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I Am Asexual

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    Mind Over Matter

    Hi, I'm a 23 year-old woman, a virgin, and I'd say I'm about 95% asexual. Let me just start by saying, to me, sex is like water-tasteless and pointless, unless you're dying of thirst. The funny thing is I started out in life being pretty sexual. Even before puberty, I used to...
    MantisReligiosa MantisReligiosa 22-25, F 22 Responses Aug 4, 2012

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    I do not like to be touched

    unless I want to be held or I touch someone (nonsexually). I do not feel anything during sex except sometimes it hurts. I do not get sexually aroused. It is frustrating because I feel surrounded by sexuals who do not understand. Glad I found this experience group. I would like...
    macabrEnigma macabrEnigma 18-21, T Jul 11

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    I'm pretty sure that I'm asexual.

    I think it might be like.. hard and weird in a relationship witch makes me pretty worried. idk...
    paradiseisbroken paradiseisbroken 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    I am in a sexless but loving relationship

    looking for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 5

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    Why Don't I Want It?

    I don't want any sex.  When I was young, I thought I would want to to have sex when I grew up, just like most people.  Now, I isolate myself from everyone.  Just like I always did.  I was always ashamed to let anyone know me too well for fear of them knowing...
    iconax iconax 26-30, M 22 Responses Aug 20, 2007

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    A Request From The Other Side

    I respect the rights of all asexual people not to have sex as it is not part of their make up and they do not desire it. But if you are asexual, I would ask you to think VERY carefully about becoming involved in any relationship with a person who IS sexual.   The...
    enna30 enna30 56-60, F 40 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Or, at least i think I am.

    I had a boyfriend for almost 2 years, and we were quite good friends, and being long distance helped, but i think the lack of sex disturbed him quite a bit. But asexuality. Is that really it? Yes, so far the shoe fits. A day of watching Dr.Who and cuddling makes me content. I...
    Lindytree Lindytree 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 6

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    Don't you just love how there are people

    who will accept and/or acknowledge the existence of homosexuality, bisexuality, and/or etc., but if you mention the word Asexuality they laugh in your face and deny its existence? /sarcasm. It irks me. It shows just how close-minded some people are. It is truly offensive. Well...
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 36 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    The Realization Of Being Asexual

    I remember from when I was about 14 years old, I always felt different from most males, I was never interested in girls as they seemed to be, my mother just said that it was just a phase and that I would like girls some day. At age 16, same thing, my mother said that I was just a...
    ThePeanutTerminator ThePeanutTerminator 18-21 8 Responses Apr 22, 2012

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    MariaMelon MariaMelon 16-17, F 5 Responses Jan 7

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    Weird And Awesome

    I have only recently discovered this movement in the world. I had heard of asexual in terms of biology, like how bacteria and other single celled organisms reproduce. For a bi-sexual species this seems a very strange concept, but somehow it seems to fit us ^_^ I, like so many...
    minatek616 minatek616 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 2, 2012

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    Levi1 Levi1 13-15, M Jul 4

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    Hi my name is endy and I am Asexual!

    i am looking for others like me who can identify with me. I like both sexes but just for platonic friendships. I feel so alone at times like others don't understand me! If anybody just down to chat, hit me up. I am funny and just want a honest,genuine person to chat with!
    endy79 endy79 31-35 May 29

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    For starters I never thought it was something

    unnatural. I simply thought my interests rested elsewhere. I wasn't all into flirting, or getting intimate...I preferred to be reading or painting. I would see couples holding hands or kissing and the only thing I could think of was 'aww I wish I had a boyfriend so I could play...
    VonGeek VonGeek 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    It makes me so explicably angry

    whenever people deny my existence. I know, in theory, that many groups have been denied and overlooked in the past before finding their salvation. I know that. I am aware. But that makes it no less infuriating when people refuse to believe or even understand that I know myself...
    AzuraSkies AzuraSkies 16-17 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Who wants to bet that there’s a huge number

    of asexual people out there who don’t know they’re asexual because our society is hypersexualised - if you’re a dude, you’re pathetic, if you’re a woman you’re frigid/a prude/stuck up *****. This isn’t just about identity, this is about people who are shamed into...
    WithoutChemicals WithoutChemicals 18-21, F 6 Responses May 4

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    And In The Left Corner...

    Yep, you know it. I'm full on asexual. And I'm ******* proud of it too. I don't like guys, I don't like girls. I feel no sexual desires or attractions, or lust. I DO however still have the ability to feel sexual pleasure but doing that with anyone but myself feels wrong. It's...
    BlueMetalChick BlueMetalChick 18-21, F 24 Responses Jul 2, 2013

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    I am an Asexual guy,

    who is happy the way i am, just feel i need a friend, someone that would be there for me when i really need, i do not want to grew old alone, i wish to find another asexual for LTR just someone to be best friends and live together or get married, but at same time would know me...
    Romerolax Romerolax 26-30, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Coming To Terms

    I am straight. Almost everyone is heterosexual, and so am I. No. I like girls. I must be a lesbian. No. I’m pretty sure I’m bisexual. No. I don’t seem to fit any of these! What am I exactly?! No. My sexuality hasn’t made sense to me for a long time. I, like many...
    rfacklam rfacklam 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 3, 2013

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    It's taken 32 years to discover there is a label

    for me to belong to. I am asexual. Only this week I researched why I have no interest in sex. After lots of reading, I found out that I am part of a very small group of people known as asexuals. I am in a relationship with a fantastic girl that is craving sex almost every day. I...
    Stomping Stomping 31-35, M 4 Responses Apr 19

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    I've pretty recently come to understand my

    heteroromantic asexuality (to whatever limited degree I actually can), and I'm not displeased, to say the least. I've had a lot of awkward conversations with people after "coming out"(?) about the specifics, but a lot of my confusion about my self pretty much vaporized. It feels...
    alakaboem alakaboem 18-21, M 3 days ago

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    Here I Am

    I Posted a story about me being asexual here a while back but something happened and I found someone and guess for that cause I decided I am not asexual, yes now that I think of it I guess I was trying to justify myself as straight and to be honest it wasn't a good idea and I...
    aloserlikeme aloserlikeme 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 10, 2013

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    I am so glad that I have found this group!

    I have wandered through life wondering what was 'wrong' with me because I am so different to everyone else but after a few Google searches when I was 19 I realised that I am asexual and I've never been happier. I don't understand the way people think, especially women. I have...
    Kimberlyx Kimberlyx 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 12

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    In an awkward situation.

    She knows I'm asexual and I know she's drunk texting me. She's telling me she likes me more than a friend. I don't know what to say since for me it usually takes a long time to like someone. And usually the more I know someone the less I like them as a potential romantic...
    NotApplicable NotApplicable 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    I think I'm homo-asexual will in high school I

    never find anyone sexually active, after I graduated high school I find out that I kinda find guys attractive. But I still feel like I still feel like I don't know..
    darkJJ darkJJ 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 27

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    For, what I believe has been always,

    I've never really been able to have an romantic relationship with anyone. I grew up in a community that barely taught me the meaning of bisexual, so asexuality wasn't something I heard of until much later on. Anyhow, I could easily see if someone was attractive, so I didn't...
    catseverywheredude catseverywheredude 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    I’m a grey asexual,

    or demisexual. Basically, I’m not completely asexual. Sexual attraction is a thing I experience every so often, but only to certain people who are close to me. There are only three people in my entire life that I’ve ever been attracted to, but since it is a foreign thing, I...
    melale melale 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I Wrote This A While Ago. It Still Stands.

    I will never love someone in that way. I grew up thinking it’d happen. I’d wake up one day And I’d feel some need. I didn’t feel it yet, But someday I would. I would see a beautiful woman Or a man even; Someone who would physically stimulate me And fuel some strange...
    roryavi roryavi 18-21 5 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    I'm afraid that when I'm older

    and married, my mate will cheat on me because I don't like sexual actions whatsoever.
    PanicAtTheDiscount PanicAtTheDiscount 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I just found out that I'm asexual and,

    although I believe there's nothing wrong with it and I'd still believe that there was nothing wrong with it even if I weren't asexual, this was not good news to me. My life feels tremendously complicated as it is, and now I realize that there's another layer to me that is very...
    fallingfromthestars fallingfromthestars 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 22

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    No One Gets It!

    I am Asexual...and I know I am.  I am 23 years old....never had sex.  I have no desire to.  People around me always talk about how "hot" a person is and I just do get it.  I dont get feelings....like that of being aroused.  I dont even know what...
    NotUnderstood NotUnderstood 21-25, F 39 Responses Apr 21, 2007

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    What reactions have you had

    when you have 'come out'? I remember telling a male friend that I was celibate when I was younger and his reaction was 'well there never would be any point in going out with you would there?' I've never been so taken aback. Why is our society so sexualised to the point that we...
    Kimberlyx Kimberlyx 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 14

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    During the ages of 2-11 I believed

    that I, and everybody on earth, was heterosexual. Boys around me began to take sexual interest in girls, (and other boys) and I stayed behind. Thinking, perhaps, that I was gay, I soon realized that I was not attracted to men either. After a few years, I then discovered AVEN...
    SamJanowiak SamJanowiak 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 19

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    I think I'm asexual. I'm completely un

    attracted to the idea of being in a relationship with anyone. Maybe it's because I'm 'not ready' but I just don't like the idea at all. As I posted in a past experience (which I've since deleted because I was getting weird responses) I have vivid fantasies of scenarios with guys...
    Tresifiter Tresifiter 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Intimacy Without Sex?

     I am female. I am not biologically asexual, but I am at heart. I liked the way people were when we were little. All my friends were guys, and we had so much fun all the time. We all knew what sex was and so forth, but we all considered it a stupid thing that decent people...
    Fireclaw Fireclaw 22-25, F 25 Responses Jun 15, 2010

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    I've known I was ace

    for a while now, maybe 5 or 6 months? Not long compared to some people, but knowing is special to me. I felt broken, but finally, I found asexuality and I knew that nothing was wrong with me, that there were others like me, I just knew the answer to so many unanswered questions...
    babytommy14 babytommy14 13-15 1 Response May 31

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    Not once have I ever thought "Damn,

    I'd like to **** that person!" And in college I'm completely surrounded by the hookup culture which makes me feel intensely frustrated because time after time I am rejected as a result of my lack of interest in sex. I'm beginning to fear that I will never experience a positive...
    JRosemary16 JRosemary16 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 3

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    I'm Beginning To Think...

    Here's my stance on my sexuality (I'm putting it in list form, since it can get long and rambling if I don't): - I don't feel primary sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender. I cannot look at a person, however attractive I may find them, and feel sexually attracted in...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 12 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    And I'm proud of it. I only wish

    that others could understand the joy I get out of the "little things", the things I find great pleasure in. People say that I'm missing out on sex, but honestly I think that they're missing out on life. There's so much out there... so much more than sex.
    curiouselementalist curiouselementalist 18-21, T 5 days ago

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    I recently discovered

    that I am an asexual. For a while I thought I was bi, then lesbian, but neither of them really seemed to fit. I hadn't even considered that you could just not want sex. I figured that I had to desire something but now that I realize I am an asexual I'm so glad I was able to...
    Lilypantz Lilypantz 16-17, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    Asexuals: Don't Give Into Your Asexual Urges!

    Jezus wants you to make BABIES!
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Nov 15, 2012

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    I firstly want to make clear

    that I am not 100% certain if I am asexual, but after some research, I've come to the conclusion that it is a possibility, especially after discovering the different "types" of asexuality, which is why I felt the need to finally join this Group. Asexual means there's a lack of...
    tianajade tianajade 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    If I had the power, I would create a world

    solely for asexual people, it's obvious that we aren't suited for this world and its ways, well, at least I'm not.
    GonUnleashed GonUnleashed 18-21 11 Responses Jan 3

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    I'm not sure if I am asexual

    or something else in the grey range - hence why I'm posting this here. I'm hoping at some point I can actually work out what I am rather than be constantly changing labels. My main reasoning for being asexual is that I have never seen anyone - a friend or a stranger - and felt...
    LittleClouds LittleClouds 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am in a sexless but loving relationship

    looking for asexual girl in same situation to speak about relationship.
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 1 Response May 28

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    Labels, Experience, Incongruity

    I stumbled on this eye-opening line of inquiry after reading a story about a sexually frustrated asexual couple. The wife remained disinterested, the husband increasing depressed because of a new found interest in physical intimacy. That lead to some targeted Google searching...
    topazsky topazsky 51-55, F 2 Responses Jan 1, 2013

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    I identify as asexual

    because that's what I relate to. I can't really explain it to people because they think I'm screwing with them and that I'll end up actually screwing them. I don't know how to get away from that and so I just mumble when people ask me about my sexuality usually.
    Agreyish Agreyish 13-15, F Jul 13

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    I'm not really sure if I'm Asexual

    or not. I kind of just need help in deciding if I am. I don't really enjoy sex and I don't like thinking about anything related to sex, but I like kissing and cuddling. Can someone help me because I'm really confused?
    BreeLeighh BreeLeighh 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    For a few years, or maybe

    even longer than that, I've felt like a complete out cast. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. All my friends either had boyfriends or people who they liked and talked to but when it came to me I had a hard time trying to like anyone. So I started forcing myself to...
    poeticdiva poeticdiva 22-25, F 5 Responses Jan 22

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    Love from an asexual is the most pure,

    unconditional love anyone can receive. If you are in a relationship with an asexual, you know that they love you for why you are; for your mind, your personality, and for yourself. Asexual people can still have sex. But it has a different meaning to them than to most people...
    bgirlskc bgirlskc 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    My name is Dexter, I am 20,

    and Asexual (or nonsexual). I've never found myself sexually attracted to any gender, and have been honestly fine with that. I won't go on too much about myself, this post is mainly a comment on the Asexual community that I've seen. To those whom are Asexual, I write you in...
    Dextere Dextere 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 21

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    I feel so bad when people ask me out on a date.

    I would love to hang out with them but I know that they want more then to be just friends. They try but they just will never understand that they will never date me. Sorry everyone that wants to ask me out.
    mypawshaveprints mypawshaveprints 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 4

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    My asexuality most likely stems from being a

    victim of rape. I feel like sex is unnecessary and unneeded. I've always found sex to be disgusting, the way people crave and lust for it is sickening, I just can't see where they're coming from. Personally, any sort of sexual contact sends me into a panic mode, when people talk...
    xhet xhet 18-21, T 3 Responses May 21

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