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I Am Challenging Marriage And Divorce

Redefining social norms in better understanding of balancing vows and individual rights together or apart. 6 People

    Final Countdown

    OK. After many last attempts to find some sort of common ground, some bit of love to salvage, I had to make the decision. He played his part in where it is going to go. It being an important decision, I wanted to challenge all concepts before just jumping in and deciding. He...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 5 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    Rediscovering Ageless Wisdom

    I can't stand it when divorce gets thrown around like some sort of tool to hurt the other person. I don't take it seriously anymore when it is said because there has been no action to follow through with it for years. When I have gotten close to completing divorce, he tries to...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Apr 1, 2010

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    Return To Saturn

    For the next year, I am making it a challenge to redefine, revisit, and discover what both marriage and divorce means. Looking at vows and at legal divorce papers aren't enough to set things right. I am going to have to get my hands really dirty and find some truth, carve some...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 8 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    The Last Thing I Need

    Is another man telling me what to do, not listening, then shoving his job in my face like it's going to make him a credible person. Maybe it's because I am pregnant, I am trying to feel out this new life, and I am extremely emotional. I am up early in the morning because these...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    One Single Reason

    Here is one single reason why I am reconsidering divorce. I don't want people knocking on my door for a date. I am annoyed right now that it is starting to happen and I haven't yet declared anything official or signed the papers. I get sick that at the first jump of me being...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    Unbelievable

    This puts another nail in the coffin of our marriage. After everything I went though. After everything the kids went through. He is acting like nothing happened. This is his way of trying to avoid divorce by playing dumb. He just sent me an email saying he deleted his EP...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 7 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    As I have posted before, our problem is not one of refusal. If it were I would have left long ago. My hubby has ED,so is just not able,but WILLING.....(sigh). I have no problem...
    StarKat StarKat 41-45 8 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    I talked to my father in heaven about some of the problems I've been having many times recently. Chronic alcohol inebriation, lying, ***********, sneaking to bars at night...
    dave56901 dave56901 31-35, M 9 hrs ago

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    Stuff I Used To Think (but don't any more) In regard to sexless marriages, I once used to think that the complainant person - - was probably a hopelessly bad root - wasn't...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 7 Responses Mar 24

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    For Kids Sake.... As part of our divorce and the process both my stbx and my therapist suggested a seminar called For Kids Sake. I got quite a bit out of it myself. I attended...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 7 Responses Mar 30

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    I'm 23 and I've been married 10 months to the man I've been dating since I was 15. We've been together for 7 years. What makes this situation so hard is that there is nothing...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    This is a little harder then I thought.... A few years ago when I first joined this site I made the mistake of doing what I usually do in the real world...which is pretend like...
    xXxsilvermistxXx xXxsilvermistxXx 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    In case you think that Opposite Land is perfect, it isn't. No tax refund for me this year. Instead, a $6,500 tax bill due to how things worked out for me in the divorce settlement...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 12 Responses 3 days ago

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    We met when i was 16 and he was 17. Dated for 3 yrs and got married right after i graduated high school. During my last year in HS he joined the military. we stayed together and...
    PerdidaPorEl PerdidaPorEl 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I'll be married for 10 years in November. We have been together 14 years. I am 35 and my husband is 40. We dated 4 years before we got married.We had sex very few times when I was...
    sweetwoman34 sweetwoman34 31-35, F 29 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Wake up mode! I am I great pain and can't control it! I am trying to figure out how to get over it. I found a few things to think about, that may help me. I tried to force true...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 9 Responses Mar 18

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    A Discovery of Self....When I first started coming to this website I had a typical everything was okay bar the sex attitude. I still wanted to divorce but I didn't want to hurt my...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    Thought this was worth a read. Not applicable to all but still interesting. A lack of sexual interest in women is a big topic Fotolia_49866286_XS Peter and Andrea are teachers...
    HusbandOfOne HusbandOfOne 41-45, M 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I am 36 years old. I shock many when they find out about my inexperience and lack of knowledge of most things romantic. I am still waiting for my first real kiss. I am still...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My time has come. Court is tomorrow. Hopefully it is the last court date and I get my divorce. It is bittersweet. I had such hopes. I took my vows seriously. For better or worse...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 23 Responses 1 day ago

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    "The Dummies Guide To Ending A Sexless Marriage" or "How I Learned Not To Give Up Emotional and Physical Intimacy" by CherishMe2 Step 1: Acknowledge that the lack of emotional...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 11 Responses Mar 18

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    I am curious, if a person is not Christian then where do the guidelines for what to do in marriage come from? This isn't meant to be antagonistic at all, it is a question I have...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 16 Responses Mar 20

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    Well I finally got help with my depression that was contributed by my abusive cheating husband. I was alone, depressed, withdrawn, and suicidal. But as I got the time to hurt, I...
    2young4marriage 2young4marriage 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 19

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    I asked for a divorce 2 months ago. He moved out 2 weeks ago. Divorce will be final in 6 months. I wrote all my stories in I live in a sexless marriage group. I have been a member...
    Cucly80 Cucly80 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    I would be celebrating my 25th wedding anniversary this June, but instead I hope to have my divorce final by then. My husbands affair put the nail in the coffin of our marriage...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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    Note from opposite land My post sexless marriage love and I debuted this weekend a skit about our romance. It was part of a cabaret show at the community theatre where we met...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Mar 22

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    So, I had to go home today to do some chores at the parent's. Hubs normally helps out but he's gone so it was up to me to cover. (wtf weird dynamic) I felt like being nice so I...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 23

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    The divorce rate is high and getting higher. I have a best friend and my older brother that have been divorced both with a little child. I don't believe in marriage and or love. It...
    Spiritm Spiritm 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    Things You Really Need To Challenge Your Thinking About. - - 1 - That "everything is great bar the sex" 2 - That the vows you made are inviolate 3 - That your spouse loves you 4...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 11 Responses 3 days ago

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses a week ago

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    My story is so unlike so many I see here. My husband isn't abusive, or even mean. He wants this to work. Or rather, for us to stay together.. the marriage has never really worked...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 20

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    Two weeks ago, I shared what I thought would be my current status for awhile. Life being what it is - it has thrown me into a crazy roller coaster loop once again. The good news...
    lightblueeyes lightblueeyes 46-50, F 21 Responses Mar 28

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    A man and women get married,,, everything so good for the first five years or more,,, Then you have MM come in your life spark that old fire back up,, yes he will tell you...
    pullupgirl103 pullupgirl103 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I was raised to believe that if you're unhappy in marriage you deal with it, find a way to fix it if you can, but you don't ever quit. It was weakness, or laziness I suppose...
    hourbyhour163 hourbyhour163 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Separated and getting a divorce. It's better this way but still hurts. I'm looking for friends and to hopefully one day realize that it wasn't all my fault and feel better about...
    tattoolvr81 tattoolvr81 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    Weird or just sad? Had a great weekend with the kids! Only it was her weekend, and her family was in town for my son's birthday party. The kids were still based with her, she...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just read the story on the caretaker from NeedingtoVent (thank you NTV), and it really hit me hard. In my journey I am recognizing my failings to be far greater than I thought...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Update from Opposite Land Even though I normally have sex 3-4 times a week with my beloved post sexless marriage lover, I haven't had sex for a week. Why? He is sick with...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 13 Responses Apr 10

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    I in a sexless divorce. I haven't dated since my divorce was finalized. Before actually.
    boadiccearose boadiccearose 51-55, F Mar 20

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    This is the sort of situation I never thought I would get into. I thought I was too old and too smart to make the mistakes I'd seen my friends go through in their early twenties...
    bewareofpity bewareofpity 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 27

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    I'm on my way out. We filed the papers to end our marriage yesterday, so in thirty to ninety days I will be single. It's a little sad. He and I both have said we never in a...
    couldbeheaven couldbeheaven 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 1

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    My dysfunctional childhood sometimes plays havoc on my peace of mind. I can partially blame staying in my marriage due to how I was raised, dragged through my Father’s four...
    ifoundmehere ifoundmehere 41-45, F 34 Responses 5 days ago

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    So. I wanted to update on how fabulous my husband is getting at all of this. It all started with hand spanking... and let me tell you, we've come a far way! This month marks a...
    Tihtil Tihtil 31-35, F 5 Responses Mar 24

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    from the first day of my marriage I feel that there is no chemistry between me and my wife, now we are two years marriage and one baby, thinking of divorce but worried about the...
    mohameddxb mohameddxb 26-30, M 4 Responses Mar 18

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    I had a meeting with stbx yesterday. At first I was scaredto go. Scared bbecause I had just sorted through my feelings on why I felt so empty and why I felt like I had wanted to...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 11 Responses Mar 23

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    Why won't you just let me go?! I'm doing you, us, a favor by owning it all and *trying* to set you free! But no, you hold on for dear effing life. Am I property? Status? A promise...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 10 Responses Mar 26

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    It's a tale as old as time - stay for the kids. I have always said I would stay for the sake of my daughter. I would decide what direction to take after she leaves home. That...
    Steph613 Steph613 41-45, F 7 Responses Mar 27

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    Update: I was active on this site about 2 years ago. I read all the posts and despite the enormous body of experience laid out I still somehow thought I would be different. I...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 30