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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3, 2014

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 71 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I'm coming to terms that my relationship with my mother in law will never be good. She has said a lot of hurtful things to me and has done enough things to end up in jail several...
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    There's no way in this life time I will ever have a good relationship with my MiL. This woman is an utterly spoilt brat, age does not improve her. Two weeks after I married her...
    Purplelady2 Purplelady2 61-65, F Feb 11

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    She favors her first born. Overtly. It's disgusting. Next in monster-in-law's hierarchy of favoritism are the baby-makers. Then comes her only single child (age 35) who has to be...
    andie2007 andie2007 41-45, F 1 day ago

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    My mother came for a visit to my house 5 years ago and has yet to leave... No seriously. She has been one of the most clingy, needy and emotionally abusive people that I've ever...
    tajadaja tajadaja 31-35, F Jan 31

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    My father died of alcoholism when I was 21, now just over 20 years ago. I was blessed in the fact that he quit on his own when I was a baby. He was sober most of my life and I...
    winnhasmyheart winnhasmyheart 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 5

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    So. My estranged, psychically and emotionally abusive mother is dying of cancer. She got breast cancer in 2010 and blamed me for causing the stress which enhanced her chances of...
    Hunnylovie Hunnylovie 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Update on this: I just talked to my mother for the first time. She broke her hip today and needed to put in a metal rod to keep her together. But they're basically telling us that...
    Hunnylovie Hunnylovie 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    If I could go back in time and tell myself just one thing...I would SCREAM stop fighting for the love of an addict!! be a child, let go and learn to love yourself and life. it...
    lisamarie80 lisamarie80 31-35, F Jan 29

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    Since we went out today(Hubby & I & Sis in law,) Mother-Inlaw: "Well if you had a little one you might not have gone out in the cold." Seriously, WTF?!!?😖🙎 like when does...
    galaxygurl galaxygurl 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    seems like Me and my mom will never get along. it's always her word against mine. I just can't connect with her she always finds a way to twist my words around to make it looks...
    bittersweet18 bittersweet18 18-21, F Feb 16

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    Well not my mother in law, my boyfriends mother. I'm 19 and he's 21. I've been dating her son for 3 years now and she has not bothered to get to know me once. I've seen her...
    christinazulon christinazulon 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    This gave me a chuckle. My issues aren't really what I think of as issues. It's not like I waste a lot of time stressing about it. More of an eye roller than anything. He has made...
    justNIK justNIK 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 12

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    When i was a teen my mom was my Both a mother and a father to me ..i've always found her strong,brave,social and beautiful everyone compliments her about her beauty , she's a...
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    I am tired. I am tired. I am British, 18, and practically a single mom to my sick 3 year old brother. My mom is always away at work and I have to take care of him. I have to take...
    TheSkyIsBlue12 TheSkyIsBlue12 18-21, F Feb 19

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    Him his, him that. Him the whole world revolves around. That's the life of a dance my mother manages being a narcissist towards me and a co-dependent for his nonexistent love he...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 3 days ago

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    I view my mother as weak for staying in a toxic marriage for 26 years. She's had so many chances to pick up and leave and she wouldn't do it. She put her own kids through a lot by...
    BlackBuddafly88 BlackBuddafly88 26-30, F 20 hrs ago

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    I do not have a child of my own with this disorder, but my two sisters have it. I am trying to get some answers or support for my parents who are struggling.
    CaseysMommy CaseysMommy 16-17, F Jan 29

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    She's so vapid. Like honestly, she's the most vapid person I have ever met. You can't hold a conversation with her, which is probably why her calls only last 5 minutes or less. She...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    hi just wondering if anyone has kids that are the age of 5 with ADHD on meds .my son is 4 and going to start school next year .if he can't keep still he will have to go on them...
    glrock glrock 41-45, M Jan 30

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    Our 21 year old son is Bipolar 1. He had his first full manic episode with a psychotic break his first semester in college. We learned in a DBSA meeting that it can take two...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F 2 Responses Feb 6

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    My 13yr old daughter is an aspie .It runs on my husband's side of our family. He himself is an aspie so is his 17yr old son. Our 11yr old son has autism. It primarily has affected...
    Allie9273 Allie9273 41-45, F Feb 6

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    When my son was three he was diagnosed as autistic. Then only 1 in 150 were autistic. According to the CDC 1 in 88 are now diagnosed with autism. Not to out done, he develops...
    Kathain Kathain 51-55, F 6 days ago

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    12 things I observed about my in laws: 1. Inability to recognize and accept change in family relations and dynamics. Your son/brother has new priorities; his wife has taken the...
    ZolaJam ZolaJam 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    My grand daughter was taken last yr from my daughter. My daughter had left the father but since he hadn't seen her in 3 weeks she met with him and his mother to let them have he...
    scahoon2010 scahoon2010 46-50, F Feb 12

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    For over six years me and my younger sister(by about 21 months) were under the care of local Lutheran Social Services. We lived in a children's home from the time I was 7-8 until I...
    EspanolBlite EspanolBlite 22-25, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    The Bane of My Existence-Instead of happy memories of "Daddy Daughter" outings and feelings of adoration I have memories of daily confrontations and feelings of general unease. He...
    MimsatheQuiet MimsatheQuiet 18-21, F Feb 11

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    Forgiving does not mean that I have to be a part of a family that is toxic to my well being. I forgive my mother for the things she did and continues to do, because I understand...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    This is the child your caste system took from my parents...over genocide...this is the child that grew up wondering how she'd fend for herself because of YOUR secrets and YOUR All...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Jan 28

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    I tend to have a dislike for step mothers because the story is always the same with them. They get into this new relationship and think well I have kids by this man, this is my...
    prettybombie prettybombie 18-21, F Feb 7

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    My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years now. We have no kids together, and he has 1 son from a previous marriage. When I moved in to my husbands house (8 years ago...
    bbstorm bbstorm 26-30, F Feb 13

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    It seems that here recently I see on the news all these cases of measles being reported. This really hits too close to home for me. I remember as a kid going through the lines at...
    missourimule63 missourimule63 51-55 1 Response Feb 1

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    This is a conversation I had this morning after apparently my sister had another frustrating sleepless night... My lil sister, a mother of a 7 y/old son and an adorable 3 y/old...
    neeia neeia 36-40, F 8 Responses Feb 4

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    So I ran away a couple days ago, and they made me come back home (they= police & family). They said they were gonna change and so far nothings changed. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    So I ran away a couple of days ago, and they made me come back (they= police and family). They said they were gonna change and so far that's bullshit. I am leaving when I turn 17...
    nomnommings nomnommings 16-17, F Feb 18

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    NOT with adults. But with other children..family members younger than me, and one older. This is my deepest darkest secret. I am revealing this now, because for the past two weeks...
    trappedgirl17 trappedgirl17 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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