I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats
    26-30
    74 Responses Jun 14, 2008

    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55
    46-50
    2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

    I love my mother to bits,

    and it will devastate me when anything happens to her. But since I was little, she has kept me under her thumb. I told her about my rape when I was 23 - it first happened at 9, then again at 14. I was diagnosed with a heart condition two years ago and, it that isn't enough, I...
    Raineras Raineras
    36-40, F
    1 Response Feb 17

    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83
    26-30
    3 Responses Dec 28, 2011

    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine
    36-40, F
    Feb 3, 2014

    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG
    26-30
    11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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