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I Am Confused About My Gender

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    I am a biological female

    and I identify as genderfluid as of right now. Lately I've been feeling more masculine and wanting to be a guy more than usual. Bluh it's messing with my head >.<
    amandathegay amandathegay 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 7

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    First Time To Confess This...

    I've always felt to some extent like I wasn't fully female - or like I wasn't satisfactorily one. It's stupid, because physically there is no question that I am of the female sex. But as a child, I had differences (and who hasn't had differences? after all there's no such thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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    I should say I have always felt I was suppose

    to be a girl not a boy. First time I dressed and got to play as a girl. I was 7 years old living in a foster home. A girl was brought in the same age as me. She was bigger than me a very bossy . She wanted me to play house and I said sure. She called me Chrissy instead of Chris...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 7

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    Sometimes I am attracted to boys,

    but mostly with girls. Take note, Im a girl! This is insane! Hahaha
    NadineIsBi NadineIsBi 18-21, F 3 Responses May 21, 2014

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    I told my parents tonight.

    It went better than expected. But it's still probably time for me to move out so I can pursue this without fear. I couldn't have gotten through the rest of the night without my people. People who owe me nothing, people who don't have to pick up the phone when I call anymore...
    RandomInkFlow RandomInkFlow 18-21, T 1 Response Jun 26

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    Everyone goes on and on about how brave Caitlyn

    Jenner is for coming out and transitioning. I wish they'd take a moment to commend the teenagers who are excommunicated from their families. Or the grandparents who transition when they're way past their prime. Or the children of bigots who are forced to live a lie just to...
    RandomInkFlow RandomInkFlow 18-21, T 4 Responses Aug 18

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    i don't think i'm a girl

    but i don't think i'm a boy either. i suppose i enjoy being feminine but i just don't feel like an anything?? it's strange and i worry a lot about how people will react and if i'll be treated differently. i also have no clue what to identify as.
    caity16 caity16 16-17 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    I've recently come to terms with the fact I

    might be trans and am worried about how people will react. I tested how my friends online would react by changing my username but no ones said anything to me in days. Should I be worried?http://www.quotev.com/BlameItOnTheCosplay
    BlameItOnTheCosplay BlameItOnTheCosplay 16-17, T Jun 5

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    for years I've felt more masculine

    than feminine. I never knew why I felt this way. I dressed feminine to fit in I guess, I did like masculine clothing but I was afraid to wear it in case of people criticising me. I kinda feel like I should have been born male.
    ArkhamAwaits ArkhamAwaits 18-21 2 Responses Jul 5

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    I'm a girl. I have a gender neutral name.

    From what I've been told, most of my life I jut accepted whatever it was given to me. Whether it be pink cloths for Christmas or barbie dolls for my birthday. Not to long ago, maybe 6th 7th grade, I started rejecting all of that stuff. I started to refuse to shop in the girl...
    That1KidNo1Notices That1KidNo1Notices 13-15, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    I currently identify

    as genderqueer, but sometimes I get really upset over having been born a girl. I've been imagining myself as a guy a lot recently and I feel like I would be happier if I could just be him instead of the way I am right now. I don't know what to think about this...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    Amazed at how good binding felt

    and a beanie with a plaid shirt. Thought I looked like I wanted to and took a few pictures. But when I took the beanie off I like seeing my shoulder length hair lookin pretty and feminine. Idk wtf I'm feeling.
    SoManyShadows SoManyShadows 13-15, F May 2

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    Would like to have been born female I sometimes

    feel I was born male instead of female. I feel so comfortable when I'm dressed as a woman.
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Every day I go back and forth between being

    content as I am in my everydaylife as a man, who is just a bit different from time to time, and feeling like I am not who I feel like. My biggest fear is maybe that if I were to do something further than what I allready have it might be irreversible. And in that case I would be...
    Joceline93 Joceline93 18-21, T 2 Responses Apr 27

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    i have been confused about my gender

    for awhile now, i have never actually felt like a guy I always feel very feminine I dont know what to think
    FabulousMisha101 FabulousMisha101 13-15, M 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I don't fully mentally identify with

    either male nor female. It annoys me how gender-based society is and how I must stick to the roles of the physical form I was born and stuck with. A close friend of mine said I am just confused about it because I follow stereotypes. But it's not about how my personality is. It's...
    Saudabell Saudabell 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    Mind Over Body

    Physically I'm a woman, but I've never wanted to be. I hated at the inception of puberty the appearance of the first inconvenient badges of womanhood, and I felt a little punch in my stomach every time I went up a bra size. I didn't want breasts, and still don't. I don't feel...
    mousealinari mousealinari 18-21 6 Responses May 12, 2008

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    I was born a male, but sometimes all I think

    about is being female, but other times I wonder if that would be the right thing for me. I love to wear women's clothing and to feel feminine. I also have long hair that many women are envious of
    GWatson40 GWatson40 36-40, T 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I was born a man, I sometimes feel manly,

    sometimes I feel girly, sometimes I feel neutral idk what to do. I think I might be gender fluid :S
    riverapon357 riverapon357 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 27

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    The more i research the genders the more i get

    confused with myself. i dont know who i am. i feel feminine at times but others i feel masculine. gosh what even am i? i respect my body and what it is but sometimes my boobs or my crotch just arent what i want.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 7

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    I recently discovered the term demigirl/guy.

    It basically means that you identify with the female or male gender partially, but also with another different gender partially. I always assumed I was cis because I feel mostly female but honestly, sometimes that just isn't me. I really connect with the term demigirl and I...
    fairlylocal fairlylocal 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 8

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    Gender Bender

    Im 29 born a female never took to girly things as I grew to the age of 19 I started to feel more male then female was cleared for hormone treatment diagnosed with G.I.D started on the road identified as a transgenderedmale but then something happened in my brain I slammed the...
    Lostboy5150 Lostboy5150 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    I wish my gender didn't exist.

    It's not like I want to be a man instead. I just wish people would see a person, not a woman, not a man. I hate both stereotypes, neither fit on. I'm scared of people's sexuality, And how the fact I'm perceived as a gender brings it out. Can't we just get on to other things? Im...
    AnxietyTurnsYouBad AnxietyTurnsYouBad 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Hi I am a girl but I have always felt like I

    should have been a boy. I'd love to talk to others with the same feelings. I'm not interested in boys or girls so I consider myself trans and asexual. Anyone else classify like this?
    curiousriley curiousriley 16-17, T Apr 29

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    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my

    gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I discuss desegregation, a lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with the opposite gender. So I worry some woman might...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14 18-21 3 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    Blurring The Lines....

    I am happy to be me...finally. I know what it is to be me and how I feel at the moment.  I love crossing the gender line back and forth, often lingering at androgyny.  Sometimes it is fun to wear dresses and just be feminine.  Sometimes it is relaxing to appear more like a...
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree 46-50 4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    I don't think there are two genders.

    I have a feeling it might be a spectrum. I was born a female, but don't quite feel like a girl or a boy. I dress androgynously but sometimes feel very feminine or very masculine, so I dress to match. For me, if my outside appearance doesn't meet my inside gender, I feel...
    Annaelaine Annaelaine 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 27

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    I'm not sure "what" I am.

    I've never really talked about it before. I was born female. And I don't hate my body. In fact, I love my breasts. It's the bottom half of me that feels all wrong. Like I should have a penis but it's missing. It doesn't generally bother me but every so often, it hits me and I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    i`m actually 13, my mom wanted me to use HER

    birthday, I don`t know why. i am a boy on the inside, just not on the outside. i got my hair cut short today and my dad flipped out because he says its "what my Grandmother wanted to do ever since [I] was a baby" even though I wanted it. they know that i think i`m a boy. they...
    WolfsParadice WolfsParadice 36-40 1 Response May 2

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    8 months ago I came out

    as a transgender male because for the past year or so that's how I've felt and I've been happy with finally being myself. Sometimes I still like to wear make up and dress feminine though. A couple of weeks ago I found the term "androgynous" and what it meant and I love it. I...
    virtualricki virtualricki 16-17, T 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I am really confused about my gender Right i

    would like to start of by saying my sex is male but i don't feel at all like a male. I act like a normal male around my family as i don't really want them to find out anything ( i don't really like sharing my emotions with my family ). When i am alone i always think about how i...
    Ashlleigh Ashlleigh 16-17, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    Lately I feel a strong desire to try to pursue

    testosterone injections. I've seen bodies of trans-men and I can't help but think that's what I want to look like. Last year, I joined this site specifically to find support about my gender issues. And I received amazing advice. I believe I'm trans but I'm still often alright...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 2 Responses May 23

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    I'm scared I'm going to ruin my life,

    scared I'm go to hurt and ruin my wife's life, scared to be rejected by family and friends, scared, scared, scared. I'm 61 years old and I've always led a very constricted life. Few friends, rarely letting people get close to me. Things started early. My mother told a 'funny...
    EmmaAG EmmaAG 61-65, T 3 Responses Aug 17

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    Lately I've been wishing I was a boy.

    I'm not sure if I'm trans though because I didn't feel this way when I was a little kid. I was very isolated and only ever saw my sisters and mom so I thought dresses and stuff was just what everyone wore and I delt with it. When I was introduced to society in kindergarten I...
    Pop14lol Pop14lol 13-15 2 Responses May 11

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    For the past year maybe,

    I've been learning more about my gender and sexuality and learning about those in general. I'm a confirmed pansexual, but I'm wary and confused about my gender. I was born a female, and am completely comfortable being called female, but would rather be male. I don't like...
    galaxyclockwork galaxyclockwork 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    I have thought about transitioning from a girl

    to a guy,but i dont know,im not sure if i really even want to or if i want to stay a girl,or what would happen.I want to but at the same time i also dont
    heyilikeyour heyilikeyour 13-15, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I've always been a "tomboy" I guess.

    I was sexually molester at the age of 7-8 by a boy child on child molestation, At age 11. Then 15. And I used to pretend to be trans because of that but I wasn't. But I've always been so InBetween with genders. Neither male or female. I wear guys shoes/hats somtimes with the...
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I'm a cisgender female.

    But I keep wishing I was born a guy lately. I hate my boobs. I hate my hips and waist. I keep cutting my hair hoping to look more boyish, but I have a feminine face so that's not really working. I cringe every time I get called a lady or mam. It's like a silent confusing battle...
    r0ck3r6 r0ck3r6 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 5

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    I'm am so very confused about my gender.

    I was born in a male body. Grew up male, but started to crossdress at a young age 5ish, I'm now married 21 years to kids, I love my wife dearly, I don't to do anything to hurt her. I been able to suppress my need to dress for the most for the last 21 years. She did know about my...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 2 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    I'm not trans. I'm also not just a female.

    I've had days where I feel like the gray space. I shared this with my Friedan and she said that she has also experienced this. What would i call this?
    sk8rkm77 sk8rkm77 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I am a 16 year old male

    and i would like to talk to some people my age or around it to get advice and just talk. Any one is welcome to contact me but id prefer you arent to old. c:
    VanessaAnnMarie VanessaAnnMarie 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I am really confused about what gender I was

    supposed to be, right now I feel like I might be Agender,(neither male or female) and have been getting people to call me by a gender-neutral name and my preferred pronouns, (they, them, they're). But I keep changing my mind about my gender and it's really confusing, I wish I...
    Mylittleponyfim Mylittleponyfim 13-15 1 Response Jun 8

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    I'm a biological female,

    who is in love with a Transgender girl, who has not transitioned yet. for a long time, I thought I was transgender, and wanted to be masculine, but now I want to be kinda girly but hate my breasts. if I could switch genders back and forth that'd be great...what is that then, if...
    oliviairene47 oliviairene47 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    Sometimes I like to dress like a guy

    and I'm a girl and I think I like girls..
    LittleMissMysteriouss LittleMissMysteriouss 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 12

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    Don't really understand the concept of gender.

    I have no idea what it means when women say they like to feel feminine or why men desire to be masculine. If I'm doing something that's stereotypically considered masculine or feminine I don't think of it in terms of gender. I'm just being me. I really couldn't care less whether...
    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 4 Responses May 11, 2014

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    I got really mad at my mom the other day I went

    into the boys section of a store and she said she's tired of buying boys stuff I almost cried because well most days I feel like a girl but somedays I really don't now I will never want a penis or anything but I really HATE my chest somedays and I like the name Eric or Adam I...
    snowlilly53 snowlilly53 18-21, F 2 Responses