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I Am Challenging Marriage And Divorce

Redefining social norms in better understanding of balancing vows and individual rights together or apart. 6 People

    Unbelievable

    This puts another nail in the coffin of our marriage. After everything I went though. After everything the kids went through. He is acting like nothing happened. This is his way of trying to avoid divorce by playing dumb. He just sent me an email saying he deleted his EP...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    Final Countdown

    OK. After many last attempts to find some sort of common ground, some bit of love to salvage, I had to make the decision. He played his part in where it is going to go. It being an important decision, I wanted to challenge all concepts before just jumping in and deciding. He...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 5 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    One Single Reason

    Here is one single reason why I am reconsidering divorce. I don't want people knocking on my door for a date. I am annoyed right now that it is starting to happen and I haven't yet declared anything official or signed the papers. I get sick that at the first jump of me being...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    The Last Thing I Need

    Is another man telling me what to do, not listening, then shoving his job in my face like it's going to make him a credible person. Maybe it's because I am pregnant, I am trying to feel out this new life, and I am extremely emotional. I am up early in the morning because these...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    Return To Saturn

    For the next year, I am making it a challenge to redefine, revisit, and discover what both marriage and divorce means. Looking at vows and at legal divorce papers aren't enough to set things right. I am going to have to get my hands really dirty and find some truth, carve some...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 8 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    Rediscovering Ageless Wisdom

    I can't stand it when divorce gets thrown around like some sort of tool to hurt the other person. I don't take it seriously anymore when it is said because there has been no action to follow through with it for years. When I have gotten close to completing divorce, he tries to...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Apr 1, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    I got an email from my very religious sister-in-law. She and my brother have offered to bring me back to the States to stay if I were to wish to leave him, but as I told them both...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 1 Response 11 mins ago

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    Stuff I Used To Think (but don't any more) In regard to sexless marriages, I once used to think that the complainant person - - was probably a hopelessly bad root - wasn't...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 7 Responses Mar 24

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    For those staying in miserable sexless marriages "for the sake of the kids": "On Monday, one Redditor grappling with that very question went straight to the source, asking those...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses 1 day ago

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    For Kids Sake.... As part of our divorce and the process both my stbx and my therapist suggested a seminar called For Kids Sake. I got quite a bit out of it myself. I attended...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 30

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    My husband and I got married in March 2010 and had our first child by October that year. We had our second child January 2013 and by the end of that month my hubby told me he was...
    Itonlytakesone Itonlytakesone 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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    This is a little harder then I thought.... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    In case you think that Opposite Land is perfect, it isn't. No tax refund for me this year. Instead, a $6,500 tax bill due to how things worked out for me in the divorce settlement...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Apr 15

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    A Discovery of Self....When I first started coming to this website I had a typical everything was okay bar the sex attitude. I still wanted to divorce but I didn't want to hurt my...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response a week ago

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    My time has come. Court is tomorrow. Hopefully it is the last court date and I get my divorce. It is bittersweet. I had such hopes. I took my vows seriously. For better or worse...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 25 Responses 6 days ago

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    It's over. All would be so much easier if I weren't so emotional about my own life. Unfortunately, when you are in a marriage that lacks love, and all that entails, you simply have...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 24 Responses 4 days ago

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    I asked for a divorce 2 months ago. He moved out 2 weeks ago. Divorce will be final in 6 months. I wrote all my stories in I live in a sexless marriage group. I have been a member...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    I would be celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary this June, but instead I hope to have my divorce final by then. My husbands affair put the nail in the coffin of our marriage...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    The divorce rate is high and getting higher. I have a best friend and my older brother that have been divorced both with a little child. I don't believe in marriage and or love. It...
    Spiritm Spiritm 26-30, M Apr 13

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    Things You Really Need To Challenge Your Thinking About. - - 1 - That "everything is great bar the sex" 2 - That the vows you made are inviolate 3 - That your spouse loves you 4...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 12 Responses Apr 15

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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses 1 day ago

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    I had my first boyfriend when I was 16. We met each other at church and we also attended the same high school. He was a year older than me so he graduated from high school and...
    leimomo leimomo 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    So I have a huge decision that needs to be made, that is giving me many sleepless nights. If you read my back story, you will understand the state of my marriage. My husband took a...
    Maezy64 Maezy64 46-50, F 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    A man and women get married,,, everything so good for the first five years or more,,, Then you have MM come in your life spark that old fire back up,, yes he will tell you...
    pullupgirl103 pullupgirl103 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I was raised to believe that if you're unhappy in marriage you deal with it, find a way to fix it if you can, but you don't ever quit. It was weakness, or laziness I suppose...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Separated and getting a divorce. It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F Apr 14

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    Weird or just sad? Had a great weekend with the kids! Only it was her weekend, and her family was in town for my son's birthday party. The kids were still based with her, she...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 14

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    I just read the story on the caretaker from NeedingtoVent (thank you NTV), and it really hit me hard. In my journey I am recognizing my failings to be far greater than I thought...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses a week ago

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    So... My dad recently passed away... I can't even think of it, I'm so overcome with grief at the mention of him and it all makes me very sad... We never really lived together...
    Orangerocket Orangerocket 31-35, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 14 Responses Apr 10

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    This is the sort of situation I never thought I would get into. I thought I was too old and too smart to make the mistakes I'd seen my friends go through in their early twenties...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses Apr 13

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    So. I wanted to update on how fabulous my husband is getting at all of this. It all started with hand spanking... and let me tell you, we've come a far way! This month marks a...
    Tihtil Tihtil 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 24

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    Why won't you just let me go?! I'm doing you, us, a favor by owning it all and *trying* to set you free! But no, you hold on for dear effing life. Am I property? Status? A promise...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 10 Responses Mar 26

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    It's a tale as old as time - stay for the kids. I have always said I would stay for the sake of my daughter. I would decide what direction to take after she leaves home. That...
    Steph613 Steph613 41-45, F 8 Responses Mar 27

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    Update: I was active on this site about 2 years ago. I read all the posts and despite the enormous body of experience laid out I still somehow thought I would be different. I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 30

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    I always see advice from people on this board that one should seek legal counsel before they begin the journey towards ending their....well I guess legally it's termed a marriage...
    demisis demisis 36-40, M 10 Responses 3 days ago

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    I love my wife - except she has no sex drive. It's been almost 15 months since we had sex. I know she would have sex with me if I initiated it but I'm tired of always feeling like...
    clhockey5779 clhockey5779 31-35, M 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    "You'll never leave where you are, until you decide where you want to be." Saw this on a sign today and it seems to sum up my position. I saw my trusted counselor last week that...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    For those of you that have left your SM's, I pose a question: Was the pain initiated with divorce greater than what you experienced during your SM? I ask this because my H and I...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 38 Responses Mar 27

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