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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 10 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 67 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3

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    Just Sharing My Story

    I moved to the home when I was a child I felt that I was neglected by my mother, she and my grandma hired maids that abused and neglected me ever since and due to that it caused me emotional damage they replace the maids when they learned that they are doing something bad only to...
    mimeyo mimeyo 22-25, M Oct 8, 2013

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I once told myself that if I'm gonna have a family of my own, I will never be like my mother. I must admit, I envy mothers who are close to their children. In my case, my mother...
    SweetEclair SweetEclair 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    Homestly indoctrinating childre with religion is the same, indoctrination period is wrong. I am not against religion by any meens but i do believe we should teach our children to...
    rehn65 rehn65 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I'm not the only person in my family who hasn't gotten along with her. She doesn't speak to my grandmother, who practically raised me, because she doesn't agree with my mother's...
    E991010 E991010 13-15, F Jul 10

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    I never thought this will be me, I had never understood how people couldn't get along with their mothers; someone who is meant to love you unconditionally, someone who is meant...
    bittersweetlemonade bittersweetlemonade 16-17, F Jul 21

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    My MIL is not a bad person, but she says and does things that get to me. My husband and I are from two different cultures, with people from his culture being more direct and...
    luigisprincess luigisprincess 26-30, F Jul 22

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    I started reading every ones story and I was shocked at how much in common are stories are. I used to be so ashamed of my mother's illness and kept it a secret. As mom got older...
    pamq pamq 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I'm 38 years old.. My mother is an alcoholic in every sense of the word. She stopped drinking for a very brief period of time (32 days) but when she's drunk, she's mean. I live...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I believe that a child just as every other human being is entitled to their own opinion that was not set on them by their religious parents or guardians. By telling someone (child...
    trysten778 trysten778 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    My 17 yr old mother gave me to my grandmother as a baby and never looked back. I still smile at the pain she feels about losing her 2nd child, which she thought was better than me...
    Desculpas Desculpas 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I come from a family with a history of alcoholism. My father in particular, drinks frequently. I don't try to stop though. He has had a bad life and I know he doesn't know another...
    kalila37 kalila37 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    Dear Ex Mother-in-Law Do not tell me how to handle my child, I've already lived with one of yours and yeah, you failed parenting there.
    PrincessOfOptimism PrincessOfOptimism 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    My daughter is a little over one year old. ( I don't like talking in months)She has Down Syndrome. I don't treat her differently from my other kids. Her needs are a little...
    Kryzta Kryzta 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    My mother likes to make small mean comments to me that makes my self esteem go down. But I think it's just a mother thing I don't get.
    Traviesaal Traviesaal 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 1

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    My MIL is a tetraplegic. She was in a car accident and she damaged her c-6 and c-7 vertebrae. She is now wheel chair bound. I know starting a story about how I am unhappy living...
    Natesbabydoll Natesbabydoll 26-30, F Jul 3

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    Me and my mother has been having conflicts since my father passed away. Since that day, Whatever we do, we dont click. Help
    kiarna811 kiarna811 13-15, F Jul 14

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    “If I were to suggest that between the Earth and Mars there is a china teapot revolving about the sun in an elliptical orbit, nobody would be able to disprove my assertion...
    in10RjFox in10RjFox 46-50, M 3 Responses Jul 14

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    When I was in 7th grade my mother left my family for half a month because she was fed up with my dad. All he ever did was love her. Ever since then, she hasn't apologized and came...
    ConverseStar29 ConverseStar29 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    I spank my granddaughter with a hairbrush, but I am considering getting a bath brush for a bit more intensity. I was considering a paddle, but my husband is against it and they're...
    alicecj alicecj 51-55, F 10 Responses a week ago

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    My mom thinks I'm not depressed I'm seeking for attention and I'm lying about hearing voices and I went on a suicide hotline to make my 'act' seem more legit. And then people...
    lonelinessneverfades lonelinessneverfades 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    No matter how much I try connecting with her I can't
    Vickychajon Vickychajon 13-15, F Jul 1

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    I don't know how to make her happy to be with me. }:
    samdavis3 samdavis3 16-17, M Jul 3

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    I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to forgive her. Ate first, when I met her, I thought for sure that I wouldn't have typical awful MIL; but I was wrong. Her snide comments and...
    cfern823 cfern823 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 15

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    We don't get along with each other and when I talk about something, she responds with a subject that is so different and she does that all the time. She puts my sister first but...
    kiarna811 kiarna811 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I have a 20 year old son that is bi-polar 1. He sucks the energy and life out of us. I love him but resent him and what this illness has taken from our marriage. I exercise...
    debbiedee623 debbiedee623 51-55, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Every biped. Brain or no brain. Should have options.
    AlmostDiscarded AlmostDiscarded 46-50, M Jul 13

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    Me and my mum aren't very close and so I can't talk to her about anything because she tells me I'm being stupid. I love my mum but I don't think she cares about my feelings at all...
    sadtimes sadtimes 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 21

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    I miss her. When she's here, she's still gone.
    SaraRose0616 SaraRose0616 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    My 3 year old grandson has serious behaviour issues. I think he has ADHD . Is there anyone on here I can talk to that knows about it that I can talk to. I'm at my wits end. Help...
    josiejosie josiejosie 46-50, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    How Funny Is This....a site about having a Narcisstic mother with only 500 members! Are there so few Narcisstic mothers Really!! Or just so few adult children who recognize it and...
    MamaAbby MamaAbby 56-60, F 6 Responses Jul 5

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    Hi all. I am new here and for the last 3 years my mil has been a nightmare! From day one she has been telling my fiancé ridiculous things about me. She tries to convince him that...
    areyna88 areyna88 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 10

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    I was riding the bus the other day with my cousin when we witnessed angry old man accusing a young of stealing his phone charger. The young man had no idea why the old man was...
    Mulhollandrive Mulhollandrive 26-30, F Jul 9

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    Sitting at the table with my mother alone eating different meals. She says "I have some bad news" I said "like always" She said "this is a different kind of bad news" I...
    SaraSunshinePeaceLover SaraSunshinePeaceLover 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Wow, I'm a 52 yr old woman soon to be 53 and no children. Just like so many of us on here I am bitter and wish so badly for a child even at this age. Not going to happen I suppose...
    Texxy Texxy 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    I will not rant or moan and I no longer hate my mother as much as I use to,but I hope I NEVER see her again and haven't since the last time I went before a judge aged 10 and her...
    Selah94 Selah94 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    My mother was never physically abusive, but she certainly emotionally abused and neglected us. If I would write down everything that she did, then I would have one unbelievable...
    LostMittens LostMittens 31-35, F Jul 14

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    Best thing to EVER happen to me!- At age 9 I failed a math quiz and feared the beating I would get at home. My mother didn't spank. She beat me with a belt all over my body and...
    Selah94 Selah94 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    When I was little, I used to say that I would have 20 kids when I grew up and drive them all around in a school bus. But now, I truly long to be and desire to be a mother. I can...
    SadFacedDork SadFacedDork 16-17, F Jul 18

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    In 2008 my Mother in law lost h husband . I tried helping her through his illness and after his death and things were ok.I had never had bad feelings toward her in the past,as a...
    helpless69 helpless69 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    It's taken me and my sister a very long time to realise that our mother is passive aggressive. We always thought our mother was selfish and wanted the world to revolve around her...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F 1 day ago