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I Am An Adult Child With a Smother Mother

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    My Smothered Life

    I've always wondered why I cringe every time I'm around my mother for just a couple hours. I've always felt like an evil person for that... able to give anyone else a hug with no problem but to feel sick to my stomach to give my own mother a hug. Well, its been almost one year...
    pica83 pica83 26-30 2 Responses Dec 28, 2011

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    Adulthood Damage From Having a Smother Mother

           I stand here at age 30, healthy, sane and without shady life activities. I can cook healthy meals, get dressed, go to school, etc. Other parents wouldn't see me as being frail, unhealthy, at risk or worthy of being wrapped in wool. Feelings of...
    smartiecats smartiecats 26-30 69 Responses Jun 14, 2008

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    I've realized that it's difficult

    for both the child and the mother to realize their are inefficiencies in the relationship that cause a dependent child on a controlling mother. It wasn't difficult for me because I'm well balanced and have all my issues in check. But I can understand where someone who has been...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F Feb 3

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    My mother has spent the last thirty four years

    controlling my life to the point where I literally cannot even go outside without her permission. She will tell you I'm just being sensitive, manipulative, dramatic or crazy but then that states the problem right there. I'm a human being with rights but not where my mother is...
    Rameyalaine Rameyalaine 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I Am An Evil, Ungrateful Child

    My mum was controlling my life for 23 years by grounding me, guilt trips, emotional blackmail, sighs, looks, etc. She hated all my friends (she has bad influence on you). I was not allowed to choose what clothes to buy (you look like a *****/goth/punk). I was not allowed out...
    CassieG CassieG 26-30 10 Responses Feb 28, 2010

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    Old Before My Time

    I don't know if smother mother is what i would call my mum - but as I see myself as my mother's emotional crutch I guess you could say she wears me down. My mum is 68, married 3 times, divorced twice then widowed. I am the oldest of 6 children. I am 48. My mum's childhood was...
    ratchetjaw55 ratchetjaw55 46-50 2 Responses Feb 7, 2011

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    Just Sharing My Story

    I moved to the home when I was a child I felt that I was neglected by my mother, she and my grandma hired maids that abused and neglected me ever since and due to that it caused me emotional damage they replace the maids when they learned that they are doing something bad only to...
    mimeyo mimeyo 22-25, M Oct 8, 2013

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    Gasping For Air

    My Mother has strangled me with love for the past 30 years of my life.  And after seeing numerous therapists, I've discovered it is easier to let the suffocating continue than to break away, because to break away would be to devastate her.  I love and hate my Mother...
    abigailrymsha abigailrymsha 26-30 2 Responses Jan 4, 2009

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