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I Am Dating a Widower

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    I have been seeing a widower

    for the last 3 months. I've described before how we got involved, but it was shortly after his wife passed away suddenly in childbirth, leaving him with a 2 year old and an infant. We were both quite overwhelmed with the intensity of our sudden feelings for each other when...
    FireFlare FireFlare 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I met a widower online 3 months ago.

    We hit it off immediately and we started spending lots of time together. I rarely let men I'm just dating on my FN page but i did him. I had looked at his FB page and he had written a tribute to his LW, which I thought was sweet. The second time we went out I noticed he was...
    rannel rannel 51-55, F 6 Responses Feb 1

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    Getting Started....

    Well, I have been researching for days the ins and outs of dating a widower. I am a divorced mother of four girls who hasn't had much luck dating. Mainly because I am wounded and picky. And then I met him. And I thought "I'm in trouble". He is everything I have been looking...
    PawleysGirl PawleysGirl 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    Sometimes It Just Sucks.

    I have been dating a widower for about 3 months now. His wife died two years ago and together they had five children. Yes, you read correctly...FIVE :) To most people this would seem impossible and I cannot begin to imagine what it was like to deal with losing his wife and...
    lorenajean97 lorenajean97 31-35 28 Responses Feb 16, 2012

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    To Date A Widower

    I'm 28 years old, dating a 40 year old widower who lost his wife 2 1/2 years ago.  They were married for over 10 years and had a beautiful love story.  I am the first woman he has dated.  We started dating about 6 months ago.  At the beginning we had the intentions of being...
    beckers1234 beckers1234 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 20, 2011

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    I started dating a widower

    that I met on a relationship website. I didn't give much thought to what dating a widower could potentially mean when the relationship began. On our first date over coffee, I asked him how long his wife had been gone (I'm no stranger to grief and tragedy, so I felt very...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 25

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    I have been in a relationship now

    for a little over 10 months, I'm 25 and he is 30 he lost his wife around 2 and a half years ago suddenly although she had been sick for some time. He had a son that is turning 3 this month and a very close family support network. For all intensive purposes he is a great man...
    momentsinoblivion momentsinoblivion 22-25, F 4 Responses Aug 2

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    The Widower I Want To Woo Me...

    We met on Match.com and have been dating for two months. He lost his wife just six months ago after a 2 1/2 year battle with cancer. We are both in our 50's. He has been attentive, reliable, treats me with respect and kindess. We've shared many belly laughs together and we both...
    shesgotmoxie shesgotmoxie 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    I met my widower a little over five months ago

    on a dating site, and we have been dating ever since. I admit that I was surprised to learn, shortly after we began dating, that his late wife had passed away only a little less than 5 minutes earlier. He has been very sweet and attentive. He calls me EVERY night, without fail...
    Loveawidower Loveawidower 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    Falling For A Widower

    I started dating a widower 9 months ago after I have not been dating for many years.  His wife suddenly passed away about 2 1/2 years ago.  Our relationship is wonderful however I can not stop thinking about his wife and how his house is still set up as if his...
    kittynola kittynola 41-45, F 9 Responses Apr 16, 2010

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    Social Media ...Us...This Life.

    My w still has his late wife's picture as his profile picture on Facebook. I know it shouldnt but it absolutely is driving me crazy.. is there a right way to ask him to change this? Another problem is that his late wife's family knows about me yet he still won't post a photo of...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    I dated a widower for about 3 years.

    When we met he'd finished a 4 year relationship after his LW, as well as internet dating with quite a few women and then that's how we met. As I understand he and LW they'd had a long happy marriage and been together for over 20 years since his mid 20s'. They had two children...
    Salmoncakes Salmoncakes 51-55 1 Response 6 days ago

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    A Win For The Home Team!

    Today my W is changing his profile picture on Facebook. All I had to do was ask! Thank goodness. I also had a great night with his kiddos I came home early from work and got lots of love from them! Today was a good day folks!! Well that's all for now. I will write more after the...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 27, 2013

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    Well im just gonna start out saying

    as im sitting here writing this I feel like my heart is already broken. I have fallen in love with a widower. She has been gone a yr nd 7months now, me and him first got together about 5 months after she passed. At first I had alot of sympathy for what had happened to him but as...
    iamn2 iamn2 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    Good News! - I Am Happily Dating A Widower!

    When I first joined this group, I was confused and had some questions about my situation. I was eager to meet others who had some incite on dating widowers. I didn't expect to see so many horror stories, so much baaaaad news. Things are really looking up in my relationship now...
    toni72 toni72 36-40, F 11 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    A Years Anniversary..

    As Oct . approaches I find myself more and more nervous on where we stand in our relationship. Oct. marks a year that my boyfriend lost his wife and mother of his children. What do I do? How can I support him without over stepping my bounds? And how do I protect my own feelings...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F Sep 11, 2013

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    I have been dating a widower

    for the last year and a half. His late wife passed away 2yrs ago this month. He swears he loves me but admits he is still grieving. His 42 year old daughter still has a problem with him dating. His other kids are fine with us. During Christmas the shrine went back up and...
    alishas alishas 51-55, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    Hello, if you are dating a widower here are the

    signs to watch for that they are NOT ready to move on. I am speaking from a very recent experience dating a widower for 8 months (I broke it off 2 days ago - he is not ready to be in a true 100% relationship like what I want). His late wife passed 13 years ago, he had a brief...
    nowiunderstand nowiunderstand 56-60, F 5 Responses Jan 2

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    About a month ago I met a man through social

    circles who I instantly felt a connection with. After we started hanging out with a smaller group of friends I learned that his wife passed away 6 months prior. We met for lunch and went to the movies purely as friends on a couple occasions, and stayed up almost all night just...
    scorpionflower1 scorpionflower1 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 23

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    Til Death Do You Part..and Then For All Eternity

    Ten years ago I met a widower who's wife of 18 years had died the previous year. He had two sons. One was in high school the other was away at college. I wasn't too interested in him at first, no love at first sight for me. But he was persistent and eventually we started dating...
    JustJanJ JustJanJ 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 15, 2012

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    Todays Line Is About Me-

    I hate feeling down like I do today. I feel second best is that. My W's cousin literally punched me in the face on.Saturday because she doesn't think he loves me. I know, 'how did I get punched' I don't know either. apparently its because I'm not good enough for him. She however...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    Wow...Feeling Like A Dirtbag....

    I will try to keep this as short as possible...I went to high school with my bf. Fast-forward 25 years, we connect on Facebook. He happily married, me happily divorced. In 2011, both myself and his wife were diagnosed with cancer. Her's was a lot more aggressive than mine...
    DarkEyes524 DarkEyes524 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 6, 2013

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    Birthday

    I have been dating a widower who was married for 27 years good part of it unhappily, our relationship has developed very quickly and we have talked of marriage His wife deceased 6 months ago and he has 3 grown up children. It is his wife birthday tomorrow and his daughters and...
    vintaster vintaster 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 21, 2013

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    I'm Dating A Widower.....plus More!!!!

    My situation is a little different. This wonderful man in my life is a war vet and a retired police officer. He's White; I'm Black. Both American. The first few weeks of our dating experience was incredible!! He swept me off my feet, treated me like his queen, the whole nine...
    toni72 toni72 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    I've been with a widower

    for over a year now. Ups and downs, always about the past-I bring it up, don't know why. Maybe I'm insecure (I'm 25, he is 32). His wife and 6 month old son died from a car accident about 10-15 years ago. He is 32, they married quite young, he was a runaway-no family, they got...
    Lalalunacy Lalalunacy 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 30

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    Dating A Widower And Confused.

    I've been dating a widower for 8 months now.  His wife died three years ago.  I knew him and his wife 23 years ago.  A mutual friend brought us to "re-meet"   We were both happy to reconnect.  He got in touch with me often, and we started dating.  About a month into it, I...
    nista nista 41-45 3 Responses May 6, 2012

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    A Years Anniversary..

    As Oct . approaches I find myself more and more nervous on where we stand in our relationship.
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 11, 2013

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    Dating A Twice Widowed Man

    I have been dating a man for 3 1/2 years and he has proposed to me, but I have apprehensions because...He has a "shrine" on his bookcases and tv that take up the entire wall of his living room. Included in this shrine are many pictures of her adult daughter and her children. He...
    carolyn49 carolyn49 61-65, F 4 Responses Sep 2, 2013

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    Hi, I have known my widower 3 years now.

    I met him 8 months after his wife passed from cancer. We met on a dating site a few months after dating he told me he was not ready and called things off. We did not talk for a few months but some may think this is weird his wife or a vision of his wife looking like one of...
    sassynsweet4 sassynsweet4 41-45, F May 31

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    So I've been dating my boyfriend

    for about 2 years. He is a widower of 8 years. His wife died of breast cancer and his daughter (30 yrs old) had a double mastectomy at 24 and just had surgery this week to remove two muscles in her chest that were cancerous. He has also lost an infant child (she was a twin...
    LisaC01 LisaC01 46-50, F May 3

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    New relationship. I am a divorcee - terrible

    marriage. Had one real relationship since. Love of my life he was, but it ended in tragic circumstances. Now I am met a widower recently. I don't date casually and this guy like me was looking for a long term relationship. We clicked and so far we are going well. From...
    waytoosad waytoosad 31-35 2 Responses Jul 8

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    Get out while you still have your integrity

    and before the widower crushes your hopes and dreams. I spent 10 months giving him companionship through the winter and being there on his down days. Today I was told he did not know if he could love someone again -- I've read many stories about the first woman a widower dates...
    hereathome hereathome 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 8

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    Made It Through Yesterday, Fell Asleep In My Mans Arms

    Well we made it through the anniversary and today is a new day. things were complicated and messy and we had a break down Saturday. I know these things are hard for the widdower but I think people rarely consider the new gf or bf . It was hard on all of us! He cleaned out her...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    One Of My Best Friend's Died. Her Widowed Husband And I Are Now Falling In Love.

    One of my closest friends died suddenly while in labor. She was giving birth to her second child, and through unexpected complications ended up never leaving the operating room. It was a terrible shock to all of us. We had grown up together and attended college together, and...
    FireFlare FireFlare 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    Has He Moved On Or Just Claims To Moved On? Please Help!!

    Hey,I've been seeing this guy for over a month now, and he claims that he is ready to move on, and start a new journey with me. His wife died over a year ago. I really like him a lot, and I also believe that he likes me too. The problem is that even though he claims he has...
    msupu61 msupu61 18-21 7 Responses Mar 20, 2012

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    I Need Someone To Tell Me It's Okay To Be Jealous... That This Is Normal!!

    Please tell me that I'm not crazy! Tell me that its okay to be jealous. Tell me that I'm going to see her pictures everywhere this month as its the anniversary of her death. What I really NEED to hear is that this is somewhat normal. I FEEL BAD AND GUILTY AND JEALOUS. How do I...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 8 Responses Oct 24, 2013

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    I have been dating a Widower just over 2 months

    now. He was instantly attracked to me, took things very fast. Within 1 week had me meet his family 2nd week took me on vaction with his friends and family. Sending flowers to my work, always telling me how beautiful I was. I don't move fast like that all. I am at the end of...
    jennym512 jennym512 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 4, 2013

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    I'm Dating/living With A Widower

    I am a 34 divorced mother of 4. For the past 8 months, I have been dating/living with a widower. Neither one of us were looking for someone when we found each other. Due to hard times and circumstance beyond our control we both ended up staying with our mothers who live right...
    kbintn kbintn 31-35, F 2 Responses May 13, 2010

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    Treading Lightly In Limbo

    I knew this widower and his wife socially through community events for many years. We knew she was sick with cancer,and working through her "bucket list", but her death three years ago, at age 49 was still a surprise. I have been alone without a relationship for 10 years...
    Pavanian Pavanian 46-50, F Sep 23, 2013

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    I started dating a widower

    after his wife of 15yrs. pass 7months ago. He is 45 me 37. First time we met he was wearing his wedding ring. I told him he was mot ready. He knew i wanted to make a run for it. I kept my cool and decided to make the most if it. It's only been the first month but all the good...
    kimo125 kimo125 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I just reconnected with my high school

    sweetheart (30+ yrs) and he is a recent widower. He is still in the grieving process, but I have faith things will work out for us. It's only been 6 weeks since her death and we don't want to tell his family. It just worries me that, they will be upset with him. I am bracing...
    MsSunshine003 MsSunshine003 46-50, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2013

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    I don't see EP as a dating site and am not looking for an online relationship anyway.
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