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I Am Confused About My Sexual Orientation

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    So, um lately I started looking at girls also,

    but since I was little I liked boys. I mean I still find boys attractive but lately some girls are attracting to me. Any advice??
    laracali laracali 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 28

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    Since, I was I would say in 4th grade I started

    liking girls. Having crushes on girls in my class. I grew up with two brothers so I was the biggest tomboy all I ever wanted to do was "boy things." I am kinda girly now, but more toy boyish and also a gamer which in "Men World" is amazing lol. But, I always though it was bad to...
    MsMunkie MsMunkie 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I always feel so confident

    that I am gay. I am attracted to men. It's that simple. I have never told anyone, but I doubt it would be a big surprise if I came out. But then everything gets destroyed when my friends develop crushes on me. They are all girls and sometimes, in moments I can never explain, I...
    superstar2271 superstar2271 13-15, M Jul 8

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    Confused with my sexuality.

    .. :P anyone wanna talk?
    runskiscore runskiscore 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    Bisexual Or Lesbian?

    I'm 14 turning 15 and it just hit me how I'm not really sure what my sexuality actually is. I say I'm bisexual. When I think of having a boyfriend, it bothers me. Ill have a crush on a guy but I'd never go out with one and I've never actually had a sexual fantasy about me and a...
    SkyeWinters SkyeWinters 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 22, 2013

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    Confused About My Sexuality?

    Ever since I was younger I was always an odd one out. I used to pretend I was a guy at times hated girly things. I never fantasized about Disney princess' or prince's, or many people at all in fact. I never thought much of relationships or that such. Even today I'm not great at...
    BreatheInLifeXo BreatheInLifeXo 16-17 1 Response Jan 9, 2013

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    I've always had crushes on boys

    and dated them too, but lately I've been having those feelings for girls as well. I don't know if it's just me think girls in general are beautiful or if I am actually bisexual. I'm not worried about my family excepting me if I was, but I just want to know for myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 8

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    I'm scared of being a lesbian (i don't hate them

    or anything). is it normal to be scared to be a lesbian. tbh I don think I am cause I only think of girls as friends. and I love boys physically emotionally and sexually. I'm just going through puberty and a lot of thoughts are in my mind. I wouldn't say I'm bi curious coz I...
    ilovezebraslol123 ilovezebraslol123 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 30

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    I Don't Know If I'm Gay. I Don't Know If I'm Straight. I Don't Know If I'm Bisexual.

    Ever since I was a small girl, I was a tomboy. Always wanted to be where the boys were. Always wanted to wear what the boys wore. Always wanted to do what the boys did. Always wanted to... be one of them, I guess. This lead to a lot of speculation about what would be my sexual...
    earlysunsets earlysunsets 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    I've been very confused lately about myself.

    .. I'll give you a bit about me before I dive into it all.. I'm 21 and very firmly rooted in my gender as female - also how I was born. I've been in one relationship with another girl for a year -freshman year in high school- this was when my aunt told me that she was a lesbian...
    owlfancy owlfancy 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 9

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    i like people who catch my eye i guess.

    i can see past gender tbh. i feel like i lean for girls more than boys
    homu homu 13-15 Apr 25

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    Im Confused- Help Needed!

    Hi im jonny, im 16 and im not sure of my sexual orientation... Im also not sure how this decision is to be taken...help would be much appreciated :)
    Jonnybrownett Jonnybrownett 16-17, M 1 Response Jun 13, 2013

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    AM I GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BI

    god im really confused about my sexual orientation ok let start in my life ive only dated 5 girls 4 of them cheated on me i never really felt comfortable with a girl sometime i check out guys another thing is uh im usually attracted to the personality of a girl but a lot more...
    3 Responses Jan 15, 2013

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    I Think I May Be A Lesbian

    Well this is my first story so I will try to write it as best as I can, I have just bottled this up so long so sorry if it is a long story. This year I feel like I have changed as a person because of college, I have started to feel more attracted towards women instead of men. I...
    csrb824 csrb824 18-21, F 2 Responses May 23, 2012

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    I think I'm turning straight.

    Ok, I broke up with my ex-gf a few months ago. Men didn't turn me on at all. I've already came out to my parents...and now: guess what??!! I'm totally in love with a guy from college. We're really close, he has an amazing personality, lots of things in common and he has the...
    Sybilla89 Sybilla89 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 19

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    Well I'm a little confused.

    Anyways this happend in October I had a cross country meet and I was really tiered. My best friend is in 8th grade and I'm in 7th.(he's two years older than me.) were really close. Their was a bonfire were all of "the cool kids went" and he is the type of guy who all the girls...
    crosscountry007 crosscountry007 13-15, M 5 Responses May 9

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    Extremely Confused

    I guess I always had this attraction to girls all my life but I just started to question is last year. I mean, i'm only 14 so I always kept making excuses or the fact my parents are homophobic, especially my dad, based on the fact they're devoted catholics. Now i'm accepting the...
    LostSoul571 LostSoul571 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 31, 2013

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    I am a male, and I love women.

    I've only ever dated women. But lately I have felt sexually attracted to men. Even with these feelings, I wouldn't have a relationship with another guy, it's more of a sexual attraction than an emotional attraction. I have had sex with other men, but that's as far as it goes. I...
    mrconfused123 mrconfused123 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 10

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    I am totally unsure of my sexual orientation.

    I remember going through a phase when I was younger, around the 2nd or 3rd grade, where I always looked at women's boobs and butts (wow...I've never told anyone that before). I seemed to have to create crushes on boys when I was in middle school to be normal. In high school I...
    janedoe1897 janedoe1897 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    No Idea And I Don't Care!

    I've identified as bisexual since I was 13 and I've known I liked girls since I was 8. Now I'm 19 and my original thought was I am a lesbian when I lost all sexual and emotional attraction to males. Only one male has kept my emotional and sexual attraction and I'm madly in love...
    ChasingPerfection19 ChasingPerfection19 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    I mean, I tried to see what I liked

    but I had issues ( and still have) that stop me from exploring my sexuality. In honesty, I'm afraid. Because of my experiences what if I was traumatized into not liking it, or liking the opposite gender. So as a result, I too extreme measures that could have resulted in making...
    LiesandLace LiesandLace 18-21 Jul 17

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    I just don't know. I mean.

    ..I've got an idea...sort of. I don't really get attracted to people, and when I do it's very fleeting. I can look at the same person again later on and not feel anything. I guess that makes me asexual, but... I COULD see myself with other people, anyone, just not sexually...
    Cryx Cryx 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    Too Confused, Excuse Me What?

    Ok this is a long story but I realllly need some advice I'm so confused. If not only about my relationship with my friend but now my own self... I always knew my beat friend was bi it's just me that I'm not sure about. she's had a boyfriend since the day that I met her?! We're...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F 8 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    I am 17. I live in the US

    and I'm on the football team. My whole life til I was a freshman in Highschool i liked girls. But when freshman year came I noticed a change in the way I looked at other guys. One of my best Friends who also plays on the football team started to catch my attention more than any...
    ZachTheGreat1 ZachTheGreat1 16-17, M 7 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    I Dont Understand Any Of It

    I'm 22 and unsure of what i love I know i find girls attractive but have never gotten to the point of wanting to touch them. I also find men attractive but much less frequently. My mind is content on just being single (but not alone cause ill always have friends) but some part of...
    deathgod623 deathgod623 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    I think I might like my best friend more

    than a friend. Were both girls. I still like guys but think I might be bisexual. I don't know what to do. The girl and I are very close, but I'm also very awkward when it comes to this stuff. I don't know if I should tell her, or what I should do.
    pineapples17 pineapples17 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    There Is This Girl Whom Changed My Life.

    I had just moved to a new state, I was starting to like it there, never had I dreamed of being so confused. I had the normal drama of relationships and all, moving and boy stuff. As a girl this is the norm. The first day of school I met her and I had a feeling that we were...
    VictoriaClarissaAsh VictoriaClarissaAsh 16-17, F Oct 25, 2013

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    Bisexual, Lesbian?

    Or maybe somewhere in between?! I don't know.. And personally I don't care much for those labels... Whoever I'll end up with I'll end up with. Why the question troubles me a bit though, is because I'd like to be more honest to others. But how am I supposed to come out without...
    MsIndievidual MsIndievidual 18-21, F 12 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    Quest To Understand

    When I turned 13 I was googling my most favorite TV show in the world to find clips of it on the Internet. Through doing this, I was exposed to a site called Fanfiction, full of expanded experiences and stories, branched from an original plot line. At first I would read archives...
    Gypsyamelia Gypsyamelia 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 5, 2012

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    I Don't Understand

    For the first 17 years of my life, I knew I liked guys but now it's changed. It seems now that I'm attracted to neither/either sex. I'm not attracted to men, women, or, objects. I don't get how I can go from being attracted to guys to being attracted to nothing at the crack of...
    Mybodyisacage Mybodyisacage 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    So Confused 18+

    Please help me I'm sinking with confusion my head is a mess, my head temples hurt, my memory Is really bad I'm so frustrated sexually and mentally I am a 43 year old british guy who is technically still a virgin. I have suffered From depression for the last 10 years. I take anti...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 26, 2013

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    I am actually 11 and I think I am perfectly

    normal but I'm confused because I get traumatised by stuff
    ilovezebraslol123 ilovezebraslol123 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30

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    Am I A Lesbian? Am I A Aromatic Asexual? What Am I Exactly? So Many Questions And So Little People To Talk To.

    I have always been a extremely introverted individgual. Ever since I was little, I have always preferred the company of myself over other people, and tend to distance myself from them. This furthermore extended to the romantic elements of my life, but as I'm going through puberty...
    TheOliveweirdo TheOliveweirdo 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2013

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    Hey, so im a 16 yo guy

    and ive been straight all my life. Just recently, i feel like im attracted to guys a bit, and all of a sudden. Like one day it wasnt weird anymore. Idk i guess im just confused about what im categorized as, and scared of what people will think of me
    SwellyExpress SwellyExpress 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 13

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    Maybe "Confused" Isn't The Right Word For It.

    I am not confused about who I like. I am physically attracted to women, a lot. Every once in a while I'll find a guy that I'm attracted to, but that's just a very rare occurrence. However, physical attraction is a very small part of why I'm interested in who I am interested in. I...
    booradley booradley 22-25 2 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    I am struggling with my sexuality.

    ..I have been for 9 years. I am in a relationship with a man but I am constantly attracted to women. I don't want to talk to my friends/family about this as they wouldn't understand. It's really confusing me and I don't know where to go/what to do.
    anniesue123 anniesue123 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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    Here It Goes, My Story... Sorry If Its Long! :)

    So let me start off by saying I am 15 years and 6 months old. I understand that this is still a young age and it is normal for people my age to be confused about their sexual orientation. The thing is i started to form feelings for one of my friends (girl). When i did this i...
    melamina melamina 13-15, F 3 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    so when i was 7 i was playing like barbie I

    don't know with my other friend. suddenly this gay girl called hazel kissed me for a birthday gift coz it was my biday. i didnt like it. i wasnt attracted but i just wanna know if a girl kissed me (im a girl) does that mean im a lesbian. i always find boys attractive and i have...
    himynameisanna22 himynameisanna22 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 14

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    Every other night I have a long phone

    conversation with my best friend. She really doesn't understand how hard it is for me to not know what is going on with my love life. My friend is a very open, wears her heart on her sleeve kinda girl. She knows what she wants and she gets it. She is also very up front about...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 8

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    I Have No Idea What I Am Feeling Right Now

    So, I dated a girl last fall for a couple months. Let's call her "J". And by "dated", I mean that's just about as far as we went. I kissed her once (not made out, kissed), and we cuddled and all, but never anything vaguely sexual in nature. I don't know if I lacked the courage to...
    shaggydelphoid shaggydelphoid 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 25, 2012

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    So at the moment I'm bi

    but I keep switching which way I lean and I really need to experiment with another girl but the girl I am interested in ( and really close friends with ) is taken by another girl. Any advice?
    MusicLifeline MusicLifeline 13-15, F Jun 17

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    I have been attracted to girls

    since I hit puberty. I have only had sexual relations with a few girls and they were either drunk or barely curious so it made it very uncomfortable and awkward. I've even tried having relationships with other girls but it never worked out because they decided they wanted guys...
    akrysrose akrysrose 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Is That Why?

    I've always wondered if I'm "lesbian", or "bi-sexual", which honestly, all kids go through. But, when I was younger, I was sexually abused and I've had so much anxiety from it. Ever since then, when I've seen **** pictures, (not purposly. Just teenage girls being stupid), seeing...
    GreatKindOfDifferent GreatKindOfDifferent 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    I need people to talk to

    or a grown women who can talk to a young lady like me
    Revelyn Revelyn 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 5

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    'A Question That Sometimes Drives Me Hazy: Am I Or Are The Others Crazy?'

    I had some issues growing up, not the least of which was I'd been attracted to guys since I was 12. I never told anyone at the time (I still haven't told many). I felt guilty, dirty and above all I felt a certain self-loathing. I hid it well though, and continued to succeed in...
    Goaly74 Goaly74 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    I love everything about a woman!

    But I am also slightly attracted to men, in a way. I can be like oh he is handsome or cute or whatever but I'm never like oh damn is he hot like I do with women. Yet I have had sex with more men than I have women. I can't see myself happily settling down with a man but I can...
    Hbeccam1 Hbeccam1 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Now what?!

    I am 23. I first become fully aware that I was interested in the same sex in high school, though I've dug up some signs prior. I started to date (the opposite sex only, probably mostly because of lack of opportunity with girls) around the same time but didn't get sexually evolved...
    alycrow alycrow 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 2, 2013

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    I'm Confused..and Scared

     Hey everyone.. Ok, since I was like 11 I started wondering why I felt "different"  I'm a girl, but I don't act like one.  I always thought guy stuff was more fun!...like the sports they play, the jokes, the way of thinking...being a gentleman...a friend...
    waladi waladi 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    Well I have always wondered ever

    since I was a child what sexual orientation I am because I remember I had some feelings for girls but only like a little feelings for about 5 years of my life then I started liking guys and girls for 3 years and then I started liking just guys and now im not sure I dont feel any...
    WorldWideRuler WorldWideRuler 18-21, F 1 Response May 8

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