I Am Dealing With Infertility

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 292 People

    I found out I'm intersex

    when I was 12 that meant I can't have children. Ever. I don't have ovaries. Probably don't have uterus either. I can't have sex because my vagina is too small. Now I'm 23 and people start to having kids. I'm sad. It will only get worse.
    lunardarya lunardarya
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2015

    So I got told that I may not be able to have a

    family of my own as I am infertile was has sent my depression spiralling out of control
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Oct 30, 2014

    I will never get the chance to experience

    motherhood and that makes me feel so empty. My husband and I waited 10 years to try to have a baby and then we wasted another two years trying. When we finally got tested we were told he would never be able to get me pregnant without medical intervention. Then, we waited to...
    SecondStringGal2015 SecondStringGal2015
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Dec 21, 2014

    The Pain of Infertility

    I am 25 years old. I am suffering from infertility. I have been trying to conceive for six years now. I have been unable to go to a specialist due to it not being covered on my insurance.  My husband and I have been married for a little over six years now and have been...
    Samantha2008 Samantha2008
    5 Responses Aug 4, 2008

    Been trying for more

    than 2 yrs but the heartache is still so painful when I get my period every month. Not to mention the piercing pain in the gut when I hear another unplanned pregnancy news in the office and I have to force a smile with a half-hearted congratulations wishing it should have been...
    surfiehall surfiehall
    36-40, F
    8 Responses May 9, 2014

    I actually had someone say to me today,

    "you're lucky you aren't pregnant yet because it sucks"...SERIOUSLY???!!! Do you know how lucky you are???!!! The urge to slap was strong, but instead I just pushed down all the envy and the urges to cry and smiled and clinched my hands into fists at my side. I'd give anything...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby
    31-35, F
    1 Response Sep 12, 2014

    I recently found out I'm ovulating

    after 4 years! After being diagnosed with both pcos and endometriosis, I have found a product that has worked. I have normal cycles, no facial hair, have lost 50 pounds, grew longer and healthier hair, and have regulated my blood pressure!
    kgucc kgucc
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    yah, lol cuz I had a tubal ligation.

    so, I can't give the "right" man a baby if he wanted one. it is, what it is, tho.... I'm very thankful for the children i do have : ) at least God blessed me with them. i know many other women would love to trade places with me. hence, this group. it is sad that i tried to have...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 31, 2015

    Why is it that when you are dealing with

    infertility, there are those who are instantly telling you to look into adopting??? I mean don't get me wrong, I have nothing against adoption at all, and it is something I would be willing to look into eventually if things don't work out the way I want them too. But when you're...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby
    31-35, F
    3 Responses May 27, 2014

    I am feeling very depressed with my infertility

    I just need some support from any if you who understands as even my husband is avoiding talking to me about it. My boss at work has just announced she is pregnant with her third child. And here I am, being unsuccessful for more than 2 yrs, high hopes crushed by my period that...
    surfiehall surfiehall
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 21, 2014

    yet another negative test :(

    so here is some of my story. I have been married almost 10 years we have actively been trying for our first baby for about 7 months, now I say actively because we have not been on any birth control or taking any precaution not to get pregnant in 5 years, but only in the last 7...
    karabear1985 karabear1985
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    I'm fed up of dealing with infertility.

    I wish I could not want a baby anymore, how do I make it stop?
    rebecca991 rebecca991
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 4, 2014

    "Circumstantial Infertility"

    Let me make one thing clear. By posting on here about the subject of "circumstantial infertility", a term raised recently in an article published on the Huffington Post (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/melanie-notkin/childless-women_b_894535.html), I in no way wish to diminish the...
    andyj823 andyj823
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 24, 2012

    My dr told me to research Primary Ovarian

    Insufficiency in order to have a better understanding of what's going on. I don't know if this is really helping or just more depressing... Any thoughts?
    Young1513 Young1513
    26-30, F
    Jun 4, 2014


      My Husband and I have been married for 7 years. It wasn’t until our 2nd year of marriage that we decide we would try to conceive. To make a long story short. It has been a tough road for my husband and me. My husband and I both have taken a series of Clomid and still no...
    truelybless truelybless
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 11, 2012

    Chemo Made My Husband Infertile

    Hi, I am Leslie Hardin, and my wonderful husband is Randy Hardin. Our hearts ache not just for a baby, but to be a real family. Every day we are hoping and praying, wishing and waiting for our baby to come into our life. We have so much love to give, and can't wait to share it...
    LeslieSD1981 LeslieSD1981
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2012

    Trying To Stay Positive

    So after another bad doctor's appointment yesterday, I am taking a mental health day and having a small pity-party.  It is hard to smile at work everyday and be my usual happy self when EVERYBODY around me is pregnant. or newly-mothered. I can not go on facebook anymore...
    jazzybelle53 jazzybelle53
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 28, 2010

    Another pregnancy announced by a girl I know in

    which neither one of them have a job! Why is life so unfair???!!! Both me and my husband both have stable good paying jobs. Why can't it come easy for us??? Depression is a month to month thing for me now, I never thought it wouldn't come easy. I feel like I did everything right...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jun 17, 2014

    It's Not Fair

    Since I was 16 all I have ever wanted was to get married, live in a nice house and have babies... well, I'm now 37, never been married, don't have a nice house and can't have any kids. I went to a fertility specialist, who is the best in the state and he diagnosed me with...
    dragonfly3311 dragonfly3311
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2010

    I hate seeing on the news

    or just out in public where these moms are neglecting their kids and being awful parents! I don't understand why they were blessed with a child and not me... I'm happily married and financially stable yet 13 yr olds are getting pregnant and thousands of babies are aborted...
    Young1513 Young1513
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jun 4, 2014

    My infertility story : In March 2013 we started

    trying to have a child. In November 2013 we became pregnant but unfortunately lost the child at 12 weeks (also the day before my 30th birthday). That weekend I still went out with friends to celebrate my 30th with a dead foetus floating around inside me. A few days later I went...
    moosemoose3 moosemoose3
    31-35, F
    Mar 20, 2016

    Infertility had changed me

    as a person. I no longer have the ability to be happy for anyone that becomes pregnant or has a child. I feel selfish and jealous but I can't change the way i feel. I'm sick to death of being depressed and crying the same tears day after day. I'm making my husband miserable, and...
    rebecca991 rebecca991
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 30, 2014

    Life Goes On

    I've only recently found these pages - and thank you. I am single, 43 and have been undergoing IVF treatment for nearly 2 years, with donor *****. I'm almost at the end. It is now I am starting to face the reality that I won't be a mother. I have well meaning friends who say...
    Dekireba Dekireba
    1 Response Oct 7, 2012

    Start Of The Two Week Wait

    So yesterday I had my donor IUI so I start the dreaded two week period of an or not. Last time I was do sure I was I felt so devasted when the test came back negative. The hyper awareness of my body is driving me bonkers. You know my boobs hurt maybe I a pregnant? Reviewing...
    Supervixen76 Supervixen76
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 13, 2012

    Myself and my husband have been trying

    for 6 years to get pregnant. I have had 2 miscarriages and 2 failed attempts at IVF. I have had every test and so hast husband and we have been told there are no problems. I've seen ally friends one by one have children and today became an auntie for the first time. As much as I...
    Tombes Tombes
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Mar 24, 2014

    I'm so full of rage. I find out my friends step

    kid is having a baby and I'm so angry She lies, steals and is just so not worthy and I can't understand why I didn't get to keep my pregnancy and now I have to have IVF and I can't afford it My dreams are shattered and I'm tired of these losers who gets a baby with no effort I...
    ninipaz ninipaz
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    Guess This Is Really It

    My wife and I have dealt with infertility for our entire marriage. About 6 months after we got married, she got pregnant with our first. She has a son from a previous marriage. The week of my birthday that year, I got a call from her at her dr's appt. It was her 16 week check...
    ezrider ezrider
    2 Responses Jul 15, 2011

    I don't really know that I'm infertile yet.

    But we've been trying for a while and it hasn't happened. I feel like something is wrong but am trying not to get discouraged or worry too much. I keep hoping it'll just happen on its own but no such luck yet…here's to hoping though. I'm trying to trust God and His plan but it...
    marinesprincess93 marinesprincess93
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 28, 2015

    Grieving My Lost Hopes...

    All my sexual life I've been trying Not to get pregnant- watching young girls getting knocked up on accident.  And now I'm married and we have been trying for a year to get pregnant.  The first few months of tracking ovulations and periods was fun for us... I just assumed that...
    northernwoodsgirl northernwoodsgirl
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 26, 2012

    I have pcos it was so hard

    for me to get pregnant. God knows every month I would cry because I wasn't pregnant. It took me 9 yrs to have a baby. My first boyfriend cheated on me because I wasn't able to give him a baby. I was overweight hair loss it was bad and I was depressed. Thank god I finally figure...
    NatashaX NatashaX
    31-35, F
    May 14, 2014

    I am high and the sun is down,

    in a zone where I am quiet and the waves talk. Alone as I am, it's not the peace I like but the peace bestowed upon me, how I wish there was someone who shares this silence with me! The sun may have set but not my hope, life as it has been for me spliff and forget the what has...
    fakeintrovert3 fakeintrovert3
    26-30, M
    Mar 12, 2016

    Hi just found this group

    and I'm struggling to cope with the fact that I may never become pregnant again! The future seems so bleak and uncertain and full of disappointment. I feel selfish when the bitterness of someone who is pregnant takes over . After 6 year's of trying to finally get a positive...
    userlorenzo userlorenzo
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2015

    Kisses For a Little One

    I've always wanted a family.  My husband and I got married in August 2001 and started trying to conceive in October 2001.  I went nearly 6 years without ever being pregnant.  In July 2007, thanks to Clomid, I had my first positive pregnancy test.  We lost that...
    siskisses siskisses
    26-30, F
    1 Response Dec 11, 2007

    'Relaxing' And 'Letting Nature Take It'S Course' Will Never Result In Pregnancy

    I have PCOS. I know that it makes getting pregnant difficult. I know it requires a complete lifestyle change to manage it properly. I know that a lot of women in my situation can get pregnant. But for us, it's not an option. My husband has azoospermia - the kind that isn't...
    twitchivixen twitchivixen
    3 Responses Feb 22, 2013

    I am also dealing with infertility,

    but I am a great guy and would love to date and possibly spend my life someone caring and understanding. I am full of life, and love, have a great life otherwise with career and aspirations. I am very matured and more often than not a good company to have. Text me ladies if you...
    fakeintrovert3 fakeintrovert3
    26-30, M
    Mar 9, 2016

    Another cycle started

    and I have to wonder if I'm ever going to get pregnant. I mean me an my husband had been trying now for almost 3 years now! Please don't comment if you're just going to say to just give it time or not to think about it because you obviously have no idea what it's like to have...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby
    31-35, F
    5 Responses May 18, 2014

    Knowing It Will Never Happen

    Been with my husband for 6 years now have tryed to have a baby over and over again knowing that in his past relationships that's where the issue lied exs cheating b/c they couldnt wait ,I belived it would be diffrent for us I would not cheat we would have a child so after year of...
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 29, 2012

    Trying To Deal

    Well me and my husband have been trying for about three years now, and i also tried with my ex-husband (which was a blessing we never had a child). Well i have found out i am not ovulating and my husbands ***** count is low. I am still trying to cope with everything i know there...
    BabyGal6488 BabyGal6488
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jun 9, 2013

    Knock, knock... Who's there?

    Aunt Flo. Go away!! Today marks yet another cruel joke Mother Nature has become quite fond of the last couple years of us trying to have a baby. It's been different these last few months though... I used to cry, question the reason to life, wonder when it was going to happen...
    laurenb229 laurenb229
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Sep 12, 2014

      I have been struggling to have a baby

    for 12 years! After 8 years of trying really, really hard to conceive and multiple infertility treatments, my hubby decided (on his own) that he didn't want to pursue having children anymore. We agreed before getting married that we both wanted to have children, and I would not...
    indigoskyye indigoskyye
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2015

    While I'm in a different situation

    than others on here. I struggle with the fact that I will never be able to have my own children. It hurts knowing that I will never be able to experience pregnancy and a traditional motherhood. Furthermore, even biological children are completely out of the question because of...
    poodahpop poodahpop
    22-25, T
    1 Response Mar 17, 2015

    I have been trying for a baby

    for the last 5 years now and we have had no luck.I don't have a regular cycle so it is hard for me to tell when i am ovulating or not, but we always have sex at least 2 times a week, sometimes more. I know it can take up to a year to conceive but everyone i know who have had a...
    jessica3322 jessica3322
    Jan 19, 2015

    i have pcos and im on clomid 5th cycle anyone

    else whos taking it i need some hope
    chocolatechip2015 chocolatechip2015
    31-35, F
    Aug 8, 2015

    Got my hopes up, I should have know better.

    ..thought I felt myself ovulate last month and got so excited because we did everything we were supposed to. I was 3 days late and I was gonna go buy a test and take it that day...then I started and I was crushed. I'm so depressed and feel like giving up hope. Has anyone ever...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 17, 2014

    Feeling like my life is revolving on the

    pregnancy tests that come back negative and on the crushed hopes I experience month to month as another pregnancyless month starts... I try not to get my hopes up when I'm late and yet I can't seem to help myself! I guess the fact that it's brought up at every family gathering...
    highhopes4baby highhopes4baby
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 4, 2014

    On My Way To Healing...

    It has been 4 years...trying naturally, inseminations, surgeries, progesterone, Clomid...I feel like I have done it all (but I know that that is not the case). Back in January my Specialist suggested we try IVF.  That news jolted me into a whirlwind of emotions which eventually...
    Suebaby Suebaby
    1 Response Jun 1, 2011

    My Prayers

    God answers so many of my little prayers, so why not the big ones too? I just can't understand it Why does He do the things he decides to do? My deepest desire lies unfullfilled I feel so hopeless inside I know I should be thankful and not so full of pride. I ask God every day...
    ghaliafs ghaliafs
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2013

    Even when almost 150 lbs lighter I couldn't

    hold onto a pregnancy (I'm 335 now). That coupled with my 1st marriage ending in divorce pushed me past my round tipping point, furthering my depression and binge eating. I ballooned up to 550 and now I'm in my mid 30s and struggling with not only not being able to carry but...
    rebelwife9000 rebelwife9000
    36-40, F
    Aug 31, 2015
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