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I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses May 2

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    it would be easier on everyone involved

    if I could just walk away. but how do you break an attraction when you're attached like this?. when their part of your everyday life. when it's like they are a drug you can't live without.??
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 2

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    The longer my roommate

    and I live together the more I want to become a thing with him. We've joked about it happening but I never really made it clear to him what I want - plus he is dealing with a lot right now. I've paid his half of the rent for the last 4 months and he is thinking about moving out...
    MummifiedCatLady MummifiedCatLady 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I keep everyone at a safe distance.

    I can open myself up to a point. I see so many faces all around me and yet a feel solitude. It's not always melancholy either, actually it's normally quite serene. It seems that those that I have found that shatter that preference for solitude are not meant for me. The internal...
    lilHuman lilHuman 26-30, F Sep 11, 2014

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    I need to get over you,

    but I don't want too.
    lisabar89 lisabar89 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Actually sometimes it's only an excuse,

    we convince ourselves that we can't have somebody to have a reason to give up. But like I said, sometimes.
    roxx1 roxx1 18-21, F Aug 17

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    Shelbaayyy Shelbaayyy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I'm a 14 year old boy in 8th grade

    and the girls at school all go around looking really HOT! I wish I could have a girlfriend but I'm not allowed to. My mommy and big sister keep a really close watch over me and I'm allowed to have girls as friends (and actually most of my friends are girls) but never allowed to...
    littlebobbie6 littlebobbie6 13-15, M 3 Responses Oct 30, 2014

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    Really attracted to this guy

    that works at my school and my local gym...even though he's 6 years older than me and would never go for me. Why must this happen.
    veratreasure veratreasure 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 21

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    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    I have always had a thing

    for this girl. We have hooked up once or twice over the years. But now my best friend is dating her and I will not do anything to f-up my friendship
    southernborn121 southernborn121 26-30, M Jul 16

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    I saw his profile online.

    I never realized his hair was so dark before.. Just musing here because if I try talking to him he'll just ignore me as usual. No point trying.
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    This is actually my worst nightmare.

    I work at a job in which I'm surrounded by mostly guys. In addition, some of them are super hot and really nice. However, they're all in their 20's while I'm only 16 and fairly unattractive.
    kico4 kico4 16-17, F Jul 15

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    It's Just Not Fair!!

    1.I'm always falling in love with people who see me only as a friend (or they don't even know my existence)... 2.I always recieve compliments from guys I don't like... 3.I always have relationships with guys I'm not in love with (not even close to it...) WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME...
    just4adream just4adream 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

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    Why is it that when I perceive someone to be

    attractive, I'm immediately intimidated? And instinctively feel immensely inferior?
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 29

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    Like Marilyn Monroe,

    because she's dead.
    Workingclassman Workingclassman 31-35, M 9 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    I have been going out with a married man

    for 5 years and I was badly in love with him it s over now . But I ended up depressed feeling guilty suicidal .......
    kary82 kary82 31-35, F 2 Responses May 10

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    I am attracted to people i can't have.

    When i find someone who i want to close to,i'm very happy. But once they literally close to me,i push them away due to fear. Fear of love Fear of something Fear of something that i don't know It's so easy to talk to people who i'm not attracted to,i even smile a lot and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 22

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    Its the people i love the most

    that dont love me. It hurts. Or at least i dont think they like me. Lifes just too confusing. Nvm. Im done caring
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M Apr 5

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    Seriously why don't boys (or girls

    for that matter) like me? What's wrong with me? It's depressing but maybe the cat life was made for me..
    rejextharry rejextharry 16-17, F 5 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    PrincessPeaches2015 PrincessPeaches2015 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2014

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    Their's just something about people i can't have

    that make them hott lol. A teacher? Idk about someones husband..they are all mostly ugly lol. uhh someone elses gf/bf. yes but i don't act on it. im not a homewrecker. that's just a bitchy thing to do....unless they come to me first? ;) I'll be doing them a favor though cause if...
    Muffin19 Muffin19 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I been wanting this guy

    for sometime. We hook up a few years ago but I want him again. He knows it. I feel like he wants me but want me to chase and hell nawl i will not. so now I just talk **** acting like i dont give a damn knowing damn well I want him. Why do guys play games so much??!?? smh!!!
    AngelLanette AngelLanette 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    3 years ago i met this guy.

    he is 6 years older than me. he is the most attractive guy that i ever met.. now we have stopped talking because of his new girlfriend i had never had the chance to be with him. :( i miss him sometimes
    lor334 lor334 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Oh my love Devon Massyn!

    Why can't we be together. just you, me and all the sharks and wild animals! I'll always love you even though you don't know that I'm mentally dating you!
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Attracted to people i cant have

    and not attracted to the people who are attracted to me :/
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Always

    it doesn't really matter what the situation is...of course it's always different. but for one reason or another...every time...i can't have him. he doesn't want to be with me, or is with someone else that he loves very much, or just whatever. but i'm so frustrated right now. it's...
    lifewater124 lifewater124 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2008

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    youngkinyteenmom youngkinyteenmom 18-21, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    peaceinmiles peaceinmiles 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    Aren't we all? Actors,

    actresses - people we know or know of, that seem so out of our league...
    iFortiTude iFortiTude 31-35 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I guess this is just a rant.

    I just wonder what's wrong with me that I always like guys that I can never have. Most of the guys I like had had girl friends...now I think I might be started to like a new guy but he has a long term girlfriend and I'm not going to break that up...the one guy I liked who didn't...
    suninsagittarius suninsagittarius 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Does it mean I'm insecure

    if I don't mind sharing/open relationships?
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 2 Responses May 28

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    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2007

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    I Adore You

    There are just some people whom I terribly adore. They make my life sweeter, inspiring me to be greater. Rarely do days go by when I don't wish to be in their presence. I quite literally wish I could know everything about them. I would love to spend hours knowing and...
    sundragon sundragon 31-35, M Aug 23, 2012

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    Am attracted to my teacher,

    or maybe you can say in love with her! Am 16 years old and she 31 she's married btw! I guess she also has feelings towards me because she always brings me gifts and stuff! I really don't know what to do! Loving her really hurts! What should I do?!
    Bloomington82 Bloomington82 18-21, T 3 Responses Apr 21

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    I often find myself attracted to younger petite

    Jewish lesbians. They aren't always the full combo but usually have at least two of the variables of which generally aren't attracted to large older black males.
    Xlsmoove Xlsmoove 36-40, M 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    sundragon sundragon 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    its my boss, he flirts with me

    and has sent me some naughty pics, I am engaged and shouldn't be interested, but I am
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 23

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    alleycat66 alleycat66 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    abby816 abby816 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 17

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    I have a crush on a guy I saw

    that works at my local shop, he catches the bus and gets off near my home to go to work, I've seen him do so a couple if times now. I have no idea how he feels about me, but the first tine we spoke, in the shop, he was so lovely and open and friendly. It was a little bit...
    BabyNeko BabyNeko 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I keep falling in love with

    such lovely girls but I can never have them because they have strict parents, their religion or they live in a different country and they are always better then the girls here
    BradleyAustin BradleyAustin 16-17, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I'm always getting crushes on my husband's

    friends. It doesn't help that he basically ignores me lately. I'm always wanting to be around whenever his friends are over, so i can flirt with them, but i feel like it's pointless.
    KatKvinna KatKvinna 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    Why can I not have Zac Effron

    or Leonardo DiCaprio? I know they are too old but I will not care if it's them! Hahaha!
    HeyHeyitsEmilie HeyHeyitsEmilie 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2014

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    Everything was amazing.

    . I really thought he was the one.. And I love him so much, I don't even understand how I love someone so much, it's weird, the first time I ever talked to him, I just felt something in me.. I'm not sure what It was I was just happy, I felt like a kid getting a new toy or a puppy...
    erxnio erxnio 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 17

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