I Am Confused About My Sexual Orientation

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 611 People

    I had always assumed

    that I was straight. I went to church and listened to my preacher on the issue, like a "good boy", as my mother once put it. I had been taught sexuality was a choice, and I accepted that because it was the only thing I had ever known. About a year ago though, my entire...
    PapaSun56 PapaSun56
    18-21, M
    Jan 18, 2015

    Too Confused, Excuse Me What?

    Ok this is a long story but I realllly need some advice I'm so confused. If not only about my relationship with my friend but now my own self... I always knew my beat friend was bi it's just me that I'm not sure about. she's had a boyfriend since the day that I met her?! We're...
    itscake itscake
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Jan 4, 2013

    I always feel so confident

    that I am gay. I am attracted to men. It's that simple. I have never told anyone, but I doubt it would be a big surprise if I came out. But then everything gets destroyed when my friends develop crushes on me. They are all girls and sometimes, in moments I can never explain, I...
    pizzafacedfag pizzafacedfag
    18-21, M
    Jul 8, 2014

    I'm a teen girl. I have always had crushes on

    boys, but never really on girls. I'm slowly falling for my best friend... She's just amazing in every way, but I don't feel that sort of strong attraction I get when I have a crush on someone. I'm currently dating a boy and have been for 8 months, he was my best friend and I've...
    ariabethany ariabethany
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2015

    I Don't Understand

    For the first 17 years of my life, I knew I liked guys but now it's changed. It seems now that I'm attracted to neither/either sex. I'm not attracted to men, women, or, objects. I don't get how I can go from being attracted to guys to being attracted to nothing at the crack of...
    Mybodyisacage Mybodyisacage
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 3, 2013

    I thought I only liked guys.

    But lately I've been getting feelings for one of my best friends (a girl) and I honestly don't know what to do. It's killing me. Nobody knows about it. I don't know wether to tell anyone or just keep it inside.-. Is someone willing to help me?
    mikki19 mikki19
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2014

    I'm a 15 year old girl

    who seems attracted to women as well as men. I find myself checking out other girls when out in public, but I'm too scared to ask one out. I'm afraid that if I am gay then no one will accept me. It would be nice if I had a friend who's confused as well to talk to. I would...
    AllisonJ23 AllisonJ23
    16-17, F
    1 Response Dec 13, 2014

    I came out to my dad

    and told him I was a lesbian, which, should have been good news to him right?? He doesn't have to worry about me getting pregnant, or anything like that. I was wrong. He took it like it was a joke. He explained how it was just a phase and that I was influenced by other people...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 9, 2015

    So I'm a 27 year old female

    and am now in the first real relationship of my life and it's with a girl. Up until she started pursuing me I had never had any sort of attraction to females that I can recall. Even now, aside from her, I still find myself attracted to males. While I have no experience with...
    figure09 figure09
    26-30, F
    Oct 9, 2015

    I thought I was straight then bi

    and then I came out as a lesbian but as soon as I came out I realized I could possibly be with a guy and now I feel like I'm bi but I'm so confused. I hate this.
    ggmer ggmer
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 27, 2015

    I've been very confused lately about myself.

    .. I'll give you a bit about me before I dive into it all.. I'm 21 and very firmly rooted in my gender as female - also how I was born. I've been in one relationship with another girl for a year -freshman year in high school- this was when my aunt told me that she was a lesbian...
    owlfancy owlfancy
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 9, 2014

    I Don't Know If I'm Gay. I Don't Know If I'm Straight. I Don't Know If I'm Bisexual.

    Ever since I was a small girl, I was a tomboy. Always wanted to be where the boys were. Always wanted to wear what the boys wore. Always wanted to do what the boys did. Always wanted to... be one of them, I guess. This lead to a lot of speculation about what would be my sexual...
    earlysunsets earlysunsets
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 1, 2013

    Bisexual, Lesbian?

    Or maybe somewhere in between?! I don't know.. And personally I don't care much for those labels... Whoever I'll end up with I'll end up with. Why the question troubles me a bit though, is because I'd like to be more honest to others. But how am I supposed to come out without...
    MsIndievidual MsIndievidual
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Feb 16, 2011

    I am in college, and recently had my first

    sexual encounter with another girl, and it has left me feeling very confused. I can remember being curious about my sexuality since middle school, when sex and sexuality started to become a topic in my life. However, I don't think I had ever really considered my feelings toward...
    TashaIIL TashaIIL
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

    This is kinda weird or I'm just weird

    but idk I feel sexually attracted to boys and girls but not romantically attracted to girls. Like I would never pursue a relationship with a girl but if it was like a hook up/fling I'd be okay with it but in the long run thinking about kids, marriage I don't see myself with a...
    Anon2721 Anon2721
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jan 27, 2015

    So, um lately I started looking at girls also,

    but since I was little I liked boys. I mean I still find boys attractive but lately some girls are attracting to me. Any advice??
    laracali laracali
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 28, 2014

    Confused About My Sexuality?

    Ever since I was younger I was always an odd one out. I used to pretend I was a guy at times hated girly things. I never fantasized about Disney princess' or prince's, or many people at all in fact. I never thought much of relationships or that such. Even today I'm not great at...
    BreatheInLifeXo BreatheInLifeXo
    1 Response Jan 9, 2013

    Gosh, I'm unusual. Can I say I'm an leaning

    more to lesbian but open to any gender given that I spend enough time with them? Most of the time in lesbian mode. Hahaha.
    hildaq14 hildaq14
    26-30, F
    Dec 29, 2014

    I've been debating for a long *** time.

    I'm straight, like I'm attracted to men but I don't mind dating a girl, or a trans. I mean.. I feel like I'm pansexual but I'm attracted to men. Is that possible? The fact that I can date anyone but still have attraction to boys? Idk. I'm confused.
    Brogann Brogann
    1 Response Mar 13, 2015

    I Dont Understand Any Of It

    I'm 22 and unsure of what i love I know i find girls attractive but have never gotten to the point of wanting to touch them. I also find men attractive but much less frequently. My mind is content on just being single (but not alone cause ill always have friends) but some part of...
    deathgod623 deathgod623
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2013

    I need people to talk to

    or a grown women who can talk to a young lady like me
    Revelyn Revelyn
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 5, 2014

    I've been attracted to girls all my life.

    . or so I thought. Lately I've been looking at men more and wanting to be with them. I'm in a relationship with a girl right now but every time we kiss I pull my head away as a reflex. I love her, but sometimes I just see myself with another guy. I don't know who to talk to, I...
    DawsonJones DawsonJones
    18-21, M
    Feb 21, 2015

    I have been attracted to girls

    since I hit puberty. I have only had sexual relations with a few girls and they were either drunk or barely curious so it made it very uncomfortable and awkward. I've even tried having relationships with other girls but it never worked out because they decided they wanted guys...
    akrysrose akrysrose
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 5, 2014

    I look around, and see all these people I'm

    surrounded by, they think I'm normal.But none of them really know me. I feel disconnected with even some of my best friends. Because I know that they wouldn't be my friend if they knew me like some of you know me. There has got to be a point where I move on. What I learned...
    ZachTheGreat1 ZachTheGreat1
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 13, 2014

    I think I may be bi. I find tons of girls super

    cute, and the thought of being in a relationship with a girl isn't weird. It's the same with guys. I've been around the lgbtq community for a long time, and it resonates with me even though I've identified as hetero for my entire life. I've developed mini-crushes on both girls...
    BroguesAndJeans BroguesAndJeans
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 6, 2015

    First of all, to get this out of the way,

    I am a 15 year old boy, soon to be 16, and I adore the LGBT community. Also, while I generally have great grammar, I tend to switch tenses a lot and sometimes ramble on with run-on sentences, so bear (bare?) with me here. My English teacher said I have a gift with story telling...
    mynameisxman mynameisxman
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Apr 2, 2015

    I am writing this here

    because I have no one to talk to about it. I have always known I've been interested in girls since a young age. At the age of 21 now I have been in 2 relationships with girls. I am in a relationship with a guy and have been for the last nearly two years. At the start of the...
    epsarah94 epsarah94
    22-25, F
    Jul 29, 2015

    I am personally attracted to men,

    older men to be exact. But at the same time, I'm not opposed to being attracted to women or at trans people. I can honestly say that out of the 2 sexual encounters I've had, were unfulfilling. (Maybe it was him..?) But I identify as pansexual, but I'm still not sure if that's...
    Kkhudg Kkhudg
    3 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    Maybe "Confused" Isn't The Right Word For It.

    I am not confused about who I like. I am physically attracted to women, a lot. Every once in a while I'll find a guy that I'm attracted to, but that's just a very rare occurrence. However, physical attraction is a very small part of why I'm interested in who I am interested in. I...
    booradley booradley
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2009

    I am 17. I live in the US

    and I'm on the football team. My whole life til I was a freshman in Highschool i liked girls. But when freshman year came I noticed a change in the way I looked at other guys. One of my best Friends who also plays on the football team started to catch my attention more than any...
    ZachTheGreat1 ZachTheGreat1
    18-21, M
    6 Responses Dec 26, 2013

    I'm really confused and no one knows it except

    my therapist who I just revealed this to. I've kept things a secret for so long and have been afraid to say anything. I feel so messed up. I wish I was a boy, but at the same time I'm attracted to men. I also feel attracted to some women, but I don't know if it's just emotional...
    ces588 ces588
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 26, 2015

    I'm happily married to a woman.

    But the second best relationship (my wifes #1) was with a long term friend in high school. It never crossed my mind having more than a friendship with another guy but one day we kissed in the locker room. That kiss led to a 18 month relationship, we got engaged, made plans to...
    tgheather tgheather
    31-35, T
    7 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    I think I might like my best friend more

    than a friend. Were both girls. I still like guys but think I might be bisexual. I don't know what to do. The girl and I are very close, but I'm also very awkward when it comes to this stuff. I don't know if I should tell her, or what I should do.
    pineapples17 pineapples17
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 18, 2014
    AfterFall AfterFall
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 20, 2015

    I really feel extremely uncomfortable

    and anxious. Questioning my sexuality is a stressful subject that I have put in the back of my mind. I don't know if I am completely heterosexual or mostly heterosexual. I'm not lesbian or fully bisexual. I have only been relationships with men and most of the time am attracted...
    moonlightflower moonlightflower
    22-25, F
    Mar 10, 2016

    I might be a lesbian.

    However I might be besexual. Or then again, maybe I'm asexual or trans. I am so confused and it sucks majorly. So here it is. I've never mentioned this to anyone before so sorry if I sound nervous in this. I have never been seriously attracted to anyone in real life...
    TheEmpathGirl TheEmpathGirl
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 6, 2015

    'A Question That Sometimes Drives Me Hazy: Am I Or Are The Others Crazy?'

    I had some issues growing up, not the least of which was I'd been attracted to guys since I was 12. I never told anyone at the time (I still haven't told many). I felt guilty, dirty and above all I felt a certain self-loathing. I hid it well though, and continued to succeed in...
    Goaly74 Goaly74
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 24, 2012

    I am a girl and for now I feel more attracted

    to girls, but I haven't kissed or even dated anyone so I can't be entirely sure. I thought I were gay (still not completely certain), but now I'm questioning even that. A few times I thought why do I have be attracted to a gender, why does it matter, why can't I simply be...
    weirdcharlie weirdcharlie
    18-21, T
    Jul 9, 2015

    I have always considered myself to be straight,

    but there is something about girls that just gets me. It Is not something i can control, whenever i see a beautiful girl i instantly feel butterflies in my stomach and get super nervous. I Get so afraid that i might trip and fall on my face. I don't know what it is, and i try...
    Eli235 Eli235
    22-25, F
    Sep 6, 2015

    I am a teen and I think I may be bisexual

    since I find both men and women attractive. Bisexuality in and of itself is confusing as all hell so I guess if I am confused it would be understandable. My mom would be okay with it but I don't know how my Aunt, Uncle and dad would feel. So anyway, I used to like this girl but...
    DianaHappyJD002 DianaHappyJD002
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 23, 2015

    I'm a male, 24 years old.

    I've gone back and forth on my sexuality. Sometimes I feel I'm gay, sometimes I feel I'm bi, other times I feel I'm straight. I feel like deep down I'm gay but I don't have sexual attraction towards guys. It's an emotional attraction to them. I feel sexually attracted to...
    hunterrrama hunterrrama
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 19, 2014

    this is a really difficult experience to be

    writing. I've bottled this up for so long now, but I know I need to let it all go or it will drive me insane. I think I am asexual. And before I get any hurtful comments, no, it does not mean I'm a prude. I have had sex. In fact, I've been in a relationship for 2 years. but I...
    Supersecretsxxx Supersecretsxxx
    13-15, F
    Mar 18, 2016

    Ever since middle school I felt like I wasn't

    just attracted to guys but girls as well. I also lack sexual desire unless I've developed close romantic relations with them. But on rare occasions I will develop sexual feelings towards either gender depending on the person or just have sexual thoughts in general. I'm in...
    KimmiNinja KimmiNinja
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 2, 2015

    Today she asked me if I was a lesbian

    or bi or what? I told her I don't know. Although she already guessed I liked a girl but when she heard me confess with my mouth she reacted kinda shocked and scanned me for a few seconds. Now things are a bit different. She may be a bit scared of me.
    hildaq14 hildaq14
    26-30, F
    Mar 24, 2015

    I know I'm attracted to women

    but I'm also curious about being with a crossdresser. Does that mean I'm bi?
    CptColorado117 CptColorado117
    22-25, M
    1 Response Sep 2, 2014

    I'm a married hetro (so I thought) female with

    2 kids. I have a friendship with an awesome woman who is lesbian (who is also married) Whilst out partying we kissed. Thought at the time it was just something that happened as we were really drunk and we agreed to let it go. It has happened again though 5 months later under...
    Triandafilou Triandafilou
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 14, 2015

    I'm in an intensive outpatient program

    and there's a group for people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, etc and I went to it for the first time on Tuesday and I was so anxious and uncomfortable. I don't think I'm ready for it yet. I'm so confused about who I am and who I like and I feel embarrassed and...
    ces588 ces588
    26-30, F
    Mar 11, 2015

    I've always had crushes on boys

    and dated them too, but lately I've been having those feelings for girls as well. I don't know if it's just me think girls in general are beautiful or if I am actually bisexual. I'm not worried about my family excepting me if I was, but I just want to know for myself.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 8, 2014

    Is That Why?

    I've always wondered if I'm "lesbian", or "bi-sexual", which honestly, all kids go through. But, when I was younger, I was sexually abused and I've had so much anxiety from it. Ever since then, when I've seen **** pictures, (not purposly. Just teenage girls being stupid), seeing...
    GreatKindOfDifferent GreatKindOfDifferent
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Jan 7, 2012

    I always preferred girls compared to Guys

    since young. But if I hang out with a guy for a long period of time I start developing feelings. In terms of imagination and thoughts it's always been girls. So I kinda believe I'm a lesbian but I'm not too sure, cause I might be bi right?
    hildaq14 hildaq14
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2014

    (17 year old female) I think I'm straight

    but I'm not 100% sure all the time? I've only been attracted sexually to men never women, but sometimes I'll catch myself having passing feelings of affection towards females. I've never had a crush on a girl friend. I've kissed on or two at a party but that was more for...
    Mdmi Mdmi
    1 Response Apr 25, 2015

    I had a very normal life

    until I started going to work and met that person. I have been studying so hard even when i was in the university. My parents did not allow me to go to work during that time. I fell in love with guys and broke up just like normal girl did. I have been in love with a foreign guy...
    lilbellflower lilbellflower
    22-25, F
    Nov 3, 2015
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