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I Am Dating a Widower

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    New relationship. I am a divorcee - terrible

    marriage. Had one real relationship since. Love of my life he was, but it ended in tragic circumstances. Now I am met a widower recently. I don't date casually and this guy like me was looking for a long term relationship. We clicked and so far we are going well. From...
    waytoosad waytoosad 31-35 3 Responses Jul 8, 2014

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    Til Death Do You Part..and Then For All Eternity

    Ten years ago I met a widower who's wife of 18 years had died the previous year. He had two sons. One was in high school the other was away at college. I wasn't too interested in him at first, no love at first sight for me. But he was persistent and eventually we started dating...
    JustJanJ JustJanJ 46-50, F 3 Responses Mar 15, 2012

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    I have been dating a widower

    for two and a half years. She passed away seven years ago. We go out once a week. We have a good time. I think I love him. He just told me that he did not have the heart to introduce me to his kids. I thought they knew about me. It's starting to feel that he has no long...
    mecati mecati 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    I met a widower online 3 months ago.

    We hit it off immediately and we started spending lots of time together. I rarely let men I'm just dating on my FN page but i did him. I had looked at his FB page and he had written a tribute to his LW, which I thought was sweet. The second time we went out I noticed he was...
    rannel rannel 51-55, F 6 Responses Feb 1, 2014

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    Dating A Widower And Confused.

    I've been dating a widower for 8 months now.  His wife died three years ago.  I knew him and his wife 23 years ago.  A mutual friend brought us to "re-meet"   We were both happy to reconnect.  He got in touch with me often, and we started dating.  About a month into it, I...
    nista nista 41-45 3 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Social Media ...Us...This Life.

    My w still has his late wife's picture as his profile picture on Facebook. I know it shouldnt but it absolutely is driving me crazy.. is there a right way to ask him to change this? Another problem is that his late wife's family knows about me yet he still won't post a photo of...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Get out while you still have your integrity

    and before the widower crushes your hopes and dreams. I spent 10 months giving him companionship through the winter and being there on his down days. Today I was told he did not know if he could love someone again -- I've read many stories about the first woman a widower dates...
    hereathome hereathome 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 8, 2014

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    I have been dating a widower

    for the last year and a half. His late wife passed away 2yrs ago this month. He swears he loves me but admits he is still grieving. His 42 year old daughter still has a problem with him dating. His other kids are fine with us. During Christmas the shrine went back up and...
    alishas alishas 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 18, 2014

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    I wrote previously about dating my friend's

    widower after she traumatically died giving birth to her second child. When I wrote my first post, it was just a month or so after T and I started to fall in love, and I was trying to make sense of how things could work out. It's been a year since, and so many impossible things...
    FireFlare FireFlare 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    I'm so scared because we started dating

    and all this is new for me. He lost his wife 2 years ago. He has 3 kids. He drives 2 hours almost everyday to see me. Everything seems good. We slept together and it was good for both of us. I'm just scared of loosing him because I'm falling in love.
    yaya9801 yaya9801 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    I have been seeing a widower

    for the last 3 months. I've described before how we got involved, but it was shortly after his wife passed away suddenly in childbirth, leaving him with a 2 year old and an infant. We were both quite overwhelmed with the intensity of our sudden feelings for each other when...
    FireFlare FireFlare 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2014

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    A Win For The Home Team!

    Today my W is changing his profile picture on Facebook. All I had to do was ask! Thank goodness. I also had a great night with his kiddos I came home early from work and got lots of love from them! Today was a good day folks!! Well that's all for now. I will write more after the...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    I have been in a relationship now

    for a little over 10 months, I'm 25 and he is 30 he lost his wife around 2 and a half years ago suddenly although she had been sick for some time. He had a son that is turning 3 this month and a very close family support network. For all intensive purposes he is a great man...
    momentsinoblivion momentsinoblivion 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 2, 2014

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    10yeargap.com focuses on younger women dating

    older men and it encourages age gap marriage. 10YearGap.com is not a sugar daddy site. Single women are attracted to older single men as they are polite, respectful, generous, kind, intelligent, sensitive, caring, affectionate, and understanding. Many younger women would like to...
    JessieFay JessieFay 31-35, F Dec 2, 2014

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    I started dating a widower

    that I met on a relationship website. I didn't give much thought to what dating a widower could potentially mean when the relationship began. On our first date over coffee, I asked him how long his wife had been gone (I'm no stranger to grief and tragedy, so I felt very...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 25, 2014

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    I've posted a few times over the last 18 months

    about my relationship with my deceased friend's widower. One of my closest friends--with whom I grew up and went to college, lived in the same city with, had speak at my wedding, etc--died traumatically while having her second child. You can read more about the details in my...
    FireFlare FireFlare 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 8

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    Getting Started....

    Well, I have been researching for days the ins and outs of dating a widower. I am a divorced mother of four girls who hasn't had much luck dating. Mainly because I am wounded and picky. And then I met him. And I thought "I'm in trouble". He is everything I have been looking...
    PawleysGirl PawleysGirl 46-50, F 2 Responses Apr 2, 2013

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    I dated a widower for about 3 years.

    When we met he'd finished a 4 year relationship after his LW, as well as internet dating with quite a few women and then that's how we met. As I understand he and LW they'd had a long happy marriage and been together for over 20 years since his mid 20s'. They had two children...
    Salmoncakes Salmoncakes 51-55 1 Response Sep 15, 2014

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    The Widower I Want To Woo Me...

    We met on Match.com and have been dating for two months. He lost his wife just six months ago after a 2 1/2 year battle with cancer. We are both in our 50's. He has been attentive, reliable, treats me with respect and kindess. We've shared many belly laughs together and we both...
    shesgotmoxie shesgotmoxie 46-50, F 2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Made It Through Yesterday, Fell Asleep In My Mans Arms

    Well we made it through the anniversary and today is a new day. things were complicated and messy and we had a break down Saturday. I know these things are hard for the widdower but I think people rarely consider the new gf or bf . It was hard on all of us! He cleaned out her...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    I've been dating my widower

    for over three years, and the late wife has been gone for nearly seven. We even moved in together because he said that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. Now, though, he's not sure. He has said variations of the fact that he doesn't love me the way he loved her...
    nevereverenough nevereverenough 36-40, F 3 Responses Mar 26

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    So I've been dating my boyfriend

    for about 2 years. He is a widower of 8 years. His wife died of breast cancer and his daughter (30 yrs old) had a double mastectomy at 24 and just had surgery this week to remove two muscles in her chest that were cancerous. He has also lost an infant child (she was a twin...
    LisaC01 LisaC01 46-50, F May 3, 2014

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    PART II: The first year I dated my W

    “secretively”, as he wasn’t comfortable being seen with me in public. He also didn’t want his teenage boys to know that his father was moving on with his life. So instead, we would go out on dates in towns 30-50 miles away where we could be anonymous. We would...
    BlueLotusOM BlueLotusOM 46-50, F 6 days ago

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    Hello everyone! I have been dating a widower

    for almost 8 months now. Overall we have a great relationship and our children are crazy about each other, even his family likes me and mine likes him. I would truly call him marring material except for the fact that he is a widower and I seem to have episodes about his late...
    charity82 charity82 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 28

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    Hello, if you are dating a widower here are the

    signs to watch for that they are NOT ready to move on. I am speaking from a very recent experience dating a widower for 8 months (I broke it off 2 days ago - he is not ready to be in a true 100% relationship like what I want). His late wife passed 13 years ago, he had a brief...
    nowiunderstand nowiunderstand 56-60, F 6 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    I met my W nearly two years

    after my divorce. In short I was divorced because my ex had substance abuse issues. My W, also lost his wife due to substance abuse issues. We had an instant connection and fell in love quickly. I don't believe if love in first sight but I believe in having a unique connection...
    laila128 laila128 31-35, F Sep 25, 2014

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    Hi everyone. I'm seeking some encouragement.

    I'm dating a man who lost his wife 4 months ago. I did not know him or his wife before she passed. I've never been in a situation like this before... though I'm open and willing to see where it takes me. I'm feeling a little scared and vulnerable about it at the moment. Though...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 2

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    Hi, I have known my widower 3 years now.

    I met him 8 months after his wife passed from cancer. We met on a dating site a few months after dating he told me he was not ready and called things off. We did not talk for a few months but some may think this is weird his wife or a vision of his wife looking like one of...
    sassynsweet4 sassynsweet4 41-45, F May 31, 2014

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    Treading Lightly In Limbo

    I knew this widower and his wife socially through community events for many years. We knew she was sick with cancer,and working through her "bucket list", but her death three years ago, at age 49 was still a surprise. I have been alone without a relationship for 10 years...
    Pavanian Pavanian 51-55, F Sep 23, 2013

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    I started dating a widower

    after his wife of 15yrs. pass 7months ago. He is 45 me 37. First time we met he was wearing his wedding ring. I told him he was mot ready. He knew i wanted to make a run for it. I kept my cool and decided to make the most if it. It's only been the first month but all the good...
    kimo125 kimo125 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 19, 2014

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    it is such a relief to read the stories of

    other women dating widowers. It is so hard hearing how 'wonderful' the late wife and their life together was and I am the one who has to be sympathetic and understanding when he is sad, which he is happy to tell everyone about. I am made to feel so second rate and marginalised...
    Elberfeld Elberfeld 56-60, F 4 Responses May 31

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    I've been with a widower

    for over a year now. Ups and downs, always about the past-I bring it up, don't know why. Maybe I'm insecure (I'm 25, he is 32). His wife and 6 month old son died from a car accident about 10-15 years ago. He is 32, they married quite young, he was a runaway-no family, they got...
    Lalalunacy Lalalunacy 22-25, F Jun 30, 2014

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    Well im just gonna start out saying

    as im sitting here writing this I feel like my heart is already broken. I have fallen in love with a widower. She has been gone a yr nd 7months now, me and him first got together about 5 months after she passed. At first I had alot of sympathy for what had happened to him but as...
    iamn2 iamn2 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 5, 2014

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    Good News! - I Am Happily Dating A Widower!

    When I first joined this group, I was confused and had some questions about my situation. I was eager to meet others who had some incite on dating widowers. I didn't expect to see so many horror stories, so much baaaaad news. Things are really looking up in my relationship now...
    toni72 toni72 36-40, F 12 Responses Apr 9, 2012

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    I'm Dating A Widower.....plus More!!!!

    My situation is a little different. This wonderful man in my life is a war vet and a retired police officer. He's White; I'm Black. Both American. The first few weeks of our dating experience was incredible!! He swept me off my feet, treated me like his queen, the whole nine...
    toni72 toni72 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 4, 2012

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    Thank you all for sharing you experiences.

    It truly has helped me, its nice to know that im not alone. Dating a widower is hard, its not for everyone, and not everyone can do this. I believe that you need to have an open mind and a open heart to be able to withstand the pressure. But im far from perfect, and I have been...
    EstStella EstStella 22-25, F Jun 8

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    Younger Women are more Willing to Marry Older

    Men. A recent survey measured people’s attitudes about marrying a partner either older or younger than themselves. The survey results showed that women were significantly more willing than men, to marry a partner who was 5 years older than they were. On the other hand, it also...
    Donnaccaa Donnaccaa 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    About a month ago I met a man through social

    circles who I instantly felt a connection with. After we started hanging out with a smaller group of friends I learned that his wife passed away 6 months prior. We met for lunch and went to the movies purely as friends on a couple occasions, and stayed up almost all night just...
    scorpionflower1 scorpionflower1 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2014

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    I've found all your comments really helpful

    thank you! Dating a widower who regularly tells me about his wife am I wrong in also wanting to be a wife rather than just his partner? Somehow I feel I'm not as important to him because I'm only his partner. Inreally want to marry him. I would value your view and also how u get...
    Elberfeld Elberfeld 56-60, F 1 Response Jun 9

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    Hi there. Just need a litlle insight

    and advice. My widower and I are discussing moving together full time but his concern his son. His Son is 20 years old away at college and comes home summers and holidays. We have been together over 6 months and his son refuses to meet me. We cant move on in our relationship...
    tgayle tgayle 41-45, F 1 Response May 18

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    I met my widower a little over five months ago

    on a dating site, and we have been dating ever since. I admit that I was surprised to learn, shortly after we began dating, that his late wife had passed away only a little less than 5 minutes earlier. He has been very sweet and attentive. He calls me EVERY night, without fail...
    Loveawidower Loveawidower 56-60, F 1 Response Jan 29, 2014

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    Hey all I want to share my experiences of

    dating a widower........ When I found out the man I was talking to was a widower I have to admit I was scared I wasn't strong enough and when I found out how little time had passed since her passing I thought the only option was walking away, but I didn't and I'm so glad but I...
    Becky1711 Becky1711 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 15

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    Todays Line Is About Me-

    I hate feeling down like I do today. I feel second best is that. My W's cousin literally punched me in the face on.Saturday because she doesn't think he loves me. I know, 'how did I get punched' I don't know either. apparently its because I'm not good enough for him. She however...
    notautumn notautumn 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 19, 2013

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    I really feel the need to share my story.

    It's such a long one, though, that I need to spend some time getting it all down and in the right order. I will start with introducing myself. I am a divorced 46 year old, mother of 2 boys, who has been in a romantic relationship with a widower going on 8 years. He lost his 40...
    BlueLotusOM BlueLotusOM 46-50, F 6 days ago

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    I have been dating a widower

    for quite a while now. Today is the anniversary of his LW's passing. Later today he will post something on FB in honor of the anniversary. I always support him and tell him he has to follow his heart. The thing is that once he posts about the anniversary, everyone will be...
    Mandyloveshippos Mandyloveshippos 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 7, 2014

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    PART III: After 2 years of still being a

    secret to his boys, I realized that I wanted so much more in a relationship. I explained to him that it was obvious he isn’t ready for the commitment that I am looking for and I suggested we part ways. He begged me to give him another chance. He said he would show me that he...
    BlueLotusOM BlueLotusOM 46-50, F 6 days ago

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