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I Am Afraid to Let Anyone Get Close to Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 437 People

    Relationships Lead To Pain

     My friendships always seem to end up in splitsville.  I guess it's a product of my raising, but it seems like I can keep a friend indefinitely until I get close to the person; then, it just goes to hell.  I have already lost a close friend this year, and I'm...
    zavalon zavalon 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    So Want This To Go Away

    I want to feel love so much in my life, but lack the confidence to try and tell anyone how I feel. My counselor tells me to do so and I am just scared.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 12, 2013

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    Putting My Heart To Rest </3

    Why am I so afraid to get close? Why do I flee? I shut my friends, potential boyfriends out...It isn't them, it's just what I do.I'm afraid to allow anyone get close me to me...I've hurt people before, and I feel guilty as hell because of it.I let down the ones I love, and I just...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2011

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    I am afraid to let someone close to me

    because with my 1st bf he was close to me and then he ended up cheating on me with another girl then ended up cheating on her with another girl. What do I do get close with another guy or not
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response May 2, 2014

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    Betrayed

    im afraid to let anyone get close to me because i hate myself. i dont see anything good in being me so im afraid they will reject me or make fun of me because of who iam/ what i look like. many people have betrayed me the first time was in grade 6/7 with my first best friend...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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    I Fear Being Hurt By Those I Open Up To

    I can talk on ep and that really is my only outlet for social contact most days.but in my real day to day life its hard for me to talk to people and risk abuse like the past.I seem to get burnt when I reach out to people and ask for helpI am trying my best now to be selective to...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F May 19, 2012

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    Excerpts

    The other day I was going through my cupboards and found an old notepad. After flicking through a few pages, I found a full page I had written a while back. I do this thing every so often where I let my mind take charge and just write what's in my head. Here are one or two...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    I'm afraid of putting effort in to meeting new

    people. I'm afraid I will just end up hurting them, or end up being disappointed, myself. I have trust issues and based on previous experiences, I live my life accordingly. People don't like the comparisons but most times, the comparisons are accurate. I also don't trust my own...
    ThisIsNormal ThisIsNormal 26-30, M 1 Response May 11, 2014

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    Reason Why I Don't Have Many Friends?

    I've been told before that luck of trust and ablity to open up to people is what keeps me from not having that many friends and its why I'm never in a relationship. I hate so much how this is not even really my fault, besides naively looking for the best in others... But I have...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    Because People Do Horrible Things

    My experiences have shown me that people do unimaginably horrible things as soon as you turn your back. Of course, I know not everyone is like that, but the ones who are can completely destroy your life, and even you, if they can catch you off guard. I did recently try to let...
    waterbaby waterbaby 26-30, F Dec 24, 2009

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    I Always Ruin Things Up Whether Intentionally Or Unintentionally

    i dunno why every time i felt like getting close to someone i always mess it up , either i find some flaws from them and pick a fight or put them unto such expectations that i know they wouldn't have met ever... i always end up loosing them just coz when i feel like they are...
    donnybon22 donnybon22 18-21, F Aug 22, 2011

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    Experiencing Growth: Becoming A Mature Woman

    Recently, I was suffering from depression caused by a resistance to truth.  Starting to live the life I desire and had to make mandatory changes.  Such as loving myself, putting first things first and being real with myself.  The truth was very painful to face, yet once it...
    makeithapen10 makeithapen10 26-30 May 29, 2011

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    Too Close For Comfort.

    All of history and litature is full of stories of how people betray each other. Brutus and Ceaser, Judas and Jesus. It does not inspire confedence in others. Throughout my life I have found this to be true. Everytime I try to tell some one about myself, they either betray me, or...
    suffocating suffocating 16-17, F Oct 13, 2010

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    Because...

    In my "case" - you wouldn't like me! I am rarely aware of what you might feel , while I talk without thinking. I hurt people not intentionally. That's why, basically. It is a good enough reason, isn't it. ? yeah.. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    I hate being touched.

    No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 17, 2014

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    Don'T Get Too Close

    Here's the thing; be nice to me, i'll be nice to you, be friend to me, i'll be friend with you. That's all! I mean like a casual friend, whenever we see each other we say "Hi, Hello, small talks and that's it! But thinking that we'll get too close as friend makes me sick...
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F 14 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    I Just Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    This is going to be a short story but people continuously surprise me by their cruelty. I'm an honest person. I am giving. And yet, "jerk me around" is seemingly tattooed on my forehead. I'm just weary of it.
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2010

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    Vulnerable

     I fear anyone getting close to me because I will be so vulnerable. I will get attached to them and when they disappear, I will be so hurt. Also, they will see all my flaws and could easily use them against me. Most of all, I fear judgment. That they will stop liking me. I...
    reset reset 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    It's The Truth

    In real life, if emotions started getting involved I would start doubting. After what I've been through, I think there's a wolf under the wool.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    I just lost all off my friends in one day due

    to the fact I am afraid to get too close to people. My best friend for three years I made cry cause I told him that I was done with this friendship. I'm afraid to get close to people cause every time I get close to someone we have a falling out and I get hurt for a very long...
    hinhead hinhead 16-17, M Jan 18, 2014

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    A family that projected its sick world view

    onto me, a borderline-********* who partially raised me to be destructive and careless with people's emotions, and a series of drug addictions -- all these things will teach you not to trust people, to lie, that if anyone got too close, they'd run away in fear, that you are...
    trianglelamp trianglelamp 26-30, M Jun 13, 2014

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    I Think

    I think I know why I don't share too much of myself, at least the deep, really hurt stuff.  I'm afraid because when I was younger, I would get groups of friends, and on two different occassions, I was told, "I NO LONGER want to be your friend."  That was 2 seperate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    In Every Way

    Wether it be romantic, friends or even family. It's hard for me to become emotionally attached to someone. Don't get me wrong, I can chat it up with someone and be the most friendly and outgoing person with them, but ill always be cautious and keep my guard up. I let myself trust...
    Aquamarine221 Aquamarine221 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    I Have Been Tricked And Defamed

    Long time back, during my teens, I was miss popular Diva. My uncle sabotaged my social life completely. He forcefully made a girl [ fat hairy and brown ] friends with me. She seriously needed 100% makeover and had all the bad manners a girl can have. She wasnt even sweet to me...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    Stopped Talking To Someone

    I met a guy a couple months ago, and some fun stuff happened between us, but I won't go into detail.. bottom line, we clicked really well. It wasn't just a one time fling. We talked about our pasts, made each other laugh, and it seemed like we were going to be good friends. For...
    Keepsunshiny Keepsunshiny 18-21, F Jul 1, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Not that I am afraid but rather I know someone who is afraid of getting close to me. We met online and right from the start we connected. We had a great time chatting online and...
    freestyler605 freestyler605 22-25, M Jan 3

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    Feels like I lost it long ago but no one has ever noticed because I've never let anyone close enough to see that side of me. Now I can cry on the inside but look at someone and...
    ShakenButNotBroken ShakenButNotBroken 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    I think my goal of letting people near me enough to be able to become friends is failing miserably. All the progress I made with my counselor, down the drain. All because of this...
    ShakenButNotBroken ShakenButNotBroken 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I always end up getting my feelings squashed in the end. I'm starting to think I can never fully let anyone get close, every time I try to open up I just get knocked back down.
    Lucycristobal Lucycristobal 18-21, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    I've been lied to and I've been hurt a lot throughout my life. I worry that I will never be able to trust people again. I'm afraid to bring new people into my life, I'm afraid to...
    smileyryley smileyryley 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    When you've been through so much, you loose your trust for everyone. And it's so hard to let anyone gain your trust fully
    lostgirl2001 lostgirl2001 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    Been hurt emotionally so much by everyone, even loved ones that now I'm too scared to let anyone get close to me anymore. I can't help by keep everyone at arm's length, I feel...
    EightEggyEggs EightEggyEggs 18-21, M Jan 4

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    I just realized today that I have dealt so poorly with so many situations because I was afraid of dealing poorly with the situations in the first place. I over-thought everything...
    fuckitwhynot fuckitwhynot 22-25, F 10 hrs ago

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    Please please pleaseeee get me really sick! Or seriously injure me! I know the risks involved and I'm not afraid. Please message if you're interested in helping me!
    CootyMeUp CootyMeUp 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    Three years ago, I was engaged to a guy who later on turned abusive physically and emotionally. The relationship lasted over two years and it ended because my ex fiance cheated on...
    Alyeskaa Alyeskaa 26-30, F 3 Responses 1 hr ago

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    The one thing I do best in life is failing. I have let my laziness get in the way. I do have big goals and dreams that I want to overcome. The path that I am on right now is not...
    chelliebean01 chelliebean01 18-21, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I'm so afraid of people getting close to me. I mean I want it but I'm kind of afraid, because once I have that bonding with someone or even relationship and it's gone or they leave...
    t3rriv t3rriv 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    My ex beat my on multiple occasions over nothing. He has his issues but I really don't care to explain away his behaviors anymore. All I know is that he brutalized me, over and...
    thirdgirl thirdgirl 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    For two years I've been nothing but hurt by people. I've lost the last person in my life because I couldn't let him in. It's not that I'm afraid, I'm not afraid of anything. I just...
    StrandedandAlonr StrandedandAlonr 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 4

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    After many years amassing countless hours rummaging through a variety of WebMD articles online, and any ruling out a multitude of various rare medical conditions based on a...
    bluemountains36 bluemountains36 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Not really afraid of rejection, but more so, a fear of becoming vulnerable. "A person is, among all else, a material thing, easily torn and not easily mended." Ian McEwan
    Lipsmack37 Lipsmack37 36-40, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    All I can think about is my future. Only hoping for the best. I'm not afraid to fail, but I am nervous about the risk of my life turning upside down. This is my first year of...
    trulyspoken trulyspoken 18-21, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    Every time I let people get close, I end up getting hurt emotionally or physically for it. I'm done letting people get that close. I'm not going to let my guard down again.
    BeYou321 BeYou321 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    You look at me and see a short pretty girl. What comes out of my mouth blows your mind because you do not normally expect me to be this witty. You do not look at me and see a...
    MoMolicious93 MoMolicious93 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    I am a very outgoing, loveable, fun, talented young woman. I am always working on making you happy. I go out of my way to make you smile and bring you joy. At a first glance, when...
    MamaBreaABDL MamaBreaABDL 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Some people know about it, but I guess that if I ever had a girlfriend, I would not introduce her to anyone but a very tight group of friends. Most times I am ashamed of myself. I...
    cursedswan cursedswan 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    Hey, friends. So I've been doing extremely well at moving on from my last relationship. We have no contact, I've been on a couple dates that didn't go anywhere, and I've spent most...
    velvetskies velvetskies 22-25, F 16 Responses Jan 15

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    I have this really huge problem with loosing interest in guys! I starts with me getting intrerested in at guy. Maybe after a week of talking and keeping eye contact in School, he...
    Methoma Methoma 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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