I Am Childless By Choice

A board for folks who choose to not have children 417 People

    T055 T055
    16-17, F
    1 Response Dec 15, 2014

    I'm 22 and autistic plus ADHD.

    I don't want kids because I just don't bond or have any instincts towards babies and also, I couldn't live with myself if I passed on my autism- I know first hand how cruel kids can be. Yet, my OB/GYN won't respect my wishes and is more concerned with the amount of birth control...
    wolfspiritwithatigerheart wolfspiritwithatigerheart
    22-25, F
    Apr 2, 2015

    I Have No Children

    In my family there wer 4 children two boys and two girls. We had a pretty good life growing up in the 50's and 60's. My father was the breadwinner and my mother was busy raising the children. Occassionally my mother had part time jobs. We were raised in the catholic church. At...
    steve824 steve824
    61-65, M
    2 Responses Feb 25, 2009

    No Desire For Children Whatsoever

    I'm sure other people who are like me have gotten this - a lot of times when you express disdain for having children of your own, the response is complete confusion or repulsion. They either just cannot figure out how in the world you could possibly not want a child of your own...
    SpilledSecrets SpilledSecrets
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Jan 27, 2011

    I'm 18, mad about a man I really would marry in

    a heartbeat. We don't want kids. We aren't being young idiots. We just don't want our relationship ruined. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Childfreedom is a choice.
    Sxculent Sxculent
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 4, 2015

    Childfree--no Kidding!

    I have been widowed for three years, am in my late 50s. My late wife and I had a very wonderful marriage with no children. In the year and a half I have been looking, I have found the number of childless single women in the 35-49 age group (the target group from which I would...
    Freekorps Freekorps
    61-65, M
    3 Responses May 24, 2013

    Anxiety

    I have known since I can remember that I did not want children. I did not play house, I played school with my dolls. I'm the youngest, so I did not spend time with babies. I babysat because that's what girls did to earn money. I liked the older kids, but truly could not stand the...
    mosherkm mosherkm
    31-35
    3 Responses Jul 12, 2010

    A Second Home

    When I got married, oh so many years ago, one thing I was worried about was building a family. With what I had been through as a child and where I was at the time, I didn't want to bring any more children into the world. I had spent my early teens helping my mother raise younger...
    silentwriter180 silentwriter180
    46-50, F
    Mar 17, 2012

    I Don't Feel I Am Missing Anything ...

    I don't understand the reason for having children, truly I don't.  I imagine that alot of people who hear me say this think I am cold and unfeeling.  It's not that I don't enjoy my nieces and nephews when I am around them - I do, but God, am I ready to go home after a...
    legalsexy legalsexy
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Feb 21, 2008

    Never, ever, week I want to have anything

    coming out of my thighs like that.... ugh!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 2, 2015

    But not because I hate kids

    or anything. Sure there are some really annoying ones but that's not why. I'd love my baby so much if I had one. I'd be a great mum. It would be hard obviously. But I'm so afraid of bringing anyone into this world. I don't want my baby to go through what I went through. I don't...
    HannahSavannah HannahSavannah
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2014

    I am childless by choice

    and proud. I have thought about having children, my own as well as adoption, but I quickly realized that a child just would not fit into my lifestyle. I am current in a relationship where both of us are self-employed. I cannot imagine either one of us cutting back on work...
    tryx4us tryx4us
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 6, 2014

    When did you know? I'm 20,

    and ever since I was in middle school I remembered not wanting kids. People tell me I'll change my mind eventually, and I know I could. I'm just a little worried that I'm planning for my life in the wrong direction, by planning for not having kids now when eventually I will. Any...
    gelatojustice gelatojustice
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 12, 2014

    Final Decision

    After vacillating over this for years, I've finally decided that, due to my limited patience and need for more alone time than a child will allow me to have, I am never having children. My freedom means so much more to me than raising up a human being who may or may not be...
    DreamsOfNight DreamsOfNight
    31-35, F
    May 4, 2012

    Children? No Way!

    I don't like kids. They're a snot nosed brats who don't listen to their parents. I chose not to have kids and people annoy the heck out of me when they apologize to me that I can't have kids. There is nothing to be sorry about. I don't want the responsibility of raising one. I...
    noaht43 noaht43
    41-45, T
    1 Response Oct 27, 2012

    Tired of Making Excuses Why Not

    I'm so tired of being looked at like a freak of nature because I don't want children.  I'm also tired of being the only one in my group that doesn't want children.  Talk about feeling so alone.  Does anyone feel left behind though?  I know I don't want...
    trustnoone77 trustnoone77
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Jun 25, 2009

    Because I Know What It Feels Like...

    I haven't really been able to express the reason that I am (currently, & most likely will continue to be) choosing to be childless, to anybody in the "real world". I certainly haven't felt that I am able to explain it to my parents, who would feel exceptionally hurt...
    borntolove borntolove
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2008

    I Love My Child Free Life

    My earliest memory of not wanting children was a discussion with a friend in my high school science class... we were discussing the tv series party of five & how the main character had broken up with his girlfriend because she didn't want children. I was horrified...why would he...
    Chrisannb Chrisannb
    36-40
    4 Responses Mar 5, 2013

    Me and my lady don't have any kids

    and don't plan on it anytime in the near future. Our lifestyle doesn't fit with having kids. We get the same s -h -i-t as usual about the take care of us when we're old crap. That's a joke. Have you seen how full the nursing homes are getting? We have never been harassed about...
    PineCone350 PineCone350
    31-35, M
    1 Response Oct 7, 2015

    Misleading Commercials

    Many years ago, there was a television commercial for a flu medication with this premise: A married straight couple with an infant. The woman is in bed, sicker than sick with the flu, the man is healthy. The baby becomes his complete responsibility, and he is overwhelmed...
    Samantha535 Samantha535
    13-15, F
    9 Responses Nov 24, 2009

    Don’t get me wrong.

    I thought about having kids (But on a gut level, I just didn’t want to get pregnant) in particular in SE Asia developing nations. In the developing country like Thailand, where a future child/children may grow up 'SO COMPETITIVELY' in an unfair, inadequate welfares...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jan 6, 2014

    Married 14+ Years Now and Absolutely No Regrets

    My wife and I married nearly 15 years ago. Every since I can remember I did not want/need children. Most people would tell me (years ago) that i would change my mind--not so. We love the lifestyle that the freedom allows. We get to be as selfish as we want without harming a...
    qff35 qff35
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Feb 6, 2008

    Not Sorry

    I never really liked children.  As an only child, I have no experiance with them.  I never went babysitting as a teen.  I never felt the pressure to reproduce.  Especially when I see how many unwanted children there are in this world (I was one of them). ...
    AyeAye AyeAye
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 20, 2008

    I have always adored children however my life

    is pretty great as it is; not to mention extremely busy. I have a husband, a family, pets, and a career working with children. I just don't think I have time for a child and I wouldn't want to bring a child into a world that doesn't have time for it. Maybe one day I will change...
    kittycooper525 kittycooper525
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 8, 2015

    My Marriage Is Failing Because I Don't Want Children

    I have been married for almost 8 years to the most wonderful man in the world. I am American and he is English and we live in England. I knew from a very early age that I never wanted to have kids and I have always been up front about this. If you ask anyone in my world; family...
    NYCGal2010 NYCGal2010
    31-35, F
    6 Responses May 1, 2010

    Zero Regrets

    For those of you who chose parenthood, you have my deepest respect.  It's got to be the hardest job in the world.  Even when I was a child, I knew I did not want to have children.  The only role model that I had--even though both sides of the family were large...
    IAmStillSomeone IAmStillSomeone
    41-45, F
    11 Responses Jun 23, 2009

    Effed Up Genetics

    Nature-nurture be damned; I know full well that insanity runs in my family.  So even if I wasn't worried about the kidney disease, heart trouble, lung issues, diabetes, and cancer that runs rampant in my gene pool I'd be cautious.I know of two full-blown sociopaths in my parents...
    Plaid Plaid
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 2, 2011

    I hate being asked why I don't have kids,

    telling people and then they take it personally and think I'm an alien.
    elephantwalk elephantwalk
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 21, 2015

    Childless Singles...

    Does anyone know any "Childless Singles Dating Website" ? If you do please please let me know....
    haveadrink haveadrink
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 26, 2011

    I have been married for 3 years

    and I have suffered from PCOS since I was a teenager. I made my peace long ago with the fact that I would find it difficult to conceive or need IVF treatment in order to have children. I'm 29 now and I know the clock is ticking and sometimes I think I should try for kids but...
    leighanne28 leighanne28
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 2, 2015

    Jaw Dropper

    I actually had a family doctor (a man) who told me that until I have a child, I am not truly and fully a woman. I changed doctors. And this was only 12 years ago.  I wanted my tubes tied when I was 34 years old because I knew I didn't want children.  I had a...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud
    51-55, F
    14 Responses Mar 24, 2008

    I have taken several morning

    after pills, about $700 worth, in the span of 10 months, while I was scared and didn't think straight. I'm happy I did. I will never have children. I will help parents who are unable to conceive, and I will adopt. But I carry too much shame to allow myself a child. This is...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 2, 2015

    Childless By Choice

    Childless by choice,That's me,This world,I'm not a fan,My Question,Why bring a child,Into a place,You don't like yourself?
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    Mar 17, 2012

    Not Entirely By Choice, But Mostly.

    I am currently childless by choice. At one point, I was talked into trying to get pregnant, but thankfully my body didn't play along. It's not to say I don't like kids. I work as a nanny. I love kids. It's more like I don't trust a man enough to have children with him at the...
    amikety amikety
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2012

    Circumstances Beyond My Control

    I'm not sure if this qualifies as childless by choice, but....My husband and will be married for 5 years this year. 3 years ago, he was hurt at work (construction) and has had lumbar back surgery, neck injections, nerve damage, etc.  Anyway, we are in our early 40s and...
    ParisDaisy ParisDaisy
    41-45
    1 Response Apr 4, 2010

    Just Not For Me

    I remember at a young age saying I wasnt going to get married and I didn't want kids. Well I got married to a stone cold man. We are now getting a divorce. I should have went with my gut feelings and never got married. Everyday I feel like I'm bombarded with the notion that I...
    Swayaway34 Swayaway34
    22-25, F
    Aug 10, 2012

    Parasite Free

    I've never wanted children, and I really doubt that I ever will. It's a totally irrational choice people make not for themselves, but to fulfill a biological imperative which serves the purpose of the species (which, like all life, is to replicate indefinitely) at the expense of...
    Phage Phage
    26-30, F
    23 Responses Sep 28, 2009

    I actually found myself riding in a car with a

    friend and asking her a "mother" question. As if my own experience as a step-mother disqualifies me from knowing how a "real" mother would feel about the specific incident. Now that just shows how far removed from being a "real" mother I sometimes feel. It kind of took me aback...
    sittochrissy sittochrissy
    61-65, F
    2 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    I'll never have kids

    for the same reason I'll never have a dog again. I had a beautiful White German Shepard who, just by virtue of being a dog (and being mostly deaf, which I didn't know at the time), surpassed my threshold for clingy dependency - and I kicked him. I was immediately sorry for...
    krisis krisis
    41-45, F
    Sep 11, 2014

    My husband and I are childless by choice.

    I was hoping to find some couples to hang out with on the weekends with similar interests. I have not been able to find them yet. We have recently moved to a new state and I work from home so it is hard to meet new people at all. When I do go out every one I meet has kids...
    aly3636 aly3636
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 2, 2014

    Yessiree

    Some trees are meant to be chopped down. My family's is one of them. Both my sibling and I don't want kids; our parents are fine with it. Not that we need their permission to not reproduce.I think I have made the most unselfish choice to not bring a child into this miserable...
    notthis78 notthis78
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 19, 2013

    I would never want a child.

    The idea of pregnancy grosses me out (in relation to me. I'm not saying I find pregnant people gross) that and i just can't buy the idea that I'd be a good parent. Like I feel like I'd screw them up.
    mxsable mxsable
    18-21, T
    May 1, 2015

    I Choose To Leave The Childbearing To Others.

    I, seriously,  want to say "God Bless You!" to those women/men (single or married) who want to bear/adopt/raise children.  I include single women who are financially able to bear and raise a child or two.  In response to the EP member who made a nasty comment about couples...
    fonna fonna
    46-50, F
    Jul 9, 2011

    Honestly, my legs feel like they weigh 100

    pounds each! I forced myself to take a long walk at the bay yesterday. It is sunny and cold where I live and there were a good amount of people out biking, walking and riding bikes on Christmas Day. It lifted my mood. I have my darling husband and this year his son was spending...
    sittochrissy sittochrissy
    61-65, F
    1 Response Dec 26, 2015

    Kids Are Not For Me

    I am really not cut out to be a parent i believe. My two older sisters have 3 kids each and I have cousins that have 4 kids. Our family has so many kids that i know enough that i don't want to be around them at all. I see three of my nieces everyday (My Mom watches them...
    alwaysalone alwaysalone
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 19, 2008

    Right now I choose to be childless.

    Maybe I will change my mind later. My parents did foster care and I had many bad experiences with children to ever want them. I just don't understand why everyone keeps telling me my life is incomplete or that I'm selfish. It's not my duty to give society children.
    Rebecca321 Rebecca321
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2014

    My Mom's Advice

    When I was about 10 years old, my mom sat me down and told me "don't ever have kids, they really mess up your life".  Mom always did have a way with words.  She continued...."I love you kids, I really do, but I want you to realize how much having kids...
    MaMegabyte MaMegabyte
    51-55, F
    2 Responses May 24, 2008
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