I Am An Enabler

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 43 People

    Enabler Of 22 Year-old Adult, Male Child

    I am the typical enabler of an only-child. He is brilliant, tall, gorgeous, funny, and semi-suicidal. His life choices since his senior year of high school have left him living at home without a college degree. I've paid for him to go to college and *he* failed out twice. He...
    angeliaeudy angeliaeudy
    41-45, F
    Aug 4, 2012

    I Am So Stuck

    Mother of three, always tried to be supportive and helpful. Now I see I was to helpful and my 21 years old daughter is taking advantage of me and I am stuck. She got pregnant by a boy with a felony record, he had no job, she moved in with him and everything went downhill from...
    Shozie Shozie
    36-40, F
    1 Response Oct 30, 2011

    So Tired

    yes i am n enabler. mainly when it comes to my oldest daughter. i have never said no to her. never! she doesnt ask 4 ridiculus things, but if she asks i say yes. she is 23 going thru a bad divorce has 2 wonderful kids. when she was married i went to her place everyday to cook n...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Aug 26, 2010

    It's Like Being Held Hostage By Someone You Care About

      I didn't grow up in the best home. My father struggled with depression, he still does, and my mother struggled with what in recent years has been diagnosed as bi-polar disorder. They had their own problems, outside of the basic hardships of raising a family straight out...
    katiekatVP katiekatVP
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Oct 8, 2009

    Enabler Since Birth

    Wow, where does one start when telling their story?  I guess my enabling began when I was very young.  Both of my parents were alcoholics and my sister and brother were both moved out by the time I was 12.  My parents would come home from the bar very drunk...
    cocoa12 cocoa12
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Oct 28, 2009

    I Too Am An A Experienced Enabler

    If only there was a credential or a school. A full recognition. I think by now I would hold a PHD in the very fine are of enabling. My dorm is my TV room where I sit there and fret. Hand on the phone. My box of tissues always close by. My car keys handy, my tank full of gas. For...
    wanderingvine wanderingvine
    51-55, T
    Feb 6, 2011

    Enable, and Be Good At It.

     The sole purpose of my life, I believe, is some sort of like building a rocket to Jupiter,but never riding on it. Or be the one who brought the plier so that the bomb can be diffused by the experts. I enable OTHERS so that greater things can be done. I remember setting up...
    weeks87 weeks87
    22-25, M
    1 Response May 17, 2009

    I Just Am

    Don't think there's a story around it, just a fact. I am the epitome, the definition. I'm so tired of it but know no other way of life. People think it's so easy, they say "just don't support that". But they don't know that I fear not supporting more than I fear making...
    mouse2cheese mouse2cheese
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2008

    I'm Finally Tuned In...

    Like others I grew up in a house with two people who did not like each other, fought a lot, dad rarely home, mom overprotective, ocd, and both were promiscuous.  Dad probably drank too much but since my mother always defined him as an "alcoholic" I have trouble with the...
    ucancountonme ucancountonme
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2010

    My Wife Is a Self-medicating Depressive

    I never participated in an on-line forum before but I am at my wits end. I have been with my wife for 18 years and she has always had a problem with smoking pot. My wife suffers from depression. She is on an anti-depressant but still drinks and smokes pot almost every day. We...
    potnotatherapy potnotatherapy
    2 Responses Jul 17, 2009

    Rock And A Hard Place

    My husband and  are now a one income family due to the present economy. We have 3 grown kids. Only one is successful and independent. The other two live together,fight like crazy, are ungratefull, and treat us with total disrespect. They have stolen from us,call usually...
    wanderingvine wanderingvine
    51-55, T
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2010
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