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I Am An Infj

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    The Dreaded Phone

    Another infj I know asked a very interesting question. How do you react when you hear the phone ringing? Well, that question hit home. I can feel my body subtly tense up when the phone rings. This is not a new thing either...I have never really been a phone person. Sometimes...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 26 Responses Feb 28, 2008

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    cutemuffin524 cutemuffin524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21

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    Part of My Infj Struggles

    Since turning the ripe age of 30 I have been on a quest to better know myself. I feel that I know what I like now, and more so I know what I do not. Long gone are all the days of trying to be someone I am not. However, I have found that I have been almost perpetually single...
    JaceMartin JaceMartin 31-35, M 9 Responses May 1, 2008

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    I love my personality type.

    I grew up thinking I was abnormal, and finally I find out that I am just unique, and very complex and unpredictable. who's with me! share your personality types and the different experiences you've had because of your uniqueness.
    Angela428 Angela428 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    About INFJ And Reading People

    A guy on INTJ forum recently asked someone with INFJ personality type to describe the INFJ process of reading other people's personalities, so here it goes. As an INFJ, I am a brutal people reader. I do it naturally and automatically, without even thinking about it or being aware...
    IrenaShav IrenaShav 26-30, F 11 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    I found out yesterday

    that I was :) I was always different from my friends and found this that aren't the "norm" interesting... I dress different listen to different music and act strange... I'm just happy to be able to know that I'm a little special :) I can't wait till I run into someone that's...
    zy7a zy7a 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 18

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    Infj And Heightened Sensitivity

    I'm not ashamed to wear the INFJ badge. I enjoy the advantages that heightened sensitivity offers me even though society shames these gentler, more refined masculine traits. Sadly, even empathetic women are duped into believing society's rough-tough-and-ready ideal and they...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    The internal conflict of wanting to help

    humanity while also being absolutely disgusted by it. How can there possibly be so much hatred and cruel indifference in the world? Why is humanity always looking for new ways to categorize people into groups that are violently opposed to one and other? We should not be so...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 1 Response Jul 29

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    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 7

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    Does anyone else just feel absolutely enraged

    by the general population? The amount of absurd stupidity that I have seen in so many people is getting hard to take. For example: I see so many people doing the ALS Ice bucket challenge, without donating, without knowing what the disease is, and calling themselves...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 4 Responses Aug 18

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    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 20 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    INFJ problems: understanding others on a

    profound emotional level with the knowledge that they can't connect to you in the same way. I wrote a poem to describe the feeling of wanting to heal someone while ultimately feeling isolated from them. "Isle of the lost" One isle stands amongst warring ocean tides Those who...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 3 Responses Jul 27

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    Breakdown of preferences: Mind - Introverted

    (16%), Energy - Intuitive (13%), Nature - Feeling (21%), Tactics - Judging (3%), Identity - Turbulent (9%). The INFJ type is believed to be very rare (less than 1 percent of the population) and has an unusual set of traits. Even though their presence can be described as very...
    DanBurnett DanBurnett 16-17, M 2 Responses Apr 9

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    I had a friend. Actually an ex,

    who is INTJ. We connected immediately on the intellectual level, still being very different in personality. I believe this is the first person I have met with this same kind of intellectual processing. When we grew apart, we attempted to maintain a friendship long distance...
    snowflake11114 snowflake11114 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 20 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    Some famous people with this personality type:

    Good people Plato Dante Alighieri Dostoyevsky Thomas Jefferson Woodrow Wilson Ghandi Bad people Hitler Bin Laden
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 26-30, F 2 Responses May 19

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    this is the first time

    that i've actively seeked out others with my personality type. i would do the personality tests and i would leave it at that. i always thought i was a bit on the strange side but now that i know that there's finally words to put next to me that make sense (hoorah!). i'm happy...
    kariri1 kariri1 18-21, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Meeting Another Infj

    I am brand new to this site and I love it! I've never felt so connected to people before. My whole life I've felt alone and could never really understand why. When I was younger I made all my best friends and still have them now but I am having so much trouble getting close to...
    sdrake491 sdrake491 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    When I tested years ago my Meyers - Briggs

    result was INFP. I currently retested as an INFJ which fills in a few holes and explains what I felt was missing. I have only mentioned this a few times in my life and quickly realized I was not normal so perhaps it's an INFJ thing?? My question is this: I usually think...
    evhutton evhutton 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 13

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    Alyzza123 Alyzza123 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 16

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    Heck yea. All my life I've always gone in a

    different direction, in anything, than my peers did. It didn't matter what it was, I was going to do the opposite or just simply something else. It's very fitting that I'm part of <1% of society :)
    Rzrbldksss81 Rzrbldksss81 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    Hmm, I find it funny their are

    so many female INFJ's.. Not very many males! Ahh well, I just recently did a large question test and it told me I'm INFJ. Did another that also told me I was an old soul. Each test I took about an half hour on. Evidently it's rather rare? Which is odd, seein as I see a lot of...
    MasqueradingAs MasqueradingAs 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 8

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    I would like to talk to someone else like me,

    ive never met anyone else who is this type, the world is lonely when you are a infj
    jangofett56037 jangofett56037 18-21, M 9 Responses Apr 23

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    I just found out I am an INFJ.

    I am 21 years old. It was such a relief and validation to find out that, even though my personality type is incredibly rare, I am not alone in the world....and nothing is inherently "wrong" with me. I have always known I was different. I remember telling my mom I didn't think...
    annllyon annllyon 18-21 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila 22-25, F Jun 6

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    This Personality of Mine is Both Amazing and Confusing: The Ramblings of a Crazy INFJ

    I spend a lot of time alone. It can be a problem sometimes, especially since most of the people I know think that it means there is something wrong with me. It's not that at all though. It's just that when I socialize a lot, I need an equal or greater amount of down time to be by...
    Veryrandomgirl8 Veryrandomgirl8 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 18, 2013

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    I just found this group.

    I love that this is the only group I belong to where everyone is such a good, clear, writer :). I too have struggled with this personality type. I am trying to embrace it because life is too short to fight against oneself. Our way is just as valid as an extraverts way. Just...
    nycgrrrl nycgrrrl 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I am. Apparently only about 1% of men are.

    Or was it 1% of people. Can't remember. Anyway, I like it :)
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 14

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    Is anyone absolutely sick of knowing what

    everyone is doing and why they are doing it all the time?
    oetkerdoctor oetkerdoctor 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 23

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    I Used To Think I Was Special...

    That i had a rare form of mental powers of observation... but after taking the personality test i found that i'm one in a 100. so for every 100 people there's another one like me... it's nice to know there are so may of us even if we are the rarest of all personalities :D i think...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 21

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    I am an INFJ personality type.

    People with my personality make up 1% of the population. Making it the rarest personality. I hope maybe I can find somebody who enjoys the same things I do... I like watching movies: I like Thrillers, I love Writing and Drawing. I play 3 musical instruments, speak 2 languages...
    elenanicole elenanicole 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 20

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    Coping Mechanisms

    Its tough being 1% of the population in regards to personality type, since we INFJ’s are so complex. I myself have often been described as “intense”- which to me is a tremendous compliment!   For others unfortunately, I can be altogether “too...
    dutchie dutchie 31-35 11 Responses Jun 21, 2008

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    I just found out I have this personality type.

    It is very rare, only 1% of the human population has it. No wonder I'm so weird. :P
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19

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    I sometimes hate being an INFJ.

    Ever since I first discovered MBTI a few years ago I have always tested as an INFJ. It made a lot of sense why I was ‘weird’ and ‘different’ to everyone else - why I never felt like I fitted into this world or society. I am not really proud of being ‘rare’ I mean...
    dokkyo dokkyo 22-25 1 Response Jul 6

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F Feb 21

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    An Infj's Cry

    I like being an INFJ but it can make life painful at times. In conflict, instead of thick armor I have baby soft skin, an unfair fight really, where my enemy suffers little to no damage and I loose quarts of blood. All this filtered through my mind where's it's multiplied by 10...
    elling245 elling245 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 21, 2013

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    Yep one of the rarest personality types in the

    world. The INFJ type is believed to be very rare (less than 1 percent of the population) and has an unusual set of traits. Even though their presence can be described as very quiet, INFJ personalities usually have many strong opinions, especially when it comes to issues they...
    Ally95xx Ally95xx 18-21, F 18 Responses Apr 5

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    When I talk to people

    for even a short time I learn much more about them they know. A slight tilt of their head or a tiny smirk and I can tell if they are smug, sincere, etc. despite their words. I am a great pretender... I may have discovered a darker person than i thought but i don't let them know...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 26

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    I like being an Infj.

    ..on a positive note. But other times It's so difficult.There seems to be an emptiness within me maybe because in order to find like-minded people I would need to dig hard and that seems to be like a lot of work.But i'm hopeful i'll find someone here.:)
    genesis99 genesis99 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 18

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    I remember my first MBTI test.

    ...it was a group test in health class in high school and we were "scored" and had to announce our answers aloud to the class. I announced INFJ and the health teacher looked at me and said,"You did it wrong. That's an extremely rare type. So, you couldn't be that." Now that I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 16

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    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2007

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    Hello dear ones I am

    so excited to be able to connect with others like my self. I'm truly grateful for experience project so that we all may connect with each-other and feel less alone. Does anyone else ever feel like their not human like they could not possibly be associated with the rest of them...
    Feistywizard Feistywizard 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    Infjs Are Wired Differently

    The more I live the more I discover that life is a battle. I don't thrive on that idea because I'm the kind of person who needs to be surrounded by lots of harmony and order to keep me from sinking. When challenges overwhelm me I have a tendency to detach even though I don't mean...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    The INFJ individual is gifted in ways

    that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement. (PersonalityPage dot Com)
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    I Desire Infj Friends

    I believe them to be the best friends. ENFJs are fantastic too. I've taken the Myers-Briggs exam three times. Once in High School and twice in college. I came out as an INFJ all three times. I love being one. Although it is frustrating that people just don't understand...
    mused mused 21-25, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2007

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    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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    Introvert, Intuition,

    Feeling, Judging That's my personality type, not down to the very T but it hits close to home.
    sweetiebomb sweetiebomb 22-25 1 Response May 13

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    As a teenage infj...

    It's not really surprising that I'm INFJ. Found out this year from taking psychology class because I was interested in human behavior. Also thanks to Criminal Minds tv show :) Funny that it's one of the infj behavior to be observative of others, because that's why I was...
    Obsidiann Obsidiann 18-21 9 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    I took a personality test

    that revealed i'm an Infj, and have spent the past few hours scouring the net looking at descriptions... of myself. I feel like i need to go take a long shower and think through everything! Anyone else think its possible that they could solve world hunger because their mind...
    whaticantbelieve whaticantbelieve 22-25, F Jul 29

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