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I Am Asexual

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    I met this guy more than a year ago.

    He is a photographer. I was a cosplayer at that event. When we met, he asked to take my picture and I said 'yes'. Little did I know that I'm meeting the man of my life. At first, I have my doubts. Like 'What was I doing?', 'Is this the right thing?', 'Will I regret this?'. But...
    kerencc11 kerencc11 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    Today... I've been noticing a lot of happy

    couples and for once in my life I actually want to be in a normal happy relationship but I know that will never happen because I am asexual. I feel like crying. Like when I look at people I don't even see them as a boyfriend or girlfriend I only see them as just people...
    mypawshaveprints mypawshaveprints 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 29

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Hello. I'm 22 years old

    and For a long time I never really understood what the big deal was about sex and I just thought when I had it someone in my mind would open up and the vail would drop and I would finally know what everyone was talking about. It did not. I did have sex and I found it...
    emilylightning16 emilylightning16 22-25, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    So I don't really understand

    why I am like this. I mean I get romantically and emotionally attracted to guys but I despise sexual encounters. The first and last times I did anything sexual was 3 years ago with a long term boyfriend. Only because he couldn't go without it. And I am perfectly okay with it...
    MikBlack13 MikBlack13 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 3

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    I'm not, but I wish to be.

    Having desires or fantasizing about s-e-x is pointless if you don't want to be in a relationship of this kind. I don't need l-u-s-t at this point in my life, at least for now. It gets in the way and ruins things. I'm learning to keep it at bay. Without it I'll have a clearer...
    EpicalBoy EpicalBoy 13-15, M 4 Responses 19 hrs ago

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    I'm starting to think

    that I am. I just don't have a strong urge for it, at least right now. Plus the whole STI/STD thing makes me think twice about having sex and the pregnancy thing. If I found out that I was pregnant. No!!! If my mother found out-R.I.P (to me). Even if she doesn't kill me, I'm...
    Asia06 Asia06 18-21, F 17 hrs ago

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    Weird And Awesome

    I have only recently discovered this movement in the world. I had heard of asexual in terms of biology, like how bacteria and other single celled organisms reproduce. For a bi-sexual species this seems a very strange concept, but somehow it seems to fit us ^_^ I, like so many...
    minatek616 minatek616 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    People think it's dumb

    for me to be one. Because they think it's "no love, no life." Hey, I've been an asexual for almost two years. I don't need an intimate love, family love is what I need.
    bloodycrimson8 bloodycrimson8 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 18

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    I'm lonely but don't like anyone around me.

    it's like no one wants real friends here. Everyone wants romance and I'm just bleh. I've had a bf and He was my closest friend for a while. Finding friends harder than finding romance. I definitely am not meeting anyone I can have a romantic relationship with right now. I just...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30

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    It wasn't until I started college

    that I realized that I fell under the term "asexual." I always knew that I never wanted to have sex. I would make excuses for myself like "I won't be serious with a guy until after I'm in high school" or "I won't be serious with a guy until I'm in college." Well, I'm almost done...
    JewStar4Life JewStar4Life 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 18

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    i am out (sort of) and i am proud.

    but i hate the misconceptions i hear. the one i hear the most is: so, you don't date? it's like.........Why would you think that? Are you saying that sex is what dating is all about? If you are then you have some figuring out to do with your priorities.
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 30

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    It's so hard for me to find love

    because I'm asexual and not everyone that I'm with can or will accept the fact that we are never going to have sex in our relationship........and I understand where their coming from though because sex is very intimate and brings more happiness and connection to the relationship...
    Ki123 Ki123 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 14

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    I have no sexual desire,

    don't tell me that I could change or that I am to young. I know who I am and I plan to stay myself.
    Although Although 13-15 3 Responses Aug 26

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    I hate it when people think I'm gay

    and hint that they think I'm gay or bi just because I don't show interest in guys. It's not that I don't like guys, I'm just not really into a sexual relationship, and pretty much all guys my age right now want sex or at least sexual activities in the relationship, so I avoid...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 15

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Asexual =/= Homosexual

    for goodness sakes -____________-
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    It's so hard being black

    and asexual, I don't think they're many people like me out there.
    Androgynie Androgynie 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 19

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    "Asexual...? Like a plant right?

    " "You just haven't found the right person yet" "You're just a prude" "I never heard of asexuality, I don't think that's a real thing" D:
    ShadowOnTheSun ShadowOnTheSun 18-21, T 10 Responses Nov 11

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    i might just be hurt (not sexually just hurt)

    and naive but til proven otherwise ill just say this...
    Anaihsohs Anaihsohs 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 9

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 5 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23

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    can someone help me here?

    so i finally got the corage to come out to my dad as an aromantic asexual, and i saw an opportunity when my dad started talking about 'when me and my sister have families', so i took a deep breath and started in a serious, confident tone. I said "dad, i really don't want a...
    SheThinksWithPortals SheThinksWithPortals 16-17, F 6 Responses Nov 16

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Hello there, I am asexual looking

    for asexual friend (and partner) feel free to message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 2 Responses Nov 7

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 22

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    i'm asexual, sex-repulsed,

    and i have a "friend" who is so dodgy about it. i was at a party she threw and she laughed and said "the more you hang out with us, the less asexual you'll become." i said that's not how it works. "i bet it is, though. i bet it is how it works." and she keeps talking about the...
    debaeca debaeca 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 9

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    It's taken 32 years to discover there is a label

    for me to belong to. I am asexual. Only this week I researched why I have no interest in sex. After lots of reading, I found out that I am part of a very small group of people known as asexuals. I am in a relationship with a fantastic girl that is craving sex almost every day. I...
    Stomping Stomping 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 25 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    I hate that I have a high sex drive.

    It is conflicting to not being sexually attracted to someone but then need sex (otherwise I would cramp really bad or can't sleep, etc). It is a horrible experience being horny. I have to find a different alternatives than sex but I never cared for toys and etc. In order for...
    InfiniteLightBeing InfiniteLightBeing 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 13

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    World's biggest pet peeve: "I'm asexual" "so

    you reproduce on your own?"
    SammiSakura SammiSakura 13-15, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 40 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Plain and simple, I use

    that sexual energy to do many things like write in my journal, look for something new to do, go for a run, and do the things I love. You can make fun of me, but, I am this way and that's all. I find those sex activities kind of disgusting and you guys call that "making love"? No...
    FinalSoldier FinalSoldier 13-15, M 1 Response Oct 30

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 21 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    mallan384 mallan384 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 19

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    Ri95 Ri95 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 9

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21

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    Hello there, I am asexual looking

    for asexual friend (and partner) feel free to message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Nov 1

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    I had a girl on top of me last night,

    a girl who I care about very much and am incredibly attracted to, and I still felt nothing sexually. I have never been so sure of my asexuality in my life and I don't know how to feel about it.
    roguish roguish 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not. </