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I Am Considering Divorce

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 240 People

    I am finally taking the legal steps towards

    this. I'm starting with a separation first but my husband has told me he will fight me all the way... But I'm ready. I can't do this anymore. This will be a long process since he's not in agreement, but I know it needs to be done. Already booked vacation for me & my children...
    Lovinu0429 Lovinu0429 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 2

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    Waiting For The Right Time.

    I have been married for four and a half years. I'm just not happy anymore. For the last year and a half I have been planning my divorce. I'm not exactly sure what I'm going to say to him when this all goes down, but it needs to happen. People should be happy when they're married...
    pepsiangel pepsiangel 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2012

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    Hello everyone, I am really hoping someone can

    offer some kind of insight as I feel very lost right now. My husband and I have had a rough go since we've been together. We started dating when I was 19 and he was 24. He was pretty experienced with relationships, having had several long term relationships and sexual...
    Helix85 Helix85 26-30, F 3 Responses May 23

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    So Tired And So Lost...

    This is a new experience for me. I am so lost. I have given 16 years of my life to someone who I loved with every fiber of my soul. Until I had our first and only child about 4 years ago I never saw what I willingly overlooked. I am not saying we didn't have issues before because...
    BlueMarie BlueMarie 26-30 1 Response Jan 18, 2013

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    ( a poem on what i feel about my almost failing

    relationship). All this time invested.. This long fight..and for what?? The same "good mornings" and the same coffee. The same routine ..the morning the kitchen.. And again we are arguing. There is nothing more to do but destiny my love doesn't...
    paola04414 paola04414 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Late Night Whine

    My husband and I have not always had the best marriage, he did have an affair with my best friend when my twins were two. We went through counseling and over came that and things have been much better since - well until about two years ago. I got a new boss, buried both...
    afreeman afreeman 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 23, 2010

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    Unhappy But Scared....

    I am 27 years old, married, a homeowner, just completed my master's degree, and have a great job with benefits.  I did everything the way I was supposed to, and SURPRISE! I'm not happy.  And most of the unhappiness stems from my unhealthy relationship with...
    quarterlifecrisis quarterlifecrisis 26-30 16 Responses Aug 3, 2009

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    I am new here, and strongly considering divorce.

    ...which if you sadly knew my story you would say why are you there still. I have lowered myself to this person I don't want to be and definitely some one I don't want my 7 year old to look up to. I will next July be married to my husband for 9 years, and I can honestly say if I...
    Serendipity0102 Serendipity0102 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    Hello All, I am new to this site

    and am slowly coming to the end of my rope with my husband. He is verbally and emotionally abusive. I feel emotionally neglected and think that divorce is where I should go. I'm open to share more details but just want to know if there is anyone out there that is reading this...
    hummingbird17 hummingbird17 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 11

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    Suddenly Considering Divorce

     I've had a couple of affairs over the past year.  My husband in no way takes care of my needs in the bedroom and I've voiced my dissatisfaction on numerous occasions but to no avail. I'm finally having my sexual needs taken care of and I have no...
    Fraidekat16 Fraidekat16 26-30, F 15 Responses Feb 7, 2010

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    At My Wit's End.......

    For many years now I really did feel that I was always doing something wrong that didn't jive with my husband's expectations. I know that the umbilical cord was never severed with his parents especially his father. I actually felt that if I would just do as he says that things...
    knightowltutor knightowltutor 41-45 3 Responses Feb 13, 2011

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    I Don't Want It - But I Think He Does

    We've been together for 20 years and over the past couple of weeks, my husband has admitted his "misery" with me.  I feel blindsided - I knew we had some issues.  We've had no sex for awhile (read my stories in the sexless marriage group if you care...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 3, 2009

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    Is He Cheating?

    I've been through this before. His cell is set to silent, he's ignoring calls in front of me, asking about my whereabouts when I was away from him (more than usual). I checked his phone and found missing calls from one number I didn't know all times of day. I didn't feel I could...
    Melody47 Melody47 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Til The Time Is Right

    so our lease is almost up and we have to decide whether or not we want to stay or leave. I don't want to be locked in a contract for another yr, but my credit is shot, I have no money (but I do have income that my husband tries to spend once he runs out), and we just recently got...
    Melody47 Melody47 36-40, F Oct 9, 2013

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    Life Is A Journey

    Been married forever. Have 3 grown kids that have their own lives. Feel trapped now. Been thru him cheating more than once. He is a liar to me. He has stole every piece of jewelry I owned that was worth anything. So help me to get a grip and just leave. His mom says 34 yrs. Is...
    bellamae11 bellamae11 51-55, F 16 Responses Aug 16, 2013

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    When Do You Know?

    I have been with my husband for 9 yrs, married for 7 1/2 yrs.  I have always questioned our relationship, but fell hard and fast for him.  After only dating for 9 months, he asked me to marry him.  I hesitated but said yes.  I married him 9...
    isithimorme isithimorme 31-35, F 13 Responses Dec 2, 2009

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    Unhappy, And Considering A Divorce

    I am male 33yrs old, married with 3 beautiful kids.  My wife is a lovely superb person, but I don't love her the way I used too.  I was afraid of this and now it has come to pass.  We where like any other couple in love before having kids.  When we had our first child things...
    mark1614 mark1614 31-35 2 Responses Oct 11, 2011

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    My husband and I have been married 2 years

    but together 8. Last year he turned 30 and didn’t take it well. A few weeks before his birthday he confided in me that several of the men he golfed with had left his work golf league. It was down to him and one “odd yet funny” Asian woman that worked in his group. He...
    notsureyet1 notsureyet1 26-30, F Nov 11

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    Should I Make A Move?

    This makes the 3rd night that my husband will be sleeping upstairs. He announced recently that he was depressed and wanted to go to New Zealand to take a job for a few months without me. He felt this is what he needed in order to figure out what he wants in life. He is 52 and I...
    justlooking0720 justlooking0720 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Unhappy And Afraid

    I'm 51 and so is my husband. We have been married for 34 yrs. He has a bad back and takes pain pills for it. The problem is he buys the off the street bc he gets threw out of all the drs.offices for abusing his meds. Hes been thru rehab and it didn't work. Or should I say he went...
    bellamae11 bellamae11 51-55, F 25 Responses Aug 15, 2013

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    Its Been On My Mind More Lately

    i have really been considering leaving my husband because of his daughter. she is a constant source of argument between us. she is disrespectful to me, and always has been. she is mean and awful to our other children, they hate her. i feel like if he left me, he would be choosing...
    frustratedmess frustratedmess 26-30 4 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    Please Don't Do It

    Especially if you have kids. My parents (really it was my mom and my stepdad, but he had been raising me since I was two so he was like a second dad) divorced when I was in high school and it was absolute hell to live through. I don't even have the words to convey how hard it was...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 10, 2013

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    I Lost It

    I ****** lost it this morning. The wife and I have always disagreed with the AC in the bedroom. She likes it arctic cold and bundles up in blankets while I prefer something around high 60's and on the economy setting so the AC isn't blasting all night. Well, after another...
    aponymous aponymous 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 6, 2013

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    What a roller coaster.

    Should have gone with my instinct the night before our wedding and called it off. I just filled out the paperwork tonight. I feel foolish we had not even been married a year. I have been so lonely and he so distant. I am sick of reading books and trying to make change when...
    CARGALL CARGALL 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    I Don't Know What To Do

    I married my husband when I was young. I thought I loved him but looking back I think I loved the thought of him. All of my life that is what I wanted...get married, have kids, and have the perfect little family. Well I settled too early. I found the person I truly loved...
    iwannabehis iwannabehis 18-21 3 Responses Nov 24, 2009

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    I caught my husband committing adultery with

    one of his coworkers. You can find out more on my profile about that situation. He recently stayed out all night and we got into a huge argument because of it which resulted in me becoming physical and he left again and hasn't come back. I have blocked him from calling and...
    chan50 chan50 31-35, F Apr 6

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    Last Straw?

    My husband had a recent phone conversation where his son told I'm how he felt about him, calling him a bully and such. Made my husband really upset. I try to rationalize the situation and him and I have a heated argument. My husbands attitude towards this makes him look very ugly...
    Melody47 Melody47 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    Stressed And Don'T Know What To Do

    I have been married for 8 years, and I am extremely depressed,stressed, hurt, and confused.I love my husband,but he doesn't understand that he has hurt me to the core. He lovesme but he has let the loss of his parents and his job consume him so that he hasneglected me for a long...
    sobrokenhearted1 sobrokenhearted1 36-40, F 1 Response Feb 23, 2013

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    Infuriating

    I feel like I could explode. What are you supposed to do when you're married to someone who thinks they are ok, when they are really not? When they need serious counseling. He has had an awful upbringing which would cause anyone to have issues....yet he doesn't see it. He hides...
    TattooedMissez TattooedMissez 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 15, 2011

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    When Is Enough Enough?

    We started dating right when I turned twenty one. We were connected through mutual friends and it seemed like a great idea. We had a lot of differences but he was funny, seemed nice, and even though his job was not impressive I could tell he was trying to overcome circumstances...
    graymissild graymissild 31-35, F Aug 6, 2013

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    But gave up job to be with kids.

    I've tried to find a new job for 12 months without success. At least not one where I can afford to live on my own with 2 kids. I feel like I've given up on life.
    squirrelbounce squirrelbounce 41-45, F 2 Responses May 6

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    3.5 Mth Old Baby- Can Our Marriage Survive?

    My husband and I have been married for close to 2 years and together for 5 years and have known each other since we were 14. We have been arguing on and off since before we actually got married and things are just getting worse and we now have a 3 and a half year old baby. I...
    4everfun 4everfun 26-30, M 1 Response Sep 11, 2013

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    I Am Considering Divorce But We Just Got Married

    I think I made a terrible mistake, I am 31 years old and got married to by boyfriend of 7 years 6 months ago. I am miserable, I feel as though nothing at all in the entire relationship is about me, I feel very very alone all the time. I feel as though we got married because that...
    Jules1313 Jules1313 31-35 2 Responses Feb 18, 2011

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    Unhappily Married

    I live in Atlanta and have been married for 12 or so years. I’m 36 years old and have two sons 9 and 7. I work in Human Resources and am looking to connect with folks in my demographic. I’m really into fitness and run and play tennis on a regular basis. I am no longer in love...
    smyrnavinings smyrnavinings 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 6, 2013

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    Considering For A Long Time.

    My story..... My wife and I have been married for 3.5 years and 10 years in total. She was my first girlfriend and i was hers as well; the only difference was that i dated and tried building relationships. Now to the marriage.... I am ashamed to admit that i am married to an...
    freyn1 freyn1 26-30 6 Responses Jul 13, 2010

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    I'm considering a divorce.

    My husband seems so angry and mean all of the time. He does help out and that's honestly the reason I've probably stuck around. We have one year old twins. Who we needed a great deal of help conceiving. We struggled for a long time but he has an older child from a previous...
    Teach4life09 Teach4life09 26-30, F Jun 23

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    I finally got the courage to tell my husband

    that I wanted a divorce. This man has cheated on me, emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me, he put his job in front of me, and quite frankly has never been a good husband. Despite all that I stayed with him for over a decade. I've tried faking like this marriage was...
    futureexwife14 futureexwife14 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    I Need Your Enlightenment

    I have been married for two years now and I have a one-year-old baby.I had doubts about him even before marriage but I don't know how did I convince myself to go through this uncertain experience.anyway since the first day of our marriage I realized that my doubts were in there...
    peacechaser peacechaser 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 4, 2011

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    He called me the c word tonight(I can't

    even type the word, it's that offensive to me). We fight almost daily, which is ridiculous considering he works 12 hours a day. Which I'm sure is part of the problem. I know he's exhausted when he gets home, but I am too after taking care of 3 kids all day. He has always...
    beth0511 beth0511 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 1

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    I feel like divorce would be the best option

    for my happiness but I know I wouldn't see my two girls every day and that would break my heart. I don't feel like our marriage is too far from being saved but she doesn't seem interested in trying to save it. I don't think I'm asking for much. I just want a little love and...
    jbeamer123789 jbeamer123789 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 21

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    Wish I Could Just Go...

    I just can't quite get to the point of saying "I'm outta here." I guess I'm a coward on some level. I also know he'll be hurt because he's clueless - no matter how many times I try to get him to talk about the problems he just shuts down. Then immediately forgets all about it...
    Solidad42 Solidad42 41-45, F 5 Responses Aug 6, 2011

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    Fed Up

    I have written before about my husband who can't seem to give up **** for the sake of his marriage. He won't have a conversation with me about it and continues to be in denial. We have not had sex in almost a year. Think he misses it? Naaa.... He's got ****! Meanwhile, I am...
    Namaste1 Namaste1 46-50, F 4 Responses Mar 19, 2013

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    Confused!!

    I have never done anything like this before (share my story) not even with my family. My husband and I have been together for 12 yrs and married for 10, the last 5 have been pretty rough. When we first met, my husband was very sweet, considerate, and loved to talk. Me on the...
    ceejee23 ceejee23 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    Should I Stay For The Kids?

    I've been married a number of years and have three beautiful kids. Our marriage seemed 'above average' until one day a few years ago I made some discoveries that my spouse had, unknown to me, done some very bad things for a long period of time. There was far more than enough...
    SadlyMarried SadlyMarried 41-45 2 Responses Feb 12, 2012

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    The Wife's Therapist

    So, the wife's therapist thinks we should have gotten a divorce.2 years ago. This is the therapist who is supposed to be helping her fix the marriage. Seems to me like the therapist is more suited to help her through the divorce. My wife is such a coward. Just ****** come...
    aponymous aponymous 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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