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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 221 People

    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27, 2014

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    My family are wanting me to get married,

    with a man who has been in talks with them since I was 13 years. I do not have much time & I do not want to be married to him. I wish our culture would allow more freedom of speech, be allowed to say "No". I have a few options & one I would not like to be forced to carry out...
    Neveah95 Neveah95 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 8

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    maybe against would be a strong word,

    but i dont agree with force arranged marriage. what i feel more painful however is the fact that... for children who love their parents, they just say yes sincerely. My ex-boyfriend is a pakistani, i am a muslim myself, but i am indonesian. when i first met him, i thought...n...
    butterfliesndut butterfliesndut 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2014

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    Too many reasons to hate it! Its a disaster, your feelings, your emotions are crushed, Parents are more bothered about their reputation that's the reason why they choose a high...
    simplydbest simplydbest 22-25, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I've been needing to say this out loud for a long time now and I have never had anyone to talk to. I can't even talk to my best friend about it. I met my husband when I was 17...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 4

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    I was a few weeks ago FORCED to try and DRUG a man I cared for and remove him against his will. By people who are supposed to love him. I LOVE HIM ALWAYS WILL. I was so sad...
    gallagher1969 gallagher1969 46-50, F May 12

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    I used to think only a really mean person would say no to a marriage proposal... But then it happened to me. He didn't articulate the words 'will you marry me?' he just started...
    fixiefemme fixiefemme 22-25, F Apr 24

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    I have to be honest I'm against gay marriage its disgusting to me that man will have sexual inter course with another man. It's not natural it's immoral to me. And I wouldn't...
    Honestman98 Honestman98 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    same boat, I miss making love, my bf has actually turned me against him , ughhhhh. Been 5months time to get me sum~~~*Somewhere else that is!!!!!! Jen
    nikkija22 nikkija22 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    Well, this weekend I moved out of my Apartment and brought furniture home. 6 months I tried. No success. Guess I get none cause I deserve none. During those 6 months kids are more...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 26

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    When i was about 10 years old my older sister sometimes wrestle me down in the bed. Once she had defeated me she always forced me to smell under her stinky feet. She forced me to...
    Beavis73 Beavis73 41-45, M May 10

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    i was forced to be in a football team and i hate sports and my dad forced me to do it, i was good but i droped outnof it and gave up. i was so mad at him for making me do it
    Angel861 Angel861 13-15 May 12

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    I got out. Best decision of my life. Every situation is different, and ending a marriage (particularly when there are children involved, which there are for me) is a serious...
    ericseviltwin ericseviltwin 31-35, M 3 Responses Apr 27

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    I don't know about forced but it was a dare. It happened when I was 10.
    pardax pardax 13-15, M 1 Response Apr 28

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    I was forced back into them as a kid by my gran and now I'm 13 and still in then 24/7
    jessie1233 jessie1233 13-15, F May 9

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    I'm forced to go to school. Yea we have the option to drop out, but I'll never get a career if I do that. So I'm stuck here since people's lifes go around letter grades and...
    moose73630 moose73630 16-17, M 2 Responses May 12

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    more like I think she likes forced impregnation curious about breeding
    gusmo22 gusmo22 18-21, M 5 days ago

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F Apr 26

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    Had first marriage counseling appointment. She believes our problems are fixable, I'm not so sure. I didn't get into detail about our main problem, but I believe I said enough to...
    AsylumLeech132 AsylumLeech132 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 26

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    It was a Tuesday, I think…maybe a Thursday I can’t remember. At the time, I was content with where I was in life. Single…healthy, happy, no debt, free to live life as I chose...
    1StateAway 1StateAway 36-40, M 4 Responses May 5

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    Keonz Quek is an experienced marriage counselor, whose assistance has proved instrumental in the life of numerous couples. He provides marriage advice and counseling to couples...
    gordon54 gordon54 22-25, M May 7

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    Why am I writing this? Because so many of the stories you see are about bad marriages and sad marriages. I just want to remind people that sometimes marriage is wonderful.
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 8 Responses May 14

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    I wrote on this topic a while ago and thought i'd give an update on how things are. Unfortunately, things have not improved in my marriage of almost now 10 years. My wife and I...
    JBMaine75 JBMaine75 36-40, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    Well I read a post on marriage today here.This set me thinking.Can we change those who cheat in their marriages .I think we cannot unless these people...
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 46-50, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I've been with my husband for 9 years, married for 8; we don't have kids and I'm 35; he is 40. We have struggled through our marriage at times as a result of my husband's drinking...
    SadPanda35 SadPanda35 31-35, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    Life keeps proving it to me, only a miracle would make marriage work, it is a dream, something that people dream of but it doesn't happen for them, they get something else instead...
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 23

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    Let's see were do I begin... Maybe this is just what I needed to say. I sadly didn't wait until marriage. I'm on the short side of 33 and you know what I truly wish I had. To those...
    Beanbella Beanbella 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I am at a point in my marriage where I am bored and very unhappy... we have a son together and I don't want to cheat or divorce but I don't have any options anymore. we want...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 29

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    For the last few weeks i have been having a recurring dream where i am in bed, during the day, having amazing sex with a friend of both mine and my wife’s. The person i have been...
    watertrance watertrance 41-45, M 1 Response May 4

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    I have been married for close to 3 years and have a beautiful daughter. Since the first day of our marriage, my husband is largely absent. He has a very demanding job which...
    notashappyasilook notashappyasilook 26-30, F 3 Responses May 6

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    i would not want it any other way!!! i recently found this on-line a few years ago. It is a great list of ideas on ways to submit to your Husabnd. i found this list giving me new...
    goodgirl456 goodgirl456 31-35, F 5 Responses May 7

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    She Said-I love being married. I love him. We make each other happy but there are also the hidden benefits of marriage. : )-a constant foot warmer in the dead of the night-a mighty...
    HeSaidSheSaid HeSaidSheSaid 46-50 May 8

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    As I said I was the controller in my marriage, The operational word in this sentence is "was". Now everything is out of my control and my husband is ruling everything with an iron...
    isis55 isis55 51-55, F