I Am Always the Friend And Never the Boyfriend

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    Right Now, I'm About To Explode

    About four months ago, my best friend's boyfriend of 8 months broke up with her. I was the first one she told, and the one to console her for the next couple months. I spent countless hours talking to her, going over her house, anything I could do to help her get over her ex, and...
    ls01388650 ls01388650
    18-21
    1 Response Sep 20, 2012

    I'm Just So Tired Of It

    I've never had problems talking to girls, most of my friends are indeed girls.I can talk for hours with one, i can make them laugh and it always seems like they are interested.On multiple occasions i've had girls tell me "oh, do you want to grab something to eat", which i usually...
    tired91 tired91
    18-21
    1 Response Mar 21, 2011

    It Hurts So Much.

    I'm a 27 year old male who's never had a girlfriend.  I classify a girlfriend as a lady/woman who can stand to go out with me past the third date.  In my lifetime I have yet to have a woman go further than the 2nd date.  I've heard it all: "you're too nice; you're too quiet...
    tarbalrellik tarbalrellik
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jan 30, 2011

    So I been crushin in this sweet darlin

    who looks at me with stars in her eyes. We have a great time hangin out and I bring her trinkets and chocolates and all sorts of sweet nice things. Always compliment her on her stunning good looks even on the days she's just outta bed and kickin it in sweats with no makeup. I...
    SShawnO SShawnO
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

    FRIEND IS A FOUR LETTER WORD (Cake)

    To me, Coming from you, Friend is a four letter word End is the only part of the word That I heard, Call me morbid or absurd, But To me, Coming from you, Friend is a four letter word To me, Coming from you, Friend is a four letter word End is the only part of...
    ready2shrug ready2shrug
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Nov 28, 2008

    Just As a Friend

    I was at a point in my life where I didn't want to start a relationship. I was content with my life as it was but I recently met this wonderfull girl. The most interesting girl ive met. She got my attention and my effection and got warmed me up to the idea of maybe it was ok...
    blacken blacken
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2007

    Forever Single

    I have been asking out women for years, at worst I get a no, ugh, but usually, I get a you are too nice, you are like my brother. Or you are such a good friend. Its annoying. I feel like I'm destined to be a single man forever, and everyone's friend, brother, etc. I also am...
    trumpet166 trumpet166
    22-25, M
    6 Responses Oct 9, 2006

    my life story.... I meet a great girl,

    become close to her, she calls me 24/7, looks to me to help her out with everything. spend time with her everyday at work, after work, weekends. People get in her ear, she gets self conscious worrying about what people say, then starts distancing herself from me in the public...
    synikalmind synikalmind
    36-40, M
    Feb 27

    I Am Mostly the Friend Yes. ...

    I am mostly the friend yes. I love being the friend. Like I have said many times. Everyone needs a friend.
    firestarterfairy firestarterfairy
    22-25, F
    Feb 23, 2008

    Always.

    I've only had one real girlfriend and she didn't last. But, I have had a crush on almost all of my female friends. I have sat with them for countless hours and listened to their problems. I have built them back up after they were hurt by the same douche bags over and over again...
    ratet ratet
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Feb 5, 2011

    Yup Pretty Much Me Too

    yea like the rest of the posters i dont get it. haha. Just basically got the speach we are all to use to over the last couple days. "can we just be friends".  " i think you are a really really really ( i know eh i got the 3 really treatment) sweet...
    thedj thedj
    18-21, M
    Oct 29, 2008

    Loosing Steam

    As I sit here I find myself asking, "Can faith, can hope, can time, truly come to my aid? Will I ever truly find love or will it be that mirage on the horizon of a dessert of loneliness?" I've known what I wanted in a mate since I was about 7 years old. I knew at that...
    Eriksmiles Eriksmiles
    36-40, M
    1 Response Sep 30, 2009

    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789
    18-21, M
    1 Response Apr 6, 2014

    Herd Them All

    "You're a great guy, but I don't like you like that" "I really like you, as a friend" "You're too nice" "You're too quiet" "You're to shy" "Lets just be friends" "I love you too, you're my best friend" "You're like my brother" There has to be something about me that screams...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 17, 2011

    Another Post, Some Advice For Anyone Who's Written About Their Experience

    So I posted a little over a year ago, not too long after that post I ended up meeting a girl and dated her for 7 months. It was real nice to finally be on the other side of things. It was a good relationship, ended with her breakin up with me and apparently ****** some other guy...
    mrumack mrumack
    18-21
    Jun 7, 2010

    I'm Just Too Shy...

    That explains why I have never been in a relationship. There's judgment from myself, then judgment from others. There is this one girl I know who is really nice, really pretty, genuinely matches with me, and, above all else, is free. So why don't I ask her out? For starters, she...
    rustyguy rustyguy
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Sep 18, 2008

    I Just Dont Like You Like That

    I don't fall under the stereotypical "friend" category.  I'm good looking, athletic, funny, smart, sociable, not afraid to get in trouble, and extremely capable of doing anything I put my mind to, including making any girl I love's dreams come true.  Call me...
    mrumack mrumack
    18-21
    2 Responses Mar 12, 2009

    Fed Up Of Being The Knight

    Im writing because Imat a pint where really dont know what t do any more :( Ive got a friend who Im really close to, we spend so much time together and she knows how I feel about her and that I would love for it to develop into something. She always tells me Im such a nice guy...
    dazzweeks dazzweeks
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jun 4, 2011

    I've been friend zoned 27 times

    and I'm only 14. They happened in the past two years... WHY WONT ANYBODY LOVE ME!!! Lol but seriously
    Wadboy Wadboy
    16-17, M
    1 Response Mar 17, 2014

    Always Seen As a Friend, Nothing More...

    For so long now, I always get the... "Oh, but I think of you more as a friend" or "You are too close of a friend" ...I don't mean to be the "friend" that's just who I am, I'm a nice guy, I wouldn't try to change myself to change that, but just...
    7HIR7YS3V3N 7HIR7YS3V3N
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 28, 2007

    What Being Just A Friend Means To Me

    A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the...
    WalterMighty WalterMighty
    22-25
    9 Responses Jun 13, 2010

    Trying to Overcome

    I complained for a long time, and then realized one day that there wasn't anyone I was super hung up about who I would WANT to date. So then I thought I should just go on casual dates, no expectations, just go out and have fun, but then that didn't really happen because the very...
    HairyDood HairyDood
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 18, 2007

    Bi Guy, Forever Alone?

    I'm kinda glad I saw this....maybe I don't 100% fit in because I go both ways, but I certainly fit into the friend group. It doesn't mater if it's with a guy or a girl I'm always just the best friend, people pour their heart out to me and I support them when there is no one else...
    Neutrality1 Neutrality1
    22-25
    Dec 6, 2012

    A Different Perspective.

    In my life Ive met alot of girls. I mean ALOT. Most of the people in my phone memory are girls. I have girl friends back home in Dallas, here in Austin, back in DC, up in NY, up in Chicago, up in Boston, everywhere. When I think about it, it all started out "romantically...
    Silver01ta Silver01ta
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 13, 2008
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