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I Am Codependent

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    Emotional Blackmail.....y

    Boy, are co-dependents ever up for this one!!   It makes it very easy for narcissistic people to take advantage of you.  I'm 58 yrs old, been through lots and lots of therapy and 12 step programs and am STILL battling it!  Aghhhh!   Learning to have boundaries...
    klee1 klee1 51-55 3 Responses Aug 12, 2009

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    This Is Just Me..

    "Co-dependency can be defined as the tendency to put others needs before your own. You accommodate to others to such a degree that you tend to discount or ignore your own feelings, desires and basic needs. Your self-esteem depends largely on how well you please, take care of and...
    Mrs1105 Mrs1105 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through ๐Ÿ˜Š
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I just realised that I am codependent on one

    particular person for my happiness. "A codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, eventually becoming obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy." And I...
    lukeskywalker89 lukeskywalker89 22-25, M Dec 15, 2014

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    I relapsed today and revenged on my narcissist.

    Im getting healthy slowly but surely. I feel low about it. Im sure he'll try to make a come back. But I have to stay strong to see my future through ๐Ÿ˜Š
    milanmilan milanmilan 36-40, F Sep 4, 2014

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    I Am Codependent

    So here I sit, in therapy, wondering how I got to this place in my life. For 15 years I had been the driving force in my marriage. Actually, in any relationship I had ever been in, I had been the driving force. I was the "giver". No woman had ever come close to matching my...
    patstarrynight patstarrynight 46-50, M 10 Responses Apr 9, 2010

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    My husband told me I was codependent many years

    ago. I immediately looked up CODA and went. I got a sponsor, bought all the books and read them, did the workbook, etc. Since then, I have made positive changes in my life, including ending a 26 year abusive marriage and going back to school. I feel like I'm doing everything...
    dontrust dontrust 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 28, 2014

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    I miss my ex girlfriend. She was my first love and we haven't spoken in over a year. I find it pretty so heartbreaking that I'm so young and already feel that she is going to be...
    smokebombtom smokebombtom 18-21, M 4 Responses Jan 3

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    omg i cant take any of this anymore I am at my wits end. I actually joined this experience bc I wanted to get out of the totally unhealthy codependent controlling manipulating...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I was raised with a narcissistic father.. The coldness seems to surround us...In fact, I was always hungered for his love... I don't want to seek any longer inside his heart...
    diane1996 diane1996 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    Naw, really? It's one of those things that is just normal to me but looks weird to everyone else. I take meds four times a day, and if I happen to be in the presence of...
    adianoeta adianoeta 26-30, F 8 Responses Jan 20

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    I am a single mom... the kids' dad left us when they were toddlers... for a party life. We have been doing it on our own for 15 yrs. My dad and mom used to help me but they both...
    Howtobeme Howtobeme 51-55, F Jan 22

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