on 08:10PM at Dec 19th, 2007
It's hard to realize that after all the anger the only thing left is heartbrake. I have been happily married for 5 yrs, untill my husband cheated on me and hit me. (I was so unexperianced in relationships) thinking I was in a great marriege. We had no financial problems, no sex issues (at least not that I knew of) and we have a little angle. (baby girl) What more did my husband want...... I guess he wanted a side thing. But as we all know we can not have our cake and eat it too. I mean it would be great to have someone on the side and your spouse think it's okay. Anyway, he cheated and he hit me, this was the man of my life. I loved him like no other, he was my life which is why I was distroyed inside for months, and still am. But now I do feel stronger and well I still love him but never again will I be inlove with him the way I once was. I am in the middle of forgive or not to forgive. So what do I do?
on 10:51AM at Dec 20th, 2007
Some people are able to forgive and forget, but I'm not one of them. Cheating is a betrayal that goes so deep, right down to the foundation of a relationship. I can never trust that person again, and I don't want to be in a rlationship with someone I can't trust. This has happened to me twice, and both times I ended the relationship. It was painful, but in the end, I don't regret it. Some people think love is something special, and when someone gives you his or heart, you treasure it. Cheaters don't feel that way. They are looking out for themselves and trying to have all the fun they can, and if it hurts their partner, oh well.
I admire people who can truly forgive and get past the betrayal, but I wonder how many of them will end up in the same situation a few years down the road. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
on 09:37PM at Dec 21st, 2007
I have heard it many times, Once a cheater always a cheater. But I don't know if that is true or not. I mean many people have told me that a cheater cheats over and over. But then I ask well how do you know if you never gave the cheater a second chance? Well I don't have any answers to anything anymore. I feel like I am the last person on earth to give advice to anyway especially about relationships. Look at me I'm in a "life of pretend" because I don't know what my next step will be. I guess for the first time in my life I feel really lost.
on 11:49PM at Nov 19th, 2008
Life of pretend, excellent description of what I seem to be doing. Just to get through, just to fit in. As for the cheater thing, I am one, was niave at the time, didnt know what trust meant really, and for sure did not know much about relationships. Now 18 years later and still alone, isnt that pathetic? I think I deserve it after what I did though, no, not a martyr just someone who cant forgive themselves. Not to worry, the cheater has a price to pay.
on 05:09PM at Aug 17th, 2010
I cheated, on my first love with an ex-boyfriend out of guilt. It was pity over leaving him and fear that my first love wouldn't marry me. I had a lot of issues, and I was never able to discuss them with him because i was afraid. I was so strong when I was with him, but he left the state for a job. My ex boyfriend return from school and yelled at me for leaving him for another man. I felt so guilty I slept with him. it was awful. i share this story because i hope it will ease someone's pain.
I married and never cheated again. My husband, however, did. We divorced.
I was later engaged, and he cheated on me. i remained faithful. But couldn't believe he loved me anymore.
I am so sorry. I understand the pain. It's awful. I can't believe what I did. But I don't believe it nullified the love that I had for these men in my life.
on 01:57PM at Apr 19th, 2011
Its so hard for me to write this. Ive forgiven him over and over again. I try to forget and live my life.. but doubt always finds me.
He no longer cares to make me feel secure. He is the only man Ive ever been with. The only man I wanted to be with.
BUT what do you do, when he no longer cares. He no longer wants you? I feel like I'm the one begging to keep trying, and hes the one who cheated.
He says he loves me, but his actions tell me, he's only here because I beg him to stay.
How can you give someone your all and he not even care? I gave this man my life and he gives me nothing.
Why can't I let go? What am I afraid of?
Im so tired of being alone, lonely and crying. My heart is so broken. I have nothing left in me.
on 01:12AM at Mar 8th, 2012
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on 12:51AM at Sep 5th, 2012
I got my heart broken recently,my ex of the last 3 years broke it off with me,told me she wanted to be single and live life but the thing is i never denied her anything while we were together....if she wanted to go out with her friends she could and things like that,anyways she moved out and moved to another town not so far away...shes said she still loved me and all but she just wanted to be single,she stringed me along a little after that,wanted me back this day and next day she didnt want anything from me anymore....and to me this was my true love....and i never treted her badly,i never even thought about hitting her,if she hit me cause i said something wrong i just let her cause i wouldnt even think about hitting her...
time passed...maybe 1-2 weeks and shes dating again....now this was a blow to the heart but hey i wanted to atleast be her friend because she knew me better then my family but as time passed she wanted less and less of my friendship and now just recently she just completely shut me off out of her life....said she didnt even want to be my friend anymore....
i lost the love of my life and my only true best friend in a month.....
on 05:13PM at Mar 1st, 2013
You have some hard decisions to make. Affairs don't necessarily mean divorce, but he hit you!!!
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