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I Am Curious About the Dominant Submissive Lifestyle

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 5,247 People

    Here is a open question I would like to put out

    to the group, in your opinion how long should a submissive wait before she accepts a collar of submission? I am of the opinion that a collar is like a wedding ring in the vanilla world. one should not offer/ accept one one too quickly, This includes cyber collar or...
    willlie1212 willlie1212 56-60, M 3 Responses Feb 16

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    ladyamelia ladyamelia 41-45, F 5 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    As An Inexperienced Sub, I Am Seeking A Dom..

    The Dom/sub lifestyle isn't something I have much experience with, but I'm ready to take things further and find the right Dom for me. I need someone that is willing to teach me, and can be patient, yet firm with me as I learn and we explore the lifestyle together. I am eager to...
    alii95 alii95 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    I want to be caught cross dressing.

    forced to oral and anal 2 men
    prcarter prcarter 61-65, M 6 Responses Mar 10

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    You Are Mine

    We're curled up together It's dark, just the way you wanted. Private No more prying eyes. You start to smile. You tease Don't you know there's so many better things to do with your lips? Your smile disappears as I move my hand around your neck Feel your blood pounding Your heart...
    blackdiamond38 blackdiamond38 46-50, M 19 Responses Apr 29, 2013

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    The Erotic Side Of D/s

    Not everyone will understand, but those who do.... ^-^ DELICIOUS...
    RedRubies RedRubies 36-40, F 14 Responses Dec 24, 2012

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    How I Became a Dom, And Why It Made a Better Marriage

    My wife and I had been married for two years, and things were slipping.   She was in Med school, and it was taking all of her energy.  I had been working to support ant care for her for those two years (married the Saturday before school started, year 1). ...
    malthius411 malthius411 31-35, M 30 Responses Oct 6, 2006

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    “The subversive power of the truth is more

    powerful than any army. The power of love is greater than any other force in the universe. The true warrior recognizes these facts, and operates accordingly, without excessive attachment to any nation or people. She battles ceaselessly against ignorance, fear, hatred, and...
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    The Dance

    There are times when I feel I will drown from the ache and hunger to be yours You have claimed small parts of me, pushed me to limits that keep me craving for more. The touch, the soft command, the longing to fill me with the release you know I need. So selfless is your act...
    gingerpie71 gingerpie71 36-40, F 10 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    Does anyone know of a descent Dom/sub single

    dating site? I've been curious and had many fantasies about being a sub for years but haven't had any experiences yet.
    tamarah74 tamarah74 36-40, F 9 Responses Jan 28

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    End Of Challenge

    Squeezing my rental into the far too narrow space across the street I couldn’t help but smile.   It was almost a year ago to the day that at this very same restaurant we enjoyed a late lunch after a day of lustful play, our first ever meeting. This time much different...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 7 Responses Dec 22, 2012

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    The other day someone messaged me

    and asked where to start if you feel you are headed into a D/s relationship. I preface by saying all D/s relationships are as unique as the snowflakes that fall outside my window. I did some thinking on this subject and offer the following as my opinion and all of my thoughts...
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M Dec 17, 2013

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    Forbidden Sex - We Crossed The Line - The Pearl Thong

    For those of you that did not read part one or two, here's the short version. I am a sub who met my domme on EP. The rules we set as we began our relationship were simple, we would never meet. Things went down hill fast once I learned that my Domme lived less than 30 minutes...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 9 Responses Jan 8, 2012

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    OK here we go I have always had submissive

    thoughts towards strong women. I have never had a chance to live out these thoughts though I have always needed too. I should explain I not looking for bedroom play, a credit card cam girl or a so call by the hour pro domme I need a women who is real wants to own me train me to...
    wilrok wilrok 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Ending a D/s Relationship

    Is a dominant still a dominant if they cannot offer honesty and respect to a submissive - if the very basis of this lifestyle is meant to be trust, respect and honesty then isn't that something that both a Dom and sub should expect at all times....isn't it the very least that any...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues 31-35, F 38 Responses May 5, 2008

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    Your Text ... My Smile

    Your short, crisp text to me simply read, check email. I couldn't help but smile. You were up to something for sure. You knew as we had spoken only hours earlier I'd be at a business dinner. You were playing with me and I loved the instant breathless anticipation. Even at...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 5 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Cyber, Fantasy, Intense Whispers With Mistress Last Night

    Roll over … Face down on your bed … pillow positioned perfectly to lift and present your sweet *** to me My hands cup and squeeze your cheeks together With small kisses I savor the taste of your flesh The soft firm mound of each cheek licked, sucked and kissed A...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 15 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    There is one that writes the most delicious D/s

    stories. Excites me Makes the inner me, fall to my knees While a wicked grin sits on my face. I love the correction The loving punishment delights me. Even now my cheeks anticipate the sting. We both get what we desire, but I'll always get so much more.
    Sunshine0615 Sunshine0615 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 10, 2013

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    I'M More Then Curious

    I'm now in a Dom/sub relationship for a year and a half. My Dominant is extremely hard to talk to. It's hard to not be able to ask questions or discuss certain things with him. Ok - my question is do any Doms enjoy talking? Or being asked questions? Can a Dom be friends...
    new2sub new2sub 31-35, F 94 Responses May 25, 2013

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    First Step

    I went out on Friday night to see my friend's band. Afterwards we all went out and their guitarist caught my eye. Unknown to me i'd caught his eye months earlier when I kept cropping up in his friend's group photos on Facebook. I guess neither of us were on the ball because it...
    Bleed Bleed 31-35, F 8 Responses May 19, 2012

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    She took in a deep breath

    as she entered the key in the door. The room was semi lit. He was sat looking at his phone. As he heard her come in he rose his head. He was in his 50's slim and toned, he was wearing a white shirt, and a beautifully tailored dark suit. His eyes were blue, and his hair for...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 1

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    D/s Relationships and Personal Responsibility

    Everyone knows someone who has had a horrifying dating/relationship story, and while our sympathies are extended in most cases, at times we do a face palm as and ask, “What the hell? How could you have let this happen??" Ok, so you don’t think this. But I do. (You should pity...
    RedRubies RedRubies 36-40, F 24 Responses May 18, 2012

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    ~Our First Munch~ Hubs

    and I agreed that we would like to investigate this BDSM lifestyle by attending a club. So we went online and found the local scene (no pun intended!) and were immediately invited to a munch. We both learned that a munch is a meetup of like-minded folks in a non threatening...
    Tart0402 Tart0402 31-35 Dec 13, 2013

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    I need a sub **** that will give her body to me!

    My **** needs worshipped! All hard anal sex and wearing nipple clamps and ***** clamped shut!
    jacklovesbutt800 jacklovesbutt800 22-25, M Jan 2

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    Would You Do This? Pretty Please?

    I would LOVE to have a man come from behind me and grab my breasts, pinching the nipples until I moan with a little pain and pleasure. I want to feel his hard **** pressing into the cleavage of my *** cheeks, making my ***** wet just knowing he's got a stiff piece of meat to go...
    milkynips milkynips 46-50, F 9 Responses Apr 30, 2011

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    "The individual has always had to struggle to

    keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." -Friedrich Nietzsche
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M Jan 24

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    I NEED to find a hot,

    submissive Christian wife who has NO problem being totally nude! Someone who wants to be loved, cherished, showered with affection, spoiled with my gifts of appreciation and yet totally dominated sexually with totally uninhibited sexual passion!
    thexo thexo 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    I'm on an online dating site

    and was approached by a man who offered me a D/S relationship, I met him but turned him down because he just didn't do it for me. I was once again approached by another man who is also offering a D/S and this time I think I'm going to go through with it. This is a whole new...
    Guidemethere Guidemethere 36-40, F 6 Responses Jan 5

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    Satisfying Mistress: A Weekend Of Ultimate Excitement & Embarrassment (part 2)

    The story is a continuation of  “Satisfying Mistress:  A Weekend of Ultimate Excitement & Embarrassment       Satisfying Mistress, Part 2 Sunday My eyes fly open and I find myself staring straight at the ceiling. Turning I see its 5:13am, it’s still dark...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 8 Responses Jan 22, 2012

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    A Devoted sub is a Jewel:

    I commented on a posting from someone else recently on how I viewed a devoted sub as a jewel. It was just a few sentences and after I submitted it I kept thinking about what I had just posted. And how much it really meant to me. There are so many men and women who say they are...
    Satalite150 Satalite150 46-50, M 9 Responses May 17, 2011

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    Submissive ... Or Suggestive?

    I have long been curious about the dynamics between a Dominant and a Submissive, the exchange of power, and the levels of trust that have been established.Quite often, I come across people .. men in particular, that claim to be Dominant. After talking with them for a while or...
    MissSass MissSass 31-35, F 8 Responses May 18, 2013

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    Being Submissive Really Fulfills Me

    This is a crazy thing for ME to be saying!  I've always been fiercely independent and NEVER was the type of woman to "serve" a man.  I grew up watching my mother sell herself out (and us) for men.  I watched her kiss their ***** and take all their...
    MysticWriter MysticWriter 36-40, F 44 Responses Sep 16, 2006

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    the following was not written by me

    but was told it was taken down from another site. It was originally from missdi.co I repost it here. Characteristics of a Successful Dominant I have spent some time discussing with others in the lifestyle what makes a good dominant. What marks a true dominant from a player...
    RogerThompson RogerThompson 41-45, M Dec 10, 2013

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    My Training Has Begun

    Last week, my Sir blessed me with his presence for an early morning visit :) I was waiting patiently, anxiously, at the front door, in my usual greeting position, on my knees, head down, hands clasped behind my back. He walked in, locked the door, touched me softly and told me...
    Fornicaria Fornicaria 41-45, F Nov 30, 2013

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    In my experience Surrender is an integral part

    of female sexuality, unless a woman can truly 'let go' she will often not even be able to achieve the deep vaginal ******* that all women should be able to have. By "let go' I mean a true relaxation of the physical and the mental, allowing control to pass to another (or even to...
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I am a Single White Male Searching For Open

    Minded Female that is curious about the dominant submissive lifestyle In Tampa Bay, Fl . I am a single white male age 58 searching for an open minded female in tampa bay, florida. if you are out there give me a line or two so that we can chat?
    thisthatcurious thisthatcurious 56-60 Dec 3, 2013

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    It's 11 am and I'm already exhausted,

    but in a really great way :) My Sir ordered me to do some things this morning while I am at work that involves me using my lipstick vibe :) Releasing for him once in my office while on the phone with him had me panting like a female dog in heat. Releasing for him twice while...
    Fornicaria Fornicaria 41-45, F Feb 24

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    Being With Mistress

    Not clear for the reason meeting at this exact location. I was a little early as was expected. She was explicit to wait for her in the corner of the concourse of RSW by the Thomas Edison statue next to the electric car which he invented in 1903. Still runs it says. And there...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 14 Responses Apr 21, 2012

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    A New Task At The Cinema.

    She walked in the theatre, trying to look confident.Her master had ordered her to buy herself a button up dress the day before.She had chosen a pale coloured linen dress. It buttoned up all up the front and it's cut gave her a flattering cleavage.Underneath, she wore very little...
    MrSquishy MrSquishy 41-45, M 3 Responses Jun 18, 2013

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    I have just had the most amazing experience

    with mistress, please read my experience below!!!
    mae080954 mae080954 26-30, M 1 Response Apr 1

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    I Failed Mistress

    I knew I shouldn’t … heck, I knew I couldn’t.  There was no ambiguity in instruction.  So why so bad this day … I could think of nothing else but you.  A bulge … a hand in the pocket that lingering a bit too long sure signs of my pending failure. If I had thought...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 9 Responses May 3, 2012

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    Confused

    I know in my heart that I'm a sexual submissive. But I've always been in vanilla realtionships/marriages (2). Didn't know about D/s until the last 10 years or so. So my husband and I used to "play", just light bondage mostly, and I thought he was really enjoying it, but we've...
    morepassion morepassion 51-55, F 6 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    The Olive Tree

    This is not my story but it's worthy to have reposted as the theme of the tale is something I hope Masters and Doms a like can reflect and do for those who choose to follow them. -------------- A confused submissive came before her wise Master who adored her. she felt that to...
    RogerThompson RogerThompson 41-45, M 2 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Wants versus needs is always an issue.

    In submissives and in Dominants. A Dominant should always be open to examining his desires to assess what he merely wants and what he truly needs. Why? Because a Dominant should always be honest with himself. A lot of D/s, and BDSM more generally, is often depicted as being...
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M Jan 10

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    So You Wanna Live The Life?

    I do not pretend to represent everyone and every taste so you may or may not agree with what I have posted. However from what I have learned in my life and from witnessing others in the lifestyle I feel that what I have posted is as true and real as can be. OK so you've read the...
    amysdaddy amysdaddy 41-45, M 24 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    I have been reading a lot about the D/s

    relationships and how they work….I am no expert on this by no means…I am learning because I am fascinated by the way a girl will give herself over….(I use girl because I am a girl) I do not see these women as weak… I always said I am far too strong willed to be a...
    ladyamelia ladyamelia 41-45, F 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Punishment #4

    My MASTER told me to post this as a punishment, well, atleast up untill the comma lolI must not call my Master a dirty old perv, even if he isI must not call my Master a dirty old perv, even if he isI must not call my Master a dirty old perv, even if he isI must not call my...
    blackmoonlight blackmoonlight 26-30, F 10 Responses Dec 3, 2011

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    I have always enjoyed working from home.

    It allows me the freedom to wear whatever I want and I’ve always felt way more productive when the "girls" aren’t confined to a bra :) Today, my Sir took my productivity to a whole new level – not so much professionally, but personally, when he instructed me to remove my...
    Fornicaria Fornicaria 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 2

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    My Turn In The Drivers Seat

    Arriving at the pier just before noon we walk hand in hand towards the far end, almost 300 feet out into the crystal clear gulf waters. The breeze so slight that even with the sheerness of your sun dress we have no worries of an accidental flashing.  Your hands sweaty, I’m...
    RKHunter RKHunter 46-50, M 9 Responses Jul 11, 2012

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    I am extremely interested in the Dom/Sub

    lifestyle. I'm very interested in being a D/S relationship. All my relationships have been strictly vanilla. Now I am not saying I want to get into a full on slave master thing going on, but yea, I'm interested in the dom/sub lifestyle
    AlyAngel AlyAngel 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    BDSM has many uses. Some use it

    as an outlet, some to get laid, some use it to connect with like minded others and feel themselves free to be who they are. None of those things are bad, or wrong. I have come to the conclusion that I am somewhat wired differently. To Me. The play is not the thing. Don't get me...
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    My Likes

    I am mostly dominant, but occasionally I switch to the sub role. When dominant, I like to use handcuffs and silk rope to tie my subs down. I use my fingers, tongue and a variety of toys, to bring them to the edge. Just as they are about to ***, I stop........suddenly. I wait and...
    Galahad727 Galahad727 51-55, M 18 Responses Dec 8, 2011

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    I have been training hard to be able to come on

    command for my Sir. The other day was quite a breakthrough :) Sir called me Monday afternoon at the usual time. I was home early that day from work so was less restricted in my actions. Just hearing Sir's voice always gets me automatically wet. The bond we have is incredibly...
    Fornicaria Fornicaria 41-45, F Mar 5

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    My beautiful wife and Mistress have decided to

    start our pages on here looking for friends and networking. I am 40 bi m who loves to be humiliated and made to dress up by my wife and suck **** and want to get ******. I would love to see my wifes sweet ***** ****** by a fat **** since I have such a small sissy...
    hersissycuck hersissycuck 41-45, M Dec 8, 2013

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    Looking to chat with a young submissive in

    California. Private message me.
    DomDGrade DomDGrade 31-35, M Dec 26, 2013

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    I am a dominant man. I am just that.

    I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part, or because I feel I am more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because I am strong physically or my body is big. I am not, nor would I want to be, dominant with all women. However; for my one I will be a Dominant only...
    sirtoyou1966 sirtoyou1966 46-50, M 2 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Just Be Yourself. It's Ok.....really.

    I 'm someone who's been fortunate enough to discover and live in the BDSM world near Portland, Oregon. The one common theme I hear from new people is the feeling they are all alone or they are not good people for feeling this way or they are simply weird. While I understand those...
    TheTalltreeGuy TheTalltreeGuy 51-55, M 12 Responses