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I Am Asexual

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    The song Strange by Tokio Hotel comes to mind

    when I think of how I came to this conclusion. I was 19 and had never showed any real interest in dating anyone. I thought maybe I'd want to date someone eventually, but I just hadn't met anyone that really interested me in that way. It didn't help that no one else was...
    1WithOutLOVE 1WithOutLOVE 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 28

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    I suspect I am asexual.

    I have no sex drive. I find myself feeling aroused maybe once a year or less. It's never by people, just random with no focus on anyone. I've had sex with a lot of guys and one girl, mostly when I was younger. I did it because I had low self esteem and liked the attention. I...
    Asleep72 Asleep72 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 14

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 21 Responses Feb 17

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Anyone else hate it when people are like "All

    men want in this world is sex" or "All women do is get busy in the bed and have babies"? I mean, speak for yourself please..
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 1

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 18-21, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 12 Responses Jan 3

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    Hello there, I am asexual Muslim looking

    for asexual/ straight girl for long term MOC, if you are interested message me.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 1

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    I'm brand new to this site,

    but I guess I'll start with this; I've been passively pushed into a relationship. The guy is decent and treats me well, but I don't feel anything at all for him (or anyone for that matter) I've tried to open up to him about why I don't do relationships, but I either never...
    audiopuma audiopuma 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 1

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    For some reason, ep deleted my experience.

    If anything has got less to do with sex, it's asexuality.
    absenceofsound absenceofsound 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    If you’re asexual and wanna have sex,

    you’re awesome If you’re asexual and don’t care about sex, you’re awesome If you never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER wanna have sex at all, you’re awesome Don’t ever let anyone throw any of you under the bus
    InhuldibleCrelk InhuldibleCrelk 36-40 1 Response Aug 21, 2014

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    I'm on the boarder of defining myself

    as an asexual or demisexual. I have an very high libido and ********** a lot, but I don't have a feel any sort of sexual attraction to anyone around me. Not sure if I'm a demisexual tho cause I haven't known anyone for more than a year. Guess I'll define myself as asexual...
    Aoiberry Aoiberry 18-21, M 4 Responses Feb 18

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    Here my friend go. Playing match maker on a

    Friday night, cause she thinks I need a "good man" in my life. A matter of fact, everyone thinks that I need a "good man" in my life, not even thinking about what I want and desire rather. Anyway, I don't know where this is going. Maybe another rejection to the cookie. I've...
    NaomiSoulJourney NaomiSoulJourney 31-35, F 2 Responses Feb 28

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    yeeee o/ I like to think of it

    as the orientation that's so invisible we're basically ninjas. The ace ninjas lmao
    Cryx Cryx 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 25

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    Yes I sure am regardless

    if I had relationships in the past
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Mar 1

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    absenceofsound absenceofsound 13-15, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I want to come out as asexual to my best friend,

    but I don't know how to. We've been sort of "friends with benefits" for a while, but I just sorta felt uncomfortable about when she talks about sexual things with me. But I'm scared that if I tell her that I'm not interested, then she'll think that I'm not attracted to her...
    artisticaltay artisticaltay 16-17, F Feb 14

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    I am not able to come out to anyone,

    Asexuality is not a topic that people around me would understand, including my family. I am tired of living a doubled life and of thinking I will get old and live alone. I wish to have a partner who is Asexual, that we enjoy life together without the idea of needing to please...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 10

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I bought the "Some people are Asexual.

    Get over it!" shirt months and months ago. I wear it to every race to represent this fam. The results are always positive.
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 41 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    And I don't even know

    why I went through the I Want To Know If You Think I Am Attractive (Lol) experience. To compliment? To say nice things? To look and ignore? I have no idea. But I do hope I can open posts on new tabs. Would be so much easier than pressing the backspace all the time.
    YesIAmAsian YesIAmAsian 18-21 Mar 18

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    Yeah, so I have a funny story about this.

    I'm more specifically what you would call an aromantic asexual. I've always known that it never felt quite right for me to be with either gender, so it got really awkward when I got asked out on a date by a girl. I almost felt like I couldn't get out of it without hurting...
    Whobody Whobody 16-17, M 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    i wanna gave a girlfriend.

    . but u dont wanna be a lesbian anymore.. what can i do?
    aphroditedelevingne aphroditedelevingne 18-21, F Mar 15

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    The title is rather self explanatory

    but I would like to use this space to explain what asexuality is, how other people have reacted to me (or refused to) and what it's like living in a sex driven society. :) So basically asexuality, at its most simplest, is the lack of desire to have sex and with some people a...
    moonscapemonoxide moonscapemonoxide 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 24

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    I don't know if I'm asexual,

    or if I'm incapable of being loved
    lostiymind lostiymind 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 18

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 21 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    I'm all about that ace,

    bout that ace, no bedroom. Swear I gotta make another ace rap
    FortyTheRapper FortyTheRapper 22-25, M Feb 26

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I dont know if it's me

    or if it's hormones. I am underweight and therefore have hormonal disturbances such as irregular monthly's. But umm my underweight/anorexic aquaintances do not seem to have any sexuality troubles, and like it like any average person. This is actually a very difficult subject...
    ThinkingCat ThinkingCat 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Kissing boys - Oh NO Kissing girls- Uhh

    Uhh tryed it. They just dont understand its me not them. I just dont feel that.
    petramullins petramullins 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 14

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    Someone once told me that

    once I have sex I will realize that I am not asexual. Dumb b$@1ch
    Degrassi94 Degrassi94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Don't get me wrong, I want to get married

    eventually, I just don't want to do "it" with him. My dream is to get married to a man like this or who will tolerate this and to adopt a kid or 2.
    SparkleUnicorn SparkleUnicorn 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    When I was 14 I told people

    that sex seems weird and that I never want it. They said that 'you're young, you will want it soon' or 'when you find a boyfriend you will' I'm 16 now almost 17 in 3 months. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for a year and one month. To this day I still don't want sex at...
    bloodyzombie19 bloodyzombie19 16-17, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    NaturalGropius NaturalGropius 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014