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I Am Constantly Working On My Marriage

For people, both men and women, who are constantly working on their marital affairs. Tell us your issues, how you plan to fix them, or if you need advice. We're here for you. 95 People

    Lazy Slob Hubby

    my hubby is a landscaper and i am a housewife. my man works hard everyday and trust me i dont envy the work he does. it can be brutal. he comes home all cut up and bruised from work. and i aknowledge that my job isnt near as hard as his is. so thats why i dont mind cleaning the...
    susie2375 susie2375 36-40 Dec 1, 2012

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    Im married and I think its time to call it.

    Things have been getting really bad between us for like a year now, he has stopped trying which is really noticeable because he was terrible in the beginning. He's always picking up on my flaws criticizing me making me feel terrible about how i look etc etc. Its even gotten to...
    iwanttoknowyourplans iwanttoknowyourplans 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 14

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    Trust Issues

    As my circle of friends here on EP know, my husband and I have trust issues that stemmed from when we were dating. Like I mentioned in other stories, he doesn't trust me because when we were dating, we were friends for a short time (a very short time like 2 months) before we...
    Dimples87 Dimples87 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    My Husband Had An Affair

    My life has become defined by pre-affair and post-affair. Pre the worst pain in my life and post. How did it come to this? I think many people don't realize how painful affairs can be unless they've uncovered one by their spouse. There's no way to explain this pain. The only...
    Jitterbugjellybean Jitterbugjellybean 31-35 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Work Is Right

    I have always worked on my marriage.  In the beginning i was typical of being "new in love"  It has been proven that the body of a person who considers themself in love will make certain chemcial changes.  These chemical changes last for 12 to 18 months. ...
    gettinsum1 gettinsum1 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 9, 2010

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    Is It Possible To Not Know How To Interact With People?

    When I met my husband there were some signs that he was going to be, well the way he is. He constantly talked to his Mom, for hours, had no friends, lived alone, didn't have a close relationship with his extended family. I will take part of the blame for some of our marital...
    serenifly serenifly 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2011

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    Date Night

    He took me out last night. He got off early, picked me up and took me shopping. I did my hair and makeup in the car. He serenaded and treated me like a queen- without manicured nails or a salon status hairstyle. We went and listened to jazz, we walked, went sightseeing, went...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2012

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    I Pray 'lord Marriage Is Such A Big Word,please Define Me As A Married Wife In Christ.

    i ve cheated on my husband durring thee earlier parts of my marriage. at the time i was a chronic alcohol drinker. my husband mike got me the help that i needed ;at the women in recovery program. he paid 800.00 a month for three months. i have no mom,i have no dad.i was raised in...
    rainydayrainbows rainydayrainbows 36-40 2 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    I Married A Child

    My husband seems to intentionally try and make me mad. I have a VERY hard time understanding why. If I ask him to do something, he will say No problem and never do it. If I ask him not to do something, he will do it and laugh in my face when I catch him doing it. The only thing...
    MrsRogers MrsRogers 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2012

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I Feel Like I'm Drowing

    I try and try and try, and then we have a long talk and things are OK (not great or very much better) for about an hour, sometimes up to 2 days. I'm so tired of doing all the work. If I had the money I'd run away for awhile. I know thats awful, but I just want to be away from...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor.

    We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband open up and understand my point of view. Well 30 minutes into our session, I was so close to seriously walking out. She had spent most of the...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    My husband and I have known each other all of

    our lives. Started dating in June 2009, and married in Oct 2010. The first 3 months we dated was great. I was SO happy, but then I caught him in a lie (which to me is forbidden in a relationship). I'm a brutally honest person and expect the same from everyone in my life...
    BarelyHanginOn BarelyHanginOn 46-50, F Jan 2

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    In the past few weeks my wife (FlowersOfPurple)

    and I had our share of arguments. In this EP Link and then this EP Linkjective-Moral-Values/3703615 I described a few different blow-ups we have had. It's a bit early to say for sure, but I think we had the crucial breakthrough last week. I am really hopeful that we finally...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M Dec 9, 2013

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    I'm to Old to Fight Anymore

    For the past 30 years, I have tried to keep my marriage going.  I did everything I could to make my SO happy.  I even turned and looked away at her "little indiscretions" that she's had even thought it was tearing my heart out. Our marriage started out with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 20, 2008

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    Shattered

    My husband is having an affair and keeps telling me that she is just a friend and he is telling her that we are separated. I feel like I my heart has been ripped out of my body and stumped on.
    am1966 am1966 31-35 1 Response Dec 15, 2012

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    I love constantly working on my body to make it better. I usually workout 6 days a week. I love seeing the results from all the hard work. I am in a wheelchair so it's all upper...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 4

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    Many of us here know and understand the daily struggle and pain we endure in a sexless marriage. We come here to read others stories, share our own stories, and if we're lucky, we...
    Paris46 Paris46 46-50, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    What defines a sexless marriage? I have heard people describe it as even having sex but just not often enough or regularly.
    velvetaurora velvetaurora 22-25, F 4 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    I feel like I hate him and I know if I died in this moment I would likely go directly to hell. We have been married for about 7 years, living together for over 8, and met over 12...
    nocturne1980 nocturne1980 31-35 Dec 2

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    Active efforts to work on our marriage are "on-hold" to an extent over the holidays at my wife's insistence, though I struggle to believe good things can come from letting serious...
    WishfulGuy WishfulGuy 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 15

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    I am married to a very depressed, lying conniving person. My life went downhill since meeting my partner. And just to make him happy, I agreed to start a charity with him. It is...
    UnhappyWifeMandy UnhappyWifeMandy 51-55, M 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well I'm not sure where this will end up. But I'm here as a former refuser. One to make some amends and two to tell the truth to all the women who are currently living with a...
    Transgressed Transgressed 46-50, M 5 Responses Dec 10

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    My husband works away for usually just over a month so we kinda have a honeymoon effect when he is home for the first day or so. However it hasn't been the same lately, he isn't...
    BackToTheCoitusSorry BackToTheCoitusSorry 31-35, F 31 Responses Dec 18

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    40 years of a miserable marriage/ I cant afford to leave. I am not working. We have a lot of debt. He causes me so much stress. He has such a temper. Never helps me in the house...
    Maggie1909 Maggie1909 61-65, F Nov 27

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    I'd like to talk to someone about there marriage and why it isn't working and we could talk about other stuff to
    StephyLynnJoe StephyLynnJoe 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 6

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    My lawyer is working on the paper works , I can't wait to leave this crazy sexless marriage
    World4me World4me 26-30, M 4 Responses Dec 16

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    I want to work on my marriage but I had a miscarriage and my husband felt work mattered more.
    leaf90McC leaf90McC 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    we've been having problems...if you read my past experiences you'll be able to see and catch up! so Thursday I tell my husband iv had enough once and for all and I want out. he...
    newstart1315 newstart1315 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I'm feeling very hopeless and depressed lately. Particularly today. At this point my psychology is so ****** up as a result of my husband never wanting me and being such an angry...
    myownproblem13 myownproblem13 36-40, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    My wife had an affair just over two years ago, and whilst learning about it then dealing through the issues was hard, our relationship is so much better now! We both learnt a lot...
    MrSuitGuy MrSuitGuy 31-35 14 hrs ago

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    10yeargap.com focuses on younger women dating older men and it encourages age gap marriage. 10YearGap.com is not a sugar daddy site. Single women are attracted to older single men...
    JessieFay JessieFay 31-35, F Dec 2

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    Hi everyone, I guess I'm a refuser, and I found this forum because my partner has told me about how she's been reading these postings for solidarity. She says that when I touch...
    badger2blue badger2blue 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 7

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    I am exhausted. Constant vigilance over the past year. Always worried about what are the next steps and what I'm coming home to after a long day of work. Constantly being put down...
    deepbreathneeded deepbreathneeded 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 18

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    My wife expects me to pay all the household bills, which I do even though she has a job all her salary goes on make up and designer clothes for herself. She makes me take her...
    MarriedAndFedUp MarriedAndFedUp 36-40, M 2 days ago

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    I don't know where to start this off, but I'll just first say that I can't do anything remarkable. I'm not special. I'm not good at anything. I'm just ordinary. I try so hard to...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F Dec 14

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    I have been married 21 years in December. My husband came to me in September and said he no longer has feelings for me. That he loves me and does not want me hurt, but does not...
    surfergirl2009 surfergirl2009 36-40, F Nov 29

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    There comes a point where you are just two separate people, living in one place. When that time comes everything changes. The way you view that person changes, they become ugly...
    SmilesAwaitYou SmilesAwaitYou 31-35, F 8 Responses Dec 10

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    And then I am reminded of why this is not working out. I am oddly grateful for these moments, because even though he has very brief moments of clarity and honesty it is good to...
    SmilesAwaitYou SmilesAwaitYou 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 14

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    Daily it seems I see the same post...someone stating they live in a sexless marriage. Sometimes I respond and offer advice though it feels like I'm just adding my voice to the many...
    RLB2 RLB2 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 18

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    It's been a year since I last posted. I had an online affair with a woman I met on EP. I fell in love with her. My wife found out and I broke it off. I haven't spoken to her in a...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 6 Responses Nov 28

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    I've been in a sexless marriage for just over 16 years. In that time I've been through the counseling sessions, countless fights, nights on the couch, online trysts, real life near...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 2 Responses Dec 1

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    Okay, so this me wanting to vent about some stuff. I don't expect anyone to have sympathy for my small problems. I am afraid of having to work. Sue me. I am about to finish my the...
    PeterPalmer PeterPalmer 22-25, M 2 Responses Dec 3

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    It's been a long time since I wrote: If you have read my previous articles then you already have the background or a lot of it. If not my situation is as follows: I have been...
    TheLionGod TheLionGod 36-40, M 2 Responses Dec 18

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    Don't ever think you're completely secure in a relationship. I say this because you can't know another persons mind or heart. Like me, you can't believe you're living a fairy tale...
    zanyzoey zanyzoey 36-40, F 2 Responses Dec 18

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    I am not a virgin, I have also been married before and have unfortunately had many experiences of sex without marriage. I really enjoy sex, however, I have always believed sex...
    jrsybelle jrsybelle 26-30, F 1 Response a week ago

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