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I Am Asexual

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I'm not sure if I am asexual

    or something else in the grey range - hence why I'm posting this here. I'm hoping at some point I can actually work out what I am rather than be constantly changing labels. My main reasoning for being asexual is that I have never seen anyone - a friend or a stranger - and felt...
    LittleClouds LittleClouds 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 18

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    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M Jul 4

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    I recently discovered

    that I am an asexual. For a while I thought I was bi, then lesbian, but neither of them really seemed to fit. I hadn't even considered that you could just not want sex. I figured that I had to desire something but now that I realize I am an asexual I'm so glad I was able to...
    Lilypantz Lilypantz 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    So I am in a relationship with a straight guy.

    It's been 3 years already and he has always been very supportive. However, lately we've been having some trouble because I don't feel like having sex and he does. In the past we managed to deal with this by compromising - I would agree to sex every now and then and he would...
    odradek1105 odradek1105 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I find people attractive

    but in an observational way, like I know that she has nice legs or he's hot but I don't think anything of it or feel anything towrds them sexualy. And its weird, at least I feel that way. I'm not ashamed of being Asexual, its who I am, but I've had a hard time dealing with it. I...
    ThisUsernameDoesntFi ThisUsernameDoesntFi 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    I think I'm asexual. I'm completely un

    attracted to the idea of being in a relationship with anyone. Maybe it's because I'm 'not ready' but I just don't like the idea at all. As I posted in a past experience (which I've since deleted because I was getting weird responses) I have vivid fantasies of scenarios with guys...
    Tresifiter Tresifiter 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    I identify as asexual

    because that's what I relate to. I can't really explain it to people because they think I'm screwing with them and that I'll end up actually screwing them. I don't know how to get away from that and so I just mumble when people ask me about my sexuality usually.
    Agreyish Agreyish 13-15, F Jul 13

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    In my experience I've noticed

    that different individuals who identify as asexual have their own individual definition for what asexuality means to THEM, so I decided to share my personal experience as an asexual - for your reference and my own, I suppose. Personally, I have no physical desire to be intimate...
    anonymuscrat anonymuscrat 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 3 Responses Jan 19

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    I just found out that I'm asexual and,

    although I believe there's nothing wrong with it and I'd still believe that there was nothing wrong with it even if I weren't asexual, this was not good news to me. My life feels tremendously complicated as it is, and now I realize that there's another layer to me that is very...
    fallingfromthestars fallingfromthestars 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    What reactions have you had

    when you have 'come out'? I remember telling a male friend that I was celibate when I was younger and his reaction was 'well there never would be any point in going out with you would there?' I've never been so taken aback. Why is our society so sexualised to the point that we...
    Kimberlyx Kimberlyx 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 38 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I am 24 years old living in the NYC area.

    I would like to try out an asexual relationship . I am asexual because I hate being touched.. Thanks!
    LuvinGospel LuvinGospel 22-25 2 Responses a week ago

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    Just because I am asexual doesn't mean I don't

    want to be with someone, I want to love and hold someone too.
    Doof00 Doof00 18-21, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 39 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    for a long time i've had a lot of issues.

    passing people biting tongues in the hallway during school seemed to have a much different effect on others than it did on me. and people constantly "reassuring" me telling me it's going to be ok. that i will live in something they thing i want. i was very confused most of my...
    craziefuzi craziefuzi 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Asexual- Relieved And Scared At The Same Time

    Okay I don't really know where to start with this. I basically plucked up the courage to tell my story on here because I thought I might meet other people like me? I feel like I can't tell my family or anyone because I don't want them to judge me and I feel like I'm letting my...
    AlienBob AlienBob 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I just got a job and 3 men from work want to

    date me there 2 of them I think are too old for me and the other one is very nice a sweet and is always trying to help me. All the women are telling me to date him and his aunt was telling me too and when I say I don't know everyone asks why. I don't want to tell anyone I am...
    mypawshaveprints mypawshaveprints 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    Not once have I ever thought "Damn,

    I'd like to **** that person!" And in college I'm completely surrounded by the hookup culture which makes me feel intensely frustrated because time after time I am rejected as a result of my lack of interest in sex. I'm beginning to fear that I will never experience a positive...
    JRosemary16 JRosemary16 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I am an Asexual guy,

    who is happy the way i am, just feel i need a friend, someone that would be there for me when i really need, i do not want to grew old alone, i wish to find another asexual for LTR just someone to be best friends and live together or get married, but at same time would know me...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 5 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 25 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I'm afraid that when I'm older

    and married, my mate will cheat on me because I don't like sexual actions whatsoever.
    PanicAtTheDiscount PanicAtTheDiscount 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I've had this experience liked

    for awhile. Shocked at how many stories there are about people who are just like me.
    WierdSteve WierdSteve 22-25, M 3 Responses Jun 16

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    My asexuality most likely stems from being a

    victim of rape. I feel like sex is unnecessary and unneeded. I've always found sex to be disgusting, the way people crave and lust for it is sickening, I just can't see where they're coming from. Personally, any sort of sexual contact sends me into a panic mode, when people talk...
    xhet xhet 18-21, T 3 Responses May 21

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    It's taken 32 years to discover there is a label

    for me to belong to. I am asexual. Only this week I researched why I have no interest in sex. After lots of reading, I found out that I am part of a very small group of people known as asexuals. I am in a relationship with a fantastic girl that is craving sex almost every day. I...
    Stomping Stomping 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    My name is Dexter, I am 20,

    and Asexual (or nonsexual). I've never found myself sexually attracted to any gender, and have been honestly fine with that. I won't go on too much about myself, this post is mainly a comment on the Asexual community that I've seen. To those whom are Asexual, I write you in...
    Dextere Dextere 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I think I'm homo-asexual will in high school I

    never find anyone sexually active, after I graduated high school I find out that I kinda find guys attractive. But I still feel like I still feel like I don't know..
    darkJJ darkJJ 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    Weird And Awesome

    I have only recently discovered this movement in the world. I had heard of asexual in terms of biology, like how bacteria and other single celled organisms reproduce. For a bi-sexual species this seems a very strange concept, but somehow it seems to fit us ^_^ I, like so many...
    minatek616 minatek616 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    During the ages of 2-11 I believed

    that I, and everybody on earth, was heterosexual. Boys around me began to take sexual interest in girls, (and other boys) and I stayed behind. Thinking, perhaps, that I was gay, I soon realized that I was not attracted to men either. After a few years, I then discovered AVEN...
    SamJanowiak SamJanowiak 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 19

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 11 Responses Jan 3

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    Labels, Experience, Incongruity

    I stumbled on this eye-opening line of inquiry after reading a story about a sexually frustrated asexual couple. The wife remained disinterested, the husband increasing depressed because of a new found interest in physical intimacy. That lead to some targeted Google searching...
    topazsky topazsky 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    For, what I believe has been always,

    I've never really been able to have an romantic relationship with anyone. I grew up in a community that barely taught me the meaning of bisexual, so asexuality wasn't something I heard of until much later on. Anyhow, I could easily see if someone was attractive, so I didn't...
    catseverywheredude catseverywheredude 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 40 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    And In The Left Corner...

    Yep, you know it. I'm full on asexual. And I'm ******* proud of it too. I don't like guys, I don't like girls. I feel no sexual desires or attractions, or lust. I DO however still have the ability to feel sexual pleasure but doing that with anyone but myself feels wrong. It's...
    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    yeah pretty much all there is too say

    but i still have girlfriends just not attracted to them fisically just emotionally well i have only had one girlfriend so yeah haha that sucks i didnt choose to be this way
    Insomniac77 Insomniac77 16-17, M Jul 11

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 22 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    I feel lonely and depressed I think the reason

    I do is because I don't have a close personal relationship. I've been alone for years and I think it's time I put myself out there instead of not doing anything and leaving everything to chance. I kept thinking that I'll just come across someone in due time but I think maybe...
    Spectrolite7 Spectrolite7 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    In an awkward situation.

    She knows I'm asexual and I know she's drunk texting me. She's telling me she likes me more than a friend. I don't know what to say since for me it usually takes a long time to like someone. And usually the more I know someone the less I like them as a potential romantic...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    I'm not really sure if I'm Asexual

    or not. I kind of just need help in deciding if I am. I don't really enjoy sex and I don't like thinking about anything related to sex, but I like kissing and cuddling. Can someone help me because I'm really confused?
    BreeLeighh BreeLeighh 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I think i am asexual i was just wandering

    if there are other asexual people who wanna talk
    noah223 noah223 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I’m a grey asexual,

    or demisexual. Basically, I’m not completely asexual. Sexual attraction is a thing I experience every so often, but only to certain people who are close to me. There are only three people in my entire life that I’ve ever been attracted to, but since it is a foreign thing, I...
    melale melale 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I do not like to be touched

    unless I want to be held or I touch someone (nonsexually). I do not feel anything during sex except sometimes it hurts. I do not get sexually aroused. It is frustrating because I feel surrounded by sexuals who do not understand. Glad I found this experience group. I would like...
    macabrEnigma macabrEnigma 18-21, T Jul 11

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