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    August 18. Valuing this Moment.

    "Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day." —Codependent No More This moment, we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 18

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    Sometimes i just feel like i am drowning

    but i can see everyone else swimming and they are so happy and im not i want to feel loved and wanted but i just feel rejected and not good enough i just need to breathe before i go back and pretend to smile and act like its not a bad day
    Hope6800 Hope6800 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    May 9. Learning New Behaviors.

    Sometimes we'll take a few steps backward. That's okay too. Sometimes it's necessary. Sometimes it's part of going forward. —Codependent No More Life is a Gentle Teacher. She wants to help us learn. The lessons she wants to teach us are the ones we need to learn. Some say...
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    August 8. Saying Yes.

    Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes. We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves. We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 8

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    I have no one close to me

    or there for me I am alone I am in bed everyday I am by myself I am sad I want love and happiness
    savstrickland savstrickland 16-17, F 1 Response May 10

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    bringmeback555 bringmeback555 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 16

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    First the anger, then the sadness,

    then the blankness. What a fun roller coaster ride of emotions ....
    emiveritas emiveritas 18-21, F Aug 18

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    May 18. Don't stop living your life!

    So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationship isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if we're feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response May 18

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    lovebug5524 lovebug5524 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    Someone please help me.

    ..please... I moved to Colorado for college and I am home sick and confused, anxious and depressed. And I tried calling my parents begging to come home and they just yelled at me and told me how much money I am wasting that they think the only reason I want to come home is...
    kodiakh kodiakh 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    April 8. Self Care. "I don't precisely know

    what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out." —Beyond Codependency Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed. Many of us have...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 8

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    I don't know what to do.

    And I don't even know why I'm confused. I'm not sure if I should call it confusion but this overwhelming feeling always comes when I get sad and it's almost like between confusion and insanity. I don't know how to explain it but it feels like I might get swallowed up into a dark...
    JayyPsythe JayyPsythe 13-15, M 2 Responses May 27

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    April 27. Letting Go of the Need to Control.

    "The rewards from detachment are great: serenity; a deep sense of peace; the ability to give and receive love in self-enhancing, energizing ways, and the freedom to find real solutions to our problems." —Codependent No More Letting go of our need to control can set others...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 27

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    August 21. Detaching in Relationships.

    When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching means we don't care. We may believe that by controlling, worrying, and trying to force things to happen, we're showing how much we care. We...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 6 days ago

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    April 26. Negativity.

    Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns. Negative...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 26

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    I'm destroyed! Ill give you an example.

    Imagine a mom and dad putting seeds in the ground to "grow" a beautiful plant. as the plant grows they start to forget about the plant. They forget to water it, talk to it and even give it some sun. The plant still grew but it never blossomed. The leaves are dry. No moisture. No...
    kjonesr kjonesr 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    “I waste at least an hour every day lying in

    bed. Then I waste time pacing. I waste time thinking. I waste time being quiet and not saying anything because I'm afraid I'll stutter.”
    newerebe newerebe 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 27

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    August 16. Rescuing Ourselves.

    No one likes a martyr. How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away. Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 16

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    Please

    Please. You cant stand me, yet I cannot stand to be without you. You think I'm repulsive, I think you are the most beautiful person I've ever known. My interests bore you, your interests enthral me. You are a genius, I'm a disappointment. You're everything and more, I'm nothing...
    butyouweregagginforit butyouweregagginforit 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 22, 2013

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    August 20. Honesty in Relationships.

    We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships and about the parameters of a particular relationship. Perhaps no area of our life reflects our uniqueness and individuality in recovery more than our relationships. Some of us are in a committed relationship...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    June 24. Detachment. Detachment doesn't come

    naturally for many of us. But once we realize the value of this recovery principle, we understand how vital detachment is. The following story illustrates how a woman came to understand detachment. "The first time I practiced detachment was when I let go of my alcoholic husband...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    Not all the time but getting more

    and more as days go by.
    meme111111 meme111111 36-40, M 3 Responses Jun 15

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    So Much Hard To So Much To Ignore In Life......

    I have done my education and now actively searching  to get hook up with appropriate man of my life :) am desperately looking some honest , comitted  man . But , I always get wrong man....I always get hugely dis-honest & insincere man , even though I am always...
    sanasafinaz sanasafinaz 26-30, F 20 Responses Jun 27, 2010

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    August 27. Procrastination.

    Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness of the task that life is telling us it's time to do. We are not always procrastinating when we put off doing something...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 hrs ago

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    my mood swings scare me.

    i can go from being happy to depressed in a matter of seconds.
    1livingstars 1livingstars 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 14

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    August 6. Solving Problems.

    Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." . . . "Why...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 6

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    August 12. Directness.

    Direct people are a joy to be around. We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings. We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    July 21. Being Is Enough.

    We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why. In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it's difficult to have perspective. That's because we have not learned the lesson yet. We are in the midst of it. The gift of...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 21

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    April 16. Letting Things Happen.

    We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, we're learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Apr 16

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    some are hidden by long sleeves

    and baggy sweatshirts, behind bloodshot eyes and stale breath written in light graphite on crinkled sheets in shoe-boxes, therapy sessions and 2 am text messages.
    CaliforniaPsycho CaliforniaPsycho 18-21, F 4 days ago

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    A Lonely Nerd

    I think I am more aware now to the sake of my social isolation. I think it's sinking in, how lonely I am at the end of the day. How my life has been one entire moment of loneliness, of rejection, of alienation. Of never fitting in. It's the end of the day. I'm about to sleep in a...
    GenineFilS GenineFilS 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    My bipolar depression has been getting the best

    of me lately. It's not easy losing your blood family because of standing up for how you feel. Being attacked by my dad with painful words has really not only brought me confusion but extreme sadness. I grew up with my two siblings bullying me, it was mostly my sister but then...
    PinkUnicorn26 PinkUnicorn26 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 24

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    August 15. Leaving Room

    for Feelings. We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 15

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    August 24. Step Eight.

    "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all." —Step Eight of Al-Anon The Eighth Step is not meant to punish us; it is meant to set us free from guilt, anxiety, and discord. We begin by making a list of everyone we have harmed...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 3 days ago

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    July 12. Letting Go of Fear of Abandonment.

    "Where are you, God? Where did you go?" So many people have gone away. We may have felt so alone so much. In the midst of our struggles and lessons, we may wonder if God has gone away too. There are wondrous days when we feel God's protection and presence, leading and guiding...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Jul 12

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    I've been really depressed lately

    and my family has recently been at war and I've tried to stop it and it's stressing me out and then my ex boy friend keeps popping up out of no where and it still hurts me and then my best friends aren't there anymore and my boyfriend and I haven't talked in like a week and all...
    catherineeac catherineeac 13-15, F 1 Response May 4

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    August 22. Responsibility

    for Family Members. "I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me." —Anonymous For some of us, the idea that we were responsible for other people's feelings had its roots in childhood and was...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    August 26. Making Amends.

    "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." —Step Nine of Al-Anon When we make amends we need to be clear about what we're apologizing for and the best way to say we're sorry. What we are really doing with our...
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    August 23. Self Care.

    "When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves." —Beyond Codependency The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 4 days ago

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    August 13. Friends. Don't overlook the value

    of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 13

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    I use to be 6 months clean.

    I failed. I'm still cutting......
    SirensInReverse SirensInReverse 13-15, F 3 Responses May 26

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    March 17. Empowering.

    You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself. Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice. How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves. When someone tells us about a...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Mar 17

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    August 17. Healing Thoughts.

    Think healing thoughts. When you feel anger or resentment, ask God to help you feel it, learn from it, and then release it. Ask Him to bless those who you feel anger toward. Ask Him to bless you too. When you feel fear, ask Him to take it from you. When you feel misery, force...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Short yet simple experience -- But today,

    I am exactly three months clean of self-injury. I know it might not seem like much, but I am so proud of myself, as selfish as it may sound.
    gh0st13 gh0st13 18-21, F 8 Responses May 26

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    August 9. Asking for What We Need.

    Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it. Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 9

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    August 7. Saying No. For many of us,

    the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No. No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 7

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    August 25. Willing to Make Amends.

    The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing change. This attitude can begin a great chain of repair and healing in our relationships with others and ourselves. It means we become willing to let go of our hard heartedness - one of the greatest blocks to our...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 days ago

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    August 5. Attitudes Toward Money.

    Sometimes, our life and history may be so full of pain that we think it totally unfair that we have to grow up now and be financially responsible for ourselves. The feeling is understandable; the attitude is not healthy. Many people in recovery may believe that certain people...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 5

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    http://www.ustream.tv/channel/here-for-anyone-whos-depressed-or-anxious I want to start making livestreams where I can try and inspire people or assure then everything is going to be okay... I don't want to do one right away because obviously nobody would view it but if a...
    CheeseBomb500 CheeseBomb500 13-15, M Aug 5

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    August 10. Letting Go of Perfection.

    "As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies — laughing at myself for my ways — gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that's really what it's all about — absolute loving...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 11

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    Anyone else feel lonely idk

    but being single gets lonely sometimes
    Obreyn Obreyn 22-25, M 2 Responses Jun 7

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    August 14. Owning Our Power.

    Many of us have someone in our life that challenges our ability to trust and care for ourselves. When we hear that person's voice or are in his or her presence, we may forget all we know about what is real, about how to own our power, about how to be direct, about what we know...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Aug 14

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    I need healing.. Nothing ever goes "right"

    for too long. Im always caught up in the struggle with no one to lean on. I have inconsiderate friends who think of me last; family too. Its just all getting real to me; no one cares - never did.
    epipfhani epipfhani 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 4

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