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I Am Against Spanking

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 132 People

    Letter To Spanker Parents

    I AGAINST SPANKINGS BECAUSE MANY TIME PARENTS SPANK CHILDREN TO LIBERATE THEMSELVES AND UNWIND FROM THEIR PROBLEMS. lIKE WHEN WE PLAY IN SQUASH. difference in place to strike a ball you strike a child without defense. When my mom spank me hardlyit was when she disput with dad or...
    boeing707 boeing707
    56-60, M
    Oct 16, 2012

    Spanking Is Wrong Better Speaking

    My mother was very nervous and spank me many time,sametime on bare buttock, sametime in public before family or other children. My bum was red and 2 or 3 hours i feel pain sametime; I was also shame, sametime she regret and after she put cream or talc on my sore buttocks; and...
    boeing707 boeing707
    56-60, M
    1 Response Jul 23, 2012

    There Are Better Ways To Reinforce Positive Behaviors

    The thing about corporal punishment is that it's only effective in stopping an immediate behavior. And while I understand that most parents who spank have a well-defined line between what they consider a spanking and what they consider abuse...I still cannot agree with it, no...
    lauren71 lauren71
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Aug 15, 2013


    Can do what they wish. But not to children. I know people feel differently and if you spank your child it may not mean you are a bad parent. But spanking is not a more effective way to discipline your children. In fact, it's less effective and the American Academy of...
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Aug 12, 2013

    EP is full of interesting people.

    I was surfing here, and all of a sudden found myself in a 'I love spanking, spanking is this good that good, I remember my dad spanking me bla bla' group of people. Spanking is wrong, hitting to a child is wrong. And must be prohibited by the law, maybe even it is. There are...
    Gallantio Gallantio
    41-45, M
    1 Response Jan 26, 2016

    Another Question For All Those Pro-spanking "Advocates" Out There

    so why didnt Sweden degenerate into complete anarchy after they outlawed spanking in 1979? Swedns crime rate is much lower than US statistics show that hitting helpless kids doesn't benefit society you sick preverts
    AngieHolbrook AngieHolbrook
    18-21, F
    14 Responses Aug 24, 2011

    Daw From Thailand Good Education Without Any Spanking

    Daw is one thai girl living in Brussels married with one of my friend.She born in a family from 10 children. She was the 9th child , her parents have a farm where they made rice and fruits mango.coconut;bananas and so on. They live in Ayutaya 60 km from bangkok She said her...
    boeing707 boeing707
    56-60, M
    Nov 30, 2012

    As a Child...

    I wasn't spanked... I was beat... Alot. I don't think hitting accomplishes anything. It just embitteres the child towards you and causes them to hate you. My greatest fear is that if I ever became a father myself... I would end up just like mine.
    drcynic drcynic
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2008


    I am against spanking. I feel that spanking really doesn't do anything good for the child, but make the child angry and hurt. It makes them afraid of you, and makes them fear that anytime they do anything the slightest bit wrong, they will be getting hit. I think it's wiser to...
    RealityTVJunkie RealityTVJunkie
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Apr 14, 2009

    Spanking Kids

    I believe that spanking your kids is wrong. On the other hand, spanking within a consensual relationship is totally cool by me! I wasn't spanked as a child and neither were my two older brothers and we all turned out decent, upstanding adults.  
    TheatreGirl TheatreGirl
    26-30, F
    Feb 28, 2008

    NO Spanking, No Verbal Abuse

    I am totally against spanking and also against any type of verbal abuse.I pity those adults who hide their weakness by spanking little kids.Any type of verbal abuse is  also not acceptable as it has some serious consequences on kids. Luckily I was never spanked as a kid and...
    motherearth motherearth
    5 Responses Sep 17, 2007

    It Does More Harm Than Good

    I survived countless years of my childhood getting spanked for all sorts of things, some like talking back to my parents, but some just for 'crying' or 'looking sad', when supposedly, I shouldn't have, but it terrorozed me for years, I had many informal whacks that were called...
    LonelySoul LonelySoul
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Sep 17, 2007


    I am against physical discipline of a child except when they do something that is potentially very threatening. An example would be them running across a busy street. But besides that, I think there are other forms of discipline which are more appropriate.
    deleted deleted
    9 Responses Mar 12, 2008

    Its Wrong And Counter Productive

    I was spanked growing up although it stopped around age 10 or 11. Apparently I got lots when I was real young but I don't remember them. Now as an adult spanking and sex go hand and hand and it causes a lot of problems in my personal life. I am certain that being spanked as a...
    troymclure22 troymclure22
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2013

    I Will Never Do It Again

    I have spanked my 3 year old son a couple of times, and each time I did it, I felt horrible. It felt absolutely wrong. And he didn't understand why I would do that. He asked me, "Mommy, why did you hurt me?" And that broke my heart. I vowed I would never spank...
    infinitedreamer infinitedreamer
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Aug 20, 2008

    My Traumatic And Injustified Spankings 1

    Excuse bad english: I am against spanking or exceptionnelly and never bare and only with hands .For me if it is only this solution that must be made quietly and explain why to the child. Not made because you lose self controle. My mother spank me strong when she have problems. I...
    boeing707 boeing707
    56-60, M
    Dec 1, 2012

    One More Question For All The Pro-Spanking Advocates Out There...

    Q: What's the difference between a man hitting his daughter and a sickfuck ********* smacking a little girl's naked backside? A: Nothing. End of story.
    AngieHolbrook AngieHolbrook
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 15, 2012

    Fessée injuste pour incompréhension : J'avais

    6 ans. nous étions en vacance près de Waterloo .Nous étions à l'hôtel mes parents et moi ,c'était le matin j'étais encore en pyjama. Dans la chambre d' à côté ,il y avait un monsieur qui toussait fort . J'avais entendu qu'il y avait 2 maladies qui faisaient tousser :la...
    boeing707 boeing707
    56-60, M
    Aug 8, 2014


    J'avais 6 ans et jouais sur la plage avec d'autres enfants : Raymond Christiane et Nicole . Nicole une petite blonde était mon amour d'enfance . Elle devait avoir 5 ans et demi . Nous jouions à nous faire glisser sur la digue allant du chemin a la plage comme sur un...
    boeing707 boeing707
    56-60, M
    1 Response Dec 5, 2012

    I was spanked as a child

    both at home and at school. I'm not sure how much the experiences 'harmed' me but then again I'm not sure they really helped either. One of my spankings (actually a caning) happened when I was very young and was pretty traumatic for a young person. Looking back as an adult I...
    splashUK2014 splashUK2014
    46-50, M
    1 Response Jan 13, 2015

    Still Live With the Guilt

    Ok ive decided to share this story, even though im afraid it may make me some enemies......NO im not a believer in spanking, BUT i do confess to doing it in the not going to try and make excuses by saying i was depressed or that my kids are hard work because...
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Nov 29, 2007

    Hitting Is Always Wrong

    Hitting is wrong .  Hitting is a violent thing to do.  Violence is a  thing one person does to make another person hurt.  We want to treat children in ways that do not hurt or harm them.  We can.  We want to be kind and gentle, not harsh.  We...
    Pinget Pinget
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Aug 16, 2007

    If You Can't Teach Your Kid Without This Maybe You Shold't Be a Parent

    and to use it past when your kid starts talking and reasoning is just cruel. I know that my step-father use it as a way to beat me without leaving bruises people would see.
    AngelaDark AngelaDark
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Nov 18, 2007

    Child-beaters Deserve To Rot In Hell.

    There's a special corner of hell reserved for this child-beating bastard. wife's no better, she stood by, let it happen, and took part in it. Hope they both rot in hell - along with my parents.
    AngieHolbrook AngieHolbrook
    18-21, F
    Nov 2, 2011

    My Dad Did And Hurt Me

    I was around 14 and he told me I was going to get the belt for messing up on my report card. I had been spanked may times before that though. He took off his belt and I got really to get hit. He hit me 5 or so times and I turned around and said I didn't want to be hit anymore. He...
    Fordguy2011 Fordguy2011
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 27, 2011

    With All My Might

    Kids have rights too. Because they are people too.
    JordBog JordBog
    31-35, M
    May 19, 2013

    I've Spanked My Son

    And I felt terrible, and it didn't work.  Not with him; it just hurts his feelings, and that's not what I want.  I think it's wrong to hit children under any circumstances.  I wouldn't say someone is a bad parent because they spank and I don't think it's likely to...
    eromreven eromreven
    8 Responses Nov 30, 2007

    Open To Discussion

    Is there anyone here in this group who is interested in having a factual and civil discussion of the benefits of parental spanking? There was (and may still be) a story with a title something like 'Adults who feel a need to spank children are people with serious problems'. Over...
    JamieW JamieW
    51-55, M
    14 Responses Jun 18, 2011

    Are You Kidding?

    Oh,,, Something tells me we're talking about kids here. Sorry I guess I am against that kind of spanking. There is another kind I am not against though. : )  
    BlueGeorgia BlueGeorgia
    41-45, M
    38 Responses Mar 12, 2008

    It Should Be Against The Law!

    yes I am completely against spanking I think there should be a law aginst it. Im nearly sixteen and I still get spankings from my parents I got one last night from my father. came home five minutes late for dinner and the pervert took my pants down spanked me over his knee. my...
    AngieHolbrook AngieHolbrook
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2011

    All I Have to Say Is...

    If the only way you can get your kids to obey/listen to you is to physically hurt them in anyway you are just controling them with fear.  They will NEVER respect you.  Just like how I will never respect my parents.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2007

    Ok Between Consenting Adults

    ... but not on kids! When was the last time you saw an adult being spanked by a cop or some authority figure? Why not? Hmmmmm could it be because the spanker might face a serious consequence - like retaliation, a law suit? But who's to stop anyone from spanking a kid...
    jimrich jimrich
    70+, M
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2011

    A Rare But Serious Danger

    Parents may spank their kids because they were spanked growing up and believe it helped them.  Parents may spank their kids because they are frustrated with their child's behavior and don't know what else to do.  But I do not think any competent parent would spank...
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses May 3, 2009


    Looking for your responses, resources, helpful tidbits, etc...My two year old is not what my husband and I consider a successful candidate for the "spanking" approach to discipline.That might sound rather funny and backwards, I realize. Most people probably either choose to use...
    cleverwind cleverwind
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 6, 2010

    Does No Good

    I am against spanking. I feel that spanking really doesn't do anything good for the child, but make the child angry and hurt. It makes them afraid of you, and makes them fear that anytime they do anything the slightest bit wrong, they will be getting hit. I think it's wiser to...
    Sweetheartxoxo Sweetheartxoxo
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 3, 2008

    The Elderly Generation

        I'm refering of course to the people who grew up in the times where rascism was expected and acceptable, where patriotism was the only thing worth living for, and where kids had some NO rights.     My uncle, a member of this "Elderly...
    Dereknl Dereknl
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Mar 11, 2008
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