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I Am Considering An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,617 People

    Extremely Wanting....

    I have been married for almost 2 years. My husband is a wonderful, caring man. The thing is, obvious drum roll, please...... our sex life. It is way too infrequent. I am a very sexual person and have an urging appetite for sweaty, hot, passionate, animalistic straight...
    sizzzlin69 sizzzlin69 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 10, 2013

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    i have affair with my friends wife vinny .

    she is beautyfull .she have two sons age 10 and 12 . I have **** her lot of times . i like to do with her .
    ravikuma ravikuma 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    I Fantasize....

    I fantasize about having an affair, but deep down don't think I could go through with it. I have been with the same man and only him for almost 18 yrs. It would be scary and strange, but then there is that part of me that would love excitement and to feel alive again. I fantasize...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    yes i am considering an affair,

    it feels bad...but i am dead inside i cant remember the last time i was truly happy. my SO and i feel like we'r stuck in a routine that just never ends day after day nothing changes. I am alone 90% of the time i'm lonely and i'm sad, the thought of being with someone new the...
    LatinaGirl95 LatinaGirl95 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 27, 2014

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    I wonder: when ppl consider an affair,

    do they also consider their oftentimes deadly consequences?
    Terrain12 Terrain12 31-35, F 8 Responses Oct 26, 2014

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    I have always been a proponent of flirting

    and smiling in day to day life. But as I still make mistakes I never noticed the signs back at me. Well I have. I noticed 2 weeks ago with another contract ee on an assignment. Gentle rub against me. Smiles. Hummm. So I made myself available and we went out 2x to have drinks...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M Jul 26, 2014

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    Looking

    Every guy, I look at now is someone I quickly assess whether they tick all my boxes for a potential affair.
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Aug 14, 2013

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    Restless

    Let me start by saying, I'm not sure if I'm considering an affair but I am definitely fantasizing about one. And I guess I don't even really have a reason to be doing that. I'm not abused and my husband doesn't withhold sex from me but....I just want a little a spice, a little...
    sweetgirlshel sweetgirlshel 31-35, F 13 Responses Feb 21, 2013

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    So she and I have been talking

    for over three years, friends for eight, we're both married and she has not made it easy for me. It's helped because we've gotten really close, but there's no sex, and the contact is slim at best. We talk nonstop, but touching and kissing is another story. I'm crazy about her...
    whycantibesaved whycantibesaved 31-35, M 3 Responses Dec 18, 2014

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    The Game Play, play the game tonight Can

    you tell me if it's wrong or right Is it worth the time, is it worth the price Do you see yourself in the white spotlight Then play the game tonight - Kansas, Play the Game Tonight As Patrick sat in his counselor’s office she asked him, “Patrick, do you ever think of...
    BradBL BradBL 51-55, M Jul 10, 2014

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    Human Nature, Our Society And Marriage

    I am a happily married man with children in my 40s.Today I am here to discuss what I came to believe with my life experience and others around me. Marriage is a wonderful thing that our society invented to mainly protect our children and have a life long companion, someone to...
    hyrok40 hyrok40 36-40, M 22 Responses Dec 13, 2012

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    Im lost and alone, I need to know there is

    someone out there that's wants me as much as I want them. Any ladies interested?
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Nov 25, 2014

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    Sincerely, Torn

    I don't really know where to start... and that's because I can't really pinpoint when my life started to travel down the path that I'm on right now. It feels like a blur, like it hasn't really happened but at the same time this has always been destined to end the way it has. I...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 7 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    I had an affair a few years ago

    and it was wonderful. I feel my wife is more of a roommate than anything. The emotional connection as well as intimacy aspect is pretty much gone. I think I'd be very tempted again if the opportunity presented itself. There have been times it could have happened, but I resisted...
    Floridapalm Floridapalm 36-40, M 11 Responses Oct 19, 2014

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    Is This The End?

    I am a 50 year old married woman withering on the vine.  My husband is a good man but has serious health issues.  We have small children and I would never consider leaving him.  I feel like I'm losing my mind.  We haven't had sex in several years and I...
    Olivia713 Olivia713 51-55, F 96 Responses Jul 17, 2010

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    Why Did I Get Married?

    I miss my single days. Not the parties and clubs or the guys I've had but I just miss the freedom. Im married to a guy who doesn't think i would ever divorce him. So he doesn't give his all in this marriage because he thinks I'll always be here. I'll always put up with his sh*it...
    likeaprayerxo likeaprayerxo 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    Why Communication Is A Joke

    When it comes to problems, and romantic problems especially, people are always coming forward with "You need to communicate". What does that mean? I need to take my spouse and sit them down and verbally outline what they already know? Human beings communicate in a wide range of...
    LGVictorian LGVictorian 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 25, 2013

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    I never thought I’d be the kind of girl to

    cheat on my long-term boyfriend let alone with a married man but, it happened and I can’t take it back. Part of me still feels guilty and yet I would not have done anything differently. I was with my former boyfriend for nearly 9 years and they were an amazing 9 years. We...
    catchfish catchfish 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    The Look...

    There is no doubt. She wants me to be bold. She wants me to push through her defenses... she stands close to me, twirls her hair, laughs a little to long and hard at my jokes, beams her smile at me and holds our hug a little too long. I, of course, reciprocate. Buzzing around her...
    MattB765 MattB765 46-50, M 3 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    i haven't been with my wife in over a year,

    she moved out last febuary and hadn't slept with me since the october before. i still care for her and have been trying to work things out. but i am losing hope and feeling the need to share physical contact with someone.
    caer caer 31-35, M 5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

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    I've Been Cheated On So I ...

    I've been cheated on So I wouldnt want to put someone else though that
    dawnmarie dawnmarie 18-21, F 10 Responses Jan 23, 2007

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    I Just Want to Be Lois Lane

    for a While I am, I am, I am Superman and I know what’s happening. I am, I am, I am Superman and I can do anything. - Superman, REM I interviewed Angela over a cup of coffee one morning. She represents so many women today who are overworked, over-committed and over...
    BradBL BradBL 51-55, M Jul 25, 2014

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    So the guy at my work is

    so hot! Everyday i see him, today he came over to my desk to borrow some hand sanitizer and he rubbed my back... Yesterday he stood next to me and i rubbed his legs his pants felt good. The day before he kissed me goodbye. Umm i love it. I miss him now
    jdamselfly jdamselfly 36-40, F 6 Responses May 1

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    I'm scared. Terrified,

    actually, because of what could happen if I'm caught. I love my children, but I have needs that simply are not being met by my wife. She has made it clear that she has no intention to meet those needs. I'm not asking for anything unusual, just normal sex, but there's no...
    zaaphod zaaphod 46-50, M 5 Responses Jan 20, 2014

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    Permission

    So, my husband gave my permission to sleep with other men! Crazy huh? I guess he doesn't want me to nag him about giving me sex anymore (although I stopped doing that a while ago). His rules are: don't tell him about it, always use protection, don't get pregnant, and no one...
    Lillith13 Lillith13 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

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    I'm 45, natural breasts,

    have an extremely high sex drive. I've nursed all three of my children and found it to be euphoric. I am past wanting to have more children but I want that swollen feeling and the bonding and knowing that someone craves my milk. I am single, have a fairly busy schedule, but...
    LisaMarieMilk LisaMarieMilk 41-45, F 8 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've been married almost 2 years.

    We have a toddler and 1 step child. I am the breadwinner, and have been okay with this, but we always make financial decisions together. My husband became a SAHD based on the financial feasibility until about 3 months ago. He is now working at night 4 days a week, which...
    Help7889 Help7889 36-40 7 Responses Jun 23, 2014

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    It's been over ten years

    since we started dating, and he was my first 'real' boyfriend, first love, first everything. We broke up when we were around 20 and I'm 28 now. He tried getting in touch with my through social media, saying he still thinks about me everyday and I declined to respond. Either...
    avprobeauty avprobeauty 26-30, F 5 Responses Jul 25, 2014

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 14

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    home alone tonight I am gana be happy without

    the wife wish I had someone to b happy with tonight
    dgvb2448 dgvb2448 26-30, M 1 Response Jun 11

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    It isn't like it hasn't been contemplated

    before. But now it seems so tangible and somewhat urgent. I don't understand why I feel the need. I don't want to be separated nor do I want to change life partners. I just want to feel that feeling that happens the first time someone your attracted to brushes your arm, or...
    friend21us friend21us 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 2, 2014

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    It's a very complicated situation really.

    ..we are both married, both have children and we don't want to hurt our families.... The problem is we are each other's first loves-soul mates! I know that doesn't make it right, but the feelings and connection between us is just too strong to ignore!
    curioussoutherngirl38 curioussoutherngirl38 36-40, F 3 Responses Jun 7

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    To My Dearest Husband

    To My Dearest Husband,              ( just a note to say have found the guy think i would like to have the affair with but i am searching my soul to see if i want    to do what i am contemplating.)   You have put up with a lot off me in the past months and I am...
    Kountrymist Kountrymist 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 7, 2011

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    She's 27 I work with her.

    We have been constantly flirting and have come close to doing it. I find myself ******* myself for her often and she told me she did the same for me. I am considering renting out a motel room soon what do you think.
    lonelyhusband25 lonelyhusband25 41-45, M 6 Responses May 7

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    Now What?

    I share in the all-too-common story, I guess.  Mid 50's, Married to one woman since 25.  Grown kids.  Faithful.  Good job with a good income.  Lucky enough to share in traveling a great deal.  My wife has struggled with depression for some time and I've been there for her...
    maddubh maddubh 56-60, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2011

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    Reading The Temperature: Warmth Of Familiarity Versus Heat Of Passion

    There's a chill in the air today.  I felt it as soon as I stepped outside to head to the coffee shop to meet my friend.  I was glad I had my coat.  I'd not really needed it two weeks ago in Manhattan, when I met my gentleman friend under the flowering trees.  But spring...
    milkynips milkynips 46-50, F Apr 17, 2012

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    It Has Taken Me Some Time To Get To This Point And I Am Not Really Sure What To Do

    I need to explain: I was married at 15 to someone 25 yrs older - My parents thought he would be a calming effect - My husband was an individual who taught me that life was to be celebrated and esperienced - We had a very active, exciting, and varied sex lfe - We had a close...
    CRAZYABBY CRAZYABBY 41-45, F 31 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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    So Happy To Find Others Like Me

    Like so many of you im in a sexless marriage. We've been together for 13 years and have a young child. I don't want to divorce but I dont want to spend too many more years like this. It happened gradually but it has now been 1 year since we've had sex. I need a person to kiss...
    lonelyinsf lonelyinsf 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    I love sucking on big ample boobs any real

    busty ladies with a personality n don't rip pics of the net and bit scared to show there face let's chat uk based plz
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M Dec 25, 2014

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    Hey there! I'm a 22 year old guy,

    I live in holland work in germany, any ladies looking to chat? :)
    mowyn mowyn 22-25, M May 14

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    Throughout most of my adult life,

    one of my greatest fantasies has been to be the “other man” to a married woman. I find the thought of it to be so arousing; to be the person in her life that she turns too when her job or marriage are not going in the way that she had hoped. That when her husband, bosses, or...
    JQuest75 JQuest75 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 5

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    I have been with my wife

    for 14 years. I love her very much but there is no intimacy in our relationship anymore. I believe she has had a lifelong battle with depression that was concealed during the exciting first couple of years together. As time went on her depression and anxiety were more and more...
    NewAmbitions NewAmbitions 41-45, M Dec 9, 2014

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    Guilt < pleasure? A question

    for those who feel conflicted but have gone through with it. And are past the infatuation. And now living with a continued balance of spouse and lover. How does your mind handle... having a piece of something your spouse cant/won't engage you with. You see your AP; share an...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 16, 2014

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    ****I honestly have no idea about what this

    site is. In fact. I just googled "an older man is interested in me" and found myself here, so please forgive me if I use it wrong. I am in desperate need of advice.****I am 17 years old, but mature for my age (I think). And I have been flirting with my 40-something-married-with...
    kindofpretentious kindofpretentious 18-21, F 9 Responses May 7, 2014

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    Why Im Considering An Affair!

    I love my husband I really do but he doesn't really pays attention to me ,he gets home takes a shower and to the sofa ,I cloud be naked he doesn't even look at me...I guess he doesn't see me as woman anymore but just the mother of his kids!
    Bella0906 Bella0906 26-30, F 82 Responses May 29, 2012

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    dgvb2448 dgvb2448 26-30, M 2 Responses Jun 12

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