I Am Codependent

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 83 People

    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1
    51-55
    3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

    I just found the answer today!

    Read Ross Rosenberg's book The Human Magnet: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us.
    StillLearningYup StillLearningYup
    61-65, F
    Sep 23, 2015

    After years of the insanity of addiction,

    today it occurs to me that I am codependent. Okay, so maybe I knew it in my head but today it caught up with my heart. I began reading and crying. I'm nauseous actually. I read stories that were my life, denial is such a powerful escape from reality. How do I move forward and...
    tssunshine tssunshine
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 30, 2015

    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2013

    I know that I am codependent,

    and I've read things about it and been told why it is not good for me. But it is really hard for me to accept it is actually a bad thing. My whole life I've thought that to place the well being of others above my own was a good thing. Growing up it WAS a good thing-- I'd...
    thatonewoman thatonewoman
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 15, 2015

    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan
    41-45, F
    Sep 4, 2014

    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight
    46-50, M
    11 Responses Apr 9, 2010
    thatonewoman thatonewoman
    31-35, F
    Mar 29, 2015

    How is it possible that it is easier

    for someone who has 2 children and a wife to pack his bags and leave a country cause of better job opportunity, than me, who has only 2 aging parents, 4 years older sister, and no children? Even I did my retraining, gathered all required documents, learned new language at home...
    cureav cureav
    31-35, M
    1 Response May 19, 2015

    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through 😊
    milanmilan milanmilan
    41-45, F
    1 Response Sep 4, 2014

    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89
    26-30, M
    Dec 15, 2014

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