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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 51 People

    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3, 2014

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 70 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    I have 3 children with autism. 9, 9 and 10. One of my daughters is more higher functioning and she just got reevalutated for receiving special needs at school. (They all did...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 31-35, F 6 Responses Mar 18

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    Hello there. If anyone needs to let out some steam, then visit this website: Children of Addicted Parents and People http://www.coap.org.uk/ Its where I get great advice from...
    ScarletRed000 ScarletRed000 18-21, F Mar 7

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    I have a 16 year old son with autism. He is nonverbal. I would like to connect with other parent of nonverbal children . He is transitioning into adulthood. I like to find mentor...
    gmc463 gmc463 51-55, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I feel like I'm in a constant battle with my alcoholic father. I'm 27, living on my own and far away from him. But I struggle with how to maintain communication with him that he so...
    nakiyame nakiyame 26-30, F Mar 4

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    Since I was little, my parents would fight everyday which eventually led to their divorce. Their divorce was nasty and too personal that I would need a book to write it all out...
    jkjk237 jkjk237 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    I recently married my husband back in 2014, and yes I knew what I was getting myself into when we got married. His mother lives with him, and I total understand she is because she...
    Loveis0 Loveis0 22-25, F Mar 17

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    I view my mother as weak for staying in a toxic marriage for 26 years. She's had so many chances to pick up and leave and she wouldn't do it. She put her own kids through a lot by...
    BlackBuddafly88 BlackBuddafly88 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    A few months ago my and my partner decided to settle down and get our own house. About 2 weeks before we moved in my partner mentioned how his mother who was living in another...
    Sonbou Sonbou 22-25, F Feb 28

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    My child was diagnosed with Selective Mutism. I also grew up with this phenomenon. This disability wasn't thought of when I was growing up,(it was discovered in the 90's) so the...
    heathercay18 heathercay18 36-40, F Mar 6

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    Kinda cool when a 5 year old autistic child says, "Thank you for helping me with my math today. You made me happy."
    TCL009 TCL009 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    I have three adopted boys, my middle son has recently been diagnosed with SPD. I have found it to be a weight removed! now I understand the reason behind some of his behaviours...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 3 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Read this pearl on Ministry Health website, in an article about ACoAs: " If you have an ACOA/ACDF as your friend and supporter, you have a friend for life...unless they sense...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 10

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    Yep.... She yelled more.. And threw a pillow and then my phone at me... Hit me both times... Fun morning ....
    Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    stop trying to send me friend requests on facebook!!!!!
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    Who is this bright eyed, smiling, handsome young man? He's not the same person that was so frighteningly ill two years ago. I am so proud of him and his determination to live a...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    All my life I've got along with all kinds of people. Growing up I was mostly a jock type but I got along with the popular kids.I got along with the stoner kids.I got along with...
    AfanOfbigNaturals AfanOfbigNaturals 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 4

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    "The dance that we learn as children - the repression and distortion of our emotional process in reaction to the attitudes and behavior patterns we adopt to survive in an...
    sweetartventure sweetartventure 31-35, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    My daughter turned 13 today. The very first promise I made her was that I would never treat her the way my BPD mom had treated me. And I've kept it. I've always intended to...
    AmandainFL AmandainFL 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    For more years than I care to remember, I played a bit part in a permanent show entitled "Is there a Grown Up in the house?" where my character impersonated many of acquisitions...
    Joanne0chan Joanne0chan 26-30, F 6 days ago

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    Missing Child Fraud-This is to confirm S. Di Cecco born 11/07/1994 is NOT missing. Despite the numerous posters spread across the internet as a result of lies told by her sorry...
    HappyinHague HappyinHague 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    Our Strange Strained Relationship- My father was married to my mother before I was born,but when my mother returned to the United States with me shortly after birth(they'd met...
    Srebro94 Srebro94 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 5

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    Something is not sinking in with me. I'm a 39 year old mother of four children; two sons 18 & 15--and two daughters 14 & 7. I had tubal ligation 7 years ago...the same day my 7...
    ChiTownLady76 ChiTownLady76 36-40, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I don't know if he does it on purpose but my husband always seems to start an argument or is mean to me around special occasions. Previous mothers days included him ignoring my...
    probablyPMT probablyPMT 31-35, F Mar 15

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    So I found this cool list online about the different abilities of indigos. I'm fairly new to the whole indigo term so I really wanted to figure out all of the abilities. I found...
    xCrowSong xCrowSong 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 3

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    I came across this site while searching for answers to my own question of whether or not I should maintain a relationship with my mother. After reading the stories of others and...
    ChildrenOfTheScorn ChildrenOfTheScorn 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 5

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    I'm 45, fit, successful, married... and totally alone. I married at 42, thinking I was waiting for just the right man to be a family with. I believed my husband was it, though his...
    ziggette ziggette 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 7

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    murdering a girl child in her mother's womb and if unfortunately she s born making her life worse than hell, the only thing the people with stereotype mindset India do. they...
    Ahaanaa Ahaanaa 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    Since young no one has hurt my feelings as much as my mum has. She calls me a "female dog" , a burden, a shame, etc and many other words that I cannot translate to English. She...
    ashleycharlie28 ashleycharlie28 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    My mom killed herself August 10, 1962. A long time ago, it was actually 5 days after Marilyn Monroe's suicide. My dad was out of town on a road construction job. My brother was...
    Etexgal Etexgal 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    This is such a loaded experience. I can honestly say I don't have a normal relationship with my mother. I think most people come to respect their mothers at some point and strive...
    Allforaview Allforaview 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    Growing up, I had my first girl-on-girl experience with a childhood friend. We spent many overnights at each others' houses so we had ample opportunities to kiss, make out, touch...
    Kimber70 Kimber70 41-45, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    My mother died when I was 1 year old, she died from cancer which started in her breast but eventually spread throughout her entire body. There will always be a part of me who...
    Secret179688 Secret179688 16-17 3 days ago

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    my fiancé hasnt spoken to his mother in almost 4 years, when he went to court for his divorce five years ago she sat with his exwife in the court room. It really hurt my fianc...
    Gingera75 Gingera75 36-40, F Mar 10

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    just the other day your daughters had played next to you on the couch and you jokingly teased us to stop . We had giggled in your presence mommy... Just the other day we had...
    Juiceyangel333 Juiceyangel333 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    I read online about 7 common wounds of daughters with unloving mothers. A few of them really stood out to me. 1. Lack of confidence This has always been an issue and I believe is...
    imagine524 imagine524 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 27

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