I Am An Empath Forum & Chat Board | How has this condition effected your relationships with others

I'm mostly talking about the girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband, gay partner, etc...the lovey dovey part of our lives. How's that workin' for all of you? It's not very much fun when we know what the outcome of a relationship is going to be before it had a chance to start. Oh, the many things I can go into on this one.

I suspect we hit pay dirt when we find a nice together person for a significant other that we can somewhat share this with, but, honestly, they often seem to figure it out. Knowing what another person is up to, knowing when they are liars, knowing when they are not telling the truth (guilty), etc..etc...

Anyone ever freak another out with this? Maybe not even intending to?  Guess we may be labeled a "know it all", perhaps.

For the first time in my life, I am with someone who suspects somethings going on with me. Well, he seems to have caught on early in the game...sadly, I had to show off my talent a little as part of my mating ritual, but it worked and he was worth it. It was also for all the right reason and in all the right ways, if you can believe that one or not.  I have a saying that goes like this, and when I've used it, it's been in a cutesie low key somewhat joking way, but m nevertheless, it goes a little sumthin' like this, "I only use my magical powers for good"

...anyway, he doesn't think I'm a freak and he's cool with it.  I have suspected it's because he's a genuinely decent human being, for the most part...furthermore, I suspect he's like me only he may not be aware of a lot...he just knows it as being it is what it is.....Regardless, I'm digging a relationship with a very cool guy, and I'm due. Plus, I've never been a dating machine in spite of having the offers. I'm not anti social, just comfortable keeping more to myself but perfectly fine in groups or socializing. Heck, I'm a wonderful host for a great cocktail party.  On the other hand, solitude is beautiful to me, also. While I still do hold back and pretend I'm totally normal, most times, too many things have happened to where he knows I'm gifted. He just doesn't realize the extent. I smile and tell him lovingly that I just make a lot of lucky guesses.

My fave (said sarcastically) is in the past, someone we are seeing, when we know exactly what the deal is, we ask about it, they lie, we know it, but figure why bother going any further. That person is a certified loser, and I've lost respect for that person by that time, anyway.

Anyone ever see the ending before it gets going, or see the ending and think, "Awe, man, what a bummer."...in time I have not even wanted to bother being part of the dating game. I figured, why bother. 

I'm keeping these matters extremely simple, without going into great detail on how this "gift" effects our social lives. I'm sure some of you have a pretty good idea of that, as well. Some of us find a keeper, and that's good. Some of us keep looking. Some of us give up until we feel we are ready to try again.  We have an inside track on things, however. Sometimes we like it, sometimes it stinks. Oh, well.

Feel free to share any thoughts. Maybe some can find comfort in it or get something off of their chest. Who knows. It's a goofy thing but we deal with it all the time.

 

I have been in a steady marriage for over 10 years and it has been difficult to say the least. There are good and bad points to knowing things. All I can say is that my hubby kerps his emotions locked down, and for that I am truly thankful!

 

Ah.. I just got out of my one myself, it was long term... I am very sensitive to all these things and I defiantly affected things negatively, because of all my 'accusations'... But I know when im being lied to/ etc,. Which was all the time. 
I knew right from the beginning of this relationship, that I would be the one who would be teaching her things about life, I knew that I was the one who would be helping this girl progress and grow into a more mature, thinker of a person. 
Everything you've sort of described in your first post, are things I've seen myself do in that relationship. I would question her when I felt that she was lying or being deceitful..  nothing ever added up with her. Her tone of voice, posture, feel of the atmosphere, everything, all screamed that she was lying to me. She would try and convince me of otherwise... but I would just get fed up with it, accept that she was a liar, and I would move on because I knew she would never tell me of otherwise. When I found out lies for myself ( via. messages ) I would find out how HARD it was for me to pull the truth out of her, because that one time I found the messages, was the only time she ever admitted. And I remembered how hard I worked to push it out of her before finding out, and I remembered all the times she screamed at me because I wouldn't believe her, she screamed at me cause she knew I was right and didn't want me to find out. Unbelievable! lol..  
I have much more I could say, but I will only go into detail with that...

 

Empathy helps me to cope with my jealousy. I KNOW that my boyfriend will never cheat, so I can calm that part of me that is suspicious (these suspicions are not grounded, just a habit from many previous relationships).