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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 73 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 11 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 36-40, F Feb 3, 2014

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    I fell in love with him, when I was 6 and it lasted to age of 12, then other childhood friend came into play, who I found more mature and fell in love with him, it lasted 2 years...
    DragonSheep DragonSheep 22-25, F 48 mins ago

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    A daughter writing here. Now I don't have a child, but I'm writing here hoping to shed some light on this group. Before you report this thinking It's just another lost story hating...
    halfaxa halfaxa 13-15, F 1 Response 3 hrs ago

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    I've dealt with a lot of mental abuse. I was always protected from people outside the house but I had Zero protection from Family members including parents. It's not okay for...
    FrostyElsie FrostyElsie 22-25, F 10 hrs ago

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    Okay, so to post the whole story would be insanely long so I'm going to shorten it for you keeping all the important bits! My partner and I have been together now for almost two...
    sallyrhiannon sallyrhiannon 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    She went from awesome guide To tough love yuppie
    OddButResilient OddButResilient 46-50, M 2 days ago

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    That frickin HURT! I raised my children without any type of physical abuse...no one deserves to be hit.
    MsInvis MsInvis 46-50, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    my mother and I lived under the same roof and didn't speak for two years because she was always passed out drunk during the day...my step dad was a narssasistic manic drunk who...
    ashespain ashespain 26-30, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Just found out my 11 year old son has Asperger's syndrome. I have suspected for a while, and the reason it went undiagnosed for so long is because he is so academically gifted. In...
    SoShellyBye SoShellyBye 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Neither Loved Nor Wanted-Imagine you are a eight or so year old child bounding around your bedroom one evening and for reasons you decide to leave your room and maybe go to the...
    Szusa07 Szusa07 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hey, I'm here as I no longer have a relationship with my mother. due to the effect her narcissistic behaviour has had on me, I made the decision that I could only be mentally...
    yogihope yogihope 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I never claimed to be the perfect parent. I have made my share of mistakes. My oldest daughter was born when I was a teenager. My husband's family insisted we get married...
    SSBroken SSBroken 46-50, F 5 days ago

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    It has been so hard to look at myself in the mirror and see gods mistake. So I try to ignore it, pretend that I have the female body that I feel I should have had. Every part of me...
    Kailey76 Kailey76 36-40, M 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    A man I was seeing for 6 months has moved away without telling me. I met him (I'll call him Paul to make things easier) because he was a neighbour who lived down the street from...
    enid11 enid11 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    More Grandmother's Childhood This is a sequel to the first story I told about my grandmother's childhood. Here, I thought I would tell some stories about specific incidents where...
    julietx julietx 36-40, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    it is strange to think that this April it will have been 11 years since she passed away. so much has changed and I wish she was still here, that I was still able to just pick up...
    HisPorcelainDoll HisPorcelainDoll 31-35, F 6 days ago

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    my ex bf that I've known for 13 years has been my friend with benefits. I am married and yes my husband knows. my husband is not very sexual or very affectionate. he knows I want...
    smashmouth4eva smashmouth4eva 31-35, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    lets just say the devil comes in many different form, thats all i have to say about it.
    deejaygirl deejaygirl 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I try to have a relationship with my mother, even though I am nearly as intimidated by her as I was when I was a child. About a year and a half ago I changed my career, and she...
    greensapphire greensapphire 31-35, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Never know her! She couldn't handle having a child like me so she left! Can't complain to much because I have the best father anyone could hope for! I've put him thought a lot...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 3

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    My Grandmother's Childhood. Corporal punishment has become so controversial. In fact, it is almost to the point of being taboo. I am always hearing about studies that show that...
    julietx julietx 36-40, F 9 Responses Feb 3

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    I'm going through my 2nd pregnancy and it's been difficult compared to my 1st one. It's worse with my mother in law there. She compares her pregnancy with my symptoms. Tells...
    Darkshadows02 Darkshadows02 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    I was married to a sociopath for 7 years. I am going to say they never change they tell you what you want to hear. they have no morals or conscience. They can erase a program lets...
    ashleya9285 ashleya9285 26-30, F Feb 2

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    Lately, I decided to dedicate my free time to volunteer.Among other things, I'm helping children with learning disabilities. Among the large group of children, there is this shy 9...
    aloysia aloysia 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 2

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    We were at a party this past weekend. It was work related but with spouses invited and it was a big gala, 4000+ people. In any case, my partner complained that no one talked to him...
    BoundariesSet BoundariesSet 46-50 3 Responses Feb 2

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    Talking to Mandy tonight. TWICE essentially I’ve hit that “Men do it to women so why do you care when women do it back?” from here. I’m like men? LMFY SOME Men. NOT me...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix 26-30, M Feb 2

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    If you're ever feeling extremely low, or just a bit sad then feel free to share your feelings with our community: http://live-another-day.boards.net/
    driftingalone driftingalone 16-17, F Feb 2

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    I haven't seen my mother fourteen years. When I was three my parents got divorced, on christmas day. She was a lazy woman, had my eight year old sister feeding and changing me and...
    Jess9798 Jess9798 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I love my mother more than I can express, but recently she has been different. As I am thinking about it I realise that it was always in the background and that the only thing that...
    smurphy31 smurphy31 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 1

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    "I just wanna say thanx for sticking up for me to Emily, but plz don't stay mad at her as I know you both share the same resentments towards me as a mother and I totally understand...
    Annurban Annurban 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    Hi so I'm posting here to write about my mother and how I'm affected with severe depression and anxiety because of her I don't like to point fingers or blame anybody but she is the...
    Pinkskiespinklove Pinkskiespinklove 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 1

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    I am almost 16 years old and I left my narcissistic mother about 6 months ago. I am living at my dads with my stepmom, who is and was my only true mother because of all she did...
    kayla459 kayla459 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 29

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    My daughter has a severe learning disability in mathematics. I always conceal my disappointment about this from her. Many times I do get frustrated trying to help her at home with...
    Azuriela Azuriela 41-45, F 4 Responses Jan 29

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    I'm sorry, but I need to get these feelings of resentment and hatred out of me before I end up doing something very foolish. I hate my mother. I just hate her. I cant stand to be...
    aaron812 aaron812 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    My husband and I have been married for 7 months, he recently went to Samoa to visit his mother who he has not seen in ten years, he wanted her to live with us and I told him no...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jan 28