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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    There's this girl in my art class

    and I think she likes me, maybe, I don't know but I can't Speke when I'm around her cause I'm afraid I will screw it up so what do I do, any suggestions?
    Tigerbentz Tigerbentz 16-17, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 26

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    The thing is that I want to go hang out with

    people and I have their number. But every time I think of it and grab my phone to text and am ready to send it out, but I take a second thought that what if they decline?. That makes me feel like they probably don't want to hang out with me that's why.... I know I think too much...
    Saya0414 Saya0414 26-30, F 13 Responses 6 days ago

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    flyguy3326 flyguy3326 13-15, M 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Anytime I message someone online

    and they never answer a piece of me dies and I question who I am as a whole. Js
    isuckatthisstuff isuckatthisstuff 16-17, M 6 Responses Aug 24

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    oh yes big time. speaking about guys,

    everytime i like someone my midset is always, "oh he wont like me back" or "if i tell him i like him hell say no" because im just afraid of rejection!
    PeaceAndLove1 PeaceAndLove1 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    Rejection, pain, being alone.

    ..it scares me. Yet I seem to do nothing to change it. I do think I am in love. Or maybe its a crush. I hate myself for not saying anything. And thats just because of FEAR. I will never know if she feels the same. I'm a ******* coward!!!!!
    blackHM blackHM 22-25 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Every relationship I have been in has been long

    term but I can't seem to connect with anyone anymore and I know it's my own fault. All the **** I've been through before with anyone from my past just makes me push people away now because I can't stand the idea of opening myself to someone again and being hurt. I want to be...
    bluesgem bluesgem 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 27

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    It's pretty sad when you're not afraid of

    rejection because you're so used to it...
    cwebb1221 cwebb1221 13-15, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    okay so I liked this boy

    and I built up enough courage to say on Instagram "hey text me" and then my # he blocked me and idk why and this was in the summer... Now were going into 8th grade he's in 2 of my classes gym which in we have separate gyms boys and girls but Sometimes we do stuff together and...
    alexa49 alexa49 13-15, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Lately I have been feeling like I can't hook up

    with anyone just because I'm so afraid of rejection in the future. I know it sounds stupid, but is that I went through something that created a sort of trauma in my mind.
    PhillHeifer PhillHeifer 26-30, M 9 Responses Sep 8

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    I've been rejected before & it sucks.

    It's like, I wasn't good enough for that person. But sometimes I like to think, that person wasn't good enough for me.
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    This is a silly thing to fear.

    I'm 39 years old, a veteran of two wars, and all sorts of other things that ought to make me fearless. Still, I'm afraid of rejection. It isn't rejection itself that hurts the worst. If someone doesn't like me, I tend not to take it personally. I'm not perfect, not even close...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    Every morning my heart puts on a mask to hide

    what's real. Because we've learned that it feels better to fear in loneliness then to be rejected again for our openness.
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    georgia2001 georgia2001 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 15

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    Have you had this moment whereby you actually

    wanted to talk to that person because she is so attractive and feels like you falling in loveon her again and again, but you cant actually make even just a small step to get near her coz you are afraid of being rejected that she might not even talk to you or easily turn around...
    raiden26 raiden26 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 6

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    Ever since I was a little girl I have not been

    afraid of darkness, monsters, or burglars, but social rejection. It started in the sixth grade. My family made a big move and I faced the challenge of a new school. The first day I went to school, I wore a bright pink turtle neck and teal capris with butterflies on them. As I...
    RubyAnaBelle RubyAnaBelle 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    After my last bad break up with my ex

    girlfriend I've never been the same and am always scared it's gonna end up that way if I let myself go and actually like somebody again. So I end up not trying, I've been asked out a few times by girls and it's been okay but nothing has ever been the same. I need to get back in...
    Favoritejohnny Favoritejohnny 13-15, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    i am afraid of rejection thats

    why i put up with everything you say ... just so i wouldn't end up alone ... no matter how unfair and stupid your demands are i put up with them ... thats called compromise right ??? im afraid that if i ever said a word you'll realize you're better off without me .. and you'll...
    curiousmoi curiousmoi 18-21, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    This is just the worst.

    Even Ep wants a longer story. Gee, thanks guys.
    NocheSombra NocheSombra 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Jaielll Jaielll 18-21, F 14 Responses Aug 24

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    Problem is that it's keeping me from doing a

    lot of stuff I want/should do! Which Leads to not going anywhere with my life.
    aksamm aksamm 22-25, M 5 Responses Sep 7

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 28

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    You ever have that feeling

    when I really like someone but you don't know if they feel the same and u start thinking they don't
    Beatf3 Beatf3 13-15, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am sick of rejections,

    it makes me feel like I am NOT good enough for anyone!!!!! I do not want to be UNEMPLOYED or SINGLE forever!!!!!!!! Damn it!!!!!!
    WantingToSettleDown WantingToSettleDown 31-35, F 8 Responses Jul 29

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    TiarahF TiarahF 18-21, F 15 Responses Sep 10

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    People see me but not

    for me. They see a quiet, shy girl,one that rather keep to herself then be surrounded by people. That may be what I look like on the outside but I'm anything but.... On the inside I'm hoping to be accepted hoping that, that one person would take the leap to talk to the quiet...
    Gabbygirl123 Gabbygirl123 13-15, F 8 Responses Jul 30

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    Not. Everyone will get rejected.

    There's no point stressing out about it. It sucks, true. But there are other people who are interested so why dwell on that single rejection? It's nonsensical to me. It also seems that the people who have this problem are those who seem to be insecure. There are those who just...
    VainGoddess VainGoddess 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Thats why i didn't tell my first love about

    this feeling.. Been 4 years in love with him, secret admirer :| I moved on, i know its wasted time. :")
    daneean daneean 18-21, F Aug 3

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 24

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    I'm not afraid to make decisions

    but I'm afraid if I make that decision people will judge me on that decision I made
    sillyrose1994 sillyrose1994 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 17

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    It's not that I'm "afraid of rejection"

    [anymore]. It's more like I dread the thought of the idea. When I do feel rejected, that's when I get stuck in my head with my thoughts. A very dangerous thing because my own voice in my head is not always the nicest thing. Rejection always hurts the most when it's people or...
    seakissedjem seakissedjem 26-30, F 7 Responses Aug 28

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    I want to get back out there

    and date but I'm afraid. I don't want to find someone that makes me smile again only to have them walk away.
    layladonnelly layladonnelly 31-35, F 14 Responses a week ago

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    I hate myself. If something goes wrong,

    I always feel guilty because I feel I didn't do enough. I have so much work that needs to be done and I am struggling to balance everything. I am afraid of being rejected because I failed to deliver my best. I hate myself. I feel like everything that comes out of my mouth is bad...
    amyshort amyshort 18-21, F 5 Responses 6 days ago

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    I CAN NOT deal with rejection people.

    My fiancee just moved out last month..didn't even see it coming. He moved 2 hours away & has barely talked to me...for the most part he totally ignores me....my texts, phone calls, e-mails. He KNOWS how much I hate being ignored...the whole rejection thing, but he's doing it...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm a big girl. I want to ask guys out

    but I don't see them saying yes. And they never seem interested in me. Even when I feel sexy and dressed.
    beautierica37 beautierica37 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I'm a very picky person.

    And when I like someone, i will always keep my feelings to myself and pretend that I don't have feelings for that person because I'm just scared that If i make the first move, he might don't like me & push me away.
    NynnaDavis NynnaDavis 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 7

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    I hate it when people tell me know without a

    reason it makes you feel a bit unwanted x
    courtney10155 courtney10155 13-15, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    I only meet women online.

    However, I wait for them to come to me. I usually wait for them to ask me to meet. I only ask if I get frustrated and know there's a 100% chance they'll say yes. As a relationship progresses, I usually wait for them to instigate every progression. All because of fear. Silly...
    Marbo12 Marbo12 26-30, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    I've never posted anything on a blog

    or forum because I've feared it wasn't good enough or was pointless. I've spent night after night online for years and read from many others but this is my first. It feels good to have a voice finally.
    DragonSkittles DragonSkittles 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 24

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    I've never let myself get to a stage

    that I can be rejected because I'm afraid of how I will feel afterwards. I'm also too polite to reject someone
    Chemly Chemly 13-15, M 5 Responses Aug 22

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    I am Very afraid of being rejected.

    You would think as often as I have been rejected though that it would be an easy thing to get over now. It is not. When I want to be with someone I have so much emotion and thought tied into that person and they become all I can think about. Half the time I don't even ask...
    Raptax231 Raptax231 18-21, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Yep. I'm afraid of rejection.

    I've been rejected once before and hated the feeling. Most men who've experienced being with someone can easily brush rejection off their shoulder but for me, I've been single my whole life. I've never experienced being in a relationship and when I finally had the courage to ask...
    OdeSlinger OdeSlinger 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 6

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    Who isn't is the question?

    My problem is I long for that feeling you get in your stomach when you meet someone you commence with. What I find is that guys I've met so far don't want that and would rather hook up no strings attached. But, when they get what they want you mean nothing no more :((
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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    And maybe this is ridiculous

    because I'm usually the one doing all of the rejecting. I even reject people I actually like because anything having to do with "being more than friends" puts me on edge and I absolutely ******* hate feeling like I'm going to be alone the rest of my life because no ones going to...
    lookingtovent lookingtovent 16-17, F 4 Responses Sep 5

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 31-35, F 12 Responses Feb 23

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    Hi. I know this is really stupid

    and complicated, and I'm sorry for being so upset for seemingly no reason, but I sort of have a problem. It's barely a problem at all, I know--I'm just blowing it way out of proportion--but I can't help but at least ASK for some support. Okay, first off, I'm a fifteen-year-old...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 5

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    It happened to me in elementary school

    and middle school. My issues started in elementary so I got rejected a lot cause of certain things so I was a loner basically. My problems followed me in middle school because most people from elementary transferred to the same middle school I went to, so obviously rumors spread...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    These were what happened to me today

    and yesterday: I decided to speak up with my crush, who I actually know nothing about at all but my 6th sense told she's the one, however, I could not say a word in front of her. I was waiting for her at the bus stop for about 2 hours but I was so stressed that I ran to her and...
    jleung1995 jleung1995 18-21, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    like, too much! it has come to a point

    where i don't even want to start anything, and by anything i mean anything, i don't even want to have a new cat or something because sometimes i feel like they're rejecting me too! c-c-crazy~ all living things will just going to reject me in the end, and although i know it well...
    yayforKay yayforKay 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 28

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    I am for the most part a self-confident person.

    It is one of my attributes, that my friends comment on the most. Where I am most apt to have the fear of rejection is with someone, I have amorous feelings towards. I have always agreed with, " Nothing ventured, nothing gained. " Most of the time, I proceed, even though I have a...
    Luvhugeuptop Luvhugeuptop 46-50, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I break up with ppl b4 they do cuz am afraid of

    rejection .. I can't handle it
    farnoush farnoush 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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