I Am Depressed About My Kids Growing Up

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 237 People

    4 Teenagers

    This year my oldest is a senior in high school ,then follows his 2 brothers right behind him and my daughter is a 7th grader. I have gone from being needed to not really at all. They all play sports and are gone 12hrs most days. I was a young mom and a stay at home at that for 17...
    fourkidz fourkidz
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

    Where Does Time Go?

    I am a father of 3 children. 12 yo girl, 9 yo boy and 1 yo girl. The first 2 we had fertility treatments to have, but we decided after the 2 we wouldn't do any more treatments, so if God wanted us to have another He would have to make it happen. We tried off and on for several...
    ct1976 ct1976
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Oct 8, 2013


    I have been very close to my granddaughter. She is now 13 and is growing up and away from me. I still see her but not like when she was younger. I feel so sad about this and find myself crying a lot when she is not around. I lost my mother and sister this past year which...
    Kathy354 Kathy354
    1 Response Aug 10, 2013

    Should I Seek Help?

    I'm only 30, my oldest son is 11 and I have three others ages 7, 5 and 3. All boys. Almost every night I lay awake wishing time would just stop. I don't want them to get any older. It gets worse at the end of the school year, the beginning of a new one or a birthday. I'm crying...
    Mgrdrgz02 Mgrdrgz02
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Aug 2, 2013

    My Sadness And Anxiety About My Children Growing Up

    I am a mother of two sweet precious little boys, one 9, one 4. I sometimes get so depressed I can't function for handle them being away from me, . I dwell on how each moment is passing me by and all the firsts and precious milestones are coming and going too fast. I am a teacher...
    dickie23 dickie23
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 7, 2013

    Daughter Getting Married And Moving Out

    My daughter has finished college, has a good job and is engaged to marry a wonderful guy. She has been living at home for the last 6 months while looking for a rental home. One has been found and now she is moving out. We are very close and great friends. Her in-laws to be are...
    shmarie shmarie
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2013

    Teen Yearning For Freedom

    My daughter will be 18 in a few months. She is struggling to get through her senior year and graduate. I ache to see her struggle so much but this is life and even though I steer her in the right direction it is ultimately up to her to do the work. I feel I have always taught her...
    ilove2tri ilove2tri
    51-55, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2013

    Having A Terrible Time Dealing With My Babies Growing Up :(

    Hi.. I'm new to this group.I have been so depressed about my kids growing up, that I had to talk to others that are going through the same thing. I have 2 kids. My daughter is 17, a Senior in High School. My son is 14, a Freshman in High School. Needless to say, when school...
    tdawn14 tdawn14
    3 Responses Sep 4, 2012

    Their Childhood Is In The Past, And It's Breaking My Heart

    I'm 57 years old with 2 daughters, ages 21 and 16. My older daughter has left home and is living with her boyfriend and some other friends in a group situation in a house near the city (Atlanta). She works as a waitress and likes her job and is good at it. My younger daughter is...
    babymine2girlswgamom babymine2girlswgamom
    56-60, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2012

    He Leaves In 12 Days

    Our oldest son leaves for college soon. I guess the best descriptive word I arrive at is bitter-sweet. See, 20 years ago, we decided to start a family. After the heartbreak of 3 miscarriages, we were beginning to look at other options. A visit to an infertility doc reminded us to...
    Pammieinarwas Pammieinarwas
    46-50, F
    Aug 5, 2012

    I Didn't Expect This...

    Like so many here I poured everything into being a Mom. Sometimes I felt selfish, or guilty because I wasn't the 100% uber Mom..but I was always Mom first. My son is 25 and although still officially living here, he's home less and less often. The thing that just set me off was my...
    jehekasmom jehekasmom
    51-55, F
    8 Responses Jun 4, 2012

    I Have Messed Up!

    First thing I did was let my husband get to my phone. Secondly, I helped out a friend with expenses because he deserves a break, and I love him with all my heart. My husband found out about that and now he insists on chasing this poor guy down and going after the money that is...
    runnerinatl runnerinatl
    51-55, F
    4 Responses May 6, 2012

    Sad About Kids Growing Up.

    My kids, aged 19 to 11, all still live at home but are getting less and less dependant, which is good I know, and spending a lot more time away with friends. I know that this is good, too but I seem to feel sad when they are not home or don't want to come on outings with their...
    mumsie123 mumsie123
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 28, 2012

    I Miss My Son

    I really miss my son. He's 21. He moved out about 6 months ago. I get so depressed when I think about him. He only lives 30 minutes away but he's independent and doesn't need me like he used to. I long for the days he was a little boy. I was everything to him then, but now...
    starfield starfield
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Apr 10, 2012

    Aching For My Children's Younger Years

    I am a 49 year old wife and mother. I have a part time job I love. I have friends. I am involved in my church. I have great kids who love me and still want to spend time with my husband and me (occasionally). I am reasonably healthy (although you may doubt it once you finish...
    nostalgicmom22 nostalgicmom22
    3 Responses Mar 3, 2012

    My Princess

    My daughter is a freshman in college. We live in Hawaii, so going away for college is a big thing. It means living on your own, living in a completely different atmosphere and culture, and all the normal responsibilities and changes of moving away from home. She just spent the...
    koleabird koleabird
    46-50, F
    Nov 27, 2011

    Toddlers Growing Up And Depression

    I am a loving father of twin boys aged 4 1/2 and I should be happy and excited to see they are great children,adjusting well to pre-K, and full of ideas, thriving and making new friends. I however, find myself depressed more times than not, and not able to cope with it. I travel...
    cloren7030 cloren7030
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2011

    Changes In Life.

    I can write these stories on this sight. They too, are my own words. My kids are my absolute life. I never-ever want my home to be a empty nester. I understand my pain of having my kids grow up. I have seen the cycle of life and know how hard it can be when children leave home. I...
    joiebobby joiebobby
    Oct 28, 2011

    I'm So Depressed About My Children Leaving Home...

    My 19 year old son left about a week ago to join the Air Force, and my 23 year old daughter left two days ago to move to another state. I'm so proud of my son as he had to really work hard to get into the Air Force, and my daughter moved to be with her fiance'. I'm just simply...
    rschaniel rschaniel
    46-50, F
    27 Responses Oct 18, 2011

    Longing For My Son

    I have a son who is an only child. He's 14 and i have all of a sudden become extremely depressed.  I just look at him and it makes me sad. I'm trying to talk to people but they either don't understan or their words aren't comforting.... I'm scared that this feeling wont leave me...
    bnt18 bnt18
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2011

    Little Man

    I look at his little face now and cant imagine him as a man. I wonder whether he'll be tall or short and thin or chunky. I wonder what his voice will sounds like and if he'll marry a good woman. It's funny that you never stop wondering. I remember being pregnant writing in my...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2011

    Miss My Sons

    Hi  I am 47 female living in Australia.Earlier this year my youngest son moved out and since then I feel life is empty .Between crying spells and being told to grow up myself I was very relieved to find this group.Thank you for allowing free expression of feeling it helps.
    alison63 alison63
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Jul 26, 2011

    I Am Depressed Over My Kids Growing Up.

    I am depressed over my kids growing up. My son starts college at UNC in 4 weeks and I can not stop crying. I cry when I think about it. My kids have been my whole life. I have loved them and done for them and I feel as though I don't really have a life of my own. I have a 13 yo...
    girlygirl036 girlygirl036
    41-45, F
    77 Responses Jul 21, 2011

    Overwhelming Sadness About Children Growing Up...

    I am glad that I found this site. I am 41 years old, with daughters aged 14, 16 & 19.  I feel so sad that they are growing up. I don't know how to face the future. I can truly say that the happiest times of my life was when they were young, and even then I felt a sadness that...
    mariaelenak mariaelenak
    35 Responses Mar 10, 2011

    Depressed Over Memories Of My Children

    Hi, I woke early this morning in tears flooded with memories just constantly flipping over in my head and it is always of my children when they were small. I am 35 years old and these memories just paralyze me almost to the point i can not function,  i am so glad i found this...
    bowwater bowwater
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 22, 2011

    My 14 Year Old Daughter Is Growing Up And I've Been Crying Hysterically Since Firday.

    Hi there...my name is Debbie, I'm 47 and have only one child. Her name is Kristen and she will be 14 in March. I too have had something suddenly come over me. Like a sledgehammer. I've literally been crying since Friday night and cannot stop. She's in 8th grade and how this...
    upallnitetoo upallnitetoo
    46-50, F
    37 Responses Feb 14, 2011

    Depressed That My Daughter Is Leaving For About 2 Weeks

    My 18 year old daughter is engaged to a wonderful young man in the Army. He is coming home from Iraq, and she, along with his mother, is flying to Lawton, Oklahoma to meet him. As soon as he is able, they are flying to Philadelphia for a visit to his family,and then coming here...
    djarus djarus
    8 Responses Feb 3, 2011

    Have Only Child, Sad About Her Growing Up...

    Have a daughter, who is 7. I am all of a sudden extremely depressed that she is growing up. I feel she may start developing early and my baby girl will be all gone. I sometimes feel having another child would help, but would just be a band aid on the depression. For numerous...
    7only1 7only1
    7 Responses Oct 12, 2010

    Must Fight This Overwhelming Sense Of Sadness

    About Three years ago my then youngest started secondary school (she was 11 years old & i already had my eldest there) Well i dont know what happened, it seemed to hit me like a sledgehammer. It felt like a big dark cloud came over me i just couldnt stop crying. Days turned into...
    HB41 HB41
    11 Responses Oct 6, 2010

    I Can Totally Relate.

    I am a father to a 17 year old son, and 14 and 13 year old girls. I love them with all my heart, and can say that I put my absolute all into being with them and doing fun activities with them, even sometimes at the expense of my own best interests. I would never change a thing...
    lashumbah lashumbah
    4 Responses Apr 30, 2010

    Is This Real Depression?

    Hi, I have looked online and cannot find anything about this topic. I too am depressed and my BABY just turned 1. I put baby in caps because I cherish everytime I can still call her a baby. Since she was born I have cried almost everyday about her getting older. I was sad when...
    Fisherprice Fisherprice
    36-40, F
    41 Responses Feb 25, 2010

    My Baby Girl Just Turned 3 And I Am So Sad About It

    Ever since I have brought this little girl in this world I have been dealing with the depression. After I had her I cried for about two weeks before the meds the doctor gave me kicked in. I have 4 kids, ages 17, 15, 8 and now 3. I can't enjoy anything. I feel like I am always so...
    4kids4me 4kids4me
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Feb 9, 2010
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