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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    I have never had a girlfriend

    or even a best friend! I've grown up in a household where we don't learn how to express love. No one has ever said that they love me, so how how am I supposed to... I have always been open and honest person, but somehow I can never form some sort of a close relationship. Be it...
    grungie13 grungie13 26-30, M 5 Responses Jan 24

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    I have a girlfriend. I can't believe it.

    I feel lucky, so I felt like I could share it with everyone on here.
    xXMarcelineXx xXMarcelineXx 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 27, 2015

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    I am afraid of rejection.

    I get depressed and suicidal if someone says they're busy or they don't have time for me. Yet when a person assures me they won't leave, I instantly push that person away. it dawns on me that I have ambivalent attachment issues.
    driftingalone driftingalone 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 15, 2015

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    I DO A LOT OF THINKING BEFORE I GO TO SLEEP

    I play scenes in my head. I practice the things I want to say. I have endless *what IFS* I make plans for the next day I think off all the people I miss especially of my crush and because of that I feel like I wanna die.
    Gyeong Gyeong 13-15, F 6 Responses Dec 18, 2015

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    I'm living a lonely life,

    many friends but few who listen
    HyenaBlaster HyenaBlaster 13-15, F 4 Responses Dec 12, 2015

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    That feeling when you get ignored by people you

    want to talk to and you have no idea why they're ignoring you.
    Gh0u1 Gh0u1 26-30, M 4 Responses Jan 24

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    Don't feel bad if someone rejects you.

    People usually reject expensive things, because they can't afford them.
    DeathThrone DeathThrone 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 2, 2015

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    And every single day

    when I come here I am rejected. I usually check in to an empty inbox. I write daily to multiple people and get nothing in return. I have been here for more than a year searching for a skype partner and of the millions here not 1 single girl has even given me a chance. I...
    myzterieboy myzterieboy 36-40, M Dec 13, 2015

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    I am afraid of being rejected,

    especially when I try to befriend or engage with someone honestly and without ill intent. It's disturbing when people shoot you down before you can even represent yourself, it's so bewildering. Can't you have the decency to not prejudge me based off of your limited experience...
    1ANGRYtitan 1ANGRYtitan 16-17, M 3 Responses Apr 14, 2015

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    I just started seeing this guy a few weeks ago.

    I'm so so scared of being hurt. I don't know what his intentions are. If I get hurt again then I can't do this again... I cant let myself get hurt again. I'll give up.
    rememberthegirl rememberthegirl 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    Because of this reason I rejected the things

    which happened earlier in my life wish some queen is there for me ...God bought her to me....she was the most most amazing person I ever been with ....I love her as a person than my girlfriend...I bet anyone who knows her will fall in love with her for sure she is such pretty...
    dawnprince dawnprince 22-25, M Jan 18

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    OhFudge OhFudge 18-21, F 10 Responses Jul 13, 2015

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I want more friends and a relationship

    but I'm too scared of not being worthy enough.
    Apostasies Apostasies 18-21, F 13 Responses Jun 4, 2015

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    Here's a thought We're taught to put ourselves

    out there. "Be yourself" (even if that isn't who you want to be - and you're condemned if you don't conform to a certain ideal) but one thing we're never taught to handle is rejection. We often get rejected by the people in our lives who matter most but nobody actually...
    Riffster Riffster 51-55, M 4 Responses Dec 17, 2015

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    I am happy when people around me are happy,

    but does anyone care if I'm happy too? makes me wonder.
    Mssweetness31 Mssweetness31 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2015

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    2015 shall go down as the year of rejection.

    rejected two time for a promotion rejected 60 plus times for a new career. countless rejections for friendships and relationships. and now after pursuing a new option for a career I have been rejected for that as well. so why should I bother trying anymore? what's the point in...
    dazedandalone dazedandalone 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 21, 2015

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    i m sandeep koushik frm jaipur rajasthan india.

    .i vry simple nd cool typs of guy..rght nw i m stedunt..i hve no job so thatswhy i hve lots of prblm about my pocket money
    sandeepanu sandeepanu 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 28

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    Ever since this really bad situation in 2013

    where i attempted suicide several times over a guy, i've sworn to myself never try to get a guy's attention ever again. I was never supposed to either way, it's how my mom raised me but i was so mesmerized by him had never being in a relationship that i just couldn't help myself...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Everyone asks me when I am going to get a

    boyfriend, when am I going to start dating and I always laugh it off and say who has time for that but the truth is I would love to have someone to share my life with I am just afraid. I don't like myself most of the time so how can I expect someone else to like me?
    DriftingDreaming DriftingDreaming 26-30, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I have felt rejection before,

    but there is nothing like the horrendous feeling you get when you've been shut out and rejected by your own children.
    donnas70 donnas70 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    I absolutely refuse to pursue.

    Rejection is humiliating. I refuse to even pursue friendships with people. I just let whomever is interested in me come to me. Even then, I fear people getting bored with me so I distance myself as much as possible.
    justpathetic justpathetic 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 1, 2015

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    Rejection makes me feel

    so alone and nonsense.
    potatobanana27 potatobanana27 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 22

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    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 1, 2015

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    every weekend I tell myself I'm getting dressed

    and going into the real world and I'm asking g a guy I think is cute for his number. every weekend I tell myself how bad of an idea that was and that's kind no way to get over my anxiety.
    hiddenjem hiddenjem 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    The sentiment I have is that,

    why would someone I like, like me back, when they can have someone much skinnier and prettier?Why would they settle for me?I typically end up liking guys who are pretty good looking but why would such a guy settle for someone like me, with so many flaws and who isn't...
    Catmagic101a Catmagic101a 18-21, F 13 Responses Feb 22, 2015

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    I'm 23...every guy I meet

    for the past year never wants anything from me. Honestly Ive slept with a lot of men I meet because I figure it's easier to get it out of the way. I don't really see a problem with it but even the guys I don't sleep with still don't want me. They all say I'm a catch, but if and...
    lostbutfocused lostbutfocused 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 29, 2015

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    there is a girl that I like.

    she was once close to but we got Into an argument about her boyfriend at the time because he treats her like **** and we stopped talking after that. now she's come back into my life by coincidence and I just want my chance to show her what love should he like. I'm just afraid...
    Eniigmak Eniigmak 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    I've always been afraid of rejection.

    My last friend ship wth this girl made it worse she always took the guys I liked called me names said I was ugly just wasn't nice.She would tell me that I shouldn't ask the guy I liked to hang out because he would say no she was just always rude about it and I've got rejected so...
    kassidyforreal kassidyforreal 18-21, F 10 Responses May 17, 2015

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    They say be yourself

    but than we have ******** in the world that reject u and judge u because of that.
    someoneunimportant03 someoneunimportant03 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 4, 2015

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    Well I think that this is something very common

    in all ..Its a basic human nature ..It is nothing to be ashamed of ..The best way to deal with this fear is to not think it as a fear ..It is just a feeling & we should not let this feeling put us down & make us step back ..If someone rejects us we should not feel bad at all...
    Calmsoul Calmsoul 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 1

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    Always afraid of being rejected

    because that hurts my feelings :/
    AllisonDeajaVu AllisonDeajaVu 13-15, F 3 Responses Dec 19, 2015

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    i mean who wouldn't be?

    you put yourself out there and now for the wait of an answer. now that answer or response can either hurt you or make you happy. you never know what life throws at you and you never know what route its going to go.
    xxpawprintsxx xxpawprintsxx 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2015

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    No one wants to be shot down

    so ya :( shyness needs to go be shy somewhere
    CaseyCutiePie CaseyCutiePie 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 30, 2015

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    i avoid people because it's easier to deal with

    loneliness rather than getting rejected
    kempt kempt 18-21, F 8 Responses Aug 30, 2015

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    I'm soon to be 27 with 5 son's,

    I have a broken relationship with my mom, its a total love hate thing. I know alot if her hurt is from me gaving kids with a guy she felt wasn't fit for me. which ten years later she was right. im heart broken and am now a single mom, though i love my sons i didnt see it...
    nazaigen nazaigen 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2015

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    I wouldn't know what rejection is felt like,

    although the term 'heart-break' seems a bit melodramatic to me. Opinion wise, if you are afraid to engage in a love interest then you may never know her/his response in the first place. What's better? Knowing that you tried, or regretting that you didn't try?
    RosenFlight RosenFlight 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 24

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    For everyone who is afraid- You can't spend the

    rest of your life being afraid of people rejecting you, and you have to start by not rejecting yourself, you don't deserve it. From now on, people an either accept you for who you are or they can **** off.
    ObviouslyMe ObviouslyMe 13-15 2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

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    I hate that I fall for someone

    so quickly... I've never been in love but this man that I'm dating now I think it's real && I think that I'm falling for him... Of course I'm afraid but I really like him && don't wanna run him off!!! I just hope when my feelings get involved the rug isn't pulled from under my...
    NaturallyRomantic NaturallyRomantic 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    deleted deleted 26-30 29 Responses Jun 27, 2015

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    Thing is i make friends fast

    and easy. But i am always being myself not the cool version i created of myself. Feel like they would think i am looser and i want to show just good sides.... Thats why dont let people too close, afraid that they will think i am pathetic, not like me...
    vasinas vasinas 22-25, F Dec 14, 2015

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    I've always been afraid of rejection,

    and I believe it's held me back on many occasions throughout my life. This year, however, I have been braver than my past self as I've had an increase in confidence after taking up some exercise classes and started to feel good about myself. This confidence allowed me to...
    Hanban25 Hanban25 22-25, F 11 Responses Oct 8, 2015

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    I wish I can go back to the day

    and time that I met my ex-boyfriend so I can warn myself of the hurt.
    lovebutt34 lovebutt34 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 18, 2015

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    i cant i just cant i had

    so much advice but i am afraid of rejection and then they would laugh at me an tell everyone else and they will say ew ur ugly and i want to change my style so i need extreme help
    genericusername23 genericusername23 13-15, M 2 Responses Jan 31

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    I cant be myself with my family.

    Truly, when I'm happy and the days depression isnt weighing me down. I like being weird and dancing and laughing loud. I cant with my family. If I start to sing or dance in the car and get my little sister to lighten up and smile. (Shes only 8 and always serious because my...
    KiraRawr KiraRawr 16-17, F 10 Responses Jun 28, 2015

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