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I Am Constantly Working On My Marriage

For people, both men and women, who are constantly working on their marital affairs. Tell us your issues, how you plan to fix them, or if you need advice. We're here for you. 75 People

    Is It Possible To Not Know How To Interact With People?

    When I met my husband there were some signs that he was going to be, well the way he is. He constantly talked to his Mom, for hours, had no friends, lived alone, didn't have a close relationship with his extended family. I will take part of the blame for some of our marital...
    serenifly serenifly 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2011

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    In the past few weeks my wife (FlowersOfPurple)

    and I had our share of arguments. In this EP Link and then this EP Linkjective-Moral-Values/3703615 I described a few different blow-ups we have had. It's a bit early to say for sure, but I think we had the crucial breakthrough last week. I am really hopeful that we finally...
    InquisitiveShadow InquisitiveShadow 36-40, M Dec 9, 2013

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    Lazy Slob Hubby

    my hubby is a landscaper and i am a housewife. my man works hard everyday and trust me i dont envy the work he does. it can be brutal. he comes home all cut up and bruised from work. and i aknowledge that my job isnt near as hard as his is. so thats why i dont mind cleaning the...
    susie2375 susie2375 36-40 Dec 1, 2012

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    I Feel Like I'm Drowing

    I try and try and try, and then we have a long talk and things are OK (not great or very much better) for about an hour, sometimes up to 2 days. I'm so tired of doing all the work. If I had the money I'd run away for awhile. I know thats awful, but I just want to be away from...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Jul 8, 2008

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    I'm to Old to Fight Anymore

    For the past 30 years, I have tried to keep my marriage going.  I did everything I could to make my SO happy.  I even turned and looked away at her "little indiscretions" that she's had even thought it was tearing my heart out. Our marriage started out with...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jul 20, 2008

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I Pray 'lord Marriage Is Such A Big Word,please Define Me As A Married Wife In Christ.

    i ve cheated on my husband durring thee earlier parts of my marriage. at the time i was a chronic alcohol drinker. my husband mike got me the help that i needed ;at the women in recovery program. he paid 800.00 a month for three months. i have no mom,i have no dad.i was raised in...
    rainydayrainbows rainydayrainbows 36-40 2 Responses Apr 18, 2012

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    Im married and I think its time to call it.

    Things have been getting really bad between us for like a year now, he has stopped trying which is really noticeable because he was terrible in the beginning. He's always picking up on my flaws criticizing me making me feel terrible about how i look etc etc. Its even gotten to...
    iwanttoknowyourplans iwanttoknowyourplans 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 14

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    My husband and I have known each other all of

    our lives. Started dating in June 2009, and married in Oct 2010. The first 3 months we dated was great. I was SO happy, but then I caught him in a lie (which to me is forbidden in a relationship). I'm a brutally honest person and expect the same from everyone in my life...
    BarelyHanginOn BarelyHanginOn 46-50, F Jan 2

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    Shattered

    My husband is having an affair and keeps telling me that she is just a friend and he is telling her that we are separated. I feel like I my heart has been ripped out of my body and stumped on.
    am1966 am1966 31-35 Dec 15, 2012

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    My Husband Had An Affair

    My life has become defined by pre-affair and post-affair. Pre the worst pain in my life and post. How did it come to this? I think many people don't realize how painful affairs can be unless they've uncovered one by their spouse. There's no way to explain this pain. The only...
    Jitterbugjellybean Jitterbugjellybean 31-35 2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

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    Trust Issues

    As my circle of friends here on EP know, my husband and I have trust issues that stemmed from when we were dating. Like I mentioned in other stories, he doesn't trust me because when we were dating, we were friends for a short time (a very short time like 2 months) before we...
    Dimples87 Dimples87 22-25, F 6 Responses Jul 10, 2008

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    So yesterday we saw a marriage councillor.

    We haddn't been for a few years since before the kids came along. I was really hoping that she was going to be able to help my husband open up and understand my point of view. Well 30 minutes into our session, I was so close to seriously walking out. She had spent most of the...
    Germanovna Germanovna 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 3

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    Casting - Couples With Marriage Troubles

    ARE YOU SEPARATED BUT STILL LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSE? Is your Marriage in Trouble and are you BOTH Considering Dating other people? We are looking for Married Couples who have hit a rough patch in their marriage and are still living together. Have you Grown Apart from your...
    MPCasting23 MPCasting23 26-30, F Nov 25, 2013

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    I Married A Child

    My husband seems to intentionally try and make me mad. I have a VERY hard time understanding why. If I ask him to do something, he will say No problem and never do it. If I ask him not to do something, he will do it and laugh in my face when I catch him doing it. The only thing...
    MrsRogers MrsRogers 22-25, F Oct 2, 2012

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    Date Night

    He took me out last night. He got off early, picked me up and took me shopping. I did my hair and makeup in the car. He serenaded and treated me like a queen- without manicured nails or a salon status hairstyle. We went and listened to jazz, we walked, went sightseeing, went...
    4purrfectdarkness 4purrfectdarkness 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 1, 2012

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    Things may not be perfect between my husband

    and I but we are at least trying and I'm hoping to be in a better place in life with him soon things has to get better
    UniversalVisions UniversalVisions 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I got an email from my very religious sister-in-law. She and my brother have offered to bring me back to the States to stay if I were to wish to leave him, but as I told them both...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 14 Responses 23 hrs ago

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    Illusions That Kept Me Trapped in Sexless Marriage If you read my first EP story, you will get the impression that the sexlessness started with the conception of my child 4 years...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses 2 days ago

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    Make that, that I used to live in a marriage that was becoming a sexless marriage. Today would have been our second anniversary. The story is complicated, but to make it short, she...
    soundtrackforantarctica soundtrackforantarctica 26-30, M 8 Responses Mar 25

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    Very unhappily married and no sex now for 9yrs ! I told my husband we need to decide once we sale the house the route of our marriage I told him we can stay friends since we have...
    Unhappilylonely Unhappilylonely 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 4

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    It's over. All would be so much easier if I weren't so emotional about my own life. Unfortunately, when you are in a marriage that lacks love, and all that entails, you simply have...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 24 Responses 5 days ago

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    Why won't you just let me go?! I'm doing you, us, a favor by owning it all and *trying* to set you free! But no, you hold on for dear effing life. Am I property? Status? A promise...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 10 Responses Mar 26

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    I have been married 8 years and been together with my wife for a total of 18 years. we had 2 small kids. for the past 4-5 years, we have not been working on our marriage but...
    needtotalk37 needtotalk37 36-40, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    Laughing like a crazy person... Exit strategy has been thwarted, but not surprised at all. H got fired by his uncle Monday night. Gentle conversation on my part got me the...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Apr 2

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    I am new here. I haven't participated in online discussions in years so this is quite awkward but I like the anonymity an could really use an ear. I will be married for five years...
    gardinel gardinel 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 10

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    Hi, I am a 28 yrs Hindu Girl, Graduated from Delhi, India and post graduated from Wales, UK now working in Delhi as a Management professional. I am in a straight a relationship...
    alia0001 alia0001 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    A few days ago I spoke with my STBX about what comes next. I guess I should not be surprised, but he has decided that since the relationship didn't work out and he has been...
    NeedingToVent NeedingToVent 36-40, F 19 Responses Apr 4

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    I have been married for 8 years. The sex was just alright in the first couple of years and then basically dwindled off into never ever land. I thought I could accept her lack of...
    ll2live ll2live 41-45 8 Responses Apr 7

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    My time has come. Court is tomorrow. Hopefully it is the last court date and I get my divorce. It is bittersweet. I had such hopes. I took my vows seriously. For better or worse...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 25 Responses a week ago

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    Hello there, I am Indian 29 years old working in UAE, looking asexual/ straight fun loving independent girl for Sexless Marriage to support each other and spend a smooth life...
    HHopeful HHopeful 26-30, M 5 days ago

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    So, I thought I'd post something positive for a change. I'm working on getting stronger. The most frustrating feeling is the feeling of not just being able to start the process...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    Around five weeks ago I did it. I fired off my exit plan, worked through the anxiety and fear and depression, told her how unhappy I had been, and I left. That was one of the most...
    RecoveringCaffeineAddict RecoveringCaffeineAddict 31-35, M 12 Responses Apr 10

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    So I'm jist checking in. I have a job interview and its in my field :) this temp job could also possibly lead to something if her new hire doesn't work out. She wants me lol. So we...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I absolutely hate my husbands cell phone! He comes home and is constantly glued to the thing. He says he's not talking to anyone but every few minutes he's tapping away on the...
    Rena4 Rena4 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 27

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    I am married (8 years) and I have two young children. Over the last perhaps six years our sex frequency has plummeted which has results in sex approximately four times a year over...
    redindiantenttour redindiantenttour 31-35, M 6 Responses Mar 29

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    I love my wife and I know she is my soulmate. She's a wonderful wife, mother, friend, and partner in my life; of course less the sex. I can say that she made me a better man, more...
    TheWorks TheWorks 31-35, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I have always been careful when it came to men and dating, but finding out I was HIV made me realize that I didn't have to have a lot of sexual partners to contract the disease. I...
    keyaya keyaya 18-21, F 1 day ago

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    Psychology Today has a couple of recent articles regarding "Does Sexless marriage justify adultery". The articles are reasonable and informed and the comments worthwhile. They...
    hl42 hl42 51-55, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm from Bombay .. I'm a pure punjabi boy .. 24 yrs and very good looking as people say and well read and educated , done my masters in business management .. Working in the...
    anishsawhney anishsawhney 22-25, M Mar 25

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    I'm from Bombay .. I'm a pure punjabi boy .. 24 yrs and very good looking as people say and well read and educated , done my masters in business management .. Working in the...
    anishsawhney anishsawhney 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    Here is the deal. I Married my Wife on the 29th day of may last year. I love her dearly then, she than cheated on me emotionally with at least 3 other guys. I slowly started...
    anton88 anton88 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    My 5 year annaversy is comming up soon and i know its more like my 4th year annaversy of not having sex. i have been counting. i wish i was working that day so i can get away from...
    lauraCD805 lauraCD805 36-40, T 8 Responses Mar 26

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    So, this is a weird development: He and i talked today. I think he's coming to terms.. or we'll see. I'm going over to my brother's tonight to talk to them about staying there...
    braverthanithink braverthanithink 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    I'm from Bombay .. I'm a pure punjabi boy .. 24 yrs and very good looking as people say and well read and educated , done my masters in business management .. Working in the...
    anishsawhney anishsawhney 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 1

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    Honestly I feel like kicking my wife in the nutz!!!!!!!! Lol! She's such a refuser. I'm trying hard but its not working. Sadness and depression has turned to anger.
    ugho ugho 46-50, M 9 Responses Apr 3

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    I have moved in with my parents a bit more tgab three months. They have been made aware of the my decision to seek a divorce. I hate it that people are trying to plant doubts in...
    coolvolatile coolvolatile 31-35, F 17 Responses Apr 3

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    Exit planning takes forever. Well for me it does. Oh of course I could just walk out and be done right now but I'm a planner, and I have a plan that I'm sticking to. Meanwhile...
    lovesthesun lovesthesun 41-45, F 20 Responses Apr 7

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    I am really sad to see so many people share this experience, but at the same time I am grateful to have found others who understand. I recently discovered my husband has NPD. He...
    GetFreeSoon GetFreeSoon 46-50, F 7 Responses Apr 8