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I Am An Infj

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    When I discovered I was an INFJ I felt like the

    "riddle" of me was beginning to have some answers. I've realized truths about myself that I believe make me stronger and more complete in myself. That being said, the sensitivity is overwhelming... To the point where any negative energy at all makes me heartsick and completely...
    EmG923 EmG923 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    I still can't get over the fact

    why we are so rare. It's a weird feeling for me.
    theyellowpage theyellowpage 13-15, F 4 Responses Feb 3

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    Any avid daydreamers out there?

    I get lost in my head a lot. To the point that I forget anything else around me exists. I guess it's called "spacing out", but I feel like it's more than that. I genuinely enjoy it. I can basically transport myself worlds away. But when I'm snapped back to reality, I appear...
    xagainstthecurrentx xagainstthecurrentx 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 3

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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    Nursing and INFJ ... ?

    ?? I'm about to graduate Nursing School in May. I have to admit, I am scared to death that my Ni tied in with my Fe are going to make this a very difficult path for me. I only recently discovered that I am, in fact, an INFJ in every sense of the definition. What are your...
    assumedID2015 assumedID2015 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    The rarest personality in the world.

    We are a piece of a puzzle that will never fit. Misunderstood greatly and lost in an imaginary world. Forever dreaming of a perfect existence that can never be.
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 13

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    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 20 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    INFJ is the rarest of the personalities

    and only accounts for 2% of people. Here’s a little glimspe into who we are and what we feel.....We love to be there for others, we see things no one else sees and we think, A LOT, About everything. We’re complicated and quiet. And if you think you can pinpoint who...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 5

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    I recently found out I am an INFJ at the age of

    40, so it's possibly kind of late in life. I am thankful to have a term to apply to many things that set me apart from the people I have interacted with over time but I think I feel pretty angry about it. I have searched for common ground with people & can always find it, but it...
    zXBrettXz zXBrettXz 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 11

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    I sort of loving being an INFJ,

    even though it can be a blessing and a curse..and somewhat lonely and misunderstood. We're unique though and that is a good trait to have.
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    I find romance very difficult

    for me. To be completely honest, I'm not sure if this is an INFJ thing, but it seems like it might be. I've always hated the cheesy, romantic, cuteness that so many relationships are based off of. A relationship should be about more than surprise kisses and constant flirting...
    IWillJustWatch IWillJustWatch 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    My Judging is out of control

    and poisoning my thoughts from the inside out. I blame others for their criticisms, but the truth is that criticism is primarily coming from me. Please help me.
    jeffab2014 jeffab2014 51-55, M 1 Response Feb 7

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    About INFJ And Reading People

    A guy on INTJ forum recently asked someone with INFJ personality type to describe the INFJ process of reading other people's personalities, so here it goes. As an INFJ, I am a brutal people reader. I do it naturally and automatically, without even thinking about it or being aware...
    IrenaShav IrenaShav 26-30, F 12 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 19 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    Meeting Another Infj

    I am brand new to this site and I love it! I've never felt so connected to people before. My whole life I've felt alone and could never really understand why. When I was younger I made all my best friends and still have them now but I am having so much trouble getting close to...
    sdrake491 sdrake491 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I love the snowy days of winter.

    I feel like I am in my true element -- it's peaceful and so very relaxing. Sometimes it's just too cold and snowy to travel so other excuses are not needed if I don't feel like being social. Ohhhh, what a lovely day it was! I sketched, made a wonderful soup and didn't speak to a...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F Feb 2

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    I Used To Think I Was Special...

    That i had a rare form of mental powers of observation... but after taking the personality test i found that i'm one in a 100. so for every 100 people there's another one like me... it's nice to know there are so may of us even if we are the rarest of all personalities :D i think...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    A warm welcome to all of my brothers

    and sisters of this group who are all my same I have so far taken MBTI tests more than 10 times and 8 times at different sites gave me the result as INFJ and the genuine sites no matter how many tests they say the same INFJ's are not only rare but to the point of understanding...
    FightingTillTheEnd FightingTillTheEnd 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    Well I took the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type

    Indicator) and while I'm not so sure on how accurate the test really is the results seem to be pretty spot on for me, indicating that I am an INFJ. INFJ's are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    Just wondering something: I grew up with a lot

    of family and friends and many have always described me as being unique. In fact, I heard this countless times through out my life. It wasn't until recently that I found out I am an INFJ so I got curious; I wanted to know exactly why everyone always described me as unique so I...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    I've had trouble relating to people

    since I was a child. What made it even more confusing was that I understood people innately, their motivations, their needs, and I care for everyone so deeply, yet I've always struggled to form a connection with others. I expected people to understand me as easily as I...
    michaelfink michaelfink 31-35, M 2 Responses Feb 24

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    I love being able i classify myself

    as something and understand that there are others out there like me. It makes me feel less alone in the world, and I need that.
    danielsalinas96 danielsalinas96 18-21, M Feb 18

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    I can't remember what it means

    but it's what I am apparently.
    00afreshstart77UK00 00afreshstart77UK00 51-55, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    When I talk to people

    for even a short time I learn much more about them they know. A slight tilt of their head or a tiny smirk and I can tell if they are smug, sincere, etc. despite their words. I am a great pretender... I may have discovered a darker person than i thought but i don't let them know...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    This explains so much about me.

    Now I know why I just don't feel like I fit in anywhere, like I can't find someone like me that I can relate to. There’s only one percent of the entire population with my personality type? Wow! I always knew I was a rarity in the emotional sense, but this is a little extreme...
    lostinthevoid lostinthevoid 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    The internal conflict of wanting to help

    humanity while also being absolutely disgusted by it. How can there possibly be so much hatred and cruel indifference in the world? Why is humanity always looking for new ways to categorize people into groups that are violently opposed to one and other? We should not be so...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 1 Response Jul 29, 2014

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    What I Wished I Had Learned 20 Years Ago

    I am an INFJ and I wanted to share what I wish someone had told me 20 years ago. 1. An INFJ is only 1 to 2% of the population consequently stop wasting energy on trying to get 98% of the people to understand you.  Its a waste of your energy. The energy is better spent making...
    Peregrin Peregrin 51-55, M 66 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2014

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    I am an infj. I'm 16

    and I've never met anyone who could really understand how I feel. I feel so out of place sometimes. I try so hard and I have friends, some really good ones, but so far my search for kindred spirits has been rather futile. Despite everything, I'm so proud to be an infj. We're...
    julialoh julialoh 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 20

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    Why simple thing. I'm plastic.

    Everyone is, but only a few notice that. Took on the identity of INFP for a while. Now I'll take on this one. The true one, I think.
    Alomoes Alomoes 18-21 Jan 17

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    Does anyone else just feel absolutely enraged

    by the general population? The amount of absurd stupidity that I have seen in so many people is getting hard to take. For example: I see so many people doing the ALS Ice bucket challenge, without donating, without knowing what the disease is, and calling themselves...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 4 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore 41-45 21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    Empathy to the max; random,

    deeply profound intuition/insight ... ALL DAY ... every single day ... oftentimes results in mental AND physical exhaustion that can't be explained to anyone.
    assumedID2015 assumedID2015 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 14

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    I struggle with this personality type I have.

    I consider it a blessing though to have it, oddly enough. I just feel insecure. Not about my looks (well sometimes), but my personality. I feel like I'm weird. And not like an "it's okay to be weird" or "odd-weird", but an annoying weird. I don't personally know any other...
    graciestacy graciestacy 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Invalidated and dismissed.

    What it's like to exist. Out-of-place, all alone. Going though life unbeknown. Understanding. I just know. Nobody seems to hear me though. I get you. No one gets me. I'm just trying to help thee. Intentions being misunderstood. Just can't see why they would. Is it them or...
    choirnerd8492 choirnerd8492 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 26

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    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2007

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    Just have one question: Why are we

    so rare ?! I believe everything happens for a reason !
    AmirBlackStar AmirBlackStar 18-21, M 9 Responses Jan 28

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    Learning that I am an INFJ has made my life

    make sense. Correction, it has made my life experience make sense.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 18

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    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    I spent most of my life thinking my heightened

    sensitivity made me weak and less capable than others. I am so deeply moved and affected by the world around me it still astonishes me. I'm overwhelmed quite honestly. No matter how bad it hurts I cannot bring myself to deny my inherit curiosity and thirst for knowledge. I read...
    Cassandra351131 Cassandra351131 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I am curious. How are most of you with small

    details? I find I am a big picture thinker, and really like ideas and theories, but am horrible with small details. This has become evident in my current job, where I have to pay attention to really small details (under a time limit) and keep missing things that others catch...
    emilyb353 emilyb353 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 3

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    A few days ago I took the Myers-Briggs

    personality type for the gazillionth time and I got the result of INFJ. Up until that point, I had only gotten the result of ISFP and I never felt like it accurately described me. I wasn't sure if I wasn't understanding the questions but eventually convinced myself that I was...
    choirnerd8492 choirnerd8492 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    Genevieve524 Genevieve524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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