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I Am Afraid to Let Anyone Get Close to Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 439 People

    Too Close For Comfort.

    All of history and litature is full of stories of how people betray each other. Brutus and Ceaser, Judas and Jesus. It does not inspire confedence in others. Throughout my life I have found this to be true. Everytime I try to tell some one about myself, they either betray me, or...
    suffocating suffocating 16-17, F Oct 13, 2010

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    Betrayed

    im afraid to let anyone get close to me because i hate myself. i dont see anything good in being me so im afraid they will reject me or make fun of me because of who iam/ what i look like. many people have betrayed me the first time was in grade 6/7 with my first best friend...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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    Stopped Talking To Someone

    I met a guy a couple months ago, and some fun stuff happened between us, but I won't go into detail.. bottom line, we clicked really well. It wasn't just a one time fling. We talked about our pasts, made each other laugh, and it seemed like we were going to be good friends. For...
    Keepsunshiny Keepsunshiny 18-21, F Jul 1, 2012

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    Because...

    In my "case" - you wouldn't like me! I am rarely aware of what you might feel , while I talk without thinking. I hurt people not intentionally. That's why, basically. It is a good enough reason, isn't it. ? yeah.. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    Don'T Get Too Close

    Here's the thing; be nice to me, i'll be nice to you, be friend to me, i'll be friend with you. That's all! I mean like a casual friend, whenever we see each other we say "Hi, Hello, small talks and that's it! But thinking that we'll get too close as friend makes me sick...
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F 14 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    Relationships Lead To Pain

     My friendships always seem to end up in splitsville.  I guess it's a product of my raising, but it seems like I can keep a friend indefinitely until I get close to the person; then, it just goes to hell.  I have already lost a close friend this year, and I'm...
    zavalon zavalon 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    I Have Been Tricked And Defamed

    Long time back, during my teens, I was miss popular Diva. My uncle sabotaged my social life completely. He forcefully made a girl [ fat hairy and brown ] friends with me. She seriously needed 100% makeover and had all the bad manners a girl can have. She wasnt even sweet to me...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    I am afraid to let someone close to me

    because with my 1st bf he was close to me and then he ended up cheating on me with another girl then ended up cheating on her with another girl. What do I do get close with another guy or not
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I'm afraid of putting effort in to meeting new

    people. I'm afraid I will just end up hurting them, or end up being disappointed, myself. I have trust issues and based on previous experiences, I live my life accordingly. People don't like the comparisons but most times, the comparisons are accurate. I also don't trust my own...
    ThisIsNormal ThisIsNormal 26-30, M 1 Response May 11, 2014

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    I Think

    I think I know why I don't share too much of myself, at least the deep, really hurt stuff.  I'm afraid because when I was younger, I would get groups of friends, and on two different occassions, I was told, "I NO LONGER want to be your friend."  That was 2 seperate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    It's The Truth

    In real life, if emotions started getting involved I would start doubting. After what I've been through, I think there's a wolf under the wool.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    Putting My Heart To Rest </3

    Why am I so afraid to get close? Why do I flee? I shut my friends, potential boyfriends out...It isn't them, it's just what I do.I'm afraid to allow anyone get close me to me...I've hurt people before, and I feel guilty as hell because of it.I let down the ones I love, and I just...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2011

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    I Just Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    This is going to be a short story but people continuously surprise me by their cruelty. I'm an honest person. I am giving. And yet, "jerk me around" is seemingly tattooed on my forehead. I'm just weary of it.
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2010

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    I Always Ruin Things Up Whether Intentionally Or Unintentionally

    i dunno why every time i felt like getting close to someone i always mess it up , either i find some flaws from them and pick a fight or put them unto such expectations that i know they wouldn't have met ever... i always end up loosing them just coz when i feel like they are...
    donnybon22 donnybon22 18-21, F Aug 22, 2011

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    In Every Way

    Wether it be romantic, friends or even family. It's hard for me to become emotionally attached to someone. Don't get me wrong, I can chat it up with someone and be the most friendly and outgoing person with them, but ill always be cautious and keep my guard up. I let myself trust...
    Aquamarine221 Aquamarine221 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    Experiencing Growth: Becoming A Mature Woman

    Recently, I was suffering from depression caused by a resistance to truth.  Starting to live the life I desire and had to make mandatory changes.  Such as loving myself, putting first things first and being real with myself.  The truth was very painful to face, yet once it...
    makeithapen10 makeithapen10 26-30 May 29, 2011

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    Excerpts

    The other day I was going through my cupboards and found an old notepad. After flicking through a few pages, I found a full page I had written a while back. I do this thing every so often where I let my mind take charge and just write what's in my head. Here are one or two...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    A family that projected its sick world view

    onto me, a borderline-********* who partially raised me to be destructive and careless with people's emotions, and a series of drug addictions -- all these things will teach you not to trust people, to lie, that if anyone got too close, they'd run away in fear, that you are...
    trianglelamp trianglelamp 26-30, M Jun 13, 2014

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    I hate being touched.

    No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2014

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    Vulnerable

     I fear anyone getting close to me because I will be so vulnerable. I will get attached to them and when they disappear, I will be so hurt. Also, they will see all my flaws and could easily use them against me. Most of all, I fear judgment. That they will stop liking me. I...
    reset reset 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    I just lost all off my friends in one day due

    to the fact I am afraid to get too close to people. My best friend for three years I made cry cause I told him that I was done with this friendship. I'm afraid to get close to people cause every time I get close to someone we have a falling out and I get hurt for a very long...
    hinhead hinhead 16-17, M Jan 18, 2014

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    Reason Why I Don't Have Many Friends?

    I've been told before that luck of trust and ablity to open up to people is what keeps me from not having that many friends and its why I'm never in a relationship. I hate so much how this is not even really my fault, besides naively looking for the best in others... But I have...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    I Fear Being Hurt By Those I Open Up To

    I can talk on ep and that really is my only outlet for social contact most days.but in my real day to day life its hard for me to talk to people and risk abuse like the past.I seem to get burnt when I reach out to people and ask for helpI am trying my best now to be selective to...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F May 19, 2012

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    So Want This To Go Away

    I want to feel love so much in my life, but lack the confidence to try and tell anyone how I feel. My counselor tells me to do so and I am just scared.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 12, 2013

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    Because People Do Horrible Things

    My experiences have shown me that people do unimaginably horrible things as soon as you turn your back. Of course, I know not everyone is like that, but the ones who are can completely destroy your life, and even you, if they can catch you off guard. I did recently try to let...
    waterbaby waterbaby 26-30, F Dec 24, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    I feel like no one knows the real me. Like I won't let anyone know the real me. I'm afraid they won't understand me or want to be my friend anymore. It's pathetic but I've lost so...
    SexyAngelBitches SexyAngelBitches 18-21, F 8 Responses Feb 18

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    I mean I know I won't be, or at least it's highly unlikely. I'm only 19, I have plenty of time left. But every time I start liking someone, I give up before anything starts. I'm...
    StrangelyWrinkledMammal StrangelyWrinkledMammal 18-21, F 27 Responses Jan 31

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    never want to let anyone down, always want to be number 1...( bad bad bad) cause u can never be number 1...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 10

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    I'm afraid to get close to my dad because I fear that he would push me away like he always dose.
    awayoflife123 awayoflife123 18-21, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    it took me two years to find someone I'd let get close and the day before valentine's, she completely disappeared and now I don't know what to do. I want to chase after her but I...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 16

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    I just felt like writing you something nice for a change instead of my drunken mess angry rants. I love you, you're one of my best friends, and the reason you are, is because...
    Lunarflowerrr Lunarflowerrr 22-25, F Feb 19

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    I have an honest fear. It's not melodramatic or self indulgent, but honest and really really real. It's something that hits you out of nowhere that I'll end up an old woman with a...
    Lov3intheasylum Lov3intheasylum 31-35, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I'm in 40's make a point of looking after myself and dressing well, I always like to have a laugh and see the funny side of everything, I always am able to make people laugh, I...
    alan19662015 alan19662015 36-40, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I mean there's no need to be afraid of being loyal. No need to be afraid of sharing the parts of you that honestly not everyone deserves with just one person
    LeeOmar88 LeeOmar88 26-30, M 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Yes I am terrified, but not of you, or who you are, I am terrified of not knowing you, of not knowing more of who you are. Afraid of not hearing, and feeling your heartbeat once...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    When it comes to guys I always let them go. Every time I like a guy and I think they like me (which is obvious in some ways on how they act) I start talking to them more and more...
    endmypainn endmypainn 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    He wants to go to a hotel for a night, so no-one can bother us when we do it. Great idea, I have to admit I'm a bit nervous but he's too so that will be fine. But, It's my first...
    ABACDEE ABACDEE 18-21, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    Every time I let someone in, they hurt me. I am soo tired if trusting people.
    TheLoneHowl96 TheLoneHowl96 18-21, M 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I’m afraid to remain single forever… I am NGSB (no boyfriend since birth) which means I haven’t had any boyfriend in my entire life. I always fall in love with the wrong...
    diane1996 diane1996 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 28

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    Now what I am about to write may seem to be comic book-like, but I am truly afraid of scarecrows. When I was a kid, my mother use to cheat on my father with other men. One...
    Marik13 Marik13 13-15, M Feb 13

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    ok...so i was just asked about the continuation of my post so i tot y not?? since m stuck in a cab in a horrible traffic anyway...so here goes So my dear mom passed very quickly...
    AyahyaMma AyahyaMma 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 6

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    Liar liar, pants on fire. I feel so naive to allow him to get close so quick. I almost give him props for getting me to trust him over my intuition. I feel foolish but lesson...
    poodahpop poodahpop 18-21, T 3 Responses Feb 7

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    i have some close friends , but there is something missing in those frienship! and they are not as close as they could be , i often tend to fear telling people about my fears and...
    neyah20 neyah20 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    Seem like all of us in this part are afraid of rejection if we show who we really are, myself included. I'm 28. I have had 3 close friends all my life but none of them actually...
    Techtonic Techtonic 26-30, M 3 days ago

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    well I say this because I feel the heavy responsibility of having to be there when I don't want to be and I don't like hurting people at all so I try not to get close to people
    lisathatsthere lisathatsthere 18-21, F 16 hrs ago

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    acquaintances are wonderful to say hello to and catch up with but it's normally superficial and you only share important matters when you see each other, maybe months or years...
    trailsonrails trailsonrails 51-55, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I was born with a gift. Sounds like a blessing, right? But in some ways it is a curse. I've called myself a monster for so many times. I feel like Elsa from Frozen, and its no...
    Seaspiritaria Seaspiritaria 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    I have this fear that anyone I try to get close to will eventually reject me so I isolate myself :-(
    hiddenjem hiddenjem 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 31

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