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I Am An Infj

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    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3 22-25, F 10 Responses Oct 13, 2013

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    Constantly torn between wanting to help humanity

    and wanted nothing to do with it. I feel as though my purpose is to help make a difference in some way shape or form. However, I do not understand people anymore, and they do not understand me. The way people will walk all over each other to get ahead, destroy our planet and...
    arjn28 arjn28 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 6

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    I've always felt out of place

    and different, which always resulted in me having few real friends. I found out I was infj last week and have been thinking more and more that I want to get to know someone else like me. If anyone is interested just message me. I'm an 18 year old male student as a bit of context...
    Light125 Light125 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    Looking to connect with someone middle aged

    or older who is an INFJ. I would like to compare our life's and see if we have lived similar experiences.
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 2 Responses Jan 16

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    I can identify with this completely.

    It's like I'm not entirely "there" in my own skin. Strange...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I feel so ultra sensitive

    when I am tired. My emotions get extremely magnified. If good things are happening then I am elated at a much higher level than others. Flip side? If it is a stressful and an unhappy time then I cry a million more tears than others but of course I do it in private. And, this...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    I spent most of my life thinking my heightened

    sensitivity made me weak and less capable than others. I am so deeply moved and affected by the world around me it still astonishes me. I'm overwhelmed quite honestly. No matter how bad it hurts I cannot bring myself to deny my inherit curiosity and thirst for knowledge. I read...
    Cassandra351131 Cassandra351131 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    Anyone sick and tired of the people

    that you work with like I am? Cruel bosses and subordinates? Sitting in meetings listening to bosses bully employees including yourself? And, knowing full well that bosses do this "because they can" and there isn't a damned thing you can do but choke it down? Oh, how we INFJ's...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Jan 14

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    This explains so much about me.

    Now I know why I just don't feel like I fit in anywhere, like I can't find someone like me that I can relate to. There’s only one percent of the entire population with my personality type? Wow! I always knew I was a rarity in the emotional sense, but this is a little extreme...
    chloeforever chloeforever 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    Why simple thing. I'm plastic.

    Everyone is, but only a few notice that. Took on the identity of INFP for a while. Now I'll take on this one. The true one, I think.
    Alomoes Alomoes 18-21 Jan 17

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    I took the Myers Briggs test a few months ago

    and found out I’m an INFJ. When I read the description it was like checking off boxes. Writer (check), like to get to know people (check), sensitive to the needs of others (check), not easily led (check)…and on and on. I literally wrote a blog back in 2010 about being the...
    IstyBisty IstyBisty 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    I think somebody has been watching me all my

    life, logging every detail of my personality, then one day just decided "we'll call that INFJ". I never would have thought that a personality profile could be so damn accurate. It's funny to the point where it's almost scary! :P
    juln juln 26-30, M 7 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    So I found out I am an INFJ.

    What does that say about me?
    akamissw akamissw 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 23, 2014

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    I can't remember what it means

    but it's what I am apparently.
    00afreshstart77UK00 00afreshstart77UK00 51-55, M 1 Response a week ago

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    Okay, I don't really know

    if this is right or not... I'm not even sure what I feel, if my feelings even exist. I can't define what I feel like on a daily basis. I don't have a word for it. I'm not sure who I am and that ****** me off more than anything. All I want to know is who I am.
    BigBlittleb123 BigBlittleb123 16-17, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 6, 2014

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    It was such a relief to find out in Psych class

    that I wasn't some freak of nature...I am proud of who I am although it is alienating at times, knowing no one really "gets you" and feeling others emotions running through you like a flood...
    marladurden13 marladurden13 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    Meeting Another Infj

    I am brand new to this site and I love it! I've never felt so connected to people before. My whole life I've felt alone and could never really understand why. When I was younger I made all my best friends and still have them now but I am having so much trouble getting close to...
    sdrake491 sdrake491 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 6, 2012

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    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

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    I Desire Infj Friends

    I believe them to be the best friends. ENFJs are fantastic too. I've taken the Myers-Briggs exam three times. Once in High School and twice in college. I came out as an INFJ all three times. I love being one. Although it is frustrating that people just don't understand...
    mused mused 21-25, F 10 Responses Dec 17, 2007

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    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork 36-40, F 15 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    What I Wished I Had Learned 20 Years Ago

    I am an INFJ and I wanted to share what I wish someone had told me 20 years ago. 1. An INFJ is only 1 to 2% of the population consequently stop wasting energy on trying to get 98% of the people to understand you.  Its a waste of your energy. The energy is better spent making...
    Peregrin Peregrin 51-55, M 66 Responses Oct 21, 2007

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    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F Feb 21, 2014

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    Have you ever felt this way ?

    ! 2 years ago i had two bestfriends, i always ignored my feelings & needs just to satisfy theirs (typicall INFJ). then one day i just stoped it !!! i terminated my friendship with them. i was deppressed & lonely because of that for more than 1 year, but some monthes ago i stoped...
    AmirBlackStar AmirBlackStar 18-21, M 4 Responses Nov 7, 2014

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    I'm not sure if this is just me

    or if other INFJ's are the same way... But basically I feel like I give off a bad first impression to most people because of my quietness. I think I unintentionally give mean/bad/judging looks to others and along with my quietness this probably makes me appear unapproachable...
    cutemuffin524 cutemuffin524 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    I struggle with this personality type I have.

    I consider it a blessing though to have it, oddly enough. I just feel insecure. Not about my looks (well sometimes), but my personality. I feel like I'm weird. And not like an "it's okay to be weird" or "odd-weird", but an annoying weird. I don't personally know any other...
    graciestacy graciestacy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    I took a personality test online

    and this is what i got :D apparently I am rare!
    PsychologyNerd PsychologyNerd 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    About INFJ And Reading People

    A guy on INTJ forum recently asked someone with INFJ personality type to describe the INFJ process of reading other people's personalities, so here it goes. As an INFJ, I am a brutal people reader. I do it naturally and automatically, without even thinking about it or being aware...
    IrenaShav IrenaShav 26-30, F 11 Responses Jan 3, 2011

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    Breakdown of preferences: Mind - Introverted

    (16%), Energy - Intuitive (13%), Nature - Feeling (21%), Tactics - Judging (3%), Identity - Turbulent (9%). The INFJ type is believed to be very rare (less than 1 percent of the population) and has an unusual set of traits. Even though their presence can be described as very...
    DanBurnett DanBurnett 16-17, M 3 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore 41-45 21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

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    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn 31-35, M 20 Responses Jul 19, 2007

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    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 7 Responses Feb 9, 2008

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    I recently read an interesting post regarding

    how INFJs are able to form an understanding of other people's personalities at EP Link However, the method by which I understand people is more than just drawing from a huge vortex of knowledge that shrinks as I keep repainting parts to reveal a more clear image of a person's...
    Lorence10 Lorence10 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 12

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    Well I took the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type

    Indicator) and while I'm not so sure on how accurate the test really is the results seem to be pretty spot on for me, indicating that I am an INFJ. INFJ's are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 4

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    When I talk to people

    for even a short time I learn much more about them they know. A slight tilt of their head or a tiny smirk and I can tell if they are smug, sincere, etc. despite their words. I am a great pretender... I may have discovered a darker person than i thought but i don't let them know...
    Thia999 Thia999 56-60, F 3 Responses Feb 26, 2014

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    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 19, 2007

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    The rarest personality in the world.

    We are a piece of a puzzle that will never fit. Misunderstood greatly and lost in an imaginary world. Forever dreaming of a perfect existence that can never be.
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 13

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    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m 26-30, M 21 Responses Dec 25, 2007

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    Infj And Heightened Sensitivity

    I'm not ashamed to wear the INFJ badge. I enjoy the advantages that heightened sensitivity offers me even though society shames these gentler, more refined masculine traits. Sadly, even empathetic women are duped into believing society's rough-tough-and-ready ideal and they...
    iNtuitiveFEeling iNtuitiveFEeling 51-55, M 4 Responses Sep 29, 2011

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    Empathy to the max; random,

    deeply profound intuition/insight ... ALL DAY ... every single day ... oftentimes results in mental AND physical exhaustion that can't be explained to anyone.
    assumedID2015 assumedID2015 31-35, F 3 Responses Jan 14

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    Nursing and INFJ ... ?

    ?? I'm about to graduate Nursing School in May. I have to admit, I am scared to death that my Ni tied in with my Fe are going to make this a very difficult path for me. I only recently discovered that I am, in fact, an INFJ in every sense of the definition. What are your...
    assumedID2015 assumedID2015 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 14

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    Does anyone else just feel absolutely enraged

    by the general population? The amount of absurd stupidity that I have seen in so many people is getting hard to take. For example: I see so many people doing the ALS Ice bucket challenge, without donating, without knowing what the disease is, and calling themselves...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181 22-25 4 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 7, 2014

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    I Used To Think I Was Special...

    That i had a rare form of mental powers of observation... but after taking the personality test i found that i'm one in a 100. so for every 100 people there's another one like me... it's nice to know there are so may of us even if we are the rarest of all personalities :D i think...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    When I discovered I was an INFJ I felt like the

    "riddle" of me was beginning to have some answers. I've realized truths about myself that I believe make me stronger and more complete in myself. That being said, the sensitivity is overwhelming... To the point where any negative energy at all makes me heartsick and completely...
    EmG923 EmG923 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 15

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    Once I found out I am an INFJ I started doing

    some research. Even though INFJs are rare, I am so happy to know that there are actually people in the world who think like me. I feel almost . . . normal. lol
    akamissw akamissw 31-35, F 2 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    Wow there is a groupvfor this,

    people like me. INFJ is rare but few understand our sympathy, shyness, heart, creativity, and sensitivity.
    Lovelife090994 Lovelife090994 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 11

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    So many of my kind here,

    wow. I presume they are here to help others with problems too hmm. Well brothers and sisters, you are doing a great service to the ones who're lost, thank you.
    IntrovertCat IntrovertCat 13-15, M 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am an INFJ personality type.

    People with my personality make up 1% of the population. Making it the rarest personality. I hope maybe I can find somebody who enjoys the same things I do... I like watching movies: I like Thrillers, I love Writing and Drawing. I play 3 musical instruments, speak 2 languages...
    elenanicole elenanicole 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy 51-55, M 8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

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    The Dreaded Phone

    Another infj I know asked a very interesting question. How do you react when you hear the phone ringing? Well, that question hit home. I can feel my body subtly tense up when the phone rings. This is not a new thing either...I have never really been a phone person. Sometimes...
    warmglow warmglow 46-50, F 26 Responses Feb 28, 2008

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