I Am An Involuntary Celibate

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    Incel And What It Means

    Involuntary celibacy (shortened frequently to Incel or In-Cel), as the name implies, is either a chronic or ongoing sexual dysfunction. You can read more about it ay wikipedia, or by searching google. Best described as a long term state of not getting any physical loving, when...
    Musical Musical
    36-40, M
    8 Responses May 17, 2010

    I Was Involuntary Celibate...

    And it lasted a long time. I had to change some of my dating techniques... Now I guess I'm vol-cel... I met someone I've been seeing for a long time (six months) but honestly, I'm kind of afraid to break the celibacy now. I'm also kind of resistant to stimulation... My worst...
    duderino84 duderino84
    31-35, M
    Sep 3, 2013

    Hey. Loving someone

    that doesn't love me *and* being without someone that knows the real me enough to love me is the pattern of my life. This is what a celibate looks like ;) It has also reached the stage of (deserved?) vendetta. Ultimately the ones with the problem are gay men: I have a...
    WayOfDominique WayOfDominique
    41-45, M
    May 2, 2014

    The worst part about this situation is having

    friends around you that are VERY much not...and having to hear every salacious detail of their encounters. But, because I'm SUCH a good friend (apparently) I never let on to the crushing feeling that I am consumed by every time I have to hear about it. Just smile and pretend...
    EnigmaVest EnigmaVest
    22-25, M
    Jul 14, 2015

    I Who Have No One(and Nothing)

    ive never had a boyfriend. no one asks me out though i have been told by poeple that i am attractive. i have no idea what i am doing wrong or if i am doing anything wrong at all. im tired of hearing people tell me it's a good thing that im a 22yr old virgin. but i dont see how...
    annesocial annesocial
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 27, 2011

    So I figure ,what the heck,

    I will get myself a nice vibrator for myself for Valentine's Day cause you know I have put up with 14 years of crossing my legs so I deserve to buy something nice to put between them. Then I get nervous and HE might find out so I try to hide it . But as I am taking it out of the...
    0intimacy 0intimacy
    51-55, F
    18 Responses Feb 15, 2015

    Would Like To Talk To Uk Incels For Tv Programme

    Are you worried that sex has passed you by? 8% of men and 6% of women in England have never had sex (Source: NHS Health & Social Care Information Centre, Nov 2010) A new programme being researched by a terrestrial broadcaster is looking into helping individuals overcome...
    ZigZagTV ZigZagTV
    Apr 16, 2012

    With my muse gone and 14 days past.

    I forgot what the hunger tasted like and what her lips sought. I miss the holding and the tenderness there. I hurt so very badly but I cannot solve it myself. There is no connection for myself and I have no other so I cry myself to sleep and wait for another
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    Involuntary Celibacy

    Im married and my huaband doesnt desire me sexually.other issues overtake him so he no longer wishes to be intimate with me or really even want to spend time or be around me so I have to deal with it because infedility is not an option I take my vows seriously so I need some help...
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2013


    It is has been 6 years since I have been with a man and it is getting frustrating. I am very shy and socially awkward which leaves me getting none. On top of being really shy I am 33 years old with little to no experience which apparently is a turn off. I don't know what to do...
    SmileyGurlz SmileyGurlz
    36-40, F
    5 Responses May 11, 2013
    Mossmaster Mossmaster
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Feb 24, 2014

    Only This Month

    Our lovelife is going down the drain. I will now not initiate action until we sorted this out. Married but unhappy, lonely and bitter. The story is really too long to pen down here, second marriages, stepchildren and life's battles left its scars on our relationship. Let's see...
    ryksteman ryksteman
    56-60, M
    Sep 3, 2012

    Involuntary celibacy......

    I am struggling to cope with my celibate relationship. My boyfriend hid from me he had erectile dysfunction preferring to tell me he could cope with my high sex drive. When we started chatting before we were a couple I confessed to having a high sex drive & was looking for a...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 7, 2013

    It's been a while since I've had relations with

    my husband. I don't even really care about sex anymore. Being close to someone is so much work and you can never be certain of the outcomes. I feel like it's just easier to be in a sexless marriage than putting myself out there to try to get closer to him again. I know he...
    JaxyBaine JaxyBaine
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2014

    Is It Possible?

    I was involuntary celibate from puberty through 29. Most likely due to the inability to read social signals.While married now (due to what amounted to a meteor strike to my life), there are things that trigger negative feelings from that time and lead to anger and resentment...
    GTR1400 GTR1400
    61-65, M
    Dec 10, 2012

    No Sex Or Gf In 5 Years

    I am a 24 year old guy and I have only ever had one girlfriend and that was five years ago. She is the only girl that I have ever been with. Before her I had some self esteem issues and when she dumped me those feelings of self hatred and depression became concrete. Since her, I...
    wrsmbox wrsmbox
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 16, 2011

    I am 34 and am currently involuntarily celibate

    according to okcupid. even though i have been with over 100 women, okcupid tells me i am involuntarily celibate. i feel that way because for the past almost year, women dont even speak to me. I feel invisible when i go anywhere and most always tell me they have a boyfriend or...
    elvenbo elvenbo
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jun 9, 2015
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