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I Am Attracted to Intelligent Men

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    It's Like Foreplay

    I love intelligent men. They remind you that you are more than just body parts. They stimulate my mind and make me take a better look at myself. To me an interesting, intelligent conversation is like foreplay. Most men say vulgar things to me but an intelligent man sees I'm more...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Sep 26, 2011

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    I wish I was in a relationship

    that is intellectually inclined. Most of the men I meet can't hold a conversation. It becomes frustrating. I need mental stimulation.
    firstjewelofthenile firstjewelofthenile 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2015

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    Smart Men

    I love a man that is smart wiyj a big heart. I lok back now on my life and think wow..............I was stupid for not realizing this side of me earlier
    Candyapple1234 Candyapple1234 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 8, 2011

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    Intelligent Men

    Intelligent men,There’s nothin’ better,They know how,No mucking around,That’s my type,Knowledgeable,Intelligent,Mature,They’ve been around,Know about life,What’s right and wrong,They’ll see you through,And never let you down.
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 2 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    Yes Very Much

    I don't know what women see in dumb jocks. Being an idiot is so not attractive. I'm attracted to men who actually have a brain and know how to use it. What the hell could you talk to an uneducated nimrod about anyway. Besides the sex you'd probably have nothing else.
    howsab howsab 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2011

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    They simply pick you long

    before you're ripe and know exactly how to squeeze the juicy out of you. Enough said.
    StellaStellar StellaStellar 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 17, 2014

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    I'm Attracted to My Husband

    Inside and out! He's the best hubby I can ever imagine being with. He's VERY intelligent and has taught me many things. He's changed my life for the best and filled my mind with alot of useful information. I was never attracted to non intelligent guys. My husband has to be the...
    GreenEyedBeauty GreenEyedBeauty 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    You know what's sexy?

    A man who has goals and ambitions in life and not only retains these goals, but he also pursues them until they evolve or are reached! Damn. That's sexy. Also a man who loves to dance with his woman at every opportunity just to have a reason to hold her and move with her...
    icandoit13 icandoit13 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    Would you sleep with your doctor

    if the opportunity arise.
    firstjewelofthenile firstjewelofthenile 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 3, 2015

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    If He Can Beat Me In Chess Than Alrighty!

    I admire some one with intelligence and wit no matter the gender but yes, I am attracted to intelligent men. A man who knows what to do, can think for himself, knows what he's doing, can hold conversations that may be intense, philosophic, wise, interesting, able to think outside...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 9, 2009

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    I believe there is absolutely nothing sexier

    than a man who doesn't feel the need to brag about his manhood.....
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 24, 2015

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    Intelligent, Not Arrogant

    I love to hear a man talk knowledgeably (is that a word??) about something.  and I mean something he has had experience with and knows it inside and out. I can't stand men who THINK they're smart and smarter than everyone around them.  Arrogance turns me off and makes...
    filthydieseltech filthydieseltech 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 15, 2009

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    So very tired of men

    who can't hold a conversation, or have no idea how to debate, or has no clue about poetry or the arts. Gimme a man with smarts and watch me open up like a flower. :)
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Feb 14, 2015

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    This is especially relevant to me.

    A thinking person with some degree of self awareness and compassion is a must.
    sadlyalone2 sadlyalone2 46-50, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Number One Quality

    I'm not one for casual dating; I only go out with people who I feel some kind of resonance with.And that brings me to intelligence.  I'm extremely smart.  We're talking off-the-charts in verbal areas.  So one of the first things I notice about a person is their brains.  Do...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2011

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    By "attracted" I don't mean I want to **** you.

    I really probably don't. What I mean is that a man with a great mind can intrigue me enough to draw me in and keep me there for a while. Sure, there is an attraction. Noone said ot had to be that sexual. I just really crave a decent conversation. It helps if you're cute to look...
    StellaStellar StellaStellar 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2014

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    Women appreciate a good body just

    as much as men do – and some of us enjoy intimate relations just as much as men do.What captures our attention is your wit, your intellect, your drive, your warmth, and your strength. These are the qualities that cause women to truly desire a man. The rest is just...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I can no longer accept relationships into my

    life that aren't built on compatability and intellectual conversation. I called my ex last night and he held me and said all the right things but I still felt that pulsing sting of lonliness in my chest. If my thoughts are miles away it doesn't matter if he holds me close there...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 8 Responses May 22, 2015

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    Well of Course. ...

    Well of course. But I don't put down men who are not intelligent, because my view of intelligent is not on who has more academic skills. I judge people by how they treat others, not on how much smarter they are than others.
    ladybaby ladybaby 61-65, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2009

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    I am attracted and settle down

    and around with intellectual men. I thoroughly enjoy being with an intelligent man. He normally has a higher paying job than minimum wage, college educated, good provider, and so much more.
    middleagedfemalemom middleagedfemalemom 46-50, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2015

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    Intelligent Men

    Intelligent men, They're my type, Women too,Intelligence, I like it.
    storywriter2 storywriter2 46-50 Aug 20, 2012

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    They seem to catch me

    because they seem more mature
    katebait katebait 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 17, 2015

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    The reason why I am attracted to intelligent

    men is because I am an intelligent woman. Common sense goes a long way too. My husband is both intellectual and has common sense. This is one major factor in why we get along so well together. We seldom argue and when we do it is over small things and never over anything...
    redheadwearinglingerie redheadwearinglingerie 46-50, F Apr 24, 2015

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    A Different Kind Of Turn On

    Over the so many years that I have been chatting with men, I have had different kinds of chat experiences. Some were memorable, some were forgettable. What makes a chat memorable and something to look forward to is when there is a healthy two-way exchange which is how any...
    ladybug1234 ladybug1234 51-55, F 48 Responses Jun 12, 2013

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    What Is A Man With Intelligence?

    It doesn't have to be book-smarts or street-smarts. You don't have to have the IQ of a genius, or even close...In fact, I prefer you don't. I don't like cocky, and I despise arrogance. To me, intelligence is the ability to learn, to acquire knowledge, to learn from your...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    I Need Someone With Substance

    Okay. I can probably have a good conversation with anybody, but the best conversations are those shared with people who have substance and depth in their souls. That said, i wouldn't just want soemone intelligent---i want someone with a heart. Logic is good--but there must be...
    mistyeyedlass mistyeyedlass 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    Time Is On Your Side

    We may become anxious 2find or b found by the Love of our life. Yet we must b patient & enjoy each moment leading up 2the day that we are met by our COMPLIMENTARY SOLDIER OF LOVE. I AM CONTENT WITH THE IDEA OF BEING ALONE & I AM ENTHUSIATIC ABOUT SHARING THIS JOURNEY WITH A LOVE...
    AMOREternal AMOREternal 31-35, F Apr 3, 2012

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    What Is That Saying...

    "Seduce my mind and you can have my body"? I don't know if that is completely right, but it fits me absolute. What is it about danger and intelligence that turns me, and most assuredly most women, on? I have dated a history professor and an under cover narcotics agent that goes...
    DesertSage DesertSage 46-50, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2013

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    Would you have heated arguments about stupid

    things (Sandwiches are supposed to be triangular!) with me just for the fun of it? Would you learn a new language with me so we could whisper exciting sweet nothings to each other every morning? Would you help me brush up on my geometric and vector calculus to pass the time...
    metaphornographic metaphornographic 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 19, 2014

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    I Love Intelligent Confident Young Cute Men

    I magnate to men who are young and cocky clever as hell and so confident it makes you, as a woman forget that you are not so clever and you don't care anyway... if that makes sense.... I love young clever smart *** guys who are lovely to woman but have a cocky attitude like...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Aug 4, 2011

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    Soul Deep

    They say the brain is the most important sex organ.  That is undoubtedly true.  I cannot say I haven't settled for less.  I've had booty calls and one night stands with men who have somewhat lackluster mental faculties.  Those men had other more visual and tactile charms...
    EternalCynic EternalCynic 41-45, F Nov 6, 2011

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    Pleasure Derived From Intelligence

    in·tel·li·gent Adjective /inˈtelijənt/ Synonyms: adjective: clever, brainy, smart, sagacious, bright, wise, sensible, knowing, shrewd (of a device, machine, or building) Able to vary its state or action in response to varying situations, varying requirements, and past...
    roughNready roughNready 51-55, F 2 Responses Jul 15, 2011

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    if I Ever Were to Be Attrac...

    if i ever were to be attracted to a man (and that's not impossible) they would eb intelligent. the'd have to be. becasue they'd have to interest me enough. i haven;t yet met a man who interested me for more than five seconds let alone the amount f time it would take to get...
    thegreatsmoky thegreatsmoky 18-21 4 Responses Apr 16, 2009

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    Wonder are these kind of men evaporating

    or spontaneously combusting the second they try to post on EP? (Sigh)
    GoneGirl78 GoneGirl78 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 4, 2015

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    Please No More "pull Tab To Open"

    When I meet a man, I kind of test out the waters to see if there is intellectual compatability. Your hormones could be jumping up and down at his physical appearance but if he has the intelligence of a small home appliance it's a gonna be a long night. Don't get me wrong, I'm...
    DieKatzeSchreibt DieKatzeSchreibt 41-45 Jul 17, 2011

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    Hey sexy lades I'm smart i got a B in Englesh compisition but my **** is big two who wants 2 huk up werd.
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    I can not lie, but yes lord.....something about another woman that is attracted to me, and makes an effort to let me, makes me more attracted to her..Just knowing she wants me...
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    I almost always find myself more attracted to men who are at least 10 or more years older than me, than guys my own age. Aside from the aesthetically appealing qualities, to me...
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    I like intelligent people.Not intelligent in academic but just generally in life.They are good at making you just sit down and think about the world for a moment.They made u trying...
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    I've always had a thing for White men but even so, I find it slightly uncomfortable when I'm called "black queen" or "goddess" by a white man. Idk it just feels a little excessive...
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    As I think about it, although my internal sexual orientation has had its fair share of confusion, being in some way sexually attracted to someone i feel is more intelligent than I...
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    It's so hard being the only one in your group of friends that's attracted to older men they don't understand. There maturity and presence is so beautiful and everyone has a type...
    electraheartlolita electraheartlolita 16-17, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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