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I Am Afraid to Let Anyone Get Close to Me

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    I just lost all off my friends in one day due

    to the fact I am afraid to get too close to people. My best friend for three years I made cry cause I told him that I was done with this friendship. I'm afraid to get close to people cause every time I get close to someone we have a falling out and I get hurt for a very long...
    hinhead hinhead 16-17, M Jan 18

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    I Have Been Tricked And Defamed

    Long time back, during my teens, I was miss popular Diva. My uncle sabotaged my social life completely. He forcefully made a girl [ fat hairy and brown ] friends with me. She seriously needed 100% makeover and had all the bad manners a girl can have. She wasnt even sweet to me...
    HelenParis HelenParis 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2012

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    Because...

    In my "case" - you wouldn't like me! I am rarely aware of what you might feel , while I talk without thinking. I hurt people not intentionally. That's why, basically. It is a good enough reason, isn't it. ? yeah.. 
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 9, 2009

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    It's The Truth

    In real life, if emotions started getting involved I would start doubting. After what I've been through, I think there's a wolf under the wool.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    I am afraid to let someone close to me

    because with my 1st bf he was close to me and then he ended up cheating on me with another girl then ended up cheating on her with another girl. What do I do get close with another guy or not
    RaspberryTommyCat RaspberryTommyCat 13-15, F 1 Response May 2

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    Stopped Talking To Someone

    I met a guy a couple months ago, and some fun stuff happened between us, but I won't go into detail.. bottom line, we clicked really well. It wasn't just a one time fling. We talked about our pasts, made each other laugh, and it seemed like we were going to be good friends. For...
    Keepsunshiny Keepsunshiny 18-21, F Jul 1, 2012

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    I Just Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    This is going to be a short story but people continuously surprise me by their cruelty. I'm an honest person. I am giving. And yet, "jerk me around" is seemingly tattooed on my forehead. I'm just weary of it.
    lisa36 lisa36 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 16, 2010

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    Excerpts

    The other day I was going through my cupboards and found an old notepad. After flicking through a few pages, I found a full page I had written a while back. I do this thing every so often where I let my mind take charge and just write what's in my head. Here are one or two...
    Emptysoul30 Emptysoul30 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 22, 2011

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    I Fear Being Hurt By Those I Open Up To

    I can talk on ep and that really is my only outlet for social contact most days.but in my real day to day life its hard for me to talk to people and risk abuse like the past.I seem to get burnt when I reach out to people and ask for helpI am trying my best now to be selective to...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F May 19, 2012

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    I hate being touched.

    No it isn't ptsd, i think its a phobia. It just feels awkward and uncomfortable.
    Mi5h Mi5h 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Vulnerable

     I fear anyone getting close to me because I will be so vulnerable. I will get attached to them and when they disappear, I will be so hurt. Also, they will see all my flaws and could easily use them against me. Most of all, I fear judgment. That they will stop liking me. I...
    reset reset 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2009

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    Experiencing Growth: Becoming A Mature Woman

    Recently, I was suffering from depression caused by a resistance to truth.  Starting to live the life I desire and had to make mandatory changes.  Such as loving myself, putting first things first and being real with myself.  The truth was very painful to face, yet once it...
    makeithapen10 makeithapen10 26-30 May 29, 2011

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    Don'T Get Too Close

    Here's the thing; be nice to me, i'll be nice to you, be friend to me, i'll be friend with you. That's all! I mean like a casual friend, whenever we see each other we say "Hi, Hello, small talks and that's it! But thinking that we'll get too close as friend makes me sick...
    DarkSoul07 DarkSoul07 22-25, F 14 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    So Want This To Go Away

    I want to feel love so much in my life, but lack the confidence to try and tell anyone how I feel. My counselor tells me to do so and I am just scared.
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 12, 2013

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    I'm afraid of putting effort in to meeting new

    people. I'm afraid I will just end up hurting them, or end up being disappointed, myself. I have trust issues and based on previous experiences, I live my life accordingly. People don't like the comparisons but most times, the comparisons are accurate. I also don't trust my own...
    ThisIsNormal ThisIsNormal 26-30, M 2 Responses May 11

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    A family that projected its sick world view

    onto me, a borderline-********* who partially raised me to be destructive and careless with people's emotions, and a series of drug addictions -- all these things will teach you not to trust people, to lie, that if anyone got too close, they'd run away in fear, that you are...
    trianglelamp trianglelamp 26-30, M Jun 13

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    Because People Do Horrible Things

    My experiences have shown me that people do unimaginably horrible things as soon as you turn your back. Of course, I know not everyone is like that, but the ones who are can completely destroy your life, and even you, if they can catch you off guard. I did recently try to let...
    waterbaby waterbaby 26-30, F Dec 24, 2009

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    I Think

    I think I know why I don't share too much of myself, at least the deep, really hurt stuff.  I'm afraid because when I was younger, I would get groups of friends, and on two different occassions, I was told, "I NO LONGER want to be your friend."  That was 2 seperate...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 11, 2010

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    Betrayed

    im afraid to let anyone get close to me because i hate myself. i dont see anything good in being me so im afraid they will reject me or make fun of me because of who iam/ what i look like. many people have betrayed me the first time was in grade 6/7 with my first best friend...
    atreyuxo atreyuxo 16-17 1 Response Dec 23, 2009

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    Putting My Heart To Rest </3

    Why am I so afraid to get close? Why do I flee? I shut my friends, potential boyfriends out...It isn't them, it's just what I do.I'm afraid to allow anyone get close me to me...I've hurt people before, and I feel guilty as hell because of it.I let down the ones I love, and I just...
    XxxFallenAngelxxX XxxFallenAngelxxX 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2011

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    Reason Why I Don't Have Many Friends?

    I've been told before that luck of trust and ablity to open up to people is what keeps me from not having that many friends and its why I'm never in a relationship. I hate so much how this is not even really my fault, besides naively looking for the best in others... But I have...
    renbrooks521 renbrooks521 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 14, 2012

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    Too Close For Comfort.

    All of history and litature is full of stories of how people betray each other. Brutus and Ceaser, Judas and Jesus. It does not inspire confedence in others. Throughout my life I have found this to be true. Everytime I try to tell some one about myself, they either betray me, or...
    suffocating suffocating 16-17, F Oct 13, 2010

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    I Always Ruin Things Up Whether Intentionally Or Unintentionally

    i dunno why every time i felt like getting close to someone i always mess it up , either i find some flaws from them and pick a fight or put them unto such expectations that i know they wouldn't have met ever... i always end up loosing them just coz when i feel like they are...
    donnybon22 donnybon22 18-21, F Aug 22, 2011

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    Relationships Lead To Pain

     My friendships always seem to end up in splitsville.  I guess it's a product of my raising, but it seems like I can keep a friend indefinitely until I get close to the person; then, it just goes to hell.  I have already lost a close friend this year, and I'm...
    zavalon zavalon 18-21, M 2 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    In Every Way

    Wether it be romantic, friends or even family. It's hard for me to become emotionally attached to someone. Don't get me wrong, I can chat it up with someone and be the most friendly and outgoing person with them, but ill always be cautious and keep my guard up. I let myself trust...
    Aquamarine221 Aquamarine221 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17, 2013

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    Am I too young to say such things? Perhaps age does not define a thing To someone who never felt good enough Strength only comes by being tough Therefore I won't let anyone see...
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    I wish I was that person that would give people tight hugs and just be completely open with how I felt. Or I wouldn't mind cuddling with friends and allowed myself to trust them. I...
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    To accomplish with anguish. The hardest thing is to let go and stop being a victim, I really wish I had never met him. He doesn't even know the struggle that I'm enduring, and...
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    I've always felt afraid to let people get close to me both physically and emotionally. I think this is why I have never dated someone or I get choked up when someone asks me on a...
    LilFA LilFA 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm very much afraid of guys/men and I want to overcome this fear and avoidance. I can never remember not having this anxiety. From even before being enrolled in my first year of...
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    I dont like lesbian communities and i rather dont post here cos i allways get judged. But i try again. I think i should somehow communicate with lesbians cos im one and allways...
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    It's that kind of day today... Anyone have any good laughs for me and the others reading this? Come on now, I know all you dirty birds have a few tricks up your sleeve! ;)
    plhwish plhwish 31-35, F 27 mins ago

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    The holiday season, Thanksgiving in particular, is not an easy time for me. I struggle at this time each year because I lost my Grandfather on Thanksgiving morning some years back...
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    But it is. Everyday I wake up I think about my past. I can't move forward mentally. My brain is so consumed with my past self (childhood). I experienced so many trials as a kid...
    forestchild forestchild 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    I have a really hard time telling people how I feel. I do my best to hide my emotions because I don't like people trying to read me and have them ask me what's wrong. I don't tell...
    Amayarri Amayarri 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 10

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    okay so I don't know if this will sound ridiculous to you but I don't like getting close to people because I am scared that they will die. the first person that I ever got close to...
    thatgirl1252001 thatgirl1252001 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 10

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    My values are at complete odds with my parents and most of my siblings. They believe in the literal interpretation of the bible, are a bit racist, and extremely judgmental. About...
    LuvBlackCats LuvBlackCats 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 8

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    iwant that someone to talk to again. someone that’ll listen & not judge cause I get more than enough of that already. nothing is ever rainbows & butterflies. a modern fairy tale...
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    When I abandoned this place several months ago, I promised myself that all of the things I wouldn't be able to say to the next person I'll be admiring should be written in a...
    kixisback kixisback 22-25 Oct 30

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    I've been in a relationship for two months now but I can't seem to fully let her in. My self-confidence is so low and I can't let myself go, my walls are up 300%. I don't know what...
    justaluststuckgirl justaluststuckgirl 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 28

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    I'm not a writer, sometimes I lack common sense, and other times I make no sense at all. If you still with me for the nect few minutes though I only hope that it gives you some...
    InfinitelyCurious InfinitelyCurious 18-21, F Nov 12

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    It is easier to avoid being hurt when you don't allow people close to you. You don't have to worry about all the pain.
    beenhereb4 beenhereb4 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    I lost one of my best friends a few years back and I'm so afraid of becoming that close to people again 😢
    LisaMannion LisaMannion 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    As much as I want to get close to people, I always get hurt when I do. I'm tired of getting hurt all the time. I get rejected, ignored, blamed for things that aren't my fault, and...
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M 2 Responses Oct 31

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