it makes you feel a bit unwanted x
    courtney10155 courtney10155 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Jaielll Jaielll 18-21, F 14 Responses Aug 24

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    Within the past couple months I've been

    corresponding with a female inmate pen pal. It's probably an unconventional thing to do normally, that is to reach out to someone outcasted by society for friendship but I have several dispositions for doing so. I'm sympathetic to the fact that the prison system is broken and it...
    RiseOne RiseOne 36-40, M 1 Response Oct 9

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    This! This is my biggest fear of all

    when it comes to my social anxiety. I can't take being rejected. It kills me inside. It makes me feel like I'm not good enough. :( It makes me too afraid to form new relationships with people. In the back of my mind I'm always thinking about how they're going to reject me any...
    asariblue asariblue 26-30, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I know my husband loves me,

    but I want him to be proud of me. It hurts so bad when he's upset at me. I feel like I've let him down.
    Rclife Rclife 31-35, F 13 Responses Oct 13

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    Its a bery bad feeling

    and i have faced that quite at times . Hbu?
    Ashley99906 Ashley99906 18-21, M 3 Responses Oct 14

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    I hate my life. This is my only outlet.

    I have no one to talk to. I don't have any friends and I am ostracized. The problem is, I don't know what I did to deserve this. I am always kind and friendly to people. I never talk bad about anyone because it's wrong and not who I am. I make myself as approachable as possible...
    Om3awaken Om3awaken 16-17, F 11 Responses Sep 29

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    This fuckery is new to me,

    everytime I meet someone new I wonder what they think of me. I never used to be the person that wanted to be friends with everbody. God...
    loralie22 loralie22 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 15

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    Due to painful relationships i've had,

    I have developed a fear of rejection. I have always had a higher self control of my feelings. But the fear to get rejected has turned me into quite a antisocial person. I don't even let an idea of beautiful develop in my head when I see a girl because I feel like I am not worth...
    Zim0 Zim0 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Friend: You should go up

    and talk to him. He deserves to give you an explanation. Me: I know. I'll go up to him next time I see him. Anxiety: No, you won't. Why would he even want to talk to you? Friend: I know you can do this. Me: I know I can, too. Anxiety: Hahaha, silly girl. Who are you...
    GhostBride GhostBride 18-21, F 9 Responses Oct 5

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    It's not that I'm "afraid of rejection"

    [anymore]. It's more like I dread the thought of the idea. When I do feel rejected, that's when I get stuck in my head with my thoughts. A very dangerous thing because my own voice in my head is not always the nicest thing. Rejection always hurts the most when it's people or...
    seakissedjem seakissedjem 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 28

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 31-35, F 11 Responses Feb 23

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    Just stretched my septum piercing!

    Come check out the video & my YouTube channel! www.YouTube.com/1996Ashley
    ModifiedMamaofTwo ModifiedMamaofTwo 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    Cause it really hurts.

    And I know deep inside I have a deeper meaning why
    Althea12 Althea12 13-15, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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