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I Am Asexual

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I don't actually feel anything

    when it comes to s*x and really I just want to find a guy that isn't after that....which would be impossible....
    Comicfangirl15 Comicfangirl15 13-15, F 4 Responses May 8

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 7 Responses May 4, 2014

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    today was the day....

    .that i finally told my mom.....and she wasn't supportive. today after school she and i were in the living room talking and i told her i had to tell her something important then she said ok.....then i told her i'm asexual. she looked at me like i was insane, so i had to explain...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 43 Responses Apr 30

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    I don't have feelings about sex

    but I would like to be naked whit my wife to have sensuality (not sexuality), am I asexual?
    AquariusFart AquariusFart 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    I don't want to sleep with you,

    we don't have to hold hands, I want to connect without having a thing to do with physical touch. Invade my thoughts and understand me entirely. Know that we don't need sex to be close. Captivate me.
    Needygirlgreedygirl Needygirlgreedygirl 18-21, F May 1

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    NaomiSoulJourney NaomiSoulJourney 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 40 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Coming out as an asexual polyromantic today.

    .. But only to myself. And, well, now you guys. It feels good to know who I am, to finally be able to put to rest that question. Why was there no sex the last two years of my marriage? Why is my marriage now over? This would be why.
    mishacamp mishacamp 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Wondering today the relationship between meds

    and asexuality.... I've been on psych meds for years. Is that why I feel this way (or don't feel this way)? I think from what I've been reading the answer might be that meds affect libido, whereas asexuality is about attraction. Makes it complicated though!
    mishacamp mishacamp 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 21

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    I think over time of feeling no one will want

    me I've become immune to any level of attraction
    AnoynomousReader AnoynomousReader 13-15, F May 10

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I want to lick all your body

    and feel your booty!!
    haruno1997 haruno1997 18-21, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I've only recently discovered

    why I am the way I am and everything makes sense now. I may be young (15) but I just... know that this is me. The only thing is... I feel so terrible and different from everyone else. When I was in middle school and I noticed that everyone around me was changing, I felt very...
    FancyTardis FancyTardis 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 11 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm writing this now

    because two hours ago a guy tried to have sex with me. I knew it was coming (he asked me to come chill, but it was obvious, considering he'd kissed me a week ago at a party). I've wondered if I was asexual for almost exactly a year, ever since I had my very first makeout session...
    phoebegolde phoebegolde 18-21, F Apr 24

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    I've done some online reading over this subject,

    and it seems like I fit into this category more than any other. I've read a lot of different opinions about this online, but like with most things in life we each have our own reasons and experiences that shape who we are. I don't wish to divulge my reasons as they are personal...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 16

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    For me sex is take it

    or leave it but it don't really interest me so far
    ChloeValintina ChloeValintina 26-30, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just wish to find a woman to share my life

    with except in bed. always wondering if it is possible?? but I just try to belive my dream
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 21 Responses Feb 17

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    chucklemastr chucklemastr 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 22

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    Am I still allowed to call myself asexual

    if I feel sexual desires, but I just don't want to have sex? It's not that I'm afraid to or something silly like that, I just simply would rather not have sex. What is the definition of "asexual" anyway?
    dinorap1 dinorap1 16-17, F 5 Responses May 10

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 26-30, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Hey, how come you guys don't get a parade?

    The LGBT community has gained acceptance and recognition, while the asexual crowd gets tossed to the wayside. It seems this is an orientation like any other, but if I am any indication of the pervasive ignorance in our society, I didn't acknowledge you guys as a legit...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 13 Responses Apr 6

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    Atleast I think I am.

    .. I mean I'm not interested in having sex... But I still fall in love idk
    xxtoxiccupcakexx xxtoxiccupcakexx 16-17, F 2 Responses May 11

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    Many who identify as asexual still find

    happiness in romance, choosing only to forgo the physical love. I find that I am at my happiest by myself. I have friends, of course, but they are a select few. For those who are able to find fulfilling and happy relationships, I am happy. Everyone deserves to have that special...
    FoolOfATook FoolOfATook 16-17 2 Responses May 8

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    Stop telling me I need to get my hormones

    checked. This isn't a medical or psychological condition. Stop telling I'm too young to know. I'm 20, the late bloomer ship has sailed. I need more experience. I have never felt the need to "get some" and I won't "get some" just to make you feel comfortable around me.
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    I'm 28 and only just considering

    that i may be asexual. I always thought i was straight but not so sure. Any else have this epiphany so late in life?
    joesmo28 joesmo28 26-30, M 3 Responses May 12

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    So for the longest time I never felt attracted

    physically to men. I thought it was just because I was confused or it wasn't the right guy, or maybe I wasn't ready for sex. I would lay in bed and stay awake at night wondering what was wrong with me. I found myself crying whenever I would simply think about it. I had a desire...
    kennacarlile kennacarlile 31-35, F 6 Responses May 9

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    Granted I wasn't always this way,

    but I don't remember EVER being captivated by it, and am curious as to why sex seems to be the only thing people want to talk about.
    katfalt katfalt 31-35, F 2 Responses May 11

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    I've fallen for a girl

    that I've known for over a year and she's reciprocating. We finally held hands yesterday but we haven't spoken about whats going on between us. Whether its because we don't need to or because we're both way too shy, I'm not sure. I haven't told her I'm asexual because I feel...
    NocheSombra NocheSombra 18-21, F May 10

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    I know people have a hard time being classified

    with labels and labels are bad bla bla bla dehumanizing. But then why do we not have a problem with special scholarships reserved for different races. It's because these "racist" scholarships are usually for helping minorities. As a minority classifying yourself with others...
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 1 Response May 13

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    I'm more of a romantic girl,

    not a physical one.
    NocheSombra NocheSombra 18-21, F 3 Responses May 10

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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