I Am Afraid to End Up Like My Parents

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    anyone else feel like they are the exact

    opposite and the odd one out in their family? I must be adopted..
    gandalfssandals gandalfssandals
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Mar 17, 2015

    My mother drinks nearly every night

    and abuses us verbally and sometimes physically. I will never drink because I don't ever want turn out like her
    Harper101 Harper101
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 25, 2015

    Please god don't let me be anything like

    either set of parents. My birth parents, well ones dead, and the other would rather spend money on drugs than acknowledge my existence. My adoptive parents are mentally and sometimes physically abusive.... I just want to do better than that. That's all I ask.
    damnitskaity damnitskaity
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 14, 2015

    Unfortunately, I'm Certain I Will

    My parents are both dead, so, barring a very dramatic breakthrough in healthcare I will certainly end up just like them, receding into memory.
    ElLagarto ElLagarto
    56-60, M
    8 Responses Jul 14, 2007

    Mom & Step Dad

    The only reason why I joined this group is because I hate my mom and I dont want to end up like her. We argue about everything. She complains on how I wear to much makeup and how I'm not to tidy. She lets the smallest things irratate her. The thing I hate most about her is that...
    June1993 June1993
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Mar 4, 2012

    I am very much afraid of ending up like my

    parents. Now don't get me wrong, I had the most amazing mother in the world, and I'd give my last drop of blood to have her back, but she had a bad habit of needing a man in her life to feel like she mattered, and I always kind of looked down on her for that. As much as I love...
    NYSlilAngel NYSlilAngel
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 13, 2014

    I seriously take this topic to heart.

    I see how both of my parents struggle emotionally and financially. My mom suffers from bipolar and the way she treats my siblings and I is terrifying I never would want to put my kids through that. It's a awful feeling know that the ones that are suppose to be there for you are...
    Viccigee Viccigee
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 10, 2014
    Mylo248 Mylo248
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 1, 2015

    My parents are such horrible people

    and really heartless a lot of the time. I would hate myself more than I do if I ever ended up like them. I can't stand some of their opinions and I think it's wrong. I wish they had more sympathy towards others and respect them. I also they could respect me as their child.
    internationalkoala internationalkoala
    18-21, F
    Apr 25, 2015

    As Much As I Love Them...

    ...I don't want to be them. They don't love each other and yet they've been married for over twenty years, and now they're just together for no reason, unhappy with each other. I don't want to end up that way. I want to marry someone I love, and if we are unhappy, really...
    TotalEclipse TotalEclipse
    2 Responses Dec 4, 2008

    Not Gonna Happen

    Both alcoholics and both living lies. Not that my life isn't one big hell at times but I have smiles and laughter and memories with my children. I will not neglect, ignore, push away or allow my children to become invisible to me or to love.  They are hugged and kissed and...
    mysplitpersonality mysplitpersonality
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 5, 2008

    I Really Don't Want To End Up Like My Parents!

    My mother is 43 and still lives with her mother, my dad is 60 and lives with us, they are both very immature and childish. Never wanting to confront problems, and when you do try to talk to them they start yelling and think that arguing is the solution. They never listen to me...
    Jewelsfools09 Jewelsfools09
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2009

    My Parents...

    They just barely graduated high school and they 'enjoy' sitting on opposite sides of  the room as each other, it's insane! My other mom is working on her sixth baby as I type, I want to be better than them nut I feel I have circumstances pushing me down, college sucks I want...
    angeldelinkwent angeldelinkwent
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 23, 2009

    Afraid To Integrate

    My parents have been here for 30 years and they have not integrated well....they are recluses from the outside world and it scares me.  It scares me because I'm noticing more and more hermit like behaviour amongst myself as well.  I think I get this from them. Like I...
    jouniah jouniah
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2009

    My Parents

    are from the perfect parents. okay i love them for everything they have done for me and my brothers and sisters. they built everything they and we have up from nothing. but, aside from this there is no love in our family what so ever. my dad doesnt treat his family like i would...
    armourlove armourlove
    18-21, F
    Oct 30, 2010

    Wow... It's scary how true this is.

    .. http://www.upworthy.com/watch-a-student-totally-nail-something-about-women-that-ive-been-trying-to-articulate-for-37-years-6?c=reccon1
    Netabell Netabell
    26-30, F
    Dec 19, 2013


    My mother is always saying that I am so much like her, and that's why we get into so many arguments. I really think we are way different. Her first line of defense is anger and judgment against other people. She has hurt me emotionally in so many ways. She has no idea, either...
    animallover110293 animallover110293
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 15, 2013

    Both my mom and my dad have been legally

    separated for more than twenty years. My mom I think has stayed single because she doesn't have a lot of luck with men and she also won't find anyone else out there who would treat her like my dad did. But my dad has stayed single for me. I have always lived with him and he made...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 15, 2015

    I think today was the first time my mom has

    ever said anything like this to me. She texted and said 'I have been concerned about you'. In some weird way this felt really good. I'm sure it's because I blew up on her a few days ago, but is it so wrong to want someone to be caring and nurturing toward you? No, it's not. To...
    kros10 kros10
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 4, 2014

    Self-complacent. (Reading Nietzsche has led me

    to this word I've been seeking for a long time.)
    twelves twelves
    Dec 8, 2014
    TheDemonsWithin TheDemonsWithin
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2015

    If my past self from just a couple years ago

    met me now, she wouldn't recognize me. I'm agnostic, (although I know the supernatural exists), and I don't feel constant shame about my body, (well, kinda minus my lower torso with the immense amounts of stretch marks...), and can buy clothes that fit well and look attractive...
    Mythriel Mythriel
    26-30, F
    May 25, 2015

    I know it's not right

    but I'm angry with my parents for their bad habits, no discipline, being broke and helping everyone else so much that now they can't even help me. I'm depressed and instead of my mom trying to help she always says "I give up".
    Rosebox Rosebox
    22-25, F
    Mar 16, 2015

    I appreciate my mon's dedication to the family

    but I don't wanna be a traditional housewife like her :(
    SweetumsTheCat SweetumsTheCat
    26-30, F
    Mar 17, 2015

    Nothing like your parents telling you

    that you need to change your whole personality to be successful in life☺️☺️
    Sonjahoversten Sonjahoversten
    Aug 29, 2015

    A Narcissist Who Has to Be the Center of Attention and Have Everything Her Way!

    I most dread being like my mother.  She is SO horribly manipulative and will do ANYTHING to get what she wants when she wants it. She brow beats us into granting her wishes,  for our lives, our work, our families.  Very controlling.  She is on my case right...
    HotPinkGirl HotPinkGirl
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Sep 27, 2008

    At Least Not Like My Father...

    He's got a major problem with alcohol.. I'm so afraid to end up with this too...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 18, 2007

    I Will Always Say I Love You

    I love my parents and they are not bad people, but I do not want to be like them. My dad is very pessimistic about life and has a negative outlook on everything. He is also very critical of everyone and always thinks he is right. He believes that life is all about competition and...
    flyingintherain flyingintherain
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 17, 2008

    I Love Them to Death But...

    They're total recluses. And religious fanatics. The only time they ever leave the house is to go to church, it seems. I pray that I will have friends (besides my own children) when I'm their age.
    mspac mspac
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 23, 2007

    I Don't Want to End Up Alone At An Old Age

    I want a marriage to last till I am dead. I don't want to be alone. My parents have been only married for 9 years then they got a divorce.  Now they are both single and in close to 50.
    TheStray TheStray
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 10, 2008

    My Mom..

    I am realizing more and more that I find myself acting like my Mom.  It's so sad because the way my Mom treated me made me feel so worthless and not good enough, and here I am repeating the cycle.  I find myself pointing something out that my boyfriend did that I warned...
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows
    26-30, F
    May 10, 2008

    I Don't Know What To Do

    My parents are sick twisted people. As much as I would like to believe otherwise, it's a fact. I'm afraid. I'm afraid of them making me sad, I'm afraid of them causing me to fail, but mostly I'm afraid of becoming sick like them. I feel myself exploding from the inside when I'm...
    yahli yahli
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 13, 2011

    My Nightmare Is Ending Up Like My Parents

    if i became really selfish,didnt care about anyone,always thought i was right,lied to everyone,cheated on my husbandtold my child she was a mistakemade my other child become bohlemic and anorexicif i became all of those, meaning i would be just like my parents.And thats my worts...
    UmbraEyes UmbraEyes
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 17, 2011

    "you Will End Up Like Your Mother..."

     “You will end up like your mother unless you go towards god.” The words rang in my head as I wiped away the tears. Since I had started crying over an hour ago, the tears refused to stop pouring down my face. He had made me upset, and like any other stressful...
    Mindy723 Mindy723
    18-21, F
    Dec 11, 2010

    I'm Afraid

    opps! Too late, looks like I ended up just like them, hopefully I can make the best of it though.
    SoMuchToSay SoMuchToSay
    36-40, M
    Apr 14, 2008

    I Know I Wont... But....

    It’s funny just how ingrained the things you learn from your parents are. Not so much Ahahahhaha funny, but more like Ah that’s interesting, funny. And its not the lessons like, drugs are bad, hard work pays off, save for a rainy day. It’s the general...
    auroraaustralis auroraaustralis
    9 Responses Jun 11, 2009

    Hopefully I Won't

    I've been thinking about it ever since I was in my teenage years. I don't want to be like them. I don't want to end up like them. If I do, then my children would be like me. That would be a nightmare.
    anschel anschel
    22-25, F
    4 Responses May 25, 2009

    Would You Be??

    Let's start with the fact that they were 15 and 17 when I was born.  Okay, so I am past that.  Neither one of them finished school.  My dad had a big chance to be something someday, he got in with Bank of America and was doing fantastic.  He gave it...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2009

    I Am Just Like My Mother In...

    I am just like my mother in someways now and she was bipolar. It sometimes scares me that I might have the same diesease.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy
    22-25, F
    Mar 5, 2008

    The Fox Network Owes Me!!

    They tried hard and they're good people, but they are so immature and stubborn sometimes. They married young (divorced now) because they felt pretty mature for their age, but their fatal flaws screwed everything up. Mom's a nagging, stubborn, know-it-all; Dad's a caustic...
    Vancity89 Vancity89
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2009

    Time to Pack Up

    Unhappy and hating the person next to me in bed, fearing for my life most of the time, bound by a golden band strangling my finger and trapped in a suffocating life I, needless to say, never wanted or expected.  Sure, if there's kids involved, sticking it out for them is...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech
    22-25, F
    7 Responses May 25, 2009

    Both Parents

    My parents are about 40 and have never been married. My dad has four kids by four different baby mamas and my ma has just me. I want to do better than my parents. I want my child to have their parents in their life full time, married. Not a single parent. I feel that a child...
    keepdreaming keepdreaming
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 15, 2009

    I Sure Hope Not!

    I don't want to turn out like my mom- 3 abusive husbands and one abusive boyfriend, now single and a job working for the most recent ex husband as a secretary because I went to beauty school and have never renewed my liscense, now I live with my 20 year old daughter in a drafty...
    cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal cassandrathethinkerbleedsteal
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2008

    My mom and dad have this great life.

    They are happily married with good jobs and descent pay checks. They met when my mom was 15 and have been married for 20 years. My brother and I get along with them fine and we are a very happy family. There life is amazing. I just don't want their life for me. It would be so...
    VioletCarroll VioletCarroll
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 13, 2014

    Afraid To Wed - Sorry For The Length.

    My parents got married in their early twenties and I believe it was because my mom was pregnant. My whole life was been a war zone between them. Growing up with constant fighting. My mom clinging to a hope that their love still existed, my dad a brick wall. They almost divorced...
    behun behun
    Sep 15, 2013

    I'm not a very caring person.

    every time my mom is crying and going mad because her life isn't perfect, I just want to walk away. I hate comforting people, especially my mom. I feel like she is the one that needs to talk to herself. anything I say will just be the wrong thing. I want her to realize that she...
    taylormorgan2113 taylormorgan2113
    22-25, F
    Dec 10, 2014

    My parents were abusive alcoholics.

    I'm afraid of having children of my own because I don't want to end up being like them.
    chadwiak01 chadwiak01
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 10, 2014

    Close-minded, overly materialistic,

    selfish, stagnant. I don't want to be any of these.
    twelves twelves
    Nov 21, 2014

    My parents put themselves first,

    are selfish with their time, have left me behind, and have no clue how to love.
    picses2222 picses2222
    16-17, F
    1 Response Sep 10, 2014

    my mother did her best

    and i turned out dam good but the woman she was before my birth aches my hart, now that I know her truth I WISH I HADN'T ASKED
    deleted deleted
    Mar 17, 2015

    One gives her whole self

    and wants nothing in return. So, as a result she's used endlessly and is always tired. I don't want to be used by people but I love giving. And the other is a recovering drug addict but has been on this road of recovery a few times. I become addicted to things quite easily if...
    Jthecat Jthecat
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 23, 2015
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