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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    At the age of 17 I got dragged back to my country. After I turned 18 I was emotionally blackmailed by my own father to get married to a complete stranger. I had tl, because there...
    deathlessfear deathlessfear 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    Hi everyone. I am 24 and I got married two years back. It was an arranged marriage. Don't be shocked, they're pretty common in my country. Yes, I'm in a loveless marriage. I don't...
    ashleo8 ashleo8 22-25, F 4 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 2 days ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    Very helpful article http://www.nationalreview.com/article/378538/marriage-where-do-we-go-here-ryan-t-anderson
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 hrs ago

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    (This is a post of mine from a previous profile. I decided I'd post it on my new profile) Gay Marriage I am fully in support of gay, lesbian and transgender couples' right to get...
    ForeverInDarkness22 ForeverInDarkness22 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    The Best of Days; The Worst of Days (Or, Long-Winded Update) I haven't posted much in here in a while, so here's the general update: For those who don't know, I separated from...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 11 Responses Jul 17

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    I am not only against gay marriage, but against all kinds of civil marriage. I think only religious marriage should exist. What happens to kids then? When a couple has a child...
    gio36 gio36 36-40, M 3 Responses Jul 22

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    I never understood why people are against gay marriage. What happened to separation of church and state? Religion should have nothing to do with whether or not two consenting and...
    lak27 lak27 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    I have been in a common law marriage for nearly 4 years. There have been many issues with me especially because i battle some anxiety and depression issues. Then i met someone...
    saria89 saria89 22-25, F Jul 9

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    Gents, I read your stories and it pains me. I too am one of your wolf pack! 29, 5 years into the marriage and its a struggle. It used to be she was too tired at night, but id get a...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 12

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    so i guess my marriage is going to come to an end , my wife and i had a huge fight this morning , it was the first time in 13 years that ive yelled at her , to be honest i dont...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    Me and my husband tried to watch a movie together. It just seems forced. Our interaction with one another is forced... I feel like we are more like roommates than a couple. I...
    Shawneeluv Shawneeluv 22-25, F Jul 6

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    Well I'll try to share this...I know it's a familiar story based on those I've read here already, thank you all for sharing. Perhaps it'll merely be cathartic for me to tell a...
    don0063 don0063 51-55, M 22 Responses Jul 22

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    I had arranged to cut a neighbor friend's hair last night. She likes it long (well past her shoulders). Her husband has been asking her to cut it shorter and fancied seeing her...
    OSHfan OSHfan 41-45, M 7 hrs ago

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    I am not sure if that is totally true that I am not marriage material. I got engaged 4 months ago but I broke it off yesterday. He has put his hands on me, not hitting but...
    easynuh easynuh 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    love is love whos gives a **** whether its two guys or two girls. Btw im not against gay marriage
    azuhh azuhh 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I've only been married 9 months and I am in a sexless marriage. We are "trying to have a baby" and it feels like I have to force my husband to have sex. We maybe have sex once a...
    firefly83 firefly83 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 23

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage. My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 23

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    And why wouldn't I? The ONLY reason I could see for anyone to have anything against gay marriage is religion. But if you are against gays because of religion then you are a...
    shoxic shoxic 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I'm so pissed. I've been nice. I know there's no nice way to end a marriage, but I've been as kind as I can. It might have been salvageable had stbxnot turned my family against me...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 14 Responses Jul 5

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    I am a Christian and I do not think that 2 people from the same sex can and should marry. Marriage should be between a man and a woman who know who they are and who are willing to...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    Alternate Reality - My STBX continues to astonish me with his interpretation of the cause of the failure of our marriage. Tonight, he told me that we weren't able to resolve our...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 16 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I was on here struggling with the topics of living in a sexless marriage, being sexually frustrated and feeling disrespected not too long ago. Although I would still love much...
    picadilly1970 picadilly1970 41-45, F 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I've never had an abortion, nor will I ever. There is no circumstance I will abort. I truly believe it is murder. People can say what they want, but that's what I believe. After...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    I'm very religious and I intended to wait. But in the heat of my anger and pain I lashed out...at myself and let someone violate the one thing that actually meant something towards...
    smarcelin2014 smarcelin2014 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    My therapist has been very helpful in helping me do three things. 1) Identify causes for my current plight and 2) uncovering areas for personal growth and 3) develop an action plan...
    NWTruthSeeker NWTruthSeeker 51-55, M 6 Responses Jul 13

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    Because I didn't know better! And this torments me all the time even though about, 14 yrs has pass! Yup crazy I guess but can't get over the fact because, I was 13 and he was 19...
    mrscasillas28 mrscasillas28 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I have forced my husband to live a life without sex for what was supposed to be the good of everyone. It was not he did not want sex, if fact there were many times he was demanding...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I didn't want to , but he forced me into it .
    abbyhh25 abbyhh25 16-17, F 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    5 ways narcissists get inside your head http://selfcarehaven.wordpress.com/2014/07/21/five-powerful-ways-abusive-narcissists-get-inside-your-head/ 1. The Idealization-Devaluation...
    zsuzsilowinger zsuzsilowinger 36-40, F 3 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I feel like you aren't meant to be a teenager and pregnant. You need to wait until you are sure about your life and it is ridiculous to rush your life. Teens should enjoy their...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My boyfriend forced me to sleep with him i new i gonnq be able to push him off he went to the army he is 10 times stronger than me and at the time I couldnt get my head around it...
    marshmel marshmel 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    It's good/bad to see that I'm not the only one living in hell. This is my story... In 2009 my wife and I got married, at this time I accepted a transfer to different location. I...
    EEProj EEProj 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 6

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    I finally made it all the way to Opposite Land.I've been in my new home for two weeks today and it has been one hell of a two weeks. It almost (and I mean for real) killed me. I...
    riley7253 riley7253 56-60, M 7 Responses Jul 11

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