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I Am Depressed About My Kids Growing Up

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    Is This Real Depression?

    Hi, I have looked online and cannot find anything about this topic. I too am depressed and my BABY just turned 1. I put baby in caps because I cherish everytime I can still call her a baby. Since she was born I have cried almost everyday about her getting older. I was sad when...
    Fisherprice Fisherprice 31-35, F 37 Responses Feb 25, 2010

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    Having A Terrible Time Dealing With My Babies Growing Up :(

    Hi.. I'm new to this group.I have been so depressed about my kids growing up, that I had to talk to others that are going through the same thing. I have 2 kids. My daughter is 17, a Senior in High School. My son is 14, a Freshman in High School. Needless to say, when school...
    tdawn14 tdawn14 36-40 3 Responses Sep 4, 2012

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    Depressed That My Daughter Is Leaving For About 2 Weeks

    My 18 year old daughter is engaged to a wonderful young man in the Army. He is coming home from Iraq, and she, along with his mother, is flying to Lawton, Oklahoma to meet him. As soon as he is able, they are flying to Philadelphia for a visit to his family,and then coming here...
    djarus djarus 56-60 8 Responses Feb 3, 2011

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    He Leaves In 12 Days

    Our oldest son leaves for college soon. I guess the best descriptive word I arrive at is bitter-sweet. See, 20 years ago, we decided to start a family. After the heartbreak of 3 miscarriages, we were beginning to look at other options. A visit to an infertility doc reminded us to...
    Pammieinarwas Pammieinarwas 46-50, F Aug 5, 2012

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    Have Only Child, Sad About Her Growing Up...

    Have a daughter, who is 7. I am all of a sudden extremely depressed that she is growing up. I feel she may start developing early and my baby girl will be all gone. I sometimes feel having another child would help, but would just be a band aid on the depression. For numerous...
    7only1 7only1 36-40 7 Responses Oct 12, 2010

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    Their Childhood Is In The Past, And It's Breaking My Heart

    I'm 57 years old with 2 daughters, ages 21 and 16. My older daughter has left home and is living with her boyfriend and some other friends in a group situation in a house near the city (Atlanta). She works as a waitress and likes her job and is good at it. My younger daughter is...
    babymine2girlswgamom babymine2girlswgamom 56-60, F 1 Response Aug 26, 2012

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    Miss My Sons

    Hi  I am 47 female living in Australia.Earlier this year my youngest son moved out and since then I feel life is empty .Between crying spells and being told to grow up myself I was very relieved to find this group.Thank you for allowing free expression of feeling it helps.
    alison63 alison63 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 26, 2011

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    Overwhelming Sadness About Children Growing Up...

    I am glad that I found this site. I am 41 years old, with daughters aged 14, 16 & 19.  I feel so sad that they are growing up. I don't know how to face the future. I can truly say that the happiest times of my life was when they were young, and even then I felt a sadness that...
    mariaelenak mariaelenak 41-45 24 Responses Mar 10, 2011

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    Changes In Life.

    I can write these stories on this sight. They too, are my own words. My kids are my absolute life. I never-ever want my home to be a empty nester. I understand my pain of having my kids grow up. I have seen the cycle of life and know how hard it can be when children leave home. I...
    joiebobby joiebobby 36-40 1 Response Oct 28, 2011

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    I am a stay at home mum with 2 children,

    a daughter who's 10 years old and a son who's 8 years old. I have always believed I would have a third child but after I miscarried our 3rd child about 3 years ago my husband had a vasectomy. I got a full time job a few months later but ended up having a breakdown from the...
    turtle2512 turtle2512 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 31

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    I have 2 birth children

    and 3 foster children but I'm really struggling with them growing up , I love them so much it truly feels like my heart is breaking my daughter 18 has always confided in me and spent time with me but now she's not I feel like my best friend has dumped me I know it's normal I...
    torie13 torie13 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    My Children Were My Joy In Life. Now They're Grown And Gone. I'm Lost.

    I'm grateful to find this forum to connect with other mothers or fathers going through these same feelings. I divorced when my kids were 2 & 4 and I made them my life. In fact, from the moment they entered this world, they were my world. My babies gave me something real to live...
    gingerale1355 gingerale1355 56-60, F 3 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    Feel Depressed About My Kids Growing Up

    When my children were just 4 and a half years old my marriage with their mum broke down. I knew that we didn't truly love each other so knew it was best for everyone that we both go our seperate ways. However I was devastated for my two boys, I carried a lot of guilt & ended up...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 5, 2013

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    My Princess

    My daughter is a freshman in college. We live in Hawaii, so going away for college is a big thing. It means living on your own, living in a completely different atmosphere and culture, and all the normal responsibilities and changes of moving away from home. She just spent the...
    koleabird koleabird 46-50, F Nov 27, 2011

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    I'm going through this too.

    I'm a single mom, 34, and have an almost 14 yr. old daughter, and an 11 yr. old son. There's been a lot of talk and preparation for my daughter to start high school, and a lot of talk about college. She already knows what she wants to do and I'm so proud. But, I don't want her...
    cmn1979 cmn1979 31-35, F Feb 3

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    It really hit me hard this year on Christmas

    Day. My youngest (son) is 11, and it is his first year of not believing in Santa Claus, so we don't have that anymore. My other two (daughters) are 16 and 14. Kids that age tend to be a little tougher to get gifts for anyway (on reasonable budget), and I could see the obvious...
    jeff1447 jeff1447 46-50, M 3 Responses Dec 31, 2013

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    My 14 Year Old Daughter Is Growing Up And I've Been Crying Hysterically Since Firday.

    Hi there...my name is Debbie, I'm 47 and have only one child. Her name is Kristen and she will be 14 in March. I too have had something suddenly come over me. Like a sledgehammer. I've literally been crying since Friday night and cannot stop. She's in 8th grade and how this...
    upallnitetoo upallnitetoo 46-50, F 29 Responses Feb 14, 2011

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    Granddaughter

    I have been very close to my granddaughter. She is now 13 and is growing up and away from me. I still see her but not like when she was younger. I feel so sad about this and find myself crying a lot when she is not around. I lost my mother and sister this past year which...
    Kathy354 Kathy354 61-65 1 Response Aug 10, 2013

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    I Can Totally Relate.

    I am a father to a 17 year old son, and 14 and 13 year old girls. I love them with all my heart, and can say that I put my absolute all into being with them and doing fun activities with them, even sometimes at the expense of my own best interests. I would never change a thing...
    lashumbah lashumbah 36-40 3 Responses Apr 30, 2010

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    Sad About Kids Growing Up.

    My kids, aged 19 to 11, all still live at home but are getting less and less dependant, which is good I know, and spending a lot more time away with friends. I know that this is good, too but I seem to feel sad when they are not home or don't want to come on outings with their...
    mumsie123 mumsie123 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 28, 2012

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    My Baby Girl Just Turned 3 And I Am So Sad About It

    Ever since I have brought this little girl in this world I have been dealing with the depression. After I had her I cried for about two weeks before the meds the doctor gave me kicked in. I have 4 kids, ages 17, 15, 8 and now 3. I can't enjoy anything. I feel like I am always so...
    4kids4me 4kids4me 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 9, 2010

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    Toddlers Growing Up And Depression

    I am a loving father of twin boys aged 4 1/2 and I should be happy and excited to see they are great children,adjusting well to pre-K, and full of ideas, thriving and making new friends. I however, find myself depressed more times than not, and not able to cope with it. I travel...
    cloren7030 cloren7030 41-45 2 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    I Have Messed Up!

    First thing I did was let my husband get to my phone. Secondly, I helped out a friend with expenses because he deserves a break, and I love him with all my heart. My husband found out about that and now he insists on chasing this poor guy down and going after the money that is...
    runnerinatl runnerinatl 51-55, F 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Sudden Sense Of Mourning

    Today we celebrated my middle child's 10th birthday. I've worked hard to make it a special weekend. Her older sister is 11, her younger brother 6. At the end of the day, I was suddenly overcome with unexpected sadness. I've been crying for a couple of hours now, which is...
    4812wm 4812wm 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2013

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    My daughter is 16 and I'm having a really tough

    time with her growing up. She's a good, smart, responsible girl. I've always been proud of her for the nice young lady that she's becoming and yet I'm sad for the stages that have passed. However, since she started driving its like she's so much more "on her own" and I'm really...
    mom1970 mom1970 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    Teen Yearning For Freedom

    My daughter will be 18 in a few months. She is struggling to get through her senior year and graduate. I ache to see her struggle so much but this is life and even though I steer her in the right direction it is ultimately up to her to do the work. I feel I have always taught her...
    ilove2tri ilove2tri 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    Is it selfish to not want my son to start

    school? My son is 3 and will start 4k next year. The thought of it depresses me. I've been a stay at home mom ever since I've had him and I just dont think i can part from him for that long; a few hours. I'm even thinking about letting him start school a year late. Help me, I...
    kabaomoua kabaomoua 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    Depressed Over Memories Of My Children

    Hi, I woke early this morning in tears flooded with memories just constantly flipping over in my head and it is always of my children when they were small. I am 35 years old and these memories just paralyze me almost to the point i can not function,  i am so glad i found this...
    bowwater bowwater 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 22, 2011

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    What Is Left In Life?

    Halloween was just last week. It is a hard time for me. When my children were smaller I so looked forward to Halloween, I loved the excitement in my children. This Halloween......I sat on the couch watching TV just me and my husband. I was very depressed. I missed those...
    myowncreation74 myowncreation74 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    I just googled how I was feeling

    and found this site. How I miss the little ones, my sweet boy . . . now there are 2 teenagers. Good teenagers but still a challenge. Both run track. They are involved with a church youth group. Good friends. I have to work 7 days a week. I was a full time Mom for many...
    momto2m momto2m 46-50, F Feb 20

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    I have been a single mom forever.

    This year I got my own apartment, after my daughter got hers, and my son moved in with his girlfriend(soon to be fiance, whom I love) father to help him out. I haven't been alone in 23 years. It has been really exciting, and I have enjoyed my new home. But my son and his fiance...
    boodlesmom boodlesmom 46-50, F Feb 15

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    Little Man

    I look at his little face now and cant imagine him as a man. I wonder whether he'll be tall or short and thin or chunky. I wonder what his voice will sounds like and if he'll marry a good woman. It's funny that you never stop wondering. I remember being pregnant writing in my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

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    I Miss My Son

    I really miss my son. He's 21. He moved out about 6 months ago. I get so depressed when I think about him. He only lives 30 minutes away but he's independent and doesn't need me like he used to. I long for the days he was a little boy. I was everything to him then, but now...
    starfield starfield 46-50, F 5 Responses Apr 10, 2012

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    I Am Depressed Over My Kids Growing Up.

    I am depressed over my kids growing up. My son starts college at UNC in 4 weeks and I can not stop crying. I cry when I think about it. My kids have been my whole life. I have loved them and done for them and I feel as though I don't really have a life of my own. I have a 13 yo...
    girlygirl036 girlygirl036 41-45, F 71 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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    Should I Seek Help?

    I'm only 30, my oldest son is 11 and I have three others ages 7, 5 and 3. All boys. Almost every night I lay awake wishing time would just stop. I don't want them to get any older. It gets worse at the end of the school year, the beginning of a new one or a birthday. I'm crying...
    Mgrdrgz02 Mgrdrgz02 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 2, 2013

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    Must Fight This Overwhelming Sense Of Sadness

    About Three years ago my then youngest started secondary school (she was 11 years old & i already had my eldest there) Well i dont know what happened, it seemed to hit me like a sledgehammer. It felt like a big dark cloud came over me i just couldnt stop crying. Days turned into...
    HB41 HB41 41-45 11 Responses Oct 6, 2010

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    4 Teenagers

    This year my oldest is a senior in high school ,then follows his 2 brothers right behind him and my daughter is a 7th grader. I have gone from being needed to not really at all. They all play sports and are gone 12hrs most days. I was a young mom and a stay at home at that for 17...
    fourkidz fourkidz 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    Aching For My Children's Younger Years

    I am a 49 year old wife and mother. I have a part time job I love. I have friends. I am involved in my church. I have great kids who love me and still want to spend time with my husband and me (occasionally). I am reasonably healthy (although you may doubt it once you finish...
    nostalgicmom22 nostalgicmom22 46-50 3 Responses Mar 3, 2012

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    My Sadness And Anxiety About My Children Growing Up

    I am a mother of two sweet precious little boys, one 9, one 4. I sometimes get so depressed I can't function for handle them being away from me, . I dwell on how each moment is passing me by and all the firsts and precious milestones are coming and going too fast. I am a teacher...
    dickie23 dickie23 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    Daughter Getting Married And Moving Out

    My daughter has finished college, has a good job and is engaged to marry a wonderful guy. She has been living at home for the last 6 months while looking for a rental home. One has been found and now she is moving out. We are very close and great friends. Her in-laws to be are...
    shmarie shmarie 51-55, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2013

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    I'm So Depressed About My Children Leaving Home...

    My 19 year old son left about a week ago to join the Air Force, and my 23 year old daughter left two days ago to move to another state. I'm so proud of my son as he had to really work hard to get into the Air Force, and my daughter moved to be with her fiance'. I'm just simply...
    rschaniel rschaniel 46-50, F 17 Responses Oct 18, 2011

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    Longing For My Son

    I have a son who is an only child. He's 14 and i have all of a sudden become extremely depressed.  I just look at him and it makes me sad. I'm trying to talk to people but they either don't understan or their words aren't comforting.... I'm scared that this feeling wont leave me...
    bnt18 bnt18 36-40 3 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    I Didn't Expect This...

    Like so many here I poured everything into being a Mom. Sometimes I felt selfish, or guilty because I wasn't the 100% uber Mom..but I was always Mom first. My son is 25 and although still officially living here, he's home less and less often. The thing that just set me off was my...
    jehekasmom jehekasmom 51-55, F 8 Responses Jun 4, 2012

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    Where Does Time Go?

    I am a father of 3 children. 12 yo girl, 9 yo boy and 1 yo girl. The first 2 we had fertility treatments to have, but we decided after the 2 we wouldn't do any more treatments, so if God wanted us to have another He would have to make it happen. We tried off and on for several...
    ct1976 ct1976 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 8, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    I survived my son leaving. Well it is hard to believe that my son left to go to college in 2011. Then, I thought I would die. I am happy to say that he will be graduating next May...
    girlygirl036 girlygirl036 41-45, F 1 Response Sep 9

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    Ok, I know I shouldn't feel depressed but I do. I have always had a great relationship with my dad and thought I did with my mom up until I lost my job of 12 years, 3 years ago. I...
    bluefireball4949 bluefireball4949 31-35, M 1 Response Sep 12

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    This month is my birthmonth and im awful at bdays, i mean terrible, theyve always been a sad time for me... This year im really getting depressed about it... Ive never really felt...
    Contrarthodox Contrarthodox 26-30, F Aug 26

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    So, I am Native American and where I live there are plenty of them. Many of my friends are hispanic and to them, my race is a joke. I constantly hear how Native Americans are...
    anonn93 anonn93 18-21 2 Responses Aug 27

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    I just wanted to say im so glad I found this group. I had no idea that there were so many people that felt the same way I do about kids! It's very refreshing.
    Alanya03 Alanya03 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    i just love being arround them, they are spontaneous they live in the moment thats something i like about kids and something we should learn from them
    chillheart chillheart 22-25, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Augustina97sy Augustina97sy 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 23

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    My parents aren't abusive or anything although I don't have a very good relationship with them, I told them about how depressed I was and how I wanted to die. I partially expected...
    losingthespark losingthespark 13-15, F 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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