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I Am Codependent

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 10 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    How many of my friends here have been told you are codependent because only codependents get involved with narcissists? Or read it? Well I thought it was true.. Why else would we...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    http://www.willieverbegoodenough.com/narcissistic-mother-2/ Many of these apply to her. I never realised this had a name until recently. I've always felt of so little worth to her...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 3 days ago

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    For those of you involved with a narcissist. I wanted to write a little something about being the narcissists extension. This took me my entire marriage to grasp and I could have...
    sartur sartur 36-40, F 10 Responses Feb 2

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    Death is all around and the walls start closing in. Is it because of the things I've done, all of my past sins? Is it because I quit praying to the Lord who never answered? Or if...
    MDaddysGirlM MDaddysGirlM 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 2

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    I feel guilty for leaving my heroin addict boyfriend and falling in love with someone who is healthy. I feel as if i could've been there for him to help him through his hard time...
    justwanttobehappy1 justwanttobehappy1 18-21 4 Responses Feb 5

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    I became clinical depressed when I was 15. I tried to kill myself for the first time when I was 16, after my emotionally abusive boyfriend dumped me. I am 20 years old now, I don't...
    terrywill15 terrywill15 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 17

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    My affair is almost one year away from me today. I have purposely avoided romantic relationships, though had some close calls. I wanted to understand what happened and why. I...
    OnAlert OnAlert 56-60, M 6 Responses Feb 18

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    We met at work in 2011. He was charming, funny, and handsome. He had a crooked smile that could make anyone fall in love. He was the cool guy, the one people warned me about. "I...
    followthesea followthesea 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 20

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    You have no idea how much I have cried today. I have so much pain and she only concerns herself with that abuser and expects me to as well. Except she's mad at him, I should too...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 days ago

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