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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    I'm a reserved, quiet person by nature

    and growing up I was always left out of things. Thus I felt the need to put on this fake persona just to fit into these particular groups that were leaving me out. Especially in high school. I guess you could say I didn't do well with rejection. Now, at 23, I definitely feel...
    lucidxacid lucidxacid 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2014

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    hunterhay hunterhay 16-17, F 5 Responses Mar 9

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    I love the girls but the last thing i need is

    getting denied in front of everybody.
    Victor2003 Victor2003 13-15, M 5 Responses a week ago

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I'm prepared now... I'll come to you

    and tell you how I feel, I will tell you exactly how I feel at least I will try to. I'm not expecting anything in return... I know you'll reject me, I know It'll be awkward for us after but believe me.. I will tell you how I feel because I need to be rejected properly by you...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    RicardoGutierrez RicardoGutierrez 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Perfect and bulletproof are seductive,

    but they don't exist in human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be-a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation-with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and...
    HotMessExpress101 HotMessExpress101 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    I have this huge fear of rejection.

    It scares me so bad and stops me from doing a lot of things that I want. I hate it so much, but it is the only way to protect myself. By throwing up concrete walls around my heart and never letting anyone in.
    LoveLeahG LoveLeahG 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I finally found a nice intelligent guy

    that fit with me perfectly. In the end, he made me feel worthless. He kept me hanging around waiting when it was convenient for him to be in our "relationship." I'm beginning to think it's better just to stay alone but my heart is always hanging on to that what if. I almost...
    poodahpop poodahpop 18-21, T 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Seeing the one you wanted with someone else is

    like pouring booze on a dirty flesh wound; it hurts like **** but you know that in the end you'll be better off.
    placesivebeen placesivebeen 18-21, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Okay, so this one is obvious.

    One of the staples of BPD - in fact, it's the very first of the symptoms necessary for diagnosis - is a pathological fear of rejection and abandonment. I frequently sabotage my own relationships to avoid an impending or eventual abandonment, or just never pursue the relationship...
    vagabondthrone vagabondthrone 22-25, M 3 Responses Mar 7

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    i am always friendly

    and nice to people and it hurts me when they are not nice back
    teechme teechme 70+, F 6 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    It's funny, when someone else initiates any

    kind of contact or endeavor I am really engaged and comfortable. If I have to initiate, however, I just freeze up. It sucks being compelled to be reactive all the time instead of active.
    Auberon89 Auberon89 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 12

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    I'm terrified of being deemed 'unworthy' i'm

    reasonably attractive and friendly so on the surface I attract guys' attention. But i'm picky, not purposefully , rarely do I feel that chemistry with a guy, only when I do, its never reciprocated. They're special to me but I'm not to them. It hurts me everytime. It puts me off...
    marsbarzzz91 marsbarzzz91 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I am currently in the throes of rejection.

    The thing is, he didn't have the decency to end it properly. He just ignored, kept it open-ended until I got the hint. Im not crazy, and Im certainly very dignified. If i see that I am not wanted, Im not going to stick around, not even when all I want is closure or an...
    lullPalooza lullPalooza 22-25, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Ever since this really bad situation in 2013

    where i attempted suicide several times over a guy, i've sworn to myself never try to get a guy's attention ever again. I was never supposed to either way, it's how my mom raised me but i was so mesmerized by him had never being in a relationship that i just couldn't help myself...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    I am not afraid to go out

    and meet new people, on the contrary i am rather confident but because i have been rejected as a child all my life by my family i have that fear that the day i meet the one that i will fall deeply inlove with i will be rejected by him. This has led to never allowing myself to...
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I'm Jacob, 18 years old

    and have a pathological fear of rejection. From about the age of 9, my parents - especially my mum - would compare me to other kids in my class. She thought, and was right about the fact that I was smarter than most of the kids my age. I just didn't put any effort in because...
    JohnVBlackburn JohnVBlackburn 18-21, M 5 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    I hate it when people tell me know without a

    reason it makes you feel a bit unwanted x
    courtney10155 courtney10155 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    georgia2001 georgia2001 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    The term "Freshman" has ruined

    so much fun for me.
    weekndhigh weekndhigh 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    tomorrow will be the day

    when i go for it
    callMeDrops13 callMeDrops13 16-17, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    i had so much friends

    but i lost them all. i'm afraid of meeting new people because they will leave to just like everyone else. i'm afraid that i'm gonna lose all the people i love even if they hate me. i'm afraid to open up to people so i'm gonna stay quiet. i'm just afraid of rejection and i...
    catsrule5678 catsrule5678 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    A good friend said this to me.

    .."why do you think you're sad? did you really love him? or because you were "rejected"?". Yea.. that's probably the reason why I'm hurting... all my life I'm always rejected, second option or much worst last resort... i should get used to it but every time i this things happened...
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    TiarahF TiarahF 18-21, F 14 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    My worse nightmare...

    i dont want to feel being rejected specially from a lover
    sexydivide sexydivide 36-40, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm always told that I'm wanted by this guy,

    but I'm scared that even though he says he wants to be with me, he is just saying that to make me feel better, and he really wants nothing to do with me. I'm scared to ask him, because I don't want to be rejected, and left alone again...
    Rawritslynne Rawritslynne 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 4

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    I wish people were more responsive,

    being ignored is almost more negating than being insulted.
    Auberon89 Auberon89 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 17

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    When he reads your message

    but doesn't answer...:'(
    pxthetic pxthetic 13-15, F 8 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I am a gay man. Like it

    or not, that's who I am. :)
    miguelminajj miguelminajj 18-21, M 7 Responses Feb 23

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    Everyone asks me when I am going to get a

    boyfriend, when am I going to start dating and I always laugh it off and say who has time for that but the truth is I would love to have someone to share my life with I am just afraid. I don't like myself most of the time so how can I expect someone else to like me?
    DriftingDreaming DriftingDreaming 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I want people to love me

    for who I am! :)
    juliettecf juliettecf 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Hi. I know this is really stupid

    and complicated, and I'm sorry for being so upset for seemingly no reason, but I sort of have a problem. It's barely a problem at all, I know--I'm just blowing it way out of proportion--but I can't help but at least ASK for some support. Okay, first off, I'm a fifteen-year-old...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    My biggest thought on being rejected is "you

    are all beautiful and unique, if the person you like doesn't like you back or says no it's their loss not yours. They don't know what they're missing out on" so the next time you get rejected just know that that person lost an awesome gal/guy
    AllisonLuvsMusic AllisonLuvsMusic 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    Seems to be the story of my life.

    Kicked out at 13. Only 5 relationships in life all ended in them cheating. What's not to fear?
    Averageguy41074 Averageguy41074 36-40, M 4 Responses Mar 2

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    Yes i am afraid of getting hurt

    or rejected i admit it. Its kind of ruining me because i berely do new stuff, apply for a job or get myself out there in fear of getting rejected or hurt
    Alexandralanon Alexandralanon 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I'm scared that if I tell my family

    and friends some of the problems I have gone through and the ones I am going through right now, they will disappointed in me, that's they will hate me or they will send me away :(
    franmarrburgos franmarrburgos 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 13

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 23, 2014

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    But its better to try

    and be rejected than to not take the chance at all. I only wish it was a easier thing to do.
    TickTockTickTock TickTockTickTock 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 10

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    Too scared to approach the girls I want,

    don't like the girls that come up to me. Hmm
    cbeez25tree cbeez25tree 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My boyfriend and I have a great relationship.

    But we've been on a dry spell recently. It's because we work all the time, and sometimes just ************ by ourselves can be the easiest thing to do. But sometimes i can't help but be afraid that he isn't as sexually inspired when he is with me. And I don't know f it's because...
    tempestsarekind tempestsarekind 22-25, M 5 Responses Mar 10

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    I was abandoned by my mother at 2yo.

    I was taken to live with my grandmother and after about 18months my father told me that she did not want me anymore and took me away to live with an aunt. At 4 yo. my aunt did not want me and I was left at a school. At 5yo, my mother snatched me back, told me NOT to speak...
    marmitemicky marmitemicky 70+, M 13 Responses Sep 21, 2014

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    How do I forget a *****(sorry girls

    but theres no better word) who I hate with every fiber of my being but still have feelings for?
    placesivebeen placesivebeen 18-21, M 31 Responses Jan 30

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    She looks in the mirror,

    and she's pretty enough. If you look at appearances alone, she's more than his equal. He's quiet, shy--but not a coward. He listens to her, laughs more than he talks, as she rambles on, trying to make him happy, trying to make him smile--to make him /see/ her. She's never tried...
    Fuzzies Fuzzies 56-60, M 3 Responses