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I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    ForTheFallen ForTheFallen 22-25, M 1 Response May 21

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    daydayswagg daydayswagg 13-15, F Nov 11

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    It's so frustrating when some girls are

    so good looking and then you realise they're straight :|
    romanalanski romanalanski 18-21, F Sep 3

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    Somehow I rarely feel any romantic attraction

    to someone close to me or even in the same country, but people on the other side of the world can get me thinking of them all day after one or two good conversations. I think it might an unconscious choice not to get attracted to anyone close because I'm terrified of getting...
    Gentle153 Gentle153 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 4

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    Realizing that I get the person I want I find

    it harder to move on especially if I have invested so much attention and effort
    LadyAya12 LadyAya12 26-30, F Oct 21

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    I like people that I can't have,

    I don't know why. I just feel like I'm not good enough for them. Even when attractive people show interest in me, I just shut down because it's almost too good to be true. Being gay sucks when men make things confusing :-/.
    KeithPrice94 KeithPrice94 18-21, M Dec 2

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    I'm a 14 year old boy in 8th grade

    and the girls at school all go around looking really HOT! I wish I could have a girlfriend but I'm not allowed to. My mommy and big sister keep a really close watch over me and I'm allowed to have girls as friends (and actually most of my friends are girls) but never allowed to...
    littlebobby6 littlebobby6 13-15, M 3 Responses Oct 30

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    Nininglee Nininglee 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 20

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    Inadine Inadine 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Robert Downey Jr. And I'm 19.

    However, I have a neighbour that looks just like him.
    holograms holograms 18-21, F Oct 21

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    Orlando Bloom. One direction.

    Alex Gaskarth. Derek sanders I could go on and on lol
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    oh yes this is so true.

    either too far away or taken or dont feel the same way.....ahhh just ahhhh
    Kelloggz90 Kelloggz90 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 21

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    PrincessPeaches2015 PrincessPeaches2015 18-21, F 3 Responses May 4

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    Most celebrities. Such as; Tyler Hoechlin,

    Tyler Posey, Dylan O'Brien, Daniel Gillies, Paul Wesley, Daniel Sharman, Ian Somerhalder and Colton Haynes. Yum. ;)
    TheMightyGoddess TheMightyGoddess 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 21

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    I love my ex husband (whom I still live with)

    even though he flaunts his girlfriend in my face
    rottsimba rottsimba 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 21

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    It's Just Not Fair!!

    1.I'm always falling in love with people who see me only as a friend (or they don't even know my existence)... 2.I always recieve compliments from guys I don't like... 3.I always have relationships with guys I'm not in love with (not even close to it...) WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME...
    just4adream just4adream 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

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    Seems I always fall for the ones I can't have.

    I'm starting to think it's more a of a defense mechanism and my way out of committing. If I never commit to anyone I won't ever get hurt, right?
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 15

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    Have you ever thought

    that your life is a big wonder of why? Like why do I like her or him, why this, why that? Is it cause we're to blind that the people we like are also a bunch of whys? I've been attracted to a lot of people that I know I can date or have so WHY do I even bother? Is it cause I don...
    quarioj quarioj 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    3 years ago i met this guy.

    he is 6 years older than me. he is the most attractive guy that i ever met.. now we have stopped talking because of his new girlfriend i had never had the chance to be with him. :( i miss him sometimes
    lor334 lor334 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 2

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    Well

    I think the name of the group summarizes quite well the plight that the members go through.  I, too, find that I am attracted to those that would either never give me a second thought, would be completely incompatible with me once I got to know them, are outside of a...
    MissedTheBoat MissedTheBoat 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 2, 2007

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    find myself physically attracted to a good

    friends daughter. Lets just say she is too young for me to be paying that type of attention to. Not perv young, but legally young. She is a really nice girl, but very naive and very trusting. I want no part of this, this girl is like a daughter to me. Yes I am an adult...
    tiredgoodguy tiredgoodguy 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 19

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    Why can I not have Zac Effron

    or Leonardo DiCaprio? I know they are too old but I will not care if it's them! Hahaha!
    HeyHeyitsEmilie HeyHeyitsEmilie 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    She's Already Taken

    Why does she tempt me like this. It's something about her being forbidden that makes her more appealing to me. It makes her body sexier, makes her her voice sound more seductive when she talks to me or says my name. I used to need her like I needed air in my body, I wanted her so...
    LissaLoves LissaLoves 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2011

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    Yea. this is so true,

    and has been for so very long, that I have resolved myself to flip this situation upside down. No one can have me. :P
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's stupid. I fell for a friend,

    who turned out later, wasn't one at all. He played me. Used me as an ego boost and I was so into him and him alone, that I rejected guys who were better ppl. Am I sorry now...but u can't turn back time. Still waiting for someone to click with-it seldom happens to me.
    Godess4Fun Godess4Fun 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    thislilkitten thislilkitten 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 7

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    as I cant open and honest to this certain

    person, I remember what you said on my birthday, I remember the way you held and kissed me. cant believe we will never be xxxx
    gamer3613 gamer3613 31-35, M 1 Response Oct 24

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    Colourfi Colourfi 13-15, F Oct 21

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    It always seems to be

    that the nicest and most amazingly attractive women I meet are already attached! Shatters my heart almost every time but hey ain't no point in Settling for anything less than what you really want right? So ill take on all the pain. And doit again and again.'
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M Apr 14

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    Always

    it doesn't really matter what the situation is...of course it's always different. but for one reason or another...every time...i can't have him. he doesn't want to be with me, or is with someone else that he loves very much, or just whatever. but i'm so frustrated right now. it's...
    lifewater124 lifewater124 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2008

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    There was this man, this beautiful man with

    dark straight brown hair and piercingly blue eyes. When I looked at him and he looked at me I knew I wanted to protect something forever. Except he didn't look at me, except I was invisible to him. But it wasn't just the fact that he was aesthetically pleasing, he had such a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 11

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    I think I seek them out

    because I like a chase and its a confidence boost to know that I can have even whats not on the market. I blame Nick Cannon. If he wouldn't have married Mariah Carey I would have no hope
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F Aug 27

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    All The Time!!!

    Long story short....why do I get along GREAT with all my MARRIED coworkers? Add places like EP and again....all the FUN ones are taken? While I DO appreciate men being honest with their situations it still leaves me frustrated. I WILL NOT allow a man who is attached to do any...
    DFM13 DFM13 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    It's always those girls in relationships.

    I can connect to them soo damn well, then I'm attracted to them, then I realize they have a boyfriend and my moral code forbids me to go any further. Tried the same with single girls but after a day or two they bore the hell outta me. Really bugs me.
    GR4YF0X GR4YF0X 18-21, M 1 Response May 5

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    I keep everyone at a safe distance.

    I can open myself up to a point. I see so many faces all around me and yet a feel solitude. It's not always melancholy either, actually it's normally quite serene. It seems that those that I have found that shatter that preference for solitude are not meant for me. The internal...
    lilHuman lilHuman 22-25, F Sep 11

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    A new survey has revealed

    that one 25% of women prefer to be with men 10+ years older than they are, while one third of men prefer to be with women 10+ years younger than them.The study, conducted by online dating site www.agemeet.com, collected data from 53,233 users with the results being quite...
    Juliecc11 Juliecc11 26-30, F Dec 1

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    It gets a bit much sometimes knowing

    that no matter what girls I'm attracted to, they are never interested in me. At least they never show it at all if they are :/
    KiwiDan KiwiDan 22-25, M 2 Responses Sep 3

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    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    Demi Lovato mostly but then there's Nina Dobrev

    and Shailene Woodley like damn they're hot
    DemsSkyscraper DemsSkyscraper 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    Is it human nature to be attracted to people

    that are "out of our league"? I tend to fall for the guys that are really attractive. I am certainly out of their league... Anyone else ever experience this? If so, what have you done about it? What type of people are you drawn towards?
    obscureriddle obscureriddle 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    euphorian euphorian 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    I'm always getting crushes on my husband's

    friends. It doesn't help that he basically ignores me lately. I'm always wanting to be around whenever his friends are over, so i can flirt with them, but i feel like it's pointless.
    HarmonyCHILL HarmonyCHILL 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 5

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    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2007

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    I Adore You

    There are just some people whom I terribly adore. They make my life sweeter, inspiring me to be greater. Rarely do days go by when I don't wish to be in their presence. I quite literally wish I could know everything about them. I would love to spend hours knowing and...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M Aug 23, 2012

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    I guess I can't have them because,

    I'm really not very attractive, and I often wonder who would be attracted to me. I have all kinds of preferences, and every once in a while, I find someone who's perfect, or near perfect, and I think "no, he/she wouldn't like me" I have an ok personality I guess, I'm a little f...
    sturmgewher44 sturmgewher44 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    Mostly dead movie stars.

    Cary Grant... be still my beating heart!
    Chaosforthefly Chaosforthefly 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 21

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    Seriously why don't boys (or girls

    for that matter) like me? What's wrong with me? It's depressing but maybe the cat life was made for me..
    rejextharry rejextharry 13-15, F 6 Responses Oct 20

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    Always happens to me.

    I'm attracted to those I can't have. And those who show interest, I'm not attracted to. At some point I wish there would be a match, but I'm getting older and nothing has changed so far. I really hate that my feelings act this way. I wish I had an off-switch sometimes, so that I...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 13

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    GhostBride GhostBride 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 1

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    Two people now... I can't have either... One does not want to know I exist, the other treats me as a child... I know I shouldn't be thinking of either of them- I have a boyfriend...
    Cheta34 Cheta34 18-21 Dec 5

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    People shouldn't have kids if they'd b disappointed or unaccepting of their kid being LGBT. That's just stupid to say im gonna have kids and reject them if they don't turn out the...
    burnout96 burnout96 16-17, F 10 Responses Dec 12

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