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I Am Confused About My Sexual Orientation

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    So, um lately I started looking at girls also,

    but since I was little I liked boys. I mean I still find boys attractive but lately some girls are attracting to me. Any advice??
    laracali laracali 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2014

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    Looking back at when I was younger,

    I remember kissing a few girls & it never felt wrong to me but I never had a crush on a girl. I remember this one time where this boy and I were playing at a park and he kissed me, I remember feeling so grossed out and guilty for some reason. I think it was a normal reaction...
    MJay087 MJay087 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2014

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    Gosh, I'm unusual. Can I say I'm an leaning

    more to lesbian but open to any gender given that I spend enough time with them? Most of the time in lesbian mode. Hahaha.
    hildaq14 hildaq14 22-25, F Dec 29, 2014

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    The last few months, almost every night,

    I dream about my bisexual best girlfriend from my childhood, and there was one young lady working for my church here and I was really attracted/interested in her, and I always say, that IF I would be gay, I would marry her. Of course, she is maybe straight, but I think she might...
    Luna80 Luna80 31-35, F Oct 18, 2014

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    I know I'm attracted to women

    but I'm also curious about being with a crossdresser. Does that mean I'm bi?
    dsapollo20 dsapollo20 18-21, M 3 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    I Don't Understand

    For the first 17 years of my life, I knew I liked guys but now it's changed. It seems now that I'm attracted to neither/either sex. I'm not attracted to men, women, or, objects. I don't get how I can go from being attracted to guys to being attracted to nothing at the crack of...
    Mybodyisacage Mybodyisacage 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 3, 2013

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    I Dont Understand Any Of It

    I'm 22 and unsure of what i love I know i find girls attractive but have never gotten to the point of wanting to touch them. I also find men attractive but much less frequently. My mind is content on just being single (but not alone cause ill always have friends) but some part of...
    deathgod623 deathgod623 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 13, 2013

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    I thought I only liked guys.

    But lately I've been getting feelings for one of my best friends (a girl) and I honestly don't know what to do. It's killing me. Nobody knows about it. I don't know wether to tell anyone or just keep it inside.-. Is someone willing to help me?
    mikki19 mikki19 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    Maybe "Confused" Isn't The Right Word For It.

    I am not confused about who I like. I am physically attracted to women, a lot. Every once in a while I'll find a guy that I'm attracted to, but that's just a very rare occurrence. However, physical attraction is a very small part of why I'm interested in who I am interested in. I...
    booradley booradley 22-25 2 Responses Nov 25, 2009

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    I'm a male, 24 years old.

    I've gone back and forth on my sexuality. Sometimes I feel I'm gay, sometimes I feel I'm bi, other times I feel I'm straight. I feel like deep down I'm gay but I don't have sexual attraction towards guys. It's an emotional attraction to them. I feel sexually attracted to...
    hunterrrama hunterrrama 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 19, 2014

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    i have always felt kind of attracted to boys

    and never to women but im almost 18 and ive never been with anywhone.ive dated a couple guys but i have never fallen in love with any of them.actually sometimes they gross me out.do you guys think i havent met the right one yet or do yo think im asexual?
    izzy66 izzy66 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I always though I was straight.

    But was does straight mean? I physically like guys? And what exactly does it mean to be lesbian? I an physically attracted to girls? Well what if it isn't all about physical attraction? What if I care about the people. What if I suddenly start to romantically care for a girl, as...
    macyymayy macyymayy 16-17, F Aug 4, 2014

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    I Don't Know If I'm Gay. I Don't Know If I'm Straight. I Don't Know If I'm Bisexual.

    Ever since I was a small girl, I was a tomboy. Always wanted to be where the boys were. Always wanted to wear what the boys wore. Always wanted to do what the boys did. Always wanted to... be one of them, I guess. This lead to a lot of speculation about what would be my sexual...
    earlysunsets earlysunsets 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    I am 17. I live in the US

    and I'm on the football team. My whole life til I was a freshman in Highschool i liked girls. But when freshman year came I noticed a change in the way I looked at other guys. One of my best Friends who also plays on the football team started to catch my attention more than any...
    ZachTheGreat1 ZachTheGreat1 16-17, M 6 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    I'm 21 and I "came out" (I don't know

    for sure what to classify myself as) a few days ago and have been feeling lost/depressed/alone/suicidal to a point, ever since. I was with my boyfriend for a long time, he was my first everything: first real boyfriend, first person I slept with, the first person I ever opened up...
    sparkyj22 sparkyj22 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 1, 2014

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    I am in college, and recently had my first

    sexual encounter with another girl, and it has left me feeling very confused. I can remember being curious about my sexuality since middle school, when sex and sexuality started to become a topic in my life. However, I don't think I had ever really considered my feelings toward...
    TashaIIL TashaIIL 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 11, 2014

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    Honestly, I feel like I'm forcing myself to

    feel attracted to men. But I haven't had a real girlfriend yet, so people say it's "just a phase".
    ConfusedwithLove ConfusedwithLove 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2014

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    I mean, I tried to see what I liked

    but I had issues ( and still have) that stop me from exploring my sexuality. In honesty, I'm afraid. Because of my experiences what if I was traumatized into not liking it, or liking the opposite gender. So as a result, I too extreme measures that could have resulted in making...
    LiesandLace LiesandLace 18-21 Jul 17, 2014

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    I always preferred girls compared to Guys

    since young. But if I hang out with a guy for a long period of time I start developing feelings. In terms of imagination and thoughts it's always been girls. So I kinda believe I'm a lesbian but I'm not too sure, cause I might be bi right?
    hildaq14 hildaq14 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    Ughhhh. SOS. Help me figure this one out.

    Got stories? Advice? Help out a confused 16 year-old girl. You'll earn good karma.
    IvyEstelle IvyEstelle 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2014

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    Is That Why?

    I've always wondered if I'm "lesbian", or "bi-sexual", which honestly, all kids go through. But, when I was younger, I was sexually abused and I've had so much anxiety from it. Ever since then, when I've seen **** pictures, (not purposly. Just teenage girls being stupid), seeing...
    GreatKindOfDifferent GreatKindOfDifferent 18-21, F 7 Responses Jan 7, 2012

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    Too Confused, Excuse Me What?

    Ok this is a long story but I realllly need some advice I'm so confused. If not only about my relationship with my friend but now my own self... I always knew my beat friend was bi it's just me that I'm not sure about. she's had a boyfriend since the day that I met her?! We're...
    itscake itscake 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    I've always had crushes on boys

    and dated them too, but lately I've been having those feelings for girls as well. I don't know if it's just me think girls in general are beautiful or if I am actually bisexual. I'm not worried about my family excepting me if I was, but I just want to know for myself.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 8, 2014

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    Confused with my sexuality.

    .. :P anyone wanna talk?
    runskiscore runskiscore 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 13, 2014

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    I figured out around 2 years ago

    that I had feelings for both the opposite sex and the same sex but it's only recently that I've had strong feelings of love and desire for two different girls (I've had little crushes but never this strong). My orientation seems to shift around and currently I suppose I would...
    eyeslikeacarcrash eyeslikeacarcrash 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 5, 2014

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    I am a male, and I love women.

    I've only ever dated women. But lately I have felt sexually attracted to men. Even with these feelings, I wouldn't have a relationship with another guy, it's more of a sexual attraction than an emotional attraction. I have had sex with other men, but that's as far as it goes. I...
    mrconfused123 mrconfused123 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 10, 2014

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    I don't even know what to say,

    because I am quite embarrassed by this..
    JaidIsAWildflower JaidIsAWildflower 18-21, F 7 Responses Sep 8, 2014

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    I always feel so confident

    that I am gay. I am attracted to men. It's that simple. I have never told anyone, but I doubt it would be a big surprise if I came out. But then everything gets destroyed when my friends develop crushes on me. They are all girls and sometimes, in moments I can never explain, I...
    sophomorefreakshow sophomorefreakshow 13-15, M Jul 8, 2014

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    How do you know if you're sexually attracted to

    a specific gender? I get strong sexual desire and when I do sometimes to let off steam I fantasize, but it's never about any guy in particular. And when I've ever actually been in a physical sexual situation I couldn't get into it, everything seemed either very silly or gross...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 5, 2014

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    Bisexual, Lesbian?

    Or maybe somewhere in between?! I don't know.. And personally I don't care much for those labels... Whoever I'll end up with I'll end up with. Why the question troubles me a bit though, is because I'd like to be more honest to others. But how am I supposed to come out without...
    MsIndievidual MsIndievidual 18-21, F 12 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    I just don't know any more,

    sure I've had boyfriends in the past but they all dumped me because they said I didn't care enough.
    MysticIllusions MysticIllusions 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 24, 2014

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    I think I might like my best friend more

    than a friend. Were both girls. I still like guys but think I might be bisexual. I don't know what to do. The girl and I are very close, but I'm also very awkward when it comes to this stuff. I don't know if I should tell her, or what I should do.
    pineapples17 pineapples17 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2014

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    I'm Confused..and Scared

     Hey everyone.. Ok, since I was like 11 I started wondering why I felt "different"  I'm a girl, but I don't act like one.  I always thought guy stuff was more fun!...like the sports they play, the jokes, the way of thinking...being a gentleman...a friend...
    waladi waladi 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2009

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    I need people to talk to

    or a grown women who can talk to a young lady like me
    Revelyn Revelyn 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    I look around, and see all these people I'm

    surrounded by, they think I'm normal.But none of them really know me. I feel disconnected with even some of my best friends. Because I know that they wouldn't be my friend if they knew me like some of you know me. There has got to be a point where I move on. What I learned...
    ZachTheGreat1 ZachTheGreat1 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 13, 2014

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    I'm 16, and lately I've been feeling different

    to those around me. When thoughts that I may be interested in girls occur, I just tell myself that it's because I am lonely, and that I haven't had a tidy relationship in over 3 years. So I tried to dismiss the idea, but that didn't work. This problem has been a real issue with...
    lucyjaynesymons lucyjaynesymons 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2014

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    I Think I May Be A Lesbian

    Well this is my first story so I will try to write it as best as I can, I have just bottled this up so long so sorry if it is a long story. This year I feel like I have changed as a person because of college, I have started to feel more attracted towards women instead of men. I...
    csrb824 csrb824 18-21, F 2 Responses May 23, 2012

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    I'm a 15 year old girl

    who seems attracted to women as well as men. I find myself checking out other girls when out in public, but I'm too scared to ask one out. I'm afraid that if I am gay then no one will accept me. It would be nice if I had a friend who's confused as well to talk to. I would...
    AllisonJ23 AllisonJ23 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2014

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    I've been very confused lately about myself.

    .. I'll give you a bit about me before I dive into it all.. I'm 21 and very firmly rooted in my gender as female - also how I was born. I've been in one relationship with another girl for a year -freshman year in high school- this was when my aunt told me that she was a lesbian...
    owlfancy owlfancy 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 9, 2014

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    Ever since middle school I felt like I wasn't

    just attracted to guys but girls as well. I also lack sexual desire unless I've developed close romantic relations with them. But on rare occasions I will develop sexual feelings towards either gender depending on the person or just have sexual thoughts in general. I'm in...
    KimmiNinja KimmiNinja 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    This is the first time I've ever talked about

    my confusion as I don't really have many friends and it's much easier to say to a bunch of strangers! I am attracted to both men and women but I can't see myself being in a relationship with a woman although I'm kind of put off men because of my past, nothing to do with a...
    Jodieeee95 Jodieeee95 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I had always assumed

    that I was straight. I went to church and listened to my preacher on the issue, like a "good boy", as my mother once put it. I had been taught sexuality was a choice, and I accepted that because it was the only thing I had ever known. About a year ago though, my entire...
    super563 super563 13-15, M a week ago

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    'A Question That Sometimes Drives Me Hazy: Am I Or Are The Others Crazy?'

    I had some issues growing up, not the least of which was I'd been attracted to guys since I was 12. I never told anyone at the time (I still haven't told many). I felt guilty, dirty and above all I felt a certain self-loathing. I hid it well though, and continued to succeed in...
    Goaly74 Goaly74 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 24, 2012

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    Sexually attracted to boys,

    emotionally/intrigued by girls...(I'm a girl) what's that mean?
    FKK8 FKK8 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Or lack of for that matter.

    (This is pretty long, I'll summarize at the end) You see, I think I may be asexual or something of a similar variant. I have never once felt sexual attraction for anyone, male or female. The most I can handle is cuddling, which is more of a friendly thing to me anyway...
    NimbusNimpy NimbusNimpy 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    Hey. I just wanted to share my story.

    ..I´m 14 years old girl from czech republic. I´ve a lesbian sister and a lots of homosexual friends, altough they are mostly older than me.About a year ago, I founded out, that I may be attracted to girls. I mean, I have never fell in love with a girl, but I did with...
    ASunny111 ASunny111 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 20, 2014

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    Confused About My Sexuality?

    Ever since I was younger I was always an odd one out. I used to pretend I was a guy at times hated girly things. I never fantasized about Disney princess' or prince's, or many people at all in fact. I never thought much of relationships or that such. Even today I'm not great at...
    BreatheInLifeXo BreatheInLifeXo 16-17 1 Response Jan 9, 2013

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    I have been attracted to girls

    since I hit puberty. I have only had sexual relations with a few girls and they were either drunk or barely curious so it made it very uncomfortable and awkward. I've even tried having relationships with other girls but it never worked out because they decided they wanted guys...
    akrysrose akrysrose 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2014

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    Am I A Lesbian? Am I A Aromatic Asexual? What Am I Exactly? So Many Questions And So Little People To Talk To.

    I have always been a extremely introverted individgual. Ever since I was little, I have always preferred the company of myself over other people, and tend to distance myself from them. This furthermore extended to the romantic elements of my life, but as I'm going through puberty...
    TheOliveweirdo TheOliveweirdo 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2013

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