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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 50 People

    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 70 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 10 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    My mother is phenomenal. She amazes me with the heart she has. It's where I get it from. She raised me since I was a baby. ( my birth mother left) she took me in as her own and...
    freedom432 freedom432 31-35, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I have always wandered and questioned what the relationship between myself and mother means to either of us. I have this over whelming sadness due to the fact that even though she...
    Sproetjies3 Sproetjies3 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    The night the ashtray broke was when I first understood something was wrong at my house. I noticed things before, like my parents spending hours at the table talking, or the time...
    ColdMountain ColdMountain 61-65, M Nov 25

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    I am beyond frustrated. Because of a divorce and some other personal issues (that were not my fault), I was forced to move back in with my parents. I am 43 years old and have a...
    cosmowoman13 cosmowoman13 41-45, F Nov 22

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    My mother has chronic pancreatitis from drinking wine for years and years with naturally faulty kidneys. Shes been getting progressively sicker the last 3 years. When I was younger...
    sleepingbeauty13 sleepingbeauty13 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 30

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    Dear Mom, Remember when you left me because you claimed you weren't ready to be a parent to a teenager at just 30 years old, and expected me to somehow understand that? Remember...
    Theworldisminenow Theworldisminenow 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 20

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    I was fourteen or so, a sensitive, alienated, geeky nerd. No friends. I was talking to my father, begging him to stop drinking. I wasn’t begging for his sake anymore at that...
    ColdMountain ColdMountain 61-65, M 1 Response Nov 26

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    I just discovered this page and I thought I could give it a try. I'm 20 years old now and I experienced alcoholism in my family for nearly 13 years of my life. It's hard to believe...
    laurajessica laurajessica 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    The more loyal and loving you are to an ACoA, the longer you stay by their side, the more they see that you are not hating them, not abandoning them despite all and everything they...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    Its simple: I hate my mother and my mother hates me. We fight on a weekly basis. Sometimes she even chokes me and tells me how pathetic and worthless I am and she says how nobody...
    SweetcakesJr SweetcakesJr 13-15, F Dec 9

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    I haven't seen my mom in about a year or two, and when we saw each other it was never about me, it's always about how her life is crap. Ever since I started highschool she never...
    thedoctordonna thedoctordonna 18-21, F Nov 17

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    Is there a name for when you tell something nice, like a gift, to a person and then the next day you take it back, like telling them they can go buy that thing they really wanted...
    escapemyreality escapemyreality 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    my mother told me today that i cant be home alone with my sisters because shes afraid that ill bring guys over and sleep with them . in our religion we cant have sex till we get...
    jjanna97 jjanna97 16-17, F Dec 1

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    My mother is a meth head and blames it on me she tells me im going to be a loser just like her and that i won't finish high school and that i would be 17 and pregnant like she was...
    hayhay2016 hayhay2016 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    THERE IS HOPE! New meds, new therapist, good advice and fresh hope. My 21 year old son is bipolar, he self diagnosed when he was 12, and told his doctor. The doctor was...
    Deedle623 Deedle623 51-55, F Dec 6

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    My sister but i consider her the child i never had. Though i spent years raising her and my other siblings, my dad had a restraining order issued against me. I am considered a...
    Superpsycho Superpsycho 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 6

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    I need Help. I have a step child battling Bi Polar. Please someone help me understand.
    bass7 bass7 31-35, F Dec 8

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    my 7 year old son has ADHD. his first 2 years in school were awful and he hadn't been diagnosed. he started getting completely out of hand. to the point where he was punching and...
    Trinity2356 Trinity2356 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I have 2 daughters with ADHD. They are both absolutely amazing the way they cope with it and succeed !
    boxersoff4u boxersoff4u 51-55, M Dec 1

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    10yeargap.com focuses on younger women dating older men and it encourages age gap marriage. 10YearGap.com is not a sugar daddy site. Single women are attracted to older single men...
    JessieFay JessieFay 31-35, F Dec 2

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    Well another episode today. He took off running from the bus. Tried to run into traffic and kill himself. It took 3 people from his school, a officer from a neighboring school and...
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 2

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    "When you use an excuse like, “I’ve tried everything” what that generally means is that you’ve tried until something got hard and then gave up" M. Kipp :)
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Nov 21

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    Pick on someone your own size!
    thecellardoor thecellardoor 31-35, F Nov 23

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    "Storybook holidays are limited to storybooks. ...But extraordinary moments often masquerade as ordinary life. So maybe what's perfect about Thanksgiving is the opportunity to...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Nov 26

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    Apparently we gotta make good from evil because there is no other way. If only evil would agree to this idea as well :) Wishing everyone to find something funny in their pain today...
    rtvbvfde rtvbvfde 26-30, M Nov 29

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    My son snapped at school again today. Threatened to jump out the window and kill himself. Councilor told him that wasn't an option because the window doesn't open enough obviously...
    ThistleAndWeeds ThistleAndWeeds 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 20

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    Don't worry people are trying to help go mark entertaining and kind hearted and a hero
    SCARFACEkyle SCARFACEkyle 18-21, M 1 Response Dec 5

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    He's high functioning. Has Aspergers. He looks like a regular 13 year old kid but when he asks questions over and over people think he's strange. He doesn't understand empathy or...
    hazeleyedangel68 hazeleyedangel68 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 7

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    And I make sure they know it.
    crimm crimm 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My 6 month old son has a genetic disorder called Neurofibromatosis or NF1. He has tumor under his ear in his neck that has grown rapidly. he has an MRI in the morning and I am...
    Trinity2356 Trinity2356 22-25, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I'm going to tell a story, so prepare for a lengthy read. Read it if you like, or not, I just need to write it down. I'm going to start at a very important part of my experience...
    soulrebel78 soulrebel78 36-40, F Nov 30

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    PART I Article 1 For the purposes of the present Convention, a child means every human being below the age of eighteen years unless under the law applicable to the child...
    lunadelobos lunadelobos 41-45 1 Response Dec 7

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    We have lost two of our adult children to death and the last two have rejected us. I was a mother to four children and worked hard along with their dad to make their lives...
    djc64 djc64 66-70, F 2 Responses Dec 3

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    How to Turn a Boy's Bedroom Into an Undersea World - Home Improvement ArticlesWhen choosing seating for virtually any public place, not simply should one have a look at comfort...
    David555q7qsi David555q7qsi 31-35, M Nov 27

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    Unfit Isn't A Strong Enough Word!-"You had a little sister...." My paternal grandmother dropped a bombshell a few months ago. She raised me because my mother who was just 17 when I...
    Shemiel Shemiel 26-30, M 1 Response Dec 3

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    Champion Girls I have had the pleasure of knowing many tomboys in my life and thanks to my Aunt Donna hearing about dozens of my female forebears who made great sacrifices for all...
    radicalfeminist radicalfeminist 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 29

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    Darlene Story - Another Successful Petticoating of a Little Brat Another great letter from my friend Rhonda. This time she tells the story of Darlene the boy she first witness...
    radicalfeminist radicalfeminist 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 29

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    I thought I was the only one who could genuinely hate their mom but glad to know im not the only one. I don't call her that anymore she's just Laurie. She was married to my dad...
    kwhite0718 kwhite0718 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 21

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    I am 21 pregnant with my second child, I am a stay at home with my son and my fiancee's son(whose mother cannot get her priorities straight long enough to take care of her son...
    stephaniewebs stephaniewebs 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 21

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