I Am An Infj

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    Good Morning INFJs! I was thinking this morning

    (when don't we? :D) how I wish this current reality had more INFJs in it. We are rare and can you imagine a world with more of us? Yes, there would be more feelings expressed but there would be more care and sensitivity and a whole lot of people wanting (and making) a better...
    Elysiannn Elysiannn
    56-60, F
    6 Responses Jun 5, 2015

    This group is by far my favorite.

    While reading through some of the experiences here, I have wondered what it would be like to have a friend of like mind - a fellow INFJ? (or maybe 2?...that is a stretch lol). I think it would be comforting to finally feel a sense of being understood, without having to use too...
    SoftCandle SoftCandle
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 13

    Do you sometimes just stay in

    for a week or two and do nothing, not even watching shows your behind on because there's something you need to do. You have alot of time to do it but you wait for as long as you can. You want to be with friends and they want to be with you but you just wait and wait. I've been...
    lilbabsindahouse lilbabsindahouse
    13-15, M
    1 Response Oct 31, 2015

    The Infj Dating Bible

    Taken from:http://modalitiesofexistence.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/infj-dating-bible-or-how-to-date-an-infj/ INFJs are, by definition, rare, reserved, and unlikely to initiate anything, which means that many of them can end up alone and misunderstood. To help with things, I’ve...
    ThisWomansWork ThisWomansWork
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Oct 11, 2011

    What do you do when you're feeling stressed?

    What makes you feel taken care of? I'm not an Infj, but my friend is. He ends up taking care of everbody besides himself and gets really stressed. How can I help him when this happens? Most of all, how can I take care of him?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 14

    Meeting Another Infj

    I am brand new to this site and I love it! I've never felt so connected to people before. My whole life I've felt alone and could never really understand why. When I was younger I made all my best friends and still have them now but I am having so much trouble getting close to...
    sdrake491 sdrake491
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Nov 6, 2012

    I have an internal battle between the little

    girl and the woman. The girl thinks he is perfect, he is flawless. The woman, however, is saying "this isn't going to work out, it's not going to last long" ... She just can't tell me why.
    Trippy01 Trippy01
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 20

    I just found out that I am an INFJ.

    When I realized that we make up only 1-2% of the world's population, I wanted to cry. 1-Because holy **** I'm not completely crazy and there are other people like me. 2-The chances of me actually meeting another INFJ are pretty slim. I'm in a serious relationship with an INTP...
    BabyBirdee BabyBirdee
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 6, 2015

    I'll Always Be a Social Retard

    I think I always will be.  I function really well at work, or with my family. But around others my age in social environments I just don't do well. I can fake it, but I hate faking anything. Unless topics are about something I can really get into, and unless its a small...
    chpdsgn chpdsgn
    31-35, M
    20 Responses Jul 19, 2007

    What I Wished I Had Learned 20 Years Ago

    I am an INFJ and I wanted to share what I wish someone had told me 20 years ago. 1. An INFJ is only 1 to 2% of the population consequently stop wasting energy on trying to get 98% of the people to understand you.  Its a waste of your energy. The energy is better spent making...
    Peregrin Peregrin
    51-55, M
    65 Responses Oct 21, 2007

    The rarest personality in the world.

    We are a piece of a puzzle that will never fit. Misunderstood greatly and lost in an imaginary world. Forever dreaming of a perfect existence that can never be.
    Ghostprojection Ghostprojection
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 13, 2015

    Hello fellow feelers.

    I want to bring a challenge of positivity and light to the forefront of this feed, today. As we know, humans are inherently relational and dialogous creatures; all absorbing, synthesizing and reflecting the inputs and energies of each other. In that right, everything we do...
    AndWeMerelyPlayers AndWeMerelyPlayers
    22-25
    Dec 7, 2015

    I get mad whenever people say things about me

    that are not true. it's not that I need their approval. I'm okay with you saying horrible things about me as long as it's true. I know infjs want to be understood and I wonder why.
    friedchickenwing friedchickenwing
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 10

    This explains so much about me.

    Now I know why I just don't feel like I fit in anywhere, like I can't find someone like me that I can relate to. There’s only one percent of the entire population with my personality type? Wow! I always knew I was a rarity in the emotional sense, but this is a little extreme...
    lostinthevoid lostinthevoid
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Oct 7, 2014

    hey a question to the infjs?

    hey infjs,how introspective are you in general,like how absent minded are you?,give a percentage?
    chadisback chadisback
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Mar 18

    I think my personality was shaped by my

    circumstances. I got locked up at a young age and as as result nevame very introverted. I wonder if our lives shape our personalities.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    Good Resources For Infj

    I was trying to decide whether I had INFJ or INFP preferences -- or maybe INTJ, because I've gotten those results sometimes too. What really helped me were these two resources: www.INFJ.com www.INFJorINFP.com I feel like I understand myself soooo much better now, especially...
    Sarasvati Sarasvati
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 19, 2007

    It would be so great to find a friend

    that is also an INFJ... Or even an IN .... But it is so difficult... I mean I live in a city with millions of people but it seems like a mission... Either way I think we should look at how good it can be to be an INFJ... Lots of love
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 16

    I sort of loving being an INFJ,

    even though it can be a blessing and a curse..and somewhat lonely and misunderstood. We're unique though and that is a good trait to have.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Nov 22, 2014

    Are You Like Me?

    Today I took the Meyer Briggs personality test I am still soaking in all of the information. It was so much to take in, such an epiphany of thoughts I overwhelmed myself. Today I went into a full anxiety attack, I had been free of them for a few months. The fear I experienced...
    thegoodwitch3 thegoodwitch3
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Oct 13, 2013

    to all you infjs please take this test

    and give your percentages https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test and all infjs add me on skype please chadvan5 this place is closing soon
    heybabby heybabby
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 30

    So at this point, I'm aware

    that many of us (in this Experience group) will encounter a trap set of sorts - just for using the Internet. On other social media, we are seen - not heard. In the open public, it is the same concept for some of us, due to our rare percentage in the world population. I...
    DiamondPrincess89 DiamondPrincess89
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 24

    I sometimes cry With no reasons

    or With minor reasons or With movies or songs or become too focus on details need TO stop That (INFJ none Si Se)
    vivianescrooge vivianescrooge
    22-25
    Apr 4

    Well I took the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type

    Indicator) and while I'm not so sure on how accurate the test really is the results seem to be pretty spot on for me, indicating that I am an INFJ. INFJ's are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    I'm an INFJ. Things I've noticed about myself

    (so far) 1.A lot of time when I am passionately angry and my point is not understood I cry 2. Everyone even if they don't like me (which I quite common) want to tell me their secrets. It's great. 3. I like everything to be organized and have a spot but when things get messy I...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 21, 2014

    My name is holly, I am an INFJ,

    and my best friend has died. What do I do?
    Amaunet Amaunet
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    Most people seem a bit surprised by how much I

    think about things. life honestly feels like a philosophy to me. I spend lots of time thinking about ways to better myself. Other people seem so predictable to me.
    Stephenwashere92 Stephenwashere92
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 11, 2015

    Indecisive is really bad

    for the self! This is a part of me that i need TO sort out and im recovering from it! Im so thrilled ~~~
    vivianescrooge vivianescrooge
    22-25
    1 Response Apr 4

    Loves/Hates

    I love . . . . . . being in comfortable silence with someone I love. . . . Kermit the Frog. . . . blustery days when the sky goes dark and there are creatures in the clouds. . . . contrast.  The cosiness of the warmly lit house on a bitter cold day. The surprise...
    Pellinore Pellinore
    41-45
    21 Responses Jan 11, 2008

    Life as an INFJ: 1. You are an Old Soul 2.

    You wonder why people are idiots 3. You want to save idiots, but they have to have will to do so. 4. You notice everything. EVERYTHING!! 5. You are aware of your surroundings. 6. You instantly have insight into a person's life story by just observing or talking to them, even if...
    JuanaChange JuanaChange
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Oct 18, 2015

    Honestly reading all this other posts makes me

    annoyed. I'm frustrated with the "We feel more than any other type" and the "We are so misunderstood" and the "I feel like I was alone until now". Now it's really not the fact that this is what people are saying but it's that fact that this is the only ting people are posting...
    DietCoke6587 DietCoke6587
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 30

    I've had trouble relating to people

    since I was a child. What made it even more confusing was that I understood people innately, their motivations, their needs, and I care for everyone so deeply, yet I've always struggled to form a connection with others. I expected people to understand me as easily as I...
    michaelfink michaelfink
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2015

    I can be super obsessive.

    Like people or things I really like or situations that really angered me often sit in the fore of my mind. And with situations from the past that really pissed me off, I can hold on to it for years.
    friedchickenwing friedchickenwing
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 11

    I need help I am a very introverted person

    (INFJ) and I feel like my whole introversion has taking over my life. The fact is, I want to be able to get out and socialize with other people. But whenever I try to, everything stands still in my head. I wanna say something but I can't think of a thing to say. And I feel like...
    melodydarling melodydarling
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jan 8

    U am always so full of emotions.

    my head is always fill of thought. sometimes I get a rush of emotion like all will be ok. Then it passes and I can go down again. This is my cycle though. And I have learned so much and come so far. Had to vent. Had to get it out !
    TearsWW TearsWW
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 20

    I guess I'm an INFJ. I'm

    both proud and a bit aggrivated at the same time. I'm incredibly proud because essentially, INFJ's like myself want to save the world. We care tirelessly for people and long for meaning in ourlives. That's great and all, but why is this so rare? I want to dedicate my life to...
    ArchaicBlossom ArchaicBlossom
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 21, 2014

    I get tired of feeling like everyone around me

    is draining my life force... Like I give and give validation, love, acceptance... And then am forgotten about once their needs are met; Everyone from strangers to my husband. Makes everything feel so much more lonely and me very drained and overwhelmed. What do you guys do as...
    Th3MamaWolf Th3MamaWolf
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 17

    Hello my fellow INFJs!

    I just discovered this group and I am happy it even exists! I am pleased to be an INFJ and happy to be among others of this rare personality type.
    SoftCandle SoftCandle
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 3

    I hate that I always feel every action,

    thought, emotion, or intention is misunderstood... And that when I speak passionately about things it is mistaken for anger. I hate that people look at me and decide who I am when no one ever takes the time to truly know me, why I do what I do, or say the things I say. I hate...
    Th3MamaWolf Th3MamaWolf
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Apr 16

    Solitary Figures, Escapists, Dreamers...

    To be an INFJ is a mixed bag.  INFJs are graced with amazing powers of insight and intuition.  We have expansive imaginations and can see things most others cannot.  We can read other people like books, and know when we are being fooled.  We are spiritualists...
    Seraph1m Seraph1m
    26-30, M
    19 Responses Dec 25, 2007

    I wish I could make a friend

    who experiences the world the way I do; they don't have to be exactly like me, but I would like someone who relates to my emotional and philosophical life experiences.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 15

    I took a personality test recently on "16

    personalities" just because I was bored and I was looking for some entertainment. My result was INFJ. When I actually read the details, it was quite disconcerting how accurate it described me. It told me things about myself that were completely true but I'd never really even...
    AliBali123 AliBali123
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 3, 2015

    The internal conflict of wanting to help

    humanity while also being absolutely disgusted by it. How can there possibly be so much hatred and cruel indifference in the world? Why is humanity always looking for new ways to categorize people into groups that are violently opposed to one and other? We should not be so...
    Katiebug181 Katiebug181
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 29, 2014

    "I'm a paradox. I want to be happy

    but I think of things that make me sad. I'm lazy, yet I'm ambitious. I don't like myself, but I love who I am. I say I don't care, but really I do. I crave attention, but reject it when it comes my way. I'm a conflicted contradiction if I can't figure myself out, there's no way...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Sep 4, 2015

    I read that less than 1% of the population has

    this personality type. Maybe that is why I am so easily misunderstood.
    ErraticSarcastic ErraticSarcastic
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    Solitude and the Infj

    This is my favorite quote... "It is not the physical solitude that actually separates one from others; not physical isolation but spiritual isolation. It's not the desert island nor the stony wilderness that cuts you from people you love. It is the wilderness in the mind...
    warmglow warmglow
    46-50, F
    7 Responses Feb 9, 2008

    As an INFJ, I feel both connected

    and disconnected to the world: I feel as I feel both like an observer and participant in the woes my peers face. It's quite the paradox, but it is a part of the "different" quality, I feel as an INFJ. We are walking oceans: profound, vibrant, mysterious, and beloved. I am proud...
    UubrixLila UubrixLila
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 6, 2014

    I felt the presence of someone very far away.

    Clear as day, I saw their face. Went to touch it and they ran away.
    AndWeMerelyPlayers AndWeMerelyPlayers
    22-25
    Dec 26, 2015
    DutchieVera DutchieVera
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Dec 7, 2015

    An Anecdotal Piece Into The Mind Of An INFJ

    Personality. I'd like to share my experience of having an INFJ personality within the context of the art of driving, because I feel it beautifully illustrates this highly complex & oftentimes misunderstood personalities. For most, driving is a simple task that requires...
    Missluhvlee Missluhvlee
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 6

    Being an INFJ from Africa is quite challenging.

    In as much as most INFJ personalities often feel misunderstood, for me it's to a heightened extent. I feel like I do not belong. Everywhere I look, everything is all wrong, people ignore what I see as major problems, people don't care for preciseness and perfection which are...
    RealRee RealRee
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 24

    The Perilous Journey of the Idealist

    It will soon be 20 years since the first time I was assessed the Myers-Briggs "sorter" for the first time, and the results showed me to be an INFJ. I was in a work situation, and it was "professionally" done, by someone who was licensed to explain and counsel...
    Denmarkguy Denmarkguy
    51-55, M
    8 Responses Dec 27, 2007

    I grew up wondering: Why It was

    so easy for me to understand people but they couldn't understand me. Why I didn't like talking on the telephone like other teenage girls, but writing letters was awesome (before the email age). Why I knew things others were skeptical about. Why I cried. All. The. Time...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow
    31-35, F
    12 Responses Aug 7, 2014

    I think somebody has been watching me all my

    life, logging every detail of my personality, then one day just decided "we'll call that INFJ". I never would have thought that a personality profile could be so damn accurate. It's funny to the point where it's almost scary! :P
    juln juln
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

    Anyone have trouble at work

    because of INFJ personality traits? My boss called me into a meeting with my manager to discuss my personality. I not rude, lazy, mean, or irresponsible, so what was the problem? "People just can't figure you out." I like to eat alone cuz at my job I have to interact with...
    kg54933 kg54933
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 18, 2015

    Introverted, Intuitive,

    Feeling, Judging. At least, according to the 70-question version of the Meyers Briggs Type Indicator that I took online today. This personality is called the "Confidant" and also the "Advocate". Which personality type are you? Follow this link, answer the questions, and find...
    TeresaRudolph71 TeresaRudolph71
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    Glazed eyes gazed upon forgotten days,

    dazed, and Truth spoke plainly from the Soul of that Place, "You've sacrificed yourself too many times, many ways. Far too many times to remember that Place. Now to this place, you fall, altogether unfazed. Wake. Wake from the haze of a life set ablaze." I know, they reply. And...
    AndWeMerelyPlayers AndWeMerelyPlayers
    22-25
    Feb 4

    Introverted doesn't mean reclusive.

    It merely denotes the state in which you primarily gather your energy! Remember that. Live and love your life with no excuses!
    AndWeMerelyPlayers AndWeMerelyPlayers
    22-25
    1 Response Jan 12

    INFJ is the rarest of the personalities

    and only accounts for 2% of people. Here’s a little glimspe into who we are and what we feel.....We love to be there for others, we see things no one else sees and we think, A LOT, About everything. We’re complicated and quiet. And if you think you can pinpoint who...
    NewBeginnings77 NewBeginnings77
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Mar 5, 2015
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