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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 68 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Just Sharing My Story

    I moved to the home when I was a child I felt that I was neglected by my mother, she and my grandma hired maids that abused and neglected me ever since and due to that it caused me emotional damage they replace the maids when they learned that they are doing something bad only to...
    mimeyo mimeyo 22-25, M Oct 8, 2013

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 10 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Married for a few months. Now expecting a baby (5 months preg yay!) everything was perfect until.... My OWN mother became bitter. I found out she's been complaining about me to...
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    I am a 14 year old that has relationship problems with my mother. I recall constantly getting bullied in my elementary years because of my social awkwardness. I remember my mom...
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    I once told myself that if I'm gonna have a family of my own, I will never be like my mother. I must admit, I envy mothers who are close to their children. In my case, my mother...
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    My mother has slapped me, called me numerous, belittling names, and abusive curses. When she is angry, she will hit me and she will have that look in her eye that will make you...
    sienabrowns sienabrowns 16-17 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Okay it's kinda like a love-hate relationship. I swear I love her with all my heart, but sometimes it's just like......... UUUGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! I mean both my brothers and me...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    I'm 38 years old.. My mother is an alcoholic in every sense of the word. She stopped drinking for a very brief period of time (32 days) but when she's drunk, she's mean. I live...
    MarieVon MarieVon 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    The only reason religion still exists is because people are indoctrinated and don't question things they were told as children .Actual physical or sexual abuse carry scars over...
    tom67890 tom67890 46-50, M 1 Response Aug 8

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    Until now, I have felt completely lost when it comes to understanding certain aspects of my significant other. We are in a committed, long-term relationship, and I love and care...
    nic225 nic225 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    She came to visit 6wks after our first child was born. I was having postpartum depression and she proceeded to tell me about all the women my husband dated and she thought each...
    Kid50 Kid50 46-50, F 21 hrs ago

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    Just watched movie flight. Drunk pilot. Got clean and sober in prison. Wish my dad would. Kid asked dad who are you. Have same question for mine. Know what he...
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Aug 4

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    The worst about any relashionship that truly matters is the pain it brings up. If the pain was not there already there would not be much to bring up, but it's there and it sucks to...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Aug 17

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    "Whenever you are considering throwing in the towel, remember that just creates more laundry." Have no idea who said that. For all those having a bad day - it does get better...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Aug 18

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    So.... s*** happens. Sometimes people make mistakes. Huge ones. Sometimes they get into things you've hated your whole life and fought against. And now it's part of your loved...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    My 7 year old daughter is my inspiration.. She has been through so much in her little years but she still is such a fun spirited child to be around.. I can never be as brave and as...
    cherrikisses22 cherrikisses22 22-25 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I really believed when I came here that this group (and some related others) are for people who have an ACoA loved one so they could share their story and be understood and given...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    When i was 8 or 9 years old my parents got divorced. My little sibbling (he was 3 or 4 years back then) and i had to stand by ourselves. My mother cheated on my dad; he loved her...
    Lately90 Lately90 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    My mother was a vicious person towards me, she believes in discipline, hard and forthright discipline. Spanking was never by her hand. It was panties down, bare bottom, wooden...
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 9 Responses Aug 17

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    Religious crap gets rammed down the throats of millions of innocent kids the world over, from all religions. It is the worst kind of mental child abuse and many of them turn into...
    uknudy uknudy 66-70, M 3 Responses Aug 7

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    There is a children's summer camp I volunteered at for a week to put down as a reference for a school program. It was one of those fundamentalist Christian ones. They have kids...
    ValhallaAwaits ValhallaAwaits 18-21, M 12 Responses Aug 7

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    Like wow... My mother had actually gave me a birthday hug today. It wasn't even that awkward either. She even gave me a birthday card. Well, it was a week earlier, but that was...
    CharleeLuv CharleeLuv 18-21, F Aug 12

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    My mother in law is so uptight,she only calls to my husband on mobile then house phone,she treats my older son different to my other two son's never really bothers with them...And...
    ladybirdkew82 ladybirdkew82 31-35, F 1 day ago

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    I have a 20 year old son that is bi-polar 1. He sucks the energy and life out of us. I love him but resent him and what this illness has taken from our marriage. I exercise...
    debbiedee623 debbiedee623 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    I can't stand people with autism. They are annoying and try to use it as a crutch
    lockedsweetheart lockedsweetheart 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    Checking in again with a nice story about our twelve year old boy with autism. Today my daughter's pet mutt, a little dog, got his chain caught in a bush near the house and made a...
    ward ward 56-60, M Aug 19

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    Not in a bad way, though. My father drank rather heavily, but he was never abusive. In fact, he was always excessively cheerful when inebriated (sometimes to the point of being...
    chubbystringbean chubbystringbean 22-25, M Aug 3

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    Gave too much. Cared too much. Lost good support over him. Now breaking free may be too late.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I Am An Atheist This is a warning if you get involved in this group you might be kicked out because they will think you are a spammer, so a lot of them will go to your page and...
    nonatheisrgroupie nonatheisrgroupie 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Ugh I can't stand her sometimes... She does all these little annoying things by me all the time and is constantly moving...she never sits still and is constantly scratching herself...
    bribri590 bribri590 18-21, F Aug 19

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    I'm not sure what it is anymore. Ever since last year she judges me and every decision I make. She picks fights or just pushes my buttons. I don't think she believes I can make it...
    uncoolmermaid uncoolmermaid 16-17, F 16 hrs ago

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    Over involved is the root cause of MIL problems. When we become adults, the amount of time we spend with our parents is voluntary. If your parents are over involved, whether it is...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 2 Responses Aug 14

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    I hate child worshippers. Those deluded souls who believe children and paragons of purity, kindness, and everything good about the human race. That laughable idea is quickly...
    MidsouthGuy MidsouthGuy 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 1

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    It's actually been nine years since my daughter stopped speaking to me. She sent me a letter asking me to send no more gifts. I complied. I decided after nine birthdays that this...
    ohiostreetjoe ohiostreetjoe 56-60, M Aug 19

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    Hello everyone. I never wanted to resort to this, but I feel I am out of other options. Let me start from the beginning. When my mother, Dee, was 9, her father was shot in the head...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    Aryg Aryg 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 14

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    Seeing all these posts about woman being 'spanked' really creeps me out! I know most of you are pro-spanking however until a few weeks ago I didn't know spanking a grown woman...
    kel25 kel25 26-30 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    It's taken me and my sister a very long time to realise that our mother is passive aggressive. We always thought our mother was selfish and wanted the world to revolve around her...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 31

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    My mother is in fact worse than any mother! She has 8 children in total with 5 men and my father was the 5th and last. We were 2 sisters & 2 brother in the same father...
    MysticaUK2009 MysticaUK2009 46-50, F Aug 11

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    My first post about my passive aggressive mother, an explanation: EP Link I've been doing some research on passive aggressiveness and found that it's an actual personality...
    Cupcakes95 Cupcakes95 36-40, F 17 hrs ago

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    I was at a drugstore with my mother to buy some make up when a mother called to her daughter. Guess what her name was? Tinkerbell. Yes it's true my mother asked if that was her...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F Aug 12

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    Finally instead of us women being pregnant it will be the feMALE wives, the sissy maids, the new gurls who be pregnant. Liberating us women from that burden. Some feMALES...
    annemarielongueuil annemarielongueuil 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 5