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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    im miserable in an arranged marriage

    for 8 years with 3 boys.i can't divorce or tell her or the family how I feel......I tried so hard to accept my wife for the first 4 years but now I gave up n try to focus on other things in life..I'm religious and I've only had sex with my wife.I really want to love s1 I like n...
    zakir100 zakir100 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 2

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    My family are wanting me to get married,

    with a man who has been in talks with them since I was 13 years. I do not have much time & I do not want to be married to him. I wish our culture would allow more freedom of speech, be allowed to say "No". I have a few options & one I would not like to be forced to carry out...
    Coldbrezze Coldbrezze 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 8

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2014

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    Well I'm still with my boyfriend

    although he has had an arranged marriage last March. It kills me. He just went out there for Ramadan to finally pick her up and take her in the US. He tells me that she's just something for the family and i am for him. He doesn't touch her or have sex with her. I understand...
    4evergrey 4evergrey 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    If i were to be forced into an arranged

    marriage, I think I know who my parents would pair me with :/. My ex-boyfriend. I dated him two separate times and both times I ended it. I'm not good with relationships but it's bad enough my ex is STILL trying to get back with me. It's been almost three years since we last...
    odessa94 odessa94 18-21, F Aug 14

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    maybe against would be a strong word,

    but i dont agree with force arranged marriage. what i feel more painful however is the fact that... for children who love their parents, they just say yes sincerely. My ex-boyfriend is a pakistani, i am a muslim myself, but i am indonesian. when i first met him, i thought...n...
    butterfliesndut butterfliesndut 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    My family is originally from Nigeria,

    my parents were born there while my siblings and I was where born in the United States. My grandparents arranged them to be married when my mom was 18 and my dad was 31. Growing up, my five siblings and I can tell that they don't love each other very much. When I was younger...
    elijahx elijahx 22-25, M Jun 27

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 22-25, F Jan 27, 2014

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    notsocomplex notsocomplex 31-35, F Aug 21

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