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I Am Against Forced Arranged Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 217 People

    Am I Making The Right Decision?

    I just left home. I'm a 22 year old college student. My parents have always treated me fairly well, minus the verbal abuse but who doesn't deal with that, right? For the past year or so though my parents have gotten really pushy about me getting married (they come from a...
    llamapants llamapants 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2012

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    Arranged Marriage

    I never got this... Wouldn't this sorta be the moral equivalent of running a "cattery" except for people? Oddly though, if you meet people from such cultures, some of them are -fine- with it... I think the person who told me this was even female... I guess you can condition...
    lesshissMORECAT lesshissMORECAT 31-35 3 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    I absolutely loathe the concept of wasting one

    second of your life with someone you don't want to be with. Being from a society that practises this, I feel trapped in a myriad of idiots who are unhappy And expect you to be unhappy All your life as well
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F Jan 27, 2014

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    Lost A Great Love To An Arranged Marriage

    I am searching for an outlet for what I just went through. I really liked this guy who has finally given up on the idea of a happy life and just went back to his arranged marriage. He is from Afghanistan and has been living in the U.S. for 10 years. He told me when we met he was...
    cloudtalker cloudtalker 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 17, 2013

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    I Escaped An Arranged Proposal

    I grew up in England, in a wealthy family. And in my family arranged marriage was a tradition. I always knew I wanted to marry for love, especially seeing my parent's own coldness toward each other. My parents started looking for a suitor for me when I was 12. I started meeting...
    rumspringa0 rumspringa0 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2011

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    Sadly it's that age of mine

    when parents start entertaining the idea of marrying their kids off. I don't want to think about marriage . I think I hate the institute of marriage. Specially loveless ones. I don't think people in arranged marriages are happier... They are just coping ... With their parents...
    Komolink05 Komolink05 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 30, 2014

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    Okay i really Need help on this one.

    I an indian as most of you can tell by my picture. But the truth is I am the completely different from the stereotypical indian. No i do not own a 7 eleven. But i do get the occasional racist laugh at my heritage. I know its shallow but guess what you guys have no idea what its...
    notagirl12 notagirl12 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23, 2014

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    Escaped

    There is a saying in Asia ,“Women are like Christmas cakes: Nobody wants them after the 25th.”  The legal marrying age in China is 20 for women and 22 for men. Both of my half-sisters got married just after their 20th birthdays. They were very dutiful...
    xiaomei xiaomei 26-30, F 26 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    How Does This Still Happen ? !

    It does.   I suppose for those who are raised strict, and never know any other way, it may work. But then again not really. I am sure there have been so many instances where those forced into this because of tradition and such, even though raised in it,groomed for...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 1, 2010

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    My family are wanting me to get married,

    with a man who has been in talks with them since I was 13 years. I do not have much time & I do not want to be married to him. I wish our culture would allow more freedom of speech, be allowed to say "No". I have a few options & one I would not like to be forced to carry out...
    Neveah95 Neveah95 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 8

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    fancy decorations on the ceilings.

    ... so you have something pretty to look at while getting r@ped by a stranger on what's supposed to be the most important day of your life...
    righteouschica righteouschica 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2014

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    That's Only My Opinion

    I don't believe it's right, but I like everyone else, am only entitled to my opinion on the matter, it does not make anything right or wrong. I believe everyone should get to discover true love on their own.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 12, 2011

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    maybe against would be a strong word,

    but i dont agree with force arranged marriage. what i feel more painful however is the fact that... for children who love their parents, they just say yes sincerely. My ex-boyfriend is a pakistani, i am a muslim myself, but i am indonesian. when i first met him, i thought...n...
    butterfliesndut butterfliesndut 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I love him so much because of him I left the best guy the one who treated me like the most beautiful girl ...n I have a loss self esteem....😢 every time I think of my future...
    SHA2078640 SHA2078640 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I am 33 years old now and have been married 17 years. I know probably most are against arranged marriages but all I can say is that for me it has been wonderful.
    akaLauraWhitmer akaLauraWhitmer 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 19

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    i do not believe why people here in india believe that marriage is the only destination of a girls life, for me if a girl is self capable to handle her life and the consequences in...
    Ahaanaa Ahaanaa 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    Laying here to Marvin Gaye sing "Just To Keep You Satisfied" the track before this song is called "You Sure Love To Ball". The latter song was my love life for 30 years. Now...
    tomthumb1974 tomthumb1974 56-60, M 5 hrs ago

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    Ah the pillow. I Hate this pillow. It's a king size pillow so not quite a body pillow but in terms of its role as the Berlin Wall of our bed it works just fine. The few times I...
    Alohaguy Alohaguy 36-40, M 28 mins ago

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    Slavery saddens me, yet for some reason it still exists. It means that people make others knowingly suffer for their own benefit/prosperity. http://slaveryfootprint.org/ "As far...
    InnerCalm InnerCalm 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 12

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    Women please explain me what you want from men. On the one hand you want equality, a guy that is more or less a second you. On the other you want a Christian Grey, a dominant...
    Krist0f Krist0f 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 20

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    There's absolutely no point to it. First, I abhor the idea of getting any sort of government involved in personal relationships. Who was the first person to suggest that anyway...
    Unbeholden Unbeholden 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 13

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    I desperately want to be a fulltime, owned and collared love pet in marriage for my soon-to-be husband, but I'm terrified to tell him about the extent of my submissiveness, as I...
    CreampieKitty CreampieKitty 16-17, F Feb 9

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    I'm wondering about marriage in general. What is it? Why is it necessary? I've been exploring myself, my flaws and attributes. Been looking at my life, my relationships and the...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 10 Responses Feb 13

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    I'm fine with them, they don't harm me. But i am against gay marriage, but not the crazy type to almost kill them. I just think that marriage is between a man and a women, i don't...
    papparrazzi papparrazzi 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    Our counselling is going well. At some point l will do an update. H is continuing to actively participate. He appears keen to go along. We have been looking at our family...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I've only been married 1 year and 1 month. We were friends for 2 years, then together for 2..you think that would be the set up for something amazing. Today I find out that he is...
    twilightbutterfly twilightbutterfly 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 13

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    If you don't. Well then I'm sorry for you. I'm sorry that you feel yourself or your religion so above everyone else that you honesty feel you have the right to tell someone that...
    goldenspider666 goldenspider666 16-17, M 1 Response Feb 1

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    I am going to accept that I am to homemaker now as my wife is the sole breadwinner in our marriage. That fact is now being solidified by the fact that I am also transgendered and...
    Christinya Christinya 31-35, T Feb 7

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    The Arab golden age [which brought us algebra, Algorithms, Alchemy - chemistry in its infancy] came to an end because Imam al-ghazali deemed that the qur'an was the only book...
    chips24 chips24 18-21, M 3 Responses Feb 14

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    I was too young to know that I was being forced my mother was a bad drunk and drug addict she started dressing me up at 10 years old by the time I was 12 I was wearing fake boobs...
    charlett charlett 56-60, M 2 Responses Feb 4

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    I was not forced but would like to. I want a girl to force me into bikini / string bikini and forced to go in the sun so i get tan lines that cant come off.so that i a caught by...
    Skinnyhollisterjeans Skinnyhollisterjeans 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Everytime I reach a new level of F'd updness I surprise myself. Everything with my H pretty much sucks right now. We just a had a nightmare of a family vacation. I gave him "the...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 1

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    i go back and forth with this bc he's still him. he's not going to change. I'm torn about what to do. he's against counseling. i know he loves me, but.... (sigh)
    Platana2100 Platana2100 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    We married only months ago. Medium sized wedding, nothing extravagant, but still the whole kit 'n caboodle as it were. My gut was telling me all along, since day 1, that he wasn...
    prettypettycoats prettypettycoats 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 10

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    It is the middle of the night and I have just been rejected again last night. Today, my wife flies overseas for 2 weeks and she does not show the slightest inclination to have even...
    Sub305k Sub305k 46-50, M 3 Responses Feb 11

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    the first time I had intercourse with my boyfriend at the time I was 17 we didn't mean to do it we were after a nite out & had a good few drinks consumed it was done up against a...
    orla20 orla20 18-21, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    I love being forced to blow somebody!
    bd693 bd693 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 1

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    now that im turning 26 i cant help but thinking of whats ahead for those of us who are almost 30. oh man its so scary to think that as we get older the option of marriage comes...
    Angel021389vancouver Angel021389vancouver 26-30, F Feb 9

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    I feel that racist and redneck type people should be placed in re-education schools, and forced to learn how to think properly.
    equalforall equalforall 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    I have been forced to watch my step sister and her girlfriend go hard me i am normally sat down with a 10 inch black vibrator on high which in turn makes me...
    subsissy1989 subsissy1989 26-30, M Feb 14

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    I want to be forced in bikini / string bikini by girls and lying in the sun so ik get bikini tan lines. So everyone knows i have worn a bikini.
    Skinnyhollisterjeans Skinnyhollisterjeans 18-21, M 6 days ago

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    I've never been forced to wear panties...but I'd want to
    ZPCI ZPCI 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    Any one wanna do a forced sissification rp?:3
    ilikerp ilikerp 16-17, M 13 hrs ago

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    I kind of regret getting married. *The crazy thing is one of the most disturbing nightmares I ever had was while I was in my teens, and it was about me marrying a decent man who...
    Bethstar Bethstar 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    I don't believe in sex before marriage. I am a Christian and I truly believe that sex is a gift from God that is intended to bring a husband and wife closer together. Whether you...
    illnameitlater illnameitlater 26-30, M 2 Responses Feb 5

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    I am a male who has been married for 11 years, we have a nine year old son and i have ruined our marriage through my jealous behaviour. I have moved out for the second time so we...
    sema4444 sema4444 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 10

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    I don't believe in it because it makes your relationship sound kinda fake. Do you really need a license and a bunch of paperwork just to know that your in love with someone? I don...
    lonewolf2323 lonewolf2323 18-21, M 1 Response Feb 15