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I Am Confused, Anxious, and Depressed

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    May 9. Learning New Behaviors.

    Sometimes we'll take a few steps backward. That's okay too. Sometimes it's necessary. Sometimes it's part of going forward. —Codependent No More Life is a Gentle Teacher. She wants to help us learn. The lessons she wants to teach us are the ones we need to learn. Some say...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F May 9

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    I had a counseling appt.

    today and it was my second one. Ive been suicidal and having many issues. Im not crazy but have been very emotional. I was very honest with my counselor and we called in my mom to talk about the suicide so now i will be living in a mental care facility soon.
    tig1991 tig1991 22-25, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    lovebug5524 lovebug5524 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    my mood swings scare me.

    i can go from being happy to depressed in a matter of seconds.
    1livingstars 1livingstars 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    I have no one close to me

    or there for me I am alone I am in bed everyday I am by myself I am sad I want love and happiness
    savstrickland savstrickland 16-17, F 1 Response May 10

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    September 2. Detaching with Love with Children.

    "It's one thing to let go of my husband and let him suffer the consequences. But how do I let go of my children? Isn't it different with children? Don't we have responsibilities as parents?" —Al Anon member We do have different responsibilities to our children than to...
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    September 12. Healing.

    "We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity... We should anticipate these stages in our emotional...
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    September 16. Revenge.

    No matter how long we've been recovering, no matter how solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with another person. We want revenge. We want to see the other person hurt the way he or she has hurt us. We want to...
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    Hello, About 2 weeks ago I was diagnosed with

    depression, though I would say I have been depressed for a few months it has really got me to a point where I need to write this somewhere in hope someone can either relate to me or help me in any way. Before I go on I am not much of a “writer” in any sense and have never...
    guethary guethary 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 28

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    September 10. Self-approval.

    Most of us want to be liked. We want other people to think of us as nice, friendly, kind, and loving. Most of us want the approval of others. Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly of us. We may be afraid...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    September 13. Times of Reprogramming.

    Recovery is not all-tiresome, unrewarded work. There are times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice what we have learned. There are times of change, times when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a particular problem. These are the times when what we...
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    September 11. Conflict

    and Detachment. In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when things go smoothly for both people, and neither person needs to focus too heavily on the concept of detachment. But there are those challenging times when one person is in crisis or changing - and we need...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    A girl who’s left within the world Who tries

    to speak and tries to lead Who’s going to be the sideway act- Who tells the girl that there’s no need? Her wrists are bound by a single chain, but Her mind is weighed by a darker role She is a captive of her brain, so She fights herself to free her soul All around her...
    reachforme18 reachforme18 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    I need healing.. Nothing ever goes "right"

    for too long. Im always caught up in the struggle with no one to lean on. I have inconsiderate friends who think of me last; family too. Its just all getting real to me; no one cares - never did.
    epipfhani epipfhani 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 4

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    September 7. Powerless over Others.

    Stop making excuses for other people. Stop making excuses for ourselves. While it is our goal to develop compassion and achieve forgiveness, acceptance, and love, it is also our goal to accept reality and hold people accountable for their behavior. We can also hold ourselves...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    August 31. Denial. I've been recovering many

    years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It has been both a friend and an enemy. When I was a child, I used denial to protect my family and myself. I protected myself from seeing things...
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    March 17. Empowering.

    You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice. How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves. When someone tells us about a...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 17

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    I don't know what to do.

    And I don't even know why I'm confused. I'm not sure if I should call it confusion but this overwhelming feeling always comes when I get sad and it's almost like between confusion and insanity. I don't know how to explain it but it feels like I might get swallowed up into a dark...
    JayyPsythe JayyPsythe 13-15, M 2 Responses May 27

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    June 24. Detachment. Detachment doesn't come

    naturally for many of us. But once we realize the value of this recovery principle, we understand how vital detachment is. The following story illustrates how a woman came to understand detachment. "The first time I practiced detachment was when I let go of my alcoholic husband...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    I don't know if anyone can tell,

    but right now I'm really very depressed. I an hardly keep my eyes on the screen without tearing up. I'm lonely, it's true, and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. My parents were never there for me when I needed them the most, and I just can't seem to understand what everything...
    kiddishguy kiddishguy 26-30, M 1 day ago

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    I feel trapped, alone,

    confused, anxious, powerless, and so much more. People use me, they make **** up about me...and I didn't even do anything! Everything that I normally love to do I don't anymore. I have no energy, no ambition, nothing. Today I didn't get out of bed until 6:30 pm, and had to force...
    tig1991 tig1991 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    September 14. What's Good

    for Me? When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is this what I really want?... Is this what I need?...Does this direction feel right for me?...or am I succumbing to the control...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    September 6. The Good in Step Ten.

    Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is right in our life. It says we continue to take a personal inventory and keep a focus on ourselves. When we take an inventory, we will...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 6

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    Well It sucks!! I asked the girl

    that I have a crush on. I ask her out to go to a movie with me and she said "Ow Sure" And after getting all the details on that movie, the price of the tickets and where the movie is the gonna be held and the schedule. I text her right away all the details and info. and I even...
    jayperez89 jayperez89 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 4

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    September 8. Stopping Our Pain.

    "Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn." —Beyond Codependency There are many sources of pain in our life. Those of us recovering from adult children and codependency issues frequently have a cesspool of unresolved pain from the past. We have...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 8

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    September 1. Patience.

    Sometimes we get what we want right away. At other times, we wonder if our desires will ever be fulfilled. We will be fulfilled in the best way possible and as quickly as possible. But some things take time. Sometimes, we have lessons to learn first, lessons that prepare us so...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 1

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    So Much Hard To So Much To Ignore In Life......

    I have done my education and now actively searching  to get hook up with appropriate man of my life :) am desperately looking some honest , comitted  man . But , I always get wrong man....I always get hugely dis-honest & insincere man , even though I am always...
    sanasafinaz sanasafinaz 26-30, F 20 Responses Jun 27, 2010

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    Please

    Please. You cant stand me, yet I cannot stand to be without you. You think I'm repulsive, I think you are the most beautiful person I've ever known. My interests bore you, your interests enthral me. You are a genius, I'm a disappointment. You're everything and more, I'm nothing...
    butyouweregagginforit butyouweregagginforit 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    bringmeback555 bringmeback555 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    April 16. Letting Things Happen.

    We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 16

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    September 4. Finding Direction.

    "I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to...
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    September 15. Getting Through Hard Times.

    "We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only God and we can determine the timing." —Codependent No More Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but...
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    September 3. Word Power.

    "I know I'm controlling, but so is my husband. Possibly more controlling than I am. Each time I set out to leave him, each time I started to walk away, he knew exactly what to say to pull me back in. And he knew I'd respond. He knew how to say exactly what I needed to hear to...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Sep 3

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    May 18. Don't stop living your life!

    So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationship isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if we're feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response May 18

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    May 25. Loving Ourselves Unconditionally.

    Love yourself into health and a good life of your own. Love yourself into relationships that work for you and the other person. Love yourself into peace, happiness, joy, success, and contentment. Love yourself into all that you always wanted. We can stop treating ourselves...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response May 25

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    I use to be 6 months clean.

    I failed. I'm still cutting......
    SirensInReverse SirensInReverse 13-15, F 3 Responses May 26

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    July 21. Being Is Enough.

    We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it's difficult to have perspective. That's because we have not learned the lesson yet. We are in the midst of it. The gift of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 21

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    Sometimes i just feel like i am drowning

    but i can see everyone else swimming and they are so happy and im not i want to feel loved and wanted but i just feel rejected and not good enough i just need to breathe before i go back and pretend to smile and act like its not a bad day
    Hope6800 Hope6800 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    This exact title. I don't quite know what to do

    or how to cope anymore. All my bf cares about is going out with the lads, god knows what they get up to-I just have to wait up for him . I don't have any friends really and just want to either be on my own or with him. I know how fcked up it sounds but it's true and it's...
    bubbles123xxx bubbles123xxx 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 4

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    Short yet simple experience -- But today,

    I am exactly three months clean of self-injury. I know it might not seem like much, but I am so proud of myself, as selfish as it may sound.
    gh0st13 gh0st13 18-21, F 7 Responses May 26

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    September 9. Perspective.

    Too often, we try to gain a clear perspective before it is time. That will make us crazy. We do not always know why things are happening the way they are. We do not always know how a particular relationship will work out. We do not always understand the source of our feelings...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F a week ago

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    Anyone else feel lonely idk

    but being single gets lonely sometimes
    Obreyn Obreyn 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 7

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    A Lonely Nerd

    I think I am more aware now to the sake of my social isolation. I think it's sinking in, how lonely I am at the end of the day. How my life has been one entire moment of loneliness, of rejection, of alienation. Of never fitting in. It's the end of the day. I'm about to sleep in a...
    GenineFilS GenineFilS 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F 4 Responses Aug 30

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    August 28. Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job.

    It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means we deal with feelings appropriately; we take responsibility for ourselves. We detach, when detachment is called for. We set boundaries, when we need...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Hard to understand others around me

    and what they truly want from me.
    kittyluv78 kittyluv78 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    April 8. Self Care. "I don't precisely know

    what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out." —Beyond Codependency Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed. Many of us have...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 8

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    “I waste at least an hour every day lying in

    bed. Then I waste time pacing. I waste time thinking. I waste time being quiet and not saying anything because I'm afraid I'll stutter.”
    newerebe newerebe 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I am very depressed. I just started seeing a

    counselor last week and will be seeing her every monday for a while. I have no motivation and haven't left bed yet today even though its almost 2 pm. I don't want to eat or drink, I've given up, don't want to take my meds and just want to die. I have no desire to do anything and...
    tig1991 tig1991 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    April 27. Letting Go of the Need to Control.

    "The rewards from detachment are great: serenity; a deep sense of peace; the ability to give and receive love in self-enhancing, energizing ways, and the freedom to find real solutions to our problems." —Codependent No More Letting go of our need to control can set others...
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    August 29. Owning Our Energy.

    "Learn to keep your energy inside." —From Women, Sex, and Addiction, Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel...
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    August 30. Accepting Our Best.

    We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever. Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in another moment, later. We can never do more or better than we are able to do at the moment. We punish ourselves and make...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 30

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    Not all the time but getting more

    and more as days go by.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 15

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