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I Am An Introvert

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    I am very much so an introvert.

    I hate how people don't get this, and I hate how people say you can't be both shy and introverted. My mother is an extrovert so we can't relate socially. I have little to no friends offline and I am so shy to meet people. Honestly crowds make me nervous, tired, and at...
    Lovelife090994 Lovelife090994 18-21, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Eye Contact.

    is it just me fellow inni's? i can't remember a time i held eye contact with anybody but my kids... i have two theories for myself.. A. i subconsiously think the person will see my dis-intrest in their rant. B. i can't look at 2 eyes at the same time, i look at one eye back...
    TheOneyouwerewarnedabout TheOneyouwerewarnedabout 70+ 39 Responses Mar 30, 2012

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    Being around people is

    so draining! I hate crowds and noise, can only bear it upto a certain limit. I dont like socialising much either and so dont have many friends. But I like deep meaningful conversations with the few close friends I have. And lots of time, I love sitting with long silences, no...
    intothedarknesss intothedarknesss 22-25, F 17 Responses May 3

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    theanja1 theanja1 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    give the opportunity,

    just crack the window and i will be out of the spotlight in the blink of an eye. i would rather missa function altogether than be there out of an obigation and be racked with anxiety
    trailsonrails trailsonrails 51-55, M 1 Response Aug 17

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    Hey there!! How r u doin ?

    People what do you do to cheer up when u r feeling really low down...
    marinaina marinaina 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    This is a copy of an article written by Diane

    Cameron in the Christian Science Monitor on Jan 2nd 2008. She said everything that I want to say about being an Introvert quite perfectly. I have photocopied this and have it displayed in my kitchen so people can see it. Here it is : "Ahh; January 2nd. The day that introverts...
    wraithorn wraithorn 41-45, M 4 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    i wish more people understood about introverts.

    I always get asked all these questions. No, I'm not anti social, I'm not a loner, i have friends and sometimes i go out and i do things. I've always been the quiet type, i like to observe, I'm cautious and i listen. i speak when i have to and people don't understand that. I...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 11

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    I'M Weirdly Introverted

    I am comfortable, at ease, energized, enthusiastic and funny when I am teaching or speaking to a group of people, regardless of their age, background, etc.... But when it comes to making casual conversation one-to-one or in a small group setting, even with the same people who I...
    aFloridaBeachMan aFloridaBeachMan 51-55, M 26 Responses Jun 15, 2013

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    ...so life's social situations can be a

    challenge at times. Still, if I were an extrovert I doubt I would show much empathy toward those who are quiet, shy, and/or "different". I accept that.
    northofsaturn northofsaturn 46-50, M 4 days ago

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    The Gift Of Introversion

    “The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude.” ― Aldous Huxley Some people have a negative view of introverted people. They view them as aloof, too serious, arrogant, rude, morose, antisocial, or awkward. I am...
    kiansi kiansi 46-50, F 13 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Spare me the empty conversations.

    Has anyone ever had any luck getting an empty conversation to become more real and substantial? Even online this is difficult, and it seems it would be easier with the written word (time to think, consider, type). I find someone interesting and initiate a conversation but all...
    ghostofacheerfulowl ghostofacheerfulowl 36-40, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I sometimes feel like I disappoint my friends

    because I have to withdraw or say no to participating in certain events. And I have some friends who talk SO MUCH that to be around them for more than an hour wears me out. Ugh!
    Katertoten Katertoten 46-50, F 3 Responses Aug 17

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    I was trying to explain/find out

    if someone was an introvert in a pinch recently, and this was first thing I could get my hands on. Of course, it's not even normed, which got me curious how accurate or useful it is. Anybody introvert-feeling want to take a shot at how well they or other introverts they know...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    A friend of mine once said "I don't like going

    to the same hairdresser because they keep wanting to talk to me" I can relate.
    Lebby11 Lebby11 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have a lovely little superpower I like to

    call "ghost mode". (I'm sure, I share that one with a lot of introverts.) That's when I go invisible in a group of people by not speaking too much and deliberately keeping myself on the outskirts of their socializing. Listening. I record almost every detail... What they look...
    Sorfarina Sorfarina 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 9

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    I've been diagnosed and given meds

    for ‘social anxiety’, called ‘shy…rude…anti-social’ always knew I was ‘introverted’  but just yesterday discovered what ‘introverted’ REALLY meant… and wow..what an eye opener!  I’m 42 yrs old…and just figured why I am the way I am.  Reading that...
    imdeanna imdeanna 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I cannot do small talk--I've gotten better

    because I've been practicing. But I usually connect better with those who are willing to talk about deeper things in life.
    thethirdknot thethirdknot 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    We can be misunderstood

    and we are fine with that. The thing about introverts, is once they feel comfortable with you, they can be the most caring, fun, creative, intelligent, beautiful people to know. It's not aloof, but if you think we are, it's ok, if we don't like you. If we do, we will share who...
    shen8 shen8 36-40, F 4 Responses Aug 1

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    I wish there was more awareness of what it is

    to be introverted, i think most people get the impression that it is the same as being shy and that we can somehow be brought out of our shell we can't. I'm not shy and if i have something to say i have no problem saying it, but my default mode is to listen and observe if i...
    IF64 IF64 46-50, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I don’t feel the need to go out a lot,

    be among lots of people the whole day and doing so usually wears me down. I don’t mind spending a lot of time on my own and I have no trouble keeping myself entertained while I do so. That doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy social interactions. I’m a human being and we are...
    TheGreatLeveler TheGreatLeveler 22-25, M 18 Responses Apr 5

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    Being introverted makes everything harder.

    Before I completely grew into my personalty I had tons of friends. I didn't really need to think about my actions and words as much as I feel like I do now. Everything is harder when people expect you to be outgoing. Talking to someone too often that I do not fully like can be...
    Cleanandclear Cleanandclear 18-21, F 20 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    I really wish people would stop commenting on

    how quiet I am! Really. I know. Its my personality. Thanks.
    ItReadsBerserk ItReadsBerserk 22-25, F 3 Responses 24 mins ago

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    I know I'm an introvert

    when I had a thought that went "Weekends are too short to have plans" 😄
    Lebby11 Lebby11 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    and not ashamed of it.

    I think one of the issues with our society is that we glorify extroversion and outgoingness, but condemn people who are quiet/shy/introverted as having something wrong with them. Even though these are two sides of the same coin. This is something I have at least gotten better...
    LockedDarius LockedDarius 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 19

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    People always ask me

    if I really shy. Lol no.... I just prefer silence over bullshit :)
    SavageRomance SavageRomance 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I don't like to speak too muck,

    i preferi to listen and to think. I like to be alone but i have many friends because i like to stay with them too, to go out, to drink in the night but if I stay alone i'm fine, it's not a problem. I'm indipendent
    Enjoyyourlife Enjoyyourlife 26-30, M Aug 17

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    I know this is a bit,

    you know, but I feel like introverts are misunderstood by most people so I thought I'd post the top 10 myths about introverts. I'm a shy introvert btw. I got this list online so these are not my words Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts...
    LFCno1 LFCno1 22-25, M 10 Responses Jul 15

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    10 Myths And Facts About Introverts!

    Myths and Facts about Introverts Myth 1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t stop for days...
    alexgabriel alexgabriel 22-25, M 7 Responses Jun 26

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    I'm the quiet one at parties

    and gatherings. I'm the one who sits quietly and watches and listens. I'm fine at work when talking about work stuff. But put me into a social situation and I can't think of anything to say. Some people think I'm rude and some think there is something wrong with me. Maybe there...
    oliverbradford oliverbradford 41-45, M 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    So, I was hanging out with my friends cause

    it's been so long since the last time I saw them. I treated them for a pizza to celebrate my birthday. Nothing seems to change, they were engrossed chatting each other that the only thing I could do is listen. It's hard on my part how I could not handle talks with a bunch of...
    sunnysun32168 sunnysun32168 22-25, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    People Don'T Know It Because I Don'T Show It

    But I am most definitely an introvert. I learned early in life that the U.S. society doesn't value introverts, and so, by the time I was ten, I had decided to wear a mask around others. Then, if they didn't like me, it wasn't really me they disliked. That's a child's thinking...
    FlowersNButterflies FlowersNButterflies 51-55, F 20 Responses May 29, 2013

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    Introvert (Poem)

    I am the shadow in the dark I am the ghost in the crowd I am the background in the story I am the wall at the party I am the silent night I am the shade at night I am the colorless white I am the shining light I am the puzzle to be solved I am the question to be asked Yet...
    kelseytoby kelseytoby 16-17 6 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Top Ten Myths About Introverts

    I think this is pretty much spot on. From http://jerrybrito.org/post/6114304704/top-ten-myths-about-introverts Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert...
    StarTaurus StarTaurus 36-40, M 5 Responses Feb 16, 2013

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    Confessions Of A Loner

    Hi. I am Loner. Have you ever noticed the student at the far corner trying not to get noticed? Yeah, the one who walks the hallway and you never saw anyone walking one foot from him? That's me, Loner. People think I'm anti-social. People think I'm proud and condescending. Maybe a...
    mareliberum mareliberum 26-30 13 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    Screening Calls: the Privilege of An Introvert

    I am an introvert who has come to self-acceptance.  In my twenties, I used to force myself to be social because I thought my desire to be alone came from an unhealthy place--you know, like depression or "wanting to isolate to avoid something."  I was fortunate...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest 51-55, F 55 Responses May 4, 2009

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    I want to accept the fact

    that I am an introvert, but I get upset because I feel like I am missing out on something when I hang out with extroverts who are having a lot of fun and I just can't seem to get into it. Does anyone else feel this way? It's so hard to accept who I am because of it.
    Miiicchellllee Miiicchellllee 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 19

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    And the glorious thing(s) about being

    and introvert is that, you get to discover things that extroverts would never think of unless told by someone. I could go on for hours about introverts but what I've said, is enough to get many thinking and acknowledging the truth in my written work.
    kamachulu kamachulu 22-25, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    It's True ...

    Being around others is so draining . Not because of their personalities ... I just feel so much better and happier by myself . Even in groups , I find a way to get lost in my mind . I find myself ignoring calls from friends and sometimes lying to others saying I'm busy just to...
    IronicAppeal IronicAppeal 18-21, F 5 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    I enjoy being an introvert,

    despite all the socializing expectations that are made of me now that I have children. People seem to think I'm shy, when I'm just really just quiet. Many extroverts don't seem to be able to fathom the idea that one can be content in one's company, or with just very few other...
    Dittonator Dittonator 31-35, M a week ago

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    I just fell in front of dozens of people.

    ..can I be even more lame?😑
    Mercury90 Mercury90 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 12

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    My life as an introvert

    "Yes, I'm an introvert. No, I'm not shy. No, I'm not stuck up. No, I'm not antisocial. I'm just listening, I'm just observing. I can't stand small talk, But I'll talk about life for hours. I'd rather be home with a close friend or two Than among a big crowd of acquaintances...
    WillowedLady WillowedLady 26-30, F 9 Responses Dec 2, 2013

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    I took the Introversion

    and Extroversion online self assessment today on the Psychology Today website. The test consisted of 81 questions and takes about 20-25 minutes. As for my results, I was not surprised at all. I scored low on the social scale with a score of 14, and here was my description...
    Brunhildevonshaftisback Brunhildevonshaftisback 26-30 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    There are many misconceptions about introverts

    I would like to take this opportunity to explain some facts about us. According to estimates, extraverts outnumber introverts by about three to one. Introverts often find that other people try to change them or even suggest that there is something "wrong" with them. Nothing...
    venusdi venusdi 70+, F 9 Responses Mar 5

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    I went to Dragoncon! I went

    wherever I wanted to go, and even talked to people and took pictures! I'm so proud of my self! It was so fun!
    goagainsttheflow goagainsttheflow 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I wish more people were introverted.

    Or at least not so chatty. You don't need to talk non stop to communicate well. I know some introverts like chatty friends, because it takes pressure of, we don't have to talk as much. But to me it's overwhelming. I like some silence. I like being inside my head. I...
    Enthropy Enthropy 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 9

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    We are so misunderstood.

    The funny thing about introverts is once they feel comfortable with you, they can be the funniest, most enjoyable people to be around. It's like a secret they feel comfortable sharing with you. Except the secret is their personality.
    tarara0414 tarara0414 18-21, F 39 Responses Mar 4

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    always been taken advantage of,

    i pity myself a lot,im afraid of a crowd,i dont seem to comprehend when people are talking,i need help.....
    gt77 gt77 36-40, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    The thing is, human interactions fascinate me.

    I like being around groups of people, but only so I can observe and watch. I want to be on the fringe taking in the mood, the turns in the conversation, anticipating what someone will say, laughing at the sarcasm others miss, wondering what certain people in the group are...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 10 Responses Jun 29

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    Had a panic attack last night.

    Was supposed to go to a bar and before I went in I was absolutely miserable and felt like I was stuck in quicksand. I am not interested at all in doing anything but being home
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    I am the shy girl, the quiet girl,

    the "why don't you ever talk?" girl... honestly I could live without people saying that, not to mention I've heard it a million times. I used to get bullied/harassed in high school for being quiet. I never thought I was quiet, but apparently I am....and it's totally weird...
    bohobridget bohobridget 22-25, F 8 Responses Apr 23

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    I go inside and find the green,

    the enchanted forest once initiated into from childhood, where the tiniest detail dwarfs all the external stuff, for example a cobweb is more engrossing than a nearby city's infrastructure falling apart. The external is wooden, but without the leaves.
    Nest37 Nest37 36-40, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I feel the need to get along with people

    that are around so that I do not feel lonely, couple of friends actually have provided that support for me, whether to contact them once in a while or not at all, but I just don't need nor expect from them that kind of friendship-like attention as extroverts do. With someone I...
    crescent567 crescent567 18-21, M Aug 14

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