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I Am Demisexual

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 36 People

    Finally I Know What To Call Myself

    I am demisexual and have gone for years thinking that I was just defective in some way regarding sex and how I relate sexually to others. I have long valued emotional connection and comfort/trust over anything sexual, and I thought I was the only one.I don't think sex is bad or...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 13, 2012

    I Consider Myself Quasi Demisexual. I Know Some Demis Will Take Issue With This.

    they'll say it's about attraction and not behavior. See I have this trait right. when I first meet someone I can be attracted or repulsed but their personality will alter it. People who i don't inititally find attractive will often want me to rate a photograph of them or...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 12, 2013

    I Think I Am, But I'm Not Sure

    I know I'm straight, but I'm rarely attracted to men, whereas I've never found my own sex attractive nor could I imagine myself in a relationship with women. I rarely find a man physically attractive and when I do I won't start fantasizing about him sexually, until I get to know...
    arcenciel arcenciel
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 11, 2013

    Can I Legitimently Claim This? (Accidents don't happen)

    I am hetero. I would call myself that, right? when I think about it I'm attracted to people who are sexy right away. But arousal was never the same thing as consent and you're never going to get that unless I feel something strongly towards you.  all of the attraction and...
    ManifestoOfThePhoenix ManifestoOfThePhoenix
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2012

    So, I recently discovered demisexuality.

    And I am relieved beyond words. I've only felt sexual attraction for a handful of people, and I always thought my mind must be messed up. All of my other friends were attracted by looks and style, and I was so confused as to how they could possibly like someone without spending...
    primavera4565 primavera4565
    22-25, F
    Mar 19, 2015


    I always thought of myself as different. I never liked boys the way my friends did growing up. I thought they where appealing to the eye...but I never really liked them. The older I got the more I was around girls who where obsessed with guys. I couldn't ever say that. No one...
    iiSnarkySharky iiSnarkySharky
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 23, 2012

    I've struggled with my sexuality my entire life.

    I learned I was bisexual when I was very young. Though I was attracted to both men and woman and wanted to be in a relationship, I never felt the same sexual desires my peers did. The urge has just never been all that strong for me, but I didn't know what that meant. Honestly, I...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 27, 2015

    Am I? Maybe this explains my lack of sexual

    partners... Being 25, obviously attracted to guys (homosexual), but still. I am not sure what this is. I feel like romantic "bedroom" intimacy would indeed be pleasurable, but I just cannot fathom why... why a one time thing would be... preferable (I guess that word works...
    TK13 TK13
    26-30, M
    1 Response Jul 29, 2015

    This Is A New Thing To Me

    After discovering things and question the sexuality as I have noticed things at times. This also reflect from my previous relationship with my ex girlfriend when we had tried to do sexual things I was not satisfied by it at all. I was very anti sexual as result of being exposed...
    Vinnie01 Vinnie01
    31-35, M
    Apr 24, 2013

    Relationships Confuse Me

    All my life, I never thought sex was important. A lot of my friends would talk about it all the time, which confused me because I always felt ashamed when I had sex with girls. I thought I was gay, but when I tried guys, I felt them same way. It seemed like nothing could satisfy...
    neotazman neotazman
    26-30, M
    Nov 30, 2013

    I'M So Excited!

    All this time I thought I was just a weirdo, but no it's an actual thing. I can't tell you how thrilled I am by the fact that there are enough people like this that there is an actual term for it. Eeee! I just ran across the term today for the first time, and I'd never heard of...
    chococat159 chococat159
    Mar 28, 2013

    Fitting The Pieces Together

    Alright, so I'm going to try and be brief, but I thought I'd gather some thoughts on the subject since there's a group and I really think I'd like to talk about this with people who might understand. (This is going to be major overshare territory with a hint of possibly...
    tippetytap tippetytap
    22-25, F
    Mar 7, 2013

    I Am Not Frigid After All

    I just wasn't in love with my husband after all.
    SteampunkInfanta SteampunkInfanta
    36-40, F
    Jul 26, 2013

    I Think This Might Be Me...?

    I'm not sure if I can say I am or not, but what I've read about it really seems to fit and make sense to me. I don't know anyone else who says they are in real life to ask though, so I thought I'd just put this here instead. I have never been an overly sexual person. I remember...
    TheLori TheLori
    26-30, F
    Jun 15, 2013

    Not What Some Of You Might Think

    This has nothing to do with having sex/wanting to have sex with Demetrie! -OK, well maybe just a little bit. ;)
    Dragon56 Dragon56
    61-65, M
    Feb 26, 2011

    Me Too

    first I am not just a demisexual but also a bisexual so I might attract to both men and women but still I don't attract to everyone in a sexual way but if I want I can make myself to attract them in a sexual way which is mostly done when I want to weed out stress by doing the...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 23, 2013


    As far as my own sexuality goes, I don't understand a whole heck of a lot. I've always felt kind of out of place when my friends would swoon over boys. I rarely ever develop any serious crushes, and I've never been in a true relationship. The closest I've gotten to one was with a...
    throughthewindow throughthewindow
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 16, 2013
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