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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    It all started when I was 9 yrs old.

    Moving to a different country and not knowing the language wasn't easy especially in school where some classmates where not very welcoming :( Later on the stupidest thing I did l (not onece but twice!) Was to ask a kid from school to be my bf (8th Grade) but he rejected me...
    desperatelyshywomen desperatelyshywomen 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 14

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    I have been invited to become an officer in a

    special honors group at my college, I'm afraid that I might not do well or they might not like me but everyone was so friendly. It's hard to remember that they're all human I just hope they take off their masks of perfection and I get to see the real them; that would make me...
    Kaptinkrunch Kaptinkrunch 18-21, M 3 Responses Jul 17

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    I try steer clear from any sort of rejection.

    Even online, I'd rather be a complete d ick than be nice and someone and they not respond in the same manner.
    Atromitos Atromitos 31-35 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have an intense fear of rejection.

    I've reached the point where I don't even try to make new friends because I'm afraid if they don't like me then they'll judge me or make fun of me. I feel like the only place I am safe is in my head. I don't want to tell a girl that I like her because I'm afraid if she says no...
    CJHall1234 CJHall1234 16-17, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    It happened to me in elementary school

    and middle school. My issues started in elementary so I got rejected a lot cause of certain things so I was a loner basically. My problems followed me in middle school because most people from elementary transferred to the same middle school I went to, so obviously rumors spread...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 15

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    So scared of rejection.

    I've always thought I wasn't good enough.. Still do think it. I'm so afraid to talk to guys I like or even admit to them I like them because I'm scared of the word/s "no" or "sorry it's not mutual".
    CallMeChelsea CallMeChelsea 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 10

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    laikastark laikastark 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 12

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    I am afraid of rejection.

    I have been ever since this guy that I liked back and lied to me rejected for a few dislikes about my personality.
    Samaccino Samaccino 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I have some male friends

    and honestly I can't be comfortable with them. I feel like they don't like me at all because of my looks and afraid to be paired up with me for fun. I have plenty of female friends and gay friends, but only few male friends, sadly I don't have anyone even a single close male...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    This is such a stupid fear

    because why does it matter if someone doest like you, you can't be liked by everyone, but it had stopped me from getting to know so many people who I wanted to get to know its ridiculous.
    littleayeaye littleayeaye 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    It bothers me when someone tells me I didn't do

    well on anything. It could be a test, a meal, folding laundry, etc... I am a perfectionist, so if it's not perfect I will be perfecting it until it is! This irritates my mom to the fullest because she has wasted sooooo much money on countless hobbies because i couldn't perfect...
    Vickypearl Vickypearl 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 17

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    So I Run And Hide...

    And my deepest secret is that sometimes I feel so needy...I have loving family, dear friends and the occasional lover. But I'm damaged, so inside the part of me I dare not examine it will probably never be quite enough.If I find myself reaching out too often to someone and they...
    bijouxbroussard bijouxbroussard 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    Every morning my heart puts on a mask to hide

    what's real. Because we've learned that it feels better to fear in loneliness then to be rejected again for our openness.
    KariAlex KariAlex 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    That's why, that's why.

    .. I don't want myself to care too much for people because it causes pain. I talked with a person today. I thought he's gonna be my friend but just found out he blocked me. Worse is he doesn't say anything as to why. I'm left wondering what has been wrong.
    AlfieMark AlfieMark 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 26

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    I am terrified of it,

    and it happens constantly. I sometimes won't even talk and people take me for rude because I am so concerned what I say will be considered weird or dumb. I've silenced conversations before because I am too strange or something I guess. I've become almost terrified to interact...
    CrashingComet CrashingComet 22-25 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I wear panties and want to come out about it,

    but I'm afraid of being disliked about it, so I guess for now at least, I'll keep it to myself
    ForeverMe88 ForeverMe88 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 19

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    Iv been chasing my ex

    for a while now And she doesn't seem to pay attention to what I have to offer. My friends always tell me give her time an she will realise but after two days I go and txt her back again , we'll here's te question, will walking away get her back ??
    zuheb zuheb 18-21, M 6 Responses a week ago

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    I am afraid of being rejected like I'm afraid

    of being open about my fetish. It's a terrifying experience when I think I'm gonna be rejected to the point that I won't do certain things. I don't dress a certain way, because I feel like I wont be accepted. There have been so many girls I thought were so pretty that I never...
    ILF777 ILF777 18-21, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am scared that no one is ever going to like

    me. I tend to keep things and feelings to myself because I don't want people to know how insecure I am. I tend to push people away because I am not ready to tell them everything about myself.
    alwayshappy365 alwayshappy365 16-17, F 5 Responses Apr 28

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    I have trouble meeting new people

    because of it. I fall very easily for someone and once I have the courage to ask them out I back out because I do not want to be rejected. I have never had a boyfriend because of it. I wanna be in love but am too scared. :/
    KelsiPowPowTayler KelsiPowPowTayler 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    In society, i try to fit in

    and pretend to like the same things everybody does. But it kills me inside not to express my own feelings and enjoy the things i like. But if i do, everyone will think im wierd and im afriad they would neglect me. As a teen, everyone at my school goes to parties and get wasted...
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 5 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    What are some ways you all handle a situation

    where you make a move and they say no? I'd say I get a no about 30% of the time when asking a girl to dinner, a date or her number, that kind of thing, and I haven't really perfected my "walk away" move and sometimes it gets a little awkward.
    DrakeLineous DrakeLineous 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 18

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    I'm a bi and I've confessed to a girl.

    She gave me no response. She has been close with her guy friend recently and she will definitely be in a relationship with him soon. It really broke my heart and I've decided to let go. But one day while playing truth or dare, she said she has feelings for me. I'm very confused...
    greenflapper greenflapper 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    I'm afraid to really be myself anymore.

    People nowadays judge everyone on anything. The way they dress, how much they weigh, pretty much anything. When I see someone looking at me, I automatically assume they're mentally making fun of me & it sucks. I just want to find someone I can be 100% myself with all the time...
    bekoveranything bekoveranything 13-15, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Isn't Everyone

    Rejection is part of life, its character building or so I'm told..... but you see, I'm scared of rejection, I'm human, its normal, I recognise that..... i also know that I have an awful habit pushing others away BEFORE I am rejected....I am getting better not doing this, but it...
    lostlittlefirefly lostlittlefirefly 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Every relationship I have been in has been long

    term but I can't seem to connect with anyone anymore and I know it's my own fault. All the **** I've been through before with anyone from my past just makes me push people away now because I can't stand the idea of opening myself to someone again and being hurt. I want to be...
    bluesgem bluesgem 18-21, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Rejection, regardless of

    who it comes from, makes me question who I am, who people want me to be, what I did wrong. Then I change, I become desperate and cling to the person who rejected me, being what they want me to be, just because to me, the rejection is justified and they deserve someone who isn't...
    SilentJamie SilentJamie 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 2

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    Hi. My names Justin and I am Pan/Bi.

    I have always been afraid of being rejected by any person that I have fallen for because I haven't had the best relationships in the world. Every one of them ended in tears. There was this guy. I've known him for a while and I've started to like him, but I don't know if I should...
    justinbartolome justinbartolome 13-15, M 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    My girlfriend of almost two years left me a

    couple of months ago for her 17yo ex. Apparently she was in love with this girl the entire time she and I were together. Then got back in touch with her ex about the first May and dropped me. I feel so rejected and lost. How could I love her for almost two years, living with her...
    EpicChick22 EpicChick22 18-21, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was made fun of all through my childhood

    and now I am very careful of who I let close because I don't want to be made fun of and rejected.
    KJVgirl92 KJVgirl92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    oh yes big time. speaking about guys,

    everytime i like someone my midset is always, "oh he wont like me back" or "if i tell him i like him hell say no" because im just afraid of rejection!
    PeaceAndLove1 PeaceAndLove1 18-21, F 11 Responses Jun 11

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    I think the whole reason I don't speak up first.

    1. Rejection, 2. Awkwardness, & then finally 3. It just doesn't work out and becomes a disaster.
    JuanitaaLovee JuanitaaLovee 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 19

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Isabella295 Isabella295 13-15, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I am scared to be myself around a lot of people

    because I am into a lot of stuff others are not. It sucks....
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    , ı m convicted rejection.

    ı know.ı guess ım sicked of that always knowing what will be happen at next step:)
    idunnowhttodo idunnowhttodo 22-25, F a week ago

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    Several times in my life I have had a crush on

    a girl ,but never can I gather the nerves to ask them out. I was in China for school last year and I met a girl just like me. She had similar hobbies and habits as me and for the first time in my life I felt connected, but soon came the last day of school. I was leaving and so...
    tommyfung tommyfung 16-17, M Jun 29

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    A year ago i dated a guy

    who was really sweet and I actually loved him so much, I still do, we couldn't talk much tho because we had final exams at the time, I traveled one day after the exams were done so we couldn't talk for a month, I did miss him, but when I came back he was already dating another...
    hgscgirl hgscgirl 16-17, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I HATE MISSING SOMEONE,

    knowing they DONT GIVE A ****!!
    saaya04 saaya04 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 11

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    "Go talk to your crush!

    " HAHAHAHAHAHAHA no.
    jordins22 jordins22 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 11

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    I like someone who used to like me,

    and I think he still does like me, because he's using pick up lines... But he dated my bestfriend and I'm afraid she'll hate me... Help..
    hannahg13 hannahg13 13-15, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    i think the rejection is one my biggest fears

    since ever. I always lived in a small town, and I still havent found any interesting guy. I actually thought that there werent anybody for me in this world, cause im very weird. Guess what, this year i went to university and I FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!! (ok, maybe its not, but...
    monicafixe monicafixe 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 31-35, F 13 Responses Feb 23

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    I've been rejected sometimes

    for just being me
    zward14 zward14 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I don't know why, but I've always had this

    feeling that I'm going to be rejected by others. It's a truly horrible feeling that makes me sick to my stomach. Ever since I was young I got rejected by people. People rejected me for being an epileptic and having a few other illnesses, thus givng them the impression that I...
    KMargatroid KMargatroid 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    I am extremely afraid of rejection

    that it's at a point of being irrational. I tend to let my mind get in the way and therefore it stops me from getting anywhere with any woman.
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've been rejected before & it sucks.

    It's like, I wasn't good enough for that person. But sometimes I like to think, that person wasn't good enough for me.
    oxxxmv oxxxmv 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    I hate when people don't

    even bother to try and know me. They just stay in their exclusive cliques and categorize not just me, but anyone as someone "not worthy" to talk to. I tend to be shy meeting new people because of experiences and expectations like this. ****** me off because I'm not quiet when I...
    SabrinaB27 SabrinaB27 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    I'm afraid of rejection- I am a reject

    What holds me back from interacting with others ina way that opens me up completely? That makes me vulnerable? Rejection. That even if I do try to get to know others and allow them to get to know me, that they would reject me. Its happened before. I would try to "connect" with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Dec 8, 2013

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    I would like to go out

    and find a guy and build a meaningful relationship. I'm just tired of being lonely and not having the affection and the closure and such that comes with a relationship. Since I got out of a long relationship I have been single (almost a year now). It used to be so easy for me...
    ems350z ems350z 16-17, F 5 Responses Jul 3

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    Yeah you heard it right, I am not afraid of rejection. If i ask a girl and then she rejects me, i would'nt cry or feel bad.
    mahdiraza mahdiraza 16-17, M 1 Response 17 hrs ago