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I Am Childless Not By Choice

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    Ectopics - Hi, I am here because today I went to the funeral of one of my best friends still born baby. While sitting there in agony and suggesting a support group for her, I...
    shelcy shelcy 41-45, F Jun 11, 2013

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    I am 36 years old, I got married almost 6 years ago to a man with two children. Whom I have a great relationship with, but their mom is in the picture and I am just a Step-mom. I...
    Rhosmith77 Rhosmith77 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 21

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    The Last Closet Illness... - I think the fertile majority feel that everyone who wants children can have them. When struggling with infertility, I would suffer the tactless and...
    Fyrefox Fyrefox 56-60, M 2 Responses Apr 9, 2013

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    I Am Going To Hell....... - I am going to hell......I am just sure of it. I cannot manage to get happy for anyone that is having a baby, grandbaby, sharing a child's milestone...
    BitterBeulah BitterBeulah 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 27, 2013

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    Finally Accepted I Won't Have Children - I am 48, childless and single. The past ten or more years of my life have been dominated by trying to have a child. I've had four attempts...
    Chitt Chitt 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 21, 2012

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    I Am So Angry - I have been married for 18 years, I am now 41.  When my husband and I first married we were starting careers and he was attending school.  We both...
    PacNw PacNw 41-45, F 7 Responses Oct 27, 2009

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    I feel like there is a hole in the middle of my life. 40 and no children and no one that understands how empty this feeling is. New in the area and no friends to talk to. So I...
    roundrock72 roundrock72 41-45, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Feel Useless As A Woman - hi i am 30 years old and feel like my life has ended. i have a loving parnter and step children but just under a year ago i had a to have a hysterectomy...
    cuddles1234 cuddles1234 26-30, F 7 Responses May 14, 2011

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    Being A Childless Step Mom Is The One Hardest Parts Of My Life. - Being a childless step mom is the one hardest parts of my life.  Having a child of my own is gone with...
    whyme40 whyme40 36-40 31 Responses Apr 21, 2010

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    I Have Spent Many Of Nights Crying... - I am married to my bestfriend. Growing up I was the child who always had a doll or a barbie carrying them into the store or wherever I went...
    leesalisa32 leesalisa32 36-40 6 Responses Aug 22, 2011

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    Empty Arms - You learn to go on but you never fill the whole in your heart... I have had 3 Ectopic pregnancy, 3 failed IVF's and a complete Hystro...
    harrisonparker harrisonparker 41-45, F 20 Responses May 30, 2008

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    30, Single, And Slowly Coming To Terms With Not Having Children. - I'm 30, single and have never been in a relationship. However, for as long as I can remember, a family of my own...
    andyj823 andyj823 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 24, 2012

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    I Am Barren. - We tried for years and years to get pregnant.  We spent a truly obscene amount of money on medical treatments, including IVFs.  In all that time and with...
    SaharaDesert SaharaDesert 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 6, 2009

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    Thankful For Those That Understand - I am childless - not by choice.  These are new words to me and I am grateful for them because they help to explain and sidestep some...
    beingboo beingboo 36-40, F 6 Responses Nov 23, 2009

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    Everyday Gets Harder And Harder - I am a stepmom of two. It is getting increasingly difficult for me to be a childless stepmom. It is getting to a point where I hate my life...
    Rdub2011 Rdub2011 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 19, 2013

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    Childless, Married, 40, and Angry, Sad, Numb, You Name It - I am 40 years old, married for 12 years, and childless. We tried fertility treatments on and off to no avail for a...
    kikiD kikiD 36-40 20 Responses Feb 17, 2009

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    Why Do So Many People Despise Our Grief? - Firstly i am so frustrated with people who feel that our grief is solved by adoption, or not as bad as those who have had a child and...
    Gembobbs Gembobbs 31-35, F 4 Responses Jun 22, 2013

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    My Heart Breaks Each Night - I feel my heart break into little pieces each time I am reminded of what I could never be... a mother walking down the street pushing a pram , the...
    chumise chumise 36-40, F 4 Responses Mar 20, 2013

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    I am 42 yo and got pregnant for the first time a few months ago but ended up having a miscarriage. I am sad and bitter. I feel like I hate everyone who has kids or is pregnant...
    lostandmelancholysoul lostandmelancholysoul 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    Childless At Age 41 - Where to start? I am finding it difficult to find my place in this world as the years go by. I am 41, my husband is 52, and he has 3 children from 2...
    HurtingSilently HurtingSilently 41-45 4 Responses Jul 4, 2013

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    Childless And Happy? - I have long regretted not having had any children,coming from a toxic family my dream was to one day have a family of my own,a functional family and give my...
    berangere berangere 66-70, F 6 Responses Nov 3, 2013

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    The Girl Who Should Have Been Called "mom" - 33.  In a semi-stable relationship for over 10 years.  Out of a job for the time being.  Creative, passionate, loving...
    oneoffive oneoffive 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I'm 34yrs old married with no kids. When I was 22yrs old, I was in a relationship and my fiancee was pregnant, long story short, she had an abortion without my knowledge while I...
    mogabr mogabr 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 8

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    I don't know where to begin with this. I have a story like everyone else. I have nobody to tell it to but I have to get it out. Got married at 25. Had a whole life ahead of me. My...
    Slickjames Slickjames 46-50, M 5 Responses Feb 28

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    One Child Is Not Enough =( - I know what many of you are thinking. Or close to it. I should be glad I had one. Well, not really. I feel my family is not complete. I want to have...
    AnnaLovesCoffee AnnaLovesCoffee 36-40, F 11 Responses Jun 27, 2008

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    So In Love... So Sad Inside. - Hi! I really need to tell my story. I feel like a shaken up can of soda, i just want to explode and let it all out. I have been married for...
    Karileal21 Karileal21 22-25, F 9 Responses Feb 22, 2010

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    Childless Not By Choice And Depressed - I am 46 and childless not by choice. When I was 37 I ttc with my DH for a year but nothing happened, We went to a fertility clinic and was...
    mariaici mariaici 46-50, F 1 Response May 2, 2013

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    Sad About Easter Without Children - I have wanted a child for years and generally deal ok with the fact that I do not have a child and probably never will. But on the holidays-I...
    hard2accept hard2accept 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 31, 2013

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    Dear love of my life (****). You know when we first reconnected in 2011 one of the first things we discussed were our hopes, dreams, aspirations what our life together would look...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 9

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    Maybe It's My Fault In A Way! - Reading some of your stories, makes me realize that maybe i don't have it so bad...but it still hurts to know that being a mother is not something i...
    Luisa1987 Luisa1987 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 12, 2013

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    40'S. Happily Married. Grateful For So Much. Childless - Like many, finding 'the one', getting married, buying a house, getting a dog, having a baby... just seemed a given & a...
    belhunter belhunter 41-45 1 Response May 8, 2013

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    Childless Doesnt Mean Feminineless - Hello, I am not writing to tell about my pain and agony...the lonely nights and days...the sadness inmy partner's eyes. Its been 2years and a...
    SoulMatee SoulMatee 31-35 3 Responses May 1, 2012

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    I feel like I am the only person in the world who is experiencing this so it would be fabulous to learn if there are any others. This situation has totally changed my self esteem...
    ValueMe ValueMe 46-50, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    I Don't Have Kids... - I don't have kids... and I feel I'm sort of a freak. Society is only prepare for families with children and women like me just don't fit. I'm very sad...
    solomarianita solomarianita 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 7, 2013

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    I Feel Empty...i Don't Have Any Children - I have clinical depression. I've had it since I was 23. I got married when I was 18 and separated at 23. I was pregnant 3 months on my...
    chatwme chatwme 51-55 4 Responses Apr 5, 2011

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    Venting And Seeking Advice :-( - hi everyone, thought id look to the good old internet to 'chat' with because im pretty sure my friends cant bear to hear the same old story again...
    clemmyj clemmyj 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Perpetually Single - I can't share my experience right now, because I can't even breathe. 39, childless, perpetually single. I tell people I've been trying to have a baby since I...
    MissAlisa MissAlisa 36-40, F 1 Response May 22, 2012

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    Childless and Almost 40 - It's a new year, which means I'm ever closer to the big 40. I told myself that if I didn't have any children by the time I was 35 then I wouldn't ...
    anoday anoday 36-40, F 7 Responses Jan 3, 2009

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    Childless Mother - I am 60 years old & my heart is so sadden by the choices that led me to being childless. I am in the process of writing a book on my bad choices that led me to...
    Catharine12 Catharine12 56-60, F 3 Responses Sep 26, 2013

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    So Tired Of Being Surrounded By Pregnant Women - I am so tired of being surrounded by pregnant woman.   I have recently returned to a work environment following a three year...
    vicgirl vicgirl 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 28, 2011

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    Childless Women Mad As Hell @ Some Mothers - Most women will never know what it is like: To take their temperature every morning To check their cervix a week or two every month To...
    Artmist Artmist 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 20, 2013

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    Mother's Day... the Longest Day of the Year - Warning: this is a rant. I hate this freakin' day. And the weeks leading up to it, and the whole damn day, will it ever end? Another...
    kikiD kikiD 36-40 9 Responses May 10, 2009

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    Do You Ever Get Over The Profound Sadness - I am always sad, but then there are moments where the sadness becomes a vice grip, all pervasive, and cannot seem to breath unless i...
    Emptywomb Emptywomb 41-45 8 Responses Feb 11, 2011

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    Hi i am a 26 year old female who never was pregnate 5 years ago i was in a committed relationship, and was trying but nothing happened i just figured that was god telling me that...
    BornAgain87 BornAgain87 26-30, F Apr 5

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    Clutching At Straws &Amp;/Or Time To Move On? - I'll be 45 in a few months. I have been with my husband for nearly 20 yrs & we have been TTC for more than 10 yrs, incl. 7 fresh...
    move2groove move2groove 41-45 2 Responses Apr 18, 2013

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    Existential Crisis - I'm not a joiner, so this is a little odd for me. I'm 40. My husband and I have been married for 14 years, and we've been together since I was a sophomore in...
    KEC1 KEC1 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 17, 2009

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    Not My Dream Come True - Hi every one my name is Caroline and I'm 43 yrs old. I have been married to my lovely husband for 22 years. I was 19 when I met him. He had been married...
    1manham1 1manham1 41-45, F Sep 14, 2012

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    We Are Happy Without Children! - We, too cannot have children. ..not by choice. I have a medical reason that I can't carry a child. We also will not be adopting. There was a time...
    cbarron1 cbarron1 36-40, F 2 Responses Sep 16, 2013

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    I Don't Know Anybody Else Like Me - I have done all the infertility treatments. I have been pregnant three times, and never had a live birth. I have put more money towards...
    DystopiaB DystopiaB 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 17, 2013

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    Childless But Don't Know Whether To Be Happy Or Sad... - Through many series of unfortunate events, my husband and I are childless (but have a hairy child in our dog!). I still...
    getchunow getchunow 41-45, F 4 Responses Feb 13, 2010

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    I am turning 40 this year and depression is setting in. Not because of aging, but because I've never been married or had children and that has been my biggest dream. I've had two...
    Jennabee7 Jennabee7 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 11

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    Confusion - I was childless by what I considered choice for a while. When I was a teenager I was told, by two different doctors, that I would never have children. Having a bad...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F Aug 27, 2013