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I Am Asexual

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    I always wonder why I made my username

    so "suggestive". Lol, I mean I don't want anything to do with sex, I'm an asexual for crying out loud.
    SuckMyAwesome SuckMyAwesome 16-17, F May 8

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 40 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I really feel like I'm very hard to satisfy.

    it feels good, but do I have a high apatite?
    stevetyler1989 stevetyler1989 22-25, M 4 Responses May 9

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    I feel absolutely no attraction toward the

    opposite s@x and no, i'm not gay. I can very easily look at a womans body without feeling a thing for them. I never used to be this way and in my teens as well as early 20's i was your regular h@rny guy, lusting after chicks and watching **** on the TV. I suffered from a nervous...
    WitchOfWoodStock WitchOfWoodStock 31-35, M 1 Response May 10

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    I don't have feelings about sex

    but I would like to be naked whit my wife to have sensuality (not sexuality), am I asexual?
    AquariusFart AquariusFart 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 23

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    Hey, how come you guys don't get a parade?

    The LGBT community has gained acceptance and recognition, while the asexual crowd gets tossed to the wayside. It seems this is an orientation like any other, but if I am any indication of the pervasive ignorance in our society, I didn't acknowledge you guys as a legit...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 13 Responses Apr 6

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    Granted I wasn't always this way,

    but I don't remember EVER being captivated by it, and am curious as to why sex seems to be the only thing people want to talk about.
    katfalt katfalt 31-35, F 2 Responses May 11

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    Hello there, I am 30 yr asexual Muslim from

    india living in middle east, looking for asexual/ straight girl for long term MOC, if you are interested or wanted know more please drop email on shadowboy2u@yahoo.com
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    Many who identify as asexual still find

    happiness in romance, choosing only to forgo the physical love. I find that I am at my happiest by myself. I have friends, of course, but they are a select few. For those who are able to find fulfilling and happy relationships, I am happy. Everyone deserves to have that special...
    FoolOfATook FoolOfATook 16-17 2 Responses May 8

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    I consider myself to be a Homoromantic asexual.

    I find girls aesthetically attractive, but I've never felt arousal in any form in my life. (I'm so glad I can just. Explain myself without being dismissed in some form.) but just because so have 0 sex drive doesn't mean I don't long for a deep relationship. However, it seems I'm...
    Littlegirlblue22 Littlegirlblue22 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I'm more of a romantic girl,

    not a physical one.
    NocheSombra NocheSombra 18-21, F 3 Responses May 10

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    I think over time of feeling no one will want

    me I've become immune to any level of attraction
    AnoynomousReader AnoynomousReader 13-15, F May 10

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    chucklemastr chucklemastr 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 22

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 7 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I'm 28 and only just considering

    that i may be asexual. I always thought i was straight but not so sure. Any else have this epiphany so late in life?
    joesmo28 joesmo28 26-30, M 3 Responses May 12

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    I've done some online reading over this subject,

    and it seems like I fit into this category more than any other. I've read a lot of different opinions about this online, but like with most things in life we each have our own reasons and experiences that shape who we are. I don't wish to divulge my reasons as they are personal...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 16

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    I don't want to sleep with you,

    we don't have to hold hands, I want to connect without having a thing to do with physical touch. Invade my thoughts and understand me entirely. Know that we don't need sex to be close. Captivate me.
    Needygirlgreedygirl Needygirlgreedygirl 18-21, F May 1

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 21 Responses Feb 17

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    For me sex is take it

    or leave it but it don't really interest me so far
    ChloeValintina ChloeValintina 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    Am I still allowed to call myself asexual

    if I feel sexual desires, but I just don't want to have sex? It's not that I'm afraid to or something silly like that, I just simply would rather not have sex. What is the definition of "asexual" anyway?
    dinorap1 dinorap1 16-17, F 5 Responses May 10

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    Stop telling me I need to get my hormones

    checked. This isn't a medical or psychological condition. Stop telling I'm too young to know. I'm 20, the late bloomer ship has sailed. I need more experience. I have never felt the need to "get some" and I won't "get some" just to make you feel comfortable around me.
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    NaomiSoulJourney NaomiSoulJourney 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 30

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    Atleast I think I am.

    .. I mean I'm not interested in having sex... But I still fall in love idk
    xxtoxiccupcakexx xxtoxiccupcakexx 16-17, F 2 Responses May 11

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 18-21, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    today was the day....

    .that i finally told my mom.....and she wasn't supportive. today after school she and i were in the living room talking and i told her i had to tell her something important then she said ok.....then i told her i'm asexual. she looked at me like i was insane, so i had to explain...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 43 Responses Apr 30

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    I don't actually feel anything

    when it comes to s*x and really I just want to find a guy that isn't after that....which would be impossible....
    Comicfangirl15 Comicfangirl15 13-15, F 4 Responses May 8

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I want to lick all your body

    and feel your booty!!
    haruno1997 haruno1997 18-21, M 12 hrs ago

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    Wondering today the relationship between meds

    and asexuality.... I've been on psych meds for years. Is that why I feel this way (or don't feel this way)? I think from what I've been reading the answer might be that meds affect libido, whereas asexuality is about attraction. Makes it complicated though!
    mishacamp mishacamp 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 21

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    It took me 30 years to figure out

    that there was a term for people like me. I've been in sexual relationships in the past and I always thought something was wrong with me because I had no feelings of arousal for my partner. I have 0 interest in sex and I am finally comfortable with it
    KrisEC KrisEC 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 17

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 11 Responses Jan 3

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    This is really bizarre

    but I'm only asexual in this reality. I can enjoy reading stories that involve sex or watching stories that don't show explicit kissing or sex. But I have no interest in sex with another. I find most people repulsive in that way. However I'm a lucid dreamer who is certainly not...
    fallenstar23 fallenstar23 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    I know people have a hard time being classified

    with labels and labels are bad bla bla bla dehumanizing. But then why do we not have a problem with special scholarships reserved for different races. It's because these "racist" scholarships are usually for helping minorities. As a minority classifying yourself with others...
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 1 Response May 13

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