I Am Dating Someone With Aspergers

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 183 People

    The Aspergers Questions

    I constantly wonder about what I can do to better communicate with my Aspie Boyfriend. I constant wonder why he doesnt seem to get why something upset me. Or why he feels the need to explain the noises different engines make or why he likes watching this particular guy on youtube...
    iamurb3stsecret iamurb3stsecret
    18-21, F
    11 Responses Jul 12, 2010

    100 TO 0

    Me and this guy havent been seeing each other long, six months and already I feel exhausted by how much time he doesnt spend with me. He told me from the start that he has Aspergers and that I should be warned about it. In the beginning evrything was PHENOMINAL. Th first date he...
    JadedShackles JadedShackles
    18-21, F
    1 Response Nov 1, 2013

    I have been dating my girlfriend

    for a little under a year and things started off good. But now we are having problems. So just a quick run down Her and I have some history together we sort of dated in high school and that didn't last. We recently got back in touch with each other and started dating. Now we...
    trickydicky420 trickydicky420
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jan 29, 2014


    Aspergers If I showed you the real me would it still be the same? Explained Ive got a gun, but I've got no aim? No violence or love, just my conscience as a token. That its not my fault my compass is broken. I cant feel what you feel, but why cant I pretend? I know that I...
    ShadowAce7125 ShadowAce7125
    26-30, M
    14 Responses Nov 5, 2009

    Aspie Woman Are Sick Sick

    Please stop playing games with men already. You know you can't date normal guys and think everything will be ok. This is why you end up with douchbags. Date aspie men next time. You want to fit in like normal girls but you're NOT. You are Aliens and hot but sociopaths. Get off...
    Aspiecrazywoman Aspiecrazywoman
    5 Responses Jul 26, 2013

    Frustrated With My Gf Who Has Asperger's Syndrome

    My gf has been diagnosed with asperger's syndrome. To give a little background, I knew her in 6th grade. She seemed normal, we got along, we were friends. Then I transferred schools and we didn't see each other for 7 years. Then I found her on Myspace one day. We talk, eventually...
    darobbman darobbman
    20 Responses Oct 3, 2010

    Rollercoaster, Deja Vu, Contradictions...

    I have been dating a man with aspergers (anxiety, depression) for about 15 months now. We recently got engaged. After finding out that he had Asperger's I obtained and read a book about Relationship with People with Asperger's. We are now in couple's counseling and I've learned...
    Sunflower108 Sunflower108
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Nov 2, 2013

    Please can someone help .

    . I am a mature lady but younger than my years & i met a younger man who has Aspergers Who became a friend about 4 years ago .. We were studying together .. It developed into more .. He initially was in denial about the relationship as was i ..as i was married .. Not happily...
    Zimgirl Zimgirl
    51-55, F
    Dec 28, 2015

    Brand New

    i just met the most amazing person ever, and he has Aspergers. I love how he gives me lots of compliments and increases my self-esteem. I'm not used to receiving so many compliments and I feel good. He makes me smile and blush. He's my special person, and I may be falling in love...
    AthenaWilliams AthenaWilliams
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 21, 2012


    I wonder how I got so lucky to meet a great guy like justin tonight. I'm very glad he told me straight up about his disorder. I haven't met anyone like him. He is a great, loyal, and understanding individual. He's intelligent, and shines like a star. He makes me smile, and even...
    AthenaWilliams AthenaWilliams
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 22, 2012

    Totally Falling In Love With My Aspie Boyfriend.....

    I met my Aspie on February 13th 2011, what an incredible journey it has been so far! We have had our emotional ups & downs, more like its more emotional ups & downs for me, more than it is him, I don't have AS, but I can honestly say I have never met anyone like him,He is kind...
    Blueyedqt81 Blueyedqt81
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Jun 29, 2011

    I'm dating someone with asperger I think I have

    BPD we both just find out about this after starting having problems with our relationship, I love him and I know he loves me but I would like to talk with other that are in this situation and may want to share what is been helping.
    MonicaCC2007 MonicaCC2007
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 4, 2014


    He told me about two months in about his condition. I had no idea what it was and I didn't care because I was absolutely crazy about him. He was unlike any other person I met and the feelings I had for him overwhelmed me. A quick Google search and skimming an article, I shrugged...
    sbeatitudec sbeatitudec
    1 Response Apr 1, 2011

    Ok so I've been seeing this guy off

    and on for a few months. I fell crazy in love with him from the beginning. I've known from the start that he has Aspergers and have done a lot of research on dating someone with AS. I am still finding it hard to communicate with him, as he doesn't really say much unless we are...
    meeeooowww meeeooowww
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 27, 2014

    I Am Dating Someone With Aspergers

    We go to the same school, we both study fine arts/sculpture. I've known him as classmates for a while, but this semester, we became close friends. We talked for hours on about our art, classes, family, friends, hobbies, likes and dislikes. He'd told me about have AS long before...
    JellyfishBread JellyfishBread
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2013

    Long Distance

    My boyfriend, James, and I met on a geek dating website almost 7 months ago. He told me right away that he had Asperger's and I didn't have a clue what that was, until I researched it. At first he only emailed me, and I remember him telling me that "I think I'm in love with you...
    4 Responses Sep 8, 2011

    Let Go Or Hold On

    My x girlfriend has passengers I am completely in love with her. I still talk to her as often as I can. I miss her. She was honestly the first girl to actually understand me. I don't know what to do. Do I let go or keep trying. I was ready to put a ring on her finger. I have been...
    duckcd duckcd
    2 Responses Nov 20, 2013

    One Sided Relationship

    I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. And we are both pretty sure he has aspergers syndrome, although he is not officially diagnosed as we have no idea how to go about getting an (affordable) diagnosis for a 22 year old! I have read every thing i can get my...
    jrachel jrachel
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Mar 28, 2010

    Social Disease

    I am dating someone with the disability known as Asperger's.. We haven't been together long but I just want to know how to go about this.. I like him a lot.. but I really don't know a whole lot about the illness..
    krisg04 krisg04
    22-25, F
    11 Responses Jun 10, 2009

    Living With An Aspie

    Lived with an Aspie for three years folks. That was three years spent eating the same frozen pizzas, popcorn and yogurt. If I wanted other kinds of food I had to buy it special lol. And when it was time for him to focus on music...that's what it was. I did not exist unless I like...
    RheaRyder RheaRyder
    5 Responses Feb 14, 2011

    My AS boyfriend hasn't let me meet his friends

    for family yet, but we've only known each other a year is that normal?
    littlemisspoe littlemisspoe
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    I am schizophrenic and my girlfriend has

    aspergers... we actually never argue about big things. so it is going well??
    ihavepsychosis5 ihavepsychosis5
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 22, 2016

    I Think I've Finally Pinpointed The Problem.

    Back in January, I began dating my boyfriend. At first, he was very sweet. He said sweet things in text messages and in person. He would kiss me for hours... pretty much couldn't stay away from me. At one point, I remember him saying, "I could stay here forever like this." After...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Sep 25, 2010

    Dating An Aspie And Couldn't Be Happier :)

         Yep, I'm dating a man with Aspergers.  I don't know how much I agree with the diagnosis or label of it but he has been diagnosed and he accepts it so who am I to argue?  We went on our first date almost 15 months ago and have pretty much lived together without actually...
    Sheldom Sheldom
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Nov 7, 2011

    I have Aspergers, and am not dating anyone.

    I just wanted to say a heartfelt thanks to all those women and men who express such love and appreciation for those with Aspergers they are dating/married to/even broken up with. It moved me because despite being 22, good-looking, and having a good-natured predisposition, I felt...
    jollygoat jollygoat
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jun 27, 2014

    Hi there, I really wanted some advice.

    .. I love my partner he is a kind, loving man that usually shows lots of love and affection his mum said he was diagnosed to slight aspergers and was very quiet as a child. He is still quiet now but opens up once you know him and he is incredible. The only issue we have is...
    Rainbowcatcher Rainbowcatcher
    31-35, F
    May 17, 2014

    My boyfriend and I have been together

    since high school. When we started dating he wasn't diagnosed yet, in fact, my mother was the first person that suggested that he might see about talking to someone at his college about it. She had been diagnosed with dyslexia in college and is now a proponent of people getting...
    nscott09 nscott09
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 2, 2014

    Roller Coaster

    I seem to be on a roolercoaster with the all the up and down things. At first my AS girlfriend wanted to talk to me all the time. Now if I have her on the phone 15 min I am lucky. She will tell me she loves if she is asked if she dose. Once in a while she wants to brake it off...
    duckcd duckcd
    2 Responses Sep 26, 2013

    Hello everyone! I just want to ask a question

    and since the topic of it fit's the topic of this group, i would like to ask it here too. (Date) When would you say that you have Asperger / Autism Spectrum Disorder? If someone has Aspergers / Autism Spectrum Disorder, when would you like to know that if you would go on a...
    fuzzy9770 fuzzy9770
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jan 1, 2016

    18 Months Now

    He wasn't diagnosed until he was 18, and he turned 20 two weeks ago. He doesn't seem to have a very severe form, but the fact that he also has ADD makes it harder to recognize which is which. For most people, at least. I grew up with a younger brother who has autism, so most of...
    TheRealJade TheRealJade
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 4, 2012

    Normal Is Overrated

    I've been dating an "aspie" for 8 months now. I can't convey how much I love him. It hasn't been easy, but it hasn't been the hardest aspect of our relationship. I think it was made more difficult with his denying it. I had an inkling from some of the things he said about a...
    Jackmeggers Jackmeggers
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2012

    Mf Aspie Bf

    Im new to the whole autism thing. And I know my bf has it and its hard to know what is his autism and what isnt. Im truly in love with him but I feel like at times he doesnt want anything to do with me. I can kinda tell he is trying with little things. But sometimes I dont know...
    frkykorngirl frkykorngirl
    2 Responses Aug 18, 2013

    I have met this "someone" with Aspie from an

    online dating site. In his profile, he stated that he was diagnosed to have Asperger's syndrome when he was 4, and both him and his mom are working on it since then. Well at first, my main intention that time was to talk about it, having a great interest in psychiatry, and with...
    nbsbgal nbsbgal
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 29, 2015

    I am in a heck of a situation.

    I am dating someone with aspergers. He recently decided out of no where he wanted to break up. When he breaks up with someone he disappears off the face of the earth. He says he will never talk to me again...This scares more than anything. I am so head over heels in love with...
    littlemisspoe littlemisspoe
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2015

    The Real You

    Back in Summer 2011, I started interacting with a guy I met on a social media site. We started talking back and forth more and more over time. And I found myself falling more and more for him. I noticed he was always very reluctant with furthering our relationship and I had...
    foxsea007 foxsea007
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 22, 2013

    Any males with Aspergers find confrontation

    extremely difficult? Do you shut down and stop talking for days?
    pingpinky pingpinky
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 27, 2014
    prettybum prettybum
    22-25, F
    Jul 7, 2014

    I've been here for the past 24 hours reading

    stories about dating an aspie. Some are beautiful. Others had some sad endings. Others were burning questions about how to keep their relationships alive. Well I'm here to tell you, if you feel it in your chest that your aspie is the one you cannot simply do without, then it's...
    keyboy95 keyboy95
    22-25, M
    1 Response Nov 19, 2015

    He Gets So Angry If He Doesn't Get His Own Way

    I have been with my partner for three years and we have a son together. I should have picked up on it at the start but he was so good to me. But slowly the mood swings started, bought on by him not getting what he wanted. He also cracks under the slightest amount of pressure and...
    Sadandscared2012 Sadandscared2012
    5 Responses Aug 11, 2012

    He Is Still Perfect In Every Way

    im dating this guy and we have been going out for almost a year now and i love him so much. in the second month of us dating he came out and told me he was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was younger. My response was it doesn't matter to me i still love you. We all have...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Sep 15, 2012


    I let you down but I never would have known until you ran out crying, and I still didn't know anything but that it was just me and them, but not you anymore. All eyes on me. How can I handle that intensity? Was it something I did or said? Lying in bed, reliving...
    nowheyjose nowheyjose
    2 Responses Jul 13, 2011

    My Aspe Man ..is Awesome !

    Wow where do I began lol .....well I met my Boyfriend on a social site and we hit it off very well . He was very honest and up front ( honesty is rare theses days ) and told me he had Aspergers . Being the research queen that I am lol I educated myself on the subject. When I told...
    SassySway SassySway
    31-35, F
    1 Response Dec 8, 2012

    I'm a 27-year old guy

    and last year I briefly dated and totally fell for a girl with Asperger's. At the time I didn't know about her condition but I always noticed something "different" that had me wondering. I can totally relate to similar posts on here regarding the short answers to questions etc...
    DanTheVan DanTheVan
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 29, 2014

    Hello! I would just like to rant about something

    that is bothering me tonight. So first off I have known this boy for awhile and we went to the same school. I have graduated and he still has one year left of highschool. We used to run track together and when I first saw him I was instantly attracted to him. I thought he was...
    morgana777 morgana777
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Sep 28, 2014

    I am gonna apologize ahead

    because this is a bit long but please bare with me and possibly give me some advice. So there was this guy that I met at work. At first I wasn't that interested in him, mostly because girls would be throwing themselves at him because of his unique personality. Thing is he slowly...
    Jbarrian Jbarrian
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2014

    On The Road At Last!

    Hi - I've posted about this before (when it was just a theory!) and now, today, it's starting to become a reality. This website WILL happen. If you are an NT partner and have been struggling with getting support, advice and resources, it hopes to help you: a) to understand...
    Mercgirl007 Mercgirl007
    Oct 23, 2013

    So What...

    To me, it's just a wonderful part of the man I fell in love with, and I know in my heart of heart he loves me.  He's very intelligent, and very affectionate with me.  When I first started dating him, I had no idea he's an Aspie. When I did find out, it really didn't matter, I...
    Pebbles1982 Pebbles1982
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Dec 7, 2011

    Let Go Or Hold On

    My x girlfriend has passengers I am completely in love with her. I still talk to her as often as I can. I miss her. She was honestly the first girl to actually understand me. I don't know what to do. Do I let go or keep trying. I was ready to put a ring on her finger. I have been...
    duckcd duckcd
    Nov 20, 2013

    NT Partners Of People With Aspergers Syndrome

    I found out this morning that I got the grant to enable me to set up a website specifically for the NT partners of those with Aspergers Syndrome. I applied for the grant because I feel very strongly that there is little support for this group of people. I spent SO many years...
    Mercgirl007 Mercgirl007
    4 Responses Aug 5, 2013

    Dancing Into My Heart

    Well I knew the first time I saw him that I was in love. My boyfriend asked me to dance and I danced with him twice. He had such flair when he danced that he made me giggle. I called him over to talk before he left for the night and the more I got to know about him the more I...
    Owleeeeease7 Owleeeeease7
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Aug 30, 2011

    Just wanting to say hi

    and introduce myself. I'm engaged to a man with AS and love him more then anything but although I've known about his AS for most if our relationship I find it extremely hard some days to be happy and feel loved by him. I know he does but he can shut me out sometimes to the point...
    N1818 N1818
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jun 14, 2014

    Well, my boyfriend is dating me,

    and I have Asperger's syndrome. I'm just looking for some help. I have never felt more connected to anyone than him, but there is still that certain way that I just can't connect with him or with anyone who does not have an autism spectrum disorder. There is a huge...
    bandgeekavery bandgeekavery
    16-17, T
    3 Responses May 19, 2015
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