I Am Avoidant

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 238 People

    Self-confessed Social Avoidant

    I have always been very avoidant and resistant to change. I like and crave stability and get very anxious when faced with change. I find the avoidance is not only social (I avoid people and social situations, I'm very introverted and shy) - but I now use it to...
    hereisnoy hereisnoy
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 27, 2008

    Confession of An Avoidant

    Over the course of the past few months, I've begun to notice that I can't quite comunicate with people, or go to social outings less and less. Everytime I'm with poeple I don't know, I freeze up and can't think of anything to say. I think that the people there are going to...
    sockpuppets33 sockpuppets33
    16-17
    3 Responses Jul 30, 2009

    The Avoidant Me.

    I worry too much about what people may think about me. And in the office is worst, manage to be in the same room with +/- 20 people talking, and talking. I have a paranoia stigma, and is too easy for me (and stress out about this) to think that they might bad-mouthing about me...
    fadedawaylife fadedawaylife
    22-25, F
    Nov 23, 2011

    Avoidant

    I am avoidant.  I wouldn't definitely say I have avoidant personality disorder nor being antisocial.I love people too much to be antisocial.  I love being with people and talking to them, even if I'm on the quiet side.  I'm mostly an introvert then anything else.I am somewhat...
    Whateverrrrr Whateverrrrr
    36-40, F
    Nov 15, 2011

    Locking up myself in my room isn't healthy.

    I know that, and I did do some efforts to counter that. But I can't just be around people for too long- it's suffocating. I love my family and my friends, but I just can't be intimate with them. It's hard for me to turn the wall and let people in. It's like being locked up in a...
    renshi111 renshi111
    22-25, F
    Nov 14, 2014

    I am so afraid of rejection

    or criticism that I try to avoid it at all times, I don't think to try and make friends because I worry that they won't like me, I will not take on the serious commitment of going out and looking for a job for fear rejection. I even ended up going to my prom alone because I was...
    Josimms23 Josimms23
    18-21, F
    Jul 24, 2015

    Tired of All This

    I’m so tired of doing this. I’ve been more scared to do anything lately than usual. I’ve been avoiding absolutely everything I have to do for so long now, but I’m just too scared to do any of it. It’s so hard to even leave the house. I can’t...
    lyricalongings lyricalongings
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Aug 11, 2009

    Avpd And Relationships

    I feel that I don't deserve anyone good, especially romantically. it is a messed up way of thinking but I feel that I am so damaged noone should have or want me. My childhood was messed up and I was rejected and detached from my parents. Physical and emotional abuse were part of...
    Freckledapple Freckledapple
    31-35
    2 Responses Mar 19, 2013

    Teenage Avoidant

    I've been hiding these feelings for years, but...I just dont care anymore. I am a teenager with an very high chance of having Avoidant Personality Disorder. I've never been officially diagnosed, but the symptoms fit me like a glove that's a little too small for your hand. I had...
    DepressinglyChill DepressinglyChill
    13-15, M
    2 Responses Aug 19, 2011

    Read The Definition.. Think It's Troublesome Enough To Be Introverted Too..

    I'm a classic case.. and I worry a lot too.. Didn't think I had the talking skills to stick to people but I just wished I had one or two that would like to stick with me... people on EP said I should do what people normally do and people will stick with you and a lot of other...
    amejad amejad
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 14, 2010

    Never Been Diagnosed

    I have never been diagnosed with Avoidant PD, but it seems to fit me pretty well.  I avoid feeling embarrassed, I avoid the possibility of rejection.  I need to feel safe, so I avoid.  I try to reach out to others, but when I need someone, no one is there. ...
    Cassandra Cassandra
    51-55, F
    7 Responses Dec 3, 2007

    Yes, I Guess I Am. ...

    Yes, I guess I am. Not too obviously, usually, but I tend to angle conversations away from the topics that make me uncomfortable or could cause some kind of conflict.
    momus momus
    18-21
    Aug 31, 2008

    I Dont Really Like People

    i rather like being alone. it doesnt require me to touch up my features or act like i give a damn. it doesn't even require i fully clothe myself. i can yell at the air, i can spend hours writing if i wanted to. i can have my earphones in at all times and no one's gonna care...
    Girlonwire Girlonwire
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 30, 2011

    Avoiding Life

    I wish I could just be normal and get a job. I turned twenty last month and feel pretty terrified. Prior to that my mum would pester me about working but I knew it would get worse when I was officially out of my teens. And it hadn't really until today when we got in a fight and...
    FateCantDecide FateCantDecide
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2009

    So I just started talking to this guy

    who is not out of the closet. He wanted my number and I kind of felt bad for him so I gave it to him. Now he is like overbearing and I kind of want to stop talking to him but we see each other all the time! He texts me things like I want to have sex, l want you so bad etc. it's...
    TheTruth94 TheTruth94
    22-25, M
    Nov 3, 2015

    i deathly wish i was'nt

    but i would'nt know how to let someone in if i tried and get so uncomfortable times. if some gets in they suffer from my bpd and so do i and then it's awful, it's my fault and im heartbroken.
    MushroomFaerie148 MushroomFaerie148
    26-30, F
    Mar 16, 2015

    Wishful Thinking ..

    I always have this idea that if I avoid something that it will go away.  It is such a problem.  It's seems easier to avoid the pain of facing an issue than to face it ... but it just gets worse and worse and more and more painful.
    outoftheshadows outoftheshadows
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 5, 2008

    My Life-long Experience

    I am not sure that I am avoidant. I was diagnosed once as avoidant by a psychiatrist, and nothing was done about it since. I have been to therapy for many years now, and my current therapist never mentioned it. However, I have been suffering all of my life from this problem...
    rumblefish1978 rumblefish1978
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Jul 25, 2010

    Afraid of the increase in family contacts

    and worried about expectations that come with it I have finished my marriage and can't find a way to get involved again. Also in my job every new person in my daily activities get into my nervs. I persistently think about bad experiences and some days i just can't scape bad...
    arturz29 arturz29
    31-35, M
    Apr 14, 2015

    I'm Stuck...

    After reading about what it means to 'be avoidant', I feel like it describes me to a tee.  I have never shared the depth of what I have felt to anyone, and I think that is partly because I never wanted to fully acknowledge my feelings to myself.  How do you explain...
    mila3 mila3
    26-30, F
    Feb 10, 2010

    I Want To...

    Avoid being an avoidant.Is that an option?I'm like a cat, sometimes.Curious, yet cowardly. Depends on the situation.It's part of the "dark side" located in me. The thorny, shadowed wing of my left shoulder twitching... as I sit there,blood-shotheart pounding,invisible.Frowning at...
    DustToAshes DustToAshes
    22-25, F
    Oct 7, 2013

    People Are Too Normal For Me.

    Or I'm too weird for people. I have a tendency to be very timid when around others and don't really have a reason. I don't like dealing with everyday life. Normality is one of my pet peeves. I like avoiding confrontations especially. I hate asking for help. I hate talking to...
    nosanity nosanity
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 1, 2008

    This Is Me

    Anxious (Avoidant) Personality Disorder is a condition characterized by extreme shyness, feelings of inadequacy, and sensitivity to rejection. These individuals feel inferior to others. This disorder is only diagnosed when these behaviors become persistent and very disabling or...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Feb 6, 2009

    What's Wrong?

     Im 14 and male, i think i am avoidant but im not totally sure. Right now my heartrate is increasing and im having trouble thinking out of fear that im gonna say something that'll offend someone or say something stupid that they'll make fun of me for. I havent seen another...
    Sureok Sureok
    13-15
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2010

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