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I Am Afraid to Let Anyone Get Close to Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 604 People

    Vulnerable

     I fear anyone getting close to me because I will be so vulnerable. I will get attached to them and when they disappear, I will be so hurt. Also, they will see all my flaws and could easily use them against me. Most of all, I fear judgment. That they will stop liking me. I...
    reset reset 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    So Want This To Go Away

    I want to feel love so much in my life, but lack the confidence to try and tell anyone how I feel. My counselor tells me to do so and I am just scared.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 12, 2013

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    I Have Been Tricked And Defamed

    Long time back, during my teens, I was miss popular Diva. My uncle sabotaged my social life completely. He forcefully made a girl [ fat hairy and brown ] friends with me. She seriously needed 100% makeover and had all the bad manners a girl can have. She wasnt even sweet to me...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    I'm afraid of putting effort in to meeting new

    people. I'm afraid I will just end up hurting them, or end up being disappointed, myself. I have trust issues and based on previous experiences, I live my life accordingly. People don't like the comparisons but most times, the comparisons are accurate. I also don't trust my own...
    ThisIsNormal ThisIsNormal 26-30, M 1 Response May 11, 2014

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    Reason Why I Don't Have Many Friends?

    I've been told before that luck of trust and ablity to open up to people is what keeps me from not having that many friends and its why I'm never in a relationship. I hate so much how this is not even really my fault, besides naively looking for the best in others... But I have...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    How can I let someone in

    when I don't even want to be close to myself? I'm just so broken inside I feel it's selfish to let someone try to put me back together because I can't do it. =/
    Thequietwithin Thequietwithin 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    I Fear Being Hurt By Those I Open Up To

    I can talk on ep and that really is my only outlet for social contact most days.but in my real day to day life its hard for me to talk to people and risk abuse like the past.I seem to get burnt when I reach out to people and ask for helpI am trying my best now to be selective to...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F May 19, 2012

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    I hate being touched.

    No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2014

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    I Just Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    This is going to be a short story but people continuously surprise me by their cruelty. I'm an honest person. I am giving. And yet, "jerk me around" is seemingly tattooed on my forehead. I'm just weary of it.
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2010

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    Stopped Talking To Someone

    I met a guy a couple months ago, and some fun stuff happened between us, but I won't go into detail.. bottom line, we clicked really well. It wasn't just a one time fling. We talked about our pasts, made each other laugh, and it seemed like we were going to be good friends. For...
    Keepsunshiny Keepsunshiny 18-21, F Jul 1, 2012

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    A family that projected its sick world view

    onto me, a borderline-********* who partially raised me to be destructive and careless with people's emotions, and a series of drug addictions -- all these things will teach you not to trust people, to lie, that if anyone got too close, they'd run away in fear, that you are...
    trianglelamp trianglelamp 26-30, M Jun 13, 2014

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    I just lost all off my friends in one day due

    to the fact I am afraid to get too close to people. My best friend for three years I made cry cause I told him that I was done with this friendship. I'm afraid to get close to people cause every time I get close to someone we have a falling out and I get hurt for a very long...
    hinhead hinhead 16-17, M Jan 18, 2014

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    And once again I remember

    why it gets thrown in my face everytime hate this feeling of being sick, hurt, and everything else ugh I quit I give up
    SassyNclassy04 SassyNclassy04 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    Betrayed

    im afraid to let anyone get close to me because i hate myself. i dont see anything good in being me so im afraid they will reject me or make fun of me because of who iam/ what i look like. many people have betrayed me the first time was in grade 6/7 with my first best friend...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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    I Think

    I think I know why I don't share too much of myself, at least the deep, really hurt stuff.  I'm afraid because when I was younger, I would get groups of friends, and on two different occassions, I was told, "I NO LONGER want to be your friend."  That was 2 seperate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    I have had a hysterectomy 12 days

    after the procedure-looking to share my experience with someone who had the same procedure.
    ChrisatEP ChrisatEP 41-45, F Jul 6

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    Excerpts

    The other day I was going through my cupboards and found an old notepad. After flicking through a few pages, I found a full page I had written a while back. I do this thing every so often where I let my mind take charge and just write what's in my head. Here are one or two...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    There are so many things

    that I just feel uncomfortable about, and things that are constant and the same are things I get weird about. Whenever someone tries to get to know me, i put up a hard front. im not one for letting people get it througj to me.
    lovemeforever9787 lovemeforever9787 18-21, F Jul 6

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    Relationships Lead To Pain

     My friendships always seem to end up in splitsville.  I guess it's a product of my raising, but it seems like I can keep a friend indefinitely until I get close to the person; then, it just goes to hell.  I have already lost a close friend this year, and I'm...
    zavalon zavalon 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    I Always Ruin Things Up Whether Intentionally Or Unintentionally

    i dunno why every time i felt like getting close to someone i always mess it up , either i find some flaws from them and pick a fight or put them unto such expectations that i know they wouldn't have met ever... i always end up loosing them just coz when i feel like they are...
    donnybon22 donnybon22 18-21, F Aug 22, 2011

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    It is easier to not let anyone get too close,

    that way they don't have the ability to hurt you.
    alleycat66 alleycat66 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I am afraid to let someone close to me

    because with my 1st bf he was close to me and then he ended up cheating on me with another girl then ended up cheating on her with another girl. What do I do get close with another guy or not
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    I wouldn't exactly say "afraid",

    more like hesitant. I moved to Florida almost 2 & a half years ago & I left behind 3 people that I was very close with. I have made some friends here but I don't open up 2 people like I use 2. I find that a lot of the time people tell me all of their secrets but I never seem to...
    loloisaninja loloisaninja 13-15, F 7 hrs ago

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    Don'T Get Too Close

    Here's the thing; be nice to me, i'll be nice to you, be friend to me, i'll be friend with you. That's all! I mean like a casual friend, whenever we see each other we say "Hi, Hello, small talks and that's it! But thinking that we'll get too close as friend makes me sick...
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F 11 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    Experiencing Growth: Becoming A Mature Woman

    Recently, I was suffering from depression caused by a resistance to truth.  Starting to live the life I desire and had to make mandatory changes.  Such as loving myself, putting first things first and being real with myself.  The truth was very painful to face, yet once it...
    makeithapen10 makeithapen10 26-30 May 29, 2011

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    Because...

    In my "case" - you wouldn't like me! I am rarely aware of what you might feel , while I talk without thinking. I hurt people not intentionally. That's why, basically. It is a good enough reason, isn't it. ? yeah.. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    Because People Do Horrible Things

    My experiences have shown me that people do unimaginably horrible things as soon as you turn your back. Of course, I know not everyone is like that, but the ones who are can completely destroy your life, and even you, if they can catch you off guard. I did recently try to let...
    waterbaby waterbaby 26-30, F Dec 24, 2009

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    Too Close For Comfort.

    All of history and litature is full of stories of how people betray each other. Brutus and Ceaser, Judas and Jesus. It does not inspire confedence in others. Throughout my life I have found this to be true. Everytime I try to tell some one about myself, they either betray me, or...
    suffocating suffocating 16-17, F Oct 13, 2010

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    It's The Truth

    In real life, if emotions started getting involved I would start doubting. After what I've been through, I think there's a wolf under the wool.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    In Every Way

    Wether it be romantic, friends or even family. It's hard for me to become emotionally attached to someone. Don't get me wrong, I can chat it up with someone and be the most friendly and outgoing person with them, but ill always be cautious and keep my guard up. I let myself trust...
    Aquamarine221 Aquamarine221 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    I'm always afraid of rejection
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    Names used herein are not real names A few months ago, she contacted me, sounding nostalgic and genuine, ready to pursue a relationship with me, as we are but 2 hours away from...
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    It is an irrational fear of mine, just like how I am afraid to swallow pills even for medical reasons. The fear of rejection is a big part of it. Being told I'm not good enough...
    Kriptess Kriptess 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'm a 24 year old female who is completely unsure of her sexuality. I've never been with another female, but I find myself becoming more and more curious as I grow older. I've been...
    CuriousF420 CuriousF420 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    So there was this girl, let's call her Rachel, I've been flirting with (I think courting is another proper term). Been talking to for around a year and a half now. I asked her out...
    Moonlight150 Moonlight150 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I realize I sometimes hold on to people when theyre letting me go.  Sometimes the toughest part of letting go is realizing that the other person already did. This is hard for...
    LanaKane LanaKane 70+, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Before I start talking about this girl I think it is important to give a little background on myself. In high school I was a pretty good athlete and you could say I was somewhat...
    Santibruh Santibruh 18-21, M 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    About five years ago I lived downtown in a major city in the US. I’ve always been a night person, so I would often find myself bored after my roommate, who was decidedly not a...
    InvinsibleViper InvinsibleViper 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I want some cool *** out of the box friends that aren't afraid of what people think. I've been meeting way to many close minded people
    missohkeke missohkeke 18-21, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    A few years ago - when I was 10 years old - I was raped by my stepfather. It was a terrifying experience for me to say the least and because of that I never let anyone get too...
    hannahphillips hannahphillips 13-15, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Well first I'm new to this so let