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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 36-40, F Feb 3, 2014

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 71 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    she doesn't get along with me, cuz she doesn't want to : (
    craigslist504 craigslist504 36-40 1 hr ago

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    My mother was and is a terrible mother to me. I am 29 years old, live in a third world country and was blessed to be born in a well off family. In a nutshell, when I was born my...
    gsamsa gsamsa 26-30, F 5 hrs ago

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    So this happened , I think my mom is being unfair . I think she hates me . My mother treated my siblings real good but she treated me so badly . I feel like I'm being neglected...
    lillly72 lillly72 22-25, M 3 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I don't understand... why does she get to ***** out on me, ignore my feelings and make me feel like **** and that I'm living in hell? but I don't ***** out in her or state why I...
    Hayden23 Hayden23 13-15, F 16 hrs ago

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    Everything seemed simple back then, I was happy I lived at my grandparents house with my mother. Honestly if it weren't for my grandparents, I never would be close to guessing what...
    Jaylaska Jaylaska 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Time to homeschool him again. The program in high school is run so poorly. My son is in 9th grade. He's in a special ed program that takes the group of kids to a cooking class with...
    SocialHermit SocialHermit 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It took me years to realize that this was something that affected my emotional health. Now at 19 years old, visiting home and listening to my mother complain about the same events...
    ThrivingOdds ThrivingOdds 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I'm 23 years old just recently started staying with my mother again and it's been so overwhelming and depressing. I have spent so many hours looking for a way to get through to my...
    TSN1 TSN1 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I've known my ACoA for 35 yrs, been married 29, six kids, one grandchild. I have never been "happy", something has always been off. I've been hurt for decade with constant...
    missycon missycon 46-50, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    So... I've never had a relationship or close relationship with my mother. She got married to the man that ruined my life when I was 8 so after that it truly was a gap there. we...
    Clipz4her Clipz4her 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Few weeks ago one breeder said: "What If you get pregnant even If you did it safe and can't get an abortion? I'm going to feel sorry for that poor child with someone like you...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    My folks separated when I was 11. We stayed with my mother and my grandfather. The remainder if my childhood was taken up with a medical problem. New school, and all that teenage...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm fourteen years old and a freshman in high school. I'm about 200 pounds. I haven't been able to forgive my mom for initially causing my weight. However, the truth is, obesity...
    EndTheFatKid EndTheFatKid 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Today I went shopping with my mother and sister, it was all going well until my sister decided it was time to go. I wanted to continue shopping since it was the only store I found...
    veranique veranique 18-21, F Aug 21

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    I love children and always wanted to be a teacher, but I heard the education system just isn't what it used to be now due to common core. So I then decided to do nursing, and I...
    Scorpiobabyy95 Scorpiobabyy95 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    I used to be close with my mother when I was young. After a while my siblings started causing problems and her attention shifted to them. I found myself being the forgotten child...
    veranique veranique 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    My eldest son is 11 years old and he started 6th grade this year. His transition to middle school is NOT going well at all. grrrrrrrrr. At the end of last year, me and his...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 20

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    I have a child with autism i am a little worried about him is there someone who knows someone with this problem? and how he cured from this problem?
    Safiullaholfaty Safiullaholfaty 22-25, M 4 Responses Aug 20

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    I grew up in the north of England in the 60s, early 70s. Unlike today, when corporal punishment is often regarded as inappropriate punishment for children, in my youth it was very...
    billjacko billjacko 61-65, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    Oh goodness, my mothers and most females make me feel saddened and frustrated to be a female. Narcissistic, manipulative, childish, emotionally unintelligent, lack of logic, and I...
    TaraStar98989 TaraStar98989 31-35, F Aug 19

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    Without my mother, I would be nothing. She has helped me along life and I wish there was something I could do to repay her for all she did for me but she's done so much!
    lailahailallah lailahailallah 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm by they not even sure where to begin. I feel I could write a book sometimes. I am 37 and very very in love with my husband of 14 years on his good days. His good days are...
    hopelessandsmiling hopelessandsmiling 36-40 Aug 17

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    But that's not all I am to my children. I am everything under the sun rolled into one. Mother is so much deeper than just giving birth to your children. Being a mother is my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 17

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    When I was 13 years old I decided I didn't want to have anything to do with religion anymore. I remember people saying "what if your future wife want to have a church marriage...
    Luckyguy1970 Luckyguy1970 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 15

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    I fear bringing you into this life Little one With its heavy air And its aching But the providence I know from heaven Is that the right bits of information Come to me before I need...
    Searchingformyshalom Searchingformyshalom 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 14

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      My child (austistic spectrum, ADHD, sensory problems) is making himself sick a lot. Partly this is due to Dyspraxia where he doesn't chew enough, but he is also using it as...
    spectre128 spectre128 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 14

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    I last wrote on EP some time ago when I was really struggling with my narcissistic mother and doubting whether I was whole enough or strong enough to have a child of my own. I took...
    ALittleRoo ALittleRoo 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    My 1 year old son was diagnosed last month with Williams Syndrome. It is a genetic disorder caused by a deletion of 26 genes on the long arm of chromosome 7. We found out after he...
    cthuluwhovian cthuluwhovian 22-25, F Aug 13

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    I’ve been dating a Scorpio for 2 months. He takes me out a lot and he let me know when we first met that he wants to work towards making me his girl, that he wants something...
    Alyse88 Alyse88 22-25 Aug 12

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    My son (25) and daughter (23) have estranged me now for almost 3 years. I continue to cry, grieve and feel lots of anger and shame about their behaviour. We had fun as Mom with my...
    Chandraflewelling Chandraflewelling 51-55, F Aug 12

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    another great night of having sex with my mother in law. we ****** for 45 minutes then I licked it she is snoring now.
    garbgeman garbgeman 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 11

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    My mom complains about everyone's appearance especially obese people. she says thing like "see that woman over there she should wear something else" or other things along those...
    Fabhoxton Fabhoxton 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    I also don't get along with my mother... I love heavy metal but for a while she didn't know this. After a while she found out and got so freakin mad at me. I guess she thinks just...
    Summer3456 Summer3456 22-25, F Aug 11

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    When I was little I used to listen to a children's radio show. (Television was considered sinful) One of the episodes was about a young child who was beheaded because of his...
    Laifu Laifu 36-40, F 8 Responses Aug 11

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