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I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    It always seems to be

    that the nicest and most amazingly attractive women I meet are already attached! Shatters my heart almost every time but hey ain't no point in Settling for anything less than what you really want right? So ill take on all the pain. And doit again and again.'
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M Apr 14, 2014

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    Have you ever thought

    that your life is a big wonder of why? Like why do I like her or him, why this, why that? Is it cause we're to blind that the people we like are also a bunch of whys? I've been attracted to a lot of people that I know I can date or have so WHY do I even bother? Is it cause I don...
    BrokenLoss BrokenLoss 16-17, M Dec 16, 2014

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    I keep everyone at a safe distance.

    I can open myself up to a point. I see so many faces all around me and yet a feel solitude. It's not always melancholy either, actually it's normally quite serene. It seems that those that I have found that shatter that preference for solitude are not meant for me. The internal...
    lilHuman lilHuman 26-30, F Sep 11, 2014

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    PrincessPeaches2015 PrincessPeaches2015 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2014

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    alleycat66 alleycat66 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Why is it that when I perceive someone to be

    attractive, I'm immediately intimidated? And instinctively feel immensely inferior?
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 29

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    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    It's always those girls in relationships.

    I can connect to them soo damn well, then I'm attracted to them, then I realize they have a boyfriend and my moral code forbids me to go any further. Tried the same with single girls but after a day or two they bore the hell outta me. Really bugs me.
    GR4YF0X GR4YF0X 18-21, M 1 Response May 5, 2014

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    It doesn't hurt anymore

    now that he won't talk to me anymore. It is as it should have been, but the longing and wistful feeling still remains. I'm no longer crazy, but maybe a little apprehensive now.
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 4

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    Shelbaayyy Shelbaayyy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    Why can I not have Zac Effron

    or Leonardo DiCaprio? I know they are too old but I will not care if it's them! Hahaha!
    HeyHeyitsEmilie HeyHeyitsEmilie 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2014

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    Seems I always fall for the ones I can't have.

    I'm starting to think it's more a of a defense mechanism and my way out of committing. If I never commit to anyone I won't ever get hurt, right?
    Notadickjusthonest Notadickjusthonest 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    Like Marilyn Monroe,

    because she's dead.
    Workingclassman Workingclassman 31-35, M 9 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    Somehow I rarely feel any romantic attraction

    to someone close to me or even in the same country, but people on the other side of the world can get me thinking of them all day after one or two good conversations. I think it might an unconscious choice not to get attracted to anyone close because I'm terrified of getting...
    Gentle153Old Gentle153Old 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 4, 2014

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    I saw his profile online.

    I never realized his hair was so dark before.. Just musing here because if I try talking to him he'll just ignore me as usual. No point trying.
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 29

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    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2007

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    it would be easier on everyone involved

    if I could just walk away. but how do you break an attraction when you're attached like this?. when their part of your everyday life. when it's like they are a drug you can't live without.??
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 2

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    I often find myself attracted to younger petite

    Jewish lesbians. They aren't always the full combo but usually have at least two of the variables of which generally aren't attracted to large older black males.
    Xlsmoove Xlsmoove 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Seriously why don't boys (or girls

    for that matter) like me? What's wrong with me? It's depressing but maybe the cat life was made for me..
    rejextharry rejextharry 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Really attracted to this guy

    that works at my school and my local gym...even though he's 6 years older than me and would never go for me. Why must this happen.
    veratreasure veratreasure 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    I have always had a thing

    for this girl. We have hooked up once or twice over the years. But now my best friend is dating her and I will not do anything to f-up my friendship
    southernborn121 southernborn121 26-30, M Jul 16

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    peaceinmiles peaceinmiles 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    I been wanting this guy

    for sometime. We hook up a few years ago but I want him again. He knows it. I feel like he wants me but want me to chase and hell nawl i will not. so now I just talk **** acting like i dont give a damn knowing damn well I want him. Why do guys play games so much??!?? smh!!!
    AngelLanette AngelLanette 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    In the search of the love

    that i never felt before, i lost track of what is truly important, self-love. Depression has swept in me for the past few days. I don't know if i can still bring back the person i lost in the process. I wanna laugh again. I wanna try to find love once more.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 28

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    I'm in love with anime,

    cartoons, and the few real guys I like are either not interested or just friends.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Mar 21

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    its my boss, he flirts with me

    and has sent me some naughty pics, I am engaged and shouldn't be interested, but I am
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 23

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    Am attracted to my teacher,

    or maybe you can say in love with her! Am 16 years old and she 31 she's married btw! I guess she also has feelings towards me because she always brings me gifts and stuff! I really don't know what to do! Loving her really hurts! What should I do?!
    Bloomington82 Bloomington82 18-21, T 3 Responses Apr 21

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    I'm always getting crushes on my husband's

    friends. It doesn't help that he basically ignores me lately. I'm always wanting to be around whenever his friends are over, so i can flirt with them, but i feel like it's pointless.
    KatKvinna KatKvinna 26-30, F 12 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    dalidacc11 dalidacc11 26-30, F Apr 21

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    Its the people i love the most

    that dont love me. It hurts. Or at least i dont think they like me. Lifes just too confusing. Nvm. Im done caring
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M Apr 5

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    Does it mean I'm insecure

    if I don't mind sharing/open relationships?
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 2 Responses May 28

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    Their's just something about people i can't have

    that make them hott lol. A teacher? Idk about someones husband..they are all mostly ugly lol. uhh someone elses gf/bf. yes but i don't act on it. im not a homewrecker. that's just a bitchy thing to do....unless they come to me first? ;) I'll be doing them a favor though cause if...
    Muffin19 Muffin19 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    sundragon sundragon 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    I am attracted to people i can't have.

    When i find someone who i want to close to,i'm very happy. But once they literally close to me,i push them away due to fear. Fear of love Fear of something Fear of something that i don't know It's so easy to talk to people who i'm not attracted to,i even smile a lot and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 22

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    "I choose to love you in silence,

    for in silence I find no rejection. I choose to adore you from a distance, for distance will shield me from pain. I choose to kiss you in the wind, for the wind is gentler than my lips" - unknown. This poem I saw today is exactly how I feel for you. I hate myself for not having...
    deadkid deadkid 22-25 2 Responses Apr 20

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    I Adore You

    There are just some people whom I terribly adore. They make my life sweeter, inspiring me to be greater. Rarely do days go by when I don't wish to be in their presence. I quite literally wish I could know everything about them. I would love to spend hours knowing and...
    sundragon sundragon 31-35, M Aug 23, 2012

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    It gets a bit much sometimes knowing

    that no matter what girls I'm attracted to, they are never interested in me. At least they never show it at all if they are :/
    KiwiDan KiwiDan 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    I have been going out with a married man

    for 5 years and I was badly in love with him it s over now . But I ended up depressed feeling guilty suicidal .......
    kary82 kary82 31-35, F 2 Responses May 10

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    Oh my love Devon Massyn!

    Why can't we be together. just you, me and all the sharks and wild animals! I'll always love you even though you don't know that I'm mentally dating you!
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Aren't we all? Actors,

    actresses - people we know or know of, that seem so out of our league...
    iFortiTude iFortiTude 31-35 2 Responses Feb 22

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    3 years ago i met this guy.

    he is 6 years older than me. he is the most attractive guy that i ever met.. now we have stopped talking because of his new girlfriend i had never had the chance to be with him. :( i miss him sometimes
    lor334 lor334 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    aylinacc11 aylinacc11 26-30, F Jul 16

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    abby816 abby816 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 17

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    This is actually my worst nightmare.

    I work at a job in which I'm surrounded by mostly guys. In addition, some of them are super hot and really nice. However, they're all in their 20's while I'm only 16 and fairly unattractive.
    kico4 kico4 16-17, F Jul 15

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    Well

    I think the name of the group summarizes quite well the plight that the members go through.  I, too, find that I am attracted to those that would either never give me a second thought, would be completely incompatible with me once I got to know them, are outside of a...
    MissedTheBoat MissedTheBoat 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 2, 2007

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