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I Am Confused About My Relationship

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    Different Is Scary Sometimes

    I know what a healthy relationship is, but apparently I am confused by it. I'm used to the sort of man that has to be all affectionate in public in order to tell everyone that I am his and in turn gets upset when attention of any kind is payed to another man. Of course this is a...
    RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare 36-40, F 11 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    Please, take the time to read my last post.

    I am in serious need of some wise advice. Regardless of the ex, just on my current situation alone, I spend every minute of the day trying to come up with the right answer but nothing seems to be the light at the end of the tunnel. I just want to be happy again but I don't know...
    Beth0888 Beth0888 26-30, F 6 Responses Sep 5

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    But i need to share my life experience .

    My parents got divorced when i had 14 , i moved with my mom and sister out of our house . i had few relationships when i had 17 till 18 . That's when i met him , a tall guy serious looking . He had 28 y old and i can say was love on the first sight . He told me he been married...
    agirlouthere agirlouthere 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    I've been dating this guy

    for almost 4 years, I am 29 years old and gave my virginity to my boyfriend at 28 - as I wanted to give it to the person I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. The last year he has been very aggressive and also struggles with drugs, I struggle to trust him about anything...
    charlenekleyn1 charlenekleyn1 26-30, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    My boyfriend of 9 months cuts himself

    when I try to end it with him. I know he's not right for me and it has nothing to do with his depression and cutting. I am feeling really guilty about leaving. I always do and I end up getting back with him. I don't know what to do. I do love him still but I know he's not right...
    hanna135 hanna135 41-45, F 5 Responses Sep 11

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    Step Off!

    Learn to recognize the reg flags waving that you see in life, and pay attention to them.   It's clear about what he wanted and unfortunately it really was not so much about me, yet rather more about himself as hard as that is for me to know. He continued to check in on me to...
    AceofPentacles AceofPentacles 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    My boyfriend has stopped talking to me properly

    online, basically taking ages to respond and then his replies are crap, basically. I don't know what to do.
    Lilys3 Lilys3 18-21, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I have dated my girlfriend

    for a little over a year and we have a daughter who is nine months old. She's struggled with depression for years but it has since gotten worse. She's switched meds many times and stay in inpatient therapy. I just don't know if I should try to make this work or leave. I do love...
    bqq90 bqq90 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 31

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    I am not his wife, I am not his mistress,

    I am not just his gf nor the mother of his son.. So, what am I to him? He wont give me any labels :-(
    SugarK SugarK 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 6

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    My husband and I have been married

    for two years. When together he is very jealous of others looking at me. I like to dress so others look at me. I travel a lot for business. Travel a lot with coworkers all guys and meet buyers mostly guys too. Lately husband been asking me if these guys like looking up my...
    janarun janarun 22-25, F 24 Responses Jul 17

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    I was with my boyfriend

    for four years, we broke up less than a month ago because he said he had feelings for someone else. About two weeks ago he came back to me saying he wants me back. He said nothing happened between him and the girl but the girl messaged me saying they had sex. I confronted him...
    Itslisa Itslisa 22-25, F 6 Responses Sep 4

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    Not True. I was never Confused about my any

    Relationship. My Heart is Clean as Crystal. I could see through the other persons. My Soul as Pure as it could be as a humble Allah's Slave.
    PathologicalLair PathologicalLair 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    Background: I am married,

    we just celebrated our two-year wedding anniversary last week (have been together for almost 7 years though, and living together almost all of that time). I am 27, he is 31 - we've had our ups and downs but all in all, we are happy. We also just moved two months ago, and so...
    peachy127 peachy127 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    I tried hard to point out the mistakes to my

    boyfriend but he is still doing the same unforgivable mistakes that upset me.I'm sick and tired of waiting for him to change and love me back as much as I do but I don't feel like breaking up with someone I care for.I told myself many times that my time with him is up and that I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 23

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    I have been with my gf

    for over 7 years since we were 19. I have lived with her for 2 years. While she has many flaws as I am sure I do too I can live with them and I have learned to love. I want to marry her but I can not tolerate her parents or the relationship she has with them. If I marry her all...
    Gloryhill11 Gloryhill11 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    How can I get my lesbian ex back?

    We were best friends for about a year before we decided to date. We fell hard and fast for each other. We dated for about four years and have lived together at college. We broke up about four month ago now. It was a mutual decision that we should go back to being best friends...
    helpplease12 helpplease12 22-25, F Jul 31

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    Confused And Scared About It

    I was 19 when I met Professor E. I had a class with him and enjoyed his teaching style so much I tried to get him as a professor as much as possible. He was intensely smart, and it turned out he was funny, the same kind of funny as me, and I dawdled after class if I had time, and...
    cephaloscotti cephaloscotti 26-30, F 1 Response May 8, 2012

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    So it's Friday night.

    Me and my boyfriend go out for dinner, and we get back home. I feel horny, I hug him and kiss him. But he is sleepy so he just sleeps. I am so pissed. Is this normal or shud I worry? And it's been 2 weeks since we had sex.
    stuckinlife247 stuckinlife247 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    If you don't want me anymore,

    just say it, dude. Don't keep me hanging around. I'm a big girl. You don't want me? Tell me and I will never bother you again. Feckin asshowle. Just who do you think you are. This "relationship" is just giving me frequent and totally unnecessary heartaches. Gawddammit. I don't...
    girlon3rdfloorsuite9 girlon3rdfloorsuite9 26-30, F 1 Response May 12

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    I have been married for 10 plus years.

    I love my husband but not sure that I am in love with him (so cliché - I know!). He drinks too much and its a constant issue with us. He refuses to think he has a problem even though he drinks to excess daily. I have become very health conscious and concerned with my...
    bethany444 bethany444 46-50, F 5 Responses Jun 24

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    My bf talks about our future kids,

    business, and life. Monday through Friday he is so relaxed and lazy which I know that's one of men's many favorite things to do :) I'm fine with it. The only issue I'm confused about is how he genuinely feels. I can either read him perfectly by how he "shows" me and says he...
    vonbender2010 vonbender2010 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    One thing that is constantly on my mind right

    now is about my relationship. Straight to the point; We met a year ago, and it was the 3rd month of my foundation year. Honestly I had no feelings whatsoever towards him. I don’t find him attractive, maybe just cute. Cause he has this roundish, clear baby face. Im never fond...
    bellatrixeslove bellatrixeslove 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I love the guy i'm with

    but as time goes on I start to realize if I continue with him my life won't be what I want it to be. I want someone to travel with for life, work abroad and not have kids. I want a relationship to be everything. But he's content staying in his 9-5 job in the area he's always...
    nhsu77 nhsu77 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 23

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    Every time I think we're over,

    I realize I love him. Every time I think I love him, I realize we're over. "Confused" is an understatement.
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    I Love Him But Treat Him Bad For No Reason

    I have found the love of my life who has saved me through a tough past relationship (that May have caused me to be the way Iam the now). He is simply amazing and I can tell he loves and has never treated me bad. My issue is that I always pick out silly arguments with him that...
    mm91 mm91 22-25, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I've been in a relationship

    for about six months now. I honestly believe he doesn't care about me at all, though all of his friends swear otherwise. I really do like him but I feel like I'm just there because he has no other options. Whenever he makes comments like "you're the most interesting girl I've...
    blueoracle blueoracle 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    I really need help and I don't know what to do

    with this relationship anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year now. He is in medical school and I'm working full time as a nurse. Now his study is getting more and more intense and even seeing each other once a week becomes difficult. We text each other...
    TiffyQ723 TiffyQ723 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 6

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    I am to nice to leave the guy I am with.

    I want to break up but have not because I will feel bad. I know he will be devastated, so I just keep on with him. I don't know how to tell him.
    dylanlie dylanlie 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 12

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    Not exactly confused

    but rather worried about him. I am proud to let the world know my boyfriend is a United States Marine but sometimes it feels like he doesn't let people know I'm his girlfriend. Like is that normal?
    luisaacosta luisaacosta 18-21, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Through my life i have been hurt

    so many times by so many different people and circumstances. With almost every hurt i shattered like glass, i felt broken and worthless like there was no point to continue on but i didn't give up. i still tried it was never as fully as it had been before but i still tried. I...
    rainbowbreakdown rainbowbreakdown 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I need everyone's opinions,

    ... I have been dating a guy for 2 months. In the beginning it seems like he was more than eager to meet up with me, and our time spent together, made hours fly by like minutes. Ok, then, he goes back home (15hrs away) to visit family, and when he comes back is less enthusiastic...
    Lthayer2011 Lthayer2011 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    My man works all day.

    .. We live together he is great to my kids and I (financially). My friend says be a mother before a women. Except he does things that make me want to leave., things that aren't right.... The little time we get to spend together he becomes someone else and does things that aren't...
    linlio linlio 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 5

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    Recently married been together 5 years.

    My husband told me the other day he enjoys wearing adult diapers women's clothing and using ****** to pleasure himself anally. He also enjoys pegging. He told me pegging and me diapering him a two of his biggest fantasies. Iam totally shocked and grossed out. Iam plain vanilla...
    Wife28 Wife28 26-30, F 9 Responses Jun 12

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    I have been in a relationship with the same guy

    for a little over 4 years. I love him but I'm not sure if I'm in love with him. I don't want to end it in case it's the wrong decision and end up losing him forever. I also can't stop talking to other guys. I'm always flirting and I'm always bored with him. I don't know what to...
    Beccajaye93 Beccajaye93 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    I've been with my boyfriend

    for 6 years. He thinks we're going to get married, but I don't want that. I love him so much, but I just want to be me. I started dating him in the 8th grade, now we're sophomores in college. I've never been anyone besides his girlfriend. I'm afraid to end it, but I'm more...
    smalltowngirl12 smalltowngirl12 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 1

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    Ok I need guys opinion on this pleaseeeee .

    .. So there's this guy I went to middle and high school with ... We never spoke or hung out until 2 years ago I added him on FB I do remember he was always shy so I wasn't surprised when he told me he never had a gf we started talking ( I was newly divorced) we hung out and I...
    Newyorkgal89 Newyorkgal89 22-25, F 17 Responses Jan 19

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    Maybe he's a beard...

    Maybe he's not. That's not what I'm confused about though. I love spending time with him, being close, sharing the closeness between us, kissing him, touching him and having him there. Does he feel the same? I mean I like girls but I still have feelings for him. But there's this...
    cantlovealone cantlovealone 18-21, F Aug 23

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    For any further info on this look at my other

    posts, and for those who already know this is just an update! I'm in love with my step brother...here are the details of whats recently happened: step has been looking at me, like full on STARING for a few days (me looking back at him too obviousllly!!) And paying a lot of...
    OtakuGirl911 OtakuGirl911 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Here we go again!! Traveling this week to

    Chicago with an old fat coworker. Be here all week. In unpacking my travel bag last night found some thigh hi and small thongs that i had not bought. Hubby put in my bag. I dont understand him wanting to wear this while on road.
    janarun janarun 22-25, F 15 Responses Jul 29

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    I recently started dating this guy

    who was persistent about having me around. He used to call me every morning and night. We both work so we see each other 2-3 times a wk. However, this last time we hung-out He started being an a** !(excuse my french) saying things like; I'm going to have to replace you! He...
    missyluvslilies missyluvslilies 26-30, F 10 Responses 5 days ago

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    I would put tho on Instagram

    but he will see it and get mad... He hasn't said anything for hours now and he doesn't do that... I'm starting to wonder if I am more committed to the relationship than him... Because he says he loves me but he never talks to me when I need him.. And I have to go look for...
    KittyKatLuvsYhu KittyKatLuvsYhu 13-15, F 4 Responses Sep 9

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    Please answer if you are me,

    would you risk investing your time, care and emotions to a "unsure" relationship? I mean due to my bf's issue with her ex wife there is a possibility we aren't going to be in real. But he said he will do anything possible for us.
    UOLAUC UOLAUC 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 12

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    It'S Impossible

    So. Tough times. I've tried to break up with him twice, but he wasn't having it, and he pursuaded me to stay with him. Well, not this time. He can see a future with me, whereas I am just not ready for a serious relationship, no matter how crap and evil I sound, I would be living...
    IamcalledS IamcalledS 18-21, F Mar 17, 2013

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    I don't know where to start.

    ... I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. We have problems, we aren't perfect....we fight and we have different interests. We use to talk about Marriage and Kids, (I am 22, he is 31) but the more I think about it, I am definitely not ready for that kind of commitment. I...
    Thetroubledperfectionist Thetroubledperfectionist 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't know if I should break up with my

    boyfriend or not. I love him, but I feel like I'm not getting enough attention from him, and I sometimes feel like he doesn't feel the same way about me. He is stubborn and has radical views about everything, and sometimes it just really gets on my nerves. I haven't ended it...
    SkylinesEternal SkylinesEternal 18-21, F 4 Responses May 12

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    I have a boyfriend, we've been dating

    for 2 years and a half now; however, a couple of months ago, I met a guy online and we started talking, until one day I realized that my feelings had changed. I started feeling something very intense for the guy I met online (something I never felt before, I would even say it's...
    weirdnickname weirdnickname 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 30

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    I'm Not Sure Where It's Going

    Really confused, two nights ago I went to my wife's house to bring over our son. I went in and let him get settled up stairs and tucked him into bed, I went to say good bye and tried to give her a hug (I'm going to give you a hug goodbye) swiftly followed by her...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 5, 2007

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    I am feeling confused with my emotions towards

    my boyfriend. I'm very tired, and don't feel like typing a ton tonight, so long story short- I don't trust him. We haven't been dating very long. We have a rough past, he hurt me, I thought I was over it because it was 5 years ago, but those feelings never go away in your memory...
    KrisMiss KrisMiss 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    Torn.

    There is way to much to be said about my relationship. We've been together two years now. I was so blinded by the "in love high" that many of us experience when we first meet that special person. I connected with him, and went with the flow. I ended up here. In some cases, a lot...
    jadedprettygirl jadedprettygirl 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 19, 2012

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    Reluctant To Share

    I am a bit scared/reluctant/ashamed (take your pick) to post in this group . . . .  I am not so sure if this is a good thing or if my sharing will only open up a can of worms that will come back to haunt me later?I have been putting off to post here since the first day I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    It's been like 3 and a half years with my

    boyfriend and things are not okay between us he always hurts me and make me cry but I still love him I always forgive him. I tried to break up but he doesn't want to. He says that I'm his soulmate but me I'm not so sure if he is my soulmate or not. I love him, he is my best...
    Sempiternaldark Sempiternaldark 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 29

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    It's not really a relationship,

    you just keep coming and going as you please, selfish bastard but I still welcome you back
    Mka1989 Mka1989 22-25, F 5 Responses Aug 20

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    Mixed Signals

    Just as love's turning to hatred, Just when I think I've had enough, Just before my heart freezes over, He'll make some small gesture of love, He'll redeem himself. Flowers just because, A hug or kiss out of the blue, Calling just to ask how my day is, A sudden showing of respect...
    LG76 LG76 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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