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I Am Codependent

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    How is it possible that it is easier

    for someone who has 2 children and a wife to pack his bags and leave a country cause of better job opportunity, than me, who has only 2 aging parents, 4 years older sister, and no children? Even I did my retraining, gathered all required documents, learned new language at home...
    cureav cureav 31-35, M May 19

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    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F Mar 29

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    I know that I am codependent,

    and I've read things about it and been told why it is not good for me. But it is really hard for me to accept it is actually a bad thing. My whole life I've thought that to place the well being of others above my own was a good thing. Growing up it WAS a good thing-- I'd...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 11 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    So I joined these extremely helpful groups on Facebook for people who've dealt with narcissistic abuse and codependency and I shared my story of abuse there. It really felt good...
    ladysapio ladysapio 22-25, F Jul 23

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    I'm trying. I'm trying to love myself. I'm trying to be more open minded and less judgmental. I'm trying to be kinder and gentler. I'm trying to accept my flaws. I'm trying to...
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    My husband is lying about his "friendship" with another woman. I keep finding more things he's doing & lying about. My therapist says I should stop looking unless I'm ready to...
    Trixerea Trixerea 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I look at my life and I have nothing to show for it. I have no belongings, living at home, no schooling, etc. I haven't had "normal" in years. I'd get ****** up because that what...
    Oddfuture02 Oddfuture02 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 8

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    I just realized how deeply in the hole I am financially and I think it's getting to the point where I'll be heating up bathwater in the stove. I may be taking showers at the gym...
    honestlyanonymouslyme honestlyanonymouslyme 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    My mother is a codependent person of low intelligence and many bad habits (lying, transference, denial, not taking care of her health). As a child she would embarrass me in front...
    dharmafox dharmafox 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 5

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