I Am Confused About My Gender

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    I wish my gender didn't exist.

    It's not like I want to be a man instead. I just wish people would see a person, not a woman, not a man. I hate both stereotypes, neither fit on. I'm scared of people's sexuality, And how the fact I'm perceived as a gender brings it out. Can't we just get on to other things? Im...
    AnxietyTurnsYouBad AnxietyTurnsYouBad
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Oct 21, 2014

    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my

    gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I discuss desegregation, a lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with the opposite gender. So I worry some woman might...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14
    18-21
    3 Responses Jun 25, 2014

    I KNOW that I am a man.

    I KNOW that I wish I had boobs. I KNOW that I love looking at women. I KNOW that when I talk with women I sometimes get scared and don't know what to say. I don't care to talk to men. BUT.........I have a man friend and he let me suck his thing, and now I just want to do it...
    mslade mslade
    61-65, M
    Dec 7, 2015

    I just posted in another group,

    but this one is more popular so I will post on here too. I am not sure if I'm genderfluid, genderqueer, agender, something else, or just male. I am gender-nonconforming. I don't care what pronouns people even use for me, if it would be he, she, they, ze, or something else. I...
    LanelJaento LanelJaento
    13-15, T
    1 Response Feb 20

    I don't know what I exactly am.

    Sometimes I feel like a man and I behave like one. I'm not like a woman. And I hate it mostly to wear female clothes... they feel weird. I like wide tshirts, hoodies, caps, wide trousers (for example Jetbag) and so on. I want to have short hair and a beard, stuff like that. But...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    4 Responses Jan 28

    I got really mad at my mom the other day I went

    into the boys section of a store and she said she's tired of buying boys stuff I almost cried because well most days I feel like a girl but somedays I really don't now I will never want a penis or anything but I really HATE my chest somedays and I like the name Eric or Adam I...
    snowlilly53 snowlilly53
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2014

    I am 15 and i am a girl.

    There are times when i look at myself and i hate what i see, its hard to explain what it is but i feel out of place. When i see myself as a girl, i feel less enthusiastic, less like, myself. There has been times when i was going to try to transition into a boy, but i chickened...
    Shizaya103 Shizaya103
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Feb 15

    I don't know who am I,

    I was born female but I feel like I'm not like the other girls. I feel more confortable wearing boy's clothes. And something that worries me a lot is that I can't imagine myself in a relationship being a girl. I'm not sure to be a male neither because sometimes I feel femenine...
    Aoame Aoame
    18-21, T
    4 Responses Apr 9

    I currently identify

    as genderqueer, but sometimes I get really upset over having been born a girl. I've been imagining myself as a guy a lot recently and I feel like I would be happier if I could just be him instead of the way I am right now. I don't know what to think about this...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Nov 24, 2014

    Sometimes I am attracted to boys,

    but mostly with girls. Take note, Im a girl! This is insane! Hahaha
    NadineIsBi NadineIsBi
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 21, 2014

    Hey, so recently I habe been quite confused

    about me gender. I am biologically female. Everyone around me seems to know where to belong... However, if someone asked me what gender I was, I wouldn't know who to answer. Currently I am just feeling kind of empty. Maybe I just need to think more about me as a person? I dress...
    Lemonappletree Lemonappletree
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 28

    i was here a while ago.

    i'm 15, boy, and still unable to talk to my mom about my possible trans-gender/sexuality. i told some of my close friends they were accepting(thank god). only came back here cause the feeling hit hard again. i tried on some of my mom's high heels felt so right i need some advice...
    jennie323 jennie323
    13-15, M
    3 Responses Feb 7

    can I talk to someone

    that can give me some advice ? xx
    ireallydontknow123 ireallydontknow123
    13-15, M
    5 Responses Jan 11

    idk why but sometimes i like girls like,

    am attracted to them and imagine stuffs with them but then, i do like guys too haha so am getting confused if what my gender is or if it's just a sudden phase in my life which i need to deal with.
    emswift emswift
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Nov 6, 2015

    I feel alone and confused today

    as I am having trouble focusing on much this morning outside of my gender issues. I have been feeling like this most days recently as if my brain is stuck in some never-ending loop and I seem to forget some of the most simple day-to-day things because of my lack of...
    Jaclyn9 Jaclyn9
    36-40, T
    6 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    I have thought about transitioning from a girl

    to a guy,but i dont know,im not sure if i really even want to or if i want to stay a girl,or what would happen.I want to but at the same time i also dont
    heyilikeyour heyilikeyour
    16-17, F
    Dec 30, 2014

    Blurring The Lines....

    I am happy to be me...finally. I know what it is to be me and how I feel at the moment.  I love crossing the gender line back and forth, often lingering at androgyny.  Sometimes it is fun to wear dresses and just be feminine.  Sometimes it is relaxing to appear more like a...
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree
    46-50
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

    I should say I have always felt I was suppose

    to be a girl not a boy. First time I dressed and got to play as a girl. I was 7 years old living in a foster home. A girl was brought in the same age as me. She was bigger than me a very bossy . She wanted me to play house and I said sure. She called me Chrissy instead of Chris...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 7, 2015

    So Im finding it really hard to come to terms

    with who or what I am, some people say not to live by labels and be yourself. well what if you really are not sure what that self is? Been a 35 year old male, who has had preasures from grandparents to be successful and expect grandchildren to finding that several years later...
    janeinchains janeinchains
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Sep 5, 2015

    I am not female. Well,

    not always. But sometimes I am. I don't know, but I hate it that sometimes I am okay with my assigned gender and sometimes I'm not. I don't care what gender I am, if I could just be comfortable with THE SAME ONE ALL THE TIME... I guess I'm genderfluid, and I'm having a rough...
    emptystxrs emptystxrs
    18-21, T
    4 Responses Nov 25, 2015

    Would like to have been born female I sometimes

    feel I was born male instead of female. I feel so comfortable when I'm dressed as a woman.
    albro1000 albro1000
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    I was born female but I feel like a male.

    I don't like being called "she" or with my female birth name. I don't like being considered as feminine. I don't like dress feminine. I like to be called with male pronounces and a male name I chose for myself and wear male clothes. I don't have a really bad dysphoria, I...
    darklotus01 darklotus01
    13-15, T
    Feb 8

    I'm a cisgender female.

    But I keep wishing I was born a guy lately. I hate my boobs. I hate my hips and waist. I keep cutting my hair hoping to look more boyish, but I have a feminine face so that's not really working. I cringe every time I get called a lady or mam. It's like a silent confusing battle...
    r0ck3r6 r0ck3r6
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 5, 2015

    We'Re Not From Venus Or Mars Poem

    Its always been said that: Women are from Venus & men are from Mars. But I'm not from either, i must come from afar. Perhaps maybe Pluto, except im not too fond of the cold. Perhaps im from Saturn, i like the way it revolves... How about Jupiter, i like its dusty gold rings...
    Tuklr Tuklr
    18-21, M
    1 Response Mar 17, 2013

    I think I hopped into hormones too quick

    and didn't give much time to think about transitioning. I am thankful, don't get me wrong, its just that being on hormones made me realize to maybe step back and look at what I really need and want before pursuing anything that may be permanent. I am not detransitioning, I am...
    77jagger 77jagger
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    Alright.. This will be the first time I've ever

    come out about something I truly feel inside. I don't know if my soul is that of a mans. In my family, all of the males tend to be big 'manly' men and I'm not an exception. In year 6 I started growing facial hair and at the age of 18 I'm covered in it. Ever since I was really...
    Lilaven Lilaven
    18-21, M
    5 Responses Feb 24

    I dunno, I was born male

    and now all of a sudden I get this feeling I'd be happier if i were to become a girl :/ I still have a ton of things to figure out first... I really need someone to talk to about this
    Kurlzz3Tears Kurlzz3Tears
    16-17, M
    2 Responses Feb 5

    I don't want to get a sex change though.

    I just wish I was a male all the time. I've felt like this for many years now. I've tried and tried to embrace the 'female' side of me but I just don't feel comfortable doing so. I've hung out with so many guys in my life, and have come to learn that they're a lot of fun to hang...
    ghostofthesun ghostofthesun
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 13

    I don't want to become a man

    or anything like that it's just that I am drawn to other women. I watch them when I am out shopping and make a point of trying to see them when I go into the changing room to try stuff on. I like boys but it looks like I prefer girls at the moment
    littlebabyjane16 littlebabyjane16
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Sep 20, 2015

    Basically, I am a boy down there.

    Since I was young (probably 10 years old) I crossdress in secret. It's only in late 2015 that I suddenly felt very confused about what gender I am... In my mind, I clearly like girls, I have a girlfriend and everything is perfect, but somehow I don't know if I identify myself as...
    XavierR221 XavierR221
    18-21, M
    Mar 17

    I'm so confused, at times I feel like a girl

    but sometimes I feel like neither. And when I feel like neither, I'm fine with she/her pronouns, I don't understand…
    lonelydarkshadow lonelydarkshadow
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jan 4

    Every day I go back and forth between being

    content as I am in my everydaylife as a man, who is just a bit different from time to time, and feeling like I am not who I feel like. My biggest fear is maybe that if I were to do something further than what I allready have it might be irreversible. And in that case I would be...
    Joceline93 Joceline93
    22-25, T
    2 Responses Apr 27, 2015

    So this is kind of an evolution of me I guess.

    .. I kind of like it because in the first pictures I just started trying to be more gender neutral/androgynous in how I dressed and did my hair but the second picture I'm trying to look more masculine but tbh both I just look silly lmao but now I'm going camo and doing makeup and...
    RachelDare RachelDare
    16-17
    2 Responses Feb 28

    For the past year maybe,

    I've been learning more about my gender and sexuality and learning about those in general. I'm a confirmed pansexual, but I'm wary and confused about my gender. I was born a female, and am completely comfortable being called female, but would rather be male. I don't like...
    galaxyclockwork galaxyclockwork
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    I'm not sure "what" I am.

    I've never really talked about it before. I was born female. And I don't hate my body. In fact, I love my breasts. It's the bottom half of me that feels all wrong. Like I should have a penis but it's missing. It doesn't generally bother me but every so often, it hits me and I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jun 8, 2014

    The journey has started.

    After alot of back and forth with the nurses at my Doctors office I got to meet a doctor. we sat down and talked. I told him that I wanted to go through a genderidentity evaluation. where I live it is required to do before you can start a transition. This does not mean that you...
    Joceline93 Joceline93
    22-25, T
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2015

    im a guy but sometimes i feel wrong like i like

    being me beard and all but sometimes i wish i had more feminine features like breasts and stuff but keep my male parts and i still like women but want to be more like one while staying myself if that makes sense and be able to dress how ever i friggen want i like some female...
    PurpleMonkey34 PurpleMonkey34
    22-25, M
    Dec 26, 2015

    i am a guy basically

    but i kinda wish i was more female but still me like if i had breasts and curves but can still have my full facial hair if I want and also still be male down below i feel kind of in between wishing i could dress however i want masculine or feminine or a bit of both but be...
    PurpleMonkey34 PurpleMonkey34
    22-25, M
    Jan 27

    Everyone goes on and on about how brave Caitlyn

    Jenner is for coming out and transitioning. I wish they'd take a moment to commend the teenagers who are excommunicated from their families. Or the grandparents who transition when they're way past their prime. Or the children of bigots who are forced to live a lie just to...
    RandomInkFlow RandomInkFlow
    18-21, T
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2015

    I was born a female and I enjoy being a female.

    I love dressing up in girly clothes, putting make up on at times, all that good stuff. But ever since I can remember (third grade), a chunk of me has always and will always deep down feel as if I wasn't just meant to be a girl. Whenever I do certain activities (which is an...
    Ominousity Ominousity
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 22, 2015

    Please help me! I was born a biological female,

    and i've lived as a female all my life (albeit a bit of a tom boy). I've never really wanted to conform to gender norms, I never wanted to look like a princess, I've only ever dressed girly to please others. My favorite character in films was always the villain, and always...
    NimbusNimpy NimbusNimpy
    16-17, T
    3 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    i have no clue what i am i feel like I'm a guy

    but also female i like my male clothes but i also like female clothes i like my parts i was born with but would also like to have breasts but still look like myself facial hair and all and be able to just dress however i wanted whenever i wanted and my personality seems like a...
    PurpleMonkey34 PurpleMonkey34
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Mar 21

    sometime I think I'm genderfluid other times I

    think I'm trans or maybe just a tomboy I really don't know I'd love to find out though...
    LittleBabyFox LittleBabyFox
    22-25, T
    1 Response Apr 10

    I don't consider myself to be gay,

    but when I'm dressed in a short skirt/dress, sexy stockings and heels i feel so girly and feminine. It's then that i feel a strong sexual attraction to men. I've even found myself fantasising about some of my straight male friends and wishing they were making love to me. They...
    albro1000 albro1000
    41-45, M
    5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

    Gender Bender

    Im 29 born a female never took to girly things as I grew to the age of 19 I started to feel more male then female was cleared for hormone treatment diagnosed with G.I.D started on the road identified as a transgenderedmale but then something happened in my brain I slammed the...
    Lostboy5150 Lostboy5150
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 24, 2012

    I have no clue what's going on here.

    I don't feel comfortable when being called 'female' but I also don't feel comfortable being called 'male'. Lately, on the internet, I've been going by they/them pronouns and I'm enjoying not being confined to a specific gender. Real life however is much different. With myself...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Jan 25

    actually I've never been confused about what

    gender I was, I just never really cared until lately :P I've always been and always will be a girl, a very girly girl too. like I said I never really cared what gender I was, I just knew that I was very feminine, I liked girls a lot more then guys, and that everything was off...
    PrincessIKairi PrincessIKairi
    22-25, T
    1 Response May 11, 2015

    maybe not mine, exactly,

    but i'm always confused about gender in general: i'm glad i was assigned as i was, but it's more of a matter of thinking it's the best fit. i often question if i would identify the same way if i had grown up knowing non-binary identities existed, because i've never quite felt...
    astrifer astrifer
    22-25, F
    Jan 27

    I've always been " one of the boys" kinda girl

    and I've kinda had to get rid of that big part of me because people where picking on me saying I'm only doing it to sleep with the lad when I wasn't I'm not even instead in that sorta stuff I had to be part of the girls I started wearing makeup but I hate it so much :( All my...
    exoticHallucations exoticHallucations
    16-17, F
    Apr 8

    I'm stuck between a rock

    and a hard place, gender-wise. I was born male. **** me. I ******* hate being male. You can guess which gender I'd rather be. So that be the hard place (*cracks up*). What be the rocks? The rock is the Child Adolescent Mental Health Service, CAMHS. To apply to a transgender...
    AsYetNameless AsYetNameless
    16-17, T
    Apr 13

    I don't fully mentally identify with

    either male nor female. It annoys me how gender-based society is and how I must stick to the roles of the physical form I was born and stuck with. A close friend of mine said I am just confused about it because I follow stereotypes. But it's not about how my personality is. It's...
    Saudabell Saudabell
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

    Hello, I am very confused.

    . I prefer masculine pronouns but I haven't really told anyone. I have changed my name to a gender neutral one, but unfortunately I haven't changed it legally.. I was born in the meat sack of a female, and I forget that I am in this feminine meat prison a lot. I don't really want...
    AbstractMirrors AbstractMirrors
    18-21, T
    2 Responses Feb 20

    I was born a man, I sometimes feel manly,

    sometimes I feel girly, sometimes I feel neutral idk what to do. I think I might be gender fluid :S
    riverapon357 riverapon357
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    AM I GAY, BI, STRAIGHT,

    DEMI, OR JUST PLAINLY CONFUSED? I just recently got out of a relationship with my now ex-girlfriend (I am also a girl). and now everything got messed up. Our relationship ended not because I was confused, I got confused after our relationship ended, I guess you could call it...
    LoveIsLove216 LoveIsLove216
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 9

    I don't know who in the heck I am

    and I hate myself becuz of it!
    dreamer92387 dreamer92387
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 25
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Mar 8

    I am a 16 year old male

    and i would like to talk to some people my age or around it to get advice and just talk. Any one is welcome to contact me but id prefer you arent to old. c:
    VanessaAnnMarie VanessaAnnMarie
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

    I've always felt as though I was supposed to be

    a boy, ever since I was a child. I'd sit awake at night wondering why I was born the way I was and how to fix it. I grew up in a strict and sheltered household, so I had never heard of being "transgendered" before, and it truly made me feel like I was to only person in the world...
    Player1LFG Player1LFG
    22-25, F
    Dec 26, 2015

    Lately I feel a strong desire to try to pursue

    testosterone injections. I've seen bodies of trans-men and I can't help but think that's what I want to look like. Last year, I joined this site specifically to find support about my gender issues. And I received amazing advice. I believe I'm trans but I'm still often alright...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 23, 2015
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