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I Am Challenging Marriage And Divorce

Redefining social norms in better understanding of balancing vows and individual rights together or apart. 6 People

    Return To Saturn

    For the next year, I am making it a challenge to redefine, revisit, and discover what both marriage and divorce means. Looking at vows and at legal divorce papers aren't enough to set things right. I am going to have to get my hands really dirty and find some truth, carve some...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 8 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    Final Countdown

    OK. After many last attempts to find some sort of common ground, some bit of love to salvage, I had to make the decision. He played his part in where it is going to go. It being an important decision, I wanted to challenge all concepts before just jumping in and deciding. He...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 5 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    Rediscovering Ageless Wisdom

    I can't stand it when divorce gets thrown around like some sort of tool to hurt the other person. I don't take it seriously anymore when it is said because there has been no action to follow through with it for years. When I have gotten close to completing divorce, he tries to...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Apr 1, 2010

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    Unbelievable

    This puts another nail in the coffin of our marriage. After everything I went though. After everything the kids went through. He is acting like nothing happened. This is his way of trying to avoid divorce by playing dumb. He just sent me an email saying he deleted his EP...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    The Last Thing I Need

    Is another man telling me what to do, not listening, then shoving his job in my face like it's going to make him a credible person. Maybe it's because I am pregnant, I am trying to feel out this new life, and I am extremely emotional. I am up early in the morning because these...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    One Single Reason

    Here is one single reason why I am reconsidering divorce. I don't want people knocking on my door for a date. I am annoyed right now that it is starting to happen and I haven't yet declared anything official or signed the papers. I get sick that at the first jump of me being...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    Root Cause - As I progress through my divorce, I attend a divorce/separation support group in-person once a week. There are about 50 members of this group, and they represent a...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 28 Responses Oct 8

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    Well, I don't live in a SM anymore. I left him 1-year ago today. I'm still sexless (not for the whole year) but that's now my choice as opposed to a symptom. Choice feels way...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 20

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    I went to my first separated and divorced group support meeting this week. Is nice to be around others that are going through this, especially people that are in different stages...
    Itsmytime2be Itsmytime2be 41-45, F 12 Responses a week ago

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    There’s a number of reasons why people live in sexless marriages, every married couple’s situation is different; you could talk to fifteen different couples and hear fifteen...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 8 Responses Oct 17

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    I am getting a divorce. I’ve waited a very long time to say those words. And even though I’m scared, at the same time I’m relieved that this is coming to an end. I don’t...
    miryam57 miryam57 56-60, F 5 Responses Oct 23

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    From HuffPost Divorce:The Problem with Staying Together for the Kids Mom and dad don't like each other. They don't make small talk. They don't chuckle about last night's episode...
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    Hi I am new to this forum but I have had the opportunity to read posts and study them. I feel less lonely now and realize that my experience is shared by many. I decided to post as...
    FantasticNJGuy FantasticNJGuy 41-45, M 12 Responses Oct 7

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    Staying Married for the Sake of the Kids - The following article published in Teen Vogue this month was written by someone who's parents divorced when she was a teenager - we...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 16 Responses Oct 22

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    After a seven-year relationship and a marriage barely 1-year old, he emotionally stepped out on me. I believe he was cheating. He never admitted to it, but I believe it more and...
    rememberyouarenotalone rememberyouarenotalone 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 2

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    First off I am not someone to join a forum like this I usually keep things private, but I am interested in other peoples views especially women. I am a married man with 2 kids...
    Henjo24 Henjo24 26-30, M 8 Responses Oct 9

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    I'm new here and hope my post makes it to the right place. I've been with my H for 17 years. He's 10 years older than I am, I'm 55. from the beginning he had ED problems, but I...
    Sarita22 Sarita22 46-50, F 20 Responses Oct 14

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    Seems like my years for relationships are just getting worse and worse. This year would have made 5 years that my husband and I were together. I cheated for a while (mistake #1...
    MyFaithIsBigger MyFaithIsBigger 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 19

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    Hi good morning. I can sympathize with your feelings. In my own marriage after 25 years. There was no more sex. For two years. It began to build the wall in between us. My wife at...
    sunney55 sunney55 46-50, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    So, I've posted previously, but its a been a long time. I've been married over 11 years, the vast majority of which which have been sexless. I've spoken to my wife countless times...
    Xaeth Xaeth 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 8

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    To my fellow suffers I have a question. Let me first say that I know I'm an idiot. I married my first wife when I was 26 y.o.a. and I had some red flags but I thought I could fix...
    Nick5211 Nick5211 51-55, M 5 Responses Oct 11

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    So rock me momma like a wagon wheel Rock me momma any way you feel Hey momma rock me Rock me momma like the wind and the rain Rock me momma like a south bound train Hey momma rock...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 10 Responses Oct 22

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    My marriage and subsequent divorce taught me a lesson..never let anyone treat you less than what you deserve..or make you feel like you aren't important..it's the lesson now that I...
    LOOKN4NSIGHT43 LOOKN4NSIGHT43 41-45, F 2 Responses Oct 6

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    Slaying Dragons: A Sleepless Journey Into Oppositeland… Having spent over a year wandering in Oppositeland, the refuge for escapees from a sexless marriage, I am experiencing...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 16 Responses Oct 11

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    House of Mirrors - My STBX said the creepiest thing to me last night. He came into my bedroom (I moved into the guest room 4 months ago), sat on the edge of my bed (which he hasn...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 29 Responses Oct 13

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    When you break the vows of marriage, you have lied before God, you have before all the company of Heaven. Make a marriage takes steadfast devotion. Divorce may be legal in the...
    Nigel1224 Nigel1224 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 20

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    I apologize for those who have had divorce for good reasons but I hate divorce with a passion. I have quite a few family members who have been through this. It makes me sad to see...
    ComplicatedGirl18 ComplicatedGirl18 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    I am not part of this forum but I would appreciate any input others may have. I would like to ask people of divorced parents if there was ever a time in your parents marriage that...
    lilymn lilymn 46-50, F Oct 23

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    Stress and Inaction ... I quote the following from "Thrive" by Brendan Brazier: "Ironically, complementary stress [the good kind] can arise when uncomplementary stress is no...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    Revised for offensive content: Last night I set the stage for an argument this weekend. Yesterday I came home from work in a good mood and hugged my wife when she came through...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 14 Responses Oct 3

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    14 years sexless and I give up. I have tried talking, threatening her with divorce and living apart for periods of time. She will not go to counseling with me. It is a control...
    Greem Greem 61-65, M 3 Responses Oct 5

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    I'm making strides in the divorce process since I first posted here. Once I realized I needed to get out, there has been an urgency to get things moving on my end. I have talked...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 12 Responses Oct 7

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    I think I just discovered why I ended up in an emotionally abusive controlling marriage. I always thought you had to look at your parent of the opposite sex. For me I think it...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 12

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    On the 21 Oct it will be exactly 1-year since I moved out. I'm thinking a lot about this year. It's been the hardest year of my life! Everyone said that divorce is tough. But I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    If you knew you were going to live another 20-30 or so years would you be willing to remain in a sexless marriage or would you divorce? According to this quiz, I will live...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 17 Responses Oct 13

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    I would be lying if I said I've never struggled. The first 2 years of marriage can be tough, especially having married at a young age without having dated many guys. Lucky for me...
    ShimmerSquirrels13 ShimmerSquirrels13 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    I have a fear. Seeing as how we all agree my husband is a narcissist/sociopath I'm scared about the divorce. He makes a lot of money and I'm afraid it will be used against me in...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 5 Responses Oct 14

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    Just had a meeting with my therapist. We have narrowed everything down to just one question I have to ask my wife. I guess this is a politically correct way of asking the nuclear...
    dynamic71 dynamic71 41-45, M 22 Responses Oct 14

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    I have told my husband several times, when I was in anger, that I was going to divorce him someday. And every time he complains about all things that make me a bad wife and mother...
    Tamara68 Tamara68 46-50, F 12 Responses Oct 15

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    Who complains about an hour long back massage ? .... who complains about a dozen roses for no reason ? .... who complains about texts about how beautiful she is and how special...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 22 Responses Oct 21

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    Funny situation I'd like some input on. So anyway, Lucy has facebook, I've left her to her privacy and not snooped. It's often left open on our shared computer , for whatever...
    1RedKing 1RedKing 41-45, M 13 Responses Oct 22

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