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I Am Afraid to Let Anyone Get Close to Me

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    Vulnerable

     I fear anyone getting close to me because I will be so vulnerable. I will get attached to them and when they disappear, I will be so hurt. Also, they will see all my flaws and could easily use them against me. Most of all, I fear judgment. That they will stop liking me. I...
    reset reset 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    Relationships Lead To Pain

     My friendships always seem to end up in splitsville.  I guess it's a product of my raising, but it seems like I can keep a friend indefinitely until I get close to the person; then, it just goes to hell.  I have already lost a close friend this year, and I'm...
    zavalon zavalon 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    I Just Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    This is going to be a short story but people continuously surprise me by their cruelty. I'm an honest person. I am giving. And yet, "jerk me around" is seemingly tattooed on my forehead. I'm just weary of it.
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2010

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    In Every Way

    Wether it be romantic, friends or even family. It's hard for me to become emotionally attached to someone. Don't get me wrong, I can chat it up with someone and be the most friendly and outgoing person with them, but ill always be cautious and keep my guard up. I let myself trust...
    Aquamarine221 Aquamarine221 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    A family that projected its sick world view

    onto me, a borderline-********* who partially raised me to be destructive and careless with people's emotions, and a series of drug addictions -- all these things will teach you not to trust people, to lie, that if anyone got too close, they'd run away in fear, that you are...
    trianglelamp trianglelamp 26-30, M Jun 13

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    I Think

    I think I know why I don't share too much of myself, at least the deep, really hurt stuff.  I'm afraid because when I was younger, I would get groups of friends, and on two different occassions, I was told, "I NO LONGER want to be your friend."  That was 2 seperate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    Stopped Talking To Someone

    I met a guy a couple months ago, and some fun stuff happened between us, but I won't go into detail.. bottom line, we clicked really well. It wasn't just a one time fling. We talked about our pasts, made each other laugh, and it seemed like we were going to be good friends. For...
    Keepsunshiny Keepsunshiny 18-21, F Jul 1, 2012

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    Too Close For Comfort.

    All of history and litature is full of stories of how people betray each other. Brutus and Ceaser, Judas and Jesus. It does not inspire confedence in others. Throughout my life I have found this to be true. Everytime I try to tell some one about myself, they either betray me, or...
    suffocating suffocating 16-17, F Oct 13, 2010

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    I Fear Being Hurt By Those I Open Up To

    I can talk on ep and that really is my only outlet for social contact most days.but in my real day to day life its hard for me to talk to people and risk abuse like the past.I seem to get burnt when I reach out to people and ask for helpI am trying my best now to be selective to...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F May 19, 2012

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    Betrayed

    im afraid to let anyone get close to me because i hate myself. i dont see anything good in being me so im afraid they will reject me or make fun of me because of who iam/ what i look like. many people have betrayed me the first time was in grade 6/7 with my first best friend...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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    Excerpts

    The other day I was going through my cupboards and found an old notepad. After flicking through a few pages, I found a full page I had written a while back. I do this thing every so often where I let my mind take charge and just write what's in my head. Here are one or two...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    Because People Do Horrible Things

    My experiences have shown me that people do unimaginably horrible things as soon as you turn your back. Of course, I know not everyone is like that, but the ones who are can completely destroy your life, and even you, if they can catch you off guard. I did recently try to let...
    waterbaby waterbaby 26-30, F Dec 24, 2009

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    I'm afraid of putting effort in to meeting new

    people. I'm afraid I will just end up hurting them, or end up being disappointed, myself. I have trust issues and based on previous experiences, I live my life accordingly. People don't like the comparisons but most times, the comparisons are accurate. I also don't trust my own...
    ThisIsNormal ThisIsNormal 26-30, M 2 Responses May 11

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    I am afraid to let someone close to me

    because with my 1st bf he was close to me and then he ended up cheating on me with another girl then ended up cheating on her with another girl. What do I do get close with another guy or not
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    Because...

    In my "case" - you wouldn't like me! I am rarely aware of what you might feel , while I talk without thinking. I hurt people not intentionally. That's why, basically. It is a good enough reason, isn't it. ? yeah.. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    It's The Truth

    In real life, if emotions started getting involved I would start doubting. After what I've been through, I think there's a wolf under the wool.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    Putting My Heart To Rest </3

    Why am I so afraid to get close? Why do I flee? I shut my friends, potential boyfriends out...It isn't them, it's just what I do.I'm afraid to allow anyone get close me to me...I've hurt people before, and I feel guilty as hell because of it.I let down the ones I love, and I just...
    takethispain takethispain 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2011

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    I Have Been Tricked And Defamed

    Long time back, during my teens, I was miss popular Diva. My uncle sabotaged my social life completely. He forcefully made a girl [ fat hairy and brown ] friends with me. She seriously needed 100% makeover and had all the bad manners a girl can have. She wasnt even sweet to me...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    Reason Why I Don't Have Many Friends?

    I've been told before that luck of trust and ablity to open up to people is what keeps me from not having that many friends and its why I'm never in a relationship. I hate so much how this is not even really my fault, besides naively looking for the best in others... But I have...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    Don'T Get Too Close

    Here's the thing; be nice to me, i'll be nice to you, be friend to me, i'll be friend with you. That's all! I mean like a casual friend, whenever we see each other we say "Hi, Hello, small talks and that's it! But thinking that we'll get too close as friend makes me sick...
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F 15 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I Always Ruin Things Up Whether Intentionally Or Unintentionally

    i dunno why every time i felt like getting close to someone i always mess it up , either i find some flaws from them and pick a fight or put them unto such expectations that i know they wouldn't have met ever... i always end up loosing them just coz when i feel like they are...
    donnybon22 donnybon22 18-21, F Aug 22, 2011

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    So Want This To Go Away

    I want to feel love so much in my life, but lack the confidence to try and tell anyone how I feel. My counselor tells me to do so and I am just scared.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 12, 2013

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    Experiencing Growth: Becoming A Mature Woman

    Recently, I was suffering from depression caused by a resistance to truth.  Starting to live the life I desire and had to make mandatory changes.  Such as loving myself, putting first things first and being real with myself.  The truth was very painful to face, yet once it...
    makeithapen10 makeithapen10 26-30 May 29, 2011

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    I hate being touched.

    No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    I just lost all off my friends in one day due

    to the fact I am afraid to get too close to people. My best friend for three years I made cry cause I told him that I was done with this friendship. I'm afraid to get close to people cause every time I get close to someone we have a falling out and I get hurt for a very long...
    hinhead hinhead 13-15, M Jan 18

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    Related Experiences

    I can make friends, that's the easy part but you have to be pretty damned special to get really close to me. I've been hurt too many times to let anyone close enough to really hurt...
    elegantstorms elegantstorms 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    It started when I was younger and all of my friends were just discovering relationships.. I always told them how pointless it was. I would say, "I'm fine alone. I'm going to wait...
    amberooo amberooo 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I crave the deepest connections with others, yet I'm too afraid to let anyone in. I love to socialize, I love to make friends, and I have a boyfriend. But that true connection has...
    laurennhem laurennhem 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    I'm afraid to let anyone get close to me again because I can't stand the fact of being hurt all over again, I don't want to get attached to someone and then they leave me. I'm not...
    Blueeyedprincesss Blueeyedprincesss 16-17, F Jul 1

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    I came to EP to be honest, and yet I still hide. I believe it's because I don't have much trust. Or is it my insecurities? I've never been with a genuinely perfect person, I've...
    Destinyyy Destinyyy 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I am so afraid of everything: going out and having fun, making a fool of myself, talking to people, even that I'm bothering everybody that are my friends. But at the same time, I...
    AngelLux AngelLux 16-17, F Jul 13

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    I was reading through stories on EP this afternoon, when it suddenly hit me that so many of those stories were actually about fear: fear of loneliness, fear of change, fear of...
    diablesse34 diablesse34 46-50, F 10 Responses Jul 9

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    I'm afraid of getting close to others or having a new best friend because my best friend died over a year ago. Not only that, I have had lots of friends who have died. Others, I...
    ninathecat ninathecat 31-35 Jul 18

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    I had that problem, too. I still hesitate but I spent such a long time married to a man that belittled me and made me feel like my opinion was worthless. Now, if it's important...
    Nuovinzi Nuovinzi 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I know that it well tear apart and that one thing that I'm afraid of. Getting close to someone or falling in love with them and then poof. Their gone because some bastard killed...
    JuanitaaLovee JuanitaaLovee 13-15, F Jul 15

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    Hey guys! (: I just wanted to let anyone know that if they ever need anyone to talk to, I'll always be here for you. Even though I am quite young, I understand what a lot of people...
    freesoul01 freesoul01 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I don't like anyone. I don't know why. I feel like all my emotions and caring about what other people are saying are fake. It is very depressing feeling like this. I want to...
    katydid87 katydid87 26-30, M 6 hrs ago

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    I'm not afraid to be fat because I'm already pretty chubby now and I'm use to harsh words from ppl everyday and being a little bigger won't be any different
    Crazybunny101 Crazybunny101 16-17, F 1 Response 45 mins ago

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    I have some male friends and honestly I can't be comfortable with them. I feel like they don't like me at all because of my looks and afraid to be paired up with me for fun. I have...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 16

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    I am afraid that my ailing Father maybe dying. I received a shocking phone call from my brother almost 2 months ago. He told me how my Dad was doing since I live so far away from...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Jul 17

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    It has it's pros and cons.I like being close to people,I love getting affection and emotional intimacy and giving it back and feeling like I have this great person i can count on...
    seeminglypossible seeminglypossible 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    I have struggled with depression and self harm for several years now. I always feel so alone but I know part of that is my fault, because no matter how hard I try I can never let...
    mmccarth mmccarth 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am sure lots of people can relate to this but I grew up in an emotionally abusive environment. My parents fought every single bloody day, screaming at each other, screaming at me...
    thiswatermelonlovesme thiswatermelonlovesme 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 2

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    I need to get out of my own head and start to live life again this is a make or break situation. Once again i find myself in a situation that scares me half to death and i am...
    lilreddress lilreddress 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 7

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    I just never ever been afraid from dying as it is life as no one stay alive forever, right!. I just saw a lot of funerals in my life and lost a lot in my 35 years as my life been...
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I’m afraid of hurting people. I always hurt someone when people get too close. The only times I can talk to people is by doing street magic or by trying to help them with their...
    l0kar l0kar 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 12

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    Me and my bestie were doing trust exercises because he thinks that my lack in trust is keeping me from getting close to people . He said I'm so afraid that someone will hurt me...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    Um I don't really know where to start. I've been in the closet since 7th grade that's when I knew.I was afraid to come out because of my family,they are not homophobic to others...
    kenmic153 kenmic153 13-15, F Jun 28

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    When i was 4 my aunt died of cancer, she was the first person i trusted, the only person in my family that actually believed in me. the rest of my family was absorbed with making...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 3

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