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I Am Asexual

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    Stop telling me I need to get my hormones

    checked. This isn't a medical or psychological condition. Stop telling I'm too young to know. I'm 20, the late bloomer ship has sailed. I need more experience. I have never felt the need to "get some" and I won't "get some" just to make you feel comfortable around me.
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 7

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 11 Responses Jan 3

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 26-30, F 23 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I don't appreciate people messaging me trying

    to be sexual. I'm here to meet and support people not for you to indulge in whatever fantasy you may have. For those who don't know asexual means I don't have a sexual attraction to anyone.
    Shortandsweet1999 Shortandsweet1999 18-21, F 3 Responses May 31

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    Hello there, I am 30 yr asexual indian muslim

    living in middle east, looking for asexual/ straight girl for long term MOC, if you are interested or wanted know more please message me
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M Jun 26

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    Being asexual is hard

    and its draining. I'm only coming to terms with it and actually putting a name to my behavior but its daunting. Now that i'm older and everyone around me is having kids and getting married i feel left out...but i just can't feel the same emotions they do.
    JJR121 JJR121 26-30, F Jun 20

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    I'm a heteroromantic asexual.

    I've only recently realised it. I'm not physically attracted to males or females but I still fall in love with some girls. I do have a sexual f.etish, so I'm not devoid of sexual feelings, but I don't have any desire to have sexual relations with anyone. I just want someone who...
    jdoe1234567 jdoe1234567 18-21, M 4 Responses May 28

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    im panromantic gray sexual.

    i have low sex drive and tho i do find people attractive anything sexual i may feel ia fleeting and i dont have much intwrest in that aspect. i care more for an emotional mental connection with someone. i want to cuddle hold hands n some kissing but nothing beyond that. what...
    mischiefmanaged21 mischiefmanaged21 22-25, F 1 Response May 31

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    It's so hard living in a society based around

    sex, and not have any sexual urges.
    quietlyinsecret quietlyinsecret 13-15, M May 26

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    How Do I Say This...

    I'm not completely sure yet if asexual is the most accurate word to describe me, but that's what I tell people I am. I find it helps them understand better where I'm coming from when I say I've never had sex and I don't want to. For a while my mom didn't believe me and just...
    Alea2013 Alea2013 18-21, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2013

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    If you accept people can have sex without love,

    why is it so difficult to understand people can love without sex?
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 26-30, M 4 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 21 Responses Feb 17

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    I don't like boys or girls sexually

    because I know no one would like me that way
    Sashamendelli Sashamendelli 13-15, F 4 days ago

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I've known I was ace

    for a while now, though I just recently came to terms with it: biromantic asexual fits me best, probably, but I'm QUITE close to being an ace lesbian. I don't really have any exciting "journey" to share with you; I've just never experienced sexual attraction the way that most...
    aerolith aerolith 22-25, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I'm a one called organism

    that can stretch out its protoplasm to capture food, I rhyme with when an English person, that doesn't pronounce Rs, says "a cedar" , no offense to any English person
    DoorMattress DoorMattress 13-15, M Jun 6

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 4 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    I never thought about sex much during the age

    when most teens are thought to be thinking about nothing else. I can remember some fantasies, they were all over the place, some about very fat women, some about being a woman. But I never felt attracted *to* anyone. More often than not if I did get a ***** it had nothing to do...
    iacob iacob 26-30, T 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Yup just as it says up there.

    .. im starting to get a bit more proud of who i am i guess...
    HimeTime HimeTime 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    today was the day....

    .that i finally told my mom.....and she wasn't supportive. today after school she and i were in the living room talking and i told her i had to tell her something important then she said ok.....then i told her i'm asexual. she looked at me like i was insane, so i had to explain...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 42 Responses Apr 30

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    I tried marriage one time,

    and dating so many times. they were all failure. all I'm missing now is being a dad. yes. I can't wait to see my child. I wand to have a kid. this feeling is priceless and I have the willing to do whatever it takes to be a father. I thought if there's any girl I can impregnate...
    Shallaby Shallaby 31-35, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Bi-romantic asexual. I've had deep emotional

    connections with males and females, but the physical part, uh oh. Anything beyond kissing grosses me out. No, I'm not 12 lol. I'm 25. I can say that I'm old enough to know what I want. Can anyone relate?
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    I am biromantic asexual,

    old enough to figure that out on my own, and don't need to have sexual experience to determine it.
    doun doun 13-15, F Jun 6

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    BloodyGreenie BloodyGreenie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 16

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 18-21, F 40 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    i just came out to my parents

    as heteroromantic asexual. i hate how out of place i feel.
    CastielMalfoyHolmes CastielMalfoyHolmes 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    So this is my first post on this site.

    I am just coming to know the term asexual and have found much comfort in knowing more about it. I am an asexual and that makes me feel better knowing I’m not a broken human being that it’s actual something others are dealing with. I am over 30 and have dated both men and...
    tanyas45 tanyas45 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T Jul 16, 2014

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    and very proud to be!

    :) too bad it's super hard to find a boyfriend
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 11 Responses Feb 6

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    I'm an heteroasexual polyamorous romantic (yeah

    it's a mouth full)...but it's taken a long time to understand what I am. I spent too many years confused why I wasnt like everyone else on the hunt to shag, when I all I wanted was to hold hands!
    Free247 Free247 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 3

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 41 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2014

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    DogsonmethxP DogsonmethxP 13-15, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 40 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I don't like being asexual,

    please, how can I stop??
    sassycastiel sassycastiel 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 17

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    Recently I had the pleasure of people telling me

    that I'm too young (15) to know what I am. That I'd grow out of it. That I was actually a closeted gay. That I was hetero and just trying to get attention. Another told me that I had to learn to be normal and have sex or no one would ever love me. Basically anything off the...
    mardalfoosen mardalfoosen 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've always known, but at the same time I

    didn't know. I didn't know there was a term for it but I knew I wasn't like the people around me my age. When I first came across the word at the end of last year, I didn't connect with it right away. I thought I was pansexual for a long time because I like girls and other...
    cosmicolored cosmicolored 18-21, F Jun 21

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    It hurts me and it makes me feel mad

    when people say asexuality is curable. I'm not sick. There is nothing to cure. The only thing that needs to be cured is your intolerance.
    Inimica Inimica 16-17, F 2 Responses May 25

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    What am I? I don't know.

    Sex grosses me out. Sexual organs gross me out. Any sexual related practice besides kissing or making out grosses me out. But I appreciate male physical beauty and maybe attracted to that. I do understand asexual can have feelings, and I do have feelings, and desires but I hate...
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 28 Responses Jun 6

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    It's very difficult being asexual

    because people either think you're going through a phase or you're emotionless and dead inside. I still want to experience love, but for me, sex taints it in a way. For some people, the whole relationship depends on the sex which puts things back to having to look physically...
    DarianM DarianM 16-17, F 7 Responses Jun 25

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