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I Am Asexual

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    I am asexual, to put it simply.

    However, I've thought that I was gay due to the fact I've only befriended males, but I don't have any sexual attraction to females. Or males. I'm very open about it with friends but not so much with my family. I'm sure they wouldn't accept it. (I've only had one relationship...
    SimplyZero SimplyZero 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    Nada

    Yeah, i'm not really attracted to anyone, or anything for that matter. I remember studying biology and learning about asexual reproduction, and never thought it would be a sexuality. Ever since I was young, I was exposed to pimps, ***********, women, and nudity. Things a 5 year...
    intrepidexplorers intrepidexplorers 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    It's not like i havent tried,

    ive dated guys and girls. i didnt imagine this life but its not as if its bad. I love people but i dont want to date them, i want their attention and to be close, to be friends. I dont like all the kissing and such. I cant imagine being married, i want a kid but not anyone. I...
    KiwiLiv KiwiLiv 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    I've been out as asexual

    for quite some time now. I'm almost 18 and I've tried to avoid adversity, sadly, to no avail. My mother told me people would ask her what my 'thing' is and when she tells them, they have the gull to tell HER that I'M in the closet and too embarrassed to tell her otherwise. I...
    SmplyM3 SmplyM3 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 16

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    I'm romantically attracted to guys.

    But.....the idea of sex has never appealed to me. Even when I've engaged in sexual things, I don't find them particularly pleasurable just....rather gross and strange. I'd really prefer to have nothing to do with genitals. I don't see what the appeal is. Unfortunately for me...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 17

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    18 years old, Never been in a relationship

    mainly because I haven't felt the need to.I get on with my life my way and I'm happy to continue to do so. I feel the need to have a soul mate in the future, kids is an option not a priority. I really want to find someone who relates to me, I really want to experience the...
    Barkles Barkles 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    As a heteroromantic asexual I still do want

    someone to be in a relationship with someone. I also am looking for a support system since I have not come out to any family or friends do to how conservative of an area we live in.
    thatwriterjenni thatwriterjenni 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 22 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Arieamarxus1 Arieamarxus1 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I Think...

    Six years ago, I thought I was bisexual. I thought so because I felt attracted to both men and women. Then, two years ago, I thought I was pansexual. I met a lovely couple, one was transgendered and the other was gender queer. I was instantly attracted to both, and would have had...
    BetterWithThree BetterWithThree 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2013

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    It's taken 32 years to discover there is a label

    for me to belong to. I am asexual. Only this week I researched why I have no interest in sex. After lots of reading, I found out that I am part of a very small group of people known as asexuals. I am in a relationship with a fantastic girl that is craving sex almost every day. I...
    kowald kowald 31-35, M 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    No matter how hard I try,

    I haven't felt anything towards men or women since my ex fiancé left me.
    asexualintrovert asexualintrovert 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Yeah, you kinda need to spend some time on the

    Aven forums to get that joke :I 
    TrippingKitty TrippingKitty 22-25 3 Responses Feb 17

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 13-15 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    FloatingStoutCotton FloatingStoutCotton 18-21 27 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    And, wow, did it take me a long time.

    I went from thinking I was heterosexual to bisexual to pansexual to homosexual and then finally I realized I was asexual. How does that even work? I have no idea. I suppose it had to do with me understanding that romantic and sexual attraction were two different things. I...
    kylinoir kylinoir 13-15 1 Response Jan 29

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 22 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    I don't think I have the emotional capacity to

    have real feelings for anyone. I think they're hot but then they open their mouth and talk and I loose any I interest.
    jessicastover11 jessicastover11 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 25

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 40 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    My name is Dexter, I am 20,

    and Asexual (or nonsexual). I've never found myself sexually attracted to any gender, and have been honestly fine with that. I won't go on too much about myself, this post is mainly a comment on the Asexual community that I've seen. To those whom are Asexual, I write you in...
    Dextere Dextere 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    I don't really remember exactly how I came upon

    AVEN... but when I did, suddenly everything came into focus with stunning clarity. Finally, here was a group of people who felt what I felt. Or rather, did not feel. I admit, I acted like a hyperactive, sugar-laden, caffeinated child... But I had my reasons. Sometimes I feel...
    Septisoul Septisoul 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    I have no feelings for people intimately,

    and very little romantic attraction. I am not a late bloomer, I am not too young to know who I am, it isn't because of past experiences, it's because I am who I am and I know who I am. I don't want kids, marriage, I might date or have sex just to try it when I'm older, but I...
    BeingInMonochrome BeingInMonochrome 16-17 1 Response Mar 22

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    So I used to be attracted to everyone

    and everybody I saw no matter how they looked like (based on the personality, even if it was for a split second that I thought about it) and I used to be pretty lustful when I younger, although I am a virgin, but nothing out of boundaries, you know? I suffer from Major...
    MaryRiddle3 MaryRiddle3 13-15, F Apr 7

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    I am currently in a relationship

    but I don't really feel anything physically when we mess around. I want to try sex just to see if I will feel anything but I don't know how it will affect my relationship If I don't and how he will react when I tell him.
    SilentSparrow SilentSparrow 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I never understood why someone would want to

    have a sexual relationship, I always wanted just a normal romantic relationship.
    olivurrrr olivurrrr 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    MariaMelon MariaMelon 16-17, F 5 Responses Jan 7

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    I have never been attracted to anyone based on

    physical appearance, I actually like not being in a relationship. I still feel like a part of me would be open to attempt it, if I were to meet the right person. I've been in a relationship in the past, but since I wasn't interested in sex it ended.
    Mindgamejames Mindgamejames 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 13

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    Hey! I'm a panromantic asexual from England :)

    I'm out to my friends, but not my family. I'm just not sure they'd understand... plus I haven't really felt the need to tell them yet. But anyway, I'm just looking for some people to chat to, I think it'll be interesting to talk to other asexuals :D
    WolfMist WolfMist 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    sex is really gross to me

    and i cant stand the thought of taking part in something like that. its terrible that people today thing relationships need sex. i also hate hearing the comments that people get for being asexual. its disgusting really.
    junketsu junketsu 70+, F 1 Response Feb 15

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    It's hard to explain

    that I love people just as much as non asexuals do. Sex does not necessarily make a relationship better or stronger. I don't care what anyone thinks- I love my family, the few friends I have, my sensei... They are so important to me.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Feb 12

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    Hey guys!! I believe I am asexual

    because I hate being touched. But when it comes to a guy I don't want to have sex, I just want to take care if him or show him that I love him. But at the same time I don't want any women approaching him sexually or I get upset. But the men I usually talk to want to be...
    LuvinGospel LuvinGospel 22-25 1 Response Feb 23

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I'm A Panromantic Asexual

    My sexuality was always such a mystery to me. I always thought I was Bisexual or Pansexual. I then discovered Asexuality, and realized this is who I am. I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. I'm romantically attracted to all sexes and genders. I've never liked sex. I do have sex...
    Cantoiii Cantoiii 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    I am completely asexual

    as in I have no interest in sex OR relationships OR intimacy of any sorts... In fact im DISGUSTED by it. But I wanna try out having a girlfriend... Idek why XD the thought just occurred to me just 10 sexonds ago. And btw I'm a girl too so yah
    14ScarsAndBrokenWings 14ScarsAndBrokenWings 13-15, F Mar 31

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    I'm Grey-A Lesbian, I've been G-A

    for ever but only recently found the words to describe and why i acted the way I did in the past ,with previous Girlfriends, I do experience sexual attraction but this very rarely turns into desire. I am perfectly happy with cuddling, holding hands etc but not all that keen on...
    katekane katekane 36-40, F Feb 11

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Labels, Experience, Incongruity

    I stumbled on this eye-opening line of inquiry after reading a story about a sexually frustrated asexual couple. The wife remained disinterested, the husband increasing depressed because of a new found interest in physical intimacy. That lead to some targeted Google searching...
    topazsky topazsky 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    MUCH happier being asexual now that I have found online asexual communities!!

    It took me many years to work out that my lack of desire for sex was actually a legitimate sexual orientation.  In the past I have 'been' with men and women and even though I am aesthetically attracted to both genders, I never had any sexual feelings whatsoever - I was deeply...
    SunnyAotearoa SunnyAotearoa 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 29, 2013

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    Most people would choose to frickle frackle

    with their celebrity crushes if they got a day alone with them. Me? I’d play video games or bake them cookies and cuddle and watch cheesy movies and build a Lego house with mine. :)
    xoxosabrinaxoxo xoxosabrinaxoxo 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    A lot of people, when they find out I am not

    gay, like they suspected , and that I am not straight, nor am I bi, they seem to think that I am not open to relationships. I think relatioships are fine, even though I have never been in one. I'm just not interested in the physical part of a relationship.
    IcyDragon IcyDragon 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 8

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    And In The Left Corner...

    Yep, you know it. I'm full on asexual. And I'm ******* proud of it too. I don't like guys, I don't like girls. I feel no sexual desires or attractions, or lust. I DO however still have the ability to feel sexual pleasure but doing that with anyone but myself feels wrong. It's...
    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 25 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    I’m a grey asexual,

    or demisexual. Basically, I’m not completely asexual. Sexual attraction is a thing I experience every so often, but only to certain people who are close to me. There are only three people in my entire life that I’ve ever been attracted to, but since it is a foreign thing, I...
    melale melale 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I know its confusing

    and complicated. But I am asexual, but I do have sexual emotions, I am bi. Its not that I don't do relationships, I do and I don't mind at all. I can give anything the person, want, support her or him in everything. I can give sexual actions but not the deep deep sexual one, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 26

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    Never had a gf or dated in my life,

    never will. Because of that men think I'm gay and women think ima two face liar since they wanna say ALL men need sex LOL ok
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 18

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    I've always known I didn't want to get married.

    Depending on my mood, sex seems somewhere between disturbingly biological and a boring necessity for bringing in the next generation. But I am still looking for friendship, love, emotional intimacy. My dream partner would be anyone (gender irrelevant) who loved learning, music...
    chaoticidealism chaoticidealism 26-30 3 Responses Feb 19

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    FloatingStoutCotton FloatingStoutCotton 18-21 9 Responses Jan 3

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    I am an Asexual guy,

    who is happy the way i am, just feel i need a friend, someone that would be there for me when i really need, i do not want to grew old alone, i wish to find another asexual for LTR just someone to be best friends and live together or get married, but at same time would know me...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Weird And Awesome

    I have only recently discovered this movement in the world. I had heard of asexual in terms of biology, like how bacteria and other single celled organisms reproduce. For a bi-sexual species this seems a very strange concept, but somehow it seems to fit us ^_^ I, like so many...
    minatek616 minatek616 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 5 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 22

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