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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 36-40, F Feb 3, 2014

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 70 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    As a kid back in early 2000 i disliked (young)adults To me they were over privelidged moronic dipshits. It's okay for them to disrespect or disregard your feelings,invade and...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 5 hrs ago

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    I am writing on here because there is no where else I can speak my true feelings. And I hate it. Everyone comes from their mother, but I am so ashamed to come from my own mother...
    cdaught cdaught 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    If Wishes were Fishes: EP Note: In the past I've done stories like this and there has been some confusion. I'm not looking for solutions I'm venting/looking for other people in...
    UnhealthySSBBW UnhealthySSBBW 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    My mother is the type of person I'd have nothing to do with if we weren't already related. She is judgmental and a little delusional sometimes. She never taught me or my brother...
    Allforaview Allforaview 18-21, F 2 days ago

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    I just really need to let this out. When I first met my S/O, my relationship with his family was great (for the first few weeks). I went to a concert with his mother, got along...
    blamegame91 blamegame91 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Surviving a narcissistic mother is a process, not an event. You probably didn’t grow up with the knowledge that you even had a narcissistic mother. You may not have known at the...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 6 days ago

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    When you have a narcissistic mother, you are not taught how to care for the self. Instead, you are taught by experience with your mother that if you don’t guess what someone...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I have always felt like my mom and I are on opposite sides of the world. I have an older brother who is a top runner in his state, and my mother has always adored him and praised...
    margaret707 margaret707 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm experiencing emotional distress because of my future mother in law, and it's making me feel guilty every day. My fiance and I have been together for 2 years, we're very happy...
    xinderellah xinderellah 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    some days are just so hard...the simplest observation can be taken as the harshest critique and leads to the most excruciating tantrums because he can't understand nuance. so...
    JustJon707 JustJon707 46-50, M 3 Responses Jun 21

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    I am in love with my first cousin and it is awful. It is totally not in my nature and I have never contemplated anything like this before. There are so many days when I wish I...
    caseyebert caseyebert 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    I have a 14 year old and 3 years old kids who's living with my mother in law coz I'm working in a graveyard and my husband also there with them coz he has MS. And very progressive...
    Andrea0328 Andrea0328 36-40, F Jun 20

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    This experience in my life has led me to really think about love. It all started in the summer of 2014 when I helped my cousin (let's call her Amy) move out of her old house. At...
    owf684 owf684 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 19

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    Whenever I fail at something(exams getting in college or general exams) my mother gets really sad and mad about it. She starts pointing fingers to whoever she sees that day,saying...
    marwt marwt 18-21, F Jun 19

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    Each parent acts as a model for their children. Mothers become models for the girls for how they should behave as adults and model for the boys how adult women behave and what...
    Writer1967 Writer1967 46-50, M Jun 18

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    When my parents divorced I was only 5 years old. My mother had to work long hours and left me with my grandparents. My grandmother (step grandmother) was the meanest, and most...
    StarAngels StarAngels 46-50, F 3 Responses Jun 18

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    I hate being an only child...it's such a lonely existence. What saddens me the most is I never got the chance to hear someone call me their Sister or Auntie. What I also resent...
    AlreadyOwned7379 AlreadyOwned7379 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 17

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    I love my father. When I was little he was my hero. When I was about five my parents lost their home. My father left. My parents separated and my dad moved to another state. He...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Recently I've realized that I don't have that special close bond with my mother. I think I've always known something was wrong, but it hit me a couple days ago when two of my...
    notthatgirl3 notthatgirl3 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 16

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    I've posted an experience under this group yesterday.. but honestly, I did never think that my story would cause that storm at all.. O.k, first things first, you all own me an...
    youaremygift youaremygift 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 15

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    My mom favorited my sisters because they were girls and blonde. My brothers and I weren't blonde and dad wasn't around because he left forever so it was with my happy sisters and...
    thehappyrancher thehappyrancher 26-30, M Jun 15

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    I'm so cold! I went to grad parties all day today and it was raining. Now I for sure have a cold. When I got home at 10:30 I got a ear full from my mother. She was yelling about...
    lostfollower lostfollower 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M 5 Responses Jun 13

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    rickibrat2 rickibrat2 61-65, M Jun 13

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    I have five children with my husband ranging in age from 3 to 18. I have three boys and two girls.
    readytovacation readytovacation 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 13

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    So a friend of mine just gave me an idea. I talked with my mother yesterday about my teacher. She said that I should go ahead and send him a Facebook request and let it set there...
    SweetHeartxxo SweetHeartxxo 18-21, F 11 Responses Jun 13

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    All she does is tell me I deserve nothing and that I'm useless. Thanks mom, I love you too.
    Lanigga14 Lanigga14 13-15, F Jun 11

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    My Blog. A mother dies : a daughter writes.Here is the first part :WHY THIS BLOG ?How do you write about a mother's dying?My mother died on the 8th of July 2013. She was 55.Only...
    ArushaTopazzini ArushaTopazzini 31-35, F Jun 11

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    I hate my father so much, I always have and always will, he drove my mom away on multiple occasions, he drove my sister to live with my mother, and now all he does is tell me what...
    slater768 slater768 16-17, M Jun 11

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    Do you know what? This group has got me so damned angry! How dare anyone judge parents or doctors for "drugging" our kids? I have adopted three children with special needs, they...
    RobertaSunset RobertaSunset 36-40, F 6 Responses Jun 11

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    GypsyMiss GypsyMiss 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 11

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