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I Am Confused About My Gender

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    I don't fully mentally identify with

    either male nor female. It annoys me how gender-based society is and how I must stick to the roles of the physical form I was born and stuck with. A close friend of mine said I am just confused about it because I follow stereotypes. But it's not about how my personality is. It's...
    Saudabell Saudabell 16-17, F 5 Responses Jun 9, 2014

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    Don't really understand the concept of gender.

    I have no idea what it means when women say they like to feel feminine or why men desire to be masculine. If I'm doing something that's stereotypically considered masculine or feminine I don't think of it in terms of gender. I'm just being me. I really couldn't care less whether...
    Dontcare8 Dontcare8 26-30, F 4 Responses May 11, 2014

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    Transgender Equality For Social Media

    Hi everyone, I have started a new campaign to ask social media sites like Facebook and Myspace to add other options besides male and female. Sites like EP give you choices, even Google+ gives you an "other" option. But Facebook and MySpace will not acknowledge anything other than...
    SecksKitten SecksKitten 31-35, T Aug 28, 2012

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    I should say I have always felt I was suppose

    to be a girl not a boy. First time I dressed and got to play as a girl. I was 7 years old living in a foster home. A girl was brought in the same age as me. She was bigger than me a very bossy . She wanted me to play house and I said sure. She called me Chrissy instead of Chris...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 7

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    Blurring The Lines....

    I am happy to be me...finally. I know what it is to be me and how I feel at the moment.  I love crossing the gender line back and forth, often lingering at androgyny.  Sometimes it is fun to wear dresses and just be feminine.  Sometimes it is relaxing to appear more like a...
    BlueCedarTree BlueCedarTree 46-50 4 Responses Sep 22, 2012

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    I have always thought

    that I was female because that has been the way that I was born. As a kid, I was manipulated (the best word I can think of right now) to like girly things by the things that I saw around me, but as I grew up a little I grew away from that. I never liked the stereotypical gender...
    Blackbutterflies99 Blackbutterflies99 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 24

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    as I read so many other stories I become more

    and more confused about how I feel inside about my gender. I am male by birth, but I don't feel entirely male. of course I don't feel entirely female either. most days I don't think about what to wear, I put on my clothes and go about my day. but all to often I find my self...
    Freja14 Freja14 31-35, T 5 Responses Feb 24

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    For the past year maybe,

    I've been learning more about my gender and sexuality and learning about those in general. I'm a confirmed pansexual, but I'm wary and confused about my gender. I was born a female, and am completely comfortable being called female, but would rather be male. I don't like...
    galaxyclockwork galaxyclockwork 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    I've recently come to terms with the fact I

    might be trans and am worried about how people will react. I tested how my friends online would react by changing my username but no ones said anything to me in days. Should I be worried?http://www.quotev.com/BlameItOnTheCosplay
    BlameItOnTheCosplay BlameItOnTheCosplay 16-17, T Jun 5

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    Gender Bender

    Im 29 born a female never took to girly things as I grew to the age of 19 I started to feel more male then female was cleared for hormone treatment diagnosed with G.I.D started on the road identified as a transgenderedmale but then something happened in my brain I slammed the...
    Lostboy5150 Lostboy5150 26-30 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    I dress like a guy and act like one

    but yet I'm a girl.... I'm confused... why do I act and dress like aboy... I like it... but confused
    Allywall Allywall 13-15, F 7 Responses Apr 12

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    Would like to have been born female I sometimes

    feel I was born male instead of female. I feel so comfortable when I'm dressed as a woman.
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Every day I go back and forth between being

    content as I am in my everydaylife as a man, who is just a bit different from time to time, and feeling like I am not who I feel like. My biggest fear is maybe that if I were to do something further than what I allready have it might be irreversible. And in that case I would be...
    Lydia93 Lydia93 18-21, T 2 Responses Apr 27

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    i`m actually 13, my mom wanted me to use HER

    birthday, I don`t know why. i am a boy on the inside, just not on the outside. i got my hair cut short today and my dad flipped out because he says its "what my Grandmother wanted to do ever since [I] was a baby" even though I wanted it. they know that i think i`m a boy. they...
    WolfsParadice WolfsParadice 36-40 1 Response May 2

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    I got really mad at my mom the other day I went

    into the boys section of a store and she said she's tired of buying boys stuff I almost cried because well most days I feel like a girl but somedays I really don't now I will never want a penis or anything but I really HATE my chest somedays and I like the name Eric or Adam I...
    snowlilly53 snowlilly53 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2014

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    I'm a girl physically

    but I act like a guy look like a guy and guess what happened.... some guy asked me I'd I was a girl or boy, then said why don't you dress like a girl?, before I got to say anything
    PurpleWindTheWolf PurpleWindTheWolf 13-15 3 Responses Apr 12

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    I am a biological female

    and I identify as genderfluid as of right now. Lately I've been feeling more masculine and wanting to be a guy more than usual. Bluh it's messing with my head >.<
    amandathegay amandathegay 13-15, F 4 Responses Apr 7

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    Why Have I Been Dealt This T Girl Card?

    I have learned through my research online that if you are confused about your gender it has most likely been with you since cradle days and it will most likely be there with you in the grave. It is extremely important for you to not only know that you are transgendered and but...
    saraashley saraashley 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2013

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    I'm a cisgender female.

    But I keep wishing I was born a guy lately. I hate my boobs. I hate my hips and waist. I keep cutting my hair hoping to look more boyish, but I have a feminine face so that's not really working. I cringe every time I get called a lady or mam. It's like a silent confusing battle...
    r0ck3r6 r0ck3r6 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 5

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    actually I've never been confused about what

    gender I was, I just never really cared until lately :P I've always been and always will be a girl, a very girly girl too. like I said I never really cared what gender I was, I just knew that I was very feminine, I liked girls a lot more then guys, and that everything was off...
    PrincessIKairi PrincessIKairi 18-21, T 1 Response May 11

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    I am really confused about what gender I was

    supposed to be, right now I feel like I might be Agender,(neither male or female) and have been getting people to call me by a gender-neutral name and my preferred pronouns, (they, them, they're). But I keep changing my mind about my gender and it's really confusing, I wish I...
    Mylittleponyfim Mylittleponyfim 13-15 1 Response Jun 8

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    I've always been a "tomboy" I guess.

    I was sexually molester at the age of 7-8 by a boy child on child molestation, At age 11. Then 15. And I used to pretend to be trans because of that but I wasn't. But I've always been so InBetween with genders. Neither male or female. I wear guys shoes/hats somtimes with the...
    K1PST3R K1PST3R 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 6, 2014

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    Mind Over Body

    Physically I'm a woman, but I've never wanted to be. I hated at the inception of puberty the appearance of the first inconvenient badges of womanhood, and I felt a little punch in my stomach every time I went up a bra size. I didn't want breasts, and still don't. I don't feel...
    mousealinari mousealinari 18-21 6 Responses May 12, 2008

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    The past couple of weeks have been a ride

    and I want to ramble a bit. I went from many days of feeling great to this weekend feeling awful. It's amazing how the walls just close in and nothing can be done to make it go away. Knowing what is out there, possible, and has been successful for so many and knowing all that's...
    kope45 kope45 31-35, M 3 Responses Feb 24

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    Sometimes I am attracted to boys,

    but mostly with girls. Take note, Im a girl! This is insane! Hahaha
    NadineIsBi NadineIsBi 18-21, F 3 Responses May 21, 2014

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    Hi I am a girl but I have always felt like I

    should have been a boy. I'd love to talk to others with the same feelings. I'm not interested in boys or girls so I consider myself trans and asexual. Anyone else classify like this?
    curiousriley curiousriley 16-17, T Apr 29

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    Lately I've been wishing I was a boy.

    I'm not sure if I'm trans though because I didn't feel this way when I was a little kid. I was very isolated and only ever saw my sisters and mom so I thought dresses and stuff was just what everyone wore and I delt with it. When I was introduced to society in kindergarten I...
    Pop14lol Pop14lol 13-15 2 Responses May 11

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    I'm new here. I'm sorta confused about my

    gender. Sometimes I can just be me but other times, my gender matters because the bathrooms and locker rooms are segregated and when I discuss desegregation, a lot of people tell me they feel uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with the opposite gender. So I worry some woman might...
    thunderstruck14 thunderstruck14 18-21 3 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    First Time To Confess This...

    I've always felt to some extent like I wasn't fully female - or like I wasn't satisfactorily one. It's stupid, because physically there is no question that I am of the female sex. But as a child, I had differences (and who hasn't had differences? after all there's no such thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Feb 27, 2008

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    I have thought about transitioning from a girl

    to a guy,but i dont know,im not sure if i really even want to or if i want to stay a girl,or what would happen.I want to but at the same time i also dont
    heyilikeyour heyilikeyour 13-15, F Dec 30, 2014

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    Amazed at how good binding felt

    and a beanie with a plaid shirt. Thought I looked like I wanted to and took a few pictures. But when I took the beanie off I like seeing my shoulder length hair lookin pretty and feminine. Idk wtf I'm feeling.
    SoManyShadows SoManyShadows 13-15, F May 2

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    We'Re Not From Venus Or Mars Poem

    Its always been said that: Women are from Venus & men are from Mars. But I'm not from either, i must come from afar. Perhaps maybe Pluto, except im not too fond of the cold. Perhaps im from Saturn, i like the way it revolves... How about Jupiter, i like its dusty gold rings...
    Tuklr Tuklr 16-17 1 Response Mar 17, 2013

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    I just revealed this to my therapist today

    and she's the only one who knows. I have always wished I was a boy and have hated being a girl my whole life. When I was 9 I got my hair chopped off and always dressed like a boy. My mom absolutely hated it and I was an embarrassment to her. People used to think I was her son...
    ces588 ces588 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 26

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    Lately I feel a strong desire to try to pursue

    testosterone injections. I've seen bodies of trans-men and I can't help but think that's what I want to look like. Last year, I joined this site specifically to find support about my gender issues. And I received amazing advice. I believe I'm trans but I'm still often alright...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 1 Response May 23

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    I wish my gender didn't exist.

    It's not like I want to be a man instead. I just wish people would see a person, not a woman, not a man. I hate both stereotypes, neither fit on. I'm scared of people's sexuality, And how the fact I'm perceived as a gender brings it out. Can't we just get on to other things? Im...
    AnxietyTurnsYouBad AnxietyTurnsYouBad 26-30, F 6 Responses Oct 21, 2014

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    The journey has started.

    After alot of back and forth with the nurses at my Doctors office I got to meet a doctor. we sat down and talked. I told him that I wanted to go through a genderidentity evaluation. where I live it is required to do before you can start a transition. This does not mean that you...
    Lydia93 Lydia93 18-21, T 4 Responses Jun 18

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    I don't consider myself to be gay,

    but when I'm dressed in a short skirt/dress, sexy stockings and heels i feel so girly and feminine. It's then that i feel a strong sexual attraction to men. I've even found myself fantasising about some of my straight male friends and wishing they were making love to me. They...
    albro1000 albro1000 41-45, M 5 Responses Dec 30, 2013

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    Wish I could go out like this

    when I wanted to.
    SoManyShadows SoManyShadows 13-15, F May 2

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    I'm am so very confused about my gender.

    I was born in a male body. Grew up male, but started to crossdress at a young age 5ish, I'm now married 21 years to kids, I love my wife dearly, I don't to do anything to hurt her. I been able to suppress my need to dress for the most for the last 21 years. She did know about my...
    DawnR59 DawnR59 51-55, T 2 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    Hi, so I was born in a female body,

    but throughout my life I've never especially thought of myself as a girl. I've grown used to the idea of being a girl because that's what I've felt like my whole life, but recently I've been thinking a lot about it. I've always thought about what it would be like to have been...
    ThunderMuffin ThunderMuffin 18-21, F Jan 26

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    I am a 16 year old male

    and i would like to talk to some people my age or around it to get advice and just talk. Any one is welcome to contact me but id prefer you arent to old. c:
    VanessaAnnMarie VanessaAnnMarie 16-17, M 4 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    I just disclosed to my therapist yesterday

    things about how my whole life I wished I was a boy, she knows how uncomfortable I am with my body, and now I'm feeling all of these things at once like relief that this secret is finally shared with someone, yet embarrassed that she knows and ashamed of myself. I have major...
    ces588 ces588 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    I told my parents tonight.

    It went better than expected. But it's still probably time for me to move out so I can pursue this without fear. I couldn't have gotten through the rest of the night without my people. People who owe me nothing, people who don't have to pick up the phone when I call anymore...
    missmalky missmalky 18-21, T 1 Response Jun 26

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    Okay I already posted on another forum

    but I'll post on this one because I still haven't gotten a response so here it is: I am 26 years old and I've been having these feelings that I am trans and I am really confused it's been troubling me all my life and I need someone to share if they know the feeling.
    SineyElle89 SineyElle89 26-30, M 4 Responses Jun 15

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    I'm not sure "what" I am.

    I've never really talked about it before. I was born female. And I don't hate my body. In fact, I love my breasts. It's the bottom half of me that feels all wrong. Like I should have a penis but it's missing. It doesn't generally bother me but every so often, it hits me and I...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    I really hate being stuck in the situation I've

    managed to get myself into. I thought I'd found a label that fit me, and now it doesn't feel quite right again. I'd say "screw labels, I'm a person," but that just makes me anxious, because if I don't even understand myself, who will? So cue the depression and anxiety and all...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 22

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