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I Am Curious About the Dominant Submissive Lifestyle

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 5,438 People

    I've talked with my husband time

    after time that I desire to be in a D/s relationship, and while he likes the idea he is not strong willed enough to be the Dominant I need. I really feel it would change the dynamic in our marriage as he feels like I am not as respectful to him as I could be, or that I don't...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses May 22, 2015

    I Need to be Dominated.

    I am a married man and I am dominant in every aspect of my life, however it is been some time that I feel the need to be dominated. I am new to this lifestyle and I only had a short on line experience with a Mistress last summer here on EP. It was perfect but I stupidly stood...
    subbietiger subbietiger
    41-45, M
    Jan 23, 2015

    I am very drawn into this lately.

    .. Is it possible person can be both dominant and submissive?... Reason is I am very easily drawn and attracted to dominant men, I become very submissive. But I am very dominant with my husband and comes very natural to me. I love this feeling, very empowering. But does this...
    sweetliz sweetliz
    46-50, F
    21 Responses May 29, 2014

    When a sub is abandoned by a Dom,

    how can we do aftercare for ourselves? Please help. I'm drowning here.
    heyjude68 heyjude68
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jun 5, 2015


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    daydreamer2293 daydreamer2293
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 24, 2015

    Help please! I have been married

    for 10 years and we are now both on this new D/s journey together. I have always been interested in the life style, but not my husband. He is natural Dom though. He has done a lot of reading and so have I, but I want to learn from a real sub and not just some book. Thank you...
    stang12920 stang12920
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 14, 2015

    I am new to EP and to the dominant-submissive

    culture. I would like to find a Master or a Mistress.
    Mimicupcake Mimicupcake
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    I Failed Mistress

    I knew I shouldn’t … heck, I knew I couldn’t.  There was no ambiguity in instruction.  So why so bad this day … I could think of nothing else but you.  A bulge … a hand in the pocket that lingering a bit too long sure signs of my pending failure. If I had thought...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses May 3, 2012
    guyhere4u guyhere4u
    51-55, M
    Jul 19, 2015

    D/s Relationships and Personal Responsibility

    Everyone knows someone who has had a horrifying dating/relationship story, and while our sympathies are extended in most cases, at times we do a face palm as and ask, “What the hell? How could you have let this happen??" Ok, so you don’t think this. But I do. (You should pity...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    41-45, F
    19 Responses May 18, 2012

    Interviewing A Potential Dom

    Most submissives can tell unending stories about what they have had to do, write or experience to be accepted by a Dom. I have ended that mode of behavior and thinking for myself. I now require that any potential Dom I might be willing to bring into my life, must first pass...
    sharonsub sharonsub
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Jul 21, 2013

    Just Be Yourself. It's Ok.....really.

    I 'm someone who's been fortunate enough to discover and live in the BDSM world near Portland, Oregon. The one common theme I hear from new people is the feeling they are all alone or they are not good people for feeling this way or they are simply weird. While I understand those...
    TheTalltreeGuy TheTalltreeGuy
    51-55, M
    11 Responses Jan 30, 2008

    I'm looking for good reference books

    that get into punishment and reward. I just read 'The Loving Dominant' and it was pretty good but not exactly what I was looking for. I want a book more about daily life of a D/s relationship- especially for beginners.
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    Submissive ... Or Suggestive?

    I have long been curious about the dynamics between a Dominant and a Submissive, the exchange of power, and the levels of trust that have been established.Quite often, I come across people .. men in particular, that claim to be Dominant. After talking with them for a while or...
    MissSass MissSass
    31-35, F
    4 Responses May 18, 2013

    This is the text I just sent him.

    I've never been so honest. You said I would get the chance to kneel before you. I never did. You said that you would never put me in danger. But I feel like I'm on the edge of a cliff, ready to fall off. You held me when I didn't want to be touch but needed someone to hold me...
    heyjude68 heyjude68
    46-50, F
    1 Response Jun 7, 2015

    Cyber, Fantasy, Intense Whispers With Mistress Last Night

    Roll over … Face down on your bed … pillow positioned perfectly to lift and present your sweet *** to me My hands cup and squeeze your cheeks together With small kisses I savor the taste of your flesh The soft firm mound of each cheek licked, sucked and kissed A...
    deleted deleted
    12 Responses Mar 14, 2012

    End Of Challenge

    Squeezing my rental into the far too narrow space across the street I couldn’t help but smile.   It was almost a year ago to the day that at this very same restaurant we enjoyed a late lunch after a day of lustful play, our first ever meeting. This time much different...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Dec 22, 2012

    My second experiences with my female

    boss: After my first experience with my female boss she asked me to wear no pan.ties and no b.ra for next week, only mini skirt and a shirt. Again at 6 pm when every body gone she came down stairs with st.rap on di.ldo and no bra, I was still typing. She ordered me to take off...
    73sara 73sara
    41-45, F
    4 Responses May 4, 2015

    I've been a sub without a Dom

    for 14 years. As much as I want to hate it and as much as I try to convince myself I don't need it, it never works. My husband was the best Dom in the world until life pulled him into a rut he will never get out of. He swears he wants to be my Dom and won't let me find another...
    BabyGirlMX BabyGirlMX
    41-45, F
    5 Responses May 3, 2015

    Satisfying Mistress: A Weekend Of Ultimate Excitement & Embarrassment (part 2)

    The story is a continuation of  “Satisfying Mistress:  A Weekend of Ultimate Excitement & Embarrassment       Satisfying Mistress, Part 2 Sunday My eyes fly open and I find myself staring straight at the ceiling. Turning I see its 5:13am, it’s still dark...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Jan 22, 2012

    I am a dom. I need some friends from this thread

    that I can personally/privately discuss certain situations. if you don't mind listening and lending advice add me and identify yourself as dom or sub in a message please
    arogers1022 arogers1022
    26-30, M
    4 Responses May 19, 2015

    In My Peak Of Curiousity.. Dominant Female

    Ok.. Here it goes, I am a 21 years old female and I really am curious in this Dominant-Submissive "Lifestyle". These all started from reading this book series 50 Shades. At first, I was like, "OMG, that's sick, this dude needs help." but in a long run, I was getting more hooked...
    bossychiq bossychiq
    22-25, F
    15 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    Are you a female wanting to become submissive.

    I am very generous and loving single DON
    SmokingLearning SmokingLearning
    51-55, M
    1 Response Aug 21, 2015

    The Erotic Side Of D/s

    Not everyone will understand, but those who do.... ^-^ DELICIOUS...
    RedRubies RedRubies
    41-45, F
    12 Responses Dec 24, 2012

    Sweet Dreams

    You're lying in bed on your stomach, and I'm leaning up against you pressing my body against yours. I've placed a blindfold over your eyes, so that there will be an element of surprise in everything I do to you. I want you to be uncertain of what to expect next from me. I move on...
    ProfMan ProfMan
    56-60, M
    6 Responses May 9, 2011

    How I Became a Dom, And Why It Made a Better Marriage

    My wife and I had been married for two years, and things were slipping.   She was in Med school, and it was taking all of her energy.  I had been working to support ant care for her for those two years (married the Saturday before school started, year 1). ...
    malthius411 malthius411
    31-35, M
    28 Responses Oct 6, 2006
    guyhere4u guyhere4u
    51-55, M
    Jun 9, 2015

    Can one go from a person

    who is used to control and getting their way to letting go and becoming a sub?
    arogers1022 arogers1022
    26-30, M
    1 Response May 20, 2015

    Ending a D/s Relationship

    Is a dominant still a dominant if they cannot offer honesty and respect to a submissive - if the very basis of this lifestyle is meant to be trust, respect and honesty then isn't that something that both a Dom and sub should expect at all times....isn't it the very least that any...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues
    31-35, F
    41 Responses May 5, 2008

    Punishment #4

    My MASTER told me to post this as a punishment, well, atleast up untill the comma lolI must not call my Master a dirty old perv, even if he isI must not call my Master a dirty old perv, even if he isI must not call my Master a dirty old perv, even if he isI must not call my...
    blackmoonlight blackmoonlight
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Dec 3, 2011

    101 Ideas To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (i.e. Loved)

    (repost from another site)One of the main factors, for me in feeling truly Owned is to be constantly reminded throughout the day of Master's control. These reminders can be subtle or really obtrusive (heheheh). The more often a slave is reminded of her submission, the deeper it...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 9, 2011

    I would really like to know more about it,

    feel free to message me if you're interested in telling me more about it. :)
    deleted deleted
    May 20, 2015

    I have dabbled in BDSM

    for years. I have dominated both men and women. I have been submissive to both women and men. My latest experience was being submissive to a kinky lady I know.
    Cowboy6666 Cowboy6666
    51-55, M
    Dec 23, 2014

    I'm looking for a sub ,

    preferably long term, who is willing to be obedient. In return you will be taken care of and kept safe. I understand submission comes after respect and that Dosent happen in a day , but I'm patient. If you are interested, pm me or ki-k me at 1785702
    deleted deleted
    Jun 2, 2015

    I hope it's okay that I continue to share my

    experiences on here as I continue to discover myself and learn about the lifestyle. I have a feeling I'll be posting quite a bit for a while. Thanks for putting up with me ;-) Best diet plan ever: become a submissive and **** at least twice a day. Also, allow your Dom to...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 26, 2015

    I am a gay man who is curious about D/s

    relationships. Came across a blog on Tumblr called NoodlesandBeef about a Dom who is in a relationship with 3 subs. Ever since then I can't get it out my mind. It speaks to me. I know it's would be something I enjoy. I'm not sure as to how to go about locking for a Dom. Would...
    DsCurious12 DsCurious12
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    My Turn In The Drivers Seat

    Arriving at the pier just before noon we walk hand in hand towards the far end, almost 300 feet out into the crystal clear gulf waters. The breeze so slight that even with the sheerness of your sun dress we have no worries of an accidental flashing.  Your hands sweaty, I’m...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jul 11, 2012

    The last couple of months have been a roller

    coaster. Master is young and inexperienced. I have very little experience in the lifestyle myself. He hurt me badly by leaving me for awhile. Then he wanted me back. Then he didn't. Then he did. Now he doesn't. This makes him sound very bad. He isn't. He has done a lot of good...
    heyjude68 heyjude68
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Aug 5, 2015

    Wow guys and gals- this is a bit more difficult

    with kids. Anyone else into D/s and have kids? I'd love to chat.
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jul 27, 2015

    A Devoted sub is a Jewel:

    I commented on a posting from someone else recently on how I viewed a devoted sub as a jewel. It was just a few sentences and after I submitted it I kept thinking about what I had just posted. And how much it really meant to me. There are so many men and women who say they are...
    Satalite150 Satalite150
    46-50, M
    8 Responses May 17, 2011

    When writing your D/s contracts do you include

    punishments? In writing our contract it seems as though writing down exactly what the punishment will be for each infraction is tedious. Do most people include that in their contracts or do they leave it at the discretion of the Dom? Or do they provide a general list of possible...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Aug 6, 2015

    I am looking for a dom

    who can use me on a regular basis. Message me if you are interested.
    RedRidingGirl RedRidingGirl
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Jul 8, 2014

    Being Submissive Really Fulfills Me

    This is a crazy thing for ME to be saying!  I've always been fiercely independent and NEVER was the type of woman to "serve" a man.  I grew up watching my mother sell herself out (and us) for men.  I watched her kiss their ***** and take all their...
    MysticWriter MysticWriter
    36-40, F
    42 Responses Sep 16, 2006

    Being With Mistress

    Not clear for the reason meeting at this exact location. I was a little early as was expected. She was explicit to wait for her in the corner of the concourse of RSW by the Thomas Edison statue next to the electric car which he invented in 1903. Still runs it says. And there...
    deleted deleted
    11 Responses Apr 21, 2012

    Is EP All#ie a secret domme?

    She certainly likes dishing out the discipline. I just had a really tame experience about liking natural breasts of all sizes rejected. I wonder if she'll spank me for being a naughty boy??
    jo1966 jo1966
    51-55, M
    Oct 8, 2015

    First Step

    I went out on Friday night to see my friend's band. Afterwards we all went out and their guitarist caught my eye. Unknown to me i'd caught his eye months earlier when I kept cropping up in his friend's group photos on Facebook. I guess neither of us were on the ball because it...
    Bleed Bleed
    31-35, F
    8 Responses May 19, 2012

    A New Task At The Cinema.

    She walked in the theatre, trying to look confident.Her master had ordered her to buy herself a button up dress the day before.She had chosen a pale coloured linen dress. It buttoned up all up the front and it's cut gave her a flattering cleavage.Underneath, she wore very little...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2013

    My wife and I have been married almost a year.

    she's always used to getting what she wants but we're both curious about the d/s lifestyle, and started this journey over the last few days. are there any suggestions how to make the transition easier for us both? she's very unruly and physical corrections don't have any affect...
    arogers1022 arogers1022
    26-30, M
    2 Responses May 19, 2015

    I'd just like to say

    that while I haven't posted anything on here yet and I am new to this for the most part, you all make me feel like I'm not a freak and I'm part of a community. I love all your stories and I love learning about D/s. I always wanted this I just didn't know it was a thing. I...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 21, 2015

    As An Inexperienced Sub, I Am Seeking A Dom..

    The Dom/sub lifestyle isn't something I have much experience with, but I'm ready to take things further and find the right Dom for me. I need someone that is willing to teach me, and can be patient, yet firm with me as I learn and we explore the lifestyle together. I am eager to...
    alii95 alii95
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2013

    I want to be caught cross dressing.

    forced to oral and anal 2 men
    deleted deleted
    13 Responses Mar 10, 2014

    The Dance

    There are times when I feel I will drown from the ache and hunger to be yours You have claimed small parts of me, pushed me to limits that keep me craving for more. The touch, the soft command, the longing to fill me with the release you know I need. So selfless is your act...
    gingerpie71 gingerpie71
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Mar 3, 2012

    Why is it that the men on EP claiming to be

    Dominant always inboxing saying things like do you know what I'd do to you , you'd be so sore ect, it's like they all are online dominants. It's very tacky and annoying as I love to have conversation about many things, I didn't think D/s relationships were about saying how good...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 2, 2015

    I have found that after I've completely come to

    terms with my affinity for this life style and I told my husband and we have been having fun exploring that I have more confidence (not that I lacked it before)- I guess maybe confidence is the wrong word. Maybe self-awareness is a better way to put it... anyway in this process...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 25, 2015

    So You Wanna Live The Life?

    I do not pretend to represent everyone and every taste so you may or may not agree with what I have posted. However from what I have learned in my life and from witnessing others in the lifestyle I feel that what I have posted is as true and real as can be. OK so you've read the...
    amysdaddy amysdaddy
    41-45, M
    21 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    why is it that if u seek a dom/daddydom online

    they never want to get to know u. all they want is to just start barking orders. sorry i dont play that way. first off in order for me to submit I must respect u. in order for me to respect u i must first know u. why is thst so damn hard to understand?!?!
    WickedlilAngel WickedlilAngel
    31-35, F
    6 Responses Jan 4, 2015

    Your Text ... My Smile

    Your short, crisp text to me simply read, check email. I couldn't help but smile. You were up to something for sure. You knew as we had spoken only hours earlier I'd be at a business dinner. You were playing with me and I loved the instant breathless anticipation. Even at...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Jun 9, 2012

    Still Curious... about having a sub lady.

    The possibilities are endless determined by both parties. I don't see it as having labels and rules as much as an outgrowth of connection and love, and a desire to push the limits of pleasure in a safe way. I would love to chat and explore this with any curious ladies, or...
    mysihba mysihba
    61-65, M
    Apr 17, 2015
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