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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27

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    I'm a Canadian lesbian, age 28 born into a catholic family. Looking for overseas MOC due to family pressure. My family is cruel & completely against same sex marriage...
    lemonumbrella lemonumbrella 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I'm 99% straight and I have many fantasies such as being a human dog, being tied up , but a new one join my list is wanting to be forced a sissy, I want to be forced a sissy by...
    giantsword18 giantsword18 13-15, M 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 6 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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    Are we all here due to the overall pressure to "forgive" & "compromise" that long term marriages speak of? Have we given 100% to our partners and in so doing neglected our own...
    JRD22 JRD22 51-55, M 9 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My husband Johnny and I have been together for 2 years, married for a year and a half. We met through his older brother 2 1/2 years ago and started talking as friends. Neither one...
    ashleymarcia ashleymarcia 22-25, F Aug 28

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    My husband and I have been together ten years, and married for seven. Sex dropped off right after the wedding. Over our married years, we have typically had sex every other month...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 22 Responses Sep 2

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    I am going to tell how trying to keep my husband in a sexless marriage turned into a terror. When my husband came back from the military his father and other wanted me to assist in...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I had sex on a first date. That date proposed to me only 2 short months after. I said YES. That date turned into my husband just three years later. Exactly. To the day. & Now...
    LittleTarheel14 LittleTarheel14 22-25, F 10 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I a really curious about others outsourcing experiences. My own has taken twist and turns all with a positive arc. My self esteem has increase at the same time my willingness to...
    zooomzoom zooomzoom 36-40, M 8 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I totally gave it away to the wrong man when I was 16, but glad I didn't wait until marriage. I got to learn what it was that I liked (and didn't) and had the ability to explore...
    canadagirl0101 canadagirl0101 31-35, F 8 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Tired of being lonely, he's fine with this nothing marriage, separate rooms,separate lives same house, no intimacy of any kind. He's passive aggressive so any time we argue be...
    Wantfreedom67 Wantfreedom67 46-50, F 15 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceableMe EmbraceableMe 41-45 9 Responses Sep 2

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    Not necessarily a sexless marriage, but one lacking intimacy. I have sex often...not as much as I would like, but often. I think I'm an above average sexual guy, so I kind of...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30 8 Responses Aug 24

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 26

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    My views on abortion: Well unless you were told by the doctor that the baby would kill you because of a certain health problem or something. Or you were forced to abort against...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 35 Responses Aug 14

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    I made a comment in another site, that I would like to get some replies to it here, as this site is more marriage focused. Here it is (small changes to reflect site lingo...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 16 Responses Aug 21

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    A few weeks ago I met someone here via his responses on my posts. He seemed very nice. I checked his profile. Others liked him. It seemed "safe" to chat with him. So when he...
    IrisROE IrisROE 56-60, F 39 Responses Sep 5

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    I told my mom how I felt about gay marriage and homosexuality and she things it's wrong and an disgrace against god. She has now banned me from going over any of my friends house...
    vicky5rox vicky5rox 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 24

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    I have always been attracted to older men but I really stepped it up when I was 15. I started dating a man 15 years my senior. He treated me like his daughter and I treated him...
    kittygurl66 kittygurl66 26-30, F 8 Responses Aug 25

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    Indeed I do - I don't think the state should restrict who you can get married to, as long as the parties consent. Who you choose to love is your business only. Having said that, I...
    ashley420d ashley420d 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 26

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    My grandma and dad were talking about same sex marriage and my grandma said its sad that there trying to legalize that, its against gods law..... Like seriously don't say that out...
    Loveless2000 Loveless2000 13-15, M 4 Responses Aug 29

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    Here's a column with important advice for most of the refused-- male and female -- here. I believe that virtually all of the refused here need to learn to cherish themselves...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 5

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    I believe abortion is murder and I believe life begins at the moment of conception. If you laid down and had sex, then you should be responsible and take care of the baby. When it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 14

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    This happened about 2 years after My original story where I was forced to basically be a girl.So as most of you know, my wardrobe at home consisted of only girl clothes, even down...
    Lovingthepanties Lovingthepanties 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 3

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    Why Did We Get Married? - My STBX continues to struggle with my decision to divorce him, yet my conviction to break free grows stronger everyday since I triggered our divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Aug 17

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    You can cry all day long and pray, but that's not going to move God to work on your situation. He does hear your cry and undertand your needs, but that's not faith and faith is...
    Brandnue Brandnue 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    If stuff get to a place the spot you may not cope with them, search for the aid of a person for instance a counselor. They might assist you to manage using your troubles by...
    Logan4825edv1 Logan4825edv1 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 23

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    I love my wife but I don't feel like I get enough recognition from her for trying to be good. Culturally we are different. Socially we are different. I try to accept her culture...
    MrFKDT MrFKDT 22-25, M Aug 29

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    And so it is, after a week that was filled with steps in the right direction, here it is, the end of yet another night that i go to bed alone, while she enjoys her tv time. I know...
    Rednkfireftr Rednkfireftr 31-35, M 7 Responses Sep 6

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    Hello friends, It has been a long while since I have come onto this site. Last October, nearly a year ago now, my ex and I started the divorce process. We had separated, which...
    DancingFire DancingFire 31-35, F 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    So- I just got the letter of retainer from the attorney. I'd filled out the questionnaire, and i have to sign this. I know it's a catch all, but it's talking about incedentals like...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    There are truths behind these funny quotes....To the singles, would you still wanna take the plunge on marriage? ***I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at...
    0nOpalsMind 0nOpalsMind 41-45, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14