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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Gents, I read your stories and it pains me. I too am one of your wolf pack! 29, 5 years into the marriage and its a struggle. It used to be she was too tired at night, but id get a...
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    Me and my husband tried to watch a movie together. It just seems forced. Our interaction with one another is forced... I feel like we are more like roommates than a couple. I...
    Shawneeluv Shawneeluv 22-25, F Jul 6

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    Well I'll try to share this...I know it's a familiar story based on those I've read here already, thank you all for sharing. Perhaps it'll merely be cathartic for me to tell a...
    don0063 don0063 51-55, M 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am not sure if that is totally true that I am not marriage material. I got engaged 4 months ago but I broke it off yesterday. He has put his hands on me, not hitting but...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    love is love whos gives a **** whether its two guys or two girls. Btw im not against gay marriage
    azuhh azuhh 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    firefly83 firefly83 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage. My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I'm so pissed. I've been nice. I know there's no nice way to end a marriage, but I've been as kind as I can. It might have been salvageable had stbxnot turned my family against me...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 5

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    I've never had an abortion, nor will I ever. There is no circumstance I will abort. I truly believe it is murder. People can say what they want, but that's what I believe. After...
    brittanys13 brittanys13 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    I'm very religious and I intended to wait. But in the heat of my anger and pain I lashed out...at myself and let someone violate the one thing that actually meant something towards...
    smarcelin2014 smarcelin2014 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    My therapist has been very helpful in helping me do three things. 1) Identify causes for my current plight and 2) uncovering areas for personal growth and 3) develop an action plan...
    NWTruthSeeker NWTruthSeeker 51-55, M 6 Responses Jul 13

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    Because I didn't know better! And this torments me all the time even though about, 14 yrs has pass! Yup crazy I guess but can't get over the fact because, I was 13 and he was 19...
    mrscasillas28 mrscasillas28 26-30, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I really want to be forced to be a little girl baby I want this really bad just to be forced to be someone's little princess baby girl who is like 1year old
    SilverEagle1244 SilverEagle1244 18-21, M Jun 29

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    I really want to be forced to be a little girl baby I want this really bad just to be forced to be someone's little princess baby girl who is like 1year old
    SilverEagle1244 SilverEagle1244 18-21, M Jun 29

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    Mahsa99 Mahsa99 13-15, F Jun 30

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    riley7253 riley7253 56-60, M 6 Responses Jul 11

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    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I think I've got the guts to post this now. My wife and I have talked about this many times. I think it would help me to talk to others about it, even if it is anonymously. Since...
    7Sparrows 7Sparrows 26-30, M 14 Responses Jun 27

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for 14 years. It started going down hill within the first year and I knew then something wasn't right. I've poured my heart out to him so many times...
    ABlueChristine ABlueChristine 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 29

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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