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I Am Asexual

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Here my friend go. Playing match maker on a

    Friday night, cause she thinks I need a "good man" in my life. A matter of fact, everyone thinks that I need a "good man" in my life, not even thinking about what I want and desire rather. Anyway, I don't know where this is going. Maybe another rejection to the cookie. I've...
    NaomiSunandMoon NaomiSunandMoon 31-35, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm Asexual and proud

    but I don't know how yo reveal
    magmaqube magmaqube 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 7

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23, 2014

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    yeeee o/ I like to think of it

    as the orientation that's so invisible we're basically ninjas. The ace ninjas lmao
    Cryx Cryx 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I'm on the boarder of defining myself

    as an asexual or demisexual. I have an very high libido and ********** a lot, but I don't have a feel any sort of sexual attraction to anyone around me. Not sure if I'm a demisexual tho cause I haven't known anyone for more than a year. Guess I'll define myself as asexual...
    Aoiberry Aoiberry 18-21, M 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    Yes I sure am regardless

    if I had relationships in the past
    90slove 90slove 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Got a Valentine's 5k race tomorrow tomorrow.

    Wearing my Ace shirt and representing yall
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    I'm all about that ace,

    bout that ace, no bedroom. Swear I gotta make another ace rap
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M a week ago

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Its kind of weird for me now.

    I always thought I was different in a way concerning sexuality, first I thought I was pansexual then my friend told me about asexuality. and now I do feel like I have really found my way... the only thing I really ever wanted is some one that would just love me for who I am...
    ruanhead ruanhead 16-17, M Feb 4

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    This 13 year old girl is messaging me

    and actually trying to tell me that I don't know what my own sexual orientation is. LOOOOOOL
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 4 Responses Feb 13

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me

    because she felt as I f she was lying to herself that she could be in a non sexual relationship. Before we even dated I made sure over and over that she was ok with me being asexual and not having a sexual relationship and he claimed she was. I fell madly in love with her and...
    graveyardgray graveyardgray 18-21, T 3 Responses Feb 11

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 22 Responses Feb 17

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    I am trying to be cool about this,

    but this guy at school always calls me "Asexual~" in the hallways and stealing my gym bag asking me if I have "Toys" in there since "I only have sex with myself". Since Valentines is coming up, he tells me I should be a Hopless Romantic since I'm asexual and that all asexuals...
    Mewl Mewl 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 9

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    I'm brand new to this site,

    but I guess I'll start with this; I've been passively pushed into a relationship. The guy is decent and treats me well, but I don't feel anything at all for him (or anyone for that matter) I've tried to open up to him about why I don't do relationships, but I either never...
    audiopuma audiopuma 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    beb12 beb12 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 6

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    The song Strange by Tokio Hotel comes to mind

    when I think of how I came to this conclusion. I was 19 and had never showed any real interest in dating anyone. I thought maybe I'd want to date someone eventually, but I just hadn't met anyone that really interested me in that way. It didn't help that no one else was...
    1WithOutLOVE 1WithOutLOVE 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I might be asexual. It never really occurred

    to me until recent events that I could be asexual. I am currently in college and dating a girl, although I do not know how much longer. I met this girl in my organic chemistry lecture. I enjoyed talking to her very much and we seemed to relate on a lot of things. We became...
    reddopplershift reddopplershift 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Anyone else hate it when people are like "All

    men want in this world is sex" or "All women do is get busy in the bed and have babies"? I mean, speak for yourself please..
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I suspect I am asexual.

    I have no sex drive. I find myself feeling aroused maybe once a year or less. It's never by people, just random with no focus on anyone. I've had sex with a lot of guys and one girl, mostly when I was younger. I did it because I had low self esteem and liked the attention. I...
    Asleep72 Asleep72 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Though most of my friends are supportive of

    this, as are my parents (or they seem to be), I don't really think they understand it. My friends have a tendency to go off and date someone, then start ignoring me. They all tell me about their sexual experiences, and I have no interest in it. It frustrates me that that's what...
    mrkagesama mrkagesama 22-25 3 Responses Feb 7

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 41 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    The title is rather self explanatory

    but I would like to use this space to explain what asexuality is, how other people have reacted to me (or refused to) and what it's like living in a sex driven society. :) So basically asexuality, at its most simplest, is the lack of desire to have sex and with some people a...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    I bought the "Some people are Asexual.

    Get over it!" shirt months and months ago. I wear it to every race to represent this fam. The results are always positive.
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 21 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    i don't want to be like this.

    i feel like i'm missing out on something.
    bamalamajam bamalamajam 18-21, F 28 Responses Feb 6

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    I have recently discovered

    that I am not only asexual, but am also interested in both guys and girls. I like relationships but can't stand sex, nor do I want it. Hugs are great, kisses are okay unless your tongue is in my mouth, ugh. Why is it such a struggle for people to understand?
    bythewhiskersofsamson bythewhiskersofsamson 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 5

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    I feel like I'm never going to find someone

    who doesn't like sex as much as I don't and that will actually want to stay with me forever. Being asexual kinda sucks. Could really use someone who is also going through this :/
    bythewhiskersofsamson bythewhiskersofsamson 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 6

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    I am gray Asexual leaning towards heterosexual.

    I am fine without having sex. I don't worry about relationships. I like myself, my time, and my space.
    badazzbasicbich badazzbasicbich 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 7

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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