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I Am Confused About My Sexuality

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 152 People

    Not Knowing

    I am in a relationship,I've been with this guy for 5 years but I fing myself thinking about woman.I think about being with one.I've been with a woman years ago when I was like 12,and now I find myself not happy because I feel like I want to feel a womans touch.I am not happy with...
    sexy1979 sexy1979
    31-35, F
    Jun 7, 2012

    Might sound stupid, but I had a really lucid,

    vivid dream about dating this curvacious, beautiful woman and falling in love with her. Normally it wouldn't bother me, but I haven't had a f/f relationship since high school, and it left me feeling really....happy (?), something I haven't felt in a relationship with a man...
    rorenchan rorenchan
    22-25, F
    Feb 1, 2015

    My Friend

    I wouldn't say I am in love with him but I have a different kind of obsession about my friend. I just want to be with him all the time and really care about what he thinks about me. His friendship is really special to me but I'm always feeling worried about if our friendship is...
    overthinker overthinker
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2007

    Curious !!!!

    hiya , im married female 25 with kids but for many years now ive been thinking what it would be like to be with another woman . its always on my mind and i do find other women attractive . dont know what to do ???
    curiouscutie11 curiouscutie11
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 30, 2012

    For The Second Time

    For a decade (up until a few weeks ago), if you asked me, I would have said that I was 100% Kinsey 6 Gay. But I find myself starting to rethink this. It all started a few weeks ago when my brother, best friend and sister-in-law came to visit my boyfriend, Mourgan, and I. My...
    Blueplay396 Blueplay396
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Aug 23, 2013

    So Confusing...

    My sexuality is something that I definitely have issues with.  It all started with me being either somewhat asexualish, or just really sexually repressed- which one is it?  I'm not sure, since I seem to have qualities of both- and everything else that's out there (well...
    solarxmoon solarxmoon
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Oct 13, 2007

    I Just Can't Take It Anymore..

    Okay, I'm 15 and female. It all started when I was 13. I have a friend who was also confused with her sexuality. We both liked our biology teacher because she was really sexy, beautiful and smart. Whenever she's around, my friend and I always really stare at her. I'm so...
    Insspiured Insspiured
    18-21, F
    Dec 28, 2011

    Could be straight, or Asexual....or gay....

    Hi all, Im a 23 year old male. My whole life i have identified as straight, I've always had crushes and loved girls. I've had non stop fantasies about them, and my sex drive started kicking in around age 12/13. I had been through my first love at school, real beautiful girl...
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 30, 2012

    Is she into me??? or am i just reading into things too much?? i wrote a while back about liking my best friend...which made me think i was bisexual...however i got over her and convinced myself it was just a phase, but now i really like another friend of mine who i have known for a while but only just gotten really close to recently...
    lifenotknife lifenotknife
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Mar 17, 2008

    Please, Help Me!

    So, when I was 14, I came out as bisexualthis is only because I was dating another girl. Neither of us really thought much of it, we were just two girls who liked and cared about each other a lot and began to be romantic. but people started asking questions and we were so young...
    ClairLowry ClairLowry
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 13, 2012

    What Is This Feeling?

    When people look at me I can tell the question in their mind is "Is she a lesbian?" I don't like girly clothes. I don't have girly mannerisms. I don't have a girly living place. I don't know how to be girly. Most of the time I'd rather be a guy because it seems so much easier...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 24, 2013

    What Is Happening to Me??

    I found out a while ago that my best friend had feelings for my other friend but it was unrequited. this made her really down so i was helping her through it by spending time with her and taking her mind off things etc..but this level of closeness has led to me having...
    lifenotknife lifenotknife
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Apr 9, 2007

    Stopped Being Gay?

    Well, I consider myself gay, as I like guys. I have no stabile realtionship, but I date regularly guys. But recently I do not have fun anymore in that. Even I do not like the sex with guys anymore. It started about 6-8 months ago. I tried to "overcompensate" and started intensive...
    miercolers29 miercolers29
    Aug 29, 2012

    I Don't Know What To Do

    My timeline of sexuality is just a big mess. I thought I was bisexual, then a lesbian, then bisexual when I fell in love with a boy. But now I have no idea. I know I can’t keep going back and forth on what my sexuality is, but when you find a person you think you could really...
    natleebee natleebee
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Apr 3, 2011

    I Don´t Know How To Interpret My Feelings

    I am a 19 year old female. I am currently extremely confused about my sexuality and through this confusion am unable to express myself sexually, leading to some sexual frustration. I am quite a sexual person and enjoy dancing and being seductive, but when it comes to being close...
    adreamweaver adreamweaver
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2011

    Confused About My Own Gender Identity

    Hello everyone, I am an 18 year old female who is questioning my own gender identity. I've never agreed with the clean cut society has tried to make between genders in ways such as clothes and personalities, and I've always tried to be myself and ignoring those gender rules. I...
    ASkyBird ASkyBird
    May 31, 2013

    Confused With My Sexuality.

    I'm a 17 year old girl. Since I was little I have found it easy to fall in love with boys. But when I was little I thought sex was meant to be with another woman. I use to be excited for when I got older so I could have sex with women. Only since I've been 14 did I think that I...
    mindboggled mindboggled
    22-25, F
    Nov 3, 2013


    I confessed to my best friend that I was in love with her, she said she felt the same... Three months later I haven't seen her since that day. I don't know if she went away b/c she was scared or b/c I'm getting married. I thought over time I would...
    edcba edcba
    1 Response Jul 8, 2009


    Why I am always so confused regarding my sexuality?   I went on a date this evening with a guy a met last weekend.  I wanted to go on the date, I thought there might have been something there, but tonight I felt nothing, no attraction what so ever.  Last weekend we were...
    eelarc eelarc
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 4, 2010

    Lost And Confused...

    My confusion is not am I gay rather am I "bi"? I've liked girls since before I knew what gay was, my first crush was on a girl. Barbie used to scissor Barbie. Back in high school I came out as bi to pretty much everyone I know... I've had my fair share of boyfriends and sure I do...
    KandiKid217 KandiKid217
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Nov 20, 2010

    Ehh. Help?

    Well i know im bi. I had my first boyfriend in kindergarten ^.^ and then i moved. In 2nd grade i met this girl. She changed everything. We would kiss and stuff and i thought it was all normal but then i moved again. And now im 15. And i KNOW that im attracted to female and male...
    Loophole123 Loophole123
    22-25, F
    Aug 9, 2013

    COMING Out Story

    Hi! You may find this interesting. Please pass this on... it can be helpful to someone http://www. myspace. com/figuringitoutbook Figuring IT Out by NSB - A lesbian's Coming Out Story. This books has been rated...
    grehyzz grehyzz
    Nov 6, 2008

    Not Sure About My Sexuality.

    I am not sure whether i am a lesbian or not. I don't feel any feeling for guys. I always having attraction toward woman that are older than me, by older, i mean in their 30 or 40. (I am 24 years old). And they are always have professional authority over me. Therapist...
    iloveyoukoala iloveyoukoala
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 26, 2010

    What Is Going On With My Sexuality? Am I Going Asexual?

    I apologize in advance if this story is too NSFW to post here. If that is the case, I will take it down. I guess the beginning is not strictly relevant to the group name, but I believe it could be of some importance to the story. I have always been a perverted child. I know it's...
    clarekuchiki clarekuchiki
    18-21, F
    Apr 26, 2013

    I Am Lost

    so i am confused i not sure if i gay bi or not i have only been with girls befor but have often though about being with a man i do watch gay **** and dream about being with in a sexual way all the time i do look at girls to and have been with girls. i did have one girlfriend the...
    lostandfound2 lostandfound2
    Apr 8, 2012

    Confused About My Sexuality

     Last year, i got close to a girl, and we became really good friends. Both of us are university students, living far away from our family. She use to sleep over and just hug me at night. It felt weird the first time but I would just ignore it. I am not the type of person who do...
    Gllll Gllll
    2 Responses Apr 2, 2011

    Women are beautiful to me,

    Men are attractive too. Also I do not admit it to people, but I would find myself starring at females for a while because they are so pretty. Males sometimes fascinate me but I do not know if I am straight, bisexual, or lesbian. A couple of weeks ago I develop feelings for this...
    AngelK2010 AngelK2010
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 7, 2014


    What am I if I have only liked people of the male variety, but girls kissing and having sex turns me on?  I highly doubt that I am straight-on heterosexual. I have only been attracted to guys, never a girl.  But it's just more sensual and a big turn on when girls make love...
    Trackie160 Trackie160
    18-21, F
    Jan 9, 2012

    Im Confused About My Feelings

    Im 21 yrs old and lately iver been very confused about my sexuality for the past 2 yrs. everyday im more and more consed if im gay or straight ive my last girlsfirends ive felt a connections we got along really well and we i connect with both psysicallty and emotionally, at the...
    TEK88 TEK88
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

    Somebody, Help, I Need Some Guidance

    I've always liked girls and I've never been homophobic, ever since I started liking them (9 years old) to when my libido kicked in (14 years old) until now (18)... But, about a month ago, this guy who sits next to me in English class told me I should come out, even though I had...
    junkiebear junkiebear
    18-21, M
    May 2, 2012

    Confusion About My Sexual Orientation

    I am confused by my sexuality. I dont get attract to boys easily. Very difficult. Since young, i usually found myself looking at girls more often than guys unless the guy is really handsome and hot. When i say i look at girls or guys, i just simply admire their looks but sexual...
    Blueday83 Blueday83
    May 22, 2013

    I'm Confused Sexually 18+

    Please help me I'm sinking with confusion my head is a mess, my head temples hurt, my memory Is really bad I'm so frustrated sexually and mentally I am a 43 year old british guy who is technically still a virgin. I have suffered From depression for the last 10 years. I take anti...
    defoekeane defoekeane
    36-40, M
    Nov 26, 2013

    Ok so I had this dream last night

    and I was with some other girls. We were like in this lower deck under a boardwalk kind of thing but the ocean was farter out and there was a pool in front of us. We were all lounging and then I walk over to the girl and lay down she lays on top of me her back against my chest...
    liyah27 liyah27
    18-21, F
    Aug 6, 2014

    Dazed & Confused

    I am so confused as to whether I like girls or boys. I have come out as 'bi' to a small group of friends but I rarely tell people about my attraction to men and I have moved away from those friends so now I have nobody. I'm only 19 so I realize I'm still young and have time to...
    lonelyguy19 lonelyguy19
    7 Responses Oct 8, 2010

    Am I In Or Out?

    I've been struggling with my personality over the past year. I recently started liking girls but I'm still not sure if I would ever be happy with a girl instead of a guy. I obviously like men, I've dated men before and I know that I do like them very much. For women, I find them...
    ZappedToTheUnicorn ZappedToTheUnicorn
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 27, 2012


     I am a 24 and I'm confused about my sexuality and find it hard to express my feelings to anybody in person. i have always from a young teenager been sexually involved with other men, but never really with women. i do find both sexes attractive but have never seemed to have...
    chippanman chippanman
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jun 7, 2010

    Still Wondering If I'm Straight, Gay Or Bi

    I have already written a similar story about this but i haven't got the answers that i was looking for. I've always been interested in men all my life but since a couple of years, i have some crushes for women. I have never been really attracted to the women around me, but...
    IWasATeenageWerewolf IWasATeenageWerewolf
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Jul 14, 2010

    Well I am 28 years old

    and I am still confused about my sexuality I crave sex and intimacy. I crave that closeness to another human being physically and emotionally, I am no different from any other human being. I crave it yet I repel it at the same time. There have been many occasions when...
    eelarc eelarc
    26-30, F
    Dec 28, 2013


    I'm not a lesbian.  I like guys, way more than usual and i can't imagine "eating vag" or seeing another one, when i can barely stand mine.  I'm not bi either because, I don't like/am attracted to girls and guys equally, it's like 90/10 (guys over girls) or...
    Awareofthe Awareofthe
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 11, 2009

    My Life Is Mine

    hey, its currently 1 in the morning and this is the first time i've ever done something like this, and to be perfectly honest im not sure what i should be writing about here. My experiences? My life? Past traumas? Well, officially citing my honesty policy: my experiences are...
    likelyunlikely likelyunlikely
    1 Response Jan 18, 2011

    My Life Story

    i am a 21 year old male i was abued on to seperate acations by teenages when i was 5 to 7. and then again when i was 9. my life started to change when i was 13. i slowly lost all freiends and started smooking weed and drinking heaviley. i relised at 15 i was deppresed. when i...
    hype21 hype21
    Aug 9, 2012

    Who Am I

    Well I always thought I liked girls. All my ex girlfriends had suspicions that I was gay because I liked to pick out their clothes and shop and cook! After a while I realized I felt nothing when I kissed them like something was just not clicking. now I see gay people and they...
    Italia721 Italia721
    May 5, 2013

    Convincing Myself I Am Gay...Never Been So Tired.

    So my story is quite the opposite of a lot of people and pretty complicated. But let me start from the way beginning... I grew up in a religious family. I went to church and ended up developing my own relationship with God...that has made things all the more difficult. So...
    BeTheOne BeTheOne
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 7, 2013

    Being married for 15 years puts you into a box,

    where you think you are happy and safe. This is good right? But sex does suffer, it all started after I had dream about a guy. I have never had any thoughts about a man before but now I seem to be? I am pretty much heterosexual but any married men ever 'turned' ? I won't...
    Negdupree Negdupree
    31-35, M
    1 Response Aug 5, 2014

    27female And Confused

    Hello. Lets start off with I'm 27 years old and I am in a relationship with a female right now have been for 5 years now. But lately I have been questioning myself. Let me tell you why. When I was 18 years old I got married to a man who I was head over heals for loved him dearly...
    And21dol And21dol
    31-35, F
    Jun 12, 2013

    I'm Either Bi Or Straight

    I'm sixteen and have very strong feelings for my girlfriend and have had for previous girlfriends but I also find myself turned on by guys now. I could never feel emotionally for a guy but I watch bi/gay **** as well as straight and tranny ****. I am turned on by all of it. I...
    imconfusednow imconfusednow
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jul 13, 2012

    One Day I Feel Straight, Then Asexual, Then Fear I'm Gay

    Hi all, Im a 23 year old male. My whole life i have identified as straight, I've always had crushes and loved girls. I've had non stop fantasies about them, and my sex drive started kicking in around age 12/13. I had been through my first love at school, real beautiful girl...
    22-25, M
    1 Response Apr 30, 2012

    Having Trouble With A Girl And My Sexual Orientation

    The Story It first started in Year 7, I had a crush on one of my friends. I would stare at her all the time, and  she would stare at me sometimes too, but I was always in denial, cause my mum is homophobic and I guess I was kind of brainwashed into being that way too. Anyway...
    ShatteredTears ShatteredTears
    18-21, F
    Oct 28, 2010

    Love Girls But Am Confused About Boys

    i have always liked girls im 19 and have had sex a good number of times with girls im on the small size im 4 inchs hard and have had alot of problems with that get teased alot cuz of it gut alot if the girls i slept with have told there friends i was great in bed well a 16 year...
    johny4 johny4
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2010

    Bisexually Asexual?

    Is that statement even possible? Here's my **** story, sorry for the language.    So, I graduated from high school this past June, busy with friends and parties. I never dated during high school because either I was too hopeful of a relationship to make a...
    jackkitty jackkitty
    3 Responses Nov 8, 2008


    who am i! i have all female features but i like being a man and i like girls. i do not like anyone to touch my vagina but i love other peoples owm
    Jan 11, 2013

    Not Only A Question Of 'who' But A Question Of 'if'

    So this is a little embarrassing for me to talk about, but I’ve gotten over it using the time-honoured classic method of talking about it for the first time while ****-faced at a party. I don’t know if I’ve ever really been sexually attracted to anyone. Ever...
    IPaintMyCheeks IPaintMyCheeks
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2010
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