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I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    It's Just Not Fair!!

    1.I'm always falling in love with people who see me only as a friend (or they don't even know my existence)... 2.I always recieve compliments from guys I don't like... 3.I always have relationships with guys I'm not in love with (not even close to it...) WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME...
    just4adream just4adream 19-21, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

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    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2007

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    XxTheInsanePegasixX XxTheInsanePegasixX 22-25, M 1 Response May 21

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    Forget2Trust Forget2Trust 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 14

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    jaynick15 jaynick15 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 12

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    He is the only one I was never able to get,

    he is not my type, I do not like him and I don't think he looks good either. But it makes me angry that I wasn't able to make him like me. I have this problem, if I have a crush on a guy, it must be someone who doesn't have a crush on me, and once he asks me out or tells me he...
    wishfullthoughts wishfullthoughts 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    All The Time!!!

    Long story short....why do I get along GREAT with all my MARRIED coworkers? Add places like EP and again....all the FUN ones are taken? While I DO appreciate men being honest with their situations it still leaves me frustrated. I WILL NOT allow a man who is attached to do any...
    DFM13 DFM13 36-40, F 4 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    Its A Curse.

    I cant seem to like anyone in my reach, no matter how attractive they are, I keep brushing everyone off because I always have crazy crushes which are most of the time SURREAL! Im sure its just to make sure it is completley impossible for us to be together. Maybe I do it because...
    XxthedarknesswillgrowxX XxthedarknesswillgrowxX 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 7, 2011

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    I Need Advice..

    ok so i have these 2 friends (ill call them Sam and Kate to make things easier) Sam and Kate are my best friends and recently i told both of them that im pretty sure im bi and theyr both cool with it (Kate is bi also) and when i was talking to Sam a few days ago she told me she...
    dancergirl101 dancergirl101 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 15, 2012

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    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    fionacc11 fionacc11 26-30, F Mar 21

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    I guess I can't have them because,

    I'm really not very attractive, and I often wonder who would be attracted to me. I have all kinds of preferences, and every once in a while, I find someone who's perfect, or near perfect, and I think "no, he/she wouldn't like me" I have an ok personality I guess, I'm a little f...
    sturmgewher44 sturmgewher44 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 20

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    It always seems to be

    that the nicest and most amazingly attractive women I meet are already attached! Shatters my heart almost every time but hey ain't no point in Settling for anything less than what you really want right? So ill take on all the pain. And doit again and again.'
    SShawnO SShawnO 41-45, M Apr 14

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    Story of my life. She's

    either married or has a boyfriend, or is related by marriage. I'm never one to make the first move, so I probably would only act on my feelings if she sent me a clear signal...then watch out!
    myguitarisbusted myguitarisbusted 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 24

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    I'm attracted to Cassie

    and I can't have her. I'm attracted to Beyonce and I can't have her. I want to MARRY Cyn Santana and I can't have her either! 😭😭😭
    MixedJayy MixedJayy 16-17, F Apr 8

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    I obsess over, am in love with,

    am attracted to, and nearly stalk my therapists. They have become mother figures to me. Without them I feel lost.
    ShadowPrincess603 ShadowPrincess603 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Seems I always fall for the ones I can't have.

    I'm starting to think it's more a of a defense mechanism and my way out of committing. If I never commit to anyone I won't ever get hurt, right?
    MrsGigalowJr MrsGigalowJr 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Always happens to me.

    I'm attracted to those I can't have. And those who show interest, I'm not attracted to. At some point I wish there would be a match, but I'm getting older and nothing has changed so far. I really hate that my feelings act this way. I wish I had an off-switch sometimes, so that I...
    Skywalker1979 Skywalker1979 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 13

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    She's Already Taken

    Why does she tempt me like this. It's something about her being forbidden that makes her more appealing to me. It makes her body sexier, makes her her voice sound more seductive when she talks to me or says my name. I used to need her like I needed air in my body, I wanted her so...
    LissaLoves LissaLoves 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2011

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    always - seems like the universe is playing a

    joke on me cause everyone I want doesn't want me and everyone I don't want is all over it
    Li1981 Li1981 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 13

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    I Adore You

    There are just some people whom I terribly adore. They make my life sweeter, inspiring me to be greater. Rarely do days go by when I don't wish to be in their presence. I quite literally wish I could know everything about them. I would love to spend hours knowing and...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M Aug 23, 2012

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    Forgettotrust Forgettotrust 26-30, F 1 Response May 4

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    It's really just this one girl,

    and it bugs the hell outta me. Most times women I thought were hot but found out they were married or had boyfriends, I usually didn't care about 'em anymore, but this one really kills me. She's a young Hispanic thing. And I love Latinas. Just gorgeous. Glasses, an incredibally...
    AllStarcrushNate AllStarcrushNate 26-30, M Aug 11

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    PrincessPeaches2015 PrincessPeaches2015 18-21, F 3 Responses May 4

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    Friday - Today you were wearing red,

    and it looked so incredibally good on you. And your hair was out all long. You lit those flames in me and blew my focus for the next several hours, like you always do. You looked up at me in your glasses and smiled when I went by. All I could think about was how much more I...
    AllStarcrushNate AllStarcrushNate 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 15

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    It's stupid. I fell for a friend,

    who turned out later, wasn't one at all. He played me. Used me as an ego boost and I was so into him and him alone, that I rejected guys who were better ppl. Am I sorry now...but u can't turn back time. Still waiting for someone to click with-it seldom happens to me.
    Godess4Fun Godess4Fun 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    Well this sucks. Just found out the guy I like

    wouldn't be into me. He's pretty much the only guy at my school I like, and today I've found he's kinda homophobic. Somehow the conversation shifted to "would you care if your son was gay?" I responded with: "no I wouldn't, love is love" Landon(the guy I like) said: "really? You...
    sturmgewher44 sturmgewher44 18-21, M 1 Response May 22

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    MixedJayy MixedJayy 16-17, F Apr 6

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    Always the people i cant have are the people i

    want 😒 i really wonder why but then i think to myself maybe i do it on purpose because i like the challenge of getting them 😁
    verox3 verox3 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    Forever alone why is it

    when I fancy someone I scare them off I'm so desperate for a relationship. I'm not skinny or sexy and I don't want to meet someone for just sex.
    BigChallangeSam BigChallangeSam 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    It's always those girls in relationships.

    I can connect to them soo damn well, then I'm attracted to them, then I realize they have a boyfriend and my moral code forbids me to go any further. Tried the same with single girls but after a day or two they bore the hell outta me. Really bugs me.
    GR4YF0X GR4YF0X 18-21, M 1 Response May 5

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    He is the hottest guy on Earth,

    like he is really sweet, and married. Damn it's so hard to be next to him watching his wife being a kid while I could do much better, actually when she is out we talk a lot, and I know serious stuff about him that she doesn't know idea, and that sucks, because I'm so attracted...
    ThatSweetGirl93 ThatSweetGirl93 18-21, F Aug 15

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    My Lang. Arts Teacher.

    I'm gay, that's the truth. Thing is, I already know that, even IF I'm in middle school. It's not a phase, because I've suspected it for years. Anyways, ever since my new Language Arts teacher Mr. Ganz came to the school, I felt so attracted to him. He's probably straight, but he...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Sep 18, 2013

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    I think I seek them out

    because I like a chase and its a confidence boost to know that I can have even whats not on the market. I blame Nick Cannon. If he wouldn't have married Mariah Carey I would have no hope
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 5 days ago

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    Always

    it doesn't really matter what the situation is...of course it's always different. but for one reason or another...every time...i can't have him. he doesn't want to be with me, or is with someone else that he loves very much, or just whatever. but i'm so frustrated right now. it's...
    lifewater124 lifewater124 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2008

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    Yep.

    Tall dark and handsome hasn't found their way into my life yet. Keep looking (;
    ShadeofRae ShadeofRae 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    I love a guy that is 18.

    And I'm barely 14 yet,it couldn't work even if we tried to. I know he can get into trouble. But I just have a really strong feeling towards him. Every single time I see him with other girls, I feel so jealous, I can't help but going up to those girls and fight with them. Idk.
    IrwinsDrumKit IrwinsDrumKit 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    The Bus Kiss

    One day I was riding a bus half way across the country to see my sister. A very pretty girl got on the bus and sat next to me. I was so elated and freaked out at the same time. What do I say? How should I act? I've got to try not to mess this up. Pretty girls never sit next...
    sundragon sundragon 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 24, 2012

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    Lol. Often. But its also self imposed.

    Ethics. They are either married. Or see me as brother. Or are still chronologically too young. Sigh.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Jul 13

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    Well

    I think the name of the group summarizes quite well the plight that the members go through.  I, too, find that I am attracted to those that would either never give me a second thought, would be completely incompatible with me once I got to know them, are outside of a...
    MissedTheBoat MissedTheBoat 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 2, 2007

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    Wanting What You Can'T Have...

    She's very passionate, devoted, determined, strong... She has blazing red hair, and some of the most beautiful eyes I've seen... She's a lot of fun to be around, most of the time... She's pretty much what I need right now, and I'd like to think I could provide what she needs, too...
    KewlioMZX KewlioMZX 26-30, M Feb 6, 2013

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    I'm no different than anyone else.

    It's easier for me to have a small crush on a hot guy that isn't interested. When I do fall for a guy who I have a connection with (said man is dating THE MOST HORRIBLE girl on planet earth) it only hurts more when it doesn't work out. Ughh.
    CheriseJK CheriseJK 18-21 May 21

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    Inadine Inadine 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    Why can I not have Zac Effron

    or Leonardo DiCaprio? I know they are too old but I will not care if it's them! Hahaha!
    HeyHeyitsEmilie HeyHeyitsEmilie 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    When a person says that they like me,

    I somehow lose attraction to them. I like guys who are gay (yes this is super weird), because I know they will never like me back. I am attracted to people who are not attracted to me, they can't be. This is a horrible curse and I hate it, it's the reason I have been single all...
    jiumpuu jiumpuu 13-15, F a week ago

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    Don't u hate when u think u love someone

    but they don't feel the same way about you. You know it could never happen but yet u don't stop trying.
    marcelofreitas marcelofreitas 13-15, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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