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I Am Codependent

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    How is it possible that it is easier

    for someone who has 2 children and a wife to pack his bags and leave a country cause of better job opportunity, than me, who has only 2 aging parents, 4 years older sister, and no children? Even I did my retraining, gathered all required documents, learned new language at home...
    cureav cureav 31-35, M 5 days ago

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    I know that I am codependent,

    and I've read things about it and been told why it is not good for me. But it is really hard for me to accept it is actually a bad thing. My whole life I've thought that to place the well being of others above my own was a good thing. Growing up it WAS a good thing-- I'd...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 10 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    thatonewoman thatonewoman 26-30, F Mar 29

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

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    I've been told by a couple people that I am a codependent person, but was always in denial. Just today it dawned on me that I was almost killed by this condition and now I am...
    inaforest inaforest 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    I have a question. I know there are two different types of narcissists...cerebral and somatic. If the wife is a cerebral narcissist and the husband is a somatic narcissist, can the...
    Lostinlove41 Lostinlove41 41-45, F Apr 25

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    I find it so fanasnating that a codependent and a narrasist act almost like complete opposites but yet they share almost exactly the same type of trama in their childhood. I guess...
    faithg4444 faithg4444 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 28

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    My Mom agreed to come pick up Murphy (my dog ☺️) and take him to daycare bc I have a stiff neck and didn't want to drive. When she got here, she asked if she could have some...
    AlieVerde AlieVerde 26-30, F 3 Responses May 11

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    I'm scared to be in friendships or relationships because I turn into an emotionally manipulative codependent mess and I don't want to ruin anybody
    borderlineeverything borderlineeverything 16-17, F May 15

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    All of her life my Mom has been a victim. Every thing that has happened to her has shaped her into this person that I just can't stand. When my Dad left her when I was 15 I began...
    PerpetualPisces PerpetualPisces 26-30, F 1 day ago

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