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I Am Asexual

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    I've recently come to terms with the fact I'm

    asexual. I've never been interesting in sex like most teenagers and don't feel attracted to either gender. I'm okay with this. However recently I've started to realise I have feelings for a friend. I don't want sex in a relationship or a physical relationship at all. They know...
    LettuceLily LettuceLily 16-17, F 5 Responses Jan 4

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 21 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    Rofl yo.. Ima dress up

    as Cupid on Valentines
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    I recently have come to terms with being ace

    and for me it's given me great ease finally know who I am. I haven't told my family however, and it annoys me to great lengths when they say "you should date so and so" or "get out and meet people" I would love to have a relationship but meeting that person who will accept me...
    emilylightning16 emilylightning16 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 15 Responses Jan 3

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    Hello. I'm 22 years old

    and For a long time I never really understood what the big deal was about sex and I just thought when I had it someone in my mind would open up and the vail would drop and I would finally know what everyone was talking about. It did not. I did have sex and I found it...
    emilylightning16 emilylightning16 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 23, 2014

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    I have no desire for sex i dont have sexual

    lust like all the other females and sometimes it feels like i dont even have reproductive organs .. And i feel that theres something wrong with me due to that i dont express my self to others because i know they wouldnt understand in the slightest
    Msxspraypaint Msxspraypaint 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 13

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 42 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    I think coming out of the closet

    as an asexual is less like it's for gays and lesbo's, but more like for Harry Potter. Unless it's a magic person waiting for you outside, chances are, noone around you will take your attempts serious.
    astrophobia astrophobia 26-30 3 Responses Jan 10

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    Hey everyone! Great resource here

    if you're looking to learn more about things. I highly recommend it. Enjoy! http://asexualadvice.tumblr.com/faq
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M Jan 5

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    ever since I can remeber I have shared no

    interest in feeling this love or liking of a man nor a women. Me being a teen, sees people making out and people getting into relationships all around me. It finally came to realization that I am asexual; so just wanted to come out with that :)
    shur09 shur09 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 6

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    Live with a bunch of conservative Christian

    folks. Every blue moon I want to have romantic relationship with a woman. I'm Agender and asexual. I've started to make queer friends which has increased my anxiety because I'm so far into the closet which is so weird at my age. Sometimes I think gay women would judge me for it...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    The title is rather self explanatory

    but I would like to use this space to explain what asexuality is, how other people have reacted to me (or refused to) and what it's like living in a sex driven society. :) So basically asexuality, at its most simplest, is the lack of desire to have sex and with some people a...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 16-17, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    New Music Original Song (Disgusting viewpoint

    or Mr. Steal yo girl type mess): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uned1DJCJIQ Remix: https://soundcloud.com/fortytherapper/for-long-not-for-long-remix
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 14

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    i have a friend who always tells me

    that im asexual, but i dont think so.. i am 31 and still a virgin and im not obsessed with sex like most people. im waiting for marriage, so maybe thats a type of asexuality...anyway i wrote a song about my lack of sex.. im attaching the link.
    krembo83 krembo83 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    I'm not 100 percent sure

    if I'm asexual but I think I am. Anyway, I hate getting asked dumb questions about my sexuality by my fellow students. "Are you straight, gay, or bi?" They ask. I want to tell them the truth but I know they'll never understand so I just tell them to back off my case and leave me...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    biromantic asexual...

    i think... who knows
    gemmed gemmed 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    It took me quite a while to figure out

    that I was asexual and not just "some weirdo". I like the idea of being able to say "yes, this is what I am". But now I'm not so sure that I want to share that with my friends and family. I spent a very long time trying to hide the fact that I was different from everyone else...
    jetsettergirl jetsettergirl 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 5

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    I'm polyromantic Grey-asexual I'm just

    discovering my at 20 years old honestly sometimes I hate it it would be so much easier if I were "normal" and I've spent so much time pretending to be someone I'm not I could easily do it again :/
    LexaLee44 LexaLee44 18-21, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's taken 32 years to discover there is a label

    for me to belong to. I am asexual. Only this week I researched why I have no interest in sex. After lots of reading, I found out that I am part of a very small group of people known as asexuals. I am in a relationship with a fantastic girl that is craving sex almost every day. I...
    Stomping Stomping 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 19, 2014

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    I have realised that I'm asexual,

    but now I wonder how I should tell this to people. My family thinks I'll get a boyfriend eventually and my friends keep trying to push me into having a relationship or kissing someone. A few days ago, I went shopping with a friend. I had planned to tell him, but I had no idea...
    pmiuasnioc pmiuasnioc 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 5

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    Hello there, I am asexual looking

    for asexual friend (and partner) feel free to message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Dec 27, 2014

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    paulacc11 paulacc11 26-30, F Jan 3

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    Is it strange that, in the beginning,

    I pretended to feel for other people in a loving or relationship-fueled way, hoping that I would find a spark somewhere or that something would 'kick in'? To be honest, as a child, I attempted to pursue girlfriends because I thought it was the normal thing to do. I knew I never...
    MissMadHatter MissMadHatter 18-21, T 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    i think i am asexual

    but i am not sure because i am only sixteen and i might just not be interested in sex yet. I really could use someone to talk to. I don't care how old you are, but i would prefer someone who is a little older just to share some of their experiences
    isismadelief isismadelief 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11 26-30, F Jan 4

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    I lost my virginity to a guy twice my age

    when I was 18 because it seemed an easy way to lose it and I was facing peer pressure from my friends to do it!
    lucyamelia95 lucyamelia95 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    I know I said that I was Bi on another post

    but I decided to now be asexual.
    90slove 90slove 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 1

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...