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I Am Codependent

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 9 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 6 Responses Jul 28

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