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I Am Asexual

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    I don't have sex. I don't like thinking about

    it. I don't like it at all. It sucks but.... That's just me. So for all who want to talk about it with me, you now know how I feel.
    7Bird 7Bird 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    The sexual world often falls into the terrible

    habit of equating passion and sensuality with sex, and in that same vein, identifying people as more or less passionate, more or less sensual, based on how sexual they are. Passion is primarily about emotion. It’s about desire. It is not exclusively a euphemism or synonym for...
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response 2 hrs ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Weird And Awesome

    I have only recently discovered this movement in the world. I had heard of asexual in terms of biology, like how bacteria and other single celled organisms reproduce. For a bi-sexual species this seems a very strange concept, but somehow it seems to fit us ^_^ I, like so many...
    minatek616 minatek616 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    So... I was a virgin

    until I was 22 and it didn't seem unusual to me. It felt great keeping sex out of the equation. In school I was the only girl who didn't obsess over a star, I could have given two shots less about all the "hot guys". Yes I had a few crushes on guys and girls, but I never had...
    BrokenOneX BrokenOneX 31-35 1 Response Aug 21

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    I am an Asexual guy,

    who is happy the way i am, just feel i need a friend, someone that would be there for me when i really need, i do not want to grew old alone, i wish to find another asexual for LTR just someone to be best friends and live together or get married, but at same time would know me...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22

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    essikajeb essikajeb 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 22

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    In eighth grade, I got what I thought was my

    first crush. It was on a guy, so I had no reason to believe I was outside of the norm. Basically, my fantasies included reading in the same room as this person. This was what I had done with best friends in first and second grade. About a year later, after trying to force myself...
    TheOneWhoNose TheOneWhoNose 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    I've been asexual as long

    as I can remember, but I didn't know the term existed until about a year, maybe a year and a half ago. I constantly get frustrated with myself and my sexuality, because I feel like being a repulsed asexual, no one will ever want to be with me, or that they're going to judge me...
    billykaplan billykaplan 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    I think I am old enough to know.

    And I am not a virgin. But the idea of "s3x" makes me angry and depressed. And I just get this feeling like I want to cry and go to sleep. Anyone that knows me and is my friend knows not to talk about it at all.
    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M 4 Responses Aug 7

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    I am asexual but loving relationship looking

    for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Aug 15

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    I don't label myself

    as asexual but I have no interest in the opposite sex or even the same sex. I had sex before and felt weird with both male and female. I have always grew up being bullied and alone. I never truly had any crushes except for celebrities. Men were never that important to me. I...
    inspirelove inspirelove 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    If you want to learn about asexuality,

    I am here for you. You can message me and I won't get angry and be disrespectful to you when you ask sincere questions.
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 Aug 22

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    I have no sexual desire,

    don't tell me that I could change or that I am to young. I know who I am and I plan to stay myself.
    Although Although 13-15 2 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like it's near impossible to find

    asexual guys my age. Every boy in college is a ball of hormones. It just makes me sad because I want a boyfriend, but I don't want to go for a non-asexual because I feel like that wouldn't be fair to the guy. I still want someone to hold hands with and love just....minus all the...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    I am 29 yr male asexual (Muslim)

    but loving relationship looking for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship. If interested please message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    I am 29 yr male asexual (Muslim)

    but loving relationship looking for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship. If interested please message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    I've been thinking, as an asexual are we doomed

    to be forever alone? Because we sure as hell give a whole new meaning to it.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    So I don't really understand

    why I am like this. I mean I get romantically and emotionally attracted to guys but I despise sexual encounters. The first and last times I did anything sexual was 3 years ago with a long term boyfriend. Only because he couldn't go without it. And I am perfectly okay with it...
    MikBlack13 MikBlack13 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 3

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 25 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 11 Responses Jan 3

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    I am asexual and will always be.

    I don't really see a need for sex to be honest, but I know that some people need it. I am also a lesbian or a homoromantic as some call it.
    RandomUsername15 RandomUsername15 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 23

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    And In The Left Corner...

    Yep, you know it. I'm full on asexual. And I'm ******* proud of it too. I don't like guys, I don't like girls. I feel no sexual desires or attractions, or lust. I DO however still have the ability to feel sexual pleasure but doing that with anyone but myself feels wrong. It's...
    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    I’ve recently discovered the concept of

    tantric celibacy, and I am absolutely fascinated and excited by its possible meanings for my own life. There is one book in particular that I haven’t read yet but intend to read: Stuart Sovatsky’s Eros, Consciousness, and Kundalini. It looks like he talks about a tantric way...
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 day ago

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 5 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    I've only recently accepted

    that I am asexual. I haven't told anyone yet, but I plan on telling my best friend soon. But now that I've accepted it, I've realised how hard the next few years are going to be for me. Boys my age are sex crazed, peer pressure tells them that they have to have sex, so if I met...
    water202 water202 16-17, F 3 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I am asexual and also a lesbian.

    My girlfriend doesnt seem to understand.
    youngish20 youngish20 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21

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    I'm 15. Most people my age are all dating

    and obsessed with celebrities, saying how hot they are. I never really cared about any of that. I have dated a couple people, but they just got too close. They were only interested in looks. I knew they were. It's kind of a curse to me. I've had "crushes" but not like other...
    BrokenLostWings BrokenLostWings 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    My mom basically asked me how am I ever going

    to find a man and do I want to stay a virgin for the rest of my life. I couldn't bring myself to tell her the truth... She than said why don't you just become a nun, the pain is just to much ;(
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 7

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    My asexuality most likely stems from being a

    victim of rape. I feel like sex is unnecessary and unneeded. I've always found sex to be disgusting, the way people crave and lust for it is sickening, I just can't see where they're coming from. Personally, any sort of sexual contact sends me into a panic mode, when people talk...
    xhet xhet 18-21, T 4 Responses May 21

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 3 Responses Jan 19

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    I am a gender-fluid, pansexual,

    asexual... I don't see people as sexual objects, sex has absolutely no appeal to me. I am attracted to men like I am to a beautiful photo or painting. I just want to look at them. I am attracted to women like I am to an intricate sculpture. I just want to touch the details and...
    BrokenOneX BrokenOneX 31-35 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I believe Asexuality is made fun of by many.

    I can't be the only one who has gotten the asexual joke of: "you self procreate?" But also, I think it's viewed as a form of cowardice, because you don't want to have sex in such a sex based society; like your almost scared to do it. When really you don't have a sex drive, or...
    illiy illiy 16-17, F 4 hrs ago

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    I’m a grey asexual,

    or demisexual. Basically, I’m not completely asexual. Sexual attraction is a thing I experience every so often, but only to certain people who are close to me. There are only three people in my entire life that I’ve ever been attracted to, but since it is a foreign thing, I...
    melale melale 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    Labels, Experience, Incongruity

    I stumbled on this eye-opening line of inquiry after reading a story about a sexually frustrated asexual couple. The wife remained disinterested, the husband increasing depressed because of a new found interest in physical intimacy. That lead to some targeted Google searching...
    topazsky topazsky 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    I discovered that I am asexual about 1

    or 2 years ago. I am a romantic asexual and I have a boyfriend. The only problem is that he is sexual. He thinks that I only think of him as a friend because I don't do stuff like that with him. I love him and I wanna be with him. Is there any way to make him understand?
    CeriMon CeriMon 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I am Asexual. Always have been,

    always will be. :) Not a big deal.
    IRequireAssistance IRequireAssistance 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    xoxosabrinaxoxo xoxosabrinaxoxo 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    I am sexless but loving relationship looking

    for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Aug 15

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...