I Am An Al-anon Member

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    Therapist Has Suggested Becoming An Alanon Member

    Hi I'm very new to all this. After suffering with anxiety & seeing various counsellors etc for almost 10 years I have finally met the therapist who 'put their finger' on the reason behind my anxiety and suggested I become an ALANON member. After my initial research I saw the 12...
    DR1983 DR1983
    31-35, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2013

    First this morning, I'm frustrated to be having

    trouble finding my first post that I made the other day about my Al-Anon thoughts; I'm aiming to use this MeToo venue as a personal-recovery journal. Hopefully I'll locate it fairly quickly. In any case, this will be my second entry in this particular group: I am a member of...
    WonderWoman5000us7 WonderWoman5000us7
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 2, 2015

    No More Cosigning Bull*s*h*i*t

    Someone has got to start writing stuff in this, so I guess I'll start. That's right.  No more cosigning  bull*s*h*i*t.  Thats my title. I've been reading "Transforming Our Losses" from the Al Anon literature.  It has some great points that really...
    FlyingNinjas FlyingNinjas
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2009

    My husband relapsed after 60 days sober today.

    I am scared of making the wrong decision. I am praying for wisdom to know what to do next. I also have 2 little kids to think of and I don't know if the right decision as a Mom will be the right one as a wife.
    3breathes 3breathes
    31-35, F
    May 10, 2014

    A Higher Power

    I believe in a higher power who is greater than myself and who I choose to call God! I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if it wasn't for God working in my life and walking beside me every step of the way...I wouldn't have came to Alanon and found the twelve steps or the...
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    Defects Of Character

    I became an Al Anon member March 24th 1994, I remember the first meeting I attended was on step 6 . Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. of course I didn't want to think I had defects, only an alcoholic husband, what I didn't realize was that I...
    nickahoi nickahoi
    61-65, F
    Apr 27, 2012

    You Don't Have That Power

    Mad...lol...you don't have that power! Hurt feelings...truth does hurt when one doesn't want to hear it! Sponser...their wonderful but some people don't know how to use them! Mean...no..just honest and that's what it's all about!    
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    Dec 9, 2009

    Honesty Helps Us Heal

    After I created this group...I didn't know if I was going to write a story in it.  I have already written about how Alanon and the twelve steps helped me in my life in some of my other stories. Well..someone mentioned about how this group doesn't talk about experience...
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2009

    Hi I have been in recovery now

    for 4 years I am not the person I once was I left my ap who was always in recovery just realised I was a codependant if it wasn't for recovery I wouldn't be anywhere further forward and have the peace and serenity in my life and I feel I can accept my weaknesses from my emotions...
    bg52de bg52de
    26-30, F
    Nov 7, 2014

    So Now You Want To Be The Innocent

    FlyingNinja...oh please...your the one who started all of this with your rage and anger...not me.You wrote a very angry post...I commented on it and not out of anger either. You didn't like my comment so you deleted it and blocked me which is fine. Then you email me your...
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    Um?

    Well, Ayankee, I've said sorry the best way I could although most likely it was flawed.  I'm only human.  That's all I can really do.  I was pretty upset by some of the things you said and reacted out of hurt.  That's why I reacted with some...
    FlyingNinjas FlyingNinjas
    26-30, F
    Dec 9, 2009

    Please Stop Being Hurtful

    Ayankee, I find your messages really hurtful and spiteful.  I'd like to think all alanon members can be nice to eachother even if we don't always agree.  I wish we could do this through email or something, but we've both blocked eachother and I don't think either...
    FlyingNinjas FlyingNinjas
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    Ayankee, Are You Ok?

    The email was about making peace.  I'm sorry you're carrying so much rage and anger, I feel for you.  Keep going to meetings and get a sponser.  It really can change your life.  "Keep coming back" as they say.  You'll be alright. ...
    FlyingNinjas FlyingNinjas
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 9, 2009

    Soulmates

    This was a poem I wrote a few years ago.Soul mates, I believe are from the very beginning when our souls were in Heaven together.When we are born on earth areĀ  souls are apart, it is up to each of us to find our soul mate through our lifetimes.Our soul mates may take on many...
    nickahoi nickahoi
    61-65, F
    May 4, 2012

    Problems With An Al-anon Member Who Talks Waaaay Too Much!

    So, I started attending al-anon in February of 2012. It took me awhile to become comfortable enough to share my stories/thoughts with the group, but when I finally reached that point, It felt great. I felt like I had been missing out on this years ago. I now have a place to vent...
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2013

    Oops

    FlyingNinjas...no...I sure didn't get a chance to read your email...I guess it was deleted or something. I really don't care for a lot of drama and rage!
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    12 Responses Dec 8, 2009

    My Path To Al-anon.. It's A Long Story That You Might Just Find Interesting

    In 2003, at 20years old, life as I knew it changed for ever. As the youngest child & only girl, I was very close to my mam. She was a healthy woman who was dedicated to her family & work. She did not smoke not drink. After having a cough for a number of weeks she finally went to...
    DR1983 DR1983
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Aug 15, 2013

    Best Thing I Ever Did . . .

    I joined Al-Anon a few years ago because my husband is an alcoholic.  Earlier this year, someone very close and dear to me became addicted to opiates.  I didn't know how or whether I would get through the devastation this wreaked in my life, and in hers.  ...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 6, 2010

    The Twelve Steps

    The twelve step program is to help people focus on themselves instead of others.If one is focusing on themselves...they have no time to focus on another! I also think the program is very helpful for one who has anger issues!  
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Dec 8, 2009

    Dissapointed.

    After reading some of the posts in this al-anon group, I gotta say that I'm a little sad about all the banter.  True, it doesn't involve me in the least bit and the actual situation is none of my business.  I suppose I'm just dissapointed that this can happen in al...
    brisson1985 brisson1985
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    My How Some Try To Twist The Truth

    FlyingNinja...I think your the one who needs help and maybe one day...you'll learn to work your program and solve your issues.Keep going back because it only works if you work it. See....I have no anger issues...I worked my program and I'm not the one who wrote that angry story...
    ayankee ayankee
    46-50, F
    10 Responses Dec 9, 2009

    Thank Goodness For Al-anon!

    Al-anon has helped to keep me sane amidst the chaos of being married to an alcoholic. I have learned that there is nothing I can do for my alcoholic husband. I know that no amount of crying, cajoling, or fighting is going to change him. Until he admits that he is powerless...
    angeleyes2009 angeleyes2009
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2011
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