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I Am Bigendered

People who identify as male and female. 347 People

    I Am Really Intergendered

    I felt bigendered but come to realize i am not fully male and not fully female. I feel like a stright female and a gay male smashed together. I only have one gender idenity and I don't really identify as male or female. I choose to be male and ejoy male but...
    Lionheart11 Lionheart11 18-21 5 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    I think I'm bigender

    but I'm not 100% sure. Ever since I was young, I've liked looking at women's fashion, and thinking of how it would look on me. I had an especially strong love for heels, but I've just dismissed it as a "phase" for around 15 years, thinking it would pass, thinking I was weird and...
    Elizium Elizium 18-21, M 5 Responses Jun 2, 2014

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    Fluid Swing: I Am Bigender Fluid

    I was born a DFAB. I spent years being forced into gender expressions in clothing, toys, and other things I didn't like that were pretty feminine. Then I finally gained the freedom to express my masculine half. I've been happy identifying as male. But I recently felt the...
    BowlofQueerios23 BowlofQueerios23 22-25 3 Responses Oct 20, 2013

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    At least there's a name

    for it :) I was wondering what kind of weird I was the whole time :P
    jtzr jtzr 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 12, 2014

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    I have never told this to anyone in real life;

    I only completely realized that I am bigender yesterday. for a long time, I have had bursts of wishing that I had been born female, but they were also interspersed with periods when I am either happy being male, or just not considering either. weirdly enough though, as either...
    KissMeKimmi KissMeKimmi 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    Land of Confusion

    I was born, physically a male, oh so many years ago.  And there are times when i truly feel as one. But, there are an equal amount of times when i feel as though that's not right. Sometimes, the 'switch' comes after a few hours, sometimes it takes months. For awhile, I...
    sarahdavids sarahdavids 31-35 4 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    Hello, my birth name is Sarah,

    although my gender fluid/gender neutral/ bi gender name is Sai. I've known all my life that I have felt and been this way all my life, although I had no idea what it was called considering that it's only been recognized until now. My friends are very much accepting of this. I...
    cyanidemaxwell cyanidemaxwell 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2014

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    Well I looked up on my computer

    and found out I am not alone that their is other people who feel just like me. I never know their was a word for it. I really don't feel alone now thank you for posting.
    2000RHS 2000RHS 31-35, F May 17, 2014

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    I told my best friend last night

    that I'm bigender. She was so accepting of me even though bigender is rather uncommon and she encouraged me to tell my parents. I feel so much less ashamed of who I am now, because now I know that there are people (who aren't anonymous strangers) that accept me for who I am...
    KissMeKimmi KissMeKimmi 18-21, F 5 Responses 5 days ago

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    Very New

    I recently discovered that even though i was born male that i am also female.its confusing for me but also comfortable.
    GailGoth GailGoth 31-35 2 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    Bi Or Pan

    A few moth ago I fould A word that told me who I was and why I felt the way I feel about myself the word was pangender . after leaning more abuot me bigender fits me too . sometime I feel very fem other more male I try to stary in between to two as much as I can , this has...
    ravennite44 ravennite44 46-50, T 2 Responses Aug 13, 2009

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    Dissociative Identity Disorder Or Bigender??? HELP!

    Hi everyone, thanks for sharing your stories. i'm so happy i found this site and seem to be getting closer to discovering who i truly am. i feel like i have two aspects of myself, one male and one female. when i feel male, i am attracted to women. or maybe i am just always at...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    It Finally Has A Name.....

    So i got onto a kick last night of again looking up gender identity disorder. i am in my 30s but since i was a young teenager i have always felt different. so as i was web surfing i came across the word bigender and after reading the description i said omg that is me there is a...
    trancquility trancquility 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    I Am Pan Gendered

    I was born into the body of a woman, but thought I was a boy until I was 5 or 6 and my parents always accepted me. I have dated both men and women but always felt a little out of place. I started to think more about myself when I started college and came to the decision that I am...
    freshoutthecloset freshoutthecloset 18-21 3 Responses Sep 4, 2013

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    Hello,my name is jacob

    but i like to go by zoey. I have spent the last seventeen years of my life alone because I am a girly-boy. Now I have the Internet and sites like this. i am now seeking help from someone who lives near me. i live in Virginia and am looking for some one I can meet, i love EP...
    zoey764 zoey764 18-21, T 1 Response Jul 23, 2014

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    Who am I? Thats a question

    that haunted me many, many years. First of all I told my mother, that I kinda like girls. She just laughed at me and told me, I just need the right man on my side. But I always treated men as some dudes to hang out and play video games with. I always felt like I'm a part of them...
    kittyjeany kittyjeany 18-21 4 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    I am still in struggle to figure out

    who I am but have been getting major support so thumbs up to those who have been helping me this far. When I was younger, I used to sneak into My sisters room when She was away or over a friends and I would take some of her clothes and wear them for a little while until someone...
    dhenderson098 dhenderson098 18-21, T 4 Responses Sep 25, 2014

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    Discovery And Love

    I'd been trying to figure out for some time what I am. For a long while I thought I was transgendered but found that, whenever I thought about transitioning, half of me started screaming at me "What!? Are you crazy!?" whereas the other half was going "I can't exactly stay like...
    punkylemon punkylemon 22-25, T 5 Responses May 16, 2013

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    Coming Out?

    I guess in a way I'm coming out even though I recently discovered the term for how I've felt all these years. I'm a woman identfying as a man identifying as a woman. Confusing, right? I never knew what to call it until I saw one of my circle post a story in this group. I...
    Yoru Yoru 18-21 2 Responses Jun 11, 2011

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    i'm sixteen years old

    and my whole life i have felt like i don't belong. my mother would try to get me in bright feminine clothing and i never liked it. now that I've matured i feel like some days i want to cut my hair and be called alex and other days i want to curl my hair, wear skirts and be...
    stephanie1rose stephanie1rose 16-17, T 2 Responses Mar 8

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    Looking Forward To...

    -The day you can go to work dressed as a woman and people will casually greet you with your girl name and the next day you can come in as a man and people don't think it's strange or barely notice it anymore. - The day a man can have boobs without being fully feminized by...
    Destrezameka Destrezameka 26-30 5 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    Free At Last

    So I moved out of my mother's place a few days ago, and I couldn't be any happier now. The thought of moving out was so crazy at first, but I've quickly grown to love having my own place. My apartment is located in the central part of the city which makes it a sought after area...
    Flowersblossom Flowersblossom 22-25 2 Responses May 7, 2013

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    Hi, my name is Francesca.

    I'm biologically a girl, I have girl parts and I feel inside that I am a girl. But at the same time, I have an urge to be a male. I feel like a male at the same time as I feel like I am a female. I'm both. It's scary to me to feel this way. I went through a couple years thinking...
    caputuk caputuk 16-17 4 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    so, for four years I've had thoughts about

    crossdressing and such. I am currently 16 years old, on month from 17, and four days ago I determined myself to be bigendered with male origin. because it's been so recent, I've had a very hard time coping now that I c an notice every single time I switch between "Adam" and...
    adamworden adamworden 16-17, T Mar 6

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    Hey everyone! I've very recently discovered

    that I'm bigendered. I'm also still learning what that really means. It's confusing but liberating. Biologically, I am female. Ever since I was young, I never FULLY felt like a girl. When playing with my male friends in elementary school, I was always the "damsel in distress...
    figuringmyselfout figuringmyselfout 18-21 3 Responses Jan 6

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    When I Was About 7 Years Old, I Knew I Was "bigendered"

    Sure, I didn't know what the hell the term "Bigendered" meant back when I was a child. However, I do remember riding in the car with my mother one day, and it went something like this: "Your friends birthday party is next week, you should wear the dress I bought you." I looked...
    cloudpoetic cloudpoetic 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    I've been "suffering" with this now

    for months. I thought I was the only one who felt like this. Like I was two people in one body. I enjoy being masculine in public, when I'm out with my girl and friends, but behind closed doors I'm feminine. I love to be held and my hair played with, I feel okay with my body...
    p3rc3pti0n p3rc3pti0n 22-25 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    It was a hard week for me.

    A solid week I felt my male side coming out. I am more brash and emotionally detached when I am Brian. It's not always negative to be Brian but I feel that my male side holds me back. However as this new week begins Britney has started to come through again. I think it's...
    ianbrewman ianbrewman 26-30, T Feb 4

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    A Recent Discovery

    Growing up, I always wondered why it was that I liked playing sports with boys but also played with Barbie dolls. Some days, i'd love to wear girly bows. Other days, I wanted my hair cut short (and did have it short for most of my childhood). There's always been this awkwardness...
    hooponopono hooponopono 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I'm pretty sure I have

    both sexes residing in my brain. I am completely comfortable talking about me being part dude part female. most people shy away from the topic because it sounds taboo. what's taboo to me is when someone doesn't educate themselves and rather just judges. there's so much more to...
    jenneruz jenneruz 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    trevlisyz trevlisyz 61-65, M 6 Responses Dec 14, 2014

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    Last year in september I found out

    that I am actually Bigender at first it scared me, butnow I'm a bit at peace with it and I have also found out that I have about 7 different personalities. Most of the time my female side is in control idk why maybe, because I am biologically a female. Either way my male side...
    Domi16 Domi16 18-21, T 1 Response Mar 11

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    This Is Killing Me.

    The constant switching between male and female. I will display myself as the gender I am comfortable in and WHAM dysphoria hits me like a freaking train, crushing my windpipe. Making it hard to breathe. Making my chest implode with stress. Making my head hurt with confusion. I...
    TheDictatorOfGwah TheDictatorOfGwah 16-17 3 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    After 35 years of having a hairy chest,

    the hair is gone. Yep, waxed it. Did it hurt, yes. Would I do it again, yes I will. Still a little sore and puffy, but OMG, such a relief. So that makes me hairless front and rear, legs too.
    JessicaDale JessicaDale 51-55 2 Responses Mar 10

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    I Am Not Male Nor Female. I Am Bi-gender

    People just don't seen to understand that how can someone be a bi-gender or gender fluid. Living in a conservative society is making me frustrated. No one to share my feelings with even my friends who know just can't accept they think it's something that need to be "controlled...
    nishacutie nishacutie 18-21, T 2 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    I'm bigendered or gender fluid.

    Work and friends know, family are a different matter. I spend most of my time as a male. Even when I feel feminine. I have been down about this although my work and social life are up. My father found my fem clothes while I still lived at home and made it clear he didn't approve...
    Abilohman Abilohman 26-30 3 Responses Jan 11, 2014

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    I am a 14 year old girl

    and sometimes I feel like I should be a boy. But only sometimes. The thing is I'm not like attracted to girls. Only guys. Is that normal? Also I'm not sure how to tell my mother. Like she knows I have a bi friend and a transgender friend and she's fine with it. But I don't...
    infiniteawkwardness infiniteawkwardness 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Broken Ego

    Have you ever had your ego completely shatter? Your identity is gone. Fragments of you lay scattered, and exploring each one you don't know whats real and whats a lie. Letting go of pieces that you though you where, and finding new parts that you have suppressed. Terrifying...
    1lov3 1lov3 22-25, M 4 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    My name is Anthony . I have struggled with my

    own gender and sexual identities respectively for the past 9 to 10 years since at least grade school to be exact. I have had a tendency to always try to become more feminine in a sense because at times my internal self feels like a female while my external is presumably male. It...
    africprince2014 africprince2014 18-21, M Dec 18, 2013

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    I am bigender... and Im

    so ******* tired I didn't ask for this, I didn't ask for anything of all the bullcrap that has been coming my way since I realized this was who I am. I'm tired of feeling body disphoria every few weeks, I'm tired of feeling like a boy out of nowhere and not even being in the...
    LostinLands LostinLands 18-21 3 Responses Mar 3

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    Well for myself for most of my journey of self

    discovery ,, a specially sence i never knew of the term Bigender -dual-gender-fluid,,, only that there were Transvestite aka Cross-dressers non-op or pre/post op Transsexuals and drag queens. And for the first i say 15 to 20 year of my journey i thought i was just was the...
    Mr1Tim1Bryant Mr1Tim1Bryant 51-55 Jun 19, 2014

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    Who I Am.

    There is Alice and there is Zander, female and male, respectively. After five years of hell I found the balance between them. I always had long hair as a child, I hated it, my mom loved long hair on her daughters but one day I chopped it all off. A weight was lifted and it helped...
    Angekid Angekid 16-17, F 3 Responses May 4, 2012

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    Always Feeling A Little Different

    I've just recently come to terms with this; I feel both male and female. I was always wondering if I was transgender, but when I thought of transitioning, I totally freaked out. I was born female, and I really didn't mind it. I mostly like having a feminine body. I also noticed...
    KrysGlitch KrysGlitch 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I'm Bigendered. My gender identity swings from male to female and back again. Finding a woman to be ok with that and love me is hard. If it's possible at all.
    Abilohman Abilohman 26-30 1 Response Mar 17

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