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I Am Asexual

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I'm not, but I wish to be.

    Having desires or fantasizing about s-e-x is pointless if you don't want to be in a relationship of this kind. I don't need l-u-s-t at this point in my life, at least for now. It gets in the way and ruins things. I'm learning to keep it at bay. Without it I'll have a clearer...
    TheDimJoker TheDimJoker 13-15, M 8 Responses Nov 26

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 40 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It's so hard being black

    and asexual, I don't think they're many people like me out there.
    Androgynie Androgynie 22-25, F 6 Responses Nov 19

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    I found this on http://www.

    asexualityarchive.com/possible-signs-of-asexuality-part-1-about-you/ feel free to read. Quite a good read and funny if you ask me. "You've thought, “I must be straight by default”. I've seen a couple of people say that they felt this way before they discovered asexuality...
    InnocentShattered InnocentShattered 18-21 2 Responses Dec 15

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21

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    I WOULD LOVE TO BE FRIENDS WITH OTHER ASEXUALS.

    People that aren't concerned with sex 24/7! Please talk to me. I need to stay sane.
    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have never had nor wanted a partner of any

    gender. I have never engaged in any type of intimacy and do not wish to either. I am repulsed by the mere thoughts actually. Marriage and children are things I have ADAMANTLY rejected since childhood and contrary to the ignorant assertions that it was "just a phase" I still feel...
    FutureMaxiSurgeon FutureMaxiSurgeon 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 8

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 3

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    mallan384 mallan384 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 19

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    And apparently it's impossible

    for me to ever have a long-lasting relationship. I'm not just the asexual who isn't sexual attracted to someone, oh no, I'm the asexual who's repulsed by everything sexual. I literally get sick to my stomach. Was talking to my best friend about relationships and she mentioned...
    MissBlackrose MissBlackrose 16-17, F 5 Responses Dec 16

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 5 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Can't help but laugh at this part.

    "You think that “sexy” clothes just look uncomfortable or cold and can’t understand why anyone would wear them. Tight pants look like they’re going to squeeze the life out of someone, and if it’s a guy wearing them, you know he’s gotta be in pain. Heels look like...
    InnocentShattered InnocentShattered 18-21 1 Response Dec 15

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    When I was in school,

    I realized that I did not want sex. But I used to think that we needed to compromise who we are to get what we want and that everyone desired sex. So I believed that it was impossible for me to carry out a relationship if I could not become sexually attracted to a person. This...
    TheFarmerAsACorpse TheFarmerAsACorpse 18-21 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Asexual =/= Homosexual

    for goodness sakes -____________-
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 18-21, M 3 Responses Nov 24

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    Hello. I'm 22 years old

    and For a long time I never really understood what the big deal was about sex and I just thought when I had it someone in my mind would open up and the vail would drop and I would finally know what everyone was talking about. It did not. I did have sex and I found it...
    emilylightning16 emilylightning16 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 23

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    Asexual by choice....

    I am asexual because that is what I felt in high school and I was glad to feel the way I did. I believe that my good health got my body into balance and that is why I have sexual attraction now, but I still want to be pure. I want to be a virgin because I feel like sex would...
    TheFarmerAsACorpse TheFarmerAsACorpse 18-21 4 Responses Dec 17

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    I think I am old enough to know.

    And I am not a virgin. But the idea of "s3x" makes me angry and depressed. And I just get this feeling like I want to cry and go to sleep. Anyone that knows me and is my friend knows not to talk about it at all.
    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M 4 Responses Aug 7

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    It's taken 32 years to discover there is a label

    for me to belong to. I am asexual. Only this week I researched why I have no interest in sex. After lots of reading, I found out that I am part of a very small group of people known as asexuals. I am in a relationship with a fantastic girl that is craving sex almost every day. I...
    Stomping Stomping 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Our 29 Year Age Difference!

    We meet on AgeMeet.com , I am 21 and my boyfriend is 50. We were friends for a couple years before we got together, we have been together 3 amazing years and he's my best friend and the most wonderful boyfriend! We have a lot in common believe it or not, we want the same things...
    amanda198812 amanda198812 26-30, F Dec 9

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    This terrifies me actually,

    it's hard to imagine my boyfriend/girlfriend being okay with the fact that I don't want to have sex.
    thegirlsoldier thegirlsoldier 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 8

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 24

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    How come society makes us feel bad

    for thinking out the box when all the time it's made up to control us. Come play at secreterotica . com it's sexy, fun the groups and library are wicked and no BS censorship either.
    YouKnowItMakesSense YouKnowItMakesSense 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 28

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    I am a sex-repulsed asexual.

    I can't figure out whether I'm aromantic or heteroromantic. Does anyone else struggle with figuring out romantic orientation?
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses a week ago

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    How may of you actually know what asexual is?

    I just did a post about the difference between being asexual and choosing not to have sexual interaction with people and the first thing was someone attacking that claiming people who are not asexual should be able to call themselves asexual. They then claimed to be asexual...
    SomeBloke616 SomeBloke616 16-17, M 7 Responses Dec 6

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    To find total love in the soul of another was

    one of the most exhilarating experiences of my life!
    dropitnow52 dropitnow52 18-21, F Nov 29

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 7

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    Hello there, I am asexual looking

    for asexual friend (and partner) feel free to message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Dec 12

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    It is true, My sexuality

    and everything to do with it are centered around the letter A. I'm asexual....
    biancatodd biancatodd 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 28

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    I wish I could just find someone to love.

    . i wish i could find someone asexual just like me
    whyymee whyymee 22-25 5 Responses Nov 27

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 21 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    I've known I was aromantic

    since I was little I think, but asexual...it's new for me. I thought I was straight for the longest time, so realizing I'm more asexual than straight is rather disorienting for me. Maybe in a good way, though...I'm not sure I like labels, but they're good because they've helped...
    ttabls ttabls 18-21, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    World's biggest pet peeve: "I'm asexual" "so

    you reproduce on your own?"
    SammiSakura SammiSakura 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 23

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 22

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16

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    Can we just talk about the amount of people in

    this group......who are also part of the "I am a very sexual person" group and others like it...? I mean, I understand that the label varies, buuuut....
    HypeAboutEverything HypeAboutEverything 18-21, F 9 Responses Dec 1

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    I had a girl on top of me last night,

    a girl who I care about very much and am incredibly attracted to, and I still felt nothing sexually. I have never been so sure of my asexuality in my life and I don't know how to feel about it.
    roguish roguish 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 11 Responses