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I Am Codependent

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    I know that I am codependent,

    and I've read things about it and been told why it is not good for me. But it is really hard for me to accept it is actually a bad thing. My whole life I've thought that to place the well being of others above my own was a good thing. Growing up it WAS a good thing-- I'd...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 10 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    Hi All ! I want to know if I am seeing this situation for what it really is or if my judgement is being clouded by my own insecurities and fear or imagined.. or there is a genuine...
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    Love that defies cognizance or boundaries and soon becomes inappropriate and proprietary in the most beautiful, codependent swirl!
    Brooklyn12561 Brooklyn12561 41-45, M Mar 5

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    Codependency My wife says her therapist thinks I'm too codependent. That's probably true. I just always feel like I have to be on watch, alert. Ready to deal with switching or...
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