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    April 12. Letting Go of Fear.

    Picture yourself swimming floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscious of your situation. Frightened, overwhelmed with "what if's?" your body tenses. You begin to thrash around...
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    April 16. Letting Things Happen.

    We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the...
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    March 21. Considering Commitment.

    Pay attention to your commitments. While many of us fear committing, it's good to weigh the cost of any commitment we are considering. We need to feel consistently positive that it's an appropriate commitment for us. Many of us have a history of jumping -- leaping headfirst...
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    April 9. Giving. Learning to be a healthy

    giver can be a challenge. Many of us got caught up in compulsive giving - charitable acts motivated by uncharitable feelings of guilt, shame, obligations, pity, and moral superiority. We now understand that catering and compulsive giving don't work. They backfire. Caretaking...
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    April 13. Enjoyment. One of the prohibitions

    many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule — don't have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs — people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living. Many of us associated suffering with some sort of sainthood. . Now, we associate...
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    Lost

    i just feel like where am i in this world?  time just keeps passing me by   i feel desperate for love & human affection...like thats truly my driving force   im alone. i dont know how to be a good friend anymore. im constanly wondering who i can really...
    dotta415 dotta415 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 3, 2009

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    April 20. Deadlines. "I don't know

    whether I want in or out of this relationship. I've been struggling with it for months now. It's not appropriate to let it hang indefinitely. I will give myself two months to make a decision." —Anonymous Sometimes, it helps to set a deadline. This can be true when we face...
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    Couldn't sleep last night.

    Terrified about meetings at work today covering things I know are fine and I can do. Mind is in my head and I'm my own worst enemy. Anyone have some tips on how to work through these episodes?
    PSjourneyman PSjourneyman 41-45, M 17 hrs ago

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    My fucken head is so ****** up right

    now I don't know rather to scream or just cut my dam wrist I think second one is not good cuss my family but on the other hand they wouldn't give 5 rats ***** if I was dead
    CountryGirlinHell CountryGirlinHell 16-17, F 1 day ago

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    April 17. Taking Care of Ourselves.

    We often refer to recovery from codependency and adult child issues as self-care. Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin off of the Me generation. It isn't self-indulgence. It isn't selfishness - in the negative interpretation of that word. We're learning to take care of...
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    March 25. Letting Go of Worry.

    What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine? What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years...
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    I'm a 33 year old and

    for some reason I never feel happy anymore, I don't appreciate anything anymore and I don't look forward to anything anymore, Just feel down and sad all the time
    jon1981 jon1981 31-35, M 2 Responses Apr 8

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our

    school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my mind I was thinking "you know what, I'm gonna try to talk to her, I need to man up, I need to know how to talk to a girl and here's my first...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 8

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    Hey everyone i just installed this app

    and wanted to try it out .. My experience .. I am tired :( im 17 i get stressed a lot my mom is just into my life too much if i just didnt socialize with her she'd stalk all my phones social networks and everything i go online thinking im doing something bad i just have to give...
    deviljuju deviljuju 16-17, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    April 15. Communication.

    Part of owning our power is learning to communicate clearly, directly, and assertively. We don't have to beat around the bush in our conversations to control the reactions of others. Guilt-producing comments only produce guilt. We don't have to fix or take care of people with...
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    April 7. Those Old Time Feelings.

    "I still have bad days. But that's okay. I used to have bad years." —Anonymous Sometimes, the old feelings creep back in. We may feel fearful, ashamed, and hopeless. We may feel not good enough, unlovable, victimized, helpless, and resentful about it all. This is...
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    April 18. Freedom. Many of us were oppressed

    and victimized as children. As adults, we may continue to keep ourselves oppressed. Some of us don't recognize that caretaking and not setting boundaries will leave us feeling victimized. Some of us don't understand that thinking of ourselves as victims will leave us feeling...
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    April 8. Self Care. "I don't precisely know

    what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out." —Beyond Codependency Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed. Many of us have...
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    March 22. Letting Go of Being a Victim.

    It's okay to have a good day. Really. It's okay to be doing okay and to feel like our life is manageable and on track. Many of us have learned, as part of our survival behaviors, that the way to get the attention and approval we want is to be victims. If life is awful, too...
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    Deadly Days...whre Is The End, To This, My Only Friend, Would Like To Star Over Life??? Its Too Dark To Tell..anything

    help, i really think I cant help it, theres no way out..I admit I do have a family all the time behind me..but just moved to a new city, veryyyy lonely...isolated to hell..really nedd people, human touch, someone to talk to, people are so very so very scared of me i feel in my...
    FTVinokuroff FTVinokuroff 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 11, 2009

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    I have a boyfriend I been

    for 2 years so far we argue a lot we bearly see eachother because he says he's always busy I wanna let go but the I don't because I love him I've been crying a lot I see he has time for his boys but not me I need someone's advice 😔
    Veronica231992 Veronica231992 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    April 22. Coping With Stress.

    Inevitably, there are times of stress in our lives, no matter how long we've been in recovery. Sometimes, the stress is outside or around us. We're feeling balanced, but our circumstances are stressful. Sometimes, the stress is within; we feel out of balance. When the stress...
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    March 24. Appreciating Ourselves.

    We are the greatest things that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier. —Codependent No More It is time to stop this nonsense of running around picking on ourselves. We may have walked through much of our life apologizing for ourselves either directly...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 24

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    April 6. Patience. How sick

    and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 6

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    A Lonely Nerd

    I think I am more aware now to the sake of my social isolation. I think it's sinking in, how lonely I am at the end of the day. How my life has been one entire moment of loneliness, of rejection, of alienation. Of never fitting in. It's the end of the day. I'm about to sleep in a...
    GenineFilS GenineFilS 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    April 19. Accepting Change.

    The winds of change blow through our life, sometimes gently, sometimes like a tropical storm. Yes, we have resting places - time to adjust to another level of living, time to get our balance, time to enjoy the rewards. We have time to catch our breath. But change is inevitable...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    so I have depression

    and lately so called friends have been ignoring me and my family is just making me feel worse. No word of a lie and don't mean to come across as attention seeking but because of all that I'm getting quite suicidal and I honestly just don't care anymore.
    adaytoparade adaytoparade 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    Confused, Anxious, Depressed

    Confused,Anxious,Depressed,That's me,This life,Place,Gettin' me down,Never easy,Always complexed,What am I to do?
    startinover1 startinover1 46-50 1 Response Aug 3, 2012

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    I'm living in so much pain,

    anxiety and depression. I have always been the one who would always be there for my children and grandchildren without handing them material things. For about 4 years now I have been taking care of my daughters 3 children with help from the paternal great grandmother I also have...
    dawwnrenee dawwnrenee 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    April 14. Perfectionism.

    Recovery from codependency is an individual process that necessitates making mistakes, struggling through problems, and facing tough issues. Expecting ourselves to be perfect slows this process; it puts us in a guilty and anxious state. Expecting others to be perfect is...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 14

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    April 10. Using Others to Stop Our Pain.

    Our happiness is not a present someone else holds in his or her hands. Our well-being is not held by another to be given or withheld at whim. If we reach out and try to force someone to give us what we believe he or she holds, we will be disappointed. We will discover that it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 10

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    Deadly Days...whre Is The End, To This, My Only Friend, Would Like To Star Over Life??? Its Too Dark To Tell..anything

    help, i really think I cant help it, theres no way out..I admit I do have a family all the time behind me..but just moved to a new city, veryyyy lonely...isolated to hell..really nedd people, human touch, someone to talk to, people are so very so very scared of me i feel in my...
    FTVinokuroff FTVinokuroff 26-30, M 2 Responses Oct 11, 2009

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    On the Edge

     I am new to this writing down your feelings thing, but here it goes.   Around a month ago I was called into the counselors office at my school.  I tried not to freak out as I was walking there but it was not working out so well for me.  I tried to think what...
    chemistryd32 chemistryd32 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 11, 2009

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    Confused On Life

    I need to finish my portfolio for grad school but I just don't want to. it's not that I am putting it off, I just feel like I don't enjoy what I went to school for anymore (media and film) I applied for grad school last year and was not accepted. I found another job working...
    Tekman84 Tekman84 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 29, 2009

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    April 21. Waiting. Wait.

    If the time is not right, the way is not clear, the answer or decision not consistent, wait. We may feel a sense of urgency. We may want to resolve the issue by doing something - anything now, but that action is not in our best interest. Living with confusion or unsolved...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    Please

    Please. You cant stand me, yet I cannot stand to be without you. You think I'm repulsive, I think you are the most beautiful person I've ever known. My interests bore you, your interests enthral me. You are a genius, I'm a disappointment. You're everything and more, I'm nothing...
    butyouweregagginforit butyouweregagginforit 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    I don't know what to do I'm at a lose here none

    actually cares they say they do I'm gonna be stuck at home for a good while cuss my last frucken breakdown it didn't end to good wish it would of ended completely
    CountryGirlinHell CountryGirlinHell 16-17, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    April 11. Financial Goals.

    Taking responsibility for our financial affairs will improve our self-esteem and lessen anxiety. Each of us, today, has a present set of financial circumstances. We have a certain amount of money in hand, and money due to us. We have a pile of bills that we owe. We have taxes...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 11

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    So Much Hard To So Much To Ignore In Life......

    I have done my education and now actively searching  to get hook up with appropriate man of my life :) am desperately looking some honest , comitted  man . But , I always get wrong man....I always get hugely dis-honest & insincere man , even though I am always...
    sanasafinaz sanasafinaz 26-30, F 20 Responses Jun 27, 2010

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    March 28. Balance. Seek balance.

    Balance emotions with reason. Combine detachment with doing our part. Balance giving with receiving. Alternate work with play, business with personal activities. Balance tending to our spiritual needs with tending to our other needs. Juggle responsibilities to others with...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 28

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    I act like nothing is going on

    but hell feel so confused and depressed for messaging my love and she doesn't even try from her work...give me a short reply as miss her like hell and feel sad.
    Egyptianguy34 Egyptianguy34 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    April 5. Detaching in Love.

    Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships - the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships - the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us! Detachment is not something we do once. It's...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 5

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    Just broke up with a sociopath,

    IT was A Nightmare,They are Evil
    IBELIEVEIMAIL IBELIEVEIMAIL 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    So I don't know what to do ,

    I made a good friend but I've got depression and anger issues and because of that I've been taking a lot of things out on him. We also used to be close friends but now we barely talk and most of the times that we do we just seem to argue. I just want my friend back and I want...
    adaytoparade adaytoparade 18-21, F Apr 5

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    April 23. Opening Ourselves to Love.

    Allowing ourselves to receive love is one of the greatest challenges we face in recovery. Many of us have blocked ourselves from receiving love. We may have lived with people who used love to control us. They would be there for us, but at the high price of our freedom. Love...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    March 17. Empowering.

    You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice. How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves. When someone tells us about a...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 17

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    Related Experiences

    I broke up with my bf of 6 years,

    not because I didn't love him or care about him. But because we went through a lot and I had a lot to get over. So I broke up with him so I could heal and get help on myself. Well even after we broke up I knew I wasn't over him and that I want to try us again. But month...
    feelinglost84 feelinglost84 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    April 1. Going Easy. Go easy.

    You may have to push forward, but you don't have to push so hard. Go in gentleness - go in peace. Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace. Frantic behaviors and urgency are not the foundation for our new...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 1

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    April 3. Acceptance. Surrender to the moment.

    Ride it out and through, for all it's worth. Throw yourself into it. Stop resisting. So much of our anguish is created when we are in resistance. So much relief, release, and change are possible when we accept, simply accept. We waste our time, expend our energy, and make...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 3

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    March 26. Gifts, Not Burdens.

    "Children are gifts, if we accept them." —Kathleen Turner Crilly Children are gifts. Our children, if we have children, are a gift to us. We, as children, were gifts to our parents. Sadly, many of us did not receive the message from our parents that we were gifts to them...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 26

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    March 27. After-Burn.

    How could I do it? How could I say it? Even though I meant it, I still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid. This is common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 27

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    March 29. Getting Needs Met.

    Picture yourself walking through a meadow. There is a path opening before you. As you walk, you feel hungry. Look to your left. There's a fruit tree in full ripe. Pick what you need. Steps later, you notice you're thirsty. On your right, there's a fresh water spring. When you...
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    March 30. Experiment.

    Experiment. Try something new. Try stepping out. We have been held back too long. We have held ourselves back too long. As children, many of us were deprived of the right to experiment. Many of us are depriving ourselves of the right to experiment and learn as adults. Now is...
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    March 31. Finances. Taking financial

    responsibility for ourselves is part of recovery. Some of us may find ourselves in hard financial times for a variety of reasons. Our recovery concepts, including the Steps, work on money issues and restoring manageability to that area of our life. Make appropriate amends...
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    April 2. Facing Our Darker Side.

    Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. —Step Four of Al-Anon By the time we get to the Fourth of the Twelve Steps, we are ready to face our darker side, the side that prevents us from loving others, from letting others love us, and from enjoying life...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 2

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