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I Am Considering An Affair

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 2,520 People

    Throughout most of my adult life,

    one of my greatest fantasies has been to be the “other man” to a married woman. I find the thought of it to be so arousing; to be the person in her life that she turns too when her job or marriage are not going in the way that she had hoped. That when her husband, bosses, or...
    JQuest75 JQuest75
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Feb 5, 2015

    ****I honestly have no idea about what this

    site is. In fact. I just googled "an older man is interested in me" and found myself here, so please forgive me if I use it wrong. I am in desperate need of advice.****I am 17 years old, but mature for my age (I think). And I have been flirting with my 40-something-married-with...
    kindofpretentious kindofpretentious
    18-21, F
    7 Responses May 7, 2014

    I fear my loneliness is gaining momentum.

    I search strangers eyes In hopes of recognition that I am not the only one who feels this way. I was at a painting party this weekend and almost tipped. The instructor told us to frequently back away from our painting to gain a different perspective. The table behind me was...
    HomelessWind HomelessWind
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2015

    So, I posted a while back about considering an

    affair with my first love, we have seen each other several times but not done anything more than kiss. Today, things progressed some and I am not sure how to feel about it. While we didn't have actual intercourse, we did pleasure each other orally. When I got home tonight my...
    curioussoutherngirl38 curioussoutherngirl38
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 8, 2016


    Let me start by saying, I'm not sure if I'm considering an affair but I am definitely fantasizing about one. And I guess I don't even really have a reason to be doing that. I'm not abused and my husband doesn't withhold sex from me but....I just want a little a spice, a little...
    sweetgirlshel sweetgirlshel
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Feb 21, 2013

    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    Friends make better lovers.

    Sex is just one aspect of an affair.
    deleted deleted
    Sep 4, 2015

    I wonder: when ppl consider an affair,

    do they also consider their oftentimes deadly consequences?
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Oct 26, 2014

    I'm contemplating seeking an affair.

    My wife is not interested in sex but I do love her and my children so I feel like if I can just get a little sex on the side that I would be happy again. I'm scared of the guilt I might feel and getting caught.
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Apr 21, 2014

    It's been over ten years

    since we started dating, and he was my first 'real' boyfriend, first love, first everything. We broke up when we were around 20 and I'm 28 now. He tried getting in touch with my through social media, saying he still thinks about me everyday and I declined to respond. Either...
    avprobeauty avprobeauty
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 25, 2014

    To My Dearest Husband

    To My Dearest Husband,              ( just a note to say have found the guy think i would like to have the affair with but i am searching my soul to see if i want    to do what i am contemplating.)   You have put up with a lot off me in the past months and I am...
    Kountrymist Kountrymist
    46-50, F
    21 Responses Mar 7, 2011

    The Look...

    There is no doubt. She wants me to be bold. She wants me to push through her defenses... she stands close to me, twirls her hair, laughs a little to long and hard at my jokes, beams her smile at me and holds our hug a little too long. I, of course, reciprocate. Buzzing around her...
    MattB765 MattB765
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Nov 12, 2013

    I love the way your wife looks at me.

    Past your apathy. Past your indifference. Past your sitting on the couch. Past you. I do love, the way your wife looks at me.
    HomelessWind HomelessWind
    46-50, M
    Oct 14, 2015

    Why Did I Get Married?

    I miss my single days. Not the parties and clubs or the guys I've had but I just miss the freedom. Im married to a guy who doesn't think i would ever divorce him. So he doesn't give his all in this marriage because he thinks I'll always be here. I'll always put up with his sh*it...
    likeaprayerxo likeaprayerxo
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jul 18, 2013

    I have been married for almost 10 years.

    Been with him for nearly 12 years. We have had a very strange and rocky marriage. Major ups and downs. We have really grown in our relationship and the past 3 or so years has been really really good. I love my husband, we get along well, we have two children, we even have a good...
    kbishere kbishere
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Nov 2, 2014

    Is This The End?

    I am a 50 year old married woman withering on the vine.  My husband is a good man but has serious health issues.  We have small children and I would never consider leaving him.  I feel like I'm losing my mind.  We haven't had sex in several years and I...
    Olivia713 Olivia713
    51-55, F
    92 Responses Jul 17, 2010

    Reading The Temperature: Warmth Of Familiarity Versus Heat Of Passion

    There's a chill in the air today.  I felt it as soon as I stepped outside to head to the coffee shop to meet my friend.  I was glad I had my coat.  I'd not really needed it two weeks ago in Manhattan, when I met my gentleman friend under the flowering trees.  But spring...
    milkynips milkynips
    46-50, F
    Apr 17, 2012

    home alone tonight I am gana be happy without

    the wife wish I had someone to b happy with tonight
    dgvb2448 dgvb2448
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jun 11, 2015

    Why Im Considering An Affair!

    I love my husband I really do but he doesn't really pays attention to me ,he gets home takes a shower and to the sofa ,I cloud be naked he doesn't even look at me...I guess he doesn't see me as woman anymore but just the mother of his kids!
    Bella0906 Bella0906
    26-30, F
    73 Responses May 29, 2012

    Im lost and alone, I need to know there is

    someone out there that's wants me as much as I want them. Any ladies interested?
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Nov 25, 2014

    Extremely Wanting....

    I have been married for almost 2 years. My husband is a wonderful, caring man. The thing is, obvious drum roll, please...... our sex life. It is way too infrequent. I am a very sexual person and have an urging appetite for sweaty, hot, passionate, animalistic straight...
    sizzzlin69 sizzzlin69
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 10, 2013

    yes i am considering an affair,

    it feels bad...but i am dead inside i cant remember the last time i was truly happy. my SO and i feel like we'r stuck in a routine that just never ends day after day nothing changes. I am alone 90% of the time i'm lonely and i'm sad, the thought of being with someone new the...
    LatinaGirl95 LatinaGirl95
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 27, 2014

    I don't know how to go about this-I just posted

    a story which I thought was benign. Ugh. Life is the pits.
    Bfinally Bfinally
    51-55, M
    Mar 31, 2015

    Human Nature, Our Society And Marriage

    I am a happily married man with children in my 40s.Today I am here to discuss what I came to believe with my life experience and others around me. Marriage is a wonderful thing that our society invented to mainly protect our children and have a life long companion, someone to...
    hyrok40 hyrok40
    36-40, M
    18 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    I'D Say I'M Considering Starting To Consider It?

    My ethics and my background say no. And I don't want to pull another person into my pain. But I need the physical touch and warmth of someone sweet and beautiful. I think about nothing else.
    justinlimbertake justinlimbertake
    46-50, M
    5 Responses Apr 10, 2013

    i haven't been with my wife in over a year,

    she moved out last febuary and hadn't slept with me since the october before. i still care for her and have been trying to work things out. but i am losing hope and feeling the need to share physical contact with someone.
    caer caer
    36-40, M
    5 Responses Dec 10, 2014

    Helping My Wife Out .

    My wife and i quit having sex a few yrs ago, She just quit . She recently met a woman who is very interested in knowing her better. This woman phoned me at work and asked to meet me privately. She wanted to ask my help. She wanted my Ok on her seducing my wife. She knew my wife...
    deleted deleted
    27 Responses May 12, 2011

    I have been with my wife

    for 14 years. I love her very much but there is no intimacy in our relationship anymore. I believe she has had a lifelong battle with depression that was concealed during the exciting first couple of years together. As time went on her depression and anxiety were more and more...
    NewAmbitions NewAmbitions
    41-45, M
    Dec 9, 2014

    So Happy To Find Others Like Me

    Like so many of you im in a sexless marriage. We've been together for 13 years and have a young child. I don't want to divorce but I dont want to spend too many more years like this. It happened gradually but it has now been 1 year since we've had sex. I need a person to kiss...
    lonelyinsf lonelyinsf
    36-40, F
    10 Responses Jul 18, 2013

    I love sucking on big ample boobs any real

    busty ladies with a personality n don't rip pics of the net and bit scared to show there face let's chat uk based plz
    TeddyboyUK72 TeddyboyUK72
    41-45, M
    Dec 25, 2014

    It isn't like it hasn't been contemplated

    before. But now it seems so tangible and somewhat urgent. I don't understand why I feel the need. I don't want to be separated nor do I want to change life partners. I just want to feel that feeling that happens the first time someone your attracted to brushes your arm, or...
    friend21us friend21us
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Sep 2, 2014

    I never thought I’d be the kind of girl to

    cheat on my long-term boyfriend let alone with a married man but, it happened and I can’t take it back. Part of me still feels guilty and yet I would not have done anything differently. I was with my former boyfriend for nearly 9 years and they were an amazing 9 years. We...
    catchfish catchfish
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 9, 2014

    I'm scared. Terrified,

    actually, because of what could happen if I'm caught. I love my children, but I have needs that simply are not being met by my wife. She has made it clear that she has no intention to meet those needs. I'm not asking for anything unusual, just normal sex, but there's no...
    zaaphod zaaphod
    51-55, M
    4 Responses Jan 20, 2014

    hi.... im not sure if this is the right way to

    think or not.... help me :) im thinking of trying to have a short term sexual affair to boost my sex drive to save my marriage. Is this crazy? the affair must also be married and a mature lady as well. mind is all over the place thinking about it, what are people thoughts...
    sexytime2010 sexytime2010
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Nov 25, 2014


    Every guy, I look at now is someone I quickly assess whether they tick all my boxes for a potential affair.
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Aug 14, 2013

    Now What?

    I share in the all-too-common story, I guess.  Mid 50's, Married to one woman since 25.  Grown kids.  Faithful.  Good job with a good income.  Lucky enough to share in traveling a great deal.  My wife has struggled with depression for some time and I've been there for her...
    maddubh maddubh
    56-60, M
    15 Responses Sep 19, 2011

    So the guy at my work is

    so hot! Everyday i see him, today he came over to my desk to borrow some hand sanitizer and he rubbed my back... Yesterday he stood next to me and i rubbed his legs his pants felt good. The day before he kissed me goodbye. Umm i love it. I miss him now
    jdamselfly jdamselfly
    36-40, F
    7 Responses May 1, 2015

    It Has Taken Me Some Time To Get To This Point And I Am Not Really Sure What To Do

    I need to explain: I was married at 15 to someone 25 yrs older - My parents thought he would be a calming effect - My husband was an individual who taught me that life was to be celebrated and esperienced - We had a very active, exciting, and varied sex lfe - We had a close...
    41-45, F
    27 Responses Feb 9, 2013

    It's a very complicated situation really.

    ..we are both married, both have children and we don't want to hurt our families.... The problem is we are each other's first loves-soul mates! I know that doesn't make it right, but the feelings and connection between us is just too strong to ignore!
    curioussoutherngirl38 curioussoutherngirl38
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jun 7, 2015
    dgvb2448 dgvb2448
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jun 12, 2015

    I had an affair a few years ago

    and it was wonderful. I feel my wife is more of a roommate than anything. The emotional connection as well as intimacy aspect is pretty much gone. I think I'd be very tempted again if the opportunity presented itself. There have been times it could have happened, but I resisted...
    Floridapalm Floridapalm
    41-45, M
    7 Responses Oct 19, 2014

    Sincerely, Torn

    I don't really know where to start... and that's because I can't really pinpoint when my life started to travel down the path that I'm on right now. It feels like a blur, like it hasn't really happened but at the same time this has always been destined to end the way it has. I...
    youareasoulyouhaveabody youareasoulyouhaveabody
    31-35, M
    7 Responses Sep 24, 2013

    So she and I have been talking

    for over three years, friends for eight, we're both married and she has not made it easy for me. It's helped because we've gotten really close, but there's no sex, and the contact is slim at best. We talk nonstop, but touching and kissing is another story. I'm crazy about her...
    whycantibesaved whycantibesaved
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Dec 18, 2014

    I Fantasize....

    I fantasize about having an affair, but deep down don't think I could go through with it. I have been with the same man and only him for almost 18 yrs. It would be scary and strange, but then there is that part of me that would love excitement and to feel alive again. I fantasize...
    blissfulmiss blissfulmiss
    36-40, F
    46 Responses Apr 30, 2012

    She's 27 I work with her.

    We have been constantly flirting and have come close to doing it. I find myself ******* myself for her often and she told me she did the same for me. I am considering renting out a motel room soon what do you think.
    lonelyhusband25 lonelyhusband25
    46-50, M
    5 Responses May 7, 2015

    I'm 45, natural breasts,

    have an extremely high sex drive. I've nursed all three of my children and found it to be euphoric. I am past wanting to have more children but I want that swollen feeling and the bonding and knowing that someone craves my milk. I am single, have a fairly busy schedule, but...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Aug 1, 2015

    i have affair with my friends wife vinny .

    she is beautyfull .she have two sons age 10 and 12 . I have **** her lot of times . i like to do with her .
    ravikuma ravikuma
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jul 13, 2014


    So, my husband gave my permission to sleep with other men! Crazy huh? I guess he doesn't want me to nag him about giving me sex anymore (although I stopped doing that a while ago). His rules are: don't tell him about it, always use protection, don't get pregnant, and no one...
    Lillith13 Lillith13
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jul 17, 2012

    I've Been Cheated On So I ...

    I've been cheated on So I wouldnt want to put someone else though that
    dawnmarie dawnmarie
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Jan 23, 2007

    I've been married almost 2 years.

    We have a toddler and 1 step child. I am the breadwinner, and have been okay with this, but we always make financial decisions together. My husband became a SAHD based on the financial feasibility until about 3 months ago. He is now working at night 4 days a week, which...
    Help7889 Help7889
    7 Responses Jun 23, 2014
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