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I Am Asexual

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21

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    I’m a grey asexual,

    or demisexual. Basically, I’m not completely asexual. Sexual attraction is a thing I experience every so often, but only to certain people who are close to me. There are only three people in my entire life that I’ve ever been attracted to, but since it is a foreign thing, I...
    melale melale 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I am an Asexual guy,

    who is happy the way i am, just feel i need a friend, someone that would be there for me when i really need, i do not want to grew old alone, i wish to find another asexual for LTR just someone to be best friends and live together or get married, but at same time would know me...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I've been thinking, as an asexual are we doomed

    to be forever alone? Because we sure as hell give a whole new meaning to it.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Labels, Experience, Incongruity

    I stumbled on this eye-opening line of inquiry after reading a story about a sexually frustrated asexual couple. The wife remained disinterested, the husband increasing depressed because of a new found interest in physical intimacy. That lead to some targeted Google searching...
    topazsky topazsky 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    I discovered that I am asexual about 1

    or 2 years ago. I am a romantic asexual and I have a boyfriend. The only problem is that he is sexual. He thinks that I only think of him as a friend because I don't do stuff like that with him. I love him and I wanna be with him. Is there any way to make him understand?
    CeriMon CeriMon 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    My asexuality most likely stems from being a

    victim of rape. I feel like sex is unnecessary and unneeded. I've always found sex to be disgusting, the way people crave and lust for it is sickening, I just can't see where they're coming from. Personally, any sort of sexual contact sends me into a panic mode, when people talk...
    xhet xhet 18-21, T 4 Responses May 21

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    I'm 15. Most people my age are all dating

    and obsessed with celebrities, saying how hot they are. I never really cared about any of that. I have dated a couple people, but they just got too close. They were only interested in looks. I knew they were. It's kind of a curse to me. I've had "crushes" but not like other...
    BrokenLostWings BrokenLostWings 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 12

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    In eighth grade, I got what I thought was my

    first crush. It was on a guy, so I had no reason to believe I was outside of the norm. Basically, my fantasies included reading in the same room as this person. This was what I had done with best friends in first and second grade. About a year later, after trying to force myself...
    TheOneWhoNose TheOneWhoNose 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I have no sexual desire,

    don't tell me that I could change or that I am to young. I know who I am and I plan to stay myself.
    Although Although 13-15 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    It's really weird and I'm just toying with the

    idea right now. I've never been sexually attracted to another person. Ever. Romantically, yes. But I've never looked at someone and said "wow I'd want to have sex with them" or fantasized about having sex with any person in particular. So I can be romantically attracted to...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 3

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    I've been asexual as long

    as I can remember, but I didn't know the term existed until about a year, maybe a year and a half ago. I constantly get frustrated with myself and my sexuality, because I feel like being a repulsed asexual, no one will ever want to be with me, or that they're going to judge me...
    billykaplan billykaplan 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22

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    I am asexual and also a lesbian.

    My girlfriend doesnt seem to understand.
    youngish20 youngish20 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I get horny or whatever,

    sure, but I have never really wanted to be with someone. I've had my fair share of guys ask me out and I always declined. I don't want to fall in love. I don't want someone. It puzzles me how people can love someone that way.
    SoYeah123 SoYeah123 18-21, F Aug 15

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    I just wanted to feature this

    so I can stop getting creepy messages.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 2

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    I just wanted to feature this

    so people don't ask me questions.
    Levi4 Levi4 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 41 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 22 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    I think I am old enough to know.

    And I am not a virgin. But the idea of "s3x" makes me angry and depressed. And I just get this feeling like I want to cry and go to sleep. Anyone that knows me and is my friend knows not to talk about it at all.
    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M 4 Responses Aug 7

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    I am Asexual. Always have been,

    always will be. :) Not a big deal.
    IRequireAssistance IRequireAssistance 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    And In The Left Corner...

    Yep, you know it. I'm full on asexual. And I'm ******* proud of it too. I don't like guys, I don't like girls. I feel no sexual desires or attractions, or lust. I DO however still have the ability to feel sexual pleasure but doing that with anyone but myself feels wrong. It's...
    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    So I don't really understand

    why I am like this. I mean I get romantically and emotionally attracted to guys but I despise sexual encounters. The first and last times I did anything sexual was 3 years ago with a long term boyfriend. Only because he couldn't go without it. And I am perfectly okay with it...
    MikBlack13 MikBlack13 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 3

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 23

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    Asexual: sexually inactive: without sexual

    desire or activity Without sexual desire? That sounds about right. I mean, if I get married, and my wife and I wanted children, then sure, I will have the sex and all that. But the more I think on it, the more unappealing sex sounds to me. My friends tell to don't knock it...
    Whoami30 Whoami30 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 25 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I don't label myself

    as asexual but I have no interest in the opposite sex or even the same sex. I had sex before and felt weird with both male and female. I have always grew up being bullied and alone. I never truly had any crushes except for celebrities. Men were never that important to me. I...
    inspirelove inspirelove 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I feel like it's near impossible to find

    asexual guys my age. Every boy in college is a ball of hormones. It just makes me sad because I want a boyfriend, but I don't want to go for a non-asexual because I feel like that wouldn't be fair to the guy. I still want someone to hold hands with and love just....minus all the...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 15

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    I'm asexual! And it is good to be one,

    I've always been this way since I was very young, hardly ever been horny. Maybe once or twice in my lifetime and I've never done sexual stuff. It just doesn't interest me at all. I would like to speak to other Asexuals who understand what it is like.
    Unification Unification 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 3

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I am asexual and will always be.

    I don't really see a need for sex to be honest, but I know that some people need it. I am also a lesbian or a homoromantic as some call it.
    RandomUsername15 RandomUsername15 13-15, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I am 29 yr male asexual (Muslim)

    but loving relationship looking for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship. If interested please message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    I am 29 yr male asexual (Muslim)

    but loving relationship looking for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship. If interested please message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    essikajeb essikajeb 18-21, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 40 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    I am asexual but loving relationship looking

    for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Aug 15

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    ThePastAndPresent ThePastAndPresent 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    I am sexless but loving relationship looking

    for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Aug 15

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 11 Responses Jan 3

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    xoxosabrinaxoxo xoxosabrinaxoxo 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    My name is Dexter, I am 20,

    and Asexual (or nonsexual). I've never found myself sexually attracted to any gender, and have been honestly fine with that. I won't go on too much about myself, this post is mainly a comment on the Asexual community that I've seen. To those whom are Asexual, I write you in...
    Dextere Dextere 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 21

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21