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I Am Afraid of Sex

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 198 People

    I'm Always Thinking Something Is Wrong With Me...

    I've read a few of the other stories and now I know that I'm not alone, but I still feel weird and slightly ashamed that I'm afraid of sex. I've only had one boyfriend and the relationship lasted less than a month. I'm 22 btw. I feel weird about that, first and foremost, because...
    lizjay lizjay
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2008

    I'M Afraid Of Sex

    Hello I'm male and live in UK . I am 43 and technically I am still a geeky i was not popular with Girls at school. I wasn't able to talk to Women i was too shy .other men bragged about their exploits i was just quiet. I find women attractive yes of course but I have...
    defoekeane defoekeane
    36-40, M
    Jul 1, 2013

    Im Afraid Of Having Sex

    I'm not a verging I have 2 kids me and there mother is not together I use to drink a lot and do drugs and sex was up there now that I'm clean I lost my sex drive its going on 4 years now and its driving me crazy and my friends and family is worried about me I just don't want it...
    johnboy2274 johnboy2274
    Aug 6, 2011

    I Am Not Comfortable With Sexual Experiences

    I dont like sex that much... as I am getting older I am getting more and more lacking interest... I have crushes on famous guys and stuff but I have lost interest in looking for love ... after the bad experience I went through ... I just have less desire... I dont feel...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    Jun 24, 2011

    Want To Beat This Help

    i am 25 terrified of being with a woman again and i dont understand why. I have been with women before and i definitely enjoyed it. Although after some more than questionable hookups my freshman year that made me see i was just using any woman for sex, sometimes very...
    rutherpwillowford3rd rutherpwillowford3rd
    26-30, M
    Aug 23, 2013

    24 Virgin

    I just broke up with this great guy because I could not have sex with him. I tried with another guy before as well. I think it is all in my head. I am so self destructive and it is manifesting in this aspect of my life as well. When I started dating him, I loved making out with...
    Elena123 Elena123
    1 Response Mar 3, 2008

    I Repulse Myself

    There's just so much to say; so much going on. First of all, i am a 22 year old virgin. Second, I think I'm gay (i say that because I've never actually had any sexual experience so nothing is certain). Third, I am repulsed by my own, overweight body. When i see my own body, i...
    zepherus zepherus
    22-25, M
    Aug 5, 2012

    I Dont Understand

    I am 27 and have previously had sex, but a while a go by boyfriend was splitting up with me and so told the whole pub where we went that i was rubbish in bed, Since then i have not been able 2 have sex with anyone else, because of panicking that he would think the same, this is...
    ang128 ang128
    Jan 8, 2012

    Embarrased..afraid To Admit.

    ppl can talk bout it but i never say anythin.. i know in a couple they need to b more close but im afraid. i was always afraid to b more close to someone coz i was even afraid of just a simple movement.. i mean is difficult to trust but is a fear thats in my heart. one time i...
    amysangels amysangels
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Oct 3, 2010

    This Is Why...

    I guess the reason I'm so afraid is because whenever I get that close to another person, they hurt me.  I'm so afraid of being hurt again, so I don't even let anyone get close to me anymore.  I wonder if anyone else feels like this...
    justagirl21 justagirl21
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Oct 17, 2006

    One Day... Just One Day...

    I've always been afraid of intimacy and relationships and I wish it would stop because it's taking over my life. I wish I could be in a proper relationship instead of pushing people who love me away. When I was 14 I was friends with a girl who had been sexually assaulted. She was...
    Nazza2010 Nazza2010
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 16, 2012

    I Feel Defective

    I'm not merely afraid of sex; I'm pathologically terrified of it. It's not even necessarily sex, but any form of penetration in general. The first time I tried to use a tampon, I fainted twice, and I haven't attempted to use one since. When I first took a health class back...
    DontPanic DontPanic
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 12, 2010

    I Am Afraid.

    I'm a 23 will be 24 this year old virgin. I don't know if I just have a commitment problem or what, but I never did anything with a girl further than holding hands. I almost had sex with this one girl. I only been going out with this girl for like a week. I seriously thought we...
    SakuraKlss SakuraKlss
    22-25, M
    Apr 12, 2012


    I'm eighteen. I have a boyfriend. I have a boyfriend who wants sex. I don't really want it because I'm scared. I've already gone part of the way but I'm not sure if I want to go all the way. Maybe it's because I'm nerdy and have lived inside a shell/bubble all my life, but I'm...
    DemonVampire180 DemonVampire180
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 3, 2011

    29 And Still Not Over My Fear...

       I am so tired of feeling this way. I don't let any guy get too close physically because of my intense fears of sex. Unfortunatley,I am still a virgin at 29.   I don't want to be 30 and still a virgin but I can't help but fear sex.  I have been told I am...
    scaredstiff scaredstiff
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2010

    Ever Since...

    ever since that one time with that one guy i have been afraid to have sex. it was years ago. i was only 15 and he was 28, he picked me up on the side of the road and we ended up going to a hotel where i felt pressured to have sex with him. i cant believe i let that be my first...
    averageordinarygirl averageordinarygirl
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Apr 16, 2008

    I Don't Know What To Do

    i'm currently eighteen years of age and a virgin. when i was younger my aunt's boyfriend had a friend who molested me. i don't know all the details since i've blocked that part out of my memorie, i can remember him asking me if i wanted to have sex while my aunt was away and then...
    yukijadedsoul yukijadedsoul
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 2, 2011

    I Don't Know Why

    I want to have sex but I'm scared to have sex.  I don't know why.  I really do want to, I think about it all the time.  And it's been a while.  But when I think about actually doing it I get this weird feeling in my chest and my stomach.
    eromreven eromreven
    3 Responses Dec 23, 2007

    Afraid To Have Sex With My Boyfriend!

    My life is such a disaster and so sad I cannot even believe IT. I never dreamed of anything like this when I was growing up. I would never want any of my friends or family to know who I am posting this it would be to embarrassing. I had been seeing this guy for the last year. My...
    InLoveButAlone1988 InLoveButAlone1988
    22-25, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2012

    I Fear Having Sex With The Wrong Person.

    The relationship my parents have had has always been a rocky one and I grew up understanding that the main reason they stayed together all these years was for my sake, even though they aren't happy together. On top of that, my older brother had gotten a girl pregnant when he was...
    ahonui247 ahonui247
    26-30, M
    1 Response Sep 13, 2011

    I Want To Have Sex, But I'm Afraid.

    I am a 25 year old woman and I have never had sexual intercourse or relations of any kind. I have never been traumatized by something that would lead to a fear of sex. My concerns lie mostly in the fear of contracting an STD or becoming pregnant. I am deathly afraid of STDs, as...
    Locknee Locknee
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 15, 2011

    Love Me.

    Yeah, can't do it. I'm really uncomfortable and it's gotta take years of trust before I'd even let someone touch me. I wanna make sure they love me first. I just can't give myself away knowing that they might not love me.
    LylaRocks LylaRocks
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 5, 2008

    Is It Unnatural To Be Afraid

    well I am 19 and gay and I have had 3 boyfriends and been dumped for the same sex. I get so afraid when we get to taking off out clothes and I have anxiety so it doesnt make things any easier, I had a panic attack.... I feel like a freak because of my fear...I want...
    Xinjaboy Xinjaboy
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 16, 2013

    Scared At The Thought Of Sex

    I feel desperate and worn out trying to grapple with the idea of sex.I'm 23, and every year I grow more desperate at the thought that I can't come to any conclusions about how to move forward. So much of my fear is in my head and so much of it comes from the outside. Some days I...
    elemeno82002 elemeno82002
    1 Response Feb 29, 2012

    I'm Completely Terrified of Sex...

    I'm terrified of having sex. I'm not sure exactly where it stems from but I think it is a combination of hating my body--its not hideous or men wouldn't be attracted to me, I know...but my family has this long standing tradition of poor body image---and the fact that I was...
    crete crete
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2007

    An Aspie Virgin

    Hi - I'm a 52 year old male who has been afraid of intimacy for life. I have Asperger's syndrome + grew up in an alcoholic upbringing. In many ways, I have lived with the mind of a 12 year-old. Self-abuse continued into adulthood and never stopped. Have never experienced sexual...
    monterey59 monterey59
    1 Response Mar 21, 2012

    Freaked Out Of Sex

    I am 34 and I have never had sex....ever, and the thought of being naked with a man terrifies me. The problem is that I am dating this amazing guy who really likes me and for the first time I am experiencing what it is like to be wanted by a man. The thing is that I fear that...
    sex76777 sex76777
    Jul 12, 2011

    I Don't Know Why I'm Afraid Of Sex...

    I have recently become aware through counseling that I have a fear of sex.  My counselor wonders if I have repressed memories of being sexually abused.  I can't sleep with the lights off because of a fear of being attacked by a man, but I can sleep with my boyfriend around just...
    emmablu23 emmablu23
    Jul 29, 2011

    Afraid To Open Up!!!

    ive always been afraid of sex!!! im now 30, and im still a virgin!! for me, its just that im so afraid to open up to people, and i feel a little intimidated by these modern times where there is quite literally sex everywhere, and you even get people that will go on a night out...
    cowshed123 cowshed123
    36-40, M
    1 Response Oct 3, 2010

    Do U Believe In The Free Ride?

    I could care less about gold, but if I had a bunch I would still get very excited. Why? Because half the people in the world go gaga for gold! I don't need it, and they will let me retire on this find.So if I like sex a lot, what am I looking for? Someone who has a lot of sex to...
    PikdFlowr PikdFlowr
    61-65, M
    1 Response Aug 8, 2011

    So Lonely Because of Fear of Sex :o(

    I am so happy I found this website! I have the same problem as well. I am 28 and a virgin and it has caused so many problems in my life! I think I know the root of the problem. I grew up in an environment that 'sex' was a taboo word and anything relating to it was a source of...
    hope20 hope20
    2 Responses Oct 6, 2008


    i can relate....I am 31 and i am still a virgin........i have an intense phobia of sex, intamacy, vulnerabilty and pain.....i was abused as a child.......but do want to have kids...i have no interest in sex and the thought of it just grosses me out....i do theapy but feel...
    bluebird31 bluebird31
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 24, 2010

    Weirdo- Really Long Story, Help

    Because i'm afraid of sex, i ruined the only "relationship" I've ever had. I'm a 29 yr. old female virgin. I was 24 when I had my first boyfriend. Things were ok at first, but then the issue of sex came up a few weeks in and i was freaked out. We dated for a few months...
    Withouthope Withouthope
    3 Responses Sep 6, 2008

    Too Much Pain

    Even though I think about it in some way shape or form 24/7, I am terrified of having sex. Now I am only 14, so I have some time to adapt to it before it needs to happen, but this fear has even prevented me from being able to use tampons. All of my friends laugh at me when I can...
    MichaelaChase911 MichaelaChase911
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Nov 27, 2010

    I Don't Even Know How To Explain It…

    Unlike so many other men my age, or at least that is the impression I am under, I am a virgin. I am a virgin… because… I am deathly afraid of sex. Having sex is my worst fear. The thought of sex alone will make me cry. Seeing it happen on TV in movies or anything at all...
    AspergersandMe AspergersandMe
    18-21, M
    Feb 16, 2012

    My Disability

    my disability stops me from being intimate with women, i have alot of very kinky ideas in my head, but in reality i am unable to carry them through because of my of the way i look and feel, ive had one gf and it lasted about 6 weeks, 9 years ago. and i think it ended because she...
    drippy72 drippy72
    41-45, M
    1 Response May 21, 2012

    I'm Trying to Overcome This Fear

    I am afraid of sex but my reason is different from the ones on here so far.  No, I'm not a virgin but I didn't have intercourse until I was 27.  I was molested as a child.  My husband is only the second person I've ever had intercourse with.  He on the other...
    sydhw sydhw
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Oct 12, 2007


    I am afraid of sex, but for different reasons than most. I am not a virgin. Someone fed me lies when I was vulnerable, and took my virginity. He was supposed to be my friend... lucky someone walked in on it.. apparently he doesn't like protection.... I didn't find that out untill...
    PoeticRejection PoeticRejection
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 14, 2007

    **** Is About To Get Emotional Up In Here. Kinda

    I'll admit it. I'm a virgin. I'm a virgin by choice. I am probably one of the few (non religious) people I know who have yet to "get their cherry popped." But why? I'm not religious. I'm not uber moral. I'm not "wait until marriage because blahblahblah." I'm afraid. Not afraid...
    Yoru Yoru
    3 Responses Jan 11, 2012

    I Hate Her

    i im NOW and the only reason for that is because my aunt made me had sex with her when i was 13 and i did't think it was going to affect me till last year when i wanted to have sex with my girlfriend and i could do it because i was to bussy crying about things i don't even know i...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 20, 2011

    Scared My Fear Of Sex Will Ruin My Good Relationship.

    I'm 22 years old and I'm terrified of sex. I have a lot of reasons for it and I can list them all easily. The first one is that I am a paranoid person and I know that if I was having sex I would be in a constant state of panic thinking that I was either pregnant or that I had...
    1cat2rats 1cat2rats
    1 Response Nov 5, 2011

    I Don't Know Why

    i've had sex before, ad it was ok, but the idea of doing it again makes me want to puke. i'm not entirely sure why, but i think more than the actual act i'm afraid of the pressure that comes from boys to be 'good' in bed. and i'm deathly afraid of my body being judged by someone...
    possibly possibly
    18-21, F
    Feb 6, 2008

    I Panic

    I'm afraid of sex.'s out.  I'm a virgin still, and I'm terrified of having sex with someone.  I mean, I'm attracted to others...but the minute something funny and flirty turns to serious lust, I panic and try to back out of what's happening.  I don...
    LiquidFire89 LiquidFire89
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jul 13, 2007

    Where To Start

    I do not even know how to title this. I do not where to start, and I don't have my story straight. I will not read back what I write and I won't change my choice of words. I think this will be nothing more than loose sentences, but I need to get it out. It's eating me. I too am...
    KeepYourDreamsAlive KeepYourDreamsAlive
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 29, 2011


    more afraid of the emotions there after, it freaks me out how much sex can change the feelings in a relationship, wich may complicate things to a point i dont like, either me being then pushed away or either me having to do the pushing away of .. either way .. lets say i havnt...
    cdwishimatgurlCalandraBelle cdwishimatgurlCalandraBelle
    36-40, T
    2 Responses Sep 15, 2007

    The Story of My Problem

    As far as I can remember, nothing horrible of a sexual nature ever happened to me. I was always a very sexual young girl, always looking for guys to mess around with. I lost my virginity to my husband while we were still dating. I was 18 years old, and though it was my first time...
    missmeganbunny missmeganbunny
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Nov 5, 2007

    WTF Am I Doing?!

    Okay.. so my first time was four years ago... It was painful and unsatisfying. Since then I've never did it again. I've been afraid to, mostly from remembering the pain and how my bf promptly left me afterwards. But not only that, the mere thought of sex makes me ill sometimes...
    Mameume Mameume
    1 Response May 31, 2008

    I Really Want To, It's Just Complicated. I Don't Want To Be Judged Or Something

    Ok well I have told the things my mother had done and I would like to not bring them up considering that she is gone now..... I was at my house when I was around 8 or 9 and my mom had her friend at the house he was a drunk and our landlord who lived on the property were both...
    xxxEndlessNightmarexxx xxxEndlessNightmarexxx
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 2, 2012

    I Am Afraid Of Sex Because Of The Intimacy Needed.

    I'm 26 years old and I'm still a virgin. I don't want to be a virgin but I'm afraid to have sex. Not because of the pain or anything but because I have a problem with my body. All my problems together makes it impossible for me to even envision myself in a sexual relationship. I...
    Tazzgurl722 Tazzgurl722
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 26, 2011
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