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I Am Celibate

No Sex Please, We're Frigid! 495 People

    For almost 4 years. Only

    until recently have I been struggling with it. Either I'm a ho or I do absolutely NOTHING. There is zero in between. Zero chill.
    ImJustHereTho ImJustHereTho 26-30, F Jul 30

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    Becoming Celibate Again

    I lost my virginity to my now ex husband when I was 20 years old.. We have one child together. we have been separated for about 2 years now and our divorce was finalized this past March. I started sleeping with a friend of mind last year and we became "friends with benefits...
    hiswife1119 hiswife1119 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 17, 2013

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    Maybe There's Something Wrong

    I am 26 years old and have been physically celebate for 7 years now. At first, I had a good reason to be and now, I'm wondering if I'm starting to be just a lonely person. My excuse, as a majority of people's have been, is that I have an ugly history with women. 3 good examples...
    ByungHee ByungHee 26-30, M 5 Responses May 29, 2013

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    Ups And Downs

    I chose to remain celibate until marriage when I was 25 and a half. I am a very introverted man but I am very gregarious at the same time as I enjoy a lot good company of close friends, though at the moment I don't have any because of my choice of celibacy before marriage. Many...
    StillasWater StillasWater 31-35, M Jan 11, 2013

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    Its The Best Time Of My Life.

    I have taken a life long vow of celibacy and no relationships. To be honest I dont miss sex at all. Dont get me wrong I like people but its having power over the mind and will for me. I have learned how to switch off the attraction button where I can look at the opposite sex that...
    craig2012 craig2012 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    4 Years And Counting

    So yeah, 4 years and counting I have been celibate. 4 years since I've even dated to be honest. There's several reasons why I am walking this path per se, and I am happy with my decision. One of the major reasons I am celibate is that I feel sex is just... well messy and...
    Lemartes Lemartes 31-35, M Jul 17, 2013

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    On Purpose

    I write this story, not to sexualize myself even further, because I feel that I already do that too much on this website..... I write this story to show you who the real Brittany is, "behind the curtain", so to speak. I get on this site and speak sexually often, and I do so to...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 31-35, F 39 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    Since 2011... and I'm turning 29 in a month!

    I had a real nice story but it got deleted. Sigh, maybe I"ll re write it later. In short I'm CELIABTE! ----- 7/7/14 Updated ----- So the reason I am celibate is because I had my virginity taken from me. I didn't have a say, I was introduce to "sex" at a very young age...
    MysticBeauty MysticBeauty 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 19

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    That means no cyber stuff either.

    If anyone starts playing with themselves while texting me, I can sense it very strongly. Those things don't look nice when you bring them out to play. I understand that people get lonely and they want some human warmth to help them **** off, and their personal beliefs allow...
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F 2 Responses May 12

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    I Am Still Celibate

    I had serious issues growing up including bullying from females too and etc so I may have a different view and my reasons for being celibate. I am socially awkward and has been since child. I had problems with sexual identity. My reasons why I remain Celibate its do with how I...
    Vinnie01 Vinnie01 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 9, 2013

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    I am celibate because I feel like only bad

    karma comes from having sex when you feel like it's too early, or you're not in love with that person. It's about respecting myself, and waiting for someone who's worth my time, effort, mind, soul, and body. I won't just use up my body for a few minutes of pleasure.
    lilhopie60 lilhopie60 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    Seventeen Months

    Over the course of my lifetime I have shed more tears than many due to a variety of unpleasant circumstances. When I analyze these circumstances I realize what so many of us realize; those tears, more often than not, were as a result of a romantic relationship. Casual sex has...
    heartprotection heartprotection 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2013

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    Change For The Better

    I have been celibate for 15 months now, and frankly it has been a change for the better.I feel better for it, and have a clearer headspace as a result.I think I will be a better man when this changes but I'm not in any hurry
    changedman changedman 46-50, M 6 Responses Jan 6, 2010

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    Social Impairment And Celibacy

    I'm a 19 y/o straight male, art student, and I don't want to ever lose my virginity. I have been in love platonically many times, and I have wanted to be in a relationship since I was 5. I have social anxiety and selective mutism, and I'm possibly in the autism spectrum due to...
    astrobnoxious astrobnoxious 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 15, 2013

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    Stop Now`

    You guys are missing out, Its not worth Waiting!!!! Its Amazing!
    AnonEthers AnonEthers 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 12, 2013

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    Not Necessarily By Choice

    I have very high standards in terms of who I would be motivated to have sex with, and it's limited to supermodel types or very close to that. And since they also have very high standards they're unlikely to be interested in an average looking middle-aged man. I'm just not into...
    Baaane Baaane 51-55, M 2 Responses May 29, 2013

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    It's Worth The Wait

    I am now in a relationship with a guy who loves me for me. He tells me I'm beautiful and how much he cares for me. We enjoy spending time together doing anything even if it's just sitting in the car talking. I found out on the first date that he is a virgin and he is saving...
    lioness4 lioness4 22-25, F Jan 13, 2013

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    Hate Men

    Men have done terrible things to me
    TreeHuggingHippie000 TreeHuggingHippie000 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I am celibate because I am saving myself

    for marriage. My sins and past have been washed away. 3 years of sexual purity.. ☺️
    spreadthelove22 spreadthelove22 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    I'm Broken And I Don't Know If I Can Be Fixed

    I have a messed-up relationship with sex. My mother had a string of men going in and out of her bedroom, and I was molested by several of them. I became promiscuous at a young age and equated sex with worth. When I was homeless I was a prostitute, and learned how to use my vagina...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F 6 Responses May 14, 2012

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    3 years and running..

    . I refuse to sleep around until marriage( again) although sometimes I do tease men but that's all they're gonna get and nothing more. I guess that's the sadist part of me but if a guy can't respect my decision to wait then he's not worth my time.
    CantankerousBabe CantankerousBabe 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 10

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    Want It Again?

    sex is great, wonderful and all that but when that's all you're getting from men, it loses it's appeal. at least it did for me. i would love to have a sexual relationship again with a special man but if that's all he has to offer, he can keep right on going. no more settling for...
    jerrica jerrica 41-45, F 18 Responses Aug 2, 2008

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    Celibate For Now...

    I used to be in a marriage. It ended 2 and a half years ago just before our 21 anniversary. Since then I have been celibate by choice. No hugging, kissing, holding hands, dating, touching or even flirting with anybody. I wanted time to work on myself. It was only after the...
    Grieta Grieta 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 10, 2011

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    Celibacy In Relationships

    On Christmas it will be my one year anniversary of the day I decided to become celibate. It's been a hard process but soooo very rewarding and an experience I would never take back. For most of my celibacy reign I have been single with a few attempts to date people but now I'm in...
    breathehopeinme breathehopeinme 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 2, 2013

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    I recently decided to become celibate.

    I was living with my boyfriend but I moved out. I want to be a committed follower of Jesus. Since my ex-boyfriend is Atheist and we have different views I made a very difficult choice of breaking up with him. I don't want to be intimate with anyone until marriage. I also don't...
    JazzyWriter91 JazzyWriter91 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    Me Too!

    I'm just emerging from a chaotic lifestyle, rebuilding while thinking about the past, seeing a therapist etc I'm also on medication for moods. For 3 years now I've been meeting with a zen group to meditate and this month I was at a zen buddhist abbey. I got talking to another...
    thisnotthat thisnotthat 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 31, 2008

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    No Room For Festus

    What with 15 cats in the bed even if I was thinkin(winkin) the place is a stinkin!!!
    festusgreedy festusgreedy 66-70, M 2 Responses Mar 7, 2013

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    The Road Less Traveled.

    I have been chaste my entire life. I have not had sex of any kind whatsoever -- I’m a Virgin in the true sense of the word. There is really nothing unique about this. Despite what you may have heard, everyone is not doing it, and there are more Virgins around than you...
    MissDaphne05EV MissDaphne05EV 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    I Am Happy With My Celibacy!

    I am currently Celibate. I've been Celibate for three years now. It's a life style choice I decided to make after my most recent ex. The relationship wasn't abusive, but it was a bunch of b.s. But that is an experience for another group. Part of my decision to be Celibate...
    MissVenom MissVenom 22-25, F 5 Responses May 6, 2010

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    Sex Rocks, But...

    It complicates things entirely too much.  And right now, in my life, I really do not need complication.  I need simple.  So giving up sex is one way to do that.  Sort of.  It's not easy.  Especially since there is one person that I very much enjoy having sex with.  But sex...
    aranarose aranarose 31-35 2 Responses May 2, 2011

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    Trying Celibacy

    I have a very addictive personality. The internet is a crutch to act out all of my bad habits 90 % of the time I am surfing for inappropriate images of a sexual nature. I guess the main reasons are: bordom, its also a way of procrastinating, self-righteous justification...
    davidreid014 davidreid014 41-45 5 Responses Jul 11, 2010

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    Where Im At Now

    When I was younger I didn't have a healthy understanding about sex. I saw sex as a toy and I figured everyone else saw it as a game as well. I shortly found out how strongly it affected people and through my sex charades I hurt a lot of friends and people. I lost a lot friends...
    breathehopeinme breathehopeinme 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2013

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    Celibacy is not that you don't have sex.

    basically it's applies in your thoughts and any fantasy of having sex can break you celibacy even desiring of any **** image is break of your celibacy and don't stroke too. Then it will give you such gift of life that you never imagine.
    Heavyheaven Heavyheaven 22-25, M Dec 28, 2013

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    Not By Choice

    Celibate yes, by choice, no. Its been over 12 years since i have had sexual intercourse. I have only ever paid for sex, never been with someone who actually wanted to be with me. Women do not want to be with me so i have become celibate. I am not frigid, just undesirable i guess...
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    That Must Be Me, Too

    I have not had sex. I am 31 and I have never had, nor plan to have sexual intercourse. Being Eclectic Wiccan, I selected to give my virginity to the Goddess, and remain a virgin. Of course, that doesn't mean I don't have those urges. I feel like my parents don't really "get it...
    AgilePhoenix AgilePhoenix 31-35, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2012

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    Why I Am Celibate

    I am celibate for spiritual and natural reasons. It is very dangerous out there and when I get the urge to have sex, this is what I do. Other than PRAY, I tend to face the facts. (shudders) There are many STDs (STIs) and I took the time to do some research and list them for you...
    LadyOutspoken LadyOutspoken 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Above Natural and Beyond Ethical

    I am 31 and have been celibate for over 10yrs. I have no expectation of renouncing my commitment. Although I have numerous philosophical and practical reasons (not due to lack of opportunity) I must admit that I felt a personal calling from God. When I first was called...
    chromaticone chromaticone 36-40, M 5 Responses Apr 17, 2009

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    By choice, because I am Christian

    and not married. I have a boyfriend and don't flirt with anyone else. It's his choice to be celibate before marriage too. We have the same beliefs.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    How Do You Stay Strong

    I was recently celibate for 1yr and 3 months. I had sex twice this year and I think it's horrible. I really enjoyed being celibate but I somehow got tempted. How do I stay strong bc I am really considering becoming celibate until marriage! Thank You
    singulargirl singulargirl 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    Not Frigid

    I've been celebate for several years. Nothing planned. No overwhelming religious reasons other than not feeling the need to sleep with everyone I meet. I been down that road and made peace with the mistakes made in the sexual arena. I know that I'm attractive, desirable and...
    yogababy yogababy 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    I Refuse To Have Sex

    I will never have sex again. I am healthy and have a normal sex drive. I hate sex more than anything else, though. I am married and have not had any sexual contact for more than a year. Sex is evil, wrong and inhuman in my mind, though I am aware that the rest of the world does...
    gurg gurg 36-40 8 Responses Jun 14, 2011

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    I Have Been Celibate For A Year Now.

    It was never intended, though I have made myself commit to celibacy at a couple of occasions, but I never made pass the 6 months mark. But I guess things happens, and you change in ways that is unexpected. I used to think I could never go without - as I have always been in...
    watchfulsoul watchfulsoul 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 7, 2010

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    I am so sick of people telling me I am pretty

    and there is no need for me to be single. MY singledom is my choice, just like your dead end relationships are your choice. I am celibate because I got sick and tired of living my life by someone elses rules, it would take an awful lot for me to break my celibacy, in a way I...
    UnderTheBodhiTree UnderTheBodhiTree 31-35, F 17 Responses Jan 24

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    Honestly I was always been under estimate by

    women's I never had physical relation or social relation with woman I never loved by anyone so I choose to be celibate or not a looser. my true feelings
    Heavyheaven Heavyheaven 22-25, M Dec 29, 2013

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    Another Healing Soul

    I have been celibate since September. At the end of my last relationship I decided that I could not continue on the roller coaster I had been on. I have been in so many bad relationships that it was just so damaging to me and my partners.I am healing myself. I have an illness...
    prncesspain prncesspain 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 23, 2011

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    Wanting To Be A Virgin For Life

    I'm a guy who loves and is really into things like classical and jazz music as well as things like reading, sports and writing poetry. So I have a lot of interests that take my time. I am currently a 20 year-old male college student. Usually the guys I hang around just want sex...
    tyc113 tyc113 18-21 11 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    Sickness

    I have many stories of horrible abuse i endured, but there is one memory of abuse that my mind keeps racing to. sorry about the spelling errors. but i remember i was in 1st grade and i liked to run and race people. suddenly a boy got behind me and pushed me and left me to die on...
    elizabeth45674 elizabeth45674 31-35, F Oct 22, 2013

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    Married For 3 Years Without Sex

    Neither of us intend to do it. It would turn the balance of our relation upside down, what was normal would become awkward. And i would lose my best friend. You do not need sex to feel love or to know how important your partner is to you.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    14 Years and Counting

    I have been completely celibate for 14 years now (1993).  That means I was celibate for the entire decade of my 20s!  A pretty rare feat, I believe!  I totally disagree with the byline for this group.  I am in no way, shape, or form "frigid"!  I...
    neptuneboy neptuneboy 31-35, M 12 Responses Aug 12, 2007

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    So Far...

    Im 22yrs. I am single, no kids, never been married. automatically someone might think okay, whats wrong with this one. Well, the reason why I am still single is because im celibate. I'm not a virgin, but just because I'm not doesn't give me an excuse to throw my body everywhere...
    Christianruby Christianruby 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 4, 2012

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    Why I Am Celibate

    Here is my story, i will be speaking openly and honestly and maybe somehow someone can benefit from it. I was married to a lovely woman, we had lots in common, we were basically best friends but we got divorced after 8 years. The main reason for this was because i had become...
    wraithorn wraithorn 41-45, M 18 Responses Oct 20, 2010

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