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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 27 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27

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    My whole life my dad has been controlling me.

    Telling me what to wear, how to act and even who to talk and not to talk to. He makes me wear clothes I absolutely hate wearing!! I am in 8th grade and muslim, whole life I have been looking forward to graduating high school and going to college to escape him and my mom. My mom...
    2Good2BTrue2 2Good2BTrue2 16-17, F Mar 24

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Life goes on and I don't want to. I just want it to stop...just for a while to let me catch up to reality.It snowed the day we buried mom...she's next to my dad on top of a knoll...
    rosieapparition rosieapparition 51-55, F 14 Responses Apr 2

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    **** all of yall, gag marriage is awesome so chill the **** out , love is love
    TatyanaJanae TatyanaJanae 13-15, F 5 days ago

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    I just read the story on the caretaker from NeedingtoVent (thank you NTV), and it really hit me hard. In my journey I am recognizing my failings to be far greater than I thought...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    So i talked to my Husbands father after my mom insisted plus she and him are really good friends and apparently my mom had told him everything already and he wanted to talk to me...
    amantgenereux amantgenereux 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 22

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    So, today's a bit better. I didn't get much sleep but I got up anyways. I'm trying to get into a routine. So, I got up and forced myself to shower and put on clothes and makeup...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 7

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    Women are not incubators, therefore should not be forced to carry an unwanted fetus.
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    Being against someone's happiness simply because you don't feel comfortable with the idea is... 1-selfish 2-stupid 3-immature ... Let people love freely, let people have the family...
    mamachi mamachi 26-30, F Apr 4

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    LynxKitty LynxKitty 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 8

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    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Rules of Engagement - A few new members have posted in this forum recently, and while I've only been a member for few weeks, I thought I'd share my opinion on the purpose of this...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 15 Responses Mar 20

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    The rubble of our marriage I try not to look I try to change my focus to what else gives me happiness my children my friends my home my community I cannot help...
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