I Am Androgynous

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 510 People

    Why Do We Need Labels?

    Hi my name is Kain and I am androgynous. I was born female and I have no desire to be a man yet I am not really a "woman" either. Why do we need labels? I prefer male friends, I like male interests such as sports, cars etc... and I hate gender specific rules of any kind. I don't...
    KianMolani KianMolani
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2012

    Everywhere I go people think I'm a boy.

    They say things like 'Cheers man' or 'What's your name young man?'. In my group of friends I'm referred to as 'one of the lads'. It used to annoy the hell out of me and make me feel so uncomfortable. Now that I'm comfortable in who I am, I don't mind it at all! In fact, I...
    silentagain silentagain
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 22, 2015

    I am 80 with a beard

    and very long blond/white hair, hair sprayed to stay more less down my back. I wear a sweater dress, tights, and flats, because they are very comfortable compared to very limited male styles. I try to keep my belly flat. I have no interest in appearing feminine but in simply...
    amtior amtior
    70+, M
    Nov 30, 2014

    I Cried When I Realized I Could Express Myself

    I don't know WHERE I fit in, in society: I am biologically and emotionally a woman, at my core I am heterosexual, yet I  have a very androgynous appearance. Boyfriends have asked me if I am transsexual. Even after sex, point blank, "Are you a man?" No. I have a strong jaw...
    emotive8 emotive8
    1 Response Nov 22, 2013

    Unfortunately I still haven't reached the look

    i'm going for but that's nothing a good paycheck can't help with.
    mxsable mxsable
    18-21, T
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015

    Accepted By Me

    I accepted that I am androgynous. It took me a while to accept this, in no small part because---get ready to be amazed---I had never understood what the word meant until a few days ago. It was in my psychology class, where we just finished studying sex, sexuality, and gender...
    rustyguy rustyguy
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Nov 6, 2009

    Used To Hate The Mirror

    I am androgynous. And I used to hate the fact. I hated mirrors because my face was feminine. Had round chin and pretty high cheekbones. My body was also slender with a slight hint of hips and a very well.. beautiful back. It was more of a heavy weight on my shoulder than...
    Cutiefboi Cutiefboi
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Feb 9, 2012

    I'm a boy but I feel like everyone sees me

    as a really hot butch lesbian. It doesn't really bother me... Until lesbians try to hit on me... I have no shame in it though, being feminine is kinda my thing and makes the ladies fangirl over my cuteness sometimes 😅
    codyconcepcion codyconcepcion
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 9, 2014

    Androgyny, The Universe And You! (Longish)

    Have you ever looked at nature and wondered why it is so divisive? Why do we need a dedicated 'male' role, and a dedicated 'female' role in the first place? Reproduction right? Okay, but if that's the only difference, couldn't the sexes be fundamentally identical with females...
    MemoriesfromHome MemoriesfromHome
    May 11, 2013

    Well, I thought I was.

    It seems though no matter how hard I try, I am never feminine enough, and now I'm not even masculine enough. My self esteem is so high when I dress the way I like. I'm comfortable and happy. And yes it involves cargo shorts a tight tank top and a tee shirt. But I suppose I'm...
    MarisoleLane MarisoleLane
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 19, 2014

    I Was In Doubt For a Long Time!...

    Hello dear reader, The last couple of years have been very difficult for me because i didn't know what was going on with myself. WHAT / WHO am I? People always (mostly) think I am gay (which i'm not) so you realy start to wonder if something is wrong. "I like 'female...
    Conzales Conzales
    3 Responses Aug 28, 2008

    I've Been Androgynous Since Birth

    Hey, I've been Androgynous since birth, I haven't many friends because of it, I have neither hormone, my body doesen't produce any! I'm looking for people who understand and can become friends with.
    Seany83 Seany83
    1 Response Nov 14, 2013

    Honestly, the biggest influence I have is

    David Bowie. And I don't even know him personally, as much as I wish I did. It makes me lonely to feel so close to someone and yet so impossibly far.
    TwitchTheWonderKid42 TwitchTheWonderKid42
    Jan 12, 2014


    I love wearing makeup and all the stuff girly girls do but Im a guy, I also love doing guys stuff, well except sports and other physically strenuous activities, mostly games... Though I am not able to express my individuality, I often deal with it by doing make overs or...
    Efoile Efoile
    22-25, M
    Nov 19, 2012


    I'm content with physically and sexually being male, it fits me. However, I have no distinct gender and I do not prefer either type of clothing or stature. Of course I'm a somewhat radical feminist, the kind that wants to remove gender distinctions entirely. Emotionally I'm not...
    Rennn Rennn
    22-25, M
    Nov 9, 2012

    I Know I'm Not Perfect

    I was raised in the Christian church, but left at around 18 years of age, not because I didn't believe in God or the teachings of the Bible, but because of the hypocrisy within the church itself, as well as many of those who attend. There are many who will quote the Bible at you...
    gr8legz gr8legz
    Sep 1, 2012

    As an older M2F I know pain ,

    despair , hurt, hatred,humiliation ,hopelessness.I hope no one suffers any of these things because they are different in the eyes of others . My hope is you love and find the love you deserve in life :)
    leximsexy leximsexy
    41-45, T
    1 Response Sep 4, 2014

    Dealing With The People Who Don't Get It.

    Hi! As I've posted here before I am androgynous/genderqueer (I'm physically female, but mentally and emotionally a very flamboyant but masculine gay man). Now, I've always had one problem: EVERYONE THINKS I AM A LESBIAN. My friends who are guys have asked, some of my friends who...
    MaurabethMark MaurabethMark
    13-15, F
    1 Response Sep 24, 2012

    What Is That?

    Today, at my school (a large building filled with mostly the idiotic and ignorant), I was heading to to the library, when someone I walked by said quite loudly, "What IS that?". Her friend added "Is that a guy or a girl?". I turned around and said "Purple", said "Owls" in...
    Toukos Toukos
    18-21, M
    18 Responses Jan 10, 2013

    I Am Secretly A Girl.

    It seems to be a secret, for anyone who doesn't know me. I get called 'sir' far more often than 'miss'. I'm actually more surprised when people DO recognize that I'm a girl. The way I look is not intentionally ambiguous, I just wear what I'm comfortable in or what suits my eyes...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 30, 2012


    I guess androgynous fit the term for my gender identity. I always feel weird in my body sometimes wondering of I should had been born a guy or just stay a girl. I go back and forth in feminine and masculine identity or neutral. I hated my body and even to this day, especially...
    MissSkeptic96 MissSkeptic96
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Sep 23, 2013

    I am currently dealing with identification

    issues and struggling to find a person or people to confide in. In my almost 25 years of life, I have never met anyone who I can truly relate to. I am anatomically a male, but have more female characteristics. I also find it hard to identify as a 'gay male' because I am...
    JayCeeBender JayCeeBender
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Mar 6, 2014

    Carl Jung, Androgyny And The Unified Self

    In sociological terms, because of the status of males in our society, in comparison to that of women, when women wear "male" clothing, they are seen to be aspiring to a higher ideal. Conversely, when a man wears "female" clothing, he is seen to be demeaning himself; thus women...
    gr8legz gr8legz
    Sep 24, 2012

    "gender" Doesn't Apply To Me.

    My mother has very old fashioned ideas of how women should look and act. She tries to force these ideas on me. She wants me to not swear or say anything perverse or spit or sit with my legs open or have any masculine traits. Well **** that. I do like girly things. Sanrio...
    Frogsinspace13 Frogsinspace13
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2012

    I have come to accept

    that I am both male and female. I am proud to be as Adam in the garden of Eden. I feel I am a special spirit that has the power to travel both roads of human life. I do prefer the male side of me because I am lazy about my own hygiene, really to shower and shave my face every...
    Amber237 Amber237
    51-55, F
    Feb 6, 2016

    I've only recently fully realized

    that I am androgynous. I am male and comfortable with my gender but I have feminine features and enjoy wearing slim-fitting clothes the most. My personality is sensitive and expressive and I identify with other androgynous people the most. I keep my hair long and refuse to...
    RivenBlade RivenBlade
    26-30, M
    Jan 13, 2015

    My Realisation.

    I have only recently, at 30 years old, come to certain realisations. I've only just realised why I've never felt quite right. I'm genetically female, and have always felt a tad uncomfortable with it. Not with my body, but with what's inside. It doesn't quite add up. I don't...
    cayci cayci
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 31, 2013

    Pretty bottom looking

    for a Masculine top who enjoys treating me like the sissy wife I am! Your Sissy needs you Daddy!
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom
    31-35, T
    1 Response Apr 3, 2014

    I Am Androgynous

    I am Androgynous. I do not see myself as either Masculine or Feminine. I have a girly side I like to act out, but I have my man moments *crushes beer can*. I know that I am biologically male, and even though I would love to know what it feels to be female, if I had to choose, I'd...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Sep 15, 2012

    Insignificant Others

    My sex is male, my gender is (I have recently discovered) androgyne. I am sexually attracted exclusively to (genetic) females and have never experienced any urges to experiment sexually with other males. My gender presentation is predominantly masculine with feminine flourishes...
    gr8legz gr8legz
    8 Responses May 7, 2012

    I would share my story

    but there is content not suitable, and I am not sure where it would be at in my post, can i have some help with it from a staff member
    bluedeyed74 bluedeyed74
    41-45, T
    1 Response Oct 7, 2014

    "What's my story? Who Am I?

    " Stories are tough. Sometimes there is only the beginning, middle, and end. Those are the nice stories, the simple ones. Then the convoluted stories arise that begin but never developed, let alone finished. There are the stories that are terminated by the author's will. There...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 28, 2015

    I finally accepted the fact

    that I'm androgynous. I ignored the comments from the people around me for too long. Some have said I had some sensual hips even for a guy and that I have my mother's face. I never considered their words to be true, but I've started noticing it myself. Every time I look in the...
    BloodFanatic BloodFanatic
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Jul 10, 2015

    I dress pretty androgynously.

    .. Some days I look like a girl, some days I look like a dude. I usually go with jeans, sperrys, and a hoodie that makes me look somewhere in between. My hair is pixie cut short but I have blond bangs, so it's sort of feminine but sort of not. I refer to myself as a Chapstick...
    Boo37 Boo37
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 13, 2014

    Is Society Becoming More Accepting Of Gender Variation?

    Thought I might post this one as a result of some recent posts I have read regarding fellow Androgynes receiving various forms of abuse. Please excuse me if it is a little long-winded. I think people in general are becoming more aware of gender variation and attitudes are...
    gr8legz gr8legz
    1 Response Jul 24, 2013

    Many may perceive those

    that are androgynous as abnormal, which maybe true in comparison to those in society as a whole. But it can be recognised that normal is certainly not natural, and in truth those that display attributes of their opposite sex are in reality more whole. For those of the religious...
    Kyleinfj Kyleinfj
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2015

    Hi, am I androgynous?

    what does it mean exactly, reading your stories has me confused about myself! I am female, but I don't do girly girl I wear jeans, tshirt, hoodie and boots most the time. I have small boobs and I am often mistaken for a bloke! bit of a butch lesbian look going on but im not into...
    hurtwontheal hurtwontheal
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 30, 2016

    My name is Aiken and I am very androgynous.

    I regard myself as not fitting any gender category even though I was born female. When I look into my full body mirror, the parts on my chest and crotch don't fit me. I don't care though.
    BeckettKreiss BeckettKreiss
    18-21, T
    Jan 18, 2015

    My Self-discovery

    It's only in the last few years that I've realised that I'm androgyne. When I was a kid, I was never keen on the usual boys things and for a long time was thought of as a bit "girly", though I never thought of myself in that way.    As I grew up, I didnt think all that much...
    alanrunner alanrunner
    26-30, T
    Oct 28, 2013

    Envy Of Androgyny

    I don't look androgynous. I rearly dress androgynous. Nobody ever wonders if "I'm a boy or a girl". I look like a girl. I'm feminine in society terms. But often I really feel androgynous. Or maybe I should say I feel as neither a boy or a girl. I'm still not sure if I should...
    notnownotever notnownotever
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 22, 2013

    Multiple times being told "sorry sir,

    the men restroom is over there". And I'll just wait with wry smile plastered on my face till they realized I'm a woman and let me in the right restroom.
    namingishard namingishard
    18-21, F
    Jul 2, 2015

    I'm A Gay Woman In A Male Body

    Sounds crazy, right? But after spending some time on the internet, I know I'm not the only one. I've known all my life that I'm female in a male body, but it took me a while to figure out the part about being a lesbian, though it shouldn't have. I was discussing this with an...
    Ariellamichelle Ariellamichelle
    61-65, T
    6 Responses Jul 5, 2012

    I kinda look like a teenage guy

    who havent hit his puberty yet :3. I belong somewhere between this huge gender spectrum and androgynous is the best I could find to fit me. Anyway I never liked being dressed as a feminine person, I always wear baggy t-shirts jeans and sports shoes. I am comfortable being like...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 24, 2016

    I am 100% guy. and into girls

    but i look like a stereotypical lesbian.
    QwartLane QwartLane
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 15, 2014

    Sometimes I Just Feel Alone.

    I usually say "you only live once, so be yourself". Lately since I've started my transformation it has been very hard to stay true to my words. All my life I've been searching for the reasons I feel the way I do. Who I am, why I think the way I do. I don't like labels at all and...
    AndrogynousBeauty AndrogynousBeauty
    1 Response Sep 25, 2012

    I am the product of elderly parents

    who had some very old school values. They tried their best ..ahem. Dad was 60 and mom was 43 when I was born. I am male, 6 feet tall and wear size 8 shoes. My hands are small. Downstairs I'm average. I have fairly manly shoulders but a somewhat feminine fat distribution...
    birthright birthright
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Aug 26, 2014

    But I don't mean to be.

    I actually hate it. People having a hard time knowing if I'm a guy is annoying. It's why I wish I had a beard.
    MichaelMyers1 MichaelMyers1
    22-25, M
    Mar 16, 2015
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