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I Am Asexual

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    I'm asexual, and I love my boyfriend.

    But I'm terrified that he's going to want sex soon (he's pansexual) and I can't give him that. I'm not sex-averse, it just doesn't appeal to me at all...
    wHaTeVeR2626 wHaTeVeR2626 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Coming out as an asexual polyromantic today.

    .. But only to myself. And, well, now you guys. It feels good to know who I am, to finally be able to put to rest that question. Why was there no sex the last two years of my marriage? Why is my marriage now over? This would be why.
    mishacamp mishacamp 31-35, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 41 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I finally told my boyfriend of three months

    that I'm asexual. He had just told me that he loves me, and I finally got the courage to tell him. I don't think that many sexuals understand how hard it is to tell someone that, because they are "normal". I was scared even though I knew he wouldn't care. I wish I had the...
    drowninginsaltwater drowninginsaltwater 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Actually I'm not..I just couldn't find a story

    saying "I wish I was asexual" I think being asexual has its benefits. You don't have to deal with heartbreak or worry about your sexual performance etc
    Fierrrrce Fierrrrce 18-21, F 8 Responses Apr 2

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Never wanted it. Feel some attraction toward

    opposite sex. Will not even get into relationship. Been this way always. My friends thought I was odd not to feel very attracted to guys. I'm picky. Only rarely feel that about anyone I see. Don't really want a part in any that. Love my innocence. But feel like all those...
    pureimagination1759 pureimagination1759 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 12 Responses Jan 3

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    This is really bizarre

    but I'm only asexual in this reality. I can enjoy reading stories that involve sex or watching stories that don't show explicit kissing or sex. But I have no interest in sex with another. I find most people repulsive in that way. However I'm a lucid dreamer who is certainly not...
    fallenstar23 fallenstar23 22-25, F Apr 8

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I've done some online reading over this subject,

    and it seems like I fit into this category more than any other. I've read a lot of different opinions about this online, but like with most things in life we each have our own reasons and experiences that shape who we are. I don't wish to divulge my reasons as they are personal...
    PugMinion PugMinion 31-35, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    i wanna gave a girlfriend.

    . but u dont wanna be a lesbian anymore.. what can i do?
    aphroditedelevingne aphroditedelevingne 18-21, F Mar 15

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    absenceofsound absenceofsound 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    I dont know if it's me

    or if it's hormones. I am underweight and therefore have hormonal disturbances such as irregular monthly's. But umm my underweight/anorexic aquaintances do not seem to have any sexuality troubles, and like it like any average person. This is actually a very difficult subject...
    ThinkingCat ThinkingCat 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I wouldn't describe myself

    as exactly asexual but physical contact has never been my priority to be with someone and I feel that I miss out because of this as my friends could be trying to meet people just purely because of physical attraction wherease I don't have this drive to go up to someone purely...
    mansra mansra 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 31

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    Yeah, so I have a funny story about this.

    I'm more specifically what you would call an aromantic asexual. I've always known that it never felt quite right for me to be with either gender, so it got really awkward when I got asked out on a date by a girl. I almost felt like I couldn't get out of it without hurting...
    Whobody Whobody 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Kissing boys - Oh NO Kissing girls- Uhh

    Uhh tryed it. They just dont understand its me not them. I just dont feel that.
    petramullins petramullins 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    Does anyone else experience intellectual

    attraction to people? There's a guy that I want to date purely because he and I are similar intellectually. That and he's never pressure me into sex, because it's not something he wants in a relationship either. Does this make any sense?
    schmetterling3110 schmetterling3110 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    I am this way for like 27 years.

    . I do not watch an adult movie, I do not even self help.. I just want a fairytale love story..I wish I had my first kiss...I am crazy!
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Apr 7

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    I am not able to come out to anyone,

    Asexuality is not a topic that people around me would understand, including my family. I am tired of living a doubled life and of thinking I will get old and live alone. I wish to have a partner who is Asexual, that we enjoy life together without the idea of needing to please...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 10

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    im in love with someone

    that i never will be her love anymore..
    aphroditedelevingne aphroditedelevingne 18-21, F Mar 15

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    Anyone else hate it when people are like "All

    men want in this world is sex" or "All women do is get busy in the bed and have babies"? I mean, speak for yourself please..
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Yes I sure am regardless

    if I had relationships in the past
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 1

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    And I don't even know

    why I went through the I Want To Know If You Think I Am Attractive (Lol) experience. To compliment? To say nice things? To look and ignore? I have no idea. But I do hope I can open posts on new tabs. Would be so much easier than pressing the backspace all the time.
    YesIAmAsian YesIAmAsian 18-21 Mar 18

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    I consider myself to be a Homoromantic asexual.

    I find girls aesthetically attractive, but I've never felt arousal in any form in my life. (I'm so glad I can just. Explain myself without being dismissed in some form.) but just because so have 0 sex drive doesn't mean I don't long for a deep relationship. However, it seems I'm...
    Littlegirlblue22 Littlegirlblue22 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    The title is rather self explanatory

    but I would like to use this space to explain what asexuality is, how other people have reacted to me (or refused to) and what it's like living in a sex driven society. :) So basically asexuality, at its most simplest, is the lack of desire to have sex and with some people a...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    Don't get me wrong, I want to get married

    eventually, I just don't want to do "it" with him. My dream is to get married to a man like this or who will tolerate this and to adopt a kid or 2.
    SparkleUnicorn SparkleUnicorn 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    It took me 30 years to figure out

    that there was a term for people like me. I've been in sexual relationships in the past and I always thought something was wrong with me because I had no feelings of arousal for my partner. I have 0 interest in sex and I am finally comfortable with it
    KrisEC KrisEC 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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