I Am Alexithymic

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    In Love With An Alexithymic

    My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. We have gone through some very hard times but just as many wonderful times. We have a 15 month old son. A long time ago I realized my boyfriend would never be good with expressing his emotions, I gave up the idea of long romantic...
    Kassierenee Kassierenee
    22-25, F
    12 Responses Sep 26, 2013

    How Do You Feel?

    I discovered Alexithymia only today and after doing the on line test I was told that I show high alexithymic traits.Part of me say's  "yes, bang on, that explains everything!" another part says "That doesn't make sense, I have a huge imagination, my dreams are epic, I am very...
    Eddy001 Eddy001
    4 Responses Jun 3, 2011

    What Is Alexithymia? (in Case You're Wondering)

    Alexithymia from the Ancient Greek words λέξις and θύμος modified by an alpha-privative—literally "without words for emotions"—a term coined by psychotherapist Peter Sifneos in 1973, who first recorded a pattern of this lack of response to therapy. Alexithymia is...
    sunflower101 sunflower101
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Feb 7, 2011

    (Sorry for mistakes in the text im not really

    good in english haha) When i was depressed, i found a picture with the definition on the word "alexithymia". At first i was thinking: "omg this defines me so much im sure i have this!"Just because i wasn't able to express my feelings to others. I had not passed any test or...
    lailalessard lailalessard
    16-17, F
    Jun 29, 2015

    I Think My Dad Was Alexithymic, Also My Bro. I Might Have It In Some Areas Too

    wow! glad i found this site. it explains a lot about my dad and brother. i also think my dad's dad must've had it too. my dad didn't seem 2 get pleasure out of anything except being sadistic sometimes, and a few other things. he had no idea what he was feeling most of the time...
    bcot980625 bcot980625
    1 Response May 20, 2012

    Finding the experiences expressed in this forum

    really leaves no doubt anymore, I must be alexithymic. I have been thinking quite a lot about the grounds to why I functions as I do, it took me to the end of my second relationship before I first learned of Alexithymia. Two relationships, where I constantly tried to understand...
    Sidvandaren Sidvandaren
    26-30, M
    1 Response Nov 17, 2015

    Looking For Info And Support

    does anyone know an active support group for people with alexithymia?
    boglalka boglalka
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 4, 2011

    Am I Alexithymic?

    I was surfing the internet and I read an article that mentioned alexithymia. It said "Alexithymia is the term for not fully understanding and being able to express one's emotions. Everyone on Earth has some level of alexithymia, but it can become drastic when people experience...
    maladicta maladicta
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2011

    If someone asks How Do You Feel, you say "Whaaaat?"

    It means you have no words for how you feel. If someone asks you "How do you feel" you don't know. I suspect that we experience life very differently, you and I, especially concerning emotions. For instance, if someone gets angry, an alexithymic like me might feel only mildly...
    sunflower101 sunflower101
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 19, 2010

    I didn't even know this was a thing

    but it matched me so I took a test and got 157 and hight traits on everything
    nannalovet113 nannalovet113
    16-17, F
    Aug 27, 2015

    So In Love With My Alexithymic..but Cant Feel His Love Back..breaking My Heart

    I found you all today and am hoping someone can give me hope!. I have been with my bf for 5 years. After 18 months we got engaged..I'd never been so happy...there seemed so mych love between us, he was very focused on being with me, we never argued...we had alot of similar...
    kenshou kenshou
    3 Responses Nov 13, 2012

    I hurt people by not being able to identity

    nor express my sentiments. What I do is mimic other people most of the time when it comes to expression. And to those who I deeply care about I let my instinct decide my words... when I write that is. Physically, I am a emotional retard. I met someone who makes my instincts go...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 29

    Not Sure If I Am Alexithymic... If Not What Am I?

    I've been searching a lot on the internet for what my problem might be and it seems like maybe I've finally found a good fit. The main reason I noticed I had a problem was because I had to write creative stuff for school and I hated doing that because for me if something is...
    tellurium tellurium
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Aug 1, 2013

    My Description Of Alexithymia

    I live almost entirely in the material world. I do not have abstractions, reflections, ideas, or feelings about most anything I encounter. I merely exist as a frog might but with logically capability. Thus I am devoid of humor and love, the two things I have desired my whole life...
    Brenguy Brenguy
    6 Responses Apr 21, 2011

    I've just done the test

    and had very high results. I can relate to it wholeheartedly. I can be very detached from everyone and always feel like people want something that I can't give which actually puts more pressure on me. I feel alone and frustrated with myself is this my life? That's the question I...
    missneuro missneuro
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    Middle-aged Alexithymic Dude

    Nearly all of my life I never realized I had a problem. Recently, by virtue of a new friend who claimed to have a disorder similar to alexithymia, I began researching the subject. I took all the online tests for alexithymia and by virtue of the internet was declared highly...
    dewittdc dewittdc
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 17, 2012

    Confused And Stressed Out

    I was just messing around on the computer when I came across the word "Alexithymia" it drew my attention because the name I go by is Alex. The crazy thing is that I had just been talking to my mom the previous day about how sick and tired I was of not being able to explain to...
    Spiranym Spiranym
    1 Response Sep 25, 2013
    Bikiexd Bikiexd
    16-17, F
    Aug 31, 2015

    I have a hard time identifying

    and communicating my feelings. Probably because all my life growing up I was never asked how I felt, only told how I felt and that it was wrong.
    wowodeals wowodeals
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 5, 2015

    I've been called cold more

    than once, because I don't react to other people's emotions, or more correctly said - don't understand other people's emotions. I'm using a lot of time thinking about why I can't explain the way it works. Cuz I don't get sad, making it more complicated when I self harm, I feel...
    Bikiexd Bikiexd
    16-17, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2015

    A Letter To My Boyfriend

    The word alexithymia literally means “no words for emotion” Alexithymia is psychological disorder characterized by the inability to identify and verbally describe emotions and feelings in oneself as well as in others. People who suffer from Alexithymia are limited in their...
    babymelissa babymelissa
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 17, 2012

    Not too long ago, I discovered this trait,

    a name for a cluster of characteristics that have shaped the way I live. I never knew there was a name for such a thing, and apparently I score very high on the tests, I really thought I was more of a mild. I had always struggled with emotions, my own mostly, as a kid, I knew...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    I Need A Vote

    i wonder if enough of you will be online anytime soon for me to get an answer... today's day 50 in afghanistan and my wife told me about 30 minutes ago that she cheated on me with one of my only remaining friends from highschool. i know it should be betrayal and anger but really...
    forestfriendbagby forestfriendbagby
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Jul 29, 2011

    I don't understand emotions

    and have difficulty expressing them, so what? To be honest, I think it is a good thing in some departments as, I am currently doing fabulously at school and quite often I see people crying and stuff, surely this just holds people back? Maybe there are bad sides too, I can't...
    Randompi Randompi
    16-17, F
    Sep 4, 2015


    I recently learnt I had Alexithymia. I'd always felt different. Unconnected. Emotionless. Until one day I was reading up about Aspergers. My younger brother has it. Saw the word Alexithymia and was curious. Reading through I was suprised and how it was saying everything that I...
    ButterflyNinja ButterflyNinja
    18-21, F
    Apr 12, 2012

    Mania Gave Me A Vision Of Emotional Connectedness

     Just over a year ago I had a manic episode as a result of an underactive thyroid. It built up gradually over about a week, starting off with me thinking about and suddenly understanding my emotional husband's view of things, then being flooded with feelings. It was wonderful! I...
    boglalka boglalka
    41-45, F
    Jul 18, 2011

    My husband is Alexithymic

    and I am finding it very hard as his wife to cope. Are there any support groups that anyone knows of for the partners of those who suffer from Alexithymia? I need to talk to people who understand..
    Hutchy222 Hutchy222
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2014
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