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I Am Asexual

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    It took me a long time to got here

    and to be honest I hid behind my religious faith (you know no sex before marriage) . I tired sex twice in a vain attempt to be "Normal" but certainly found nothing in it for me. I do "take care of myself" which confuses matter. I wounder if other asexual men do this? Anyway...
    Piemandmu Piemandmu 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 30

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    I am trying to be cool about this,

    but this guy at school always calls me "Asexual~" in the hallways and stealing my gym bag asking me if I have "Toys" in there since "I only have sex with myself". Since Valentines is coming up, he tells me I should be a Hopless Romantic since I'm asexual and that all asexuals...
    Mewl Mewl 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    Though most of my friends are supportive of

    this, as are my parents (or they seem to be), I don't really think they understand it. My friends have a tendency to go off and date someone, then start ignoring me. They all tell me about their sexual experiences, and I have no interest in it. It frustrates me that that's what...
    mrkagesama mrkagesama 22-25 3 Responses Feb 7

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 21 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I have a more serious question

    for once. I always wanted to adopt children and be a single father. I know alotttttt of kids have single mothers and no fathers and they turn out great a good amount of the time. Society though, isn't used to the vise versa. Would you think my (kids) would feel different in a...
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 8

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    The song Strange by Tokio Hotel comes to mind

    when I think of how I came to this conclusion. I was 19 and had never showed any real interest in dating anyone. I thought maybe I'd want to date someone eventually, but I just hadn't met anyone that really interested me in that way. It didn't help that no one else was...
    1WithOutLOVE 1WithOutLOVE 18-21, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    angiestong angiestong 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    beb12 beb12 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 6

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    The title is rather self explanatory

    but I would like to use this space to explain what asexuality is, how other people have reacted to me (or refused to) and what it's like living in a sex driven society. :) So basically asexuality, at its most simplest, is the lack of desire to have sex and with some people a...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    I came out to my cousin a little

    while ago, and started by saying "So, for some time now I've considered myself asexual..." she interrupted and went "I've considered you that for some time, myself." We laughed. It was great.
    Haerodiel Haerodiel 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 4

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    I have recently discovered

    that I am not only asexual, but am also interested in both guys and girls. I like relationships but can't stand sex, nor do I want it. Hugs are great, kisses are okay unless your tongue is in my mouth, ugh. Why is it such a struggle for people to understand?
    bythewhiskersofsamson bythewhiskersofsamson 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    I'm Asexual and proud

    but I don't know how yo reveal
    magmaqube magmaqube 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Here my friend go. Playing match maker on a

    Friday night, cause she thinks I need a "good man" in my life. A matter of fact, everyone thinks that I need a "good man" in my life, not even thinking about what I want and desire rather. Anyway, I don't know where this is going. Maybe another rejection to the cookie. I've...
    NaomiSunJourney NaomiSunJourney 31-35, F 4 hrs ago

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 13 Responses Jan 3

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    I suspect I am asexual.

    I have no sex drive. I find myself feeling aroused maybe once a year or less. It's never by people, just random with no focus on anyone. I've had sex with a lot of guys and one girl, mostly when I was younger. I did it because I had low self esteem and liked the attention. I...
    Asleep72 Asleep72 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 22 Responses Feb 17

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    I bought the "Some people are Asexual.

    Get over it!" shirt months and months ago. I wear it to every race to represent this fam. The results are always positive.
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M Feb 17

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    I am gray Asexual leaning towards heterosexual.

    I am fine without having sex. I don't worry about relationships. I like myself, my time, and my space.
    badazzbasicbich badazzbasicbich 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 7

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    Its kind of weird for me now.

    I always thought I was different in a way concerning sexuality, first I thought I was pansexual then my friend told me about asexuality. and now I do feel like I have really found my way... the only thing I really ever wanted is some one that would just love me for who I am...
    ruanhead ruanhead 16-17, M Feb 4

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    I am Asexual, I've never really been interested

    in sexual relationships. But sadly... This is a unpopular opinion in a world that is obsessed with sex. They tell you that you will change in time, but I don't see why I would change when I am happy with who I am. :)
    1Fortnight 1Fortnight 16-17, T 3 Responses Feb 6

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    This 13 year old girl is messaging me

    and actually trying to tell me that I don't know what my own sexual orientation is. LOOOOOOL
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 13

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    I'm on the boarder of defining myself

    as an asexual or demisexual. I have an very high libido and ********** a lot, but I don't have a feel any sort of sexual attraction to anyone around me. Not sure if I'm a demisexual tho cause I haven't known anyone for more than a year. Guess I'll define myself as asexual...
    Aoiberry Aoiberry 18-21, M 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Got a Valentine's 5k race tomorrow tomorrow.

    Wearing my Ace shirt and representing yall
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    This **** is so hot right here!

    http://www.lookhuman.com/design/65846-my-sexual-preference-is-nope
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M Feb 2

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    yeeee o/ I like to think of it

    as the orientation that's so invisible we're basically ninjas. The ace ninjas lmao
    Cryx Cryx 16-17, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me

    because she felt as I f she was lying to herself that she could be in a non sexual relationship. Before we even dated I made sure over and over that she was ok with me being asexual and not having a sexual relationship and he claimed she was. I fell madly in love with her and...
    graveyardgray graveyardgray 18-21, T 3 Responses Feb 11

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    NaomiSunJourney NaomiSunJourney 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 10

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