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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    My family are wanting me to get married,

    with a man who has been in talks with them since I was 13 years. I do not have much time & I do not want to be married to him. I wish our culture would allow more freedom of speech, be allowed to say "No". I have a few options & one I would not like to be forced to carry out...
    Neveah95 Neveah95 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2014

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    maybe against would be a strong word,

    but i dont agree with force arranged marriage. what i feel more painful however is the fact that... for children who love their parents, they just say yes sincerely. My ex-boyfriend is a pakistani, i am a muslim myself, but i am indonesian. when i first met him, i thought...n...
    butterfliesndut butterfliesndut 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27, 2014

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    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    same boat, I miss making love, my bf has actually turned me against him , ughhhhh. Been 5months time to get me sum~~~*Somewhere else that is!!!!!! Jen
    nikkija22 nikkija22 36-40, F 52 mins ago

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    I had always planned to, which is why I held out for so long .. But the day I lost my virginity was extremely emotional for me. I was ready & he was "the one" (or at least I...
    shesdifferent516 shesdifferent516 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    Throughout all of history no society ever accepted marriage to be between two people of the same gender. There were plenty of societies that practiced polygamy and polyandry or a...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 16-17, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    disclaimer - im infj. and my fingers are numb and cold so im not typing well, sorry about that. :3 not sure if this is gonna post. i dont remeber what i've written on this site...
    surfnatty surfnatty 22-25 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Over the last two centuries, women began to rebel against their God given design as a helper for man and began to demand marriages that removed all roles. Instead of women acting...
    biblicalgenderroles biblicalgenderroles 36-40, M 3 Responses Apr 4

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    I grew up in a happy family, my parents loved each other so much; they still do, I have always longed for someone who respected and loved me that much. My husband is so against...
    TheDeadRose3 TheDeadRose3 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Babysitting slumber party Part 2: quick recap, I was being babysitted by 2 siblings for the first time. These two had dressed me up as a girl and we spent te rest of the night as...
    Boygirltime Boygirltime 18-21, M 4 Responses Mar 31

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    I've been going back and forth on whether or not to post this but I think it's good for me to get it off my chest. But in the wake of all that's going on in Indiana I felt I needed...
    lesbianjen lesbianjen 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    Well I am in one married to my wife for 3 years with three beautiful children. i find funny though people against Marriage must be joke to everyone. I mean in country where people...
    Lezsoccermom75 Lezsoccermom75 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I used to think only a really mean person would say no to a marriage proposal... But then it happened to me. He didn't articulate the words 'will you marry me?' he just started...
    fixiefemme fixiefemme 22-25, F 14 hrs ago

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    I had a talk with him. He seemed to get it. But now it feels like he has to make himself have sex with me. That is not what I wanted, I wanted passion and desire. I don't even know...
    Gia00 Gia00 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 3

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    Anybody see the video of Jessica Beagley the hot sauce mom who also forced her 7 yo son (whom she adopted I might add) to take cold showers as a form of "discipline"
    Jacklad Jacklad 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 11

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    Babysitting slumber party part 4: read parts 1-3 for context. I had just aquired freedom from the babysitter's house but there were a few problems though, first of which was the...
    Boygirltime Boygirltime 18-21, M Apr 3

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    I CANNOT BELIEVE WHAT I AM READING... I have read so many stories of sexless marriages on here.. No intimacy! I am so sorry for many of you. I was treating my spouse very similar...
    KeraJo75 KeraJo75 36-40 5 Responses Mar 25

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    I want to be forced into the barber shop and tied down into the chair. I want a cape to be tied tightly around my neck while I'm told to look straight ahead and keep my mouth shut...
    kayleighpeace95 kayleighpeace95 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 10

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    I've been married for 1 year and We have a 4 month old baby. I'm so miserable in this marriage and I have no one to talk to. I always have to pretend to society (family, friends...
    Honeymonster27 Honeymonster27 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    or forced 2 f, or be f'd byanything or any one
    Vaportrail70 Vaportrail70 41-45, M 2 days ago

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    I have been with my husband for almost 6 years. 3 of those years we've been married. It at all started like a fairy tale we were head over heals in love! Our first year we got...
    sadblueyes88 sadblueyes88 26-30, F 7 Responses Mar 25

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    I have made mistakes in my marriage. I worked too many hours and traveled over 100 days out of the year. I always was supportive. I tool an interest in my wife's activities and...
    mysecretstuff72 mysecretstuff72 41-45, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    It's not unusual for my Husband to be physically affectionate. We have a very close, very loving marriage. We're soul-mates who have been married 24 years (I'm 42, he's 52). He...
    xxLionessxx xxLionessxx 36-40, F 7 Responses Mar 30

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    These days marriage is nothing but a legal document that gives you the power to take what isn't yours if you file for a divorce. Marriage is just a label that people think will...
    Rosaalie Rosaalie 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 2

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    Ok, I've posted previously about my marriage and got some great advice. So just an update and hopefully some more advice. I've been evaluating my marriage, we're down to having...
    KFallon92 KFallon92 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 3

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    You know, I've just been thinking that marriage is supposed to enhance your life and make some aspects of life easier, much like how a business partnership is supposed to improve...
    MrBaje MrBaje 36-40, M Apr 4

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    Does marriage counseling really work? We are in a sexless marriage. And I have reached a point where not only im not attracted to my husband but I feel incestous to be with him. It...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Does marriage counseling really work? We are in a sexless marriage. And I have reached a point where not only im not attracted to my husband but I feel incestous to be with him. It...
    ithinkithink ithinkithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 5

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    I am 30 years old, on my second marriage. I entered this relationship shortly after I was divorced from my first husband. I guess you could say I was done with my first marriage...
    MarieM13 MarieM13 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I'm not in open marriage yet, but I will love to, maybe someday or just get a divorce. I am curious to know, how did you ask your partner for an open marriage, Or how do you...
    Alexandra0210 Alexandra0210 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 13

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    I'm against rape, I'm against rape culture, I'm against anything that makes rape seem like a smaller issue than it is. I hate hearing people ask what the rape victim was wearing...
    glomilk glomilk 16-17, F Mar 29

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    well I am not sure if this is an experience ... I am 26. n married to my boyfriend for year n half.. we don't even have a proper conversation even for 10 min.. and we still have...
    no12talk no12talk 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 30

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