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I Am Asexual

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    A weird few days... Went to a party on Friday

    and ended up at my friend's house with four of my closest friends. One of them knows of my asexuality but the others didn't. I talked to my friend about it and the others overheard, causing me to have to tell them. They literally just went, "oh right, really? That's fine." And...
    Asexjames Asexjames 16-17, M 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Apparently I'm a heteroromantic asexual.

    I have this fear, which is probably all too common here, about not ever finding the one. I'm sick of people trying to change me and am only now accepting myself. It's just really hard sometimes.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 24

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    I am 22 years old, a virgin (I've never been in

    a relationship, been kissed, or had sex), female (pronouns she, her, hers)and am more specifically hetero-romantic asexual. My whole life I haven't fit in with my peers. Everyone talks about sex, drugs, drinking, and partying. I don't like any of those things and because of...
    missradiology missradiology 22-25, F 12 Responses Jul 7, 2015

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    I figured I'd try. I'm an aromantic asexual,

    and was hoping there'd be more people like me to talk to. Maybe possibly.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 23

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    and scared as all hell.

    I'm scared of the judgement and of disappointing my parents. But I can't change who I am. What should I do?
    whatismylife88 whatismylife88 18-21, F 19 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    After I tried coming out to my dad about being

    asexual he said I was going to grow up to be an old maid....thanks for that dad
    candycat13 candycat13 18-21, F 20 Responses Feb 17, 2015

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    To be honest, I'm surprised I have made a story

    of this. Thought I did, but apparently not. I'm not sure if I actually am or not. I can't say I ever had a time where I saw someone (or knew someone) where I was sexually attracted to them (not even a sliver). Usually those thoughts if any on someone would be just kissing...
    virgoven virgoven 18-21 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Hi, I am 30 yr asexual muslim guy looking

    for asexual/ straight girl who is interested in having moc, if you like know more please message me
    HHopeful HHopeful 31-35, M Jan 23

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    ok so, there's a lot of different opinions

    and definitions about being asexual. but i want to state, in my own personal opinion, what being asexual means to mei love to hold hands, kiss, cuddle, hug, make out with, and massage my guy. and all that's normal and romantic. where i draw the line is at sex, that i will not do...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2015

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 14 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    okay so here's my experience I have a younger

    brother who is only 12 but he seems almost obsessed with s3x. he is constantly making moaning noises, mocking some moaning girl he has heard. last year when he was 11 or 10 he tried to mxsturbxte in front of me by "racking up" his pxnis with his finger. and he wouldn't stop...
    izzzy098 izzzy098 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 7

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    I do not know if i am asexual,

    i have had relationships in the past but they usually fall apart. I am attracted to women, and I like to make out, but when it comes to sex, most of the time my body just doesn't work. The longest time I have went without sex with another person is 7 years, and i was cool with...
    davidruss1 davidruss1 41-45, M Jan 6

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    I recently "came out"

    as asexual, and ever since then I've felt this constant mixture of confusion and relief. I feel relieved because I think I've figured things out, but then there's times when I second guess myself because of things like libido and aesthetic attraction. I know for a fact that I'm...
    BigBearHug BigBearHug 18-21, M 10 Responses Jan 3, 2015

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    I agree with both asexual

    and demisexual ideas, feeling, etc. Personally I'm borderline. For the main fact that people are prone to disappoint.
    OldSoulRedux OldSoulRedux 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 29 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    33 year old Hindu south Indian gay looking

    for an asexual/lesbian for MoC, preferably with the same background.
    krishere1982 krishere1982 31-35 Jan 29

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    I feel good that everyone knows I'm asexual

    but some people I think are jealous of it , I do love my boyfriend even though I'm asexual I just don't have sexual feelings to him but I have other feeling for him. People need to understand it but they don't.
    Always4ForeverHappy Always4ForeverHappy 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Hey! I'm new on this app

    and live in Scotland! I'm Asexual and finding it hard to find Asexual dating sites! The ones I've found you need to pay for!!! Any free ones!?
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 24

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    As an asexual I feel like I'll never find

    someone who will respect me and love me without the need for sex. But since society has basically tied the two together it will probably never happen.
    FancyTardis FancyTardis 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 27

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I need help .. I'm asexual I can't live alone

    anymore.i need friends who understand my asexual life.
    molmo molmo 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 21

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    today was the day....

    .that i finally told my mom.....and she wasn't supportive. today after school she and i were in the living room talking and i told her i had to tell her something important then she said ok.....then i told her i'm asexual. she looked at me like i was insane, so i had to explain...
    randomgirl42 randomgirl42 18-21, F 33 Responses Apr 30, 2015

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    Balletomane Balletomane 26-30, F 5 Responses Jan 23

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    I love to have sex in dreams

    but have zero desire to do such things in real life, or even kiss for that matter. Lol I'm a funny asexual xD
    fallenstar23 fallenstar23 22-25, F 4 Responses 13 hrs ago

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    I always felt I was broken,

    when I was younger and all the lads were talking about having sex and "getting lucky" . I was just sat there enjoying my video games. Don't get me wrong I think women are beautiful, very aesthetically pleasing to look at. And I do feel romantically attracted to them. But if...
    AlfaCough AlfaCough 26-30, M 6 Responses Aug 31, 2014

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    I am quite new to this realization.

    Part of me feels like I'd be better off just keeping my mouth shut. The two times I've brought it up to her, my mother scoffed and told me I just hadn't met the right person yet and that God made us to reproduce. My dad, a gay man, was indifferent to it. My brother and sister...
    BuzzFanatic BuzzFanatic 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I am open about my asexuality,

    there I only one problem the constant telling people I don't not or will not make a baby by myself and I do not want to have sex with he/she. I live with/near idiots
    Hohenheim1 Hohenheim1 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 20

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 6 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    TerminaHero TerminaHero 18-21 12 Responses Jan 3, 2014

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    When I see a beautiful person(girl

    or boy) I CANNOT HELP BUT LOOK AT THEM and be like I WANT YOU...but not in a sexual way. I just want to know you more or keep gazing at you. I dunno. Its the same when I like a person. I dont get sexually attracted...I get "emotionally" attracted (is that even a word? lol) All I...
    mozartdoesnotreek mozartdoesnotreek 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I want to kiss somebody in a nonsexual way,

    but if my friends find out about it I'm scared they'll think I'm lying about being asexual and ditch me :/ in our group of friends news travels fast especially stuff like this.. I mean ugh I don't know I guess I'm just scared.
    snowballcupcake snowballcupcake 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 14

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    I do not know if i am asexual.

    I have had relationships with women in the past, but they usually fall apart. The longest I have went without sex with a woman is 7 years and I was good. The funny thing is when I ********** it works fine. I like making out, but when it comes to the actual sex my body does...
    davidruss1 davidruss1 41-45, M 2 Responses Jan 6

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    bootylinkingood bootylinkingood 36-40, T 2 Responses Jan 27

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    BloodyGreenie BloodyGreenie 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 16, 2015

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 7, 2014

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    So please stop saying its fake,

    a joke, stupid, a phase, and that i "just need to find the right person"
    izzieebee izzieebee 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 10, 2015

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    I don't feel sad for being asexual at all,

    I just wish I had someone to talk to , someone who understands my asexuality..at least some asexual friend...
    warriorshe4489 warriorshe4489 22-25, F 7 Responses Jan 7

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    I used to be really confused

    when people talked about liking a man or a woman. I understood beauty as our society states it and could recognize what other people saw in a man or a woman, but didn't truly understand it myself, of course I said I acted as if I was straight because that seemed most acceptable...
    KittySoules KittySoules 22-25, T 2 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 26-30, F 24 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    What am I? I don't know.

    Sex grosses me out. Sexual organs gross me out. Any sexual related practice besides kissing or making out grosses me out. But I appreciate male physical beauty and maybe attracted to that. I do understand asexual can have feelings, and I do have feelings, and desires but I hate...
    Offing Offing 22-25, F 26 Responses Jun 6, 2015

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    xXFiyaTheOneAndOnlyXx xXFiyaTheOneAndOnlyXx 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    I identified as asexual

    for a long time, but lately I'm not so sure anymore. It's not something I feel the need to engage in but since I have not really been in any relationships I'm unsure if my feelings would change. I have been fine with being single but now that feeling is also changing so the...
    OnThisJourney OnThisJourney 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Don't be ashamed of who you are.

    And if you are not sure, don't be afraid to ask.
    NaomiSunshineJourney NaomiSunshineJourney 31-35, F Jan 24

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    I don't appreciate people messaging me trying

    to be sexual. I'm here to meet and support people not for you to indulge in whatever fantasy you may have. For those who don't know asexual means I don't have a sexual attraction to anyone.
    Shortandsweet1999 Shortandsweet1999 18-21, F 7 Responses May 31, 2015

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