I Am Damaged Goods

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    We are all damaged...am I more damaged than anyone else...who is to know...how do you judge such things. What one person will breeze through without a scratch will cripple another...none of us leaves this life with our shells intact. How have I been damaged....in many ways, i...
    Flugelblues Flugelblues
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Oct 27, 2008

    To Him..

    i don't want to be with you anymore.. but don't want to be alone.. which is why you haven't left yet either. i am under no false pretenses. i know as soon as you find someone better, i will become a distant memory. an afterthought. and for some reason, at that moment, you...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 4, 2012


    I've been broken into many pieces... But I can be put back together, on the whole... Parts of me have been shattered into pieces so small, they've been lost in the cracks in the floor, but most of me can be put back together, with a bit of patience... and help...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 13, 2008

    The Wonders Of Child Abuse

    I'm pretty damaged goods. I grow up in a less than healthy environment, featuring the lovely combination physical and emotional abuse. I was always told that no matter what I did, that I was worthless. Made it into intermediate orchestra; why not the symphonic orchestra? Got the...
    adarna adarna
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Aug 24, 2012

    My Armor Is No Longer Cracked, It's Been Shattered Completely.

    I honestly don't know even know where to go from here...all the lies, addictions, fears, thoughts, sadness, and betrayal have finally taken over my whole existence to the point where that is all what my life is based on, unfortunately there is nothing of the old me left, and have...
    Alan132 Alan132
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Oct 1, 2012

    No Trust

    How can I trust when all the trust I had in the man I loved was broken? How can I ever think that what I have with someone else is real? Will I ever feel completely 'secure' with anyone? Will I ever give anyone else my heart? I am so scared of being hurt and used and...
    mimi187 mimi187
    May 4, 2012

    I Might Be Able to Hide the Stains...

    but they always come out in the wash.
    jossiemarie jossiemarie
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 30, 2008

    This Can't Be Forever

     i seem to find all the creeps, the ones who want to use me for sex the ones who want to beat me up, I have stuggled through an extreamly abusive relationship and i was raped when I was nighteen a shattered marriage and a broken heart, this is starting to feel like a scary...
    sweetstacey sweetstacey
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2008

    Two Kinds

    I lived a hard life, been though way to much. I guess this is why there are only two kinds of men that want me. The abusive controlling kind and the ones that just want sex, then they are gone. I have tried and still trying to change my life/me for the better. And doing so I...
    AvaLynne AvaLynne
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Nov 10, 2012

    I Am Damaged Goods

    I come from an abusive home. The youngest of seven kids and my parents and older siblings bullied me, yelled in my face, told me I was stupid and I was molested by one of my brothers. Soooo, I have never had a "real boyfriend". I have spent my life going through guys who just...
    tuxedokitty tuxedokitty
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 1, 2012

    Moment of Revelation

    I truly believed that wasn't damaged.  That I never made my new love interests pay for mistakes other men have made.  Boy was I wrong. A guy that I hooked up with asked me for my number.  My reply: " I'll give you my number, if you plan on calling...
    myfathersdaughter myfathersdaughter
    Aug 25, 2008

    Ever Since First Day Of Kindergarden

    I've always been damaged, ever since first day of kindergarten, that's when I realized I was damaged goods.  My dad was always gone working abroad.  And my mom is a combination of obsessively overbearing, while making effort to destroy me.  Kind of like this permanent...
    journeytowhere journeytowhere
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jun 6, 2011

    That's What I Felt Like Anwyay

    I felt like damaged goods after my last boyfriend and I broke up. I lost my virginity to him and I thought we were gonna be together and get married and have a family. Mainly because he told me we would, but anyways... I felt like crap after we broke up. I was looking forward to...
    Melody08 Melody08
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 23, 2008

    Always Have Been......always Will Be I Believe

    ~ The trick is trying to not allow it to bug me. I'm damaged, I know this. I am learning to love myself regardless. Maybe one day I'll be able to love the damaged parts too, but for now just loving myself inspite of them is enough. It's funny how easily a person can be...
    deleted deleted
    Apr 30, 2009


    My wife (soon to be ex-wife) left me years ago. We are still friends and talk on the phone often.   She told me that someday she'll want to start dating again and she wanted me to know that in advance so I was not hurt when I did find out.   I sadly face the fact that I am...
    solocelt solocelt
    51-55, M
    2 Responses Aug 15, 2012

    Im Not Broken....just a Little Worn

    I told my last boyfriend(Im fine ok) i was damaged goods and he said i wasnt but right after we broken up i relized i was in all his hurtful words...they rolled off me but wen i remember my childhood past, and my present and wen i hope for my future i start think is it...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 28, 2009

    Jaded One

    I have a rough life, growing up. Both parents worked, dad was an alcholic, very nonsupportive of me, my little brother got most of the attention. As I got older, almost out of high school, I was raped and attempted rape buy the same guy, the second time, someone came in and...
    flaggermom flaggermom
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Oct 21, 2007

    Returned Yet Again

    I am like the items you get at the store that when you get home it doesnt work, and you have to return them to the store. Well it seems like I am getting returned to many times. I have finally realized that there is no point for me to get close to anyone, because they will...
    imperfectbeauty imperfectbeauty
    18-21, F
    Jun 23, 2012

    Forever Locked Behind The Mirror

    there is no way out - I am exiled from life itself I am forever locked behind the mirroring of madness of others I live in isolation and torment forever now. I do not communicate with my sister and I tolerate my mother enough to be a slave to the house a bit cuz she is just...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals
    36-40, F
    1 Response Mar 30, 2011

    Ever confront your abusers?

    Once you sit back and play back the conversation in your head a few times to many proably it's wild how their excuses are just that... excuses. The more I learn from my past the more I realize that I am not the one who is damaged goods, they are. :)
    UnaSayenOgin UnaSayenOgin
    61-65, F
    May 28, 2014

    Very. :/ I've been through a lot of abuse in my

    life. Mostly verbal and mental abuse. A couple of cases of physical. It's to the point where I'm scared of people in general. I don't trust people. I hate having to interact with people in any way but text. Over Internet, I don't have to see them and they don't have to hear and...
    x0UnionJack0x x0UnionJack0x
    22-25, F
    1 Response May 28, 2014

    You've Seen It...You Can't Un-see It.

    For a frightening few minutes my somewhat inflated ego stepped out leaving me to contemplate a large number of personal interactions from my past with an unnervingly unbiased viewpoint. When it got the message of what was occurring, my ego came rushing back from lunch but by the...
    FordPrefect42 FordPrefect42
    41-45, M
    1 Response Aug 19, 2010

    Damage Control

    I'm damaged...just a little though. Nothing a little ductape, some super glue, and several years of psychiatric care can't cure. :)
    vinividivici21 vinividivici21
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Feb 8, 2008

    Because of My Dad...

    And I don't think I'll ever understand how he could do that to me. I still blame myself a little. It's hard because I feel I should warn people of it. That if they care about me, they're wasting their time on something broken and worthless. At the same time I want to give myself...
    Semety Semety
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2008


    My dad died when I was little, before I even knew him, so I grew up fatherless. I pretend like this didn't damage me, but I have serious "daddy issues". When I was 8 my mother got cancer and died when I was 11. I also bottled all of this in because I didn't want anyone...
    sleepsunawareof sleepsunawareof
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 5, 2008

    That Is An Understatement...

    I am damaged goods... So much so that i question if there is much good left of me... This is another reason why im taking a break from dating right now... I dont want to be hurt that deeply again... Im tired of trusting just to regret it all over again... I hope once i learn to...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 9, 2013

    Im Damaged Goods

    im damaged goods due to a girl out of now where choosing to not talk to me anymore im a hopeless romantic, and worry to much so i put so much on it to where i was depressed every day now it feels like im going to past away for some reason im fearful of going to hell girls wont...
    peaceful18 peaceful18
    18-21, M
    1 Response Aug 17, 2011

    Can You Make Me Feel Any Worse?

    I loved you, I'd kill for you, but no, you left me like you had nothing else to prove. Now that's something I could tell him every morning. I knew this boy forever, maybe since I was like.. 8. I had a big crush on him ever since and I finally got to be with him, just like I...
    iTheGreatCheeeeeese iTheGreatCheeeeeese
    13-15, F
    Apr 24, 2012

    When I met him, I was barely 16.

    And I couldn't ever explain to you what was there, but it was something powerful and extremely intense. 5 years later, and it still never fails to shock me, how much it affected me. His name is Casey. I wouldn't dare say love at first sight, more like an automatic connection...
    Trisharoo Trisharoo
    22-25, F
    Jan 22, 2014

    So, Now What?

    Okay. I give new meaning the term "damaged goods". My ex made sure that he led me into the fire. He closely demised a plan to ensure him that I would be alone for a long time. He singlehandedly diminished my self esteem, leaving me hating myself even more than I did...
    epiphany26 epiphany26
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2008

    Yay Me!!!

    Yeah, I'm damaged goods.     When I was in grade school some parents of one of the kids in my neighborhood didn't want their kid playing with me because they thought I was too troubled.   I cried a lot as a kid, long story.    I was...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Feb 28, 2008

    Why I'm Damaged

    I used to have it all: good job, apartment, future fiancee, and two dogs. Cars broke, couldn't get to work, and took job for less money. Relationship became strained, she began to pay more attention to facebook and called her out on it one night. After 2 years of being with...
    TheLoneCharles TheLoneCharles
    26-30, M
    2 Responses May 9, 2012

    Trust Is Gone

    Once you lose trust in your own judgement based on your past experiences, there really is no hope.  Life goes on of course, but I have been doing it alone now for 11 years and am getting quite used to being alone.
    lizbatthory lizbatthory
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 19, 2008

    Some Things Are Just Too Broken Beyond Repair .

    I still remember the minute it happened and I've been chipped a way at ever since . I'm okay with this , others not so much . Loved and loathed into a mangled mess .That's me , take it or leave it .
    certifiable certifiable
    70+, F
    5 Responses Jul 1, 2011

    Do You Ever Really Get Over It?

    (i wrote this august 2007 but i really think it is worth sharing) It sux... i find myself lost in this terribly scary place so often... lost in this world where all i can see and hear are my mistakes- and the mistakes of others that have effected me. i feel damaged... and i...
    Shierke Shierke
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 14, 2010

    Eh Have Learned To Accept, And Embrace It.

    After all the pain, and turmoil that i've faced in this short, and mundane life I have come to the conclusion that I am, have been, and always will be damaged goods but, that's ok...U see because, I am damaged goods I am able to see a certain depth in life that no others could...
    Alan132 Alan132
    22-25, M
    Apr 8, 2012

    Checking In 2

    Thanks for the advice. I find that I have a reluctance to disclose about my past family life growing up, due to the dysfunctional nature of what happened. I have been determined to succeed at life; I saw education as my way out and I have been successful at...
    roykeane roykeane
    1 Response Jun 23, 2009

    And I Don't Have Insurance

    if only there were some type of insurance policy we could take out for when our hearts and minds become irreparably damaged.  i struggle daily with debilitating insecurity and feelings of worthlessness that crush my spirit until it is barely recognizable. 
    trixi trixi
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jan 20, 2008

    So It Seems

    But what can you do but move on and work with your new damaged state?  I guess I could label myself damaged but I prefer experienced. LOL  Who wants to be damaged?   All those years of finding the trust somewhere inside me to have it broken. 
    shuttermagic shuttermagic
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2008

    I'm Sick Of Blaming Everyone Else

    My life was doomed from the start. Mom and Dad divorced when I was 4 years old. My brother was 1. My sister was 7. My father tapped the phone and found my Mom was having at least one affair. I followed him around as he packed his bag and left. I was devastated. How could he leave...
    KeelyQ KeelyQ
    1 Response Mar 30, 2012

    Checking In

    How appropriate is it to disclose lots of personal information for the first time? My life story is complicated and I do not feel comfortable taking risks with some personal details. Myabe someone else can help me out.
    roykeane roykeane
    3 Responses Jun 22, 2009

    No I Am Not...!

    Just joining this group in order to post an interesting story about Damaged People, written by one so afflicted. As follows.... [Note: 1) I don't agree with the author's view that everyone is damaged to some degree. 2) The author has laid claim to all grammatical errors in the...
    deleted deleted
    Nov 1, 2010
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