I Am Asexual

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    TerminaHero TerminaHero
    18-21
    33 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    So please stop saying its fake,

    a joke, stupid, a phase, and that i "just need to find the right person"
    izzieebee izzieebee
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2015

    This means I am not here to flirt

    or harass women and it is disgusting that so many guys on MeToo do
    TrumpDestroyer TrumpDestroyer
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 21

    Looking for some more people

    who identify as asexual to talk to. :) need some friends I relate to.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Feb 27

    I'm 17 years old, i've had sex couple times

    and I'm asexual. For very long time I thought there's something wrong about me, everyone else seemed to talk about it all the time, but not me. I don't find sex discusting - I'm just not interested of it at all. It's really hard for people, expecially for boys to understand.
    Imscaredofme Imscaredofme
    16-17, F
    Apr 19

    I hate how misunderstood asexauls get.

    People need to accept the fact that there are people out there who AREN'T obsessed with sex. Not everyone, just those who **** on asexuals.
    WolfConstellation WolfConstellation
    18-21, F
    Mar 18

    There used to be a rumour going around my high

    school that one of the teachers was Asexual. I doubt many people actually understood what it meant, including me. It just felt like a bad thing or he was a weirdo. I was 23 before I had my first kiss. With Family and peer pressure I started 'dating' one of my friends. I was...
    nowconfused nowconfused
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 16

    The world is disgusting!

    I'm like an 18 year old just landed from a world of unicorns into a world of h0rny teenagers and perverted adults, oh not to mention the corrupted and damaged kids of the p0rnographic digital era! Someone please let me live inside a disney movie!
    EarthGirl97 EarthGirl97
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 11

    I have my first serious girlfriend now

    and it's a lot easier for me than I imagined it would be but there is a bit of a disconnect because I'm not attracted to her per se and I don't know how to respond when she compliments my appearance in any kind of sexual way sexuality is this part of her/everybody else which I...
    ghostscircuit ghostscircuit
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 21

    I just want to say I am proud to be asexual.

    I don't want to change in being sexual ever. I have never felt any sexual desire in my life...
    warriorshe4489 warriorshe4489
    22-25, F
    Feb 21

    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13
    18-21, F
    20 Responses Feb 17, 2015

    I'm asexual, aromantic.

    I always prefer cake. I've never had sex. I don't really like to touch or to be touched by people every since I was a child. I'm only "ok" with hugs for the people I love. High fives for the people I don't know... So obviously, I've never had an intimate relationship before in...
    Nonotu Nonotu
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 15

    Hello there, I'm 31 yrs Indian asexual looking

    for girl who is interested in moc, would like to know more pls message me or email ace4moc at yah00 com
    HHopeful HHopeful
    31-35, M
    Mar 7

    I can't say I am as proud of this as

    so many others that speak up. I always knew I was a bit different but I figured it was just social anxiety and being extremely self disciplined. Much like a lot of others you start to notice in high school. It was not so much that I had to "like" some one that bothered me so...
    Shadowghost123 Shadowghost123
    18-21
    1 Response Mar 10

    33 year old south Indian gay looking

    for MoC with a family-oriented, understanding asexual/lesbian that will be committed to the MoC as I will be. Looking to develop a life-long, trust worthy friendship and also have kids through artificial means. If interested please reply to this post.
    krishere1982 krishere1982
    31-35
    1 Response Mar 13

    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa
    26-30, F
    24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

    ok so, there's a lot of different opinions

    and definitions about being asexual. but i want to state, in my own personal opinion, what being asexual means to mei love to hold hands, kiss, cuddle, hug, make out with, and massage my guy. and all that's normal and romantic. where i draw the line is at sex, that i will not do...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2015

    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood
    22-25, F
    40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    TerminaHero TerminaHero
    18-21
    11 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    I don't feel attracted to any women

    or men. Still, I yearn for companionship. Just acknowledged that I mostly likely asexual. Do any of you have any advice?
    WalterKo WalterKo
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Mar 24

    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

    To be honest, I just feel awkward getting close

    to people, so no kissing or anything like that for me either, heck, I can't even make eye contact. I'm okay with hugging and stuff though, and I'm a super great hugger. :>
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Nov 15, 2015

    Hey, just on here trying to help a friend

    figure things out. So my friend wants to know if there is a term when you are asexual or grey-a but you enjoy having sex so kinda like semisexual but the opposite...sort of and kinda like cupiosexual but without the actual desire for a sexual relationship (I know some asexual...
    skinnylove14 skinnylove14
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Apr 10

    Why is demisexuality a thing.

    ... I, reasonably, call it sexual respect. Which is a thing people don't comprehend these days. I think it's completely obtuse to be classified a specific sexual orientation just because you have a great respect to others' sexual health and their own free will.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    11 Responses Feb 29

    What am I? I don't know.

    Sex grosses me out. Sexual organs gross me out. Any sexual related practice besides kissing or making out grosses me out. But I appreciate male physical beauty and maybe attracted to that. I do understand asexual can have feelings, and I do have feelings, and desires but I hate...
    Offing Offing
    22-25, F
    25 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    I wish asexuality was a thing everyone knew the

    gist of and accepted There's so much more pressure and awkwardness around coming out because most people seem to assume we're freaks
    ghostscircuit ghostscircuit
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Oct 13, 2015

    Came out to my friend

    as asexual o.o not that I think it's that big a deal. We talked about it and she said that some on the ace spectrum do have libidos and fantasize but just don't have any interest in acting on anything and I'm the same. I've spent several years now really trying to get myself to...
    Hush92 Hush92
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 28
    BloodyGreenie BloodyGreenie
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2015

    It's hard finding other asexual guys

    and friends who aren't judgy and actually know the meaning of the word it ****** me off when I'm vibing well with someone and they as what my sexuality is when I reply Panromantic Asexual they get the panromantic part but the asexual part throws them for a loop. They watch one...
    Daddydomless Daddydomless
    22-25, F
    Apr 17

    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30
    56-60, F
    41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Feb 6, 2015

    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 22, 2014

    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug
    18-21, M
    10 Responses Jan 3, 2015

    today was the day....

    .that i finally told my mom.....and she wasn't supportive. today after school she and i were in the living room talking and i told her i had to tell her something important then she said ok.....then i told her i'm asexual. she looked at me like i was insane, so i had to explain...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42
    18-21, F
    31 Responses Apr 30, 2015

    "Being asexual is like being born without a

    sense of smell but everywhere you go people are spraying perfume in your face and when you ask them to stop and tell them it's irritating and you can't smell the perfume anyway they get huffy and respond with "Don't lie to me; I can clearly see you have a nose. Everybody has a...
    Nonotu Nonotu
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 10

    It annoys me when people claim be to asexual

    just because they're not ready to be in a sexual relationship. THAT'S NOT WHAT IT IS! Being asexual isn't a 'I'm not ready switch', it's not something you tell your boyfriend when you're not attracted to him. It's real, it exists. It's people like me who really don't feel the...
    dollytheray dollytheray
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 6

    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi
    18-21
    6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

    Well, it explains a lot.

    I knew I was different in some way from others. The thought of sex is revolting to me. People look better to me clothed rather than in their birthday suits. I've never done "Things" that others in my age group have done either. I'm just glad I figured it out now rather than...
    SirShivers SirShivers
    13-15, M
    1 Response Apr 21

    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough
    26-30, M
    6 Responses Aug 31, 2014

    I keep flip flopping between demi

    and asexual. I'm not sure what I am. I can have and enjoy sex but I'm never the one who instigates and I definitely do it more to please my partner. I spent four months apart from him in India and I felt so relieved when the pressure to have sex was gone. I don't look at anyone...
    chrysanthemumtea chrysanthemumtea
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 28

    and I feel like I've been living a lie.

    My entire life, Ive fought to break being the minority, I felt I was broken, trying to force myself to CRAVE sex, to make my body respond the same way everyone else I knew was. I identified as bisexual because I thought that if I could appreciate the form of either gender (even...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Feb 26

    I am quite happy to know

    that I am asexual. Though even though I still feel a little unsure, I'm sure. I know I don't get turned on by people. I don't get turned on by any part of flesh on any body, it actually weird's and kinds grosses me out. I don't get effected and it must be hard for other people...
    GiddyX GiddyX
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 14

    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 7, 2014

    I am 22 years old, a virgin (I've never been in

    a relationship, been kissed, or had sex), female (pronouns she, her, hers)and am more specifically hetero-romantic asexual. My whole life I haven't fit in with my peers. Everyone talks about sex, drugs, drinking, and partying. I don't like any of those things and because of...
    missradiology missradiology
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

    so i been all of my life wanting to be married

    and having kids and all and i also hold the feelings and everything is normal about me. but what make me say that i am asexual is many reasons:-1-have never had any sexual relationship before with any girl and always been avoiding them as i really respect that i am to one girl...
    gamesBOSS gamesBOSS
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Feb 27

    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    I don't appreciate people messaging me trying

    to be sexual. I'm here to meet and support people not for you to indulge in whatever fantasy you may have. For those who don't know asexual means I don't have a sexual attraction to anyone.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    7 Responses May 31, 2015

    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw
    22-25, F
    28 Responses Jun 15, 2010

    I think sex is overrated these days

    and people just care so much about it. But why is it when people are not sexually attracted to someone or they just simply don't want sex people make a big deal out of it and think we are not normal, think we have problems, or dislike us? I don't get it, like sex isn't...
    Emsickles Emsickles
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 18, 2015

    I'm an aromantic asexual,

    my grandma is always talking about the day she'll have great grandkids and I'm married, but that's not going to happen. Ever.(unless my sister has kids, but I'm not sure she will either.) I don't want to tell her that I'm asexual, she grew up in a generation where it was not...
    EridianaAndErin EridianaAndErin
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Mar 17

    One of a kind closeted gay man looking

    for his soul mate, a closeted lesbian. 100% discreet and 100% masculine. I am handsome, physically fit, athletic, genuine, outgoing, career oriented. I am 5,11 tall, 170 lbs, dark brown hair with green eyes. I am Caucasian, Italian background and was born and raised in NY...
    joesmithnyc joesmithnyc
    41-45, M
    Mar 4

    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2014

    I am a 33 year old Indian gay looking

    for an open marriage with a straight female/lesbian. I am in the US and seek someone that is sane, stable and serious. Please get back to me if interested to discuss further.
    krishere1982 krishere1982
    31-35
    2 Responses Apr 4

    H rape kids are so weird

    that work for sale, and I hope your day every day lol it was just gonna sleep every second. my feet are so weird but. hot guys feet stink smell bad things even more penis every thing to me anymore and Dab in a few days
    SoSaSoo SoSaSoo
    26-30, M
    Apr 19

    Funny. I am a sex-repulsed asexual

    yet I still find myself having a very dirty mind. Does anyone else have this.
    WolfConstellation WolfConstellation
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Mar 18

    and scared as all hell.

    I'm scared of the judgement and of disappointing my parents. But I can't change who I am. What should I do?
    whatismylife88 whatismylife88
    18-21, F
    15 Responses Feb 9

    I lost my sexualll urges long ago.

    .now I just get nudessss for fun
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Apr 2
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