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I Am Confused About My Gender

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    Blurring The Lines....

    I am happy to be me...finally. I know what it is to be me and how I feel at the moment.  I love crossing the gender line back and forth, often lingering at androgyny.  Sometimes it is fun to wear dresses and just be feminine.  Sometimes it is relaxing to appear more like a...
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree 46-50 4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    We'Re Not From Venus Or Mars Poem

    Its always been said that: Women are from Venus & men are from Mars. But I'm not from either, i must come from afar. Perhaps maybe Pluto, except im not too fond of the cold. Perhaps im from Saturn, i like the way it revolves... How about Jupiter, i like its dusty gold rings...
    Tuklr Tuklr 16-17 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    Gender Bender

    Im 29 born a female never took to girly things as I grew to the age of 19 I started to feel more male then female was cleared for hormone treatment diagnosed with G.I.D started on the road identified as a transgenderedmale but then something happened in my brain I slammed the...
    Lostboy5150 Lostboy5150 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    mightymouse27 mightymouse27 26-30, T 1 Response Jan 14

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    First Time To Confess This...

    I've always felt to some extent like I wasn't fully female - or like I wasn't satisfactorily one. It's stupid, because physically there is no question that I am of the female sex. But as a child, I had differences (and who hasn't had differences? after all there's no such thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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    This is sort of getting out of hand.

    I can't control it any longer. It seems that my efforts to appear as normal and okay as can be are... failing. Never in my entire life have I encountered anything so challenging as gender. One day I was perfectly alright, perfectly okay with being though of known as female...
    minecrafter4343 minecrafter4343 13-15, T 5 days ago

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    Honestly, I'm so unsure about my gender.

    I've started to really think about it, and I'm not completely happy with it... I'm pretty much baffled. I've never really felt like a "boy" (whatever that's supposed feels like) and I don't know what it's like to "feel" or "be" a girl. But sometimes I get this intense...
    quietbones quietbones 16-17 2 Responses Mar 25

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    Don't really understand the concept of gender.

    I have no idea what it means when women say they like to feel feminine or why men desire to be masculine. If I'm doing something that's stereotypically considered masculine or feminine I don't think of it in terms of gender. I'm just being me. I really couldn't care less whether...
    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 3 Responses May 11

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    Someone Please Help

    I seriously have no clue what's going on. When I was little I would swing between wearing my hair up in a hat and saying that boys are cooler than girls and wearing tutus and painting my nails. I always just thought it meant that my parents raised me right. Over the past 3 years...
    HunterFae HunterFae 18-21, T 3 Responses Apr 15, 2013

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    I'm so confused about my gender

    and have been for a long time. I started putting my mom's stuff around 4 or 5, I battle the desire to dress all the time . Then growing up I liked girls before it was cool to I mean I liked girls at 4 or so. and not just girls but there clothing too. I notice what a girl's...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 1 Response Jul 11

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    Really confused about my gender

    and feel all alone. I was born a boy however I have always been called gay or a sissy since childhood. I wonder if any guys are attracted to a bottom who loves to be treated like a princess bottom wife! Looking for my Prince Charming however I am not sure what I am? Please...
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom 26-30, T Apr 3

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    ever since i was a little girl i've always

    wanted to be a boy! growing up i longed to be a boy! i would have dreams that i woke up and was a boy! when i got older around 7th grade i calmed to be a lesbian but i was not attracted to girls the same way i was to guys. something was always missing.... and my desire to be a...
    brink18 brink18 13-15 3 Responses May 21

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    I am a male from Venus

    but I am strongly attracted to Men from Mars!
    FemGayBottom FemGayBottom 26-30, T 2 Responses Apr 3

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    This Is New?

    I've always known I was transgendered. I have been wearing girls clothes since my earliest memories. It has always been important to me to be passable in public, and I plan to start living as in my career soon, as I have already spent all my own time as a female for years. I had...
    TheBaroness91081 TheBaroness91081 31-35, T 4 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    I was born a female. Sometimes I feel like a

    girl, other times like a boy. But I mostly feel like a guy. I like to dress in clothes that hides my gender, I feel uncomfortable with long hair. I would cut my boobs off if I could and I would be so glad to change my v for a p... But the thing is, I do like boys. (And girls...
    faithandfree faithandfree 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I am a Girl biologically

    and I have always liked wearing dresses and painting my nails and doing my makeup. but recently when I do those thing it feels like I'm faking it feels wrong. the girly things I always do have started to feel unnatural. I am a cosplayer and am about to get into Crossplay and...
    confusedLGBTteen confusedLGBTteen 13-15 4 Responses a week ago

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    When i was 7 i thought i should be a boy.

    Then i realized i was a lesbian. I love being dominate and strong and in charge. I hate my chest and often think i should have a pen_is so that i can be more in power. Any help to sort my scrambled mind?
    destiny6912 destiny6912 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    I am really confused about my gender.

    Some days I find thinking about being female.arousing some days it just feels right and others I disgust myself for thinking about it. Can anybody help?
    anonymousperson20006 anonymousperson20006 18-21 Dec 25, 2013

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    I'm not sure "what" I am.

    I've never really talked about it before. I was born female. And I don't hate my body. In fact, I love my breasts. It's the bottom half of me that feels all wrong. Like I should have a penis but it's missing. It doesn't generally bother me but every so often, it hits me and I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 8

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    I know I am a girl but more often,

    I like girls than boys. As far as I can remember, the first time I had a crush on a girl was when I was 7 years old. I also liked a girl from school when I was in High School. Recently, my female crushes are celebrities. On the other hand, i am also attracted to men. I also have...
    secondalways secondalways 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 17

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    CompassionateCoffee CompassionateCoffee 13-15 1 Response May 20

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    When I was younger, I was very feminine.

    I always wore dresses, I played with barbies, I had all girl friends, I was just all around girly. But as I got older I became more masculine. I started liking guy things. I felt more guyish and I was quite comfortable with my lifestyle. But when I got my pixie cut and I started...
    kinglesswriter kinglesswriter 13-15, F 3 Responses May 14

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    OMG.....Ken's wife knocked on the front door

    when I was in the middle of a great ******. I was fully dressed, and Ken totally freaked out. His car was out in front, and she just started screaming his name. I took off my mask and put a rob on and answered the door, she was very upset to say the least, she looked at me and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 15

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    I am biologically female

    and I don't feel like I am female but it don't feel like I am a male either
    humanperson1267 humanperson1267 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 17

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    I am really confused about my gender.

    Some days I find thinking about being female.arousing some days it just feels right and others I disgust myself for thinking about it. Can anybody help?
    anonymousperson20006 anonymousperson20006 18-21 5 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    So Confused...

    I have thought many times that I would make SUCH a better guy, alot of it is because I'm not built like a girl, I have big broad shoulders and am taller than alot of the guys I know. As well as the fact that I think like a guy, talk like one, act like one and most of the time...
    NeenaFlame NeenaFlame 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 25, 2012

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    Transgender Equality For Social Media

    Hi everyone, I have started a new campaign to ask social media sites like Facebook and Myspace to add other options besides male and female. Sites like EP give you choices, even Google+ gives you an "other" option. But Facebook and MySpace will not acknowledge anything other than...
    SecksKitten SecksKitten 31-35, T Aug 28, 2012

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    I've Always Felt Like A Girl.

    From as long as i can remember i thought i was a girl. I was very young and they would dress me up like a babydoll. I remember crying when they would take the clothes off of me. While i do like to dress feminine when i can it's not about the clothes for me. It's about being who i...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 1, 2012

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    I'm am so very confused about my gender.

    I was born in a male body. Grew up male, but started to crossdress at a young age 5ish, I'm now married 21 years to kids, I love my wife dearly, I don't to do anything to hurt her. I been able to suppress my need to dress for the most for the last 21 years. She did know about my...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 2 Responses Jul 13

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    What Am I?

    I am extremely confused about my gender. I was born female, but have recently begun questioning that. I honestly sometimes feel that I am a man inside, but I love female clothes, but I hate having breasts, and would rather have a penis. But at the same time, I would really love...
    ThePowerOfThree ThePowerOfThree 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I'm quite confused about my gender.

    I was born female but some days I feel like being a girl and sone days I feel like being a boy (to the point of wearing wigs and talking in a deeper voice). Am I the only one who feels this way?
    Areiaado Areiaado 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 30

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    I don't think I'm trans

    but I hate my female body. I look in the mirror and I wish I could cut off my breasts. I don't identify as male though. I don't think I am a male inside, just want to look like one. What does that make me? I dress in butch clothing pretty much all the time. I keep my hair short...
    ashkevron ashkevron 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 17

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    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my

    gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I discuss desegregation, a lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with the opposite gender. So I worry some woman might...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14 18-21 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Gender Confused?

    Hi, I'm a 20 year old Lesbian with depression. A lot of the time, I like to think I am a man, because I think I would be better at it. I sometimes wish I had been born a man and then maybe it would be at peace with myself. Problem is, I don't really know whether it is a serious...
    Fluffy92 Fluffy92 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 28, 2013

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    Why Have I Been Dealt This T Girl Card?

    I have learned through my research online that if you are confused about your gender it has most likely been with you since cradle days and it will most likely be there with you in the grave. It is extremely important for you to not only know that you are transgendered and but...
    saraashley saraashley 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    I don't fully mentally identify with

    either male nor female. It annoys me how gender-based society is and how I must stick to the roles of the physical form I was born and stuck with. A close friend of mine said I am just confused about it because I follow stereotypes. But it's not about how my personality is. It's...
    Saudabell Saudabell 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 9

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    Sometimes I am attracted to boys,

    but mostly with girls. Take note, Im a girl! This is insane! Hahaha
    MyGosh MyGosh 16-17, F 4 Responses May 21

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    Does My expression Have To Agree With My Identity?

    I look in the mirror. My face is blotchy and my hair is a tangled mess of last night's hairspray. "Hair, make-up, let's get you looking pretty," says one half of me: the societal conformist and 'fully-fledged female' part of me. It's all on. The hair brush is in motion, the...
    ateron ateron 18-21 1 Response Sep 7, 2013

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    I Might Be The Most Gender Confused Person Ever

    And I say this for so many reasons. Let start with a simple one. I believe myself to be androgynous. I feel androgynous, I act androgynous, hell, far as I know I think androgynous. That is honestly the best gender word that I can find that fits me. And yet, sometimes, I'm afraid...
    Iladra Iladra 16-17 4 Responses Dec 24, 2012

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    Mind Over Body

    Physically I'm a woman, but I've never wanted to be. I hated at the inception of puberty the appearance of the first inconvenient badges of womanhood, and I felt a little punch in my stomach every time I went up a bra size. I didn't want breasts, and still don't. I don't feel...
    mousealinari mousealinari 18-21 6 Responses May 12, 2008

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    Pandorazz Pandorazz 26-30 1 Response May 11

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    I Feel Like I Am The Only One Going Through This

    I read through the stories in this group, and I was really hoping to find people who are like me. But I can't. I read a lot of stories about people who have always felt drawn to wearing women's clothing. I have never felt that way. I've never been discontent as a male. I am...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M 4 Responses Jun 25, 2013

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    I don't consider myself to be gay,

    but when I'm dressed in a short skirt/dress, sexy stockings and heels i feel so girly and feminine. It's then that i feel a strong sexual attraction to men. I've even found myself fantasising about some of my straight male friends and wishing they were making love to me. They...
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    So Confused...

    Growing up I was always a tomboy, I never related well to girls, I always thought I would have made a good boy. Now that I'm older I'm not so sure, I don't think I'm entirly a girl. I have some feminine qualities, for instance I like to wear female...
    Angrygirlsilentboy Angrygirlsilentboy 18-21, T 9 Responses May 16, 2009

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    Not Quite Sure

    I am not exactly sure what to think about my gender identity. I mean I have always had at least a mild desire to be female, sometimes an irresistable urge. but on the other hand i hold no hatred towards my male gender and feel if i had to i could probably live happy as i am. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 14, 2011

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    I am a 15 year old who was born biologically

    female. I'll be starting sophomore year after this summer and I've been finding myself in a lot of distress about my gender. I have identified as pansexual in the 8th grade, then in 9th grade I came out as lesbian. Now I'm even more confused. I love girls, and I kind of want to...
    missmarypop missmarypop 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 21

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    Would like to have been born female I sometimes

    feel I was born male instead of female. I feel so comfortable when I'm dressed as a woman.
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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