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I Am Afraid of Rejection

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    For as long as I can remember,

    I always felt like I was at the mercy of others. Being made to feel like I was always supposed to be at everyone else's beacon call. I didn't start to think about me until I was 16. My mother was manipulative and my dad was absent. And they didn't much like each other by the...
    WarriorsHeart WarriorsHeart 22-25, M May 19

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    gigglebunnie gigglebunnie 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm terrified of being deemed 'unworthy' i'm

    reasonably attractive and friendly so on the surface I attract guys' attention. But i'm picky, not purposefully , rarely do I feel that chemistry with a guy, only when I do, its never reciprocated. They're special to me but I'm not to them. It hurts me everytime. It puts me off...
    marsbarzzz91 marsbarzzz91 22-25, F 7 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I want people to love me

    for who I am! :)
    juliettecf juliettecf 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    I have been very heartbroken

    and down since me and my ex boyfriend broke up. I am now sleeping with his friend. But my ex doesn't know about it. Please don't judge me. I feel awful, myself, about it sometimes. Sometimes I just cry and cry and cry thinking I won't be able to stop crying. Because I miss my ex...
    Staziaa Staziaa 16-17, F 8 Responses May 13

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    I am VERY afraid of rejection.

    Maybe that's why when I like someone, I just keep it to myself and don't try to get his attention. Sometimes, when he does get close to me, I will be happy and talk back. But then the fear of rejection creeps in which makes me avoid him at all cost which makes me seem aloof and...
    sofiahafirda sofiahafirda 16-17, F 10 Responses May 17

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    TiarahF TiarahF 18-21, F 12 Responses Sep 10, 2014

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    I was abandoned by my mother at 2yo.

    I was taken to live with my grandmother and after about 18months my father told me that she did not want me anymore and took me away to live with an aunt. At 4 yo. my aunt did not want me and I was left at a school. At 5yo, my mother snatched me back, told me NOT to speak...
    marmitemicky marmitemicky 70+, M 13 Responses Sep 21, 2014

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    I am a gay man. Like it

    or not, that's who I am. :)
    miguelminajj miguelminajj 18-21, M 7 Responses Feb 23

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    I have just about given up on finding a

    girlfriend. No one wants a chubby guy with a 2 year old son it seems like... Idk maybe I am doing something wrong :/
    RL2301 RL2301 22-25, M 15 Responses 1 day ago

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    Everyone asks me when I am going to get a

    boyfriend, when am I going to start dating and I always laugh it off and say who has time for that but the truth is I would love to have someone to share my life with I am just afraid. I don't like myself most of the time so how can I expect someone else to like me?
    DriftingDreaming DriftingDreaming 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2014

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    I've been struggling to move on from a guy

    for months and its upsetting me on a daily basis. Im rarely attracted to people but myself and this guy had lots in common and I've felt drawn to him in a way I have never felt before. We both have a similar, slanted view of the world, odd sense of humor and he has a really...
    TwinFoxes TwinFoxes 16-17, F 8 Responses May 9

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    Yes i am afraid of getting hurt

    or rejected i admit it. Its kind of ruining me because i berely do new stuff, apply for a job or get myself out there in fear of getting rejected or hurt
    Alexandralanon Alexandralanon 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 9, 2014

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    I'm trying acting for a while.

    I'm actually getting a degree in it but I'm afraid of being rejected. How can I get over this fear and reach my full potential?
    UnawakenedSoul UnawakenedSoul 22-25, F 1 Response May 19

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    I'm so afraid of rejection

    that I just push people away when I feel like things are going bad. I try to fix it but nothing ever works. Instead of them leaving me I end up excluding myself when I feel them start slipping away. I'm going insane. I don't want to feel unwanted anymore. But I guess I make...
    JustWantItToWork JustWantItToWork 26-30, F 8 Responses May 9

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    Perfect and bulletproof are seductive,

    but they don't exist in human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be-a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation-with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and...
    HotMessExpress101 HotMessExpress101 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 25, 2014

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    The sentiment I have is that,

    why would someone I like, like me back, when they can have someone much skinnier and prettier?Why would they settle for me?I typically end up liking guys who are pretty good looking but why would such a guy settle for someone like me, with so many flaws and who isn't...
    Catmagic101a Catmagic101a 18-21, F 14 Responses Feb 22

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    From boys to jobs am just terrified of

    rejection period it is definitely holding me back but I am working on getting over my fear
    bumblebee2393 bumblebee2393 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I got fooled by a tranny,

    anyway she had abig unit and I got done
    sssssss44 sssssss44 51-55, M 1 Response May 10

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    I've always been afraid of rejection.

    My last friend ship wth this girl made it worse she always took the guys I liked called me names said I was ugly just wasn't nice.She would tell me that I shouldn't ask the guy I liked to hang out because he would say no she was just always rude about it and I've got rejected so...
    kassidyforreal kassidyforreal 16-17, F 12 Responses May 17

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    I'm prepared now... I'll come to you

    and tell you how I feel, I will tell you exactly how I feel at least I will try to. I'm not expecting anything in return... I know you'll reject me, I know It'll be awkward for us after but believe me.. I will tell you how I feel because I need to be rejected properly by you...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 9 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    When he reads your message

    but doesn't answer...:'(
    pxthetic pxthetic 13-15, F 8 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    I was once in my life only a short

    while ago extremely afraid of rejection :but.that is NOT the case anylonger.I accept myself (every single cell in my unique body)and my precious soul just the way it is.Ofcourse i still have plenty of learning and growing to do which i am so excited for and will embrace good or...
    stephanie82 stephanie82 31-35, F 1 Response May 18

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    I'm so afraid I become a nervous wreck

    when I talk to a girl I like.
    Taylor222222 Taylor222222 16-17, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    When I was younger, I was always rejected,

    every man, every girl. many men used me, many females treated me like a worthless piece of trash. Every day I would go to school fearing what would happen next, would my heart break more? Would someone else hate me? Look at me like a misfit. But then I met the man of my dreams...
    jamiedoe94 jamiedoe94 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    georgia2001 georgia2001 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Rejection is the reason

    why people deny their true feelings.
    ElizabethSwanTurner ElizabethSwanTurner 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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    After being rejected over

    and over again, rejection is no stranger to me. I have my guard up all the time just in case someone I love rejects me. I find that I am growing distant from the ones I love and I hate it.
    23fly41 23fly41 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    It's hard for me to open up

    and express my feelings. When I like you, I hope you already knew and you felt the same way. It saves me the pain of maybe you not wanting me or me being some other girl to you. I want you to know my feelings and attach yourself to my well-being. To understand the pain I feel...
    BreeBark BreeBark 16-17, F 23 hrs ago

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    I experienced a divorce with children in the

    middle and a move 2 hours away about 3 years ago. I just wanted to have a fresh start with a new relationship. In the meantime my family all turned against me and I felt alone and overwhelmed with manipulation and rejection of others. Everything affected some choices I made. The...
    smiles212 smiles212 31-35, F 2 Responses May 18

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    Lol I don't know where to start.

    I don't start relationships for this reason. I just don't like the feeling of being unwanted. I've been rejected before, but the craziest part is that it's usually by people who wanted me in the beginning. It seems like as soon as people think they have me they disappear from my...
    NoMoreTearsToni NoMoreTearsToni 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 24, 2014

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    Every single time im hanging out with a group

    of people, im always thinking about what to say, my mind starts going crazy... should i say something? do they think im weird? omg i don't fit in here... stuff like that, and im just tired of it!!!! Im always worried about what people think, and i don't know how to make it stop...
    711casc 711casc 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I really thought she was different.

    .. I told him my biggest and most horrible secret and what does he do? He refuses to take time anymore claiming that I "wanted it". I can't believe it. I hate being rejected.
    BlackBloodAlpha BlackBloodAlpha 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    But its better to try

    and be rejected than to not take the chance at all. I only wish it was a easier thing to do.
    TickTockTickTock TickTockTickTock 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 10

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    I am afraid to involve in any relationship

    because I am a fat girl and I think no one like fatty girls
    monika4u monika4u 22-25, F 14 Responses May 15

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    How do I forget a *****(sorry girls

    but theres no better word) who I hate with every fiber of my being but still have feelings for?
    placesivebeen placesivebeen 18-21, M 27 Responses Jan 30

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    Frustration. How to deal with a person

    who is hot and cold towards you? Giving you all his attention the one minute, and completely disappears and ignores you the next. When you finally decide to get over it and move on, he shows interest again and contacts you. It feels like he dosen't want to let you go completely...
    thoughtsinwords thoughtsinwords 22-25, F 7 Responses May 17

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    Ever since this really bad situation in 2013

    where i attempted suicide several times over a guy, i've sworn to myself never try to get a guy's attention ever again. I was never supposed to either way, it's how my mom raised me but i was so mesmerized by him had never being in a relationship that i just couldn't help myself...
    xRockGlossPrincessx xRockGlossPrincessx 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    I love one of my friends

    so much it hurts, but I have no idea if they're straight or not. Also, she's moving in a couple of weeks, so I was thinking of taking a shot and confessing. Then I realized that maybe she doesn't consider me a friend as much as I do. She's a great and kind person, so I don't...
    46Ricechan 46Ricechan 13-15, F 3 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    when I was younger l was afraid to tell girls

    how I feel. so I still think about the ones that I liked and never said a word to l remember all of their names. I especially think about them when I am lonely. like sarah Henry, l was in love with everything about her all through high school and I never told her . I used to get...
    weadkeys weadkeys 46-50, M 2 Responses May 11

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    Rejection is the absolute worst feeling in the

    world. I was stupid enough to develop feelings for you, and now look at where I am. Alone, sad, and feeling even crappier than I did before I met you. Never again...I want this cycle of rejection to end; the only sensible response is for me completely shutdown and no longer feel...
    Airella013 Airella013 18-21, F 8 Responses May 10

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    right now it's not so much "I'm afraid he'll

    say 'no'" it's more like "I'm afraid he will never talk to me again or things will be awkward between us after he says 'no' (if he does)". Curse hormones and teenage moodiness! It would be awful if he said no but I would just be crushed if he always avoided me or was awkward...
    shamrok11 shamrok11 13-15, F May 19

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    i am always friendly

    and nice to people and it hurts me when they are not nice back
    teechme teechme 70+, F 6 Responses Sep 20, 2014

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    Rejection ... It crushes you

    or gets you excited. I get crushed by being rejected, but then I get excited. I don't like rejection for one reason only. It gives me Permission to not Give A ****. Rejection is negative but truthful. You honestly have to ask, why am I being rejected to understand fully. For...
    wastedglory wastedglory 31-35, F 3 Responses Aug 17, 2014

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    I have this crush at my school

    and everyone is telling me I need to ask him out but I'M scared what if he says no
    Makeeshaosborn Makeeshaosborn 13-15, F 2 Responses May 19

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    Don't feel bad if someone rejects you.

    People usually reject expensive things, because they can't afford them.
    ElizabethSwanTurner ElizabethSwanTurner 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 2

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