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I Am An Introvert

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    My life as an introvert

    "Yes, I'm an introvert. No, I'm not shy. No, I'm not stuck up. No, I'm not antisocial. I'm just listening, I'm just observing. I can't stand small talk, But I'll talk about life for hours. I'd rather be home with a close friend or two Than among a big crowd of acquaintances...
    WillowedLady WillowedLady 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    The opposite of small talk!

    This is such a great video. I love this idea. I have decided that when talking to people, especially random people, I will ask bigger questions instead of "How are you?" http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/22/small-talk-big-question-kalina-silverman_n_5863580.html I am...
    ghostofacheerfulowl ghostofacheerfulowl 36-40, F 5 days ago

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    All this time alone has caused my imagination

    to expand so great that my imagination now seems like reality. I can create a story in my mind and suddenly it becomes a very vivid memory.......
    lostdream4 lostdream4 18-21, M 4 Responses Sep 15

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    So I just noticed that EP classifies "I Am An

    Introvert" into "Personality Disorders"... Time for all the Introverts to revolt, me thinks! Oh heck, who cares, can't be bothered etc... :p
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    ...because I rant not,

    neither rave of what I feel, can you be so shallow as to dream that I feel nothing? ” “I was the nicest person you'd ever want to know," Alex recalls, "but the world wasn't that way. The problem was that if you were just a nice person, you'd get crushed. I refused to live...
    Bumblebeat Bumblebeat 66-70, F 1 Response Sep 17

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    I cannot do small talk--I've gotten better

    because I've been practicing. But I usually connect better with those who are willing to talk about deeper things in life.
    thethirdknot thethirdknot 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 16

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    My sisters wanted me

    and the kids to go to this fall festival today, so I grudgingly agreed, because I want to see my kids a good time, and I want to try and be apart of those times. This was NOT what I was expecting at all! It was in the parking lot of a tavern. I'm sorry, but you shouldn't be...
    mmissy1012 mmissy1012 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    There are many misconceptions about introverts

    I would like to take this opportunity to explain some facts about us. According to estimates, extraverts outnumber introverts by about three to one. Introverts often find that other people try to change them or even suggest that there is something "wrong" with them. Nothing...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 10 Responses Mar 5

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    I like meeting people

    and interacting with them. But I hate social occasions because , I feel compelled to talk deeply with them but only get to talk to them superficially and that leaves me feeling guilty .
    nautilusX nautilusX 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 17

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    You are just perfect way you are ,

    I would be proud to call you my bf /lol
    Humter1 Humter1 16-17, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    I don’t feel the need to go out a lot,

    be among lots of people the whole day and doing so usually wears me down. I don’t mind spending a lot of time on my own and I have no trouble keeping myself entertained while I do so. That doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy social interactions. I’m a human being and we are...
    TheGreatLeveler TheGreatLeveler 22-25, M 20 Responses Apr 5

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    I am an introvert which makes it hard to find a

    girlfriend or let alone make friends. I have a small group of friends that consists of 3 guys which I consider my brothers but that's it. Been to clubs but in all honesty it was way to draining to be there I hated it plus you gotta be sexy to be apart of the club life I'm just...
    lostdream4 lostdream4 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 9

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    I recently discovered I am an introvert I

    always thought I was extroverted because when people come around I am "on" which is a symptom of the introverted and until recently was news to me. I become exhausted and worn out by people and I need my time and space in comfortable places to reconnect and gather myself. I'm...
    LastofmyKind LastofmyKind 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    I am an introvert and I love myself

    that way. This mean that a big amount of people and parties drain me out, so yea I better select drinking wine with myself or my small amount of friends. Cause lets be honest there cant be any big amount of friends . I do like reading books, visiting galleries, museums and if...
    Serpensss Serpensss 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 3

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    10 Myths And Facts About Introverts!

    Myths and Facts about Introverts Myth 1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t stop for days...
    anya1212 anya1212 26-30, F 33 Responses May 31, 2013

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    i wish more people understood about introverts.

    I always get asked all these questions. No, I'm not anti social, I'm not a loner, i have friends and sometimes i go out and i do things. I've always been the quiet type, i like to observe, I'm cautious and i listen. i speak when i have to and people don't understand that. I...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 11

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    Human interaction flattens my emotions,

    but for most people it's probably the other way round. If I spend a week alone I can laugh, cry, be angry and depressed all I want without anyone judging me, but with people around I feel numb all the time spending all time acting interested and kind.
    powdercoatedhamster powdercoatedhamster 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 15

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    The Gift Of Introversion

    “The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” ― Aldous Huxley Some people have a negative view of introverted people. They view them as aloof, too serious, arrogant, rude, morose, antisocial, or awkward. I am...
    kiansi kiansi 46-50, F 13 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    I have always been an introvert,

    which was somewhat of a problem for me in school. I hated when teachers forced me to group up with others for projects. I was the quiet one who preferred to work alone. My classmates all seemed to think that I was a weird, awkward loner. Really, I just didn't have much in common...
    ImaginaryAlchemist ImaginaryAlchemist 18-21, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    I know this is a bit,

    you know, but I feel like introverts are misunderstood by most people so I thought I'd post the top 10 myths about introverts. I'm a shy introvert btw. I got this list online so these are not my words Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts...
    LFCno1 LFCno1 22-25, M 10 Responses Jul 15

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    Why Me?

    Why do I have to be so introverted? I wish I could change this about myself. I am so introverted that I don't hear people when they talk to me. I am so deep in thought all the time that I am unaware of my surroundings. Yeah it's normal to get that way sometimes when you have alot...
    vicarious1 vicarious1 36-40, F 25 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    10 Myths And Facts About Introverts!

    Myths and Facts about Introverts Myth 1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t stop for days...
    alexgabriel alexgabriel 22-25, M 7 Responses Jun 26

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    From the time we start school,

    and even before, we are made painfully aware that being outgoing is prized and being introverted is somehow the inferior, even shameful, opposite. Our schools and workplaces are designed for (and dazzled by) extroverts and their need for attention and stimulation. Group work...
    bast1 bast1 56-60, F 11 Responses Jul 18

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    Eye Contact.

    is it just me fellow inni's? i can't remember a time i held eye contact with anybody but my kids... i have two theories for myself.. A. i subconsiously think the person will see my dis-intrest in their rant. B. i can't look at 2 eyes at the same time, i look at one eye back...
    TheOneyouwerewarnedabout TheOneyouwerewarnedabout 70+ 38 Responses Mar 30, 2012

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    I like to laugh with people,

    go to football games, and even have sleepovers, but after a while it's time for me to recharge- alone.
    picses2222 picses2222 13-15, F 3 Responses Sep 11

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    Confessions Of A Loner

    Hi. I am Loner. Have you ever noticed the student at the far corner trying not to get noticed? Yeah, the one who walks the hallway and you never saw anyone walking one foot from him? That's me, Loner. People think I'm anti-social. People think I'm proud and condescending. Maybe a...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 13 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    First off, I want to apologize

    for the length of this text. I'm a 23 year old mixed race, lesbian female who grew up in Singapore - which is known for being racially cliquish and conservative still, despite being one of the most modern cities in the world. Thus, growing up, I was practically a lost soul...
    lucidxacid lucidxacid 22-25, F 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Screening Calls: the Privilege of An Introvert

    I am an introvert who has come to self-acceptance.  In my twenties, I used to force myself to be social because I thought my desire to be alone came from an unhealthy place--you know, like depression or "wanting to isolate to avoid something."  I was fortunate...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest 51-55, F 55 Responses May 4, 2009

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    We are so misunderstood.

    The funny thing about introverts is once they feel comfortable with you, they can be the funniest, most enjoyable people to be around. It's like a secret they feel comfortable sharing with you. Except the secret is their personality.
    tarara0414 tarara0414 18-21, F 39 Responses Mar 4

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    Seriously, my supervisor makes me feel 'this'

    small and stupid😶 just because i' quiet, doesn't mean i'm stupid...or maybe i am😒
    Mercury90 Mercury90 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Being around people is

    so draining! I hate crowds and noise, can only bear it upto a certain limit. I dont like socialising much either and so dont have many friends. But I like deep meaningful conversations with the few close friends I have. And lots of time, I love sitting with long silences, no...
    intothedarknesss intothedarknesss 22-25, F 16 Responses May 3

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    I don't remember being

    and introvert back in elementary school.
    Tylerwy Tylerwy 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 11

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    I'M Weirdly Introverted

    I am comfortable, at ease, energized, enthusiastic and funny when I am teaching or speaking to a group of people, regardless of their age, background, etc.... But when it comes to making casual conversation one-to-one or in a small group setting, even with the same people who I...
    aFloridaBeachMan aFloridaBeachMan 51-55, M 26 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    I am a naturally quiet

    and closed off person, I rarely open up to anyone. This seems to irritate people and they end up losing their patience with me. I can't help being complicated, that's just the way I am. You either accept my introverted way's or move along.
    Thinking0utLoud Thinking0utLoud 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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      I am creating an app to help people

    make REAL new friends (unlike Facebook and other social media). In a world with far too much social isolation, there is a great need for this product: particularly for introverts. As a social scientist, I am designing the logic, measures and variables behind the platform...
    nytexas nytexas 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 15

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    An interesting story with the best explanation

    of shy and introverted that I've ever heard. http://playfullytacky.com/2014/07/16/things-you-should-know-about-introverts/
    Cherbelle Cherbelle 41-45, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It's hard to be friends with extroverts.

    It feels like I can't catch up to them since I easily get tired of talking. And most of them don't like the idea of silence between conversations and as they break it, I die on the inside. Can't you give me a break?
    deduction deduction 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 21

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    People Don'T Know It Because I Don'T Show It

    But I am most definitely an introvert. I learned early in life that the U.S. society doesn't value introverts, and so, by the time I was ten, I had decided to wear a mask around others. Then, if they didn't like me, it wasn't really me they disliked. That's a child's thinking...
    FlowersNButterflies FlowersNButterflies 51-55, F 20 Responses May 29, 2013

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    Being introverted makes everything harder.

    Before I completely grew into my personalty I had tons of friends. I didn't really need to think about my actions and words as much as I feel like I do now. Everything is harder when people expect you to be outgoing. Talking to someone too often that I do not fully like can be...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F 19 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    We can be misunderstood

    and we are fine with that. The thing about introverts, is once they feel comfortable with you, they can be the most caring, fun, creative, intelligent, beautiful people to know. It's not aloof, but if you think we are, it's ok, if we don't like you. If we do, we will share who...
    shen8 shen8 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 1

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    The thing is, human interactions fascinate me.

    I like being around groups of people, but only so I can observe and watch. I want to be on the fringe taking in the mood, the turns in the conversation, anticipating what someone will say, laughing at the sarcasm others miss, wondering what certain people in the group are...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 12 Responses Jun 29

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    I wish more people were introverted.

    Or at least not so chatty. You don't need to talk non stop to communicate well. I know some introverts like chatty friends, because it takes pressure of, we don't have to talk as much. But to me it's overwhelming. I like some silence. I like being inside my head. I...
    Enthropy Enthropy 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 9

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    I am working as a snowcone maker

    for now to save up for college. There is so much interaction with random, rude, and overly excited people my energy drains within seconds of talking to them.......thus I have created my own little corner spot to stay hidden until a customer comes to create less communication...
    lostdream4 lostdream4 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    When I go to a store in my hometown

    and see someone from high school (I graduated 18 years ago) that I knew, I either pretend that I don't see them or that I don't recognize them because I hate small talk and can't stop this feeling of dread and annoyance from forming in the pit of my stomach. Even if they were a...
    fishbone2000 fishbone2000 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 9

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    I am the shy girl, the quiet girl,

    the "why don't you ever talk?" girl... honestly I could live without people saying that, not to mention I've heard it a million times. I used to get bullied/harassed in high school for being quiet. I never thought I was quiet, but apparently I am....and it's totally weird...
    bohobridget bohobridget 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 23

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    Ok. I just want to say this to anyone reading

    this. If you add me and I add you don't take it personally if I don't respond at all or right away. I'm a super introvert and don't like being on EP all the time. It really drains me to talk to so many people. I get my energy from being with a few people or by myself. I'll do my...
    Marysone Marysone 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 10

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    I have a lovely little superpower I like to

    call "ghost mode". (I'm sure, I share that one with a lot of introverts.) That's when I go invisible in a group of people by not speaking too much and deliberately keeping myself on the outskirts of their socializing. Listening. I record almost every detail... What they look...
    Sorfarina Sorfarina 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 9

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    I love the deep conversations

    that mean something; where I learn about someone or something. Who cares about the small talk? I leave that to the extroverts. If I don't say hello or goodbye, I am not being rude, I just see that everyone else is engaged in something else and I do not feel that interrupting...
    HavingFun2 HavingFun2 36-40, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    theanja1 theanja1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    People say I'm an introvert

    but I'm very outgoing and not afraid to sing in front of people or volunteer. I've had a rough life and I'm not popular so people may think this.
    Aepeth Aepeth 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 21

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    Am a university student

    and am extremely introverted. I have like zero friends and am not close with any of my family members, most of them just think am weird or sort of proud because am quiet. It so painful being lonely all the time, I even tried killing myself and also running away unsuccessfully...
    ranjian0 ranjian0 18-21, M 4 Responses Sep 20

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    Here's a question to all the introverts.

    Practically all job offers list requirements such as "team player", "outgoing", "good interpersonal skills" and as an introvert I feel petrified even reading those words, I don't want to spend the rest of my life trying to pretend to be someone I'm not. But seeing that the...
    Steppenwolff Steppenwolff 26-30, F 24 Responses 5 days ago

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    Growing up as an only child,

    and a latch key kid has made me very comfortable being alone. In fact, too many people make me anxious and grumpy. I guess I'm an introvert, and I'm fine being labeled as such. I can socialize, but I'm also capable of being alone with my thoughts and my dogs for...well...
    rottenrobi rottenrobi 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 13

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