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I Am Challenging Marriage And Divorce

Redefining social norms in better understanding of balancing vows and individual rights together or apart. 6 People

    Final Countdown

    OK. After many last attempts to find some sort of common ground, some bit of love to salvage, I had to make the decision. He played his part in where it is going to go. It being an important decision, I wanted to challenge all concepts before just jumping in and deciding. He...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 5 Responses Apr 11, 2010

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    One Single Reason

    Here is one single reason why I am reconsidering divorce. I don't want people knocking on my door for a date. I am annoyed right now that it is starting to happen and I haven't yet declared anything official or signed the papers. I get sick that at the first jump of me being...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 16 Responses Apr 14, 2010

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    Unbelievable

    This puts another nail in the coffin of our marriage. After everything I went though. After everything the kids went through. He is acting like nothing happened. This is his way of trying to avoid divorce by playing dumb. He just sent me an email saying he deleted his EP...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 3 Responses Apr 12, 2010

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    Return To Saturn

    For the next year, I am making it a challenge to redefine, revisit, and discover what both marriage and divorce means. Looking at vows and at legal divorce papers aren't enough to set things right. I am going to have to get my hands really dirty and find some truth, carve some...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 8 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    Rediscovering Ageless Wisdom

    I can't stand it when divorce gets thrown around like some sort of tool to hurt the other person. I don't take it seriously anymore when it is said because there has been no action to follow through with it for years. When I have gotten close to completing divorce, he tries to...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 Apr 1, 2010

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    The Last Thing I Need

    Is another man telling me what to do, not listening, then shoving his job in my face like it's going to make him a credible person. Maybe it's because I am pregnant, I am trying to feel out this new life, and I am extremely emotional. I am up early in the morning because these...
    Tekkamaki Tekkamaki 31-35 4 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    After 17 years of marriage, starting over and things are much different! Def experiencing some anxiety about the unknown but enjoying the art of online dating & social media! It's...
    Jfour001 Jfour001 26-30, M 40 mins ago

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    "Im in a sexless marriage but I won't cheat on my spouse." The problem you hope to never face but are never prepared to face. Often people are at the end of their rope, having...
    Happablap Happablap 26-30, M 7 Responses 3 days ago

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    Almost a month out post divorce. I didn't realize how much you could cram into one month. So overall I would say I am feeling stagnant, however the outside world may see progress...
    Usernametbd Usernametbd 36-40, M 10 Responses Jul 7

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    Update from the Battlefield - Since notifying my H three days ago that I've hired a lawyer and we're getting divorced, he has launched a full scale verbal attack on my character...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 36 Responses Jul 8

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    To me, marriage is TOO binding. Honestly, how many people can actually be happy together forever? The answer is 50%. half of marriages end in divorce. I believe that being in an...
    StrangeDarkSecrets StrangeDarkSecrets 13-15 Jul 10

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    Language Barrier I’ve determined that my STBX and I speak two entirely different languages, and he doesn’t understand anything I say – or have ever said – to him about my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses 6 days ago

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    I met my wife Sarah in 2008. We met through her friend. We started dating and things were progressing fast, we got engaged and got married in October of 2009. Things were not...
    SimpleGuy77 SimpleGuy77 36-40 1 Response Jul 11

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    Marriage is a total trap for men. Like a lot of people, this experience starts with a relationship between 2 people, then life happens. Anyhow there's these 2 people, they...
    carpediemer carpediemer 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    This is just an update on my story and I hope it can show other people here that there is future after a bad relationship. I read stories for here for maybe more than one year...
    mfur mfur 26-30, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    The Next Bit Starts With You. Here you are, having joined this group. You've already attempted "scented candles" strategies, "counselling" strategies, "REALLY talking to them...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 10 Responses Jun 24

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    I always knew it was about control... I have not heard from my stbx in two weeks. Things have been extremely stressful at work and I have not really been noticing it...stbx has...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 25

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    This is for all those married Baby Boomers who reach retirement age and decide to divorce. It appears that divorce is on the rise in our age group ages 50-68. They are calling...
    FirstZin FirstZin 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 25

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    Blast off! So I told my husband I wanted a divorce today, and tried to give him a letter from my lawyer to make it a reality. It did not go well. My H said he won't agree to a...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 30 Responses Jul 5

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    I finally got the courage to tell my husband that I wanted a divorce. This man has cheated on me, emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me, he put his job in front of me...
    futureexwife14 futureexwife14 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    Sexless Marriage is a Biblical Reason for Divorce This is a re-post of a comment I wrote to someone that TheWendigo suggested I post as a story, in case it helps anyone. I am...
    UndefinedValue UndefinedValue 31-35, F 13 Responses 2 days ago

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    After reading some posts here about renowned marriage/relationship researcher John Gottman (the one who says the "Four Horsemen -- contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling and...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 8 Responses Jun 23

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    It sounds a little strange to say "happily" because going through my divorce was the most heartbreaking, unhappy time of my life! It was like falling into a bottomless pit of...
    StarLily71 StarLily71 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 6

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    Let me begin by saying how grateful I am for finding this group. I have been in a sexless marriage for 5.5 years now. I have 3 kids (1 from a previous marriageand 2 with my...
    StrongForMyKids StrongForMyKids 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 6

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    i just realized that I have been in an unhealthy marriage for the last 34 years. A few years ago,I tried asking my husband for a divorce and he said go ahead, but he knew that I...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Marriage is a huge leap of faith! If more people took their vows seriously than there would be less cases of divorce. Anyone who's married know that it's not easy & a lot of work...
    bubblysunshine bubblysunshine 31-35, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Lessons From Finance Class... I'm taking Business Finance this month (because nothing is more fun than sixteen-week courses packed into a four-week-long summer class), and my...
    MeNotWe MeNotWe 26-30, F 12 Responses Jul 10

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    Telling the Kids Yesterday, we told the kids we were getting a divorce. Five of our six kids (who range in age from 15 to 27) gathered at home for a “family meeting”, and my...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 34 Responses 1 day ago

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    I never thought that I would be in a situation like this. I was raised in a strict Christian family that honed in on the importance of being a "good girl". My 1st marriage ended in...
    BHEwife BHEwife 41-45, F 19 Responses Jun 30

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    I recently went through an issue with my partner, we are both from New Jersey but drove to California to visit family. As we were in Cali, I made the horrible mistake of talking to...
    ncyayala ncyayala 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 23

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    To allow our own marriages to end in divorce is to live out our worst childhood fears. More horrifying, it is to inflict the unthinkable on what we most love and want to protect...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    In 2003 I fled Finland with my 3 children(2 his,1 not) after 13 years in a abusive marriage. We arrived back in America with the clothes on our backs literally. In the divorce I...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    How do you know if it's really over? My husband and I relationship always consisted of "extreme moments"- when things are great they are head over heels great! In turn when...
    Ashante90 Ashante90 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 9

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    Yesterday was one of those days here. Just one day, just one experience…although I bet my little girl will not soon forget it. A reminder my daughter is 13. She went off the...
    Stormie01 Stormie01 46-50, F 13 Responses Jul 13

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    Outsourcing, sex and ...Oxitocin: The Love and Trust Hormone Can Be Deceptive Although poets and authors have tried to describe love, in the world of neuroscience, researchers...
    largehopes largehopes 36-40 2 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    At the age of 26 my parents filed for divorce. They've been together since their teen years, 37 years, and married for 27. I am not upset AT them for this midlife change, they've...
    LostnExcited LostnExcited 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    Final Meeting with the Marriage Counselor - I went to my last marriage counseling session today. My H and the therapist don't know I'm not coming back again because they're not...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 18 Responses Jun 25

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    I'm 29, married for 5 years, 2 beautiful kids. Unfortunately like most here I live in a sexless marriage. I have for several years. Now some will say, your young and just not happy...
    incognito21 incognito21 26-30, M 15 Responses Jul 1

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    I'm considering a divorce. My husband seems so angry and mean all of the time. He does help out and that's honestly the reason I've probably stuck around. We have one year old...
    Teach4life09 Teach4life09 26-30, F Jun 23

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    Countdown to D-Day: 10 days and counting…. Last night was rough. The days leading up to July 6th – the day I’m announcing to my H that we’re getting divorced and handing...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 10 Responses Jun 25

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    Marriage protects men, women and children emotionally, physically and economically. It shouldn't be so easy to discard. Husbands need to realize that a divorce would not heal his...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 1 Response Jun 26

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    Countdown to D-Day: 8 days and counting... The end of a marriage is so sad. I loved my spouse and we were married for 17 years. I promised "to love and to cherish, until death...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 17 Responses Jun 28

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    I never wanted to get to a point where I resented him. But more and more I'm getting that way. He keeps telling me that I should try to learn to love him, but hates when I...
    Gingerness7 Gingerness7 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 29

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    For about a year I've been considering divorcing my wife of nearly 8 years. Our relationship has never been great. We are great friends, but horrible lovers/spouses. We do things...
    randomtiger45 randomtiger45 31-35, M 1 Response Jul 1

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    I am losing. I am not going to win this marriage back, so I have got to let go. It's been 9 months, and he's not coming home. The kids and I are alone and it's truly hard to...
    LRMommyof3 LRMommyof3 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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