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I Am Confused About My Gender

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    I don't fully mentally identify with

    either male nor female. It annoys me how gender-based society is and how I must stick to the roles of the physical form I was born and stuck with. A close friend of mine said I am just confused about it because I follow stereotypes. But it's not about how my personality is. It's...
    Saudabell Saudabell 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    I'm not sure "what" I am.

    I've never really talked about it before. I was born female. And I don't hate my body. In fact, I love my breasts. It's the bottom half of me that feels all wrong. Like I should have a penis but it's missing. It doesn't generally bother me but every so often, it hits me and I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    i dont ******* know what the actually **** i am.

    .and im actually scared. like yes i am trans* but only non-close people use my correct pronouns. that may change i hate my name but dont known how to change it i really want top surgery and justtt fucukkk i hate this and i hate myself
    cheapgoat cheapgoat 16-17, T 1 Response Dec 3, 2015

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    I've always been a girl,

    a girl who has grown up with more testosterone naturally produced in her body then what there should. I wonder if it's meant to be? The idea of being male seems idealistic the more I think about it. However I grew up being a hetroromatic, bisexual female. I enjoy girly stuff, I...
    FragGrrl FragGrrl 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    I don't consider myself to be gay,

    but when I'm dressed in a short skirt/dress, sexy stockings and heels i feel so girly and feminine. It's then that i feel a strong sexual attraction to men. I've even found myself fantasising about some of my straight male friends and wishing they were making love to me. They...
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    I believe the reason

    for my confusion is due to societies out dated and narrow minded 2 gender system. Most of the time were asked if we're male or female but I believe it's not that simple & I hate being told I can't wear this or loom like that because I'm a man. I hate being pigeon holed like that...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Oct 21, 2015

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    im a guy but sometimes i feel wrong like i like

    being me beard and all but sometimes i wish i had more feminine features like breasts and stuff but keep my male parts and i still like women but want to be more like one while staying myself if that makes sense and be able to dress how ever i friggen want i like some female...
    PurpleMonkey34 PurpleMonkey34 22-25, M Dec 26, 2015

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    We'Re Not From Venus Or Mars Poem

    Its always been said that: Women are from Venus & men are from Mars. But I'm not from either, i must come from afar. Perhaps maybe Pluto, except im not too fond of the cold. Perhaps im from Saturn, i like the way it revolves... How about Jupiter, i like its dusty gold rings...
    Tuklr Tuklr 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    I feel alone and confused today

    as I am having trouble focusing on much this morning outside of my gender issues. I have been feeling like this most days recently as if my brain is stuck in some never-ending loop and I seem to forget some of the most simple day-to-day things because of my lack of...
    Jaclyn9 Jaclyn9 36-40, T 6 Responses Sep 14, 2015

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    I dunno, I was born male

    and now all of a sudden I get this feeling I'd be happier if i were to become a girl :/ I still have a ton of things to figure out first... I really need someone to talk to about this
    Kurlzz3Tears Kurlzz3Tears 16-17, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I don't want to become a man

    or anything like that it's just that I am drawn to other women. I watch them when I am out shopping and make a point of trying to see them when I go into the changing room to try stuff on. I like boys but it looks like I prefer girls at the moment
    littlebabyjane16 littlebabyjane16 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 20, 2015

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    I was born a man, I sometimes feel manly,

    sometimes I feel girly, sometimes I feel neutral idk what to do. I think I might be gender fluid :S
    riverapon357 riverapon357 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 27, 2015

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    Sometimes I am attracted to boys,

    but mostly with girls. Take note, Im a girl! This is insane! Hahaha
    NadineIsBi NadineIsBi 18-21, F 3 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Lately I feel a strong desire to try to pursue

    testosterone injections. I've seen bodies of trans-men and I can't help but think that's what I want to look like. Last year, I joined this site specifically to find support about my gender issues. And I received amazing advice. I believe I'm trans but I'm still often alright...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 2 Responses May 23, 2015

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    I KNOW that I am a man.

    I KNOW that I wish I had boobs. I KNOW that I love looking at women. I KNOW that when I talk with women I sometimes get scared and don't know what to say. I don't care to talk to men. BUT.........I have a man friend and he let me suck his thing, and now I just want to do it...
    mslade mslade 61-65, M Dec 7, 2015

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    I should say I have always felt I was suppose

    to be a girl not a boy. First time I dressed and got to play as a girl. I was 7 years old living in a foster home. A girl was brought in the same age as me. She was bigger than me a very bossy . She wanted me to play house and I said sure. She called me Chrissy instead of Chris...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 7, 2015

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    Every day I go back and forth between being

    content as I am in my everydaylife as a man, who is just a bit different from time to time, and feeling like I am not who I feel like. My biggest fear is maybe that if I were to do something further than what I allready have it might be irreversible. And in that case I would be...
    Joceline93 Joceline93 22-25, T 2 Responses Apr 27, 2015

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    i was here a while ago.

    i'm 15, boy, and still unable to talk to my mom about my possible trans-gender/sexuality. i told some of my close friends they were accepting(thank god). only came back here cause the feeling hit hard again. i tried on some of my mom's high heels felt so right i need some advice...
    jennie323 jennie323 13-15, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I wish my gender didn't exist.

    It's not like I want to be a man instead. I just wish people would see a person, not a woman, not a man. I hate both stereotypes, neither fit on. I'm scared of people's sexuality, And how the fact I'm perceived as a gender brings it out. Can't we just get on to other things? Im...
    AnxietyTurnsYouBad AnxietyTurnsYouBad 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    I've always felt as though I was supposed to be

    a boy, ever since I was a child. I'd sit awake at night wondering why I was born the way I was and how to fix it. I grew up in a strict and sheltered household, so I had never heard of being "transgendered" before, and it truly made me feel like I was to only person in the world...
    Player1LFG Player1LFG 22-25, F Dec 26, 2015

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    I am not female. Well,

    not always. But sometimes I am. I don't know, but I hate it that sometimes I am okay with my assigned gender and sometimes I'm not. I don't care what gender I am, if I could just be comfortable with THE SAME ONE ALL THE TIME... I guess I'm genderfluid, and I'm having a rough...
    emptystxrs emptystxrs 18-21, T 4 Responses Nov 25, 2015

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    can I talk to someone

    that can give me some advice ? xx
    ireallydontknow123 ireallydontknow123 13-15, M 5 Responses Jan 11

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    The journey has started.

    After alot of back and forth with the nurses at my Doctors office I got to meet a doctor. we sat down and talked. I told him that I wanted to go through a genderidentity evaluation. where I live it is required to do before you can start a transition. This does not mean that you...
    Joceline93 Joceline93 22-25, T 4 Responses Jun 18, 2015

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    idk why but sometimes i like girls like,

    am attracted to them and imagine stuffs with them but then, i do like guys too haha so am getting confused if what my gender is or if it's just a sudden phase in my life which i need to deal with.
    emswift emswift 18-21, F 10 Responses Nov 6, 2015

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    Blurring The Lines....

    I am happy to be me...finally. I know what it is to be me and how I feel at the moment.  I love crossing the gender line back and forth, often lingering at androgyny.  Sometimes it is fun to wear dresses and just be feminine.  Sometimes it is relaxing to appear more like a...
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree 46-50 4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    I don't want to get a sex change though.

    I just wish I was a male all the time. I've felt like this for many years now. I've tried and tried to embrace the 'female' side of me but I just don't feel comfortable doing so. I've hung out with so many guys in my life, and have come to learn that they're a lot of fun to hang...
    ghostofthesun ghostofthesun 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    im 14 boy and i feel stuck

    and hopeless for about a year i've been confused about my gender i'm not sure if i'm a girl or a boy or somewhere in between and part of this is i still like girls and not so sure if i'm by .i want to try dressing and acting like a girl a while but i don't know how to tell my...
    jennie323 jennie323 13-15, M 3 Responses Oct 26, 2015

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    I am a life long cross dresser.

    Started being confused about my gender when I was 12. A boy I knew asked me since I liked to dress like a girl if I wanted to do things with a boy like a girl. I said I didn't know I really never thought about that. Well he talked me into playing with his thing. I admit I was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 10, 2015

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    Gender Bender

    Im 29 born a female never took to girly things as I grew to the age of 19 I started to feel more male then female was cleared for hormone treatment diagnosed with G.I.D started on the road identified as a transgenderedmale but then something happened in my brain I slammed the...
    Lostboy5150 Lostboy5150 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    maybe not mine, exactly,

    but i'm always confused about gender in general: i'm glad i was assigned as i was, but it's more of a matter of thinking it's the best fit. i often question if i would identify the same way if i had grown up knowing non-binary identities existed, because i've never quite felt...
    astrifer astrifer 22-25, F Jan 27

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    I think I hopped into hormones too quick

    and didn't give much time to think about transitioning. I am thankful, don't get me wrong, its just that being on hormones made me realize to maybe step back and look at what I really need and want before pursuing anything that may be permanent. I am not detransitioning, I am...
    77jagger 77jagger 18-21, T 2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

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    So Im finding it really hard to come to terms

    with who or what I am, some people say not to live by labels and be yourself. well what if you really are not sure what that self is? Been a 35 year old male, who has had preasures from grandparents to be successful and expect grandchildren to finding that several years later...
    janeinchains janeinchains 31-35, M 4 Responses Sep 5, 2015

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    i know on my profile it says trans.

    .. but idk. im so ******* scared of this... i feel like i cant cope with it..
    carlyann15 carlyann15 22-25, T 1 Response Nov 5, 2015

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    I'm not sure maybe I'm agender I don?

    t really know. I don't have dysphoria attached to my assigned gender well not now, I think I did when I was younger. I definitely remember wishing I was a boy and thinking it would be so much easier if I was a boy, which isn't untrue but I don't think 9 year old me meant...
    Amani7 Amani7 18-21, F Nov 24, 2015

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    I am a 16 year old male

    and i would like to talk to some people my age or around it to get advice and just talk. Any one is welcome to contact me but id prefer you arent to old. c:
    VanessaAnnMarie VanessaAnnMarie 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    Everyone goes on and on about how brave Caitlyn

    Jenner is for coming out and transitioning. I wish they'd take a moment to commend the teenagers who are excommunicated from their families. Or the grandparents who transition when they're way past their prime. Or the children of bigots who are forced to live a lie just to...
    RandomInkFlow RandomInkFlow 18-21, T 4 Responses Aug 18, 2015

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    I currently identify

    as genderqueer, but sometimes I get really upset over having been born a girl. I've been imagining myself as a guy a lot recently and I feel like I would be happier if I could just be him instead of the way I am right now. I don't know what to think about this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    I'm a cisgender female.

    But I keep wishing I was born a guy lately. I hate my boobs. I hate my hips and waist. I keep cutting my hair hoping to look more boyish, but I have a feminine face so that's not really working. I cringe every time I get called a lady or mam. It's like a silent confusing battle...
    r0ck3r6 r0ck3r6 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 5, 2015

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    I'm asexual and gender confused.

    .. No wonder I feel so alone
    emilylightning16 emilylightning16 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 19, 2015

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    I don't know what I exactly am.

    Sometimes I feel like a man and I behave like one. I'm not like a woman. And I hate it mostly to wear female clothes... they feel weird. I like wide tshirts, hoodies, caps, wide trousers (for example Jetbag) and so on. I want to have short hair and a beard, stuff like that. But...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jan 28

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    I think I might be gender fluid/genderless

    and pansexual. nobody knows and I am still trying to figure myself out still.
    TomboyBeth TomboyBeth 13-15, F Nov 18, 2015

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    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my

    gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I discuss desegregation, a lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with the opposite gender. So I worry some woman might...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14 18-21 3 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I have no clue what's going on here.

    I don't feel comfortable when being called 'female' but I also don't feel comfortable being called 'male'. Lately, on the internet, I've been going by they/them pronouns and I'm enjoying not being confined to a specific gender. Real life however is much different. With myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jan 25

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    I was born female but I feel like a male.

    I don't like being called "she" or with my female birth name. I don't like being considered as feminine. I don't like dress feminine. I like to be called with male pronounces and a male name I chose for myself and wear male clothes. I don't have a really bad dysphoria, I...
    darklotus01 darklotus01 13-15, T 3 days ago

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    I have thought about transitioning from a girl

    to a guy,but i dont know,im not sure if i really even want to or if i want to stay a girl,or what would happen.I want to but at the same time i also dont
    heyilikeyour heyilikeyour 13-15, F Dec 30, 2014

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