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I Am Considering An Affair

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    So she and I have been talking

    for over three years, friends for eight, we're both married and she has not made it easy for me. It's helped because we've gotten really close, but there's no sex, and the contact is slim at best. We talk nonstop, but touching and kissing is another story. I'm crazy about her...
    whycantibesaved whycantibesaved 31-35, M 1 Response Dec 18

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    TheTypewriter TheTypewriter 13-15, M 1 Response Sep 2

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    What To Do

    Little background: I've been with my husband for a total of 17 years. He is my best friend and I love him with all my heart. We have had our ups & downs but have I think a pretty strong marriage. Anyway back in July/Aug time frame I was having a lot of problems at work dealing...
    iamashley iamashley 26-30, F 19 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    Free at Last Well, your faith was strong

    but you needed proof You saw her bathing on the roof Her beauty and the moonlight overthrew ya And she tied you to the kitchen chair She broke your throne and cut your hair And from your lips she drew, “Hallelujah” Hallelujah, Hallelujah Hallelujah, Hallelujah - K.D...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Jan 7

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    It isn't like it hasn't been contemplated

    before. But now it seems so tangible and somewhat urgent. I don't understand why I feel the need. I don't want to be separated nor do I want to change life partners. I just want to feel that feeling that happens the first time someone your attracted to brushes your arm, or...
    friend21us friend21us 51-55, M 2 Responses Sep 2

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    I have had a few in the past

    and am thinking about giving it another go. The thrill of afternoon rendezvous is almost too much to handle.
    jay72007 jay72007 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 8

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    Why Did I Get Married?

    I miss my single days. Not the parties and clubs or the guys I've had but I just miss the freedom. Im married to a guy who doesn't think i would ever divorce him. So he doesn't give his all in this marriage because he thinks I'll always be here. I'll always put up with his sh*it...
    likeaprayerxo likeaprayerxo 31-35, F 7 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    I've been married almost 2 years.

    We have a toddler and 1 step child. I am the breadwinner, and have been okay with this, but we always make financial decisions together. My husband became a SAHD based on the financial feasibility until about 3 months ago. He is now working at night 4 days a week, which...
    Help7889 Help7889 36-40 8 Responses Jun 23

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    Write more about this experience (optionaI I

    want to find a woman who like me is unsatisfied at home.I want to give her oral until she is moaning in pleasure
    Kylookin4fun Kylookin4fun 56-60, M 1 Response Feb 21

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    The Thoughts There Anyway...

    In pretty much every other area of my life I'm in control and don't have temptations or addictions but not having any intimacy is simply driving me crazy. In some ways I understand her reluctance (painful or she's ill) but in other ways I don't get it. Affection has kind of...
    CrowdOfOne CrowdOfOne 46-50, M 5 Responses Jul 17, 2013

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    I wonder: when ppl consider an affair,

    do they also consider their oftentimes deadly consequences?
    Terrain12 Terrain12 31-35, F 9 Responses Oct 26

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    Help Please

    I'm married to a crazy control freak an I came to ep for help; in the marriage groups an I did an durning all this I met a wonderful man on here that's nothing like my husband he makes me feel good. About myself which my husband never does an this guy has also been like this...
    Hillary1160 Hillary1160 36-40, F 33 Responses Sep 28, 2012

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    Why Im Considering An Affair!

    I love my husband I really do but he doesn't really pays attention to me ,he gets home takes a shower and to the sofa ,I cloud be naked he doesn't even look at me...I guess he doesn't see me as woman anymore but just the mother of his kids!
    Bella0906 Bella0906 26-30, F 86 Responses May 29, 2012

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    I have always been a proponent of flirting

    and smiling in day to day life. But as I still make mistakes I never noticed the signs back at me. Well I have. I noticed 2 weeks ago with another contract ee on an assignment. Gentle rub against me. Smiles. Hummm. So I made myself available and we went out 2x to have drinks...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M Jul 26

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    I want sex i have to have it.

    But my wife dont think the same way. I wish i could find someone a fwb so to say to meet with once a week and just spend the hole day have sex , oral sex or what every comes to mine. Right now im open to anything anyone want to help a guy out.
    mtman42 mtman42 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 26, 2013

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    Im lost and alone, I need to know there is

    someone out there that's wants me as much as I want them. Any ladies interested?
    inlandsea inlandsea 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 25

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    I'm contemplating seeking an affair.

    My wife is not interested in sex but I do love her and my children so I feel like if I can just get a little sex on the side that I would be happy again. I'm scared of the guilt I might feel and getting caught.
    jbeamer123789 jbeamer123789 31-35, M 6 Responses Apr 21

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    I had an affair a few years ago

    and it was wonderful. I feel my wife is more of a roommate than anything. The emotional connection as well as intimacy aspect is pretty much gone. I think I'd be very tempted again if the opportunity presented itself. There have been times it could have happened, but I resisted...
    Floridapalm Floridapalm 36-40, M 7 Responses Oct 19

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    Sincerely, Torn

    I don't really know where to start... and that's because I can't really pinpoint when my life started to travel down the path that I'm on right now. It feels like a blur, like it hasn't really happened but at the same time this has always been destined to end the way it has. I...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody 26-30, M 8 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Human Nature, Our Society And Marriage

    I am a happily married man with children in my 40s.Today I am here to discuss what I came to believe with my life experience and others around me. Marriage is a wonderful thing that our society invented to mainly protect our children and have a life long companion, someone to...
    hyrok40 hyrok40 36-40, M 21 Responses Dec 13, 2012

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    I've been in contact with one of my exes

    and she still has a burning flame for me. And my wife absolutely despises sexual contact with me. So I might go for it. If we had a place to meet up and if I were more attracted to her I would have done it already.
    AlbuquerqueJay AlbuquerqueJay 36-40, M 2 Responses Jan 22

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    Nothing Left To Consider...

    It's done. We talked in my car at first, then he asked for a hug and I dont know what happened but we ended up kissing. I was hot. What an incredible kisser he is. His lips on mine were like crack to a fiend. I longed for a kiss like this. As he kissed me I held his face in...
    likeaprayerxo likeaprayerxo 31-35, F 7 Responses Aug 12, 2013

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    Now What?

    I share in the all-too-common story, I guess.  Mid 50's, Married to one woman since 25.  Grown kids.  Faithful.  Good job with a good income.  Lucky enough to share in traveling a great deal.  My wife has struggled with depression for some time and I've been there for her...
    maddubh maddubh 56-60, M 15 Responses Sep 19, 2011

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    Met someone just now.

    saw a bit of her and its a fairy i bet thinking about having an affair with her
    Rahulcute Rahulcute 31-35, M 4 Responses Feb 26

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    yes i am considering an affair,

    it feels bad...but i am dead inside i cant remember the last time i was truly happy. my SO and i feel like we'r stuck in a routine that just never ends day after day nothing changes. I am alone 90% of the time i'm lonely and i'm sad, the thought of being with someone new the...
    LatinaGirl95 LatinaGirl95 18-21, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    Looking

    I have been married for 35 years and have been basically sexless relationship for the last 10+.  I would love to have an affair, but my questions is- why do I find someone to have an affair with?  I work in a small family owned company.  I am overweight, although in the last...
    lonlywife lonlywife 51-55, F 14 Responses May 8, 2012

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    hi.... im not sure if this is the right way to

    think or not.... help me :) im thinking of trying to have a short term sexual affair to boost my sex drive to save my marriage. Is this crazy? the affair must also be married and a mature lady as well. mind is all over the place thinking about it, what are people thoughts...
    sexytime2010 sexytime2010 31-35, M 2 Responses Nov 25

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    Guilt < pleasure? A question

    for those who feel conflicted but have gone through with it. And are past the infatuation. And now living with a continued balance of spouse and lover. How does your mind handle... having a piece of something your spouse cant/won't engage you with. You see your AP; share an...
    frozenhere frozenhere 31-35, M 3 Responses Sep 16

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    San Antonio where are you?

    Not married anymore...
    elfer1971 elfer1971 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 10

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    So I am fairly new to this

    and I travel for business.... what is the best way to find a woman that is willing to have a short term affair with a married man?
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jan 9

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    i haven't been with my wife in over a year,

    she moved out last febuary and hadn't slept with me since the october before. i still care for her and have been trying to work things out. but i am losing hope and feeling the need to share physical contact with someone.
    caer caer 31-35, M 5 Responses Dec 10

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    I Fantasize....

    I fantasize about having an affair, but deep down don't think I could go through with it. I have been with the same man and only him for almost 18 yrs. It would be scary and strange, but then there is that part of me that would love excitement and to feel alive again. I fantasize...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss 36-40, F 46 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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    I love sucking on big ample boobs any real

    busty ladies with a personality n don't rip pics of the net and bit scared to show there face let's chat uk based plz
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72 41-45, M 1 day ago

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    ravikuma ravikuma 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    When Your Spouse Doesn't Desire You...

    Hi Everyone, I am not really sure what I am doing here but I found my way to this group. I am 32 years old and married to a 50 year old for the last ten years. For the last 6-7 years are marriage has been sexless, defined by Wikipedia as having 10 or less episodes of sex per...
    Cscheuze1 Cscheuze1 31-35 6 Responses Nov 25, 2011

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    I have been married for almost 10 years.

    Been with him for nearly 12 years. We have had a very strange and rocky marriage. Major ups and downs. We have really grown in our relationship and the past 3 or so years has been really really good. I love my husband, we get along well, we have two children, we even have a good...
    kbishere kbishere 31-35, F 5 Responses Nov 2

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    There is this girl who i know is very sexually

    active and i really want to have sex with her, she is amazingly beautiful but has a boyfriend and im married, but it feels so right i don't know why, like its supposed to happen
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 16

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    I Don't Feel Guilty

    I've cheated in the past. I don't feel guilty. I love my wife. I love my kids. I love our life. It isn't that it isn't enough. It isn't that I don't try. I feel like a good husband. I contribute in every way that I can, I cook, clean, do laundry, etc. I am affectionate and...
    jhun21 jhun21 46-50, M 8 Responses Nov 29, 2012

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    It's been a while since we have spoken

    and even seen each other, the other day I passed by the work place and he asked me if I would meet him some where and I jokingly said yeah you would get in so much trouble. Lol later that night I was sitting with my friends and he came and whispered in my ear how much he missed...
    Almondjoy2 Almondjoy2 26-30, F 5 Responses Dec 23, 2013

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    It's been over ten years

    since we started dating, and he was my first 'real' boyfriend, first love, first everything. We broke up when we were around 20 and I'm 28 now. He tried getting in touch with my through social media, saying he still thinks about me everyday and I declined to respond. Either...
    avprobeauty avprobeauty 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 25

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    I've been in a relationship

    for 6 years I love my girlfriend and like the thought of the future we have together but one problem went to Vegas for a friends bachelor party and met this very cute girl she really likes me and I can't get her out of my mind I feel like a teenager in high school we keep...
    confusedvegas confusedvegas 26-30, M 13 Responses Feb 25

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    Is This The End?

    I am a 50 year old married woman withering on the vine.  My husband is a good man but has serious health issues.  We have small children and I would never consider leaving him.  I feel like I'm losing my mind.  We haven't had sex in several years and I...
    Olivia713 Olivia713 51-55, F 97 Responses Jul 17, 2010

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    I've Been Cheated On So I ...

    I've been cheated on So I wouldnt want to put someone else though that
    dawnmarie dawnmarie 21-25, F 10 Responses Jan 23, 2007

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    So Happy To Find Others Like Me

    Like so many of you im in a sexless marriage. We've been together for 13 years and have a young child. I don't want to divorce but I dont want to spend too many more years like this. It happened gradually but it has now been 1 year since we've had sex. I need a person to kiss...
    lonelyinsf lonelyinsf 36-40, F 8 Responses Jul 18, 2013

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    I'D Say I'M Considering Starting To Consider It?

    My ethics and my background say no. And I don't want to pull another person into my pain. But I need the physical touch and warmth of someone sweet and beautiful. I think about nothing else.
    justinlimbertake justinlimbertake 46-50, M 4 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    To My Dearest Husband

    To My Dearest Husband,              ( just a note to say have found the guy think i would like to have the affair with but i am searching my soul to see if i want    to do what i am contemplating.)   You have put up with a lot off me in the past months and I am...
    Kountrymist Kountrymist 46-50, F 24 Responses Mar 7, 2011

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    Smiles In the Morning

    It started 2 weeks ago when I first noticed her smiling at me every morning when we'd cross paths on the way into the office.  At first I thought she was just being friendly so I started smiling as well.  The weather here has been drab and cold the last few weeks and I...
    nwobhm nwobhm 41-45, M 7 Responses Feb 10, 2007

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    I'm scared. Terrified,

    actually, because of what could happen if I'm caught. I love my children, but I have needs that simply are not being met by my wife. She has made it clear that she has no intention to meet those needs. I'm not asking for anything unusual, just normal sex, but there's no...
    zaaphod zaaphod 46-50, M 6 Responses Jan 20

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    Leading To This.

    My sexless marriage has led me to consider this action. It should never have gotten this far but I feel broken, beat down and rejected. I cannot continue to let this simple rejection to impact my entire life and my happiness. I need to explore and have fun and maybe start to take...
    JackFlirts JackFlirts 51-55, M 9 Responses May 22, 2013

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    Three Months of Heaven

    for Justin John Kinsella: Is this heaven? Ray Kinsella: It's Iowa. John Kinsella: Iowa? I could have sworn this was heaven. [John starts to walk away] Ray Kinsella: Is there a heaven? John Kinsella: Oh yeah. It's the place where dreams come true. - Field of Dreams On...
    ryanbradley ryanbradley 46-50, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Helping My Wife Out .

    My wife and i quit having sex a few yrs ago, She just quit . She recently met a woman who is very interested in knowing her better. This woman phoned me at work and asked to meet me privately. She wanted to ask my help. She wanted my Ok on her seducing my wife. She knew my wife...
    anthony2001 anthony2001 61-65, M 45 Responses May 12, 2011

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