I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    I saw her again. She's

    so beautiful. I mean, she seems so perfect. At least for me. But still, there's a zero chance for us to be together.
    bluejeansfemme bluejeansfemme
    18-21, F
    Jan 1

    Seems I always fall for the ones I can't have.

    I'm starting to think it's more a of a defense mechanism and my way out of committing. If I never commit to anyone I won't ever get hurt, right?
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Aug 15, 2014

    People Wayy Older, Like 20 Or So.

    I Would NEVER Pursue Them, But It Is Torture.
    Erie23 Erie23
    16-17, F
    1 Response Nov 11, 2015

    Why do I care so much

    for a man that's not mine. When I know that I shouldn't. My heart always speaks of you, when it should be silent. It needs to learn to let go of the things it can not attain. He was forbidden fruit I've tasted and have been poison with his touch. To feel him again and be with...
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 15

    I always say I'm over you.

    I don't want to talk to you anymore, but I still come back asking for your attention. Time after time hoping your give me a lil bit more then a few words, and have me wanting more. I slowly get over you and we don't talk for awhile. Then out of nowhere you message me and I feel...
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2007

    I have a weakness for short slender girls.

    I find them absolutely beautiful. The problem I face that I have found myself attracted to younger girls I think this is because there aren't many women i am attracted to.
    all4fun420 all4fun420
    31-35, M
    Mar 2

    We're friends, we talked again

    and had for weeks. I really enjoyed talking to him and I feel comfortable to tell him alot of personal things about me and my life. I sometimes wonder after if I said to much, since he's so much more private than I am. He always say no it's fine and I truly hope it's fine. I...
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 2

    Like Marilyn Monroe,

    because she's dead.
    Diggemzz Diggemzz
    31-35, M
    9 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    Aren't we all? Actors,

    actresses - people we know or know of, that seem so out of our league...
    iFortiTude iFortiTude
    31-35
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2015

    Everything was amazing.

    . I really thought he was the one.. And I love him so much, I don't even understand how I love someone so much, it's weird, the first time I ever talked to him, I just felt something in me.. I'm not sure what It was I was just happy, I felt like a kid getting a new toy or a puppy...
    erxnio erxnio
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Aug 17, 2015

    I think I finally accepted the true

    that I've been trying to avoid, that u stolen part of my heart. I don't know how, but I don't like it.
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 2, 2015
    Indigoxjosias Indigoxjosias
    18-21, M
    Nov 11, 2015

    Have you ever thought

    that your life is a big wonder of why? Like why do I like her or him, why this, why that? Is it cause we're to blind that the people we like are also a bunch of whys? I've been attracted to a lot of people that I know I can date or have so WHY do I even bother? Is it cause I don...
    Brokeintranslation Brokeintranslation
    18-21, M
    Dec 16, 2014

    Does it mean I'm insecure

    if I don't mind sharing/open relationships?
    midnightT31 midnightT31
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 28, 2015
    TheGreatKate TheGreatKate
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    Attracted to people i cant have

    and not attracted to the people who are attracted to me :/
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 21, 2015

    Co dependency runs in my family

    and it's been one of my problems. As I get older I realize that the few real relationships I've had have always been with people that are either emotionally unavailable, just gotten of a relationship, or it's just a circumstance where I feel it's 80/20. Me being the 80 and her...
    slickchickeli slickchickeli
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 12, 2015

    The most recent one is

    because she lives on the other side of the country. Met her in a class in California. Literally love at first sight. Then I tried to keep my self smiling and under control for the rest of the class when she said she lives in NYC. Worse part is, I think she kind of liked me too...
    dogmeat42 dogmeat42
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Dec 12, 2015

    It's like he will pass by in the hallway

    and all I wanted is to throw myself in his arms, or hold his hand, or tell him that I exist. But instead, I just stood there, absentmindedly holding my breath, careful not to meet his eyes or else it'll be a ruckus. And when he's not seeing me I will turn around and stare at him...
    Pilosopotasyo2311 Pilosopotasyo2311
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 26

    I'm in love with this boy with the perfect

    smile in the beginning when we met he was so sweet and we hung out all the time Then the popular gorgeous girl started talking to him and he automatically became mean It's taken him awhile to become nice to me then the girl switched schools and his old self is back. We have...
    CookieTracker7 CookieTracker7
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 29

    I need to get over you,

    but I don't want too.
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 27, 2015

    I'm a 14 year old boy in 8th grade

    and the girls at school all go around looking really HOT! I wish I could have a girlfriend but I'm not allowed to. My mommy and big sister keep a really close watch over me and I'm allowed to have girls as friends (and actually most of my friends are girls) but never allowed to...
    littlebobbie6 littlebobbie6
    16-17, M
    3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2012

    told him I wasn't into him anymore

    because I want him to move on. Of course I'm still into him it's just too complicated right now. I feel so sad about it though. I know it's for the best.
    moonilluminatedroom moonilluminatedroom
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 28, 2015

    I'm attracted to men

    who are already in long, committed relationships because on some level I know they can never actually commit to me. I'm afraid I'm a terrible person with no self esteem and I'll never be satisfied in a healthy relationship.
    kenna2 kenna2
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 10

    I want to say. This is a really dumb group.

    And those who know me very well...I don't really get upset at very many things. This is a rare exception. Get turned on or attracted to someone you cant have and continue to chase after or pm someone attached and you continue to be attracted to them only causes hurt, pain and...
    drooniedat drooniedat
    41-45, M
    Apr 11

    It is quite interesting

    that we often aspire to link ourselves with others which at first seem so receptive but once becoming attach are so far away and unobtainable. It is very sad.
    mrallen01 mrallen01
    56-60, M
    Sep 12, 2015

    I keep everyone at a safe distance.

    I can open myself up to a point. I see so many faces all around me and yet a feel solitude. It's not always melancholy either, actually it's normally quite serene. It seems that those that I have found that shatter that preference for solitude are not meant for me. The internal...
    lilHuman lilHuman
    26-30, F
    Sep 11, 2014
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 13, 2015

    I tried being with someone else,

    but it was both claustrophobic and isolating to spend time such a long time with one person, with anyone who isn't you. Convenience should not be a reason to choose one person over another. Its not fair on either party, and it's hard. Hard when I keep imagining what I would be...
    misty121 misty121
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 26

    I care about physical appearance too much

    but i am an ugly person. I always attract to very handsome guys but deep down i know that they are out of my league. I can not love an ordinary look. Sometimes i feel like i am the most beautiful woman who trap in ugliest body.
    roft roft
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    Aren't we all? I think this is somewhat a part

    of human nature. There's a fascination with going after things that we subconsciously know we can't have.
    FabledTacoOfDoom FabledTacoOfDoom
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    she was the most fasinating female ive met.

    i know i shouldnt have standards and she meets everyone of them. independance will beat me everyday
    fartoomuch fartoomuch
    26-30, M
    Feb 25
    Loliitaaa Loliitaaa
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 12, 2015

    I am actually attracted to guys

    who pick girls completely opposite from me... I am extremely attracted to white guys... but the guys I like love SKINNY slim girls... or they tell me they just don't like black girls at all...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 7, 2015

    I am so ******* frustrated with him.

    Why do I have him on my mind. Why do I even talk to you.
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 5, 2015

    Its the people i love the most

    that dont love me. It hurts. Or at least i dont think they like me. Lifes just too confusing. Nvm. Im done caring
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist
    18-21, M
    Apr 5, 2015

    An ex girlfriend from many years ago

    who is now married I am still attracted to. We still talk now but she looks a lot more sexier now than before. We do talk about meeting up again which I hope happens soon. She also wants to **** again so I'm well interested even more so. I think it's cause she's married I'm more...
    FreakyMinds FreakyMinds
    36-40, M
    Nov 8, 2015
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Aug 29, 2015

    I find older women very attractive.

    However most of them I fell for had fulfilled lives. Kids older than me and little grandchildren. There was this woman named Linda she was in her 60s and she was one of the most beautiful women I ever layed eyes on. To me she represented what a true woman should be.... But alas...
    jarocho jarocho
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Mar 26

    My best female friend unfortunately.

    She's soo amazingly cute, and I've crushed on her for a long time.
    DeadpooltheTimelord DeadpooltheTimelord
    31-35, M
    1 Response Nov 7, 2015

    I have unfollowed her on Twitter

    but I still try to check out her wall whenever I miss her. Yeah I know, I'm a fool.
    bluejeansfemme bluejeansfemme
    18-21, F
    Dec 30, 2015

    Why, oh why? It's like I have not a lot

    interest in guys that are easily available and ones that chase me, I'm always attracted to the ones that are not.
    stephanie29 stephanie29
    31-35, F
    15 Responses Nov 11, 2015

    I know that their nothing more between us.

    It's actually over and I don't know how I feel about that.
    lisamarie829 lisamarie829
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 17

    I wouldn't say I'm attracted to people I can't

    have. I fall in love with a guy name Leo, but with my depression and stupidity. I regret that I pushed him away. I regret not telling him I loved him like he loved me. It's torture to see him with someone else. But I guess... If he's happy.. I'll be happy.. Someday, when I find...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 27, 2015

    It's Just Not Fair!!

    1.I'm always falling in love with people who see me only as a friend (or they don't even know my existence)... 2.I always recieve compliments from guys I don't like... 3.I always have relationships with guys I'm not in love with (not even close to it...) WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME...
    just4adream just4adream
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Nov 15, 2007
    T0KY0 T0KY0
    16-17, F
    1 Response Mar 3

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kerenccaa kerenccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 15, 2015

    its my boss, he flirts with me

    and has sent me some naughty pics, I am engaged and shouldn't be interested, but I am
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses May 23, 2015
    PrincessPeaches2015 PrincessPeaches2015
    18-21, F
    4 Responses May 4, 2014

    It's so weird like, when you have a crush on

    someone and you feel like he will never notice you but then one day, *poof* he suddenly noticed you and then he'll tell you that he likes you which takes away the /challenge/ and sparks and **** you felt when you like him lol suddenly you don't give a f-ck about him anymore...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 8, 2015

    Why is it that when I perceive someone to be

    attractive, I'm immediately intimidated? And instinctively feel immensely inferior?
    midnightT31 midnightT31
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jun 29, 2015
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Oct 12, 2015

    3 years ago i met this guy.

    he is 6 years older than me. he is the most attractive guy that i ever met.. now we have stopped talking because of his new girlfriend i had never had the chance to be with him. :( i miss him sometimes
    lor334 lor334
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 2, 2014
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