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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 3 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    At the age of 17 I got dragged back to my country. After I turned 18 I was emotionally blackmailed by my own father to get married to a complete stranger. I had tl, because there...
    deathlessfear deathlessfear 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    Updating All My Posts I feel like I have to update my previous story in this group. Stupid guy got my stupid heart. :p Also, I think I've wrote enough stories here that I need...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 1 Response Aug 6

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    At a certain level of successful for a minority, you get offered to get your offspring to become whitewashed. My grandpa did not wanted to but he was tricked by our maid for to me...
    sfdrboy sfdrboy 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 7

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    This says is all...worth watching and listening to.... http://sfglo.be/MS
    MistyMoon1 MistyMoon1 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 11

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    Hi everyone. I am 24 and I got married two years back. It was an arranged marriage. Don't be shocked, they're pretty common in my country. Yes, I'm in a loveless marriage. I don't...
    ashleo8 ashleo8 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 31

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    I was 16. With my boyfriend of almost 2 years now. Haha loved it. I was like damn this is how it feels?! No wonder there are hoes! Still cried when I got home because I was 100...
    cheesecake911 cheesecake911 18-21, F 7 Responses 21 hrs ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M Jul 29

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 24 Responses Jul 29

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 18 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    A couple more signs of marital recovery. I keep telling the betrayed wives who message me, focus on actions, not words. My husband said all the right words when he cheated. But...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F Aug 17

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    (This is a post of mine from a previous profile. I decided I'd post it on my new profile) Gay Marriage I am fully in support of gay, lesbian and transgender couples' right to get...
    ForeverInDarkness22 ForeverInDarkness22 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 28

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    What are your reasons for being against gay marriage? Please, I want want logical arguments, no attacks please. ---- Religious arguments: how can you be so against gay marriage...
    Spurtheblackdog Spurtheblackdog 18-21, T 3 Responses Aug 11

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    8,165 to 1 Revisited. In a recent story I suggested the raw data showed that the odds of your ILIASM shithole turning around were 8,165 to 1. Been thinking about it a bit more...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 16 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I have been with my now husband for four years, married just recently in May 2014. We have three daughters, (3,3, and 1 years of age)...we have been through a lot of ups and downs...
    beyondstars beyondstars 22-25, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    so i guess my marriage is going to come to an end , my wife and i had a huge fight this morning , it was the first time in 13 years that ive yelled at her , to be honest i dont...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses Jul 31

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    Since my original post I have been on dating sites and have arranged to meet a couple of women for sex (not difficult to do on normal dating sites believe it or not, as long as you...
    JamesPoole1 JamesPoole1 51-55, M 13 Responses Aug 10

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    And why wouldn't I? The ONLY reason I could see for anyone to have anything against gay marriage is religion. But if you are against gays because of religion then you are a...
    shoxic shoxic 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    I had arranged to cut a neighbor friend's hair last night. She likes it long (well past her shoulders). Her husband has been asking her to cut it shorter and fancied seeing her...
    OSHfan OSHfan 41-45, M Jul 31

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    Some thoughts on forgiveness. When I first posted here 3 years ago, I was struggling with forgiveness. My situation is very unusual for this place, in being a "success" story...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 10 Responses Aug 13

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    For the last seven years I have been the oil in the gears of my marriage. My husband has not been working, so he has all kinds of free time. We both collect a compensation check...
    RosalieT RosalieT 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    Not necessarily a sexless marriage, but one lacking intimacy. I have sex often...not as much as I would like, but often. I think I'm an above average sexual guy, so I kind of...
    Thediary Thediary 26-30, M 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    Dancing Skeletons - I spoke with my STBX tonight about the visitation schedule I had in mind for our teenage daughter, and he immediately launched into another tirade about how I...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 31 Responses Aug 12

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    My views on abortion: Well unless you were told by the doctor that the baby would kill you because of a certain health problem or something. Or you were forced to abort against...
    FunnyandNerdy FunnyandNerdy 16-17, F 35 Responses Aug 14

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    I made a comment in another site, that I would like to get some replies to it here, as this site is more marriage focused. Here it is (small changes to reflect site lingo...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 14 Responses 6 days ago

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    Alternate Reality - My STBX continues to astonish me with his interpretation of the cause of the failure of our marriage. Tonight, he told me that we weren't able to resolve our...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses Jul 27

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    So I was on here struggling with the topics of living in a sexless marriage, being sexually frustrated and feeling disrespected not too long ago. Although I would still love much...
    picadilly1970 picadilly1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 30

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    5 ways narcissists get inside your head http://selfcarehaven.wordpress.com/2014/07/21/five-powerful-ways-abusive-narcissists-get-inside-your-head/ 1. The Idealization-Devaluation...
    zsuzsilowinger zsuzsilowinger 36-40, F 10 Responses Jul 31

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    I told my mom how I felt about gay marriage and homosexuality and she things it's wrong and an disgrace against god. She has now banned me from going over any of my friends house...
    vicky5rox vicky5rox 13-15, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have always been attracted to older men but I really stepped it up when I was 15. I started dating a man 15 years my senior. He treated me like his daughter and I treated him...
    kittygurl66 kittygurl66 26-30, F 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Indeed I do - I don't think the state should restrict who you can get married to, as long as the parties consent. Who you choose to love is your business only. Having said that, I...
    ashley420d ashley420d 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have forced my husband to live a life without sex for what was supposed to be the good of everyone. It was not he did not want sex, if fact there were many times he was demanding...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 9 Responses Jul 27

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    I didn't want to , but he forced me into it .
    abbyhh25 abbyhh25 16-17, F 10 Responses Jul 31

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    I feel like you aren't meant to be a teenager and pregnant. You need to wait until you are sure about your life and it is ridiculous to rush your life. Teens should enjoy their...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    I believe abortion is murder and I believe life begins at the moment of conception. If you laid down and had sex, then you should be responsible and take care of the baby. When it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 14

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