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I Am Attracted to People I Can't Have

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    I have always had a thing

    for this girl. We have hooked up once or twice over the years. But now my best friend is dating her and I will not do anything to f-up my friendship
    southernborn121 southernborn121 26-30, M Jul 16

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    It's Just Not Fair!!

    1.I'm always falling in love with people who see me only as a friend (or they don't even know my existence)... 2.I always recieve compliments from guys I don't like... 3.I always have relationships with guys I'm not in love with (not even close to it...) WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME...
    just4adream just4adream 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 15, 2007

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    I saw his profile online.

    I never realized his hair was so dark before.. Just musing here because if I try talking to him he'll just ignore me as usual. No point trying.
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    Seems I always fall for the ones I can't have.

    I'm starting to think it's more a of a defense mechanism and my way out of committing. If I never commit to anyone I won't ever get hurt, right?
    SexyandUknowit SexyandUknowit 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 15, 2014

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    This is actually my worst nightmare.

    I work at a job in which I'm surrounded by mostly guys. In addition, some of them are super hot and really nice. However, they're all in their 20's while I'm only 16 and fairly unattractive.
    kico4 kico4 16-17, F Jul 15

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    I been wanting this guy

    for sometime. We hook up a few years ago but I want him again. He knows it. I feel like he wants me but want me to chase and hell nawl i will not. so now I just talk **** acting like i dont give a damn knowing damn well I want him. Why do guys play games so much??!?? smh!!!
    AngelLanette AngelLanette 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    Their's just something about people i can't have

    that make them hott lol. A teacher? Idk about someones husband..they are all mostly ugly lol. uhh someone elses gf/bf. yes but i don't act on it. im not a homewrecker. that's just a bitchy thing to do....unless they come to me first? ;) I'll be doing them a favor though cause if...
    Sillylilyxoxo Sillylilyxoxo 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6

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    youngkinyteenmom youngkinyteenmom 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    Actually sometimes it's only an excuse,

    we convince ourselves that we can't have somebody to have a reason to give up. But like I said, sometimes.
    roxx1 roxx1 18-21, F Aug 17

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    The longer my roommate

    and I live together the more I want to become a thing with him. We've joked about it happening but I never really made it clear to him what I want - plus he is dealing with a lot right now. I've paid his half of the rent for the last 4 months and he is thinking about moving out...
    MummifiedCatLady MummifiedCatLady 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 23

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    Chris Evans. It Says I haven't used enough

    characters so I'm writing this sentence.
    maroonmonsterchip maroonmonsterchip 13-15, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Attracted to people i cant have

    and not attracted to the people who are attracted to me :/
    ninjadentistinspace ninjadentistinspace 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    Oh my love Devon Massyn!

    Why can't we be together. just you, me and all the sharks and wild animals! I'll always love you even though you don't know that I'm mentally dating you!
    CallmeHopelessNotRomantic CallmeHopelessNotRomantic 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Aren't we all? Actors,

    actresses - people we know or know of, that seem so out of our league...
    iFortiTude iFortiTude 31-35 2 Responses Feb 22

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    I think I finally accepted the true

    that I've been trying to avoid, that u stolen part of my heart. I don't know how, but I don't like it.
    lisabar89 lisabar89 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    usernameinneed usernameinneed 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 16

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    Always

    it doesn't really matter what the situation is...of course it's always different. but for one reason or another...every time...i can't have him. he doesn't want to be with me, or is with someone else that he loves very much, or just whatever. but i'm so frustrated right now. it's...
    lifewater124 lifewater124 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2008

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    It doesn't hurt anymore

    now that he won't talk to me anymore. It is as it should have been, but the longing and wistful feeling still remains. I'm no longer crazy, but maybe a little apprehensive now.
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 4

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    Does it mean I'm insecure

    if I don't mind sharing/open relationships?
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 2 Responses May 28

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    3 years ago i met this guy.

    he is 6 years older than me. he is the most attractive guy that i ever met.. now we have stopped talking because of his new girlfriend i had never had the chance to be with him. :( i miss him sometimes
    lor334 lor334 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 2, 2014

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    Have You Ever

    Have you ever known someone Who makes you feel like the sun Who smiles when you walk their way Who makes you know its a good day Have you ever known someone Who built you up When all around seemed down Who makes your heart jump around Have you ever known someone You were afraid...
    sundragon sundragon 31-35, M 3 Responses Aug 22, 2012

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    lisabar89 lisabar89 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    Shelbaayyy Shelbaayyy 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 13

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    I'm always getting crushes on my husband's

    friends. It doesn't help that he basically ignores me lately. I'm always wanting to be around whenever his friends are over, so i can flirt with them, but i feel like it's pointless.
    KatKvinna KatKvinna 26-30, F 11 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    PrincessPeaches2015 PrincessPeaches2015 18-21, F 4 Responses May 4, 2014

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    I keep falling in love with

    such lovely girls but I can never have them because they have strict parents, their religion or they live in a different country and they are always better then the girls here
    BradleyAustin BradleyAustin 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 24

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    I keep everyone at a safe distance.

    I can open myself up to a point. I see so many faces all around me and yet a feel solitude. It's not always melancholy either, actually it's normally quite serene. It seems that those that I have found that shatter that preference for solitude are not meant for me. The internal...
    lilHuman lilHuman 26-30, F Sep 11, 2014

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    Its the people i love the most

    that dont love me. It hurts. Or at least i dont think they like me. Lifes just too confusing. Nvm. Im done caring
    ForeverJashinist ForeverJashinist 18-21, M Apr 5

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    Why is it that when I perceive someone to be

    attractive, I'm immediately intimidated? And instinctively feel immensely inferior?
    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 5 Responses Jun 29

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    training a new nurse,

    she's perfect. smart, a biologist. And what does she study? Cephelopods octopus and squid. we spend 12 hours laughing and talking about cool stuff, two more at breakfast after. and to make 5hings worse she's as pretty as they come. big hazel eyes and hair like a shampoo...
    monkeyl1v3r monkeyl1v3r 36-40, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I guess this is just a rant.

    I just wonder what's wrong with me that I always like guys that I can never have. Most of the guys I like had had girl friends...now I think I might be started to like a new guy but he has a long term girlfriend and I'm not going to break that up...the one guy I liked who didn't...
    suninsagittarius suninsagittarius 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    peaceinmiles peaceinmiles 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    abby816 abby816 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 17

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    mrmark524 mrmark524 70+, M 4 days ago

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    He's South American. Geek.

    Tall. Good-looking. Funny. And Out Of My League. 😐😒
    juju027 juju027 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    its my boss, he flirts with me

    and has sent me some naughty pics, I am engaged and shouldn't be interested, but I am
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses May 23

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    Bahh!!!

    i cant even tell you guys how many times ive liked someone that i KNEW i couldnt have...i like a few NOW! and i have to like keep telling myself i cant like them and try to think of things bad about them so that i dont like them. my mom is so racist...and i like this guy, but hes...
    Br0kenAngel Br0kenAngel 26-30, F 3 Responses Nov 19, 2007

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    I Adore You

    There are just some people whom I terribly adore. They make my life sweeter, inspiring me to be greater. Rarely do days go by when I don't wish to be in their presence. I quite literally wish I could know everything about them. I would love to spend hours knowing and...
    sundragon sundragon 31-35, M Aug 23, 2012

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    Have you ever thought

    that your life is a big wonder of why? Like why do I like her or him, why this, why that? Is it cause we're to blind that the people we like are also a bunch of whys? I've been attracted to a lot of people that I know I can date or have so WHY do I even bother? Is it cause I don...
    BrokenLoss BrokenLoss 16-17, M Dec 16, 2014

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    I need to get over you,

    but I don't want too.
    lisabar89 lisabar89 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Like Marilyn Monroe,

    because she's dead.
    Workingclassman Workingclassman 31-35, M 9 Responses Dec 23, 2014

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    Everything was amazing.

    . I really thought he was the one.. And I love him so much, I don't even understand how I love someone so much, it's weird, the first time I ever talked to him, I just felt something in me.. I'm not sure what It was I was just happy, I felt like a kid getting a new toy or a puppy...
    erxnio erxnio 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 17

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    Well

    I think the name of the group summarizes quite well the plight that the members go through.  I, too, find that I am attracted to those that would either never give me a second thought, would be completely incompatible with me once I got to know them, are outside of a...
    MissedTheBoat MissedTheBoat 22-25, M 5 Responses Dec 2, 2007

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    midnightT31 midnightT31 31-35, F 3 Responses May 2

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    In the search of the love

    that i never felt before, i lost track of what is truly important, self-love. Depression has swept in me for the past few days. I don't know if i can still bring back the person i lost in the process. I wanna laugh again. I wanna try to find love once more.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 28

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    I have been going out with a married man

    for 5 years and I was badly in love with him it s over now . But I ended up depressed feeling guilty suicidal .......
    kary82 kary82 31-35, F 2 Responses May 10

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