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I Am Codependent

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    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F Mar 29

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 10 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I know that I am codependent,

    and I've read things about it and been told why it is not good for me. But it is really hard for me to accept it is actually a bad thing. My whole life I've thought that to place the well being of others above my own was a good thing. Growing up it WAS a good thing-- I'd...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    lovinglotusxoxo lovinglotusxoxo 22-25, F Apr 4

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    I keep turning to emotionally unavailable people to reciprocate my feelings about life and situations and the blank stare responses used to make me feel like I was wrong, or the...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    I just want to hurry up and leave this world now. I spoke with a psychic and she told me that I do have some negative energy that is a darkness and that someone may have put some...
    BrownBeeCa BrownBeeCa 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 31

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    I've been married for about 15 months and have kicked my husband out 3 times for excessive drinking. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do: do I refuse to let him come home until...
    theRealKoala theRealKoala 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I love my mom. But she is a very critical person. She grew up being abused but it doesn't give her the right to continually put me down. She criticizes me on just about everything...
    Bluetangerine Bluetangerine 46-50, F Apr 4

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    I recently started therapy for self-esteem issues that I should have sought help for many years ago. What started as a journey of self discovery has opened my eyes to the...
    ludix ludix 41-45, M 3 Responses Apr 9

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    I hate my mother in law. She is mentally ill and her children (who are wonderful) are codependent towards her. She is mean to everybody, but claims that it is out of love for...
    TSSfemale32 TSSfemale32 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 14

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    NOT ALL CHILDREN OF NARCISSISTS BECOME A NARCISSIST THEMSELVES..... ACTUALLY FAR FROM IT!! Children of narcissists and the life long effects- it all depends on your temperament...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 3 Responses Apr 15

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    If somebody hasn't been affected by narcissism than they will think your making it up when you talk about your abuser as a narcacist. Which just adds to the abuse and hurts when...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 17

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