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I Am Afraid to Let Anyone Get Close to Me

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    Putting My Heart To Rest </3

    Why am I so afraid to get close? Why do I flee? I shut my friends, potential boyfriends out...It isn't them, it's just what I do.I'm afraid to allow anyone get close me to me...I've hurt people before, and I feel guilty as hell because of it.I let down the ones I love, and I just...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2011

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    Vulnerable

     I fear anyone getting close to me because I will be so vulnerable. I will get attached to them and when they disappear, I will be so hurt. Also, they will see all my flaws and could easily use them against me. Most of all, I fear judgment. That they will stop liking me. I...
    reset reset 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    I Think

    I think I know why I don't share too much of myself, at least the deep, really hurt stuff.  I'm afraid because when I was younger, I would get groups of friends, and on two different occassions, I was told, "I NO LONGER want to be your friend."  That was 2 seperate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    I'm afraid of putting effort in to meeting new

    people. I'm afraid I will just end up hurting them, or end up being disappointed, myself. I have trust issues and based on previous experiences, I live my life accordingly. People don't like the comparisons but most times, the comparisons are accurate. I also don't trust my own...
    ThisIsNormal ThisIsNormal 26-30, M 2 Responses May 11

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    I Have Been Tricked And Defamed

    Long time back, during my teens, I was miss popular Diva. My uncle sabotaged my social life completely. He forcefully made a girl [ fat hairy and brown ] friends with me. She seriously needed 100% makeover and had all the bad manners a girl can have. She wasnt even sweet to me...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    Excerpts

    The other day I was going through my cupboards and found an old notepad. After flicking through a few pages, I found a full page I had written a while back. I do this thing every so often where I let my mind take charge and just write what's in my head. Here are one or two...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    Because...

    In my "case" - you wouldn't like me! I am rarely aware of what you might feel , while I talk without thinking. I hurt people not intentionally. That's why, basically. It is a good enough reason, isn't it. ? yeah.. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    Reason Why I Don't Have Many Friends?

    I've been told before that luck of trust and ablity to open up to people is what keeps me from not having that many friends and its why I'm never in a relationship. I hate so much how this is not even really my fault, besides naively looking for the best in others... But I have...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    Experiencing Growth: Becoming A Mature Woman

    Recently, I was suffering from depression caused by a resistance to truth.  Starting to live the life I desire and had to make mandatory changes.  Such as loving myself, putting first things first and being real with myself.  The truth was very painful to face, yet once it...
    makeithapen10 makeithapen10 26-30 May 29, 2011

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    I just lost all off my friends in one day due

    to the fact I am afraid to get too close to people. My best friend for three years I made cry cause I told him that I was done with this friendship. I'm afraid to get close to people cause every time I get close to someone we have a falling out and I get hurt for a very long...
    hinhead hinhead 16-17, M Jan 18

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    So Want This To Go Away

    I want to feel love so much in my life, but lack the confidence to try and tell anyone how I feel. My counselor tells me to do so and I am just scared.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 12, 2013

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    I Just Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    This is going to be a short story but people continuously surprise me by their cruelty. I'm an honest person. I am giving. And yet, "jerk me around" is seemingly tattooed on my forehead. I'm just weary of it.
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2010

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    Relationships Lead To Pain

     My friendships always seem to end up in splitsville.  I guess it's a product of my raising, but it seems like I can keep a friend indefinitely until I get close to the person; then, it just goes to hell.  I have already lost a close friend this year, and I'm...
    zavalon zavalon 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    Don'T Get Too Close

    Here's the thing; be nice to me, i'll be nice to you, be friend to me, i'll be friend with you. That's all! I mean like a casual friend, whenever we see each other we say "Hi, Hello, small talks and that's it! But thinking that we'll get too close as friend makes me sick...
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F 14 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    In Every Way

    Wether it be romantic, friends or even family. It's hard for me to become emotionally attached to someone. Don't get me wrong, I can chat it up with someone and be the most friendly and outgoing person with them, but ill always be cautious and keep my guard up. I let myself trust...
    Aquamarine221 Aquamarine221 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    A family that projected its sick world view

    onto me, a borderline-********* who partially raised me to be destructive and careless with people's emotions, and a series of drug addictions -- all these things will teach you not to trust people, to lie, that if anyone got too close, they'd run away in fear, that you are...
    trianglelamp trianglelamp 26-30, M Jun 13

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    Because People Do Horrible Things

    My experiences have shown me that people do unimaginably horrible things as soon as you turn your back. Of course, I know not everyone is like that, but the ones who are can completely destroy your life, and even you, if they can catch you off guard. I did recently try to let...
    waterbaby waterbaby 26-30, F Dec 24, 2009

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    It's The Truth

    In real life, if emotions started getting involved I would start doubting. After what I've been through, I think there's a wolf under the wool.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    Too Close For Comfort.

    All of history and litature is full of stories of how people betray each other. Brutus and Ceaser, Judas and Jesus. It does not inspire confedence in others. Throughout my life I have found this to be true. Everytime I try to tell some one about myself, they either betray me, or...
    suffocating suffocating 16-17, F Oct 13, 2010

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    Betrayed

    im afraid to let anyone get close to me because i hate myself. i dont see anything good in being me so im afraid they will reject me or make fun of me because of who iam/ what i look like. many people have betrayed me the first time was in grade 6/7 with my first best friend...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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    Stopped Talking To Someone

    I met a guy a couple months ago, and some fun stuff happened between us, but I won't go into detail.. bottom line, we clicked really well. It wasn't just a one time fling. We talked about our pasts, made each other laugh, and it seemed like we were going to be good friends. For...
    Keepsunshiny Keepsunshiny 18-21, F Jul 1, 2012

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    I hate being touched.

    No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    I Fear Being Hurt By Those I Open Up To

    I can talk on ep and that really is my only outlet for social contact most days.but in my real day to day life its hard for me to talk to people and risk abuse like the past.I seem to get burnt when I reach out to people and ask for helpI am trying my best now to be selective to...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F May 19, 2012

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    I am afraid to let someone close to me

    because with my 1st bf he was close to me and then he ended up cheating on me with another girl then ended up cheating on her with another girl. What do I do get close with another guy or not
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    I Always Ruin Things Up Whether Intentionally Or Unintentionally

    i dunno why every time i felt like getting close to someone i always mess it up , either i find some flaws from them and pick a fight or put them unto such expectations that i know they wouldn't have met ever... i always end up loosing them just coz when i feel like they are...
    donnybon22 donnybon22 18-21, F Aug 22, 2011

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    Ok so I just want to say a BIG shout out to those EP friends of mine to say a Thank you for being you and to say also a MASSIVE thank you for your advice and support regarding my...
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    Am I too young to say such things? Perhaps age does not define a thing To someone who never felt good enough Strength only comes by being tough Therefore I won't let anyone see...
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    what's the actual point? letting someone close will only hurt you. they'll leave, use it against you, or whatever else so why even bother? every single time I let someone close, it...
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    I'm going to come out, even though I'm afraid my family and friends won't be able to accept it. I've been keeping this secret from them for as long as I can remember. I've been...
    Eristocrat Eristocrat 22-25, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I'm very much afraid of guys/men and I want to overcome this fear and avoidance. I can never remember not having this anxiety. From even before being enrolled in my first year of...
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    After struggling with and escaping my mother's abuse for three months, I've finally grown comfortable with letting my siblings know what goes on in my life. But today I was...
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    Unless I'm around them all the time--and I hate it. Talking to anyone but the ones truly close to me, I basically try to play off how uncomfortable I really am. And it's not that I...
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    PennyLaneXXX PennyLaneXXX 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    One thing that terrifies me most in this world is the idea of hurting others through something I feel I have no control of. Nothing pains me more than to feel responsible for the...
    Kattastrophe Kattastrophe 18-21, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Not really afraid of it anymore. I won't be alone every night! ;)
    jbc62 jbc62 31-35, M 2 hrs ago

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    99% sure no one will miss me, not even one iota. Honestly, I'm glad. Why? I don't want a bunch of weepy-eyed people fawning over my empty husk telling false stories about how...
    LadyLynwyn LadyLynwyn 26-30, F 19 hrs ago

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    I've been hurt far too much to ever trust anyone
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    By love I don't mean guys or anything...and I don't mean losing people to death. But I am afraid of losing my friends and family, that they will stop caring about me or I will do...
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    You may mess up, but you are not a mess up. You may make a mistake, but you are not a mistake. You may screw up, but you are not a screw up. You may fail, but you...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 2 days ago

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    I'm only wary of letting potential dates get close. I have been burned in the past by doing that. To my family and close friends I am a completely open book.
    SuperheroFanboy SuperheroFanboy 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 5

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    The caption reads "I wish I had more CLOSE friends". One of the reasons I don't is a matter of choice. Once bitten, twice shy. After having been stabbed in the back more times than...
    manusundr manusundr 46-50, M 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I Just Wanted to Let You Know You Should Know ..... You are meant to have an amazing life! ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ ♡ You are meant to have everything you love and desire. Your work is...
    letsloveloSETHehate letsloveloSETHehate 36-40, M Nov 28

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