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I Am Confused About My Gender

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    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my

    gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I discuss desegregation, a lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with the opposite gender. So I worry some woman might...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14 18-21 3 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    For a long time I didn't mind being female,

    it never bothered me, nothing really did. Yet, after a few years happily nestled in the tumblr community and having quite a few non-binary or trans friends I started thinking about my own gender identity. After a few times of being mistakenly called by masculine pronouns I...
    ZakariHarish ZakariHarish 18-21 3 Responses Oct 18, 2014

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    I'm am so very confused about my gender.

    I was born in a male body. Grew up male, but started to crossdress at a young age 5ish, I'm now married 21 years to kids, I love my wife dearly, I don't to do anything to hurt her. I been able to suppress my need to dress for the most for the last 21 years. She did know about my...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 2 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    Hi everyone, I just want to share what I'm

    feeling right now. Actually this past few months, I became confuse about my gender. I used to have a guy crush before but I don't know why lately I found myself checking out on girls. I am really depressed, I don't know if I am just denying it to myself that I am lesbian because...
    confusePLLady confusePLLady 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    Gender Bender

    Im 29 born a female never took to girly things as I grew to the age of 19 I started to feel more male then female was cleared for hormone treatment diagnosed with G.I.D started on the road identified as a transgenderedmale but then something happened in my brain I slammed the...
    Lostboy5150 Lostboy5150 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    hi everyone. i'm a 22 years old cisgender

    female. first of all, i apologyze for my english. lately i've been questioning my gender a lot. When i was a child (actually until I was14 years old) i felt that i would love to be a boy (buti wasn't dysforic about me body). then those sensations just vanished. To be honest i...
    finnien finnien 22-25, T 1 Response Jan 6

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    I'm so confused about my gender

    and have been for a long time. I started putting my mom's stuff around 4 or 5, I battle the desire to dress all the time . Then growing up I liked girls before it was cool to I mean I liked girls at 4 or so. and not just girls but there clothing too. I notice what a girl's...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T Jul 11, 2014

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    For the past year maybe,

    I've been learning more about my gender and sexuality and learning about those in general. I'm a confirmed pansexual, but I'm wary and confused about my gender. I was born a female, and am completely comfortable being called female, but would rather be male. I don't like...
    galaxyclockwork galaxyclockwork 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    Don't really understand the concept of gender.

    I have no idea what it means when women say they like to feel feminine or why men desire to be masculine. If I'm doing something that's stereotypically considered masculine or feminine I don't think of it in terms of gender. I'm just being me. I really couldn't care less whether...
    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 4 Responses May 11, 2014

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    I guess this is where I should start.

    ... I'm 19 and I was born male, I've been dressing up since I was at least 8 possibly younger. When I was little dressing up was something I did... I don't know why I did it, it just happened I'd put on a dress and just feel pretty I guess, I got caught and yelled at a few times...
    Lyricsweet Lyricsweet 18-21, T 2 Responses Oct 31, 2014

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    Transgender Equality For Social Media

    Hi everyone, I have started a new campaign to ask social media sites like Facebook and Myspace to add other options besides male and female. Sites like EP give you choices, even Google+ gives you an "other" option. But Facebook and MySpace will not acknowledge anything other than...
    SecksKitten SecksKitten 31-35, T Aug 28, 2012

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    I am really confused about my gender.

    Some days I find thinking about being female.arousing some days it just feels right and others I disgust myself for thinking about it. Can anybody help?
    anonymousperson20006 anonymousperson20006 18-21 4 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    So my gender identity

    and sexuality have been a source of great confusion my whole life. I've always wanted to do things my sister did when I was little and stuff, such as playing dress up, painting my nails, etc. but have also enjoyed more masculine past-times such as guns, etc. I'm unsure if I...
    WalterStuart22 WalterStuart22 18-21, M 5 Responses Oct 17, 2014

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    I don't think I'm trans

    but I hate my female body. I look in the mirror and I wish I could cut off my breasts. I don't identify as male though. I don't think I am a male inside, just want to look like one. What does that make me? I dress in butch clothing pretty much all the time. I keep my hair short...
    ashkevron ashkevron 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 17, 2014

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    Ah, the age old question.

    ..at least in my case. My whole life I have struggled with this. I've been confused about my gender since I was little girl. Back then, I wanted to be like my brother, and actually thought we were the same. I only knew that he was male and I was female after my parents sat me...
    conflictedismymiddlename conflictedismymiddlename 18-21 5 Responses Aug 4, 2014

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    I am confused! I like dressing up like a girl

    and would want to try! but have all male organs and i love women! so i dont know really understand myself :/ So i cant understand how can i date a girl being a girl!
    Idontknowwhomiam Idontknowwhomiam 22-25 7 Responses Nov 11, 2014

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    I'm not sure "what" I am.

    I've never really talked about it before. I was born female. And I don't hate my body. In fact, I love my breasts. It's the bottom half of me that feels all wrong. Like I should have a penis but it's missing. It doesn't generally bother me but every so often, it hits me and I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    Hello, I just want to have a piece of advise

    'cause I'm really confused about my problem now. I'm a girl and I'm straight, I love boys, men but I've never had a boyfriend. I have a friend lives pretty far from me but this summer she came to my city to visit me and other friends. At first when I met her, I thought she was...
    ishi0000 ishi0000 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2014

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    This is sort of getting out of hand.

    I can't control it any longer. It seems that my efforts to appear as normal and okay as can be are... failing. Never in my entire life have I encountered anything so challenging as gender. One day I was perfectly alright, perfectly okay with being though of known as female...
    minecrafter4343 minecrafter4343 13-15, T 1 Response Jul 17, 2014

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    i have never ever felt comfortable with being a

    girl! like, uh-huh, i act really girly, and dress really girly, i guess. but i dont give a f^*%. . A. there is something which feels SUPER WRONG about being a girl. i despiiiiise being labelled as such. i dont really want to change pronouns or anything tho But wow... I tend to...
    kousatsu kousatsu 13-15 1 Response Oct 29, 2014

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    Sometimes I am attracted to boys,

    but mostly with girls. Take note, Im a girl! This is insane! Hahaha
    NadineIsBi NadineIsBi 16-17, F 3 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Hi, so I was born in a female body,

    but throughout my life I've never especially thought of myself as a girl. I've grown used to the idea of being a girl because that's what I've felt like my whole life, but recently I've been thinking a lot about it. I've always thought about what it would be like to have been...
    ThunderMuffin ThunderMuffin 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    I have thought about transitioning from a girl

    to a guy,but i dont know,im not sure if i really even want to or if i want to stay a girl,or what would happen.I want to but at the same time i also dont
    heyilikeyour heyilikeyour 13-15, F Dec 30, 2014

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    I've always been a "tomboy" I guess.

    I was sexually molester at the age of 7-8 by a boy child on child molestation, At age 11. Then 15. And I used to pretend to be trans because of that but I wasn't. But I've always been so InBetween with genders. Neither male or female. I wear guys shoes/hats somtimes with the...
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    I want to see pics of trans male to females

    or boys dressed as girls ages under 25
    raileymathins raileymathins 18-21, T 1 Response Jan 15

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    i am out as a lesbian

    for many years. but i'm really not that comfortable if someone tell me or make names that i'm a lesbian.. i always thought what it would be like a man... it's that i feel weird.. i think i maybe transgender.,, can someone tell me how they know they are trans? when i was a kid...
    tearyEyesko tearyEyesko 26-30 Aug 4, 2014

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    I wish my gender didn't exist.

    It's not like I want to be a man instead. I just wish people would see a person, not a woman, not a man. I hate both stereotypes, neither fit on. I'm scared of people's sexuality, And how the fact I'm perceived as a gender brings it out. Can't we just get on to other things? Im...
    AnxietyTurnsYouBad AnxietyTurnsYouBad 26-30, F 7 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    Blurring The Lines....

    I am happy to be me...finally. I know what it is to be me and how I feel at the moment.  I love crossing the gender line back and forth, often lingering at androgyny.  Sometimes it is fun to wear dresses and just be feminine.  Sometimes it is relaxing to appear more like a...
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree 46-50 4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    I'm quite confused about my gender.

    I was born female but some days I feel like being a girl and sone days I feel like being a boy (to the point of wearing wigs and talking in a deeper voice). Am I the only one who feels this way?
    Areiaado Areiaado 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I don't fully mentally identify with

    either male nor female. It annoys me how gender-based society is and how I must stick to the roles of the physical form I was born and stuck with. A close friend of mine said I am just confused about it because I follow stereotypes. But it's not about how my personality is. It's...
    Saudabell Saudabell 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    I am a 16 year old male

    and i would like to talk to some people my age or around it to get advice and just talk. Any one is welcome to contact me but id prefer you arent to old. c:
    VanessaAnnMarie VanessaAnnMarie 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I just disclosed to my therapist yesterday

    things about how my whole life I wished I was a boy, she knows how uncomfortable I am with my body, and now I'm feeling all of these things at once like relief that this secret is finally shared with someone, yet embarrassed that she knows and ashamed of myself. I have major...
    ces588 ces588 26-30, F 40 mins ago

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    I know I am a girl but more often,

    I like girls than boys. As far as I can remember, the first time I had a crush on a girl was when I was 7 years old. I also liked a girl from school when I was in High School. Recently, my female crushes are celebrities. On the other hand, i am also attracted to men. I also have...
    secondalways secondalways 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 17, 2014

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    I just revealed this to my therapist today

    and she's the only one who knows. I have always wished I was a boy and have hated being a girl my whole life. When I was 9 I got my hair chopped off and always dressed like a boy. My mom absolutely hated it and I was an embarrassment to her. People used to think I was her son...
    ces588 ces588 26-30, F 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    I am a Girl biologically

    and I have always liked wearing dresses and painting my nails and doing my makeup. but recently when I do those thing it feels like I'm faking it feels wrong. the girly things I always do have started to feel unnatural. I am a cosplayer and am about to get into Crossplay and...
    confusedLGBTteen confusedLGBTteen 13-15 4 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    I got really mad at my mom the other day I went

    into the boys section of a store and she said she's tired of buying boys stuff I almost cried because well most days I feel like a girl but somedays I really don't now I will never want a penis or anything but I really HATE my chest somedays and I like the name Eric or Adam I...
    snowlilly53 snowlilly53 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    This Is New?

    I've always known I was transgendered. I have been wearing girls clothes since my earliest memories. It has always been important to me to be passable in public, and I plan to start living as in my career soon, as I have already spent all my own time as a female for years. I had...
    TheBaroness91081 TheBaroness91081 31-35, T 3 Responses Jun 9, 2013

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    Would like to have been born female I sometimes

    feel I was born male instead of female. I feel so comfortable when I'm dressed as a woman.
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    We'Re Not From Venus Or Mars Poem

    Its always been said that: Women are from Venus & men are from Mars. But I'm not from either, i must come from afar. Perhaps maybe Pluto, except im not too fond of the cold. Perhaps im from Saturn, i like the way it revolves... How about Jupiter, i like its dusty gold rings...
    Tuklr Tuklr 16-17 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    I'm a cisgender female.

    But I keep wishing I was born a guy lately. I hate my boobs. I hate my hips and waist. I keep cutting my hair hoping to look more boyish, but I have a feminine face so that's not really working. I cringe every time I get called a lady or mam. It's like a silent confusing battle...
    r0ck3r6 r0ck3r6 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 5

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    Why Have I Been Dealt This T Girl Card?

    I have learned through my research online that if you are confused about your gender it has most likely been with you since cradle days and it will most likely be there with you in the grave. It is extremely important for you to not only know that you are transgendered and but...
    saraashley saraashley 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    First Time To Confess This...

    I've always felt to some extent like I wasn't fully female - or like I wasn't satisfactorily one. It's stupid, because physically there is no question that I am of the female sex. But as a child, I had differences (and who hasn't had differences? after all there's no such thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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    I currently identify

    as genderqueer, but sometimes I get really upset over having been born a girl. I've been imagining myself as a guy a lot recently and I feel like I would be happier if I could just be him instead of the way I am right now. I don't know what to think about this...
    beingbrye beingbrye 22-25, T 4 Responses Nov 24, 2014

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    I was born an XX. But,

    I don't know if that's me. I don't dress up. Period. I wear jeans and t-shirts on a daily basis. I play video games. I'd rather strap down my breasts than go outside in a bra. I like girls. I like boys too, but it's complicated. But I also obsess over shoujo manga and anime. I...
    thelastfirstchoice thelastfirstchoice 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    I was born a female. Sometimes I feel like a

    girl, other times like a boy. But I mostly feel like a guy. I like to dress in clothes that hides my gender, I feel uncomfortable with long hair. I would cut my boobs off if I could and I would be so glad to change my v for a p... But the thing is, I do like boys. (And girls...
    faithandfree faithandfree 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    Mind Over Body

    Physically I'm a woman, but I've never wanted to be. I hated at the inception of puberty the appearance of the first inconvenient badges of womanhood, and I felt a little punch in my stomach every time I went up a bra size. I didn't want breasts, and still don't. I don't feel...
    mousealinari mousealinari 18-21 6 Responses May 12, 2008

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    I don't consider myself to be gay,

    but when I'm dressed in a short skirt/dress, sexy stockings and heels i feel so girly and feminine. It's then that i feel a strong sexual attraction to men. I've even found myself fantasising about some of my straight male friends and wishing they were making love to me. They...
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Hello, im a person who is in need to talk to

    some MTF's I am posting here anonymously because I have a few people on here that I know that I do not want to see this, I want to discover myself and help me figure out this confusion.
    AnonymousHelpMe AnonymousHelpMe 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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