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I Am Constantly Working On My Marriage

For people, both men and women, who are constantly working on their marital affairs. Tell us your issues, how you plan to fix them, or if you need advice. We're here for you. 92 People

    Is It Possible To Not Know How To Interact With People?

    When I met my husband there were some signs that he was going to be, well the way he is. He constantly talked to his Mom, for hours, had no friends, lived alone, didn't have a close relationship with his extended family. I will take part of the blame for some of our marital...
    serenifly serenifly 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2011

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    Date Night

    He took me out last night. He got off early, picked me up and took me shopping. I did my hair and makeup in the car. He serenaded and treated me like a queen- without manicured nails or a salon status hairstyle. We went and listened to jazz, we walked, went sightseeing, went...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2012

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I Married A Child

    My husband seems to intentionally try and make me mad. I have a VERY hard time understanding why. If I ask him to do something, he will say No problem and never do it. If I ask him not to do something, he will do it and laugh in my face when I catch him doing it. The only thing...
    MrsRogers MrsRogers 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2012

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    Shattered

    My husband is having an affair and keeps telling me that she is just a friend and he is telling her that we are separated. I feel like I my heart has been ripped out of my body and stumped on.
    am1966 am1966 31-35 1 Response Dec 15, 2012

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    Trust Issues

    As my circle of friends here on EP know, my husband and I have trust issues that stemmed from when we were dating. Like I mentioned in other stories, he doesn't trust me because when we were dating, we were friends for a short time (a very short time like 2 months) before we...
    Dimples87 Dimples87 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    I Pray 'lord Marriage Is Such A Big Word,please Define Me As A Married Wife In Christ.

    i ve cheated on my husband durring thee earlier parts of my marriage. at the time i was a chronic alcohol drinker. my husband mike got me the help that i needed ;at the women in recovery program. he paid 800.00 a month for three months. i have no mom,i have no dad.i was raised in...
    rainydayrainbows rainydayrainbows 36-40 2 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Work Is Right

    I have always worked on my marriage.  In the beginning i was typical of being "new in love"  It has been proven that the body of a person who considers themself in love will make certain chemcial changes.  These chemical changes last for 12 to 18 months. ...
    gettinsum1 gettinsum1 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 9, 2010

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor.

    We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband open up and understand my point of view. Well 30 minutes into our session, I was so close to seriously walking out. She had spent most of the...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Lazy Slob Hubby

    my hubby is a landscaper and i am a housewife. my man works hard everyday and trust me i dont envy the work he does. it can be brutal. he comes home all cut up and bruised from work. and i aknowledge that my job isnt near as hard as his is. so thats why i dont mind cleaning the...
    susie2375 susie2375 36-40 Dec 1, 2012

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    My husband and I have known each other all of

    our lives. Started dating in June 2009, and married in Oct 2010. The first 3 months we dated was great. I was SO happy, but then I caught him in a lie (which to me is forbidden in a relationship). I'm a brutally honest person and expect the same from everyone in my life...
    BarelyHanginOn BarelyHanginOn 46-50, F Jan 2

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    I'm to Old to Fight Anymore

    For the past 30 years, I have tried to keep my marriage going.  I did everything I could to make my SO happy.  I even turned and looked away at her "little indiscretions" that she's had even thought it was tearing my heart out. Our marriage started out with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 20, 2008

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    “Love is the free exercise of choice.

    Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.” ― M. Scott Peck
    Georgio84 Georgio84 26-30, M May 1

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    I Feel Like I'm Drowing

    I try and try and try, and then we have a long talk and things are OK (not great or very much better) for about an hour, sometimes up to 2 days. I'm so tired of doing all the work. If I had the money I'd run away for awhile. I know thats awful, but I just want to be away from...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    My Husband Had An Affair

    My life has become defined by pre-affair and post-affair. Pre the worst pain in my life and post. How did it come to this? I think many people don't realize how painful affairs can be unless they've uncovered one by their spouse. There's no way to explain this pain. The only...
    Jitterbugjellybean Jitterbugjellybean 31-35 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Im married and I think its time to call it.

    Things have been getting really bad between us for like a year now, he has stopped trying which is really noticeable because he was terrible in the beginning. He's always picking up on my flaws criticizing me making me feel terrible about how i look etc etc. Its even gotten to...
    iwanttoknowyourplans iwanttoknowyourplans 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 14

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    In the past few weeks my wife (FlowersOfPurple)

    and I had our share of arguments. In this EP Link and then this EP Linkjective-Moral-Values/3703615 I described a few different blow-ups we have had. It's a bit early to say for sure, but I think we had the crucial breakthrough last week. I am really hopeful that we finally...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    For the last seven years I have been the oil in the gears of my marriage. My husband has not been working, so he has all kinds of free time. We both collect a compensation check...
    RosalieT RosalieT 26-30, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been with my now husband for four years, married just recently in May 2014. We have three daughters, (3,3, and 1 years of age)...we have been through a lot of ups and downs...
    beyondstars beyondstars 22-25, F 4 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    So I guess the question for me is, "How long does it take to turn an SM into a "normal" marriage?," or "How long does it take to recover from an SM, and make it better?" Of course...
    indianoutlaw indianoutlaw 31-35, M 18 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    Thanks to all the great feedback I’ve been getting here, I’ve been able to process a lot of what’s going on in my marriage. Most of it is simply about clarity rather than any...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 6 Responses Aug 14

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    In this way, working memory is essential for keeping focused on a undertaking, blocking out distractions, and preserving you updated and informed about what’s taking place...
    Noelict Noelict 31-35, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Working memory could be the cognitive function chargeable for retaining information and facts on the web, manipulating it, and making use of it within your wondering. It's the way...
    Benitakey Benitakey 31-35, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I really need to write what's in my head..these are thoughts I have about a book I'm reading. Does anybody else think they're a 'love addict married to a 'love avoider'?! I'd...
    bluegreenseascape bluegreenseascape 46-50, F 9 Responses Jul 31

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 2 Responses Aug 14

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    We unfortunately are probably not an atypical couple, but here's our experience anyway. We met online in 2001, back when it was still a rarity, she was still in school doing her...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 19 Responses Aug 14

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    So thanks to some of the great advice here on the SM forum of EP, I decided not to wait and talk to my wife about my ongoing concerns. We did this two nights ago, after she had...
    MelancholyDude MelancholyDude 36-40, M 13 Responses Aug 18

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    Hmm this week I've been adding stories to the experiences I've chosen since being a member on here. I've been adding each story one at a time.And so far it's been pretty straight...
    Mmmcherries Mmmcherries 46-50, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    8,165 to 1 Revisited. In a recent story I suggested the raw data showed that the odds of your ILIASM shithole turning around were 8,165 to 1. Been thinking about it a bit more...
    bazzar bazzar 56-60, M 16 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 24 Responses Jul 27

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    Hi Pretty bold of me to do this huh? Well I know what I want and I know what I'm ready for... and perhaps you are in the same boat? I'm 35 I've spent several years in long term...
    lakewood45 lakewood45 31-35 Aug 3

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    I'm sure we all have read the story of the guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet of his failed attempts at sexual advances. I've read more than a few articles on the story...
    chuckdaly chuckdaly 36-40, M 12 Responses 5 days ago

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    A window into the emotions of a couples counseling session as the betrayed wife...and those "AHAH!" moments. We are past a year since DDay. Our sessions back then were on coping...
    lillynfriends lillynfriends 46-50, F 1 day ago

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    Named as certainly one of "The top Medical doctors in the united states" in a few nationwide buyer publications each year due to the fact 1994, Dr. Hill is usually a environment...
    William162d6ol9 William162d6ol9 31-35, M 1 Response a week ago

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    My wife had a bad depression a few years ago, she has now recovered but it's something that has to be constantly monitored, however, since then she has lost all interest in sex...
    Wheels64 Wheels64 46-50, M 11 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hi, I am a 29 yrs Hindu Girl, Graduated from Delhi, India and post graduated from Wales, UK now working in Delhi as a Management professional. I am in a straight a relationship...
    alia0001 alia0001 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 27

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    recently i was in a serious car accident , and of course it has been very traumatic and this is a time more than ever that i need my wife to be there for me to provide some love...
    skiball5150 skiball5150 36-40, M 19 Responses Jul 29

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    I've been married for 6 years and I'm dealing with a passionless marriage. My husband doesn't like sex, in truth he told me just the other night that he doesn't know how to be...
    bubblegum04 bubblegum04 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 5

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    It's been a few years since I've posted. Only once has H come to me for reset sex (two years ago), no kissing, no hugging, just manual stimulation. That's more than I've had in...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 15 Responses Aug 5

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    Untouchable I have somehow become untouchable, and it’s like a slow death. In order to thrive, human beings need to be touched in a nurturing way. Studies have shown that...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 22 Responses Aug 10

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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
    Endthegame Endthegame 41-45, M 28 Responses Aug 15

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    Working on "The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work". Homework from last week's marriage counseling session. . This is HARD. I suppose like a gratitude journal when you are...
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 7 Responses Aug 15

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    Reflections in a Mountain Stream They sit on a rock. It's a comfortable rock. Kissed by the August sun until it's just warm to the touch. And it's big enough for two, if they...
    RealtaReoite RealtaReoite 51-55, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I. am. pissed. I am sharing this with you because i realized it says something about my self-work. it's working! I recently have been "working" for a guy by selling his things on...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 9 Responses Aug 18

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I'm wondering if anyone who has decided to pursue divorce (as I have), began dating prior to separating. After my husband refused (for the umpteenth time) to attend counseling on...
    Insearchofmenow Insearchofmenow 31-35 12 Responses Jul 28

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    And why wouldn't I? The ONLY reason I could see for anyone to have anything against gay marriage is religion. But if you are against gays because of religion then you are a...
    shoxic shoxic 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    So I was on here struggling with the topics of living in a sexless marriage, being sexually frustrated and feeling disrespected not too long ago. Although I would still love much...
    picadilly1970 picadilly1970 41-45, F 6 Responses Jul 30

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