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I Am Celibate

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    Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person

    who puts more value into actually getting to know a person in a relationship than having sex. People look at me like I'm foolish just because I don't have sex 3 weeks into a relationship. Like where's the substance in that?
    lilhopie60 lilhopie60 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 13, 2015

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    By choice, because I am Christian

    and not married. I have a boyfriend and don't flirt with anyone else. It's his choice to be celibate before marriage too. We have the same beliefs.
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 21, 2014

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    Celibate For Now...

    I used to be in a marriage. It ended 2 and a half years ago just before our 21 anniversary. Since then I have been celibate by choice. No hugging, kissing, holding hands, dating, touching or even flirting with anybody. I wanted time to work on myself. It was only after the...
    Grieta Grieta 41-45, F 9 Responses Jan 10, 2011

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    I recently decided to become celibate.

    I was living with my boyfriend but I moved out. I want to be a committed follower of Jesus. Since my ex-boyfriend is Atheist and we have different views I made a very difficult choice of breaking up with him. I don't want to be intimate with anyone until marriage. I also don't...
    JazzyWriter91 JazzyWriter91 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 10, 2014

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    Hello everyone, I wish to become a purely

    rational being, or come as close to it as possible, and I simply cannot do that with these sexual desires. So I became a celibate, and I believe I will continue to be so for the rest of my life. the trick, as Buddhists put it, is not to shut away sexual emotions, which are...
    brinco23 brinco23 18-21 Sep 30, 2015

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    I have been celibate

    for three years now and its a struggle at times. It all started when I was 19 and I was having too much sex with my then boyfriend and I had a pregnancy scare. I've never been so afraid in my life! Good new is I wasn't pregnant, but I wanted to change my life and get closer to...
    xCourtneybx xCourtneybx 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 30, 2015

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    I Am Happy With My Celibacy!

    I am currently Celibate. I've been Celibate for three years now. It's a life style choice I decided to make after my most recent ex. The relationship wasn't abusive, but it was a bunch of b.s. But that is an experience for another group. Part of my decision to be Celibate...
    MissVenom MissVenom 22-25, F 5 Responses May 6, 2010

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    I have been celibate

    for three years now. It started out as a sort of time-out after divorce. I hadn't gone more than a few days without physical intimacy in the fifteen years I spent with my ex husband. And before him I had two two year serious relationships back to back. And before that, I had a...
    lovevolves8 lovevolves8 41-45, F 1 Response Dec 17, 2015

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    I am so sick of people telling me I am pretty

    and there is no need for me to be single. MY singledom is my choice, just like your dead end relationships are your choice. I am celibate because I got sick and tired of living my life by someone elses rules, it would take an awful lot for me to break my celibacy, in a way I...
    UnderTheBodhiTree UnderTheBodhiTree 31-35, F 10 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    Yes, I am. I'm a nun without a convent,

    vows, or a habit. Marriage did this to me. Ironic, isn't it.
    Carissimi Carissimi 56-60, F 11 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    I am celibate because I feel like only bad

    karma comes from having sex when you feel like it's too early, or you're not in love with that person. It's about respecting myself, and waiting for someone who's worth my time, effort, mind, soul, and body. I won't just use up my body for a few minutes of pleasure.
    lilhopie60 lilhopie60 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 16, 2014

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    On Purpose

    I write this story, not to sexualize myself even further, because I feel that I already do that too much on this website..... I write this story to show you who the real Brittany is, "behind the curtain", so to speak. I get on this site and speak sexually often, and I do so to...
    foldedunfolding foldedunfolding 31-35, F 39 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    3 years and running..

    . I refuse to sleep around until marriage( again) although sometimes I do tease men but that's all they're gonna get and nothing more. I guess that's the sadist part of me but if a guy can't respect my decision to wait then he's not worth my time.
    CantankerousBabe CantankerousBabe 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 10, 2014

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    I honestly think I just have been through

    so much emotionally and physically, that my body and brain just said '"you are spent". I literally don't miss having sex...ever. I don't think about it or yearn for it anymore. I had years of all of that and j think I'm just wanting to not have to worry if he will cheat because...
    Cinderfire Cinderfire 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 2, 2015

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    Why I Am Celibate

    Here is my story, i will be speaking openly and honestly and maybe somehow someone can benefit from it. I was married to a lovely woman, we had lots in common, we were basically best friends but we got divorced after 8 years. The main reason for this was because i had become...
    wraithorn wraithorn 46-50, M 22 Responses Oct 20, 2010

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    I have been celibate all my life.

    32 years. I would like to find a Boyfriend to change that.
    momonyc momonyc 31-35, F 2 Responses May 1, 2015

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    I simply have no need

    for a partner. STOP ASKING, DAMMIT.
    The3rdAndOnly The3rdAndOnly 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2015

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    I'm Broken And I Don't Know If I Can Be Fixed

    I have a messed-up relationship with sex. My mother had a string of men going in and out of her bedroom, and I was molested by several of them. I became promiscuous at a young age and equated sex with worth. When I was homeless I was a prostitute, and learned how to use my vagina...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F 6 Responses May 14, 2012

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    Trying Celibacy

    I have a very addictive personality. The internet is a crutch to act out all of my bad habits 90 % of the time I am surfing for inappropriate images of a sexual nature. I guess the main reasons are: bordom, its also a way of procrastinating, self-righteous justification...
    davidreid014 davidreid014 41-45 5 Responses Jul 11, 2010

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    Its The Best Time Of My Life.

    I have taken a life long vow of celibacy and no relationships. To be honest I dont miss sex at all. Dont get me wrong I like people but its having power over the mind and will for me. I have learned how to switch off the attraction button where I can look at the opposite sex that...
    craig2012 craig2012 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 29, 2013

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    18 years and counting.

    although I really love having something beautiful and sacred to believe in, you never know where the road will take you. ⭐️
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 10, 2015

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    14 Years and Counting

    I have been completely celibate for 14 years now (1993).  That means I was celibate for the entire decade of my 20s!  A pretty rare feat, I believe!  I totally disagree with the byline for this group.  I am in no way, shape, or form "frigid"!  I...
    neptuneboy neptuneboy 31-35, M 12 Responses Aug 12, 2007

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    That means no cyber stuff either.

    If anyone starts playing with themselves while texting me, I can sense it very strongly. Those things don't look nice when you bring them out to play. I understand that people get lonely and they want some human warmth to help them **** off, and their personal beliefs allow...
    GreenButtercup GreenButtercup 36-40, F 2 Responses May 12, 2014

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    So, I made it. I have not had sex with a man

    (Or woman, so don't ask) in a year. It was the most painful thing to do, but once I got passed the 7th month it seemed to get easier from there. It started out as my own personal penance, but it has now grown into something much more. I could go into long written details of...
    Stickwithmebaby Stickwithmebaby 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 14, 2015

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    I'm celibate because of my faith.

    I've had a very conflicted upbringing with my family and other Christians basically saying awful things about gay people. It took me a while to become okay with my sexuality, but no matter what for me personally, I can't buy into a affirming theology. Because of that, it would...
    dat9013 dat9013 22-25, M Dec 5, 2015

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    Married For 3 Years Without Sex

    Neither of us intend to do it. It would turn the balance of our relation upside down, what was normal would become awkward. And i would lose my best friend. You do not need sex to feel love or to know how important your partner is to you.
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    I'm 30 and have been celibate

    for 10 years. I'm proud of my decision but it makes it difficult to find a serious/stable relationship. I fear that I may die alone with no husband or children. So many people have sex without question. Some just jump right it regardless of consequence. As I said I'm proud of my...
    livefreenwise livefreenwise 26-30, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    hey guys, sorry if this post offends/upsets

    anyone in the slightest its not my intentions, but can some one explain the difference to celibate and abstinence i think i have the right idea, i would love a relationship but i don't want a relationship based on sex, i want to be in a happy care free (to an extent...
    lgallagher4 lgallagher4 22-25, M Jul 29, 2015

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    I have made mistakes before.

    I have been abused and so so anger before. That is not the life I know that would be right for me. Being celibate until marriage is something that I have vowed to God and myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 17, 2015

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    I Have Been Celibate For A Year Now.

    It was never intended, though I have made myself commit to celibacy at a couple of occasions, but I never made pass the 6 months mark. But I guess things happens, and you change in ways that is unexpected. I used to think I could never go without - as I have always been in...
    watchfulsoul watchfulsoul 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 7, 2010

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    Wanting To Be A Virgin For Life

    I'm a guy who loves and is really into things like classical and jazz music as well as things like reading, sports and writing poetry. So I have a lot of interests that take my time. I am currently a 20 year-old male college student. Usually the guys I hang around just want sex...
    tyc113 tyc113 18-21 12 Responses Jan 8, 2011

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    The holidays are hard

    for me. Being with my family and siblings when everyone is so focused on marriage and relationships. It is extremely frustrating to be be basically ignored because I'm not part of a couple. The hardest part is listening to my family makes jokes about me being alone, saying when...
    dat9013 dat9013 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

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    As we have been taught by Saint Paul in 1

    Corinthians 7:25-40: 25 Now concerning virgins, I have no command of the Lord, but I give my opinion as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26 I think that, in view of the impending crisis, it is well for you to remain as you are. 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not...
    TheNarrowGate TheNarrowGate 51-55, M Nov 2, 2015

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    One month of celibacy!

    Very proud of myself because I have a high sex drive. But I want to have sex with my husband not just some random guy who doesn't care about my feelings. I have made mistakes in my life and now that I'm older I don't want to make them mistakes again. My man is going to be my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 16, 2015

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    For about a year now ,

    ive used sex as a past time something to try and forget about the stress in my life. After every sexual experience i feel defensive and stressed and worthless. The funny thing is i never feel pleasure , i don't ever ****** and i do it as a thrill. I get a rush on pleasing...
    DTMR DTMR 22-25, F May 30, 2015

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    I am celibate because I am saving myself

    for marriage. My sins and past have been washed away. 3 years of sexual purity.. ☺️
    spreadthelove22 spreadthelove22 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3, 2014

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    A former Nymmphomaniac.

    It's been hard, it hasn't even been that long I guess, but it feels like it's been years. I've always thought every person on this earth has one ultimate temptation out of the 'seven deadly sins'. Envy, Lust , Greed, Wrath, Sloth, Gluttony, & Pride. It's obviously...
    FireflyOasis FireflyOasis 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    as monks are expected to be.

    I didn't become a monk, though, until my libido was fading, as I think it does for many middle-aged men. At this stage of my journey, I appreciate the added calm and focus that celibacy offers.
    FriarJuniper FriarJuniper 61-65, M 1 Response Dec 13, 2015

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    So I've been celibate

    since late Oct 2015. I dated someone who I realized we were not compatible and I decided I needed to take a break from dating, and hooking up. I really intended it to be a year and so I've been dating lately but haven't broken the celibacy. I actually almost did but the guy...
    fattybratty fattybratty 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    idk man sex is just meh,

    so much energy and focus and yeah I honestly don't have the time for it between school and teaching and running a business and I rarely crave sex anyways so it's not really a big thing. I'd be down for a relationship just not a sexual one.
    UnidentifiedCryingobject UnidentifiedCryingobject 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 23, 2015

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    I created a Fb support group to deal with not

    having sex in my life. Find us
    CutthroatCaramel CutthroatCaramel 22-25, F Sep 24, 2015

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    Since 2011... and I'm turning 29 in a month!

    I had a real nice story but it got deleted. Sigh, maybe I"ll re write it later. In short I'm CELIABTE! ----- 7/7/14 Updated ----- So the reason I am celibate is because I had my virginity taken from me. I didn't have a say, I was introduce to "sex" at a very young age...
    MysticBeauty MysticBeauty 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 19, 2014

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    Above Natural and Beyond Ethical

    I am 31 and have been celibate for over 10yrs. I have no expectation of renouncing my commitment. Although I have numerous philosophical and practical reasons (not due to lack of opportunity) I must admit that I felt a personal calling from God. When I first was called...
    chromaticone chromaticone 36-40, M 5 Responses Apr 17, 2009

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    I love celibacy, but honestly I wish I was

    asexual. It would make things so much easier.
    Contra23 Contra23 22-25, M 2 Responses Apr 10, 2015

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    The Road Less Traveled.

    I have been chaste my entire life. I have not had sex of any kind whatsoever -- I’m a Virgin in the true sense of the word. There is really nothing unique about this. Despite what you may have heard, everyone is not doing it, and there are more Virgins around than you...
    MissDaphne05EV MissDaphne05EV 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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