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I Am Bigendered

People who identify as male and female. 299 People

    Discovery And Love

    I'd been trying to figure out for some time what I am. For a long while I thought I was transgendered but found that, whenever I thought about transitioning, half of me started screaming at me "What!? Are you crazy!?" whereas the other half was going "I can't exactly stay like...
    punkylemon punkylemon 22-25, T 4 Responses May 16, 2013

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    Bigender Frustration.

    I wish people were aware of it and that there was more flexibility in my life in this regard. If this confuses you look up bigendered in wikipedia.  I don't bother to explain it to people in real life...they never seem to get it.
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree 46-50 4 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    Scared And Confused

    I've struggled with gender identity my entire life(at least as long as I can remember), going through what seemed like phases. From about 9-13 I only wore boy clothes, had a buzz cut and even stuffed a sock in my pants, but then I'd be okay with my feminine form again and wear...
    ZetraGild ZetraGild 22-25 2 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    How I Got A Supportive Girlfriend, And You Can Too!

    Or boyfriend if you're so inclined. ;) What's nice about this advice is that a lot of it pertains to getting a relationship even for cisgendered people. However, I will not pretend like I did not strike gold or aren't very lucky, cause I am. So, I had been doing online dating...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T May 13, 2013

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    This Is Killing Me.

    The constant switching between male and female. I will display myself as the gender I am comfortable in and WHAM dysphoria hits me like a freaking train, crushing my windpipe. Making it hard to breathe. Making my chest implode with stress. Making my head hurt with confusion. I...
    TheDictatorOfGwah TheDictatorOfGwah 16-17 3 Responses Aug 30, 2013

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    Part Girl, Part Boy. Completely Confused.

    I guess it started when I was 4, asking my mom if my voice sounded deeper than my girl friends and wanting to play outside with my shirt off. "You can't because you're a girl," was the reason I couldn't. Whenever we put on a play, I always volunteered for the boy role. Always. I...
    SomethingInBetween SomethingInBetween 22-25, T 3 Responses Sep 25, 2012

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    I'm bigendered or gender fluid.

    Work and friends know, family are a different matter. I spend most of my time as a male. Even when I feel feminine. I have been down about this although my work and social life are up. My father found my fem clothes while I still lived at home and made it clear he didn't approve...
    Abilohman Abilohman 26-30 5 Responses Jan 11

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    Who am I? Thats a question

    that haunted me many, many years. First of all I told my mother, that I kinda like girls. She just laughed at me and told me, I just need the right man on my side. But I always treated men as some dudes to hang out and play video games with. I always felt like I'm a part of them...
    kittyjeany kittyjeany 18-21 3 Responses Jan 17

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    Wow It Has A Name

    I thought everyone was. I am married to a tom boy. Our kids point out that the gender roles in our home are often crossed. Id like to crossdress, but would rather not shock or offend anyone. I often fantaize about wearing skirts. I think they look cool and would be so...
    MarkFree MarkFree 51-55, M 5 Responses Jun 6, 2013

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    I think I'm bigender

    but I'm not 100% sure. Ever since I was young, I've liked looking at women's fashion, and thinking of how it would look on me. I had an especially strong love for heels, but I've just dismissed it as a "phase" for around 15 years, thinking it would pass, thinking I was weird and...
    Elizium Elizium 18-21, M 5 Responses Jun 2

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    MPD???

    I too, recently came across the term "bigendered" on wikipedia. I'm biologically male but have always felt like i had two personas. On one side, the side everyone in RL knows, is a rather sensitive and patient male. And on the other side, there's an...
    ikaris2323 ikaris2323 18-21 4 Responses Sep 23, 2009

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    Hello,my name is jacob

    but i like to go by zoey. I have spent the last seventeen years of my life alone because I am a girly-boy. Now I have the Internet and sites like this. i am now seeking help from someone who lives near me. i live in Virginia and am looking for some one I can meet, i love EP...
    zoey764 zoey764 18-21 Jul 23

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    I Love My Family.

    Told my parents two weeks ago and told my sister today about my gender fluidity. Needless to say, much confusion on their end, and many questions and me fixing misconceptions. But in the end, everyone is totally fine with it, and my sister is even wanting to participate a little...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 1 Response Dec 1, 2012

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    Bi Or Pan

    A few moth ago I fould A word that told me who I was and why I felt the way I feel about myself the word was pangender . after leaning more abuot me bigender fits me too . sometime I feel very fem other more male I try to stary in between to two as much as I can , this has...
    ravennite44 ravennite44 46-50, T 2 Responses Aug 13, 2009

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    Coming Out?

    I guess in a way I'm coming out even though I recently discovered the term for how I've felt all these years. I'm a woman identfying as a man identifying as a woman. Confusing, right? I never knew what to call it until I saw one of my circle post a story in this group. I...
    Yoru Yoru 18-21 2 Responses Jun 11, 2011

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    I Can't Live This Way

    Half of me, is a straight female. But the other half, is a boy trapped in a girls body. This issue has always given me problems. With my life, my relationships. I currently suffer from depression, anxiety, and extreme paranoia. I'm not sure if these feelings originated from...
    StacheTastic StacheTastic 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    Hi, my name is Francesca.

    I'm biologically a girl, I have girl parts and I feel inside that I am a girl. But at the same time, I have an urge to be a male. I feel like a male at the same time as I feel like I am a female. I'm both. It's scary to me to feel this way. I went through a couple years thinking...
    caputuk caputuk 16-17 4 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    Well for myself for most of my journey of self

    discovery ,, a specially sence i never knew of the term Bigender -dual-gender-fluid,,, only that there were Transvestite aka Cross-dressers non-op or pre/post op Transsexuals and drag queens. And for the first i say 15 to 20 year of my journey i thought i was just was the...
    Mr1Tim1Bryant Mr1Tim1Bryant 51-55 Jun 19

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    When I Was About 7 Years Old, I Knew I Was "bigendered"

    Sure, I didn't know what the hell the term "Bigendered" meant back when I was a child. However, I do remember riding in the car with my mother one day, and it went something like this: "Your friends birthday party is next week, you should wear the dress I bought you." I looked...
    cloudpoetic cloudpoetic 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 30, 2012

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    A Little Help

    Hello all, I'm rather new here. I'm been trying to figure out where I stand as far as sexual orientation as well as identity. I found out about someone who said that sometimes they are a guy and sometimes they are a girl. It sounded a bit like how I feel, but I have no way of...
    suizza suizza 18-21 3 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    I Am Who I Am, There'S No Ignoring That

    The big question : Who am I? This is a question I've struggled to answer for years. I was born a girl, and I'm comfortable with that... Most of the time, however, there are days that being in this female body just feels wrong somehow. My gender seems to change constantly and...
    TheSecrets TheSecrets 13-15 Apr 26, 2013

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    Well I looked up on my computer

    and found out I am not alone that their is other people who feel just like me. I never know their was a word for it. I really don't feel alone now thank you for posting.
    2000RHS 2000RHS 31-35, F May 17

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    Fluid Swing: I Am Bigender Fluid

    I was born a DFAB. I spent years being forced into gender expressions in clothing, toys, and other things I didn't like that were pretty feminine. Then I finally gained the freedom to express my masculine half. I've been happy identifying as male. But I recently felt the...
    BowlofQueerios23 BowlofQueerios23 22-25 3 Responses Oct 20, 2013

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    Land of Confusion

    I was born, physically a male, oh so many years ago.  And there are times when i truly feel as one. But, there are an equal amount of times when i feel as though that's not right. Sometimes, the 'switch' comes after a few hours, sometimes it takes months. For awhile, I...
    sarahdavids sarahdavids 31-35 4 Responses Sep 22, 2009

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    Free At Last

    So I moved out of my mother's place a few days ago, and I couldn't be any happier now. The thought of moving out was so crazy at first, but I've quickly grown to love having my own place. My apartment is located in the central part of the city which makes it a sought after area...
    Flowersblossom Flowersblossom 22-25 1 Response May 7, 2013

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    At least there's a name

    for it :) I was wondering what kind of weird I was the whole time :P
    jtzr jtzr 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I Am Pan Gendered

    I was born into the body of a woman, but thought I was a boy until I was 5 or 6 and my parents always accepted me. I have dated both men and women but always felt a little out of place. I started to think more about myself when I started college and came to the decision that I am...
    freshoutthecloset freshoutthecloset 18-21 3 Responses Sep 4, 2013

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    I Am Really Intergendered

    I felt bigendered but come to realize i am not fully male and not fully female. I feel like a stright female and a gay male smashed together. I only have one gender idenity and I don't really identify as male or female. I choose to be male and ejoy male but...
    Lionheart11 Lionheart11 18-21 5 Responses Sep 27, 2009

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    Confused

    About a week ago I decided to Google a question I've had for many many years about female to male sex changes. In the middle of my research I can't across terms/labels. I did a lot of research and I think I've finally found my true identity. I think I'm bigendered. Ever since I...
    milo1890 milo1890 22-25, F 1 Response May 6, 2013

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    Looking Forward To...

    -The day you can go to work dressed as a woman and people will casually greet you with your girl name and the next day you can come in as a man and people don't think it's strange or barely notice it anymore. - The day a man can have boobs without being fully feminized by...
    Destrezameka Destrezameka 26-30 4 Responses Mar 9, 2011

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    My name is Anthony . I have struggled with my

    own gender and sexual identities respectively for the past 9 to 10 years since at least grade school to be exact. I have had a tendency to always try to become more feminine in a sense because at times my internal self feels like a female while my external is presumably male. It...
    africprince2014 africprince2014 18-21, M Dec 18, 2013

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    Always Feeling A Little Different

    I've just recently come to terms with this; I feel both male and female. I was always wondering if I was transgender, but when I thought of transitioning, I totally freaked out. I was born female, and I really didn't mind it. I mostly like having a feminine body. I also noticed...
    KrysGlitch KrysGlitch 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 7, 2013

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    Very New

    I recently discovered that even though i was born male that i am also female.its confusing for me but also comfortable.
    GailGoth GailGoth 31-35 2 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    I've been "suffering" with this now

    for months. I thought I was the only one who felt like this. Like I was two people in one body. I enjoy being masculine in public, when I'm out with my girl and friends, but behind closed doors I'm feminine. I love to be held and my hair played with, I feel okay with my body...
    p3rc3pti0n p3rc3pti0n 22-25 2 Responses Feb 3

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    How Did I Not Realize Or Accept This Back Then?

    When i was a kid (& i made sure that i was totally alone in the house)...i would occasionally stuff my shirt w/a pillow an pretend that i had boobs; i would even give myself a feminine pillow *** and act 'sexy'. At the time i just thought i was being immature or i was acting dumb...
    DT831 DT831 18-21, T Aug 22, 2012

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    A Recent Discovery

    Growing up, I always wondered why it was that I liked playing sports with boys but also played with Barbie dolls. Some days, i'd love to wear girly bows. Other days, I wanted my hair cut short (and did have it short for most of my childhood). There's always been this awkwardness...
    hooponopono hooponopono 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Dissociative Identity Disorder Or Bigender??? HELP!

    Hi everyone, thanks for sharing your stories. i'm so happy i found this site and seem to be getting closer to discovering who i truly am. i feel like i have two aspects of myself, one male and one female. when i feel male, i am attracted to women. or maybe i am just always at...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    Who I Am.

    There is Alice and there is Zander, female and male, respectively. After five years of hell I found the balance between them. I always had long hair as a child, I hated it, my mom loved long hair on her daughters but one day I chopped it all off. A weight was lifted and it helped...
    Angekid Angekid 16-17, F 3 Responses May 4, 2012

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    It Finally Has A Name.....

    So i got onto a kick last night of again looking up gender identity disorder. i am in my 30s but since i was a young teenager i have always felt different. so as i was web surfing i came across the word bigender and after reading the description i said omg that is me there is a...
    trancquility trancquility 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 16, 2013

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    Broken Ego

    Have you ever had your ego completely shatter? Your identity is gone. Fragments of you lay scattered, and exploring each one you don't know whats real and whats a lie. Letting go of pieces that you though you where, and finding new parts that you have suppressed. Terrifying...
    1lov3 1lov3 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    It Feels Like I Am Two People In The Same Body.

    I am a 21 year old man with a life that to others would seem pretty "normal". I am a student and a musician with a couple jobs, and don't appear to be anything out of the ordinary...most of the time. I live with my girlfriend of 15 months. She is my best friend in the world and...
    jiwilliams jiwilliams 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    So, I Just Confessed To My Friends.

    3 of my best friends (2 guys, 1 girl) in fact. I let them know that I am bigendered tonight, and that I identify as a girl much of the time. And much to my delight, they all accepted me without question. My two guy friends felt honored that I came out to them and that this doesn...
    ViewtifulMe ViewtifulMe 26-30, T 3 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    Dazed and Confused- Ok,

    I need advice. Here's the situation. I'm pretty sure in bi gendered but not 100% certain. I've lived my entire life as a boy playing video games. I've known I was different from the other boys at school. Ever since elementary school. I never stared at girls for their bodies but...
    VerdlaTal VerdlaTal 13-15, T Dec 18, 2013

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    Ever Find Someone?

    Hey. :D So Yeah, I Feel Like I'll Never Find Love Because Im Bigender. : Im Basically A "Guy" But Im Seeking Other Guys. Not So Much Girls. Whenever I Talk To A Guy, Some Usually Tend To Ask Whether I Am A Male Or Female; I'll Say Bigender. "Mentally A Guy; Physically A Girl...
    AshLovesLink AshLovesLink 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    In A Whole Heap Of Doo...

    I am a bigender and I used to be perfectly ok with it. I had a boyfriend who knew what I was and he accepted it even to the point of sitting down with me and having discussions about what he could do or how he could act round each "mode" to make my life easier (including in the...
    punkylemon punkylemon 22-25, T 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    I Am Not Male Nor Female. I Am Bi-gender

    People just don't seen to understand that how can someone be a bi-gender or gender fluid. Living in a conservative society is making me frustrated. No one to share my feelings with even my friends who know just can't accept they think it's something that need to be "controlled...
    nishacutie nishacutie 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 6, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Helps that I am bigendered :-)
    Abilohman Abilohman 26-30 1 day ago

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