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I Am Asexual

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    The title is rather self explanatory

    but I would like to use this space to explain what asexuality is, how other people have reacted to me (or refused to) and what it's like living in a sex driven society. :) So basically asexuality, at its most simplest, is the lack of desire to have sex and with some people a...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    I've done some online reading over this subject,

    and it seems like I fit into this category more than any other. I've read a lot of different opinions about this online, but like with most things in life we each have our own reasons and experiences that shape who we are. I don't wish to divulge my reasons as they are personal...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 16

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    I've fallen for a girl

    that I've known for over a year and she's reciprocating. We finally held hands yesterday but we haven't spoken about whats going on between us. Whether its because we don't need to or because we're both way too shy, I'm not sure. I haven't told her I'm asexual because I feel...
    NocheSombra NocheSombra 18-21, F May 10

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 18-21, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    I don't want to sleep with you,

    we don't have to hold hands, I want to connect without having a thing to do with physical touch. Invade my thoughts and understand me entirely. Know that we don't need sex to be close. Captivate me.
    Needygirlgreedygirl Needygirlgreedygirl 18-21, F May 1

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    I'm asexual and do not enjoy sexual actions

    but my physical desire is still there and it's no annoying. My body wants sex ridiculously badly now but I don't!! Obnoxious. It's like I wish I could take pills or something to make this feeling go away.
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 4 Responses May 10

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 7 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I feel absolutely no attraction toward the

    opposite s@x and no, i'm not gay. I can very easily look at a womans body without feeling a thing for them. I never used to be this way and in my teens as well as early 20's i was your regular h@rny guy, lusting after chicks and watching **** on the TV. I suffered from a nervous...
    WitchOfWoodStock WitchOfWoodStock 31-35, M 1 Response May 10

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 21 Responses Feb 17

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    It took me 30 years to figure out

    that there was a term for people like me. I've been in sexual relationships in the past and I always thought something was wrong with me because I had no feelings of arousal for my partner. I have 0 interest in sex and I am finally comfortable with it
    KrisEC KrisEC 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 17

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 11 Responses Jan 3

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    So for the longest time I never felt attracted

    physically to men. I thought it was just because I was confused or it wasn't the right guy, or maybe I wasn't ready for sex. I would lay in bed and stay awake at night wondering what was wrong with me. I found myself crying whenever I would simply think about it. I had a desire...
    kennacarlile kennacarlile 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 40 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I've only recently discovered

    why I am the way I am and everything makes sense now. I may be young (15) but I just... know that this is me. The only thing is... I feel so terrible and different from everyone else. When I was in middle school and I noticed that everyone around me was changing, I felt very...
    FancyTardis FancyTardis 13-15, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    chucklemastr chucklemastr 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 22

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 26-30, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I really feel like I'm very hard to satisfy.

    it feels good, but do I have a high apatite?
    stevetyler1989 stevetyler1989 22-25, M 4 Responses May 9

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    I don't have feelings about sex

    but I would like to be naked whit my wife to have sensuality (not sexuality), am I asexual?
    AquariusFart AquariusFart 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    Granted I wasn't always this way,

    but I don't remember EVER being captivated by it, and am curious as to why sex seems to be the only thing people want to talk about.
    katfalt katfalt 31-35, F 2 Responses May 11

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    For me sex is take it

    or leave it but it don't really interest me so far
    ChloeValintina ChloeValintina 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I know people have a hard time being classified

    with labels and labels are bad bla bla bla dehumanizing. But then why do we not have a problem with special scholarships reserved for different races. It's because these "racist" scholarships are usually for helping minorities. As a minority classifying yourself with others...
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 1 Response May 13

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    Many who identify as asexual still find

    happiness in romance, choosing only to forgo the physical love. I find that I am at my happiest by myself. I have friends, of course, but they are a select few. For those who are able to find fulfilling and happy relationships, I am happy. Everyone deserves to have that special...
    FoolOfATook FoolOfATook 16-17 2 Responses May 8

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    NaomiSoulJourney NaomiSoulJourney 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Atleast I think I am.

    .. I mean I'm not interested in having sex... But I still fall in love idk
    xxtoxiccupcakexx xxtoxiccupcakexx 16-17, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I think over time of feeling no one will want

    me I've become immune to any level of attraction
    AnoynomousReader AnoynomousReader 13-15, F May 10

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    Stop telling me I need to get my hormones

    checked. This isn't a medical or psychological condition. Stop telling I'm too young to know. I'm 20, the late bloomer ship has sailed. I need more experience. I have never felt the need to "get some" and I won't "get some" just to make you feel comfortable around me.
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    I just wish to find a woman to share my life

    with except in bed. always wondering if it is possible?? but I just try to belive my dream
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Hey, how come you guys don't get a parade?

    The LGBT community has gained acceptance and recognition, while the asexual crowd gets tossed to the wayside. It seems this is an orientation like any other, but if I am any indication of the pervasive ignorance in our society, I didn't acknowledge you guys as a legit...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 13 Responses Apr 6

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    Wondering today the relationship between meds

    and asexuality.... I've been on psych meds for years. Is that why I feel this way (or don't feel this way)? I think from what I've been reading the answer might be that meds affect libido, whereas asexuality is about attraction. Makes it complicated though!
    mishacamp mishacamp 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 21

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    Hello there, I am 30 yr asexual Muslim from

    india living in middle east, looking for asexual/ straight girl for long term MOC, if you are interested or wanted know more please drop email on shadowboy2u@yahoo.com
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I want to lick all your body

    and feel your booty!!
    haruno1997 haruno1997 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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