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I Am An Infj

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    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    Discovering I am INFJ changed my life.

    I actually believed I am an alien, like in Roswell TV series. That was the only logical explanation! For me it's on the deepest, existential level. Loneliness and misunderstanding that's beyond anything anyone could imagine. How does one express it? You can't! You can only beg...
    Dardarai Dardarai 22-25, T 3 Responses Oct 13, 2015

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    The rarest personality in the world.

    We are a piece of a puzzle that will never fit. Misunderstood greatly and lost in an imaginary world. Forever dreaming of a perfect existence that can never be.
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 13, 2015

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    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    Why do people underestimate the intelligence of

    INFJ's, and even worse, people seem to enjoy belittling us? I can be in a discussion with a group of people who have far less education than me, yet, they seem to want to push me down and disagree with me. In fact, they seem to almost gang up on me. I truly do have a high IQ but...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 8 Responses Nov 3, 2015

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    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2007

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    I felt the presence of someone very far away.

    Clear as day, I saw their face. Went to touch it and they ran away.
    A11TheWorldsAStage A11TheWorldsAStage 22-25 Dec 26, 2015

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    I read that less than 1% of the population has

    this personality type. Maybe that is why I am so easily misunderstood.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic 26-30, F 6 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    I think my personality was shaped by my

    circumstances. I got locked up at a young age and as as result nevame very introverted. I wonder if our lives shape our personalities.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

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    Hello fellow feelers.

    I want to bring a challenge of positivity and light to the forefront of this feed, today. As we know, humans are inherently relational and dialogous creatures; all absorbing, synthesizing and reflecting the inputs and energies of each other. In that right, everything we do...
    A11TheWorldsAStage A11TheWorldsAStage 22-25 Dec 7, 2015

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    Glazed eyes gazed upon forgotten days,

    dazed, and Truth spoke plainly from the Soul of that Place, "You've sacrificed yourself too many times, many ways. Far too many times to remember that Place. Now to this place, you fall, altogether unfazed. Wake. Wake from the haze of a life set ablaze." I know, they reply. And...
    A11TheWorldsAStage A11TheWorldsAStage 22-25 2 days ago

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    Introverted, Intuitive,

    Feeling, Judging. At least, according to the 70-question version of the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator that I took online today. This personality is called the "Confidant" and also the "Advocate". Which personality type are you? Follow this link, answer the questions, and find...
    TeresaRudolph71 TeresaRudolph71 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 23, 2015

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    Genevieve524 Genevieve524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    How strange it is to be considered

    such a likable person by so many, and yet I am still so alone. I've seen a lot of posts around here practically bragging about being able to read a persons feelings - as if this intuitive perception is a gift. HA! How about when you are so good at it that you feel like an alien...
    SaVraiNoir SaVraiNoir 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 5, 2015

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    On the one hand, I know I need to get out

    and talk to more people. My world feels so narrow sometimes. I usually prefer it that way. But then I just suddenly feel isolated with no one to turn to. I just can't keep up the momentum of an active social life, I burn out so easily. I tried online dating. Messaging a few...
    Novelska Novelska 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 2, 2015

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    I've had trouble relating to people

    since I was a child. What made it even more confusing was that I understood people innately, their motivations, their needs, and I care for everyone so deeply, yet I've always struggled to form a connection with others. I expected people to understand me as easily as I...
    michaelfink michaelfink 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 24, 2015

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    I'm not an INFJ myself,

    though I have a question for you all! I am an INFP female in a relationship with an INFJ male. Now, I don't believe everyone's individual relationships can be summed up using the MBTI theory or whatnot.. But I am curious, anyways. What do you guys think of this pairing...
    aspiringmagicalgirl aspiringmagicalgirl 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 14, 2015

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    Infj with a strong introvert

    and intuitive easily sense people's emotion, their need and desire, etc etc. Those small thing other people could walk over easily. Well.. I am okay without what people so called 'gift' XD many times it interrupts what should be done. Constantly contradicts heart and mind. Doing...
    defiantmisfit defiantmisfit 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2015

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    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore 41-45 21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    DutchieVera DutchieVera 13-15, F 5 Responses Dec 7, 2015

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    My name is holly, I am an INFJ,

    and my best friend has died. What do I do?
    Amaunet Amaunet 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    Most people seem a bit surprised by how much I

    think about things. life honestly feels like a philosophy to me. I spend lots of time thinking about ways to better myself. Other people seem so predictable to me.
    Stephenwashere92 Stephenwashere92 22-25, M 3 Responses May 11, 2015

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    I think somebody has been watching me all my

    life, logging every detail of my personality, then one day just decided "we'll call that INFJ". I never would have thought that a personality profile could be so damn accurate. It's funny to the point where it's almost scary! :P
    juln juln 26-30, M 5 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    A new member here. Thought I was the only

    ****** up person. Glad to discover myself and know there are some other people are out there. I think I understand way too much. And it is weird. Because people don't notice. They just live from one day to the next. I can't. I hate that and envy them sometimes how simpler their...
    gonegirl93 gonegirl93 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 9, 2015

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    "I'm a paradox. I want to be happy

    but I think of things that make me sad. I'm lazy, yet I'm ambitious. I don't like myself, but I love who I am. I say I don't care, but really I do. I crave attention, but reject it when it comes my way. I'm a conflicted contradiction if I can't figure myself out, there's no way...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 4 Responses Sep 4, 2015

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    Daenerys is INFJ. 😀😄 http://www.

    humanmetrics.com/westeros/images/westeros-personality-types.jpg
    NanamiMomozono NanamiMomozono 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 24, 2015

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    I'm glad to understand more

    and more about myself, and I really am an introverted (intuition) extrovert (feeling).
    NanamiMomozono NanamiMomozono 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2015

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    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 15 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    INFJ is the rarest of the personalities

    and only accounts for 2% of people. Here’s a little glimspe into who we are and what we feel.....We love to be there for others, we see things no one else sees and we think, A LOT, About everything. We’re complicated and quiet. And if you think you can pinpoint who...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 5, 2015

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    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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    Honestly reading all this other posts makes me

    annoyed. I'm frustrated with the "We feel more than any other type" and the "We are so misunderstood" and the "I feel like I was alone until now". Now it's really not the fact that this is what people are saying but it's that fact that this is the only ting people are posting...
    DietCoke6587 DietCoke6587 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    When I'm with someone I feel like I am

    suffocating and when I'm alone I feel a pull comparable to heart ache. I feel like I have a hole that can't be filled... Or, I don't know what to fill it with.
    SaVraiNoir SaVraiNoir 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 11, 2015

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    What I Wished I Had Learned 20 Years Ago

    I am an INFJ and I wanted to share what I wish someone had told me 20 years ago. 1. An INFJ is only 1 to 2% of the population consequently stop wasting energy on trying to get 98% of the people to understand you.  Its a waste of your energy. The energy is better spent making...
    Peregrin Peregrin 51-55, M 66 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    I feel like my heart has been stung by most

    everyone around me today. As always, I know this too shall pass but that does not subtract the thought that I will remember the isolation and the hurt that I feel today. I needed help from my significant other today, but instead, he walked away from me and spent the evening with...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 1 Response Oct 18, 2015

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    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 20 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    Good Morning INFJs! I was thinking this morning

    (when don't we? :D) how I wish this current reality had more INFJs in it. We are rare and can you imagine a world with more of us? Yes, there would be more feelings expressed but there would be more care and sensitivity and a whole lot of people wanting (and making) a better...
    Elysiannn Elysiannn 56-60, F 7 Responses Jun 5, 2015

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    Do you sometimes just stay in

    for a week or two and do nothing, not even watching shows your behind on because there's something you need to do. You have alot of time to do it but you wait for as long as you can. You want to be with friends and they want to be with you but you just wait and wait. I've been...
    lilbabsindahouse lilbabsindahouse 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 31, 2015

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    This explains so much about me.

    Now I know why I just don't feel like I fit in anywhere, like I can't find someone like me that I can relate to. There’s only one percent of the entire population with my personality type? Wow! I always knew I was a rarity in the emotional sense, but this is a little extreme...
    lostinthevoid lostinthevoid 22-25, F 11 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Is it an INFJ thing that I can't stand to see

    homeless people? I even get angry at them. One thing I love about the small town that I live in now is that we have a lot of transients but only one really visible homeless person. I have approached him and given him money and a scarf in Winter but I commented on the cold like I...
    Iwantedblahblahbutitwastaken Iwantedblahblahbutitwastaken 31-35 2 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 20 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    I need help I am a very introverted person

    (INFJ) and I feel like my whole introversion has taking over my life. The fact is, I want to be able to get out and socialize with other people. But whenever I try to, everything stands still in my head. I wanna say something but I can't think of a thing to say. And I feel like...
    melodydarling melodydarling 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 8

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    Anyone have trouble at work

    because of INFJ personality traits? My boss called me into a meeting with my manager to discuss my personality. I not rude, lazy, mean, or irresponsible, so what was the problem? "People just can't figure you out." I like to eat alone cuz at my job I have to interact with...
    kg54933 kg54933 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 18, 2015

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