I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    I am afraid of being rejected,

    especially when I try to befriend or engage with someone honestly and without ill intent. It's disturbing when people shoot you down before you can even represent yourself, it's so bewildering. Can't you have the decency to not prejudge me based off of your limited experience...
    1ANGRYtitan 1ANGRYtitan
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Apr 14, 2015
    deleted deleted
    22 Responses Jun 27, 2015

    I'm going to kill myself

    if I don't get the love of my life back. I've dated many people. He is different. He is the one. He is the only one for me, I know that with every bone in my body, that this boy is meant to be mine, to be with me. He is perfect, I couldn't ask for a better person. My hero, my...
    anonlovely anonlovely
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 7, 2016

    Everyone asks me when I am going to get a

    boyfriend, when am I going to start dating and I always laugh it off and say who has time for that but the truth is I would love to have someone to share my life with I am just afraid. I don't like myself most of the time so how can I expect someone else to like me?
    DriftingDreaming DriftingDreaming
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Nov 10, 2014

    I really like this girl,

    and just saying before i tell the reader... i used to be the most racist person towards muslims in britain, im black myself but i despised all muslims, and i met this girl i had no idea was muslim, first day i met her she gave no hints to show she was amuslim, we really hit it...
    Anonyboy111 Anonyboy111
    22-25, M
    5 Responses Mar 5, 2016
    OhFudge OhFudge
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Jul 13, 2015

    I am terrified of rejection

    and I end up making things worse, because I anticipate rejection. I am automatically already on the defensive which is very easy to pick up. I want to be anyone and anything that is good enough and I have a chamelonic personality. I too often find myself drinking the kool aid. I...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2016

    My Life History Part 2: For the past two years

    I felt like I don't have time to waste. This is why I feel that I need to start the healing now, before I waste anymore time. I was actually on a weight loss journey and from watching all the reality shows, I realized that I cannot lose the weight if I don't expose the root...
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 23, 2016

    How do I forget a *****(sorry girls

    but theres no better word) who I hate with every fiber of my being but still have feelings for?
    placesivebeen placesivebeen
    18-21, M
    21 Responses Jan 30, 2015

    So this girl came into my life last summer,

    she here for an internship, she finished the job and moved back to whatever state she came from. I had expressed my feelings to her, she was taken, but she told me the truth, didn't shut me out, and our friendship had continued. Several months of life go by with no contact, we...
    KindaPyro KindaPyro
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Mar 26, 2016

    I have a girlfriend. I can't believe it.

    I feel lucky, so I felt like I could share it with everyone on here.
    YunoAkiGasai YunoAkiGasai
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Apr 27, 2015

    My crush ignores my snapchat stories.

    I know this for sure because she is very active on snapchat and she even posts stories every other day. I dated her once like a year ago but nothing happened and then we lost contact. I heard recently that she had a crush on me back then too (by a rumour). I think she has a...
    Goku1900 Goku1900
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 25, 2016

    I remember the first time I ever got rejected.

    It was the first grade and I thought this girl was really pretty; don't get me wrong it's was the first grade I didn't expect anything to come out of it. I actually half expected her to just say "eww NO boys are icky!" Then go tell a teacher. When I whispered to her "I like you...
    CouldBeAnybody CouldBeAnybody
    22-25, M
    Mar 21, 2016

    I want more friends and a relationship

    but I'm too scared of not being worthy enough.
    Apostasies Apostasies
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    I always thought I was a happy,

    kind, playful person... but I still remember like it was yesterday when I was around 14 years old. I had a group of friends and we were playing a game where you were sitting on a chair in the middle of the group and people were asking questions anonymously through paper notes. I...
    ElisaK ElisaK
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Mar 21, 2016

    Don't feel bad if someone rejects you.

    People usually reject expensive things, because they can't afford them.
    DeathThrone DeathThrone
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Apr 2, 2015

    The sentiment I have is that,

    why would someone I like, like me back, when they can have someone much skinnier and prettier?Why would they settle for me?I typically end up liking guys who are pretty good looking but why would such a guy settle for someone like me, with so many flaws and who isn't...
    Catmagic101a Catmagic101a
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    I've always been afraid of rejection.

    My last friend ship wth this girl made it worse she always took the guys I liked called me names said I was ugly just wasn't nice.She would tell me that I shouldn't ask the guy I liked to hang out because he would say no she was just always rude about it and I've got rejected so...
    kassidyforreal kassidyforreal
    18-21, F
    9 Responses May 17, 2015

    I am the child of divorced parents,

    I was sexual abused as a child by my older sister's husband (she stayed with him and doesn't talk to me anymore) My mother was a drunk and I had to take care of my little sister when I was 9 because my mom would leave us at home alone a lot of the time. I started self harming...
    natalie243 natalie243
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 20, 2016

    i avoid people because it's easier to deal with

    loneliness rather than getting rejected
    kempt kempt
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    I am always scared that

    if I ask someone if they want to hang out with me or be my partner..They say they already have someone,but they dont,they go find one. :(
    RoseSmith6677 RoseSmith6677
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2016

    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Aug 26, 2014
    puppydoglover puppydoglover
    16-17, M
    16 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    I absolutely refuse to pursue.

    Rejection is humiliating. I refuse to even pursue friendships with people. I just let whomever is interested in me come to me. Even then, I fear people getting bored with me so I distance myself as much as possible.
    justpathetic justpathetic
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    I am afraid of rejection.

    I get depressed and suicidal if someone says they're busy or they don't have time for me. Yet when a person assures me they won't leave, I instantly push that person away. it dawns on me that I have ambivalent attachment issues.
    driftingalone driftingalone
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Aug 15, 2015

    I wish I can go back to the day

    and time that I met my ex-boyfriend so I can warn myself of the hurt.
    lovebutt34 lovebutt34
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jun 18, 2015

    They say be yourself

    but than we have ******** in the world that reject u and judge u because of that.
    someoneunimportant03 someoneunimportant03
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    I struggle being rejected by guys.

    It seems like whatever guys approach me, we start dating or hanging out and they just lose interest or don't take me seriously. I dnt like to play games with texting and Im usually very nice/polite/positive to ppl...and then after I get hurt and ignore the guys they start...
    Raindropchica Raindropchica
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    Well I am now. About 4 times in 4 months I've

    been rejected. I know why but one was a huge hit. I asked my best friend out and he shut me out, hasn't spoken to me since. The other 3 they said ok well I'm straight so no. I know it's because I'm a guy and so are they but I loved them.
    BlakeyM BlakeyM
    2 Responses Feb 29, 2016

    I'm trying to regain my strength RN

    but I am so afraid I will be rejected by people. I don't know y I got this fear y should I care y does it hurt or bother me and if it's rejection n love ...y do I wear my heart so open... What can I do bout it
    deleted deleted
    Mar 4, 2016

    I'm never going to have a boyfriend

    because I'm never going to ask a boy out. I hate myself for it but apparently not enough to do something about it.
    Syntagram Syntagram
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 13, 2016

    I hate when I don't get texts replied back.

    The ironic thing is I leave my phone all over the place and sometimes I'll go hours without texting someone back. I guess that makes me a hypocrite but at least I understand what a sucky feeling it is. Even though I know it's probably not, it just feels like rejection. I get all...
    littlemissdazed littlemissdazed
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Sep 13, 2015

    The worst about being rejected is

    when it comes from someone you love, I've been there and is horrible :(
    mimiromy mimiromy
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    yes I also afraid that rejection of my parents

    and my friends.... because I am CD and wanting to be become a complete girl.... now I am doing CD I secretly .... I hoping to accept me as I am...
    vinodcrossy21 vinodcrossy21
    22-25, T
    3 Responses Feb 20, 2016

    I was abandoned by my mother at 2yo.

    I was taken to live with my grandmother and after about 18months my father told me that she did not want me anymore and took me away to live with an aunt. At 4 yo. my aunt did not want me and I was left at a school. At 5yo, my mother snatched me back, told me NOT to speak...
    marmitemicky marmitemicky
    66-70, M
    11 Responses Sep 21, 2014

    Ever since this really bad situation in 2013

    where i attempted suicide several times over a guy, i've sworn to myself never try to get a guy's attention ever again. I was never supposed to either way, it's how my mom raised me but i was so mesmerized by him had never being in a relationship that i just couldn't help myself...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 20, 2014

    I feel like I'm so complicated

    for someone to love or even like... I over think everything and I'm sure that will be my ultimate downfall.. I'm talking to this guy it's been about 6 months.. and I feel like I'm stepping on my own egg shells.. like I'm so afraid of messing it up that I feel like I'm messing...
    lovie0893 lovie0893
    22-25, F
    Mar 8, 2016

    I'm honestly just so f*cking scared.

    I'm so scared of being hurt.
    rememberthegirl rememberthegirl
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    I finally told him that I wanted him to meet my

    mother lol it seems like a small thing but this took a lot for me to say and the response wasn't what I thought it would be either lmao... idk I guess I've played this out in my head for months I only expected the worst
    lovie0893 lovie0893
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 31, 2016

    For me my fear of rejection can get out of

    control, like my depression. We are surrounded by expectations of others: church, family, teachers, police, government, peers and friends. Each need to be taken into account with every behavioral decision moment by moment. There will be penalties for miscalculation, rewards for...
    9minute 9minute
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    I am a gay man. Like it

    or not, that's who I am. :)
    miguelminajj miguelminajj
    18-21, M
    5 Responses Feb 23, 2015

    I am going to have an interview within my

    workplace for a management position and nobody around me believes in me and my potential and that bothers me in such a hateful world. It's hard to see the positives from time to time in my life and I'm afraid that I'll never amount to anything in my life.
    agathor44 agathor44
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Mar 9, 2016

    I don't mind if you let go,

    I'll be hurt but it's okay.
    JazminTheFlower13 JazminTheFlower13
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 18, 2016

    I have strong feelings

    for a guy friend and want to ask him out. He acts like he has feelings too, but I'm concerned I'm just projecting my own feelings and he will turn me down.
    megan1s megan1s
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 14, 2016
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    Well I don't think anyone enjoys being rejected.

    I'll admit I am afraid of being straight out rejected. But more than that, I fear that things will just fizzle out. It has happened to me a number of times that I've gotten to know someone and there really is a deep emotional connection there. M was one of them. We could relate...
    milkmilklemonadee milkmilklemonadee
    26-30, M
    Feb 12, 2016

    When he reads your message

    but doesn't answer...:'(
    therealsydster therealsydster
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Dec 2, 2014

    but there is no reason to be.

    im more afraid of the certainty of it...the inevitable moment when it comes. when it strikes fast its painless now. its when i hope it hurts. but the funny part is i dont blame the one rejecting. they deserve to find what they seek. if i care enough to put myself in the...
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    Feb 29, 2016

    I've always been afraid of rejection,

    and I believe it's held me back on many occasions throughout my life. This year, however, I have been braver than my past self as I've had an increase in confidence after taking up some exercise classes and started to feel good about myself. This confidence allowed me to...
    Hanban25 Hanban25
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Oct 8, 2015

    Alright so this happened.

    I've been through a lot. During two years I've over abused drugs sex alcohol. I had a meaningless life. A month ago I quit everything move out of my toxic lifestyle and home and decided to change. I was a really kind person before I would care about anybody and try to help...
    Francoise25 Francoise25
    18-21, F
    Feb 22, 2016

    For everyone who is afraid- You can't spend the

    rest of your life being afraid of people rejecting you, and you have to start by not rejecting yourself, you don't deserve it. From now on, people an either accept you for who you are or they can **** off.
    ObviouslyMe ObviouslyMe
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    I had an affair on my wifeb,

    I knew it was wrong, I confessed it to her& to God I know God forgave me ,but I feel she never has, even though she says she is working on it. This all happened years ago
    Hawkeyeohio5876 Hawkeyeohio5876
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Feb 20, 2016

    My Story. I would like to tell you all now,

    rejection is nothing to fear. I have known a girl for years now, to protect her anonymity I'll call her "C", It was love at first sight, I wanted to be with her, but I couldn't pluck up the courage to tell her. Today that changed. We were hanging out with friends and I just...
    PugsAndPenguins PugsAndPenguins
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Apr 18, 2015

    After being in a new relationship

    for about 3 weeks now, I feel that I'm starting to see the true colors of my girlfriend. She, like me, suffers from a form of depression, the only real difference between us is I know how to deal with mine in positive manner from years of therapy, she has not. I do not think of...
    NinaPants97 NinaPants97
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    I'm afraid that if I ever get into a serious

    relationship with some one I might be to fast on wanting that. I just don't want to get rejected for coming on too strong.
    JerichoM JerichoM
    18-21, M
    Feb 11, 2016

    My LO (limerance object) is my fitness

    instructor. She made a difference in my life because I was at one of my lowest point in my life when I joined her gym 2 years ago and being in the gym a lot since has helped me heal slowly. I even wrote her a letter about how I feel that she made a difference in my life. She...
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    But its better to try

    and be rejected than to not take the chance at all. I only wish it was a easier thing to do.
    TickTockTickTock TickTockTickTock
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    My Life History Part 1: Finally I have some

    quiet time for myself so now I will share my life history with all of you. I hope I will get some insight I haven't came across before. I was born in China in the 80's. From what I know, my parents never lived just by themselves after marriage. They lived with my paternal...
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 20, 2016

    I cant be myself with my family.

    Truly, when I'm happy and the days depression isnt weighing me down. I like being weird and dancing and laughing loud. I cant with my family. If I start to sing or dance in the car and get my little sister to lighten up and smile. (Shes only 8 and always serious because my...
    KiraRawr KiraRawr
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    Rejection is the reason

    why people deny their true feelings.
    DeathThrone DeathThrone
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Feb 27, 2015
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