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I Am An Infj

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    Okay, I don't really know

    if this is right or not... I'm not even sure what I feel, if my feelings even exist. I can't define what I feel like on a daily basis. I don't have a word for it. I'm not sure who I am and that ****** me off more than anything. All I want to know is who I am.
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 2 Responses Oct 29

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    So im 16 and an infj.

    Something's been on my mind and I haven't been able to ask anyone because they're not infjs. I want to know how well do you think you understand other people? Ive read up on the infj personality, and read that they have almost a natural talent basically for understanding others...
    orangelightning orangelightning 16-17, M 7 Responses Oct 14

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    I just found out I am an INFJ.

    I am 21 years old. It was such a relief and validation to find out that, even though my personality type is incredibly rare, I am not alone in the world....and nothing is inherently "wrong" with me. I have always known I was different. I remember telling my mom I didn't think...
    annllyon annllyon 18-21 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    Sort Of Knew It All Along

    I realized a few years ago than I'm an INFJ personality type. I guess it wasn't much of a surprise realizing the fact that I had been quite intuitive and and even bordering on psychic since I was a child. I seemed to know a lot more and feel a lot more. Like I would know how the...
    spiritsoul1 spiritsoul1 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 25, 2013

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    An Infj's Cry

    I like being an INFJ but it can make life painful at times. In conflict, instead of thick armor I have baby soft skin, an unfair fight really, where my enemy suffers little to no damage and I loose quarts of blood. All this filtered through my mind where's it's multiplied by 10...
    elling245 elling245 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 21 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    I've never met an INFJ in person.

    Of course, I know it's not something you'd introduce yourself formally as (though, i wish we could. Sometimes I wish there were Personality Conventions, where you could go meet people of the same or different personality types. We'd all wear badges with our 4-letters on them...
    xagainstthecurrentx xagainstthecurrentx 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 22

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    this is the first time

    that i've actively seeked out others with my personality type. i would do the personality tests and i would leave it at that. i always thought i was a bit on the strange side but now that i know that there's finally words to put next to me that make sense (hoorah!). i'm happy...
    kariri1 kariri1 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 28

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    I am an INFJ personality type.

    People with my personality make up 1% of the population. Making it the rarest personality. I hope maybe I can find somebody who enjoys the same things I do... I like watching movies: I like Thrillers, I love Writing and Drawing. I play 3 musical instruments, speak 2 languages...
    elenanicole elenanicole 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    So I found out I am an INFJ.

    What does that say about me?
    akamissw akamissw 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 23

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    When I talk to people

    for even a short time I learn much more about them they know. A slight tilt of their head or a tiny smirk and I can tell if they are smug, sincere, etc. despite their words. I am a great pretender... I may have discovered a darker person than i thought but i don't let them know...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 26

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    It's interesting, I remember reading

    that this personality type is predominately female. Seeing all the women here really sort of just reenforced that, gave it a tangibility it didn't have before. It's interesting, most of the lovers I've had tell me I'm the most sensual lover they've ever been with, that I touch...
    Ethanx Ethanx 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 2

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    Once I found out I am an INFJ I started doing

    some research. Even though INFJs are rare, I am so happy to know that there are actually people in the world who think like me. I feel almost . . . normal. lol
    akamissw akamissw 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    I Desire Infj Friends

    I believe them to be the best friends. ENFJs are fantastic too. I've taken the Myers-Briggs exam three times. Once in High School and twice in college. I came out as an INFJ all three times. I love being one. Although it is frustrating that people just don't understand...
    mused mused 21-25, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2007

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    Do any of you like strange things?

    I find my self attracted or well extremely interested in anything bizarre and out of the ordinary.
    Feistywizard Feistywizard 18-21, M 8 Responses Sep 6

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    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore 41-45 21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    I say i don't judge,

    but i really do. I don't judge just to judge, i judge to understand
    orangelightning orangelightning 16-17, M 4 Responses Oct 22

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    About INFJ And Reading People

    A guy on INTJ forum recently asked someone with INFJ personality type to describe the INFJ process of reading other people's personalities, so here it goes. As an INFJ, I am a brutal people reader. I do it naturally and automatically, without even thinking about it or being aware...
    IrenaShav IrenaShav 26-30, F 11 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    This explains so much about me.

    Now I know why I just don't feel like I fit in anywhere, like I can't find someone like me that I can relate to. There’s only one percent of the entire population with my personality type? Wow! I always knew I was a rarity in the emotional sense, but this is a little extreme...
    chloeforever chloeforever 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 7

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F Feb 21

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    Meeting Another Infj

    I am brand new to this site and I love it! I've never felt so connected to people before. My whole life I've felt alone and could never really understand why. When I was younger I made all my best friends and still have them now but I am having so much trouble getting close to...
    sdrake491 sdrake491 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I'm not sure if I'm pleased

    or a bit frightened that there are people out there that are almost exactly like me. I find it comforting that my weirdness is comparable to others, however, am I just another puzzle piece in humanity? Just another brick in the wall? I guess we will never really know, for sure...
    MisterCrowley MisterCrowley 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 18

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    Hello dear ones I am

    so excited to be able to connect with others like my self. I'm truly grateful for experience project so that we all may connect with each-other and feel less alone. Does anyone else ever feel like their not human like they could not possibly be associated with the rest of them...
    Feistywizard Feistywizard 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 1

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    Hah, I always knew I was different.

    I just never thought I would see my rarity manifest in a personality test! The characteristics of an INFJ fit me perfectly, I was so shocked when I read the profile! The humanitarian drive within me is strong; I so deeply desire to change the broken world we live in. I have a...
    TheOrganicOne TheOrganicOne 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 9

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    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila 22-25, F Jun 6

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    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 9 Responses Aug 7

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    I sort of loving being an INFJ,

    even though it can be a blessing and a curse..and somewhat lonely and misunderstood. We're unique though and that is a good trait to have.
    MissListless MissListless 26-30, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    The Dreaded Phone

    Another infj I know asked a very interesting question. How do you react when you hear the phone ringing? Well, that question hit home. I can feel my body subtly tense up when the phone rings. This is not a new thing either...I have never really been a phone person. Sometimes...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 26 Responses Feb 28, 2008

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    Have you ever felt this way ?

    ! 2 years ago i had two bestfriends, i always ignored my feelings & needs just to satisfy theirs (typicall INFJ). then one day i just stoped it !!! i terminated my friendship with them. i was deppressed & lonely because of that for more than 1 year, but some monthes ago i stoped...
    AmirBlackStar AmirBlackStar 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 7

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 20 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    Infj And Heightened Sensitivity

    I'm not ashamed to wear the INFJ badge. I enjoy the advantages that heightened sensitivity offers me even though society shames these gentler, more refined masculine traits. Sadly, even empathetic women are duped into believing society's rough-tough-and-ready ideal and they...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    The internal conflict of wanting to help

    humanity while also being absolutely disgusted by it. How can there possibly be so much hatred and cruel indifference in the world? Why is humanity always looking for new ways to categorize people into groups that are violently opposed to one and other? We should not be so...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 1 Response Jul 29

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    Ok, i'm new here and i don't know what i'm

    supposed to talk about, but i guess it's about how i feel as an INFJ. Well, the day that i got i'm an INFJ, that explained lots of things to me. I always know that i'm just a little ... let's say different than others. I just found it very hard not to be deep, just to look at...
    AmirBlackStar AmirBlackStar 18-21, M Oct 9

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    Breakdown of preferences: Mind - Introverted

    (16%), Energy - Intuitive (13%), Nature - Feeling (21%), Tactics - Judging (3%), Identity - Turbulent (9%). The INFJ type is believed to be very rare (less than 1 percent of the population) and has an unusual set of traits. Even though their presence can be described as very...
    DanBurnett DanBurnett 16-17, M 3 Responses Apr 9

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    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    Here is a list of careers

    that match those who are INFJ: Possible Career Paths for the INFJ: Clergy / Religious Work Teachers Medical Doctors / Dentists Alternative Health Care Practitioners, i.e. Chiropractor, Reflexologist Psychologists Psychiatrists Counselors and...
    losttoday60 losttoday60 51-55, M 5 Responses Oct 13

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    Work has been so stressful

    for me lately. I work in a high school with students with disabilities. It's a rewarding profession but lately I have felt so beat down. We got a lot of new ninth graders with emotional disabilities. I'm used to putting out fires but there are way too many. The toughest thing...
    billiejeanboo billiejeanboo 31-35 2 Responses Nov 15

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    What I Wished I Had Learned 20 Years Ago

    I am an INFJ and I wanted to share what I wish someone had told me 20 years ago. 1. An INFJ is only 1 to 2% of the population consequently stop wasting energy on trying to get 98% of the people to understand you.  Its a waste of your energy. The energy is better spent making...
    Peregrin Peregrin 51-55, M 65 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    I don't know how to make sense of all the

    madness and injustice in this world it's so overwhelming
    Feistywizard Feistywizard 18-21, M 2 Responses Sep 8

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    I always got infj at first

    but I read somewhere that the reason why people always label themselves because it is rare. I guess that people want to feel unique so they say they have that type... So I tried to push for another personality and I tested as an infp and it seemed very similar to me so I went...
    jellyrolls34 jellyrolls34 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 3

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    Does anyone else just feel absolutely enraged

    by the general population? The amount of absurd stupidity that I have seen in so many people is getting hard to take. For example: I see so many people doing the ALS Ice bucket challenge, without donating, without knowing what the disease is, and calling themselves...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 4 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    cutemuffin524 cutemuffin524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I'm new and I ended up here

    because I have been desperately searching for answers that I can't seem to find myself. I am currently unemployed and have been job hunting for 4 months now. I have applied for countless positions and interviewed for several of them, but nothing has worked out. Even when I do...
    haysel haysel 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 24

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    I am an INFJ and while i love my intuition i

    often find myself wrestling with it. I have these instinctive feelings about certain events or people and i cannot not deny or ignore my instinct for in the past when i have it has burned me. Like many INFJ personality types i have learned and programmed myself to always trust...
    jj8710 jj8710 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 16

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    I would like to meet other INFJ's

    because they totally get me, and that's awesome! Traits of an INFJ (something I wrote a wile back) INFJ types are complex individuals. Having an over abundance of skills is not uncommon. Quick learners who tend to pick up new skills with ease as long as they are comfortable...
    RenBean RenBean 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 23

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    I Used To Think I Was Special...

    That i had a rare form of mental powers of observation... but after taking the personality test i found that i'm one in a 100. so for every 100 people there's another one like me... it's nice to know there are so may of us even if we are the rarest of all personalities :D i think...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    INFJ Introvert(11%) iNtuitive(38%)

    Feeling(25%) Judging(22%) • You have slight preference of Introversion over Extraversion (11%) • You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%) • You have moderate preference of Feeling over Thinking (25%) • You have slight preference of Judging over...
    NoOneImportantNow NoOneImportantNow 46-50, M 2 Responses Sep 23

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    I'm constantly analyzing everything

    and feel like I'm always trying to analyze who i am and my thoughts but never get a clear picture or understanding. If that made any sense to anyone.
    gjvand09 gjvand09 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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