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I Am An Infj

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    The Dreaded Phone

    Another infj I know asked a very interesting question. How do you react when you hear the phone ringing? Well, that question hit home. I can feel my body subtly tense up when the phone rings. This is not a new thing either...I have never really been a phone person. Sometimes...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 26 Responses Feb 28, 2008

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    Invalidated and dismissed.

    What it's like to exist. Out-of-place, all alone. Going though life unbeknown. Understanding. I just know. Nobody seems to hear me though. I get you. No one gets me. I'm just trying to help thee. Intentions being misunderstood. Just can't see why they would. Is it them or...
    choirnerd8492 choirnerd8492 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    I recently found out I am an INFJ at the age of

    40, so it's possibly kind of late in life. I am thankful to have a term to apply to many things that set me apart from the people I have interacted with over time but I think I feel pretty angry about it. I have searched for common ground with people & can always find it, but it...
    zXBrettXz zXBrettXz 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 11

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    Genevieve524 Genevieve524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    I am desperate now, living like this is

    so difficult. I feel so alone, and it's not that I am not motivated or anything. I understand motivation and what can motivate people-it's more than that. My interest is lost in what is expected out of most people. It's as if in my head I calculate whether or not something is...
    timeb4lapse timeb4lapse 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 19 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    INFJ is the rarest of the personalities

    and only accounts for 2% of people. Here’s a little glimspe into who we are and what we feel.....We love to be there for others, we see things no one else sees and we think, A LOT, About everything. We’re complicated and quiet. And if you think you can pinpoint who...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 5

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    Hi everyone! Just wanted to make a thread

    for INFJ artists to share their work, network, and so on. ^.^If any of you have facebook pages for your art, send my page a like and I'll do the same for you.You can view my Fight Club art, Marvel art, and more at facebook.com/clairdeluneart and etsy.com/shop...
    annexthecelt annexthecelt 22-25, F Feb 9

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    My Judging is out of control

    and poisoning my thoughts from the inside out. I blame others for their criticisms, but the truth is that criticism is primarily coming from me. Please help me.
    jeffab2014 jeffab2014 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 7

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    When I talk to people

    for even a short time I learn much more about them they know. A slight tilt of their head or a tiny smirk and I can tell if they are smug, sincere, etc. despite their words. I am a great pretender... I may have discovered a darker person than i thought but i don't let them know...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    I love being able i classify myself

    as something and understand that there are others out there like me. It makes me feel less alone in the world, and I need that.
    danielsalinas96 danielsalinas96 18-21, M Feb 18

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    The internal conflict of wanting to help

    humanity while also being absolutely disgusted by it. How can there possibly be so much hatred and cruel indifference in the world? Why is humanity always looking for new ways to categorize people into groups that are violently opposed to one and other? We should not be so...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 1 Response Jul 29, 2014

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    "INFJs tend to be easily hurt,

    though they may not reveal it (except to their closest companions). INFJs may "silently withdraw as a way of setting limits" rather than expressing their wounded feelings—a behavior that may leave others confused and upset"
    Socalsunset Socalsunset 22-25, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    I struggle with this personality type I have.

    I consider it a blessing though to have it, oddly enough. I just feel insecure. Not about my looks (well sometimes), but my personality. I feel like I'm weird. And not like an "it's okay to be weird" or "odd-weird", but an annoying weird. I don't personally know any other...
    graciestacy graciestacy 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2014

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    A warm welcome to all of my brothers

    and sisters of this group who are all my same I have so far taken MBTI tests more than 10 times and 8 times at different sites gave me the result as INFJ and the genuine sites no matter how many tests they say the same INFJ's are not only rare but to the point of understanding...
    FightingTillTheEnd FightingTillTheEnd 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    How do you deal with shock?

    Today I saw 4 paramedics surrounding a man on the ground as I drove by. In that split second I saw one paramedic moving up and down, giving him CPR. It shocked and scared me so much, as I've never seen it being performed on someone outside of TV, and the thought that that man's...
    elainah elainah 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Having discovered recently

    that I am an INFJ certainly helped me to connect the dots. I took it a step further though and I also found out that I am an empath. I am wondering though if most INFJs are also empaths because there are certainly a lot of similarities?
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 20 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore 41-45 21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    I've had trouble relating to people

    since I was a child. What made it even more confusing was that I understood people innately, their motivations, their needs, and I care for everyone so deeply, yet I've always struggled to form a connection with others. I expected people to understand me as easily as I...
    michaelfink michaelfink 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 24

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    I am curious. How are most of you with small

    details? I find I am a big picture thinker, and really like ideas and theories, but am horrible with small details. This has become evident in my current job, where I have to pay attention to really small details (under a time limit) and keep missing things that others catch...
    NG88 NG88 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 3

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    I love being an infj.

    I just wish I personally knew some more.
    AutumnAki AutumnAki 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I just found out that I'm an INFJ,

    and I feel conflicted about the results. On the one hand, it feels good to finally be put into a category and learn more about myself - in a way it feels cool to be such a rare and unique personality type that seems to be capable of great things. On the other hand, finding out I...
    NG88 NG88 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 10

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    About INFJ And Reading People

    A guy on INTJ forum recently asked someone with INFJ personality type to describe the INFJ process of reading other people's personalities, so here it goes. As an INFJ, I am a brutal people reader. I do it naturally and automatically, without even thinking about it or being aware...
    IrenaShav IrenaShav 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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    Many INFJ's need space

    and time to process trauma. Everything has deep meaning and purpose for us, we are very sensitive creatures. Watching a traumatic event evokes such both fear and great compassion from us which can be overwhelming. We desire to change the world we live in so that others no...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    Any avid daydreamers out there?

    I get lost in my head a lot. To the point that I forget anything else around me exists. I guess it's called "spacing out", but I feel like it's more than that. I genuinely enjoy it. I can basically transport myself worlds away. But when I'm snapped back to reality, I appear...
    xagainstthecurrentx xagainstthecurrentx 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 3

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    The only downfall I find to INFJ

    or INFP personalities is the loniless we feel....never being understood or misunderstood....thats the hardest part for me. I have so much that I think about and flip about up there but never an outlet for it.
    Dacaapito Dacaapito 41-45, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I love the snowy days of winter.

    I feel like I am in my true element -- it's peaceful and so very relaxing. Sometimes it's just too cold and snowy to travel so other excuses are not needed if I don't feel like being social. Ohhhh, what a lovely day it was! I sketched, made a wonderful soup and didn't speak to a...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F Feb 2

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    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    I need some help here: All along I am sure I am

    an INFJ , then suddenly the other day I came across a video about distinguishing INFJ from INFP and am beginning to think I am really a P. Is it possible to facilitate between the two? Sometimes I am very ordered, about certain things. Other times, I am not. It depends on the...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I think somebody has been watching me all my

    life, logging every detail of my personality, then one day just decided "we'll call that INFJ". I never would have thought that a personality profile could be so damn accurate. It's funny to the point where it's almost scary! :P
    juln juln 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    Day after day, I find

    that free thinking, a common infj trait, is a sign of a healthy functioning brain. Many famous infj's did this very openly.
    Stephenwashere92 Stephenwashere92 22-25, M 1 Response May 12

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    Well I took the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type

    Indicator) and while I'm not so sure on how accurate the test really is the results seem to be pretty spot on for me, indicating that I am an INFJ. INFJ's are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with

    my life. It seems like everything I try in terms of work leaves me unsatisfied and unhappy. Sometimes I feel like I'm just not good at or meant to do anything, but other times I feel like I have so much to contribute to the world, if I could just figure out how. It's frustrating...
    NG88 NG88 26-30, F 3 Responses May 19

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    I still can't get over the fact

    why we are so rare. It's a weird feeling for me.
    theyellowpage theyellowpage 13-15, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2007

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    My thoughts swim, I am wasting time.

    Standing idle by the welcome mat-withholding my finger from pushing that doorbell. Because I can't convey quite how I want to live yet. Not-yet. But the days grow shorter as my life gets longer. I am near the point of regret, but doing things the traditional way does not satisfy...
    timeb4lapse timeb4lapse 18-21, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    A few days ago I took the Myers-Briggs

    personality type for the gazillionth time and I got the result of INFJ. Up until that point, I had only gotten the result of ISFP and I never felt like it accurately described me. I wasn't sure if I wasn't understanding the questions but eventually convinced myself that I was...
    choirnerd8492 choirnerd8492 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I love how I'm reading all these posts,

    and realize that I go through a lot of things you guys go through. Being the critic, the perfectionist, etc. When I feel like I'm so different and I don't belong. When I'm misunderstood, or how I hate it when people hate me. When I feel like I've got a lot to say but I just can...
    hacaesla hacaesla 16-17, F 2 days ago

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    Most people seem a bit surprised by how much I

    think about things. life honestly feels like a philosophy to me. I spend lots of time thinking about ways to better myself. Other people seem so predictable to me.
    Stephenwashere92 Stephenwashere92 22-25, M 3 Responses May 11

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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