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I Am Asexual

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 39 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I do not smoke, I do not drink alcohol,

    I don't do drugs, I don't eat meat, I don't dress with labels, I graduated High School but will never study, I don't like my country, I accept all forms of living, I never go out partying, I don't wear size 2, I don't have dates, I am hetero but simultaneously asexual. Yep, I'm...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 17

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    Sorry to share smth the third time,

    but I'm feeling so lost right now! I'm confused about (my) life. I just identified as heteroromantic asexual type C but haven't outed myself yet. I don't think I will ever be able to out myself. Did you guys do it? To whom? How? When? I feel like I am in a cage because I can't...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    I am Asexual. I am completely sure of it.

    I want to come out. But I am worried people won't understand. I'm worried they will say asexuality isn't real and i'm just saying this for attention. I just wish there was a way for people to understand. Im tired of constantly feeling like there is something wrong with me.
    bridgetstonem bridgetstonem 16-17, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    This is my opinion, but I don't think anyone

    can claim to be asexual until they're at LEAST 16. My sex drive didn't kick in until around junior year of high school, and most people's sex drives won't kick in completely until they're completely done with puberty. Until you feel your sex drive you won't know fully. If you...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 4 Responses 3 days ago

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    boy flirting at me: OOoooh you're asexual?

    ? thats kinda a turn off ?? me: ....???????????? GOOD
    baldwinbitch baldwinbitch 18-21, F Aug 9

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    Stop telling me I need to get my hormones

    checked. This isn't a medical or psychological condition. Stop telling I'm too young to know. I'm 20, the late bloomer ship has sailed. I need more experience. I have never felt the need to "get some" and I won't "get some" just to make you feel comfortable around me.
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 18-21, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    I have never been sexually attracted to anyone

    in my life, and at 19, it doesn't seem I ever will. I'm fine with this, even if I feel left out a lot, as many people seem to talk about it a lot. Sex is everywhere and it makes me feel uncomfortable and isolated. Being 'fixed' was very unpleasant and that's an understatement...
    internalpuppetshow internalpuppetshow 18-21, M 3 Responses Aug 10

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    I'm a 16 year old girl,

    I only just discovered that I'm asexual... I think? I'm romantically attracted to guys but I don't want to have sex with them, the thought of it is just not appealing whatsoever. When I see a cute guy I imagine dating him not sex, does this sound like I'm asexual? I'm scared...
    JessieIsIrish JessieIsIrish 16-17, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    BloodyGreenie BloodyGreenie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    But I value my close friendship(s) more

    than anything and everything; no exceptions. That's because I have a best friend who is this way though. She showed me her ways. (Haha.) She and I are so committed to each other, its as if we were a married couple. We cuddle, sleep next to each other, we talk about almost...
    ghostwolf1 ghostwolf1 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 10

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 10 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm 14, androromantic,

    and asexual looking for a boyfriend
    musicalauthor musicalauthor 13-15, T 3 days ago

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    It's a realisation I've come to quite recently,

    most of my life I've just thought there was something wrong with me. Knowing that it's actually my orientation, and that there are others like me out there, is a huge comfort.
    Selesnya Selesnya 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 17

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    so I tried to explain to my friends

    and bf that I am aromantic and asexual without actually using those words. And they felt the need to say it was because I have a poor relationship with my father. What the heck! Sorry bf but you'll have to get over me never having sex woth you, or even being attracted to ya.
    AceAroAthe AceAroAthe 16-17, F Aug 9

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    I have never experienced sexual attraction.

    Sure, I can find a person or fictional character appealing on an aesthetic level, but people in general do nothing for me. I have tried watching media that people might find sexually arousing (I.e. Game of Thrones and the sex scenes it shoves in your face), and I just felt...
    Spacemaid Spacemaid 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 9

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    i am asexual AS **** guys on here are creepy

    though, as soon as you mention sex oh deer i must be calling for a man huh? no im asexual, yes im happy to talk about it, i will happily educate the ignorant. but i am not looking for some sort of sexting guidance class okay. i am so tired right now, and i dont get why people...
    baldwinbitch baldwinbitch 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 26-30, M 6 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    Eww. Just had a nightmare about two weird guys

    (one seemed to be my boyfriend) and a girl (thought it was my friend but went out to be a clone or robot wtf) and one guy wanted to rape me... But I had Bella Swan's father as a dad and he ran the hell after that jerk lol. And in the end zhe robot/clone/weirdo lady wanted to...
    MutedVoice MutedVoice 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    well i guess this is were i open up

    yet ive never met another asexual. i live in a smallish town and like most asexual experiences they dismiss it as anything but... yet ive been asexual/aromantic for as long as i remember. ive never felt the need for closeness to another person
    troubledpassager troubledpassager 18-21 2 Responses Aug 12

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    allisoncc11 allisoncc11 26-30, F Aug 13

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    I don't appreciate people messaging me trying

    to be sexual. I'm here to meet and support people not for you to indulge in whatever fantasy you may have. For those who don't know asexual means I don't have a sexual attraction to anyone.
    Shortandsweet1999 Shortandsweet1999 18-21, F 4 Responses May 31

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    I think sex is overrated these days

    and people just care so much about it. But why is it when people are not sexually attracted to someone or they just simply don't want sex people make a big deal out of it and think we are not normal, think we have problems, or dislike us? I don't get it, like sex isn't...
    Emsickles Emsickles 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 18

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    So please stop saying its fake,

    a joke, stupid, a phase, and that i "just need to find the right person"
    izzieebee izzieebee 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    eioncc11 eioncc11 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    It hurts me and it makes me feel mad

    when people say asexuality is curable. I'm not sick. There is nothing to cure. The only thing that needs to be cured is your intolerance.
    Inimica Inimica 16-17, F 2 Responses May 25

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    I am 14 goin into high school I want the boys

    to be nice to me in school but face **** me and spit in my face. I always wanted a hot boy to verbally abuse me in bed like call me worthless a ***** and **** in my face spit in my face is this normal and do you like guys will let me suck them in high school?
    Hsjahiskns Hsjahiskns 26-30, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Hi guys I'm new here I just need a relationship

    for me but TBH I'm gay I'm not old I'm 16 going to be 17 this year um I just want a true person to care about me and love me who i am and take care of me too
    reylozano32 reylozano32 16-17, M Aug 12

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    AbcdWxyz9998 AbcdWxyz9998 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 13

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    At this point I am extremely confused about my

    physical sexuality. Lots of people dismiss me from being asexual because of how I hand sex. I don't have it, I don't really want to. I think about it but I've said before that I really don't wanna be that affectionate with anyone. So because of this people think I'm not asexual...
    xMellowButterflyx xMellowButterflyx 18-21, F 4 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    What am I? I don't know.

    Sex grosses me out. Sexual organs gross me out. Any sexual related practice besides kissing or making out grosses me out. But I appreciate male physical beauty and maybe attracted to that. I do understand asexual can have feelings, and I do have feelings, and desires but I hate...
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 27 Responses Jun 6

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 26-30, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014