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I Am Constantly Working On My Marriage

For people, both men and women, who are constantly working on their marital affairs. Tell us your issues, how you plan to fix them, or if you need advice. We're here for you. 83 People

    Im married and I think its time to call it.

    Things have been getting really bad between us for like a year now, he has stopped trying which is really noticeable because he was terrible in the beginning. He's always picking up on my flaws criticizing me making me feel terrible about how i look etc etc. Its even gotten to...
    iwanttoknowyourplans iwanttoknowyourplans 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 14

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I Pray 'lord Marriage Is Such A Big Word,please Define Me As A Married Wife In Christ.

    i ve cheated on my husband durring thee earlier parts of my marriage. at the time i was a chronic alcohol drinker. my husband mike got me the help that i needed ;at the women in recovery program. he paid 800.00 a month for three months. i have no mom,i have no dad.i was raised in...
    rainydayrainbows rainydayrainbows 36-40 2 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Work Is Right

    I have always worked on my marriage.  In the beginning i was typical of being "new in love"  It has been proven that the body of a person who considers themself in love will make certain chemcial changes.  These chemical changes last for 12 to 18 months. ...
    gettinsum1 gettinsum1 56-60, M 1 Response Mar 9, 2010

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor.

    We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband open up and understand my point of view. Well 30 minutes into our session, I was so close to seriously walking out. She had spent most of the...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Date Night

    He took me out last night. He got off early, picked me up and took me shopping. I did my hair and makeup in the car. He serenaded and treated me like a queen- without manicured nails or a salon status hairstyle. We went and listened to jazz, we walked, went sightseeing, went...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2012

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    Trust Issues

    As my circle of friends here on EP know, my husband and I have trust issues that stemmed from when we were dating. Like I mentioned in other stories, he doesn't trust me because when we were dating, we were friends for a short time (a very short time like 2 months) before we...
    Dimples87 Dimples87 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    Is It Possible To Not Know How To Interact With People?

    When I met my husband there were some signs that he was going to be, well the way he is. He constantly talked to his Mom, for hours, had no friends, lived alone, didn't have a close relationship with his extended family. I will take part of the blame for some of our marital...
    serenifly serenifly 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2011

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    In the past few weeks my wife (FlowersOfPurple)

    and I had our share of arguments. In this EP Link and then this EP Linkjective-Moral-Values/3703615 I described a few different blow-ups we have had. It's a bit early to say for sure, but I think we had the crucial breakthrough last week. I am really hopeful that we finally...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M Dec 9, 2013

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    I Married A Child

    My husband seems to intentionally try and make me mad. I have a VERY hard time understanding why. If I ask him to do something, he will say No problem and never do it. If I ask him not to do something, he will do it and laugh in my face when I catch him doing it. The only thing...
    MrsRogers MrsRogers 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2012

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    “Love is the free exercise of choice.

    Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.” ― M. Scott Peck
    Georgio84 Georgio84 26-30, M May 1

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    Shattered

    My husband is having an affair and keeps telling me that she is just a friend and he is telling her that we are separated. I feel like I my heart has been ripped out of my body and stumped on.
    am1966 am1966 31-35 1 Response Dec 15, 2012

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    I Feel Like I'm Drowing

    I try and try and try, and then we have a long talk and things are OK (not great or very much better) for about an hour, sometimes up to 2 days. I'm so tired of doing all the work. If I had the money I'd run away for awhile. I know thats awful, but I just want to be away from...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    My husband and I have known each other all of

    our lives. Started dating in June 2009, and married in Oct 2010. The first 3 months we dated was great. I was SO happy, but then I caught him in a lie (which to me is forbidden in a relationship). I'm a brutally honest person and expect the same from everyone in my life...
    BarelyHanginOn BarelyHanginOn 46-50, F Jan 2

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    I'm to Old to Fight Anymore

    For the past 30 years, I have tried to keep my marriage going.  I did everything I could to make my SO happy.  I even turned and looked away at her "little indiscretions" that she's had even thought it was tearing my heart out. Our marriage started out with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 20, 2008

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    My Husband Had An Affair

    My life has become defined by pre-affair and post-affair. Pre the worst pain in my life and post. How did it come to this? I think many people don't realize how painful affairs can be unless they've uncovered one by their spouse. There's no way to explain this pain. The only...
    Jitterbugjellybean Jitterbugjellybean 31-35 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    Lazy Slob Hubby

    my hubby is a landscaper and i am a housewife. my man works hard everyday and trust me i dont envy the work he does. it can be brutal. he comes home all cut up and bruised from work. and i aknowledge that my job isnt near as hard as his is. so thats why i dont mind cleaning the...
    susie2375 susie2375 36-40 Dec 1, 2012

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