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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 233 People

    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2014

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    My family is originally from Nigeria,

    my parents were born there while my siblings and I was where born in the United States. My grandparents arranged them to be married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 31. Growing up, my five siblings and I can tell that they don't love each other very much. When I was younger...
    elijahx elijahx 22-25, M Jun 27

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Well I'm still with my boyfriend

    although he has had an arranged marriage last March. It kills me. He just went out there for Ramadan to finally pick her up and take her in the US. He tells me that she's just something for the family and i am for him. He doesn't touch her or have sex with her. I understand...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 31-35, F Jul 17

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 22-25, F Jan 27, 2014

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    My family are wanting me to get married,

    with a man who has been in talks with them since I was 13 years. I do not have much time & I do not want to be married to him. I wish our culture would allow more freedom of speech, be allowed to say "No". I have a few options & one I would not like to be forced to carry out...
    Coldbrezze Coldbrezze 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    maybe against would be a strong word,

    but i dont agree with force arranged marriage. what i feel more painful however is the fact that... for children who love their parents, they just say yes sincerely. My ex-boyfriend is a pakistani, i am a muslim myself, but i am indonesian. when i first met him, i thought...n...
    butterfliesndut butterfliesndut 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    escapingcaptivityofspirit escapingcaptivityofspirit 31-35, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    For example, my boyfriend forced me to meet his mother and brother once. It was probably the most uncomfortable hour of my life. Everyone at the table just ignored me. I couldn't...
    cairah cairah 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    GreyStreet98 GreyStreet98 46-50, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Jerseygal72 Jerseygal72 41-45, F a week ago

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    slofox slofox 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Tejasjha Tejasjha 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 18

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    Procrastination is my middle name. That's why I'm here after 20 years. But this year, my goal is to leave this group and join the one (does it exist?) that says "I left my sexless...
    silverdarling silverdarling 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 17

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    This is so exciting that gay marriage is now legal. I think it's great couples are given the right to marry whoever they wish. And not a damn thing anybody can do about it. Yes I...
    CreoleItalianwoman CreoleItalianwoman 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    One of my ultimate fantasies is some forced haircut discipline in a barbershop. I haven't met the right person to either force me to have my hair sheared off or for me to bring to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 17

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    Gay marriage is a sin go read the bible first Corinthians 6:9
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 17

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    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    i wanna be forced to be a sissy can anyone help
    girlybecky01 girlybecky01 13-15, T 3 Responses Jul 15

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    Like many of you, I was scandalized to learn yesterday that the top doctor for Planned Parenthood noted on a video made in the summer of 2014 that her organization was making a...
    ronnkron ronnkron 22-25, F 14 Responses Jul 15

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    When I met my husband, I was 28, and had reached a point in my life when I was sure I wasn't going to meet the right guy. I'd been in an out of relationships with total jerks or...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 15

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    I am new and want to identify why I'm here... I am on my 2nd marriage, going on 13 years now, have issues and I need help. I thought to myself "find a support group" and thought...
    Cwllm Cwllm 46-50, M Jul 15

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    Okay guys, it's been like how many weeks, and I still have to see you rant about your fight against gay marriage? Well, I guess if the bible says it's wrong you do make a valid...
    WhatTheMEL WhatTheMEL 26-30, F 70 Responses Jul 14

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    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 7 Responses Jul 13

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    Missy227 Missy227 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    Black judge under fire for refusing to perform a gay ‘marriage’ on religious grounds TOLEDO, OH, July 10, 2015 (LifeSiteNews) -- A judge in the Toledo area is under fire from...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 51-55, M Jul 13

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    Mask12 Mask12 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 12

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    Of course I mean it figuratively. But I felt that way for along time now and still do. It's easier to put on that mask with the big plastic smile to let the world know how you feel...
    ThatMetalDude ThatMetalDude 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 11