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I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    I am madly in love with the actor Tom Hardy

    but I don't really like any of his films apart from Bronson or Batman: The Dark Knight Rises. Does anyone else share this attraction?
    CocoParis CocoParis 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    He was one of the few people I could truly

    trust. We both had bad home lives and would often hang out and talk about our parents or siblings. When he turned 18 he joined the military just to get away from his mother. He came back from basic training and we hung out together just like we had before. Then he had to go...
    cora07 cora07 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    Hopeless

    I sort of just exist, but my forever aloneness is inevitable. Gaaaaa this is hard to admit, but I find my self attracted to gay males O_0 I get the worse crushes on them, but I am female so it is just depressing.
    outofwonderland outofwonderland 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    Forget2Trust Forget2Trust 26-30, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    The struggle smh ugh

    and everybody I'm not attracted to likes me
    Promisesarebullshit Promisesarebullshit 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 31

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    So today I saw this this gorgeous Indian guy

    and ugh, seriously my mouth was watering because he was so damn good looking. 😍 I've always had a soft spot for men of color, and he was one good looking guy. Too bad he was taking a different bus than me. Would have really liked to talk to him. Maybe next time 😉😊
    Millemer Millemer 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 13

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    Not Just People...

    I've done it several times, it can be and is devastating. I guess it's in my nature because it's surely not a conscious thing.  I don't go for married women, at least when I'm aware that they're married, but do fall for the unattainable or impossile women. I also find...
    zillaron zillaron 51-55, M 1 Response Jun 28, 2009

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    Why can I not have Zac Effron

    or Leonardo DiCaprio? I know they are too old but I will not care if it's them! Hahaha!
    HeyHeyitsEmilie HeyHeyitsEmilie 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 6

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    This Girl

    She's perfectly straight, yet she is one of the most beautiful and elegant girls i have ever seen, i have tried to get over her, but i cant. I keep hoping that one day i we will get together but i know that will never happen...
    nikkiluvzglen nikkiluvzglen 16-17, F Feb 17, 2013

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    I Adore You

    There are just some people whom I terribly adore. They make my life sweeter, inspiring me to be greater. Rarely do days go by when I don't wish to be in their presence. I quite literally wish I could know everything about them. I would love to spend hours knowing and...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M Aug 23, 2012

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    Story Of My Life-

    It's almost as though, I don't know someone exists until I know I can't have them; then I HAVE to have them. I go after them with a vengeance and it usually works, until today- and I'm not sure how I feel about it, because although I'm not happy with being turned down, this...
    MGoods MGoods 22-25, F Sep 27, 2013

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    I Have A Crush On A Much Younger Girl.

    I have been going to a bait shop for the last several months. Nice people. The owner and I have struck up a good rapport. We talk about all types of fishing, boating, ect. On the weekends and some evenings a pretty young girl works at the shop. The conversations were always...
    Floridarunnerguy Floridarunnerguy 46-50, M Jul 18, 2013

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    My Favorite Secret

    When I see you, you say "Hi, Love." Every time our paths cross, so does a smile cross your face. That beautiful face. I see you in my dreams and only one have I told how dear you are to me, how precious. I've told you I love you and our professional passions cloud my meaning...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M Mar 14, 2013

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    It's Just Not Fair!!

    1.I'm always falling in love with people who see me only as a friend (or they don't even know my existence)... 2.I always recieve compliments from guys I don't like... 3.I always have relationships with guys I'm not in love with (not even close to it...) WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME...
    just4adream just4adream 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

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    What's a Girl Do?

    I am attracted to men I cannot have. This fact does not seem likely to change. They are always too old or married or way out of my league, physically or intellectually. And if attraction happens to mutual for once, they end up moving away. It happened to me twice... in the same...
    ArabellaBlythe ArabellaBlythe 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 24, 2009

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    MixedLesbian MixedLesbian 16-17, F Apr 6

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    Always

    it doesn't really matter what the situation is...of course it's always different. but for one reason or another...every time...i can't have him. he doesn't want to be with me, or is with someone else that he loves very much, or just whatever. but i'm so frustrated right now. it's...
    lifewater124 lifewater124 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2008

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    Attracted To A Friend

    i play in a band with a friend and his girlfriend and i'm attracted to my friend. if i had enough people to talk about it with it'd be fine but because i don't talk about it it is turning to a big deal. there is awkwardness and tension between us because i made it obvious at the...
    feversome feversome 26-30 Jul 22, 2013

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    fionacc11 fionacc11 26-30, F Mar 21

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    Wanting What You Can'T Have...

    She's very passionate, devoted, determined, strong... She has blazing red hair, and some of the most beautiful eyes I've seen... She's a lot of fun to be around, most of the time... She's pretty much what I need right now, and I'd like to think I could provide what she needs, too...
    KewlioMZX KewlioMZX 26-30, M Feb 6, 2013

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    This Is Soo True For Me

    Most guys that I really want I can't have wether they're a bit too old or friends with my brother or someone who is nothing like me. Either way they should be off limits, but that just makes them that much more appealing :) I can't help it! I think its that way for everybody. If...
    SaraLoren SaraLoren 18-21, F Jul 27, 2011

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    No More Of This!

    Too many times have I experienced being attracted to someone that I could never have. When I was in high school, I was into tall athletic body type guys. Now in college, I'm into Korean guys from South Korea. Both will never fall for me, closest I'll get is probably a...
    Lady808 Lady808 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 2, 2012

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    The Bus Kiss

    One day I was riding a bus half way across the country to see my sister. A very pretty girl got on the bus and sat next to me. I was so elated and freaked out at the same time. What do I say? How should I act? I've got to try not to mess this up. Pretty girls never sit next...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 24, 2012

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    Yep.

    Tall dark and handsome hasn't found their way into my life yet. Keep looking (;
    ShadeofRae ShadeofRae 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Chemistry

    I don't think its so much that I'm constantly finding myself attracted to people I "can't have" so much as it is, its so hard to find someone who you have the same chemistry with. Someone with whom you can find yourself being completely yourself with, having fun with, having a...
    rxcsoccerstar rxcsoccerstar 18-21, F Dec 24, 2012

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    Why Is It Always Like This?

    The person we like doesn't have the mutual feelings toward us, but then the person who likes us, we don't have the mutual feeling towards them. Is it normal? Is this what they call The cycle of life? It seems unfair.
    UnknownGuyAround UnknownGuyAround 13-15, M 2 Responses Sep 28, 2013

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    Well

    I think the name of the group summarizes quite well the plight that the members go through.  I, too, find that I am attracted to those that would either never give me a second thought, would be completely incompatible with me once I got to know them, are outside of a...
    MissedTheBoat MissedTheBoat 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 2, 2007

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    I am attracted to someone

    who has been with someone for about 4 years and is basically married. But I am soooo attracted to this person and there is nothing I can do about It. Plus they are older than me about 8 years older than me.
    LoveWash95 LoveWash95 18-21, F Feb 11

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    The People I Can'T Have....

    are the closest ones to me.....
    nothingtypical nothingtypical 31-35 Apr 6, 2013

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    Forever alone why is it

    when I fancy someone I scare them off I'm so desperate for a relationship. I'm not skinny or sexy and I don't want to meet someone for just sex.
    BigChallangeSam BigChallangeSam 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    I Need Advice..

    ok so i have these 2 friends (ill call them Sam and Kate to make things easier) Sam and Kate are my best friends and recently i told both of them that im pretty sure im bi and theyr both cool with it (Kate is bi also) and when i was talking to Sam a few days ago she told me she...
    dancergirl101 dancergirl101 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    The last guy I fell in love with was a guy I

    met in China last year (while I live in Europe). We met just once and communication wasn't easy, cause neither of us spoke the others native language, nor the others second best language too well. I realized I'd really fallen in love with him after returning. Typically for me to...
    photosynthea photosynthea 26-30, F Mar 8

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    I'm attracted to Cassie

    and I can't have her. I'm attracted to Beyonce and I can't have her. I want to MARRY Cyn Santana and I can't have her either! 😭😭😭
    MixedLesbian MixedLesbian 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2007

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    The Ultimate Thick-muscular, Tomboy...

    because I said it many times in some comment, left at different stories on EP, I like to write it out at full, with a magnificent example added to it. I go for truely boyish , or heavenly tomboyish, or uncompromised muscular girls/woman only. Just ONE problem with that, right...
    Wig4 Wig4 46-50, M Jun 20, 2011

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    My Lang. Arts Teacher.

    I'm gay, that's the truth. Thing is, I already know that, even IF I'm in middle school. It's not a phase, because I've suspected it for years. Anyways, ever since my new Language Arts teacher Mr. Ganz came to the school, I felt so attracted to him. He's probably straight, but he...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 18, 2013

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    I guess I can't have them because,

    I'm really not very attractive, and I often wonder who would be attracted to me. I have all kinds of preferences, and every once in a while, I find someone who's perfect, or near perfect, and I think "no, he/she wouldn't like me" I have an ok personality I guess, I'm a little f...
    sturmgewher44 sturmgewher44 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    Markiplier!! It started

    as me just watching him on youtube and thinking hey, he's funny. But lately I have been so obsessed with him. I wanna meet him so bad and now i wanna be with him. I think he is perfect in every way! He is very respectful to everyone and is still funny. He makes me laugh so much...
    battlefighter battlefighter 18-21, F Jan 6

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    Folly of Emotional Safety Nets

    To focus energy on someone you clearly cannot have is a way of staying in an emotional safety zone and but can cause more unhappiness in the end than happiness. Sometimes people are separated by distance and circumstance, just beginning to know each other, and this kind of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2009

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    A Safety Net

    It's safe for me, since I know that I truly can not have you It keeps me safe - emotionally Sometimes I think you deserve more than this ... I complicate things But as friends, it's easier :o)  Connecting, but not having to lose me.  
    MizzBlue72 MizzBlue72 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 4, 2009

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    I Easily Lose Attraction For People Who Like Me

    Very predictably, I seem to very quickly lose attraction for people who express an interest in me after one or two dates. Complementing this, I think I am afraid to pursue people I'm really attracted to for fear of rejection.
    T2NYC T2NYC 41-45, M 1 Response Oct 19, 2013

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    Can't Get Rejected.

    Falling for people I can't have is how I keep myself safe from rejection.     I can fantasize all I want and no one gets hurt.... especially me.
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Dec 9, 2007

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    Its A Curse.

    I cant seem to like anyone in my reach, no matter how attractive they are, I keep brushing everyone off because I always have crazy crushes which are most of the time SURREAL! Im sure its just to make sure it is completley impossible for us to be together. Maybe I do it because...
    XxthedarknesswillgrowxX XxthedarknesswillgrowxX 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 7, 2011

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    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    I Am Attracted To Unavailable People

    I am attracted to unavailable people
    T2NYC T2NYC 41-45, M Oct 19, 2013

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    He is the only one I was never able to get,

    he is not my type, I do not like him and I don't think he looks good either. But it makes me angry that I wasn't able to make him like me. I have this problem, if I have a crush on a guy, it must be someone who doesn't have a crush on me, and once he asks me out or tells me he...
    wishfullthoughts wishfullthoughts 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    I Certainly Have A Type...

    It's not that I don't think I'm a viable commodity, to put it in ridiculous terms, it's just that I seem to only be truly attracted to girls that I don't seem to have a shot with. Not because I think they're out of my league, or they're exceedingly beautiful or anything, it's...
    KeasbeyNights KeasbeyNights 22-25, M Oct 20, 2010

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    It always seems to be

    that the nicest and most amazingly attractive women I meet are already attached! Shatters my heart almost every time but hey ain't no point in Settling for anything less than what you really want right? So ill take on all the pain. And doit again and again.'
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 6 days ago

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    What's Wrong With Me

     I've only liked people I can't have. My first crush was grade 6. Every year since then I've liked someone new. My latest crush has been my crush for a little more than a year. He ****** me off because he's actually nice to me. Why would you be nice to someone you don't...
    picopa picopa 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 28, 2009

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    A Dream Indeed.

    last year after ending my relationship with my gf. i met someone, she had been lovely to me, conversation lasted for months, we had been in relationship even. she was like this perfect girl i was searching for. but one point in time, i was waiting for her and she never came back...
    22zic33135 22zic33135 22-25 1 Response May 10, 2013

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    Three questions What was it like to love him?

    Asked Gratitude. It was like being exhumed, I answered. And brought to life in a flash of brilliance. What was it like to be loved in return? Asked Joy. It was like being seen after a perpetual darkness, I replied. To be heard after a lifetime of silence. What was it like to...
    terriblethings terriblethings 18-21, F Jan 29

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    This is definitely true!

    Haha. Maybe it should be; I am attracted to people who don't want me
    misconstruedthoughts misconstruedthoughts 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    She's Already Taken

    Why does she tempt me like this. It's something about her being forbidden that makes her more appealing to me. It makes her body sexier, makes her her voice sound more seductive when she talks to me or says my name. I used to need her like I needed air in my body, I wanted her so...
    LissaLoves LissaLoves 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2011

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    I End Up Falling For Lesbians...

    I am really attracted to strong women. Most of my female friends and family members are shy, passive types, and I don't mind being their "rock" as it were. I make sure they know they're loved, listen patiently to their troubles, and ensure no one takes advantage of them. But when...
    starterfire starterfire 18-21 1 Response Jul 11, 2011

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    If they could, they'd be like.....O_O Of course, I'm sure everyone has had thoughts where they were like, "Man, I'm so glad people can't read my mind right now." Lol. :P
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