I Am Attracted to Intelligent Men

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    Soul Deep

    They say the brain is the most important sex organ.  That is undoubtedly true.  I cannot say I haven't settled for less.  I've had booty calls and one night stands with men who have somewhat lackluster mental faculties.  Those men had other more visual and tactile charms...
    EternalCynic EternalCynic
    41-45, F
    Nov 6, 2011

    Sometimes, it can be nice to have an

    intelligent conversation without being told that my theories on a topic are irrelevant - for me, it's not about "i'm right and you are wrong"... i love to hear the reasonings behind why something is so. Not only can it be valuable insight into a person and their thought...
    LoneSouls LoneSouls
    31-35, F
    Apr 21, 2016

    A Different Kind Of Turn On

    Over the so many years that I have been chatting with men, I have had different kinds of chat experiences. Some were memorable, some were forgettable. What makes a chat memorable and something to look forward to is when there is a healthy two-way exchange which is how any...
    deleted deleted
    38 Responses Jun 12, 2013

    What Is That Saying...

    "Seduce my mind and you can have my body"? I don't know if that is completely right, but it fits me absolute. What is it about danger and intelligence that turns me, and most assuredly most women, on? I have dated a history professor and an under cover narcotics agent that goes...
    DesertSage DesertSage
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Nov 28, 2013

    Number One Quality

    I'm not one for casual dating; I only go out with people who I feel some kind of resonance with.And that brings me to intelligence.  I'm extremely smart.  We're talking off-the-charts in verbal areas.  So one of the first things I notice about a person is their brains.  Do...
    Plaid Plaid
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 6, 2011

    The reason why I am attracted to intelligent

    men is because I am an intelligent woman. Common sense goes a long way too. My husband is both intellectual and has common sense. This is one major factor in why we get along so well together. We seldom argue and when we do it is over small things and never over anything...
    redheadwearinglingerie redheadwearinglingerie
    46-50, F
    Apr 24, 2015

    Wonder are these kind of men evaporating

    or spontaneously combusting the second they try to post on EP? (Sigh)
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    I am attracted and settle down

    and around with intellectual men. I thoroughly enjoy being with an intelligent man. He normally has a higher paying job than minimum wage, college educated, good provider, and so much more.
    middleagedfemalemom middleagedfemalemom
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jan 30, 2015

    By "attracted" I don't mean I want to **** you.

    I really probably don't. What I mean is that a man with a great mind can intrigue me enough to draw me in and keep me there for a while. Sure, there is an attraction. Noone said ot had to be that sexual. I just really crave a decent conversation. It helps if you're cute to look...
    StellaStellar StellaStellar
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2014

    I'm Attracted to My Husband

    Inside and out! He's the best hubby I can ever imagine being with. He's VERY intelligent and has taught me many things. He's changed my life for the best and filled my mind with alot of useful information. I was never attracted to non intelligent guys. My husband has to be the...
    GreenEyedBeauty GreenEyedBeauty
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

    Would you have heated arguments about stupid

    things (Sandwiches are supposed to be triangular!) with me just for the fun of it? Would you learn a new language with me so we could whisper exciting sweet nothings to each other every morning? Would you help me brush up on my geometric and vector calculus to pass the time...
    metaphornographic metaphornographic
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2014

    It's Like Foreplay

    I love intelligent men. They remind you that you are more than just body parts. They stimulate my mind and make me take a better look at myself. To me an interesting, intelligent conversation is like foreplay. Most men say vulgar things to me but an intelligent man sees I'm more...
    deleted deleted
    10 Responses Sep 26, 2011

    I Love Intelligent Confident Young Cute Men

    I magnate to men who are young and cocky clever as hell and so confident it makes you, as a woman forget that you are not so clever and you don't care anyway... if that makes sense.... I love young clever smart *** guys who are lovely to woman but have a cocky attitude like...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    Aug 4, 2011

    Intelligent, Not Arrogant

    I love to hear a man talk knowledgeably (is that a word??) about something.  and I mean something he has had experience with and knows it inside and out. I can't stand men who THINK they're smart and smarter than everyone around them.  Arrogance turns me off and makes...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Jan 15, 2009

    This is especially relevant to me.

    A thinking person with some degree of self awareness and compassion is a must.
    sadlyalone2 sadlyalone2
    46-50, F
    6 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    Please No More "pull Tab To Open"

    When I meet a man, I kind of test out the waters to see if there is intellectual compatability. Your hormones could be jumping up and down at his physical appearance but if he has the intelligence of a small home appliance it's a gonna be a long night. Don't get me wrong, I'm...
    DieKatzeSchreibt DieKatzeSchreibt
    Jul 17, 2011

    You know what's sexy?

    A man who has goals and ambitions in life and not only retains these goals, but he also pursues them until they evolve or are reached! Damn. That's sexy. Also a man who loves to dance with his woman at every opportunity just to have a reason to hold her and move with her...
    icandoit13 icandoit13
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

    I Need Someone With Substance

    Okay. I can probably have a good conversation with anybody, but the best conversations are those shared with people who have substance and depth in their souls. That said, i wouldn't just want soemone intelligent---i want someone with a heart. Logic is good--but there must be...
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2009

    They simply pick you long

    before you're ripe and know exactly how to squeeze the juicy out of you. Enough said.
    StellaStellar StellaStellar
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 17, 2014

    Intelligent Men

    Intelligent men, They're my type, Women too,Intelligence, I like it.
    storywriter2 storywriter2
    Aug 20, 2012

    Women appreciate a good body just

    as much as men do – and some of us enjoy intimate relations just as much as men do.What captures our attention is your wit, your intellect, your drive, your warmth, and your strength. These are the qualities that cause women to truly desire a man. The rest is just...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2014

    I believe there is absolutely nothing sexier

    than a man who doesn't feel the need to brag about his manhood.....
    deleted deleted
    May 24, 2015

    What Is A Man With Intelligence?

    It doesn't have to be book-smarts or street-smarts. You don't have to have the IQ of a genius, or even close...In fact, I prefer you don't. I don't like cocky, and I despise arrogance. To me, intelligence is the ability to learn, to acquire knowledge, to learn from your...
    LG76 LG76
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Sep 12, 2011

    I can no longer accept relationships into my

    life that aren't built on compatability and intellectual conversation. I called my ex last night and he held me and said all the right things but I still felt that pulsing sting of lonliness in my chest. If my thoughts are miles away it doesn't matter if he holds me close there...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme
    26-30, F
    6 Responses May 22, 2015

    Well of Course. ...

    Well of course. But I don't put down men who are not intelligent, because my view of intelligent is not on who has more academic skills. I judge people by how they treat others, not on how much smarter they are than others.
    ladybaby ladybaby
    61-65, F
    Apr 16, 2009

    Yes Very Much

    I don't know what women see in dumb jocks. Being an idiot is so not attractive. I'm attracted to men who actually have a brain and know how to use it. What the hell could you talk to an uneducated nimrod about anyway. Besides the sex you'd probably have nothing else.
    howsab howsab
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 7, 2011

    Time Is On Your Side

    We may become anxious 2find or b found by the Love of our life. Yet we must b patient & enjoy each moment leading up 2the day that we are met by our COMPLIMENTARY SOLDIER OF LOVE. I AM CONTENT WITH THE IDEA OF BEING ALONE & I AM ENTHUSIATIC ABOUT SHARING THIS JOURNEY WITH A LOVE...
    AMOREternal AMOREternal
    31-35, F
    Apr 3, 2012

    If He Can Beat Me In Chess Than Alrighty!

    I admire some one with intelligence and wit no matter the gender but yes, I am attracted to intelligent men. A man who knows what to do, can think for himself, knows what he's doing, can hold conversations that may be intense, philosophic, wise, interesting, able to think outside...
    Marowit Marowit
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 9, 2009

    Smart Men

    I love a man that is smart wiyj a big heart. I lok back now on my life and think wow..............I was stupid for not realizing this side of me earlier
    Candyapple1234 Candyapple1234
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 8, 2011

    And I seem to be found attractive by them But

    I have no idea how to play this relationship game Damned if I do Damned if I don't Be myself Dress to the nines Be comfortable Whatever, nothing works If I like them, I'm guaranteed a fail Frustrating
    notaplacemat notaplacemat
    46-50, F
    Feb 20, 2016

    They seem to catch me

    because they seem more mature
    katebait katebait
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 17, 2015

    I wish I was in a relationship

    that is intellectually inclined. Most of the men I meet can't hold a conversation. It becomes frustrating. I need mental stimulation.
    firstjewelofthenile firstjewelofthenile
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jul 27, 2015

    Intelligent Men

    Intelligent men,There’s nothin’ better,They know how,No mucking around,That’s my type,Knowledgeable,Intelligent,Mature,They’ve been around,Know about life,What’s right and wrong,They’ll see you through,And never let you down.
    startinover1 startinover1
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2012

    Would you sleep with your doctor

    if the opportunity arise.
    firstjewelofthenile firstjewelofthenile
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 3, 2015

    So very tired of men

    who can't hold a conversation, or have no idea how to debate, or has no clue about poetry or the arts. Gimme a man with smarts and watch me open up like a flower. :)
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 14, 2015

    Pleasure Derived From Intelligence

    in·tel·li·gent Adjective /inˈtelijənt/ Synonyms: adjective: clever, brainy, smart, sagacious, bright, wise, sensible, knowing, shrewd (of a device, machine, or building) Able to vary its state or action in response to varying situations, varying requirements, and past...
    roughNready roughNready
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2011
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