I Am An Adult Daughter of An Alcoholic, Absent Father

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    What Is Wrong With You!!!

    GROW THE F. UP!!!! COME ON NOW, GET OVER IT.....
    matthewfreiberg matthewfreiberg
    41-45
    Sep 10, 2011

    Just Another Day

    Well it's been about 2 years since I talked to my father. But, yesterday (fathers day) was still a little hard. It seems funny because I've been through so many without him one would think I would be over it by now. I guess we never get over it! That said, I don't live my life...
    SweetPea15 SweetPea15
    26-30, F
    Jun 20, 2011

    Bad Dreams

    Two nights ago I had the most awful dream!! In my waking life my Mom is my rock. I am an only child and she has always been there for me through thick and thin. Through everything with my father and anything else. I also have the most wonderful man in my life.... my soon to be...
    SweetPea15 SweetPea15
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 25, 2010

    Loss of My Father

    My father has been an alcoholic my whole life but didnt become excessive until my parents split up when i was 15.  His drinking continued to get worse as he dealt with his sadness.  I tried very hard over the years to try and make him happy and love himself again...
    TS4444 TS4444
    26-30
    2 Responses May 21, 2009

    My Dad Is Just Not Around

    I'm 35 and have dealt with an absent father since I was about 12.  He's drank heavily since I can remember.  He's a mean drunk and after telling him I'd prefer he not come to my wedding to my ex drunk he disappeared from my life for 14 years...until last year.  I...
    LaughingSun LaughingSun
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Mar 10, 2009

    Loss of My Father

    My father has been an alcoholic my whole life but didnt become excessive until my parents split up when i was 15.  His drinking continued to get worse as he dealt with his sadness.  I tried very hard over the years to try and make him happy and love himself again...
    TS4444 TS4444
    26-30
    2 Responses May 21, 2009

    Trying To Deal...

    Hi guys...so I am currently 24 and lost my father when I was 17. He had a heart attack one morning and passed away. He was an alcoholic. The night before he died I told him I didn't love him and he wasn't my father since he choose drinking and smoking over me. My last words were...
    MerryMad MerryMad
    22-25
    2 Responses Oct 7, 2010

    Never Got to Meet Him

    Well, I always knew of my real father, his name where he lived and other information. I just never met him, I knew that he was an alcoholic and was married with three children. I tried to amke contact with him several times, but I think that interception was made by his wife to...
    SkinandBone SkinandBone
    18-21, F
    May 22, 2009

    Filling The Void

    As I struggle in relationships I wonder what to do. I fancy older men - fascinated by what they can teach me. I seek their approval. Could I be more predictable as a child of an alcoholic father? Attractive, successful but oh so very needy of love. Change in this status quo...
    Deadred Deadred
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2013

    The Booze Always Wins

    My dad's an alcoholic. My parents divorced when I was two. My mother later explained to me that the look on my face as I watched my father pin her up against a wall in our apartment was the final straw. I had some on and off contact with my dad up until age 13. During...
    slsplp89 slsplp89
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2009

    Loss of My Father

    My father has been an alcoholic my whole life but didnt become excessive until my parents split up when i was 15.  His drinking continued to get worse as he dealt with his sadness.  I tried very hard over the years to try and make him happy and love himself again...
    TS4444 TS4444
    26-30
    May 21, 2009

    Not Enough

    Well, my dad has been an alcoholic for as long as i can remember.  Ever since i was younger i always remember him drinking.  Around the age of 13 is when i started getting angry with him because of the way he drinks.  We fought non stop, everyday it was something...
    layc layc
    16-17, F
    4 Responses May 25, 2010

    Fathers Or the Lack There of

    Well, I'm 24 years old and have been dealing with an alcoholic father for all of my life. My parents divorced when I was 2 because my Mom couldn't take it any more. He has been in and out of my life and I never know when he will show up next. It's been almost 5 years since I...
    SweetPea15 SweetPea15
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Mar 19, 2009

    Going Against The Grain....and What Feels Uncomfortable

    Is how I would describe it sometimes. That is doing something different and taking myself out of the insanity that I learned growing up. It's about finding other healthy women and men that can show me how to live a healthy life versus what I learned growing up. Today, I am...
    noaccidents noaccidents
    51-55
    May 4, 2012

    My Absent Father

    I am 20 and I wouldn't know my father if I passed him on the street.  He and my mother stopped seeing each other when I was like 2..I...my mom hasn't given me alot of details. He was a alcoholic who used to beat my mother but for some strange reason I'd like to...
    melisadw melisadw
    18-21
    2 Responses Apr 7, 2009

    Until When He Had to Leave His Vices?

    Im a daughter of what the title of this group says. Since birth he had been like that, a man that has no absent in drinking liquors, he smoke, he does nothing at home and irresposible father indeed. Im very lucky to have a mother that fulfill the tasks of what a father had to be...
    Eemcee Eemcee
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 26, 2009

    The Accident

    Growing up with my step-father was the worst time in my life. He was in viet-nam and I don't think he ever fully recovered from that. He became an alcoholic, and although he had a degree in engineering, and was a brilliant man, he was also very cruel. Because of his addiction...
    teekitten79 teekitten79
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 1, 2013

    Similarly to many stories on this thread,

    my father is in and out of my life. I'm 26, an only child, in a long term relationship with someone great... And I'm still such a mess when it comes to my dad. He randomly texts me or calls me, but I rarely answer. I see him once every year or two now, but when I was young I saw...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jun 29, 2015

    The Time Has Come.....

    Today I wrote a letter to my father (I posted a story about him in 2009 for anyone who wants to look). I don't know whether to send it or not. In the letter I basically said I do not want contact any longer and it's not fair to me. I should not feel like I do and if there is a...
    SweetPea15 SweetPea15
    26-30, F
    Jun 23, 2010
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