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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    Last year, I went to school with this one boy

    who was really cool and was just like me, I felt like he was my best friend and he kinda was. I found out that I loved him and my teacher helped me with this. I kept rejecting that I loved him when my teacher teased me. In one part of my brain, I knew I could never like him that...
    MysteriousDragon MysteriousDragon 13-15, F 5 Responses Feb 1

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    When he reads your message

    but doesn't answer...:'(
    pxthetic pxthetic 13-15, F 8 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Ever since this really bad situation in 2013

    where i attempted suicide several times over a guy, i've sworn to myself never try to get a guy's attention ever again. I was never supposed to either way, it's how my mom raised me but i was so mesmerized by him had never being in a relationship that i just couldn't help myself...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Hi. I know this is really stupid

    and complicated, and I'm sorry for being so upset for seemingly no reason, but I sort of have a problem. It's barely a problem at all, I know--I'm just blowing it way out of proportion--but I can't help but at least ASK for some support. Okay, first off, I'm a fifteen-year-old...
    MysteryMe110 MysteryMe110 13-15, F 6 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    quietlad quietlad 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 10

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    I think that's my worse fear of them all,

    end up alone with no one by my side, I think a lot of people feel the same way,
    Archangel202 Archangel202 18-21, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    I want people to love me

    for who I am! :)
    juliettecf juliettecf 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    Been separated for almost 9 months now

    but my husband and I recently started really talking again and have been getting a lot closer. He asked to spend valentines weekend with me and I, of course, accepted. I emailed him today and asked him if he'd like to take a short weekend beach trip but he has yet to respond. In...
    WhiteRaven13 WhiteRaven13 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 5

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    Perfect and bulletproof are seductive,

    but they don't exist in human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be-a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation-with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and...
    HotMessExpress101 HotMessExpress101 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 25, 2014

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    How do I forget a *****(sorry girls

    but theres no better word) who I hate with every fiber of my being but still have feelings for?
    placesivebeen placesivebeen 18-21, M 32 Responses Jan 30

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    I hate when people don't

    even bother to try and know me. They just stay in their exclusive cliques and categorize not just me, but anyone as someone "not worthy" to talk to. I tend to be shy meeting new people because of experiences and expectations like this. ****** me off because I'm not quiet when I...
    Sapphirebee27 Sapphirebee27 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 26, 2014

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I'm in the process of leaving someone

    who completely has rejected and abused me every single day. I know I have to push on with my life and not look back. I have to start my life all over again. Back to square one. I don't want to be hurt anymore. I don't want to be the rejected.
    voodooGoddess77 voodooGoddess77 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    crushing sucks because you think you get

    rejected...I've been rejected many a time. to not be would be lovely
    TayyBears TayyBears 18-21, T 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Rejection is the reason

    why people deny their true feelings.
    KarenIsMyName KarenIsMyName 18-21, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm terrified of being deemed 'unworthy' i'm

    reasonably attractive and friendly so on the surface I attract guys' attention. But i'm picky, not purposefully , rarely do I feel that chemistry with a guy, only when I do, its never reciprocated. They're special to me but I'm not to them. It hurts me everytime. It puts me off...
    marsbarzzz91 marsbarzzz91 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    It always seems that the guys

    that I fall for end up liking skinny, gorgeous smart girls who are way better in every aspect than me. I guess thats where my fear comes from....
    Mai100 Mai100 13-15, F 4 Responses Feb 22

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    -Understand where people are coming from -Learn

    from your mistakes -Don't beat yourself up all the time or be too hard on yourself -Be yourself -Don't live in the past -don't worry about the future -Be there for people -Work hard -Be silent and let success be your noise -Be kind -Stand up for what you believe in -don't give...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    TiarahF TiarahF 18-21, F 14 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I call feel him pushing me away

    and its killing me slowly
    BeccyLouiseee BeccyLouiseee 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    I hate it when people tell me know without a

    reason it makes you feel a bit unwanted x
    courtney10155 courtney10155 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    I've recently been talking to this girl

    and we were hitting it off perfectly, someone i could truly fall for and seemingly out of no where, she appeared to have lost all interest. It's breaking my heart cause I'm scared to ask her of her feelings now because I hate asking questions I'm scared of the answer to. How do...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 14

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    What if someone said

    that I wasn't good enough for them. If someone feels rejected like this, it is time you buy some ice cream and watch some T.V.
    urmurgurd urmurgurd 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm prepared now... I'll come to you

    and tell you how I feel, I will tell you exactly how I feel at least I will try to. I'm not expecting anything in return... I know you'll reject me, I know It'll be awkward for us after but believe me.. I will tell you how I feel because I need to be rejected properly by you...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    Maybe it's closer to correct to say: I am

    so tired of rejection that I have given up trying.
    m0u513 m0u513 41-45, M Feb 15

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    I always feel left out

    and excluded from things even in a room full of friends. It's gotten to the point where I stopped spending time with people just to avoid getting hurt again. Now I just feel lonely constantly. I don't really feel like I'm contributing to anything and that it wouldn't matter if I...
    unintentionalninja unintentionalninja 16-17, T 3 Responses Feb 17

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    I am a gay man. Like it

    or not, that's who I am. :)
    miguelminajj miguelminajj 18-21, M 7 Responses Feb 23

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    The sentiment I have is that,

    why would someone I like, like me back, when they can have someone much skinnier and prettier?Why would they settle for me?I typically end up liking guys who are pretty good looking but why would such a guy settle for someone like me, with so many flaws and who isn't...
    Catmagic101a Catmagic101a 18-21, F 16 Responses Feb 22

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    I am afraid you will shut me down,

    push me away tell me "I Love You Baby" only to leave again the next day..... I am lonely.....wanting you to Love me like we used to for so many years, and hours as moons would fade into the nights and the sun would shine bright we Loved every day and night, held each...
    Andielee Andielee 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 23, 2014

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    I am terrified of it.

    So many people are kind to me in school, especially so, since I'm the shy, brainy, homely girl, but I can't make myself seek their friendship. It isn't that I don't want friends, I do so very badly. But I have a wall in my mind that will not allow me to approach people, or...
    AlexaFaye AlexaFaye 13-15, F Feb 3

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    My ex broke up with her bf,

    finally. She actually kicked him out too. This was a long time coming and I'm so proud of her for standing up for herself. She's been texting me every day with loads of happy faces and I want to see yous. Should I be excited? Lol I'm nervous and scared. What if I get my hopes...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm always told that I'm wanted by this guy,

    but I'm scared that even though he says he wants to be with me, he is just saying that to make me feel better, and he really wants nothing to do with me. I'm scared to ask him, because I don't want to be rejected, and left alone again...
    Rawritslynne Rawritslynne 18-21, F 3 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    Yesterday I finally built the courage to

    message the cute guy I used to have in a class on Facebook. I wasn't even expecting him to reply & it ended with us planning a road trip to California in the next couple of weeks, and he also asked me if I wanted to go shooting with him sometime (I had posted a status about how...
    rangek rangek 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I was always afraid of rejection.

    I rarely show people the 'real' me though I'm not so sure who's the 'real' me. I'm afraid that once they found out the other side of me, they'll runaway and ditch me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Feb 4

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    My biggest thought on being rejected is "you

    are all beautiful and unique, if the person you like doesn't like you back or says no it's their loss not yours. They don't know what they're missing out on" so the next time you get rejected just know that that person lost an awesome gal/guy
    AllisonLuvsMusic AllisonLuvsMusic 16-17, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    Yes i am afraid of getting hurt

    or rejected i admit it. Its kind of ruining me because i berely do new stuff, apply for a job or get myself out there in fear of getting rejected or hurt
    Alexandralanon Alexandralanon 22-25, F 7 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    Everyone asks me when I am going to get a

    boyfriend, when am I going to start dating and I always laugh it off and say who has time for that but the truth is I would love to have someone to share my life with I am just afraid. I don't like myself most of the time so how can I expect someone else to like me?
    DriftingDreaming DriftingDreaming 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I hate my life. This is my only outlet.

    I have no one to talk to. I don't have any friends and I am ostracized. The problem is, I don't know what I did to deserve this. I am always kind and friendly to people. I never talk bad about anyone because it's wrong and not who I am. I make myself as approachable as possible...
    Om3awaken Om3awaken 18-21, F 11 Responses Sep 29, 2014

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    I'm Jacob, 18 years old

    and have a pathological fear of rejection. From about the age of 9, my parents - especially my mum - would compare me to other kids in my class. She thought, and was right about the fact that I was smarter than most of the kids my age. I just didn't put any effort in because...
    JohnVBlackburn JohnVBlackburn 18-21, M 5 Responses Oct 4, 2014

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    well long story short,

    my gf once cheated me for no apparent reason. and now i find it quite hard to get close to women again. it's not like i can easily get close to another people anyway, i wasn't sociable from the start. and i thought i can trust that girl. but i can't. not even myself. i...
    Chronom Chronom 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 20

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    I have a crush on my 'straight' best friend.

    She's never treated me differently even though she knows I'm a lesbian, and I'm so glad she accepted me. however I can't help but feel like its an act and she actually hates me. however I also can't help but think of her as more than a friend
    Stormla Stormla 13-15, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    To say "I'm afraid of rejection" is a complete

    understatement. The fear of it pretty much governs my life. Even asking my friends to go out with me is hard, because even if they say no for a legitimate reason, I'll take that as a straight up rejection. Relationships obviously follow the same pattern. I'd honestly rather...
    thenewboy87 thenewboy87 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 11

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    Ever since I was a little girl I have not been

    afraid of darkness, monsters, or burglars, but social rejection. It started in the sixth grade. My family made a big move and I faced the challenge of a new school. The first day I went to school, I wore a bright pink turtle neck and teal capris with butterflies on them. As I...
    RubyAnaBelle RubyAnaBelle 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 27, 2014

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    Today, I went to see my therapist

    for the first time. She walked up to me and I looked up and saw she had dwarfism. She seated me down, and after a few questions, she asked me "You're too scared to talk to people? Why?". It was at that moment I realised how stupid I had been to think the problem I had with my...
    Rainex Rainex 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    I've never dated because I'm afraid to be

    rejected by the guy!! I dun dare to say yes for fear it's. Joke.
    sensitivegal sensitivegal 36-40, F 6 Responses Feb 10

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    But it's just so prominent in my life

    that I almost HAVE to live with it.
    woot2u2 woot2u2 16-17, M 2 Responses Feb 9