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I Am An Infj

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    INFJ is the rarest of the personalities

    and only accounts for 2% of people. Here’s a little glimspe into who we are and what we feel.....We love to be there for others, we see things no one else sees and we think, A LOT, About everything. We’re complicated and quiet. And if you think you can pinpoint who...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 12 Responses Mar 5

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    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    So all this while I was sure I was an INFJ

    until today when I decided to take the Meyers Briggs personality test. The one I had taken (twice) was from a reliable site as well. I'll attach both the sites below. So I had taken the Meyers Briggs test (once) and my personality type is of an ISFJ. Now I can also relate to...
    makeachangealways makeachangealways 22-25, F 2 Responses May 31

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    Meeting Another Infj

    I am brand new to this site and I love it! I've never felt so connected to people before. My whole life I've felt alone and could never really understand why. When I was younger I made all my best friends and still have them now but I am having so much trouble getting close to...
    sdrake491 sdrake491 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    I've had trouble relating to people

    since I was a child. What made it even more confusing was that I understood people innately, their motivations, their needs, and I care for everyone so deeply, yet I've always struggled to form a connection with others. I expected people to understand me as easily as I...
    michaelfink michaelfink 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 24

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    I seek balance, it's not

    that I do not like helping people-it's quite the opposite! I just find it difficult to find balance in my family. I have a loving and caring family, but my ideals are high. I tend to clean up after them and it is exhausting. If I did not do this we would be fine, however, I...
    timeb4lapse timeb4lapse 18-21, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I am desperate now, living like this is

    so difficult. I feel so alone, and it's not that I am not motivated or anything. I understand motivation and what can motivate people-it's more than that. My interest is lost in what is expected out of most people. It's as if in my head I calculate whether or not something is...
    timeb4lapse timeb4lapse 18-21, M 3 Responses May 26

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    I struggle with this personality type I have.

    I consider it a blessing though to have it, oddly enough. I just feel insecure. Not about my looks (well sometimes), but my personality. I feel like I'm weird. And not like an "it's okay to be weird" or "odd-weird", but an annoying weird. I don't personally know any other...
    graciestacy graciestacy 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 8 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    To all infjs .. how do you live on this planet?

    xD I can't continue living as an infj here. Nobody understands us and we can't blame them because we just know things .. you can't explain that , can you? ^_^' I can't do small talks and always think that I'm wasting my time, even though I'm only 18. Obsessed with self...
    hubaa hubaa 18-21 4 Responses a week ago

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    I'm just looking for other INFJs to interact

    with online. I would absolutely love to find a partner near my area, but starting online seems like a safe start. I took a myers briggs a while ago and was not at all surprised by the result, it just seemed to fit and has since then continued to explain some of the phenomenon...
    mrknows mrknows 31-35 1 Response 6 days ago

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    The rarest personality in the world.

    We are a piece of a puzzle that will never fit. Misunderstood greatly and lost in an imaginary world. Forever dreaming of a perfect existence that can never be.
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 13

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    Good Morning INFJs! I was thinking this morning

    (when don't we? :D) how I wish this current reality had more INFJs in it. We are rare and can you imagine a world with more of us? Yes, there would be more feelings expressed but there would be more care and sensitivity and a whole lot of people wanting (and making) a better...
    Elysiannn Elysiannn 56-60, F 4 Responses Jun 5

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    I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with

    my life. It seems like everything I try in terms of work leaves me unsatisfied and unhappy. Sometimes I feel like I'm just not good at or meant to do anything, but other times I feel like I have so much to contribute to the world, if I could just figure out how. It's frustrating...
    NG88 NG88 26-30, F 4 Responses May 19

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    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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    My experience of being an INFJ has been well.

    ..intense. I believe INFJs to have obtained their godly powers from having had an early traumatic experience in childhood. It may not be the case for all but I very quickly learned to pick up the hidden emotional under currents to intuit what is really going on underneath. This...
    Kyleinfj Kyleinfj 26-30, M 5 Responses May 29

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    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore 41-45 21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    Started researching INFJ

    after a bad breakup. Saw the statistic about us having the highest rate of marital dissatisfaction. A lot makes sense in hindsight, but that's still really discouraging. Any happily married/long-term relationship INFJs have some advice?
    ariamariel ariamariel 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 7

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 19 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    That "knowing" feeling

    which all INFJ's possess just amazes me. Our wiring is so supersonic fast that sometimes it has to be more than just a physically wired apparatus. I still think at times it is a gift from above. I believe we are put on this earth as a "tool." When we are that quick it gives us...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F Jun 24

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    According to a personality test I just did,

    I am a INFJ. I always get I's when I take personality tests (INTJ, ISFP etc). But I don't think I've had ab INFJ before.
    sims14fan sims14fan 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I sort of loving being an INFJ,

    even though it can be a blessing and a curse..and somewhat lonely and misunderstood. We're unique though and that is a good trait to have.
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    Having discovered recently

    that I am an INFJ certainly helped me to connect the dots. I took it a step further though and I also found out that I am an empath. I am wondering though if most INFJs are also empaths because there are certainly a lot of similarities?
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    Genevieve524 Genevieve524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    My thoughts swim, I am wasting time.

    Standing idle by the welcome mat-withholding my finger from pushing that doorbell. Because I can't convey quite how I want to live yet. Not-yet. But the days grow shorter as my life gets longer. I am near the point of regret, but doing things the traditional way does not satisfy...
    timeb4lapse timeb4lapse 18-21, M 3 Responses May 20

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    Well I took the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type

    Indicator) and while I'm not so sure on how accurate the test really is the results seem to be pretty spot on for me, indicating that I am an INFJ. INFJ's are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    The internal conflict of wanting to help

    humanity while also being absolutely disgusted by it. How can there possibly be so much hatred and cruel indifference in the world? Why is humanity always looking for new ways to categorize people into groups that are violently opposed to one and other? We should not be so...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 1 Response Jul 29, 2014

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    The Dreaded Phone

    Another infj I know asked a very interesting question. How do you react when you hear the phone ringing? Well, that question hit home. I can feel my body subtly tense up when the phone rings. This is not a new thing either...I have never really been a phone person. Sometimes...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 26 Responses Feb 28, 2008

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    I need some help here: All along I am sure I am

    an INFJ , then suddenly the other day I came across a video about distinguishing INFJ from INFP and am beginning to think I am really a P. Is it possible to facilitate between the two? Sometimes I am very ordered, about certain things. Other times, I am not. It depends on the...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F 1 Response May 24

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    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 6, 2014

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    mssparkles mssparkles 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 6

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    So is it possible to be equally judging

    and perceiving? I have taken the test numerous times and always wind up with an INFJ outcome. The thing is, the perceiving percentage is usually quite high as well. When taking tests to determine between the 2, I still fall in the middle. When reading the descriptive traits for...
    Dacaapito Dacaapito 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 3

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    I am an INFJ personality type.

    People with my personality make up 1% of the population. Making it the rarest personality. I hope maybe I can find somebody who enjoys the same things I do... I like watching movies: I like Thrillers, I love Writing and Drawing. I play 3 musical instruments, speak 2 languages...
    Enpfor12 Enpfor12 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 14 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    This explains so much about me.

    Now I know why I just don't feel like I fit in anywhere, like I can't find someone like me that I can relate to. There’s only one percent of the entire population with my personality type? Wow! I always knew I was a rarity in the emotional sense, but this is a little extreme...
    lostinthevoid lostinthevoid 22-25, F 9 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Day after day, I find

    that free thinking, a common infj trait, is a sign of a healthy functioning brain. Many famous infj's did this very openly.
    Stephenwashere92 Stephenwashere92 22-25, M 1 Response May 12

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    The only downfall I find to INFJ

    or INFP personalities is the loniless we feel....never being understood or misunderstood....thats the hardest part for me. I have so much that I think about and flip about up there but never an outlet for it.
    Dacaapito Dacaapito 41-45, F 1 Response May 26

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    What I Wished I Had Learned 20 Years Ago

    I am an INFJ and I wanted to share what I wish someone had told me 20 years ago. 1. An INFJ is only 1 to 2% of the population consequently stop wasting energy on trying to get 98% of the people to understand you.  Its a waste of your energy. The energy is better spent making...
    Peregrin Peregrin 51-55, M 66 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    Many INFJ's need space

    and time to process trauma. Everything has deep meaning and purpose for us, we are very sensitive creatures. Watching a traumatic event evokes such both fear and great compassion from us which can be overwhelming. We desire to change the world we live in so that others no...
    vibrante vibrante 41-45, F May 24

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    When I talk to people

    for even a short time I learn much more about them they know. A slight tilt of their head or a tiny smirk and I can tell if they are smug, sincere, etc. despite their words. I am a great pretender... I may have discovered a darker person than i thought but i don't let them know...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    I find romance very difficult

    for me. To be completely honest, I'm not sure if this is an INFJ thing, but it seems like it might be. I've always hated the cheesy, romantic, cuteness that so many relationships are based off of. A relationship should be about more than surprise kisses and constant flirting...
    IWillJustWatch IWillJustWatch 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    My dating life is bleak.

    Dating is very hard for me. Guys I knew only want to talk about how you doing today, have you eaten anything or are you horny, let's ****. They didn't want to talk to me. Made me feel they only wanted my body. I have trust issues so it's hard for me to trust my partner so I...
    aya10 aya10 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 12

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    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2007

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2014

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