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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    I had this friend who was in a relationship

    but we became really close friends, we used to talk all day, this happened for almost 6 months but then everything changed,he became friends with someone i hated and i became friends with someone he hated so we stopped talking because it was hurtful for both of us.then his...
    tinna20 tinna20 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    oh yes big time. speaking about guys,

    everytime i like someone my midset is always, "oh he wont like me back" or "if i tell him i like him hell say no" because im just afraid of rejection!
    PeaceAndLove1 PeaceAndLove1 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    My this guy I like whose 2 years older

    than me found out I like him and it's like I can't breath he isn't saying anything and it's just like I want to scream as it's like I didn't even tell him someone else did and I can't think of what to do/say why is this so complicated is this caused by the age ago or something...
    meggyd14x meggyd14x 13-15, F 17 Responses 3 days ago

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    My entire life, I'm 37.

    no girl has ever said yes when I have asked them out
    hsisgod hsisgod 36-40, M 20 Responses 4 days ago

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    Jaielll Jaielll 18-21, F 14 Responses 4 days ago

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    It happened to me in elementary school

    and middle school. My issues started in elementary so I got rejected a lot cause of certain things so I was a loner basically. My problems followed me in middle school because most people from elementary transferred to the same middle school I went to, so obviously rumors spread...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    Hey. I'm 16 and into this cheerleader.

    She's extremely beautiful. We go to different schools. Same city and county though. I want to talk to her at a football game this fall. Except I'm scared she'll ignore/reject me. How can I go about approaching her?
    TFugate662 TFugate662 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Hi. I know this is really stupid

    and complicated, and I'm sorry for being so upset for seemingly no reason, but I sort of have a problem. It's barely a problem at all, I know--I'm just blowing it way out of proportion--but I can't help but at least ASK for some support. Okay, first off, I'm a fifteen-year-old...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 5

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    This will sound conceited,

    but it's true. I am much better looking and a better student than my sister and brother. They both hate me. Am I supposed to fail to make them feel better?
    brinahU brinahU 18-21, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Im afraid of rejection

    because i know its going to hurt my pride. I like this guy so much. Ive been honest with him. But later on i noticed when we talked it was boring. There wasnt any flirting at all unlike before. I dont want him to go away. But it seems he ia drifting away. I wanted to tell him...
    Elleshore81 Elleshore81 31-35, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I hate when people don't

    even bother to try and know me. They just stay in their exclusive cliques and categorize not just me, but anyone as someone "not worthy" to talk to. I tend to be shy meeting new people because of experiences and expectations like this. ****** me off because I'm not quiet when I...
    Sapphirebee27 Sapphirebee27 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    Afraid my entire life

    that I never went forward; so much that I always ran away even when I was approached. Finally, two months ago, I decided to do something about it. I was sick of being lonely and seeing other couples around me. Being alone on Fridays seeing others holding hands going into clubs...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have a crippling fear.

    If I even get the smallest hint that she'll say no, then I don't even try. We could be making out, she says she loves me and wants to be with me, and i'll be like "are you sure? Fill out these documents in triplicate if you are completely sure. I'll call my lawyer and we can get...
    LeonardFinch LeonardFinch 16-17, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Yet again, rejection strikes.

    Thinking EP was a rejection free place with a bunch of people willing to talk and wanting to share stories, I have actually been rejected about 3-4 times in the 2 weeks I've been with this site. I guess it must just be the world, but don't share a story on "I really need someone...
    dvds414 dvds414 16-17, M 7 Responses Aug 10

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    Ever since I was a little girl I have not been

    afraid of darkness, monsters, or burglars, but social rejection. It started in the sixth grade. My family made a big move and I faced the challenge of a new school. The first day I went to school, I wore a bright pink turtle neck and teal capris with butterflies on them. As I...
    RubyAnaBelle RubyAnaBelle 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    This is a silly thing to fear.

    I'm 39 years old, a veteran of two wars, and all sorts of other things that ought to make me fearless. Still, I'm afraid of rejection. It isn't rejection itself that hurts the worst. If someone doesn't like me, I tend not to take it personally. I'm not perfect, not even close...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    Anytime I message someone online

    and they never answer a piece of me dies and I question who I am as a whole. Js
    isuckatthisstuff isuckatthisstuff 16-17, M 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Rejection, regardless of

    who it comes from, makes me question who I am, who people want me to be, what I did wrong. Then I change, I become desperate and cling to the person who rejected me, being what they want me to be, just because to me, the rejection is justified and they deserve someone who isn't...
    SilentJamie SilentJamie 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 2

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    Thats why i didn't tell my first love about

    this feeling.. Been 4 years in love with him, secret admirer :| I moved on, i know its wasted time. :")
    daneean daneean 18-21, F Aug 3

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    So I Run And Hide...

    And my deepest secret is that sometimes I feel so needy...I have loving family, dear friends and the occasional lover. But I'm damaged, so inside the part of me I dare not examine it will probably never be quite enough.If I find myself reaching out too often to someone and they...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    I am scared that no one is ever going to like

    me. I tend to keep things and feelings to myself because I don't want people to know how insecure I am. I tend to push people away because I am not ready to tell them everything about myself.
    alwayshappy365 alwayshappy365 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 28

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    I can't tell you how many times I have been

    rejected. I can't count them on my fingers and thumbs combined. My first one was in 2nd grade by a boy named Billy. I had weird feelings for him. I gave him a peck on the cheek and he said YUCK!!!! and pushed me away. My last rejection was just a month before the end of...
    meganshaw1 meganshaw1 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Every morning my heart puts on a mask to hide

    what's real. Because we've learned that it feels better to fear in loneliness then to be rejected again for our openness.
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    I just started college

    and haven't made any friends because u don't want to talk to anyone because in too scared that they'll judge me right away and I just wanna go home
    samanthaha samanthaha 18-21, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    Sometimes I fear that at my Job.

    Rejection of my ideas and my way to be. Also in my love relationships. Like If I Dont belong anywhere. Weird
    clauyellowled clauyellowled 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 19

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    And not only rejection .

    I just find it hard to talk with people .Especially the ones who once hurt me. I 've been bullied and ridiculed , rejected .I was the fat kid , later I developed acne , now i suffer of a mild form of hair loss .My parents were aggressive to me .I feel so weak and useless , like...
    AeternasRebellionis AeternasRebellionis 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 21

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    Who isn't is the question?

    My problem is I long for that feeling you get in your stomach when you meet someone you commence with. What I find is that guys I've met so far don't want that and would rather hook up no strings attached. But, when they get what they want you mean nothing no more :((
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 24

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    I've been rejected before & it sucks.

    It's like, I wasn't good enough for that person. But sometimes I like to think, that person wasn't good enough for me.
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    My name is mohaaa, am in high school,

    I like having girl friend but am afraid talking to girls and having fun with them COZ am afraid to be rejected. So can anybody help me out of it?
    mabdulle1996 mabdulle1996 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 21

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    I'm always scared of rejections I'm like a

    little kid , I like some ill tell a friend my friend tells them and every time i see them I hid from them because I think of rejects my friend is always like "Jada your pretty you tall your not going to get rejected" next thing I know I blow my chance
    Strange143 Strange143 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am extremely afraid of rejection

    that it's at a point of being irrational. I tend to let my mind get in the way and therefore it stops me from getting anywhere with any woman.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 24

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 31-35, F 12 Responses Feb 23

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    It got so bad at one time,

    I didn't even try to do a damn thing. Not even play video games because I didn't want to lose. I got over it but it's still there. :(
    FallenPride FallenPride 22-25, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I've never posted anything on a blog

    or forum because I've feared it wasn't good enough or was pointless. I've spent night after night online for years and read from many others but this is my first. It feels good to have a voice finally.
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles 18-21, F 8 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am sick of rejections,

    it makes me feel like I am NOT good enough for anyone!!!!! I do not want to be UNEMPLOYED or SINGLE forever!!!!!!!! Damn it!!!!!!
    WantingToSettleDown WantingToSettleDown 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 29

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 17

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    ... in the way I am, I behave,

    by girls. I always need affirmation for things I do in my private life. I have the fear to fail at anything I do. It does not matter if i try to talk to a girl or just being accepted for who I am. I have so low self esteem in private life. That is so weird, because everything I...
    Gammler Gammler 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 20

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    So afraid that I don't

    even take chances with people, but I don't know what's worse.. Not trying and having no chance of being rejected nor relationship.. Or trying and having a chance with both..
    emoscreamo101 emoscreamo101 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 21

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    I've never let myself get to a stage

    that I can be rejected because I'm afraid of how I will feel afterwards. I'm also too polite to reject someone
    Chemly Chemly 13-15, M 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    People see me but not

    for me. They see a quiet, shy girl,one that rather keep to herself then be surrounded by people. That may be what I look like on the outside but I'm anything but.... On the inside I'm hoping to be accepted hoping that, that one person would take the leap to talk to the quiet...
    Gabbygirl123 Gabbygirl123 13-15, F 8 Responses Jul 30

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    chloeexx11 chloeexx11 13-15, F 12 Responses 2 days ago

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    Every relationship I have been in has been long

    term but I can't seem to connect with anyone anymore and I know it's my own fault. All the **** I've been through before with anyone from my past just makes me push people away now because I can't stand the idea of opening myself to someone again and being hurt. I want to be...
    bluesgem bluesgem 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 27

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    georgia2001 georgia2001 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 15

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    like, too much! it has come to a point

    where i don't even want to start anything, and by anything i mean anything, i don't even want to have a new cat or something because sometimes i feel like they're rejecting me too! c-c-crazy~ all living things will just going to reject me in the end, and although i know it well...
    yayforKay yayforKay 22-25, F 7 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    It's not that I'm "afraid of rejection"

    [anymore]. It's more like I dread the thought of the idea. When I do feel rejected, that's when I get stuck in my head with my thoughts. A very dangerous thing because my own voice in my head is not always the nicest thing. Rejection always hurts the most when it's people or...
    seakissedjem seakissedjem 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    So afraid. I'm extremely shy

    and reclusive due to bullying, past experience a and where I grew up early childhood. (Very bad location.) I cannot tell you how many times I've been rejected. I feel like girls just look over me and immediately say no. They don't take the time to talk to me, break me out of my...
    Winbu Winbu 16-17, M 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    imshy1234 imshy1234 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 20

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