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I Am Challenging Marriage And Divorce

Redefining social norms in better understanding of balancing vows and individual rights together or apart. 6 People

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    For the next year, I am making it a challenge to redefine, revisit, and discover what both marriage and divorce means. Looking at vows and at legal divorce papers aren't enough to set things right. I am going to have to get my hands really dirty and find some truth, carve some...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 8 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    The Last Thing I Need

    Is another man telling me what to do, not listening, then shoving his job in my face like it's going to make him a credible person. Maybe it's because I am pregnant, I am trying to feel out this new life, and I am extremely emotional. I am up early in the morning because these...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    Unbelievable

    This puts another nail in the coffin of our marriage. After everything I went though. After everything the kids went through. He is acting like nothing happened. This is his way of trying to avoid divorce by playing dumb. He just sent me an email saying he deleted his EP...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    One Single Reason

    Here is one single reason why I am reconsidering divorce. I don't want people knocking on my door for a date. I am annoyed right now that it is starting to happen and I haven't yet declared anything official or signed the papers. I get sick that at the first jump of me being...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    Final Countdown

    OK. After many last attempts to find some sort of common ground, some bit of love to salvage, I had to make the decision. He played his part in where it is going to go. It being an important decision, I wanted to challenge all concepts before just jumping in and deciding. He...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 5 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    Rediscovering Ageless Wisdom

    I can't stand it when divorce gets thrown around like some sort of tool to hurt the other person. I don't take it seriously anymore when it is said because there has been no action to follow through with it for years. When I have gotten close to completing divorce, he tries to...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Apr 1, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    You know when you get the cue for the right time on some thing? well...i think this is it. this is my cue to divorce my husband. We have been very unhappy with our marriage. From...
    lilacslolita lilacslolita 22-25, F 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    These are just random thoughts of mine recently as I have gone about my journey. Probably not very clear, so apologies if its a rough read:) My divorce was absolutely the hardest...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 23

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    Being Perfect - One commonality I've discerned among our Refusers is their firm belief that there is nothing wrong with them ("them" being people who avoid having sex with their...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Sep 8

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    STBX is back in town after 2 weeks away spent with his gF. This is going to be a difficult week. The realty of our divorce is setting in for him and he's realizing that he does not...
    kitticat007 kitticat007 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    Undecided whether to post this under this group or under the other one "I'm having random thoughts", I believe posted here the discussion shall be more thoughtful and sensitive...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 10 Responses a week ago

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    The compromise promise. I ran into a former colleague yesterday. When I worked with him I got to know his wife and kids, and the couple seemed happily married, but got divorced a...
    something2talkabout something2talkabout 51-55, M 8 Responses a week ago

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    "A first meeting with a lawyer. It is that simple." As I progress in my journey towards exit, I just realised that it is quite helpful to allow sufficient time to stop and ponder...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 13 Responses Sep 7

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    I need advise on how do I get divorce without hurting my wife and kids.. My wife is good human being .. It's just that nothing happens the way I wanted my married life to go.. It's...
    lovencare lovencare 46-50, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Come hell or high water I'm done. I'm tired of the excuses, the lies, being blamed, and the gaslighting . I am ready to face I am in an abusive withholding relationship and have...
    selfcompassion selfcompassion 51-55, F 4 hrs ago

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    Since I last wrote on here, my husband and I have decided to divorce after 7 years of marriage. The last time we had sex was really weird, and I just felt so distant. Counseling...
    VanillaAlmond1 VanillaAlmond1 31-35, F 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    I met my husband in the 7th grade but we didn't connect until high school. I became pregnant in our Senior year and we were married while still in school (a week to the day after...
    olderbutnotdead olderbutnotdead 51-55, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    "For Better or For Worse" I have been thinking about this particular vow. As someone who was brought up from birth in the church, I was always taught that divorce is not optional...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 9 Responses Sep 2

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    When I originally posted in April of 2011, I was living in a sexless marriage. I was confused, heartbroken and angry... What happened in the 3 years following has nearly destroyed...
    malms malms 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 8

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    Me, myself and my parents marriage... I asked my wife to go to a shrink with me about 3 years ago. she did not refuse the idea, but she ways always too busy, or tired or had a...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    Dear, "Our lives improve ONLY when we take chances, and the first and the most difficult chance to take is to be honest to ourselves. TRUST is the hardest thing to find and the...
    kenmok kenmok 36-40, M 3 days ago

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 14 Responses 2 days ago

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    I've moved on! I discovered EP in June of 2011 because I wanted to learn about phone encounters...(I don't wanna write s..... e.... x... because then Ep doesn't always let me...
    jessesgirl24 jessesgirl24 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    I have been married for 25 years and made the decision to divorce my husband. I lost my identity during my marriage. I cared for the children , home and my husband, but no body...
    peacefulone1 peacefulone1 46-50, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I’m seeing the light, I hope! I posted last week on this site as a newcomer, and I wanted to thank everyone who responded constructively. Most of all, I want to mention that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 13 Responses Sep 3

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    the years have passed on by.I went into a marriage with open arms and great anticipation of happily ever after.What I got was two wonderful children which I raised alone as a...
    bignatbreastluver bignatbreastluver 46-50, M Aug 24

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    This is my second divorce. It was finalized this past Wednesday. I'm very disappointed in the whole idea of love right now. After giving one hundred percent to both wives, I find...
    NMBtruth1 NMBtruth1 41-45, M 1 Response Aug 31

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    The Scarlet Letter - Last night was very eventful in the Cherish household. I was drawn and quartered in front of my children, and the scarlet letter "A" branded on my forehead by...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 29 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been divorced since December 2010. Separated before that...August 2009. I should have filed for divorce first...but I wanted the marriage to work..so I filed for legal...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well. It is finally official. I am divorced! After all the craziness, after years of sexless marriage and emotional distance, after emotional and physical abuse, after having an...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 22

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    Everything is ok but sex. Yes, I know; those are the most unpopular words here. Those who dare to utter them are frequently treated with …….. But I just wanted to give some...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 8 Responses Sep 2

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    Journey to Opposite Land - I'm still swimming strong headed for the opposite shore. My lawyer filed my motion for divorce this week, and I'm ensconced in the guest bedroom of my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 21 Responses Sep 5

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    I wanted to post and solicit some advice. I have been waiting for my wife to go our of town for a few weeks now. I was/am planning to see a divorce lawyer, one that specializes in...
    hoss350 hoss350 41-45, M 12 Responses Sep 10

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 23 Responses Aug 27

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    I've been putting off this update for a while. I cannot do so any longer. It's long and winding, so if you choose to dive in, prepare yourself. Curious things are happening in...
    Catonapillow Catonapillow 31-35, F 21 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm recently married. My husband and I dated/lived together for 2 1/2 years and then tied the knot on Aug 1 2013. The wedding was beautiful..the honeymoon was fantastic. When we...
    emilylwlr emilylwlr 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 4

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    Throughout my marriage my husband has been unfaithful in some sort of way. He would make online profiles on adultfriendfinder and other adult dating sites to talk to women. We have...
    elle1640 elle1640 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    I don't usually post random thoughts, but my STBX's stupidity has reached a new low and I am frustrated beyond belief with his attitude. - Two months ago, when I finally told my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses 5 days ago

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    I married a great guy! Seriously. He is just not into any form of sex. No hand holding, No kissing, no nothing. Last time we had sex. 13 years ago. Conceived our last daughter. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 17 Responses Aug 24

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    I have been denied sex by my wife for the past 24 years. I acknowledge that in the beginning I was responsible for most of the problems in the relationship. I was an alcoholic and...
    davejgj davejgj 66-70, M 2 Responses Aug 25

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    This year has been one hell of a year already. After 7 years of being married, I decided that I just couldn't handle anymore of it. For the last 5 years, I have overanalyzed every...
    AloneandWantingOut AloneandWantingOut 26-30, F Sep 11

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    Invisible For far too long you have made me feel as if I were invisible As if I don’t exist in your world at all like a ghost incorporeal The promise made in the beginning was a...
    Warriorpoett Warriorpoett 56-60, M 8 Responses Sep 8

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    I need some support. I checked on the status of divorce proceedings today. Had to leave a message. I am shaking. It doesn't help that there's a THIRD paralegal change since I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 25

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    Married 23 years, no sex for the last 5. If you count years when sex occurred less than half a dozen times, then the number of sexless years climbs to 15. Some people say that a...
    EmbraceMe68 EmbraceMe68 41-45, F 25 Responses Aug 26

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    I live in a sexless marriage have been for the last 6 years... Just didn't realize I was until recently. In my situation i never married for love, didn't even find him attractive...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 28

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