I Am Bigendered

People who identify as male and female. 374 People

    Hello, my birth name is Sarah,

    although my gender fluid/gender neutral/ bi gender name is Sai. I've known all my life that I have felt and been this way all my life, although I had no idea what it was called considering that it's only been recognized until now. My friends are very much accepting of this. I...
    cyanidemaxwell cyanidemaxwell
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 11, 2014

    I've only come to this realization about my

    gender this past year. I'm not entirely opposed to the idea anymore, after the initial surprise passed of course. It makes sense although I'm still figuring out my moods from a day to day basis. I have what I like to call guy days, girl days and both. Most often I am female...
    WhimsicalKara WhimsicalKara
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 1, 2015

    Hello,my name is jacob

    but i like to go by zoey. I have spent the last seventeen years of my life alone because I am a girly-boy. Now I have the Internet and sites like this. i am now seeking help from someone who lives near me. i live in Virginia and am looking for some one I can meet, i love EP...
    zoey764 zoey764
    18-21, T
    Jul 23, 2014

    I'm pretty sure I have

    both sexes residing in my brain. I am completely comfortable talking about me being part dude part female. most people shy away from the topic because it sounds taboo. what's taboo to me is when someone doesn't educate themselves and rather just judges. there's so much more to...
    jenneruz jenneruz
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

    Well for myself for most of my journey of self

    discovery ,, a specially sence i never knew of the term Bigender -dual-gender-fluid,,, only that there were Transvestite aka Cross-dressers non-op or pre/post op Transsexuals and drag queens. And for the first i say 15 to 20 year of my journey i thought i was just was the...
    Mr1Tim1Bryant Mr1Tim1Bryant
    Jun 19, 2014

    A Recent Discovery

    Growing up, I always wondered why it was that I liked playing sports with boys but also played with Barbie dolls. Some days, i'd love to wear girly bows. Other days, I wanted my hair cut short (and did have it short for most of my childhood). There's always been this awkwardness...
    hooponopono hooponopono
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 12, 2013

    Looking Forward To...

    -The day you can go to work dressed as a woman and people will casually greet you with your girl name and the next day you can come in as a man and people don't think it's strange or barely notice it anymore. - The day a man can have boobs without being fully feminized by...
    Destrezameka Destrezameka
    3 Responses Mar 9, 2011

    I think I'm bigender

    but I'm not 100% sure. Ever since I was young, I've liked looking at women's fashion, and thinking of how it would look on me. I had an especially strong love for heels, but I've just dismissed it as a "phase" for around 15 years, thinking it would pass, thinking I was weird and...
    Elizium Elizium
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2014

    Who am I? Thats a question

    that haunted me many, many years. First of all I told my mother, that I kinda like girls. She just laughed at me and told me, I just need the right man on my side. But I always treated men as some dudes to hang out and play video games with. I always felt like I'm a part of them...
    kittyjeany kittyjeany
    3 Responses Jan 17, 2014
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    4 Responses Dec 14, 2014

    I'm bigendered or gender fluid.

    Work and friends know, family are a different matter. I spend most of my time as a male. Even when I feel feminine. I have been down about this although my work and social life are up. My father found my fem clothes while I still lived at home and made it clear he didn't approve...
    Abilohman Abilohman
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2014

    Last year in september I found out

    that I am actually Bigender at first it scared me, butnow I'm a bit at peace with it and I have also found out that I have about 7 different personalities. Most of the time my female side is in control idk why maybe, because I am biologically a female. Either way my male side...
    Domi16 Domi16
    18-21, T
    1 Response Mar 11, 2015

    So I'm starting to panic a bit.

    About being trans. And how to deal with that. I panicked enough when I realised I was gay - NOW what do I do!!?? The thought of having to come out is just terrifying. So is the thought of staying closeted. I can't see my parents being very happy with this. And my friends will...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 7, 2015

    Always Feeling A Little Different

    I've just recently come to terms with this; I feel both male and female. I was always wondering if I was transgender, but when I thought of transitioning, I totally freaked out. I was born female, and I really didn't mind it. I mostly like having a feminine body. I also noticed...
    KrysGlitch KrysGlitch
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jul 7, 2013

    I'm a bit of a shy and very confused bigendered

    person as far as knowing what to call myself goes half the time. Though bigender fits the bill as an umbrella term for myself, I'm actually more trigendered, one side of me being male which is my usual in public side (probably cause I am biologically male and look it), my other...
    SketchyKazu SketchyKazu
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 29, 2015

    I'm a closeted bigender.

    And being bigender is hard to understand to a lot of people. I'm good as a man, but I know it will get to me. It kinda is. I'm just doing it in private, and keeping it to myself. I don't know what i would if someone found out before i was ready to come out. I'm sure people (at...
    iseektobeme iseektobeme
    18-21, M
    1 Response Aug 24, 2015

    This Is Killing Me.

    The constant switching between male and female. I will display myself as the gender I am comfortable in and WHAM dysphoria hits me like a freaking train, crushing my windpipe. Making it hard to breathe. Making my chest implode with stress. Making my head hurt with confusion. I...
    TheDictatorOfGwah TheDictatorOfGwah
    2 Responses Aug 30, 2013

    I am bigender... and Im

    so ******* tired I didn't ask for this, I didn't ask for anything of all the bullcrap that has been coming my way since I realized this was who I am. I'm tired of feeling body disphoria every few weeks, I'm tired of feeling like a boy out of nowhere and not even being in the...
    LostinLands LostinLands
    3 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    Well I looked up on my computer

    and found out I am not alone that their is other people who feel just like me. I never know their was a word for it. I really don't feel alone now thank you for posting.
    2000RHS 2000RHS
    36-40, F
    May 17, 2014

    Hi guys. I found out I was bigender today.

    Finally, something that describes me! I'd like to chat to my fellow boy/girls and see how you've experienced it. I'd like to express my masculine side, but have never really been able to (parents are keen on the gender binary).
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jun 6, 2015

    When I Was About 7 Years Old, I Knew I Was "bigendered"

    Sure, I didn't know what the hell the term "Bigendered" meant back when I was a child. However, I do remember riding in the car with my mother one day, and it went something like this: "Your friends birthday party is next week, you should wear the dress I bought you." I looked...
    cloudpoetic cloudpoetic
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 30, 2012

    I am a 14 year old girl

    and sometimes I feel like I should be a boy. But only sometimes. The thing is I'm not like attracted to girls. Only guys. Is that normal? Also I'm not sure how to tell my mother. Like she knows I have a bi friend and a transgender friend and she's fine with it. But I don't...
    infiniteawkwardness infiniteawkwardness
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2015

    Bi Or Pan

    A few moth ago I fould A word that told me who I was and why I felt the way I feel about myself the word was pangender . after leaning more abuot me bigender fits me too . sometime I feel very fem other more male I try to stary in between to two as much as I can , this has...
    ravennite44 ravennite44
    46-50, T
    Aug 13, 2009

    Hi, my name is Francesca.

    I'm biologically a girl, I have girl parts and I feel inside that I am a girl. But at the same time, I have an urge to be a male. I feel like a male at the same time as I feel like I am a female. I'm both. It's scary to me to feel this way. I went through a couple years thinking...
    caputuk caputuk
    4 Responses Dec 25, 2013

    I am looking for interviewees

    for an article I'm writing highlighting the experiences and definition of a bigender identity. Please let me know if you're willing to share your story with me!
    FreelanceWriter123 FreelanceWriter123
    2 Responses Jul 16, 2015

    Also, I find that female

    and male live in my head simultaneously. Many of you find that they work in phases. Does anyone else find that their bigenderism is stable like mine?
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2015

    Free At Last

    So I moved out of my mother's place a few days ago, and I couldn't be any happier now. The thought of moving out was so crazy at first, but I've quickly grown to love having my own place. My apartment is located in the central part of the city which makes it a sought after area...
    Flowersblossom Flowersblossom
    1 Response May 7, 2013

    I have never told this to anyone in real life;

    I only completely realized that I am bigender yesterday. for a long time, I have had bursts of wishing that I had been born female, but they were also interspersed with periods when I am either happy being male, or just not considering either. weirdly enough though, as either...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    After 35 years of having a hairy chest,

    the hair is gone. Yep, waxed it. Did it hurt, yes. Would I do it again, yes I will. Still a little sore and puffy, but OMG, such a relief. So that makes me hairless front and rear, legs too.
    JessicaDale JessicaDale
    51-55, T
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2015

    FINALLY!!!! I've Discovered What Has Been Going

    On Inside My Head For Sooooo Long. This Is The Correct Answer, As To Why I'm So Comfortable With My Gender Roles As Well As Why I Am Constantly Going Back and Forth Between Gender. What Remains As A Constant Fact Is,That Regardless As To What Gender Role I'm In. I Prefer Women...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 18, 2016

    I Am Really Intergendered

    I felt bigendered but come to realize i am not fully male and not fully female. I feel like a stright female and a gay male smashed together. I only have one gender idenity and I don't really identify as male or female. I choose to be male and ejoy male but...
    Lionheart11 Lionheart11
    4 Responses Sep 27, 2009

    I am still in struggle to figure out

    who I am but have been getting major support so thumbs up to those who have been helping me this far. When I was younger, I used to sneak into My sisters room when She was away or over a friends and I would take some of her clothes and wear them for a little while until someone...
    dhenderson098 dhenderson098
    22-25, T
    3 Responses Sep 25, 2014

    Hey everyone! I've very recently discovered

    that I'm bigendered. I'm also still learning what that really means. It's confusing but liberating. Biologically, I am female. Ever since I was young, I never FULLY felt like a girl. When playing with my male friends in elementary school, I was always the "damsel in distress...
    figuringmyselfout figuringmyselfout
    4 Responses Jan 6, 2015

    i'm sixteen years old

    and my whole life i have felt like i don't belong. my mother would try to get me in bright feminine clothing and i never liked it. now that I've matured i feel like some days i want to cut my hair and be called alex and other days i want to curl my hair, wear skirts and be...
    stephanie1rose stephanie1rose
    18-21, T
    3 Responses Mar 8, 2015

    I Am Not Male Nor Female. I Am Bi-gender

    People just don't seen to understand that how can someone be a bi-gender or gender fluid. Living in a conservative society is making me frustrated. No one to share my feelings with even my friends who know just can't accept they think it's something that need to be "controlled...
    nishacutie nishacutie
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Aug 6, 2012

    Dissociative Identity Disorder Or Bigender??? HELP!

    Hi everyone, thanks for sharing your stories. i'm so happy i found this site and seem to be getting closer to discovering who i truly am. i feel like i have two aspects of myself, one male and one female. when i feel male, i am attracted to women. or maybe i am just always at...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Sep 14, 2013

    It was a hard week for me.

    A solid week I felt my male side coming out. I am more brash and emotionally detached when I am Brian. It's not always negative to be Brian but I feel that my male side holds me back. However as this new week begins Britney has started to come through again. I think it's...
    ianbrewman ianbrewman
    26-30, T
    Feb 4, 2015

    It Finally Has A Name.....

    So i got onto a kick last night of again looking up gender identity disorder. i am in my 30s but since i was a young teenager i have always felt different. so as i was web surfing i came across the word bigender and after reading the description i said omg that is me there is a...
    trancquility trancquility
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 16, 2013

    So me and my wife were talking about me being

    bigendered. I was going through all my insecure questions "are you still attracted to me as a girl, do you think of me less as a man since i dress like a girl, etc)" and my wife reassured me she loves her wife and husband equally! she wouldn't have me one way without the other...
    tgheather tgheather
    31-35, T
    3 Responses Oct 6, 2015

    Discovery And Love

    I'd been trying to figure out for some time what I am. For a long while I thought I was transgendered but found that, whenever I thought about transitioning, half of me started screaming at me "What!? Are you crazy!?" whereas the other half was going "I can't exactly stay like...
    punkylemon punkylemon
    26-30, T
    3 Responses May 16, 2013

    so, for four years I've had thoughts about

    crossdressing and such. I am currently 16 years old, on month from 17, and four days ago I determined myself to be bigendered with male origin. because it's been so recent, I've had a very hard time coping now that I c an notice every single time I switch between "Adam" and...
    adamworden adamworden
    18-21, T
    Mar 6, 2015

    I have always felt masculine throughout my life

    but then I will switch to female for months at a time and always go back to male because that is what I prefer. I have always been terrible at relationships and I don't know if anyone else has had trouble with this. I feel like a gay man in a woman's body. I get body dysphoria...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 9, 2016

    Coming Out?

    I guess in a way I'm coming out even though I recently discovered the term for how I've felt all these years. I'm a woman identfying as a man identifying as a woman. Confusing, right? I never knew what to call it until I saw one of my circle post a story in this group. I...
    Yoru Yoru
    2 Responses Jun 11, 2011

    Hey I'm bigender and I would like to make new

    friends just like me. It would be cool to meet some people I can relate to so if you want you can shoot me a message. :3
    justthatnormal justthatnormal
    16-17, T
    3 Responses May 9, 2015

    I told my best friend last night

    that I'm bigender. She was so accepting of me even though bigender is rather uncommon and she encouraged me to tell my parents. I feel so much less ashamed of who I am now, because now I know that there are people (who aren't anonymous strangers) that accept me for who I am...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Mar 23, 2015

    Land of Confusion

    I was born, physically a male, oh so many years ago.  And there are times when i truly feel as one. But, there are an equal amount of times when i feel as though that's not right. Sometimes, the 'switch' comes after a few hours, sometimes it takes months. For awhile, I...
    sarahdavids sarahdavids
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2009

    Broken Ego

    Have you ever had your ego completely shatter? Your identity is gone. Fragments of you lay scattered, and exploring each one you don't know whats real and whats a lie. Letting go of pieces that you though you where, and finding new parts that you have suppressed. Terrifying...
    1lov3 1lov3
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jul 13, 2012

    I've been "suffering" with this now

    for months. I thought I was the only one who felt like this. Like I was two people in one body. I enjoy being masculine in public, when I'm out with my girl and friends, but behind closed doors I'm feminine. I love to be held and my hair played with, I feel okay with my body...
    p3rc3pti0n p3rc3pti0n
    2 Responses Feb 3, 2014
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