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I Am Challenging Marriage And Divorce

Redefining social norms in better understanding of balancing vows and individual rights together or apart. 6 People

    Final Countdown

    OK. After many last attempts to find some sort of common ground, some bit of love to salvage, I had to make the decision. He played his part in where it is going to go. It being an important decision, I wanted to challenge all concepts before just jumping in and deciding. He...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 5 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    One Single Reason

    Here is one single reason why I am reconsidering divorce. I don't want people knocking on my door for a date. I am annoyed right now that it is starting to happen and I haven't yet declared anything official or signed the papers. I get sick that at the first jump of me being...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    Return To Saturn

    For the next year, I am making it a challenge to redefine, revisit, and discover what both marriage and divorce means. Looking at vows and at legal divorce papers aren't enough to set things right. I am going to have to get my hands really dirty and find some truth, carve some...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 8 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    The Last Thing I Need

    Is another man telling me what to do, not listening, then shoving his job in my face like it's going to make him a credible person. Maybe it's because I am pregnant, I am trying to feel out this new life, and I am extremely emotional. I am up early in the morning because these...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    Rediscovering Ageless Wisdom

    I can't stand it when divorce gets thrown around like some sort of tool to hurt the other person. I don't take it seriously anymore when it is said because there has been no action to follow through with it for years. When I have gotten close to completing divorce, he tries to...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Apr 1, 2010

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    Unbelievable

    This puts another nail in the coffin of our marriage. After everything I went though. After everything the kids went through. He is acting like nothing happened. This is his way of trying to avoid divorce by playing dumb. He just sent me an email saying he deleted his EP...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Have any of you suffered a huge financial blow as a result of the divorce? Can you still say you are happier even though you are a lot bit poorer than you would have been if you...
    lycheechan lycheechan 31-35, F 6 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 2 days ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 22 Responses 2 days ago

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    “Why should I, as a gay man, be denied the same right to file a joint tax return with my potential husband that a straight couple has?” Very helpful answer by Ryan T. Anderson...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 1 Response 5 hrs ago

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    I don't know what I ever saw in the man I married. I had an affair and my husband found out. We went to counseling. The counselor even wondered why we were together, we are such...
    anavay anavay 41-45, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    This may be helpful for those who are planning to divorce. " Getting Divorced? Don't Be Nice ...I regularly hear people tell me they want to be nice to their soon-to-be ex. They...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    Update from the Battlefield - Since notifying my H three days ago that I've hired a lawyer and we're getting divorced, he has launched a full scale verbal attack on my character...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 35 Responses Jul 8

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    To me, marriage is TOO binding. Honestly, how many people can actually be happy together forever? The answer is 50%. half of marriages end in divorce. I believe that being in an...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    Language Barrier I’ve determined that my STBX and I speak two entirely different languages, and he doesn’t understand anything I say – or have ever said – to him about my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses Jul 16

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    I met my wife Sarah in 2008. We met through her friend. We started dating and things were progressing fast, we got engaged and got married in October of 2009. Things were not...
    SimpleGuy77 SimpleGuy77 36-40 1 Response Jul 11

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 20

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    Summoning Reinforcements - Those of you who have been following my story as I extract myself from the clutches of a sexless marriage know the shame my STBX has been inflicting on...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 27 Responses 3 days ago

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    Very helpful article http://www.nationalreview.com/article/378538/marriage-where-do-we-go-here-ryan-t-anderson
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 4 hrs ago

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    Blast off! So I told my husband I wanted a divorce today, and tried to give him a letter from my lawyer to make it a reality. It did not go well. My H said he won't agree to a...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses Jul 5

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    I finally got the courage to tell my husband that I wanted a divorce. This man has cheated on me, emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me, he put his job in front of me...
    futureexwife14 futureexwife14 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 13 Responses Jul 21

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    Baby Steps - Once we acknowledge our sexless marriages will never improve and we need to end our dysfunctional relationships, many of us feel overwhelmed by the seemingly...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 9 Responses 6 days ago

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    Yesterday I posted a post-divorce update - kind of a one year out of a SM report. A lot of the responses were about having the conviction to divorce. I looked in my journal for...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    It sounds a little strange to say "happily" because going through my divorce was the most heartbreaking, unhappy time of my life! It was like falling into a bottomless pit of...
    StarLily71 StarLily71 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 6

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    Let me begin by saying how grateful I am for finding this group. I have been in a sexless marriage for 5.5 years now. I have 3 kids (1 from a previous marriageand 2 with my...
    StrongForMyKids StrongForMyKids 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 6

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    i just realized that I have been in an unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 11 Responses Jul 20

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    Marriage is a huge leap of faith! If more people took their vows seriously than there would be less cases of divorce. Anyone who's married know that it's not easy & a lot of work...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    Lessons From Finance Class... I'm taking Business Finance this month (because nothing is more fun than sixteen-week courses packed into a four-week-long summer class), and my...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 13 Responses Jul 10

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    Telling the Kids Yesterday, we told the kids we were getting a divorce. Five of our six kids (who range in age from 15 to 27) gathered at home for a “family meeting”, and my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 35 Responses Jul 21

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    In 2003 I fled Finland with my 3 children(2 his,1 not) after 13 years in a abusive marriage. We arrived back in America with the clothes on our backs literally. In the divorce I...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    How do you know if it's really over? My husband and I relationship always consisted of "extreme moments"- when things are great they are head over heels great! In turn when...
    Ashante90 Ashante90 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    Yesterday was one of those days here. Just one day, just one experience…although I bet my little girl will not soon forget it. A reminder my daughter is 13. She went off the...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 46-50, F 12 Responses Jul 13

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    Best Friends? - One of the appeals my STBX made to me when he was trying to change my mind about divorcing him was that he was "losing his best friend". That made me pause and...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 19 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am only in it because I need his financial support for our kids. He cheated on me last year and it ruined our 20 year marriage. He lied repeatedly and I am exhausted with all...
    Lifeissad789 Lifeissad789 46-50, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    At the age of 26 my parents filed for divorce. They've been together since their teen years, 37 years, and married for 27. I am not upset AT them for this midlife change, they've...
    LostnExcited LostnExcited 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    For about a year I've been considering divorcing my wife of nearly 8 years. Our relationship has never been great. We are great friends, but horrible lovers/spouses. We do things...
    randomtiger45 randomtiger45 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I am losing. I am not going to win this marriage back, so I have got to let go. It's been 9 months, and he's not coming home. The kids and I are alone and it's truly hard to...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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    For those (particularly men) who think outsourcing would be cheaper than divorce, check this out while remembering that you still may have to pay for a divorce. "From the...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 16 Responses Jul 21

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    I have a very hard time in my marriage. My husband is very dominant and I am extremely passive. I let things go that normal people would go crazy over just because I hate...
    lp1989 lp1989 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 23

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    I think I belong to this group with my story instead of ILISM, or both.. Something just doesn’t feel right on the inside of me. I have this heart that can love and be loved, but...
    moonstruck77 moonstruck77 46-50, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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