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I Am Asexual

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 26-30, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Hi guys I'm new here I just need a relationship

    for me but TBH I'm gay I'm not old I'm 16 going to be 17 this year um I just want a true person to care about me and love me who i am and take care of me too
    reylozano32 reylozano32 16-17, M Aug 12

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    i am asexual AS **** guys on here are creepy

    though, as soon as you mention sex oh deer i must be calling for a man huh? no im asexual, yes im happy to talk about it, i will happily educate the ignorant. but i am not looking for some sort of sexting guidance class okay. i am so tired right now, and i dont get why people...
    baldwinbitch baldwinbitch 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    At this point I am extremely confused about my

    physical sexuality. Lots of people dismiss me from being asexual because of how I hand sex. I don't have it, I don't really want to. I think about it but I've said before that I really don't wanna be that affectionate with anyone. So because of this people think I'm not asexual...
    xMellowButterflyx xMellowButterflyx 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11 26-30, F Aug 13

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 38 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    Ever since I learned how to ********** I feel

    like I've become even less interested in sexual acts with another person than I was before, which I didn't think was possible.
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Eww. Just had a nightmare about two weird guys

    (one seemed to be my boyfriend) and a girl (thought it was my friend but went out to be a clone or robot wtf) and one guy wanted to rape me... But I had Bella Swan's father as a dad and he ran the hell after that jerk lol. And in the end zhe robot/clone/weirdo lady wanted to...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm a 16 year old girl,

    I only just discovered that I'm asexual... I think? I'm romantically attracted to guys but I don't want to have sex with them, the thought of it is just not appealing whatsoever. When I see a cute guy I imagine dating him not sex, does this sound like I'm asexual? I'm scared...
    JessieIsIrish JessieIsIrish 16-17, F 7 Responses Aug 21

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    Stop telling me I need to get my hormones

    checked. This isn't a medical or psychological condition. Stop telling I'm too young to know. I'm 20, the late bloomer ship has sailed. I need more experience. I have never felt the need to "get some" and I won't "get some" just to make you feel comfortable around me.
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    I like the idea of sex in theory.

    I like watching, reading , drawing , and discussing sex with friends but the idea of someone touching me, the idea of sex in practice involving me makes me uncomfortable. Of course I desire a companion. I enjoy cuddles, hugs, kisses, and having a deep emotional connection...
    ychan100x ychan100x 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    well i guess this is were i open up

    yet ive never met another asexual. i live in a smallish town and like most asexual experiences they dismiss it as anything but... yet ive been asexual/aromantic for as long as i remember. ive never felt the need for closeness to another person
    troubledpassager troubledpassager 18-21 2 Responses Aug 12

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    I've never experienced any kind of physical

    or sexual attraction. I never initiate any kind of physical contact. I rarely hug people, but when I do it's only because they want it and it always feels really awkward/unnatural/fake to me. l feel like finding a partner is going to be even harder for me than for any "normal...
    Inimica Inimica 16-17, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    This is my opinion, but I don't think anyone

    can claim to be asexual until they're at LEAST 16. My sex drive didn't kick in until around junior year of high school, and most people's sex drives won't kick in completely until they're completely done with puberty. Until you feel your sex drive you won't know fully. If you...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like I would rather help in killing

    terrorists (even though I don't know to shoot) than ever have s*x with a person....I'm really asexual and I'm not ashamed of it.. the thing is that there are just 1% of asexual people in the world and none close to me to not judge me as others. You know, you get fed up with...
    warriorshe4489 warriorshe4489 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 10 Responses Jan 3

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Fifty shades of me!! I love my body

    and like to explore my self!
    bonkingecstacy bonkingecstacy 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't appreciate people messaging me trying

    to be sexual. I'm here to meet and support people not for you to indulge in whatever fantasy you may have. For those who don't know asexual means I don't have a sexual attraction to anyone.
    Shortandsweet1999 Shortandsweet1999 18-21, F 5 Responses May 31

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    BloodyGreenie BloodyGreenie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    It's a realisation I've come to quite recently,

    most of my life I've just thought there was something wrong with me. Knowing that it's actually my orientation, and that there are others like me out there, is a huge comfort.
    Selesnya Selesnya 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    I do not smoke, I do not drink alcohol,

    I don't do drugs, I don't eat meat, I don't dress with labels, I graduated High School but will never study, I don't like my country, I accept all forms of living, I never go out partying, I don't wear size 2, I don't have dates, I am hetero but simultaneously asexual. Yep, I'm...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 17

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 18-21, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    I am 14 goin into high school I want the boys

    to be nice to me in school but face **** me and spit in my face. I always wanted a hot boy to verbally abuse me in bed like call me worthless a ***** and **** in my face spit in my face is this normal and do you like guys will let me suck them in high school?
    Hsjahiskns Hsjahiskns 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 22

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    I didn't come to this realization

    until two months ago. I was never really interested in the physical aspects of a relationship. Cuddling, kissing and affectionate gestures were things I was okay with but anything more and I found myself floundering and not wanting to really take part. Thankfully, I suppose I...
    WhimsicalKara WhimsicalKara 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    So I just got out of class

    and was walking to the computer lab that I'm in now. While walking, I guess this young woman saw my Ace shirt. She said "Nice Shirt" to me while we walked past each other. First time that's ever happened in real life. It's either they ask (Which I don't mind), or they laugh like...
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Does anybody else get laughed at

    as a response to when people see you're Asexual? Before you read: "AB" is the 5'6"ish, cute face, straight teeth, big butt, medium boob, but skinny type of woman (I don't even know if that was a good description.) I really never bring that up since it happens ALL THE TIME, but...
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    So please stop saying its fake,

    a joke, stupid, a phase, and that i "just need to find the right person"
    izzieebee izzieebee 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 26-30, M 6 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I recently started questioning my identity

    several weeks ago, and honestly I still don't know. I always knew I had asexual tendencies, I rarely think of sex. I do have sex, usually a a commitment, I'm not forced or anything. I also can and do get aroused, though this is very rare, maybe several times a month. I don't...
    senilej89 senilej89 26-30, M 4 Responses Aug 19

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    I'm 14, androromantic,

    and asexual looking for a boyfriend
    musicalauthor musicalauthor 13-15, T a week ago

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 21 Responses Feb 17

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    I wish people could understand

    that as*xuals can enjoy things like kissing or hugging. I tried to explain to my best friend and brother that I was as*xual but I still enjoyed a relationship with a guy. I enjoy showing affection. But what they don't seem to understand is that things like kissing or cuddling...
    CrystalViolet7 CrystalViolet7 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Sorry to share smth the third time,

    but I'm feeling so lost right now! I'm confused about (my) life. I just identified as heteroromantic asexual type C but haven't outed myself yet. I don't think I will ever be able to out myself. Did you guys do it? To whom? How? When? I feel like I am in a cage because I can't...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 6 Responses 6 days ago