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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 70 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3, 2014

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Hi..I'm new here and hoping to connect with people who can relate to my situation. I'm in a tough spot and not sure where to go from here. I've been married for close to 10 years...
    AndHereIAm AndHereIAm 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    Need help with resources. Most resources are for children of narcissistic parents. I am a normal parent with narcissistic adult child who uses the grandkids against me.
    jaygee64 jaygee64 51-55 1 Response 6 days ago

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    My mother raised me alone since i was 10 because my father left us,i have no siblings and i understand raising a child alone is difficult but i dont think she really understands me...
    Tessa3 Tessa3 22-25, F Apr 4

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    Its hard to get around it but yeah I am having issues with my fiance's mother. Or should I say she's having issues with me, right along with the baby mama. Alright to began with...
    Msprissy Msprissy 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    my mother has never been much of a mother as a child i was physically n mentally abused till i was 15 till i was put in foster care. then when i was 18 i tried a relationship w...
    cooper3366 cooper3366 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    So, I have been getting more into crochet as a hobby. I wanted to make something more substantial. So, I thought why not a baby blanket? I found a pattern I could make in 3 hours...
    galaxygurl galaxygurl 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I married a foreigner with very different background, religion etc.... and his mother in law is staying with us for a month. My husband has a brother whom just married and she is...
    krisfen krisfen 31-35, F Apr 6

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    Good thing is, she's almost non-existent. She's an absent and unreliable "mother" to my husband and has been his entire life.
    bumblebeez bumblebeez 26-30 1 Response Apr 5

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    my mother never keeps her promise. she said she loved us enough to stop. but now I know she's lieinf she hasn't stopped and is now begging me to clean up her mess.... it is always...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    my mom constantly tells me wat i do wrong. wen i do good she barely says anything, wen i do bad all hell breaks loose. idk wat ta do. i use to cut but i learned to stop (going on a...
    pizzababyxo pizzababyxo 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    That's what I want. Childrens... lots of em... want to enjoy life as much as I can raising childrens...
    CoolDad59 CoolDad59 51-55, M Apr 9

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    I need advice. I think my mother In law already wants his son to die. Coz he always say that maybe I will get married again if his son will die. I can't imagine she was saying that...
    Andrea0328 Andrea0328 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    I've had a conversation with my father today and we both agree she's been impossible. We think she's depressed, she's been to a psych several times but she refuses to take the...
    Isobel1985 Isobel1985 26-30, F Mar 29

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    uhg! my mom is being creepy again! she keeps sending me messages about how hot she thinks this one guy is it that she saw a guy she had a one night stand with and if a guy looks at...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 13

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    Hi my 5 year old son just been diagnosed with autism. He is high function n so smart. He has speech delays for his age. I turned to this network from som tips on how to raise him...
    jjcairo jjcairo 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Hello! My name is Tia Evans and I'm with Younique Cosmetics. Some of my team and I are reaching out to families dealing with autism to give back. We are offering 100% of our...
    youniqueviatia youniqueviatia 31-35, F Apr 9

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    Growing up one of my earliest memories is my Mom asking me to write down the three people I loved the most, in order of importance. I put her, then my cousin who was like a sister...
    Socalsunset Socalsunset 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 3

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    She just steps way over the line when it comes to stuff that is none of her flipping biz. She thinks she has total say of my kids and unless she delivered Amy kids she hS nothing...
    Farmmaid Farmmaid 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 1

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    She comes over everyday.....calls over and over until he picks up no matter the time of day.....I just want some space!!!
    siobhan4love siobhan4love 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 1

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    I cannot stand the selfish b•••h!
    Mrhydeballs Mrhydeballs 41-45, M Apr 2

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    My mom had it hard, while having me, i know that. Whithout getting too into that, she becomes angry at me, if i'm not like she wants too. Also now when i'm older and I have learned...
    Timgerer Timgerer 13-15, F Apr 5

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    she makes me sick......seriously.....i do my best to please her and when i ask for simple things like...."bobby pins"...or a "new brush"...its like i just killed someone its ok tho...
    thoughtless17 thoughtless17 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    I'm 24, but I think having kids would be best if the father is over 40, maybe even over 50. I feel like older men would be more willing to be around :)
    knockmeup1834 knockmeup1834 22-25, F 5 Responses Apr 8

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    There is a special place in hell for narcissistic mothers. Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the same reasons the rest of us do. They do not look forward to the birth...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 4 Responses Apr 15

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    Will I ever be enough? For anyone??Adult children of narcissistic parents commonly grow up with this nagging feeling that they flunked childhood and it’s all their fault...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 Apr 15

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    In the years since I researched and wrote Mean Mothers, I’ve talked to women about our shared experiences. Every woman’s story is different, of course; perhaps the greatest...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 4 Responses Apr 11

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    OCTOBER 29, 2014 BY B. ROBERT FARZAD How to Protect Your Child From a Narcissistic Father or Mother? How to protect your child from a narcissistic father or mother Protecting...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response Apr 15

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    My guilt tears me apart for saying this. Now, as I'm approaching adulthood and is a full time student in college, my mother can't seem to comprehend what is happening to me. She...
    LoveSoLife LoveSoLife 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am 34 years and the oldest of my siblings and first cousins. My mother and aunt were single parents and started birthing us all at the ripe ages of 14 and 16. Because I was the...
    snstewa1 snstewa1 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Im about to talk it out.. i need to dump all of this off my shoulders.. im sorry if its rambling at long.. I don't actually expect anyone to read.. but i need a place to put these...
    alienmom82 alienmom82 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    Outdated Concept Without Merit-This is a FAKE ILLNESS that does NOT exist and has been repeatedly disproven. I removed my child born to a American mother in the United States to...
    HappyinHague HappyinHague 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 30

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    So, I know everyone has parent problems.. But what should I do if my mother is the reason I want to kill myself..? I've tried telling her nicely and respectfully that she's hurting...
    DementedKarkat DementedKarkat 13-15, T 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Black or White-"Some mother you are!" A stranger snapped at my mother years ago. "Bad enough you marry a White man. Then you teach your children to hate themselves!" The stranger...
    ShahirAnkara ShahirAnkara 22-25, M Apr 15

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    I am just coming to the realization that I am the adult daughter of a narcissistic mother. It is only now that I have found an interest in psychology and have done some reading...
    n2385 n2385 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Never Have And Never Will-Ask my mother to describe me and she will say only good things like loving,sweet, smart, funny,handsome,respectful, never gave me any trouble. Ask my...
    ShahirAnkara ShahirAnkara 22-25, M Apr 11